BDSM Talk 21.5

[SirSRussell]

I have found it is easier to cover the mouth and nose instead of choking the throat.

[dadsbike]

everyone should take at least one workshop on asfixiation, and even so have a lot of backup plans. what are you going to do when your sub stops breathing? do you know CPR? do you have the ambulances' phone number? how is this going to play out when you're arrested for manslauter? maybe just stay away from it altogether.

[alyssium]

yes, it's easy to say not do it, but people will still do it. so providing a few tips on how to do it in a bit of a better way is better than ignoring the elephant in the room.

[dadsbike]

i'd like to suggest that no one should put anything on your subs neck, including collars. you should take everything off both of your necks before play. the dom too. it's like going to work in a metal shop where you want to remove all loose clothing that could be caught in the machinery. take off that tie before you go to work.

[alyssium]

sometimes.. but sometimes it enhances the mood... and often not all collars are crazy spiked.

[npoc]

you live in my town

[alyssium]

cool

[unforgiven911]

Ur cute and ur Canadian too

[alyssium]

yuppers. ;)

[phayde]

wow what a horrible video please leave youtube thanks

[alyssium]

i don't think i will, but thank you.

[TekLok]

heh i don't think i could go for 2 minutes straight.

[alyssium]

lol

[patkav101]

emm,, is that a runney nose or is it a sign of a cocaine habit... why so much interest in bdsm. is there nothing else that you can talk about!

[alyssium]

i'm going to say runny nose as i do'nt do drugs.

there are tonnes of other things i can talk about, but this is one i feel is veyr important and people should hear about.

[rexlv2000]

You just keep on being good. As of now I can say that I have watched all of your videos from start to finish. I am proud of you and proud of myself too. You have a lot of determination.

[alyssium]

i tend to say i'm stubborn, but thank you for choosing the polite word. and thank you very much for watching. *hugs*

[tangara45]

Thank you for your openness. I do however think it would be nice if you were less apologetic, people are responsible for themselves, let them be.

[alyssium]

apologetic is my nature. i'm always getting told to stop. i will try, but because i'm sharing info on this a certain responsibility falls into my hands.

it's a lot of responsibility.... but i'm glad that i get to help. *smiles*

e.

[anyakeyes]

I work in a kink/queer shop here in Portland. Obviously, we can never dispense "professional" advice to anyone interested in kink because of liability issues. We can only talk about the product itself. I REALLY appreciate your emphasis on safety. It helps ease my mind to know that educated and experienced people, like yourself, are taking the time to provide this information to people. Good job, darling! As always.

[alyssium]

thank you very much. i appreciate it. :)

[jjoseph16]

yay the return of fractional numbers! whole numbers are so 2005 :)

[alyssium]

lucky i love ya, weirdo. :)

[abortedsoul]

Skydiving is also dangerous, as is racing. I mean, driving on the road is a danger in it's own right, as is walking across the street.

Keep up the good work, and it's so enjoyable to watch you.

[alyssium]

everything has danger which is very true. hell you could die of monxoide poisoning in your sleep... but do you fear going to sleep?

what fun is that? hehe... thank you *lix*

[briana1303]

i love the way you say about

[alyssium]

lol it's the canuck in me ;)

[woodlandlad]

You're right when you say that people will try it anyway, they will if it's their thing. Personally I would like to think of it as something that will remain only a fantasy.

Welcome back, by the way, I'm sure that I'm not the only one to have missed you!

[alyssium]

i can say for me at first i was very frightened to try it, and as soon as i did... i fell in love with it.

i'm really glad to be back :)

[nicholas9999]

Hi, for those who get into long-term breath play, the heart attack warning might be made more "real" by mentioning a similar source of vascular (i.e., CVA's = "strokes") danger: sleep apnea. In SA, the person stops breathing many times during the night, but without waking up. It is now known this is a big predictor of strokes. Thus, you don't need to suffer a single instance of long-term deprivation in order to effectively do brain damage. Even if you do it "safely," it's really not, lol.

[alyssium]

there is no such thing as 'safe' breath play... but there are 'safer' ways of doing it.... for me as long as people are aware of the risk, it's not soo horrible.

[MasochistAngel]

Havent commented before, but will now. well truth is i watched most of your videos yesterday and finished them today. I had a vague idea of what BDSM was before watching your videos, but I've learned a lot from you. I really just want to play with the idea a bit, like the collar and the restraints. I probably wouldn't go so far as master/slave, although it does sound fun :)

I just wanted to let you know that your videos are truly enlightening so keep up the good work! luv ya!

[alyssium]

thank you.

though do remember... just because you aren't swimming in the deep end, doesn't mean you aren't swimming. nor does it make what you enjoy any less valid. *smiles adn hugs*

e.

[Grimli]

I just went and rewatched #18, nah you weren't flippant, saying you can die is pretty explicit about the consequences, saying there is no safe way to do it is also explicit. I guess you didn't make other consequences clear enough for the person you responded to. Personally I think death as a consequence is the big red flag.

[alyssium]

thank you... :)