Spanking

[Angel099833]

ill spank there hands thies and butt til it rosy then sit them down for a bit

[Necronaut]

lol other things besides the internet? take away their phone/tv/computer/friends and you got yourself the nice punishment.

[madisonroseishotful]

i think it is violence and violence isn't the answer

[iammeiko28]

i agree a lil whack will not hurt & tha baby is cute climbed up huh

[UnschoolingEagle]

Part of the problem with African Americans and poverty, violence, and their youth is the lack of respect between older individuals and younger ones. The acceptance of hitting (which has been proven over and over again to be negative, anything positive is not from hitting, but from other areas in life) is quite disgusting and only serves to keep African Americans from reaching their true position in society. This has nothing to do with skin color, only culture. Caucasians do it too, not as much.

[Dhestani03]

i belive in the bible...of course! But however! spanking a child with a blunt object is very crul and brutal...but if you start at an early age(as walking) with smaking on the hand. your child will get the diffrence of "good" and "bad"! BUT DO YOU OTHER PARENTS EVER AS YOURSELVES "WHERE IS MY CHILD GETTING THIS BAD BEHAVIOR FROM?" and then track your own steps

[HaitianRNPhanie]

That's true, a lot of the bad things our children do come from traits and observation. Children are like sponges, they pick up on and copy everything. If we as parents present model behavior at all times, our child therefore will see and follow in our footsteps.

[TheWorldpics]

Proverbs 13:24 One who spares the rod hates his son, but one who loves him is careful to discipline him. A parent who doesn't spank a child when needed hates the child.

[sweetamy189]

i completely agree i got spanked as a child too and i think im a better person, because i see alot of these kids now dont get spanked and they r just assholes now.

[ShadyLady91]

who gives you the right to assault your kids?? the bible also says that you can have slaves, do you believe in that too?? why is the only person that you can hit your own kid that you should love? that doesn't make any sense. and if you inflict pain, it's abuse. a smack won't cause pain, it's wrong too in my opinion, but not thaaaaat bad. if you really hurt the child though, you ARE abusing it.

[TheWorldpics]

Spanking is not assault Fool!

[behemottka]

To change behavior we have to do several things that punishment cannot do: motivate children to do something different from what impulse or inclination suggests; ensure that they understand what that different and desirable behavior is and that it is open to them, and make sure that choosing to behave that way brings some reward. The slapped child is hurt, angry and humiliated. She knows she has done wrong but she doesn't know what she should have done instead and should do in the future.

[behemottka]

When a child keeps getting into danger,you may feel that a smack will 'teach her a lesson' and the fact that the child stops exploring to cry seems to prove the point. But that 'lesson' is only a real contribution to discipline if the child's FUTURE behavior is altered.

[PetetheJester]

do you believe in taking down a child pants and beat their bare butt with a branch for a minute

[HaitianRNPhanie]

OMG no! I believe spanking to teach a lesson or as punishment. No to bruise and leave marks. That I wouldn't do. SMH

[lloo567]

I've never understood why the topic causes such a torrent of emotions. Hell, I've seen people talk about religion and control themselves better. 9 times out of 10, people start talking about spanking and, if they don't lose it, there is at least an undercurrent of anger right below the surface. It makes you wonder if there is really no lasting damage caused.

[phillygirlisback]

my little cousin Madison ran to the street

yesterday and my Anut Kim did not do anything

but put on her time out for five min and then she got up all happy started to play and i was like what the hell your child is like 6ys old she should konw by now not to run in the street, but if that was your child what would you do and say to Madison!!!

[HaitianRNPhanie]

That's the thing with time out. They stand there and their mind starts to wonder off, and give it 2 min and the whole reason for them being in the corner vanishes. Since she is 6, and knowing my heart would have jumped out of my chest if that were my child. My 1st reaction is a quick tap on the hands and an explination as to why. It's one thing to punish a child, but we also need to talk to them about the reason and/or danger behind their action.

[phillygirlisback]

would you spank your child if she is at the age 10 or 12.

[HaitianRNPhanie]

It depends on the child really. Some kids by that age should have already gotten the point. If not, then its time to change the game plan, because spanking obviousy isn't working.

[phillygirlisback]

thank you for the responce

[MRshoes45]

my friend said that if his child(but he doesnt have one but he said if he did)

starts acting up in a store he would just hold it back like you know just holding their arms and legs til the point they cant move til he/she calms down he would never hit a child and neither would i.

[Gor85]

I think it's good when needed.

[stopchildabuse16]

i do believe in spanking. however spanking is completely diffrent than abuse. a spanking is a swat or two on the butt. if you spank so hard or give so many swats that you leave a mark that last more than 5 minutes its abuse.

[Aujaleen]

I was spanked as a child...and i always learned from it...anybody that doesnt spank there children there usually spoiled...i spank my children only when needed...something they did when i gave them 2 warnings and kept doing it..i think it shows love! I love my kids! and would do anything for them! and it shows i don't want them to act that way anymore..so i spank them..and they know i do that because i love them!

[cuchulain55]

all hitting is wrong no matter for what with who or how minor. This is not just my opinion of which i have been this is one which is the clear blue of the sky of fact.

[jlujak]

til what age did u get whuppins and were they effective?

[HaitianRNPhanie]

Wow, I think til like 10. After that I pretty much got the drift. And yes, it was very effective.

[mylifeisblink182]

I was spanked. i think i learned from it, especially once the spankings were meant to teach me a lesson. i was spanked a lot from age 4-8 then they stoped for a while and came back when i was 10 and i got my hardest spanking at age 12. my last real spanking came when i was 16. some of them were bare butt spankings for example the last was. what's your opinion on bare or clothed spankings? and if i was your child and at age 16 i really misbehaved would you spank me?

[HaitianRNPhanie]

I believe with clothing is best. You wanna inflict pain, but not bruise and cause welts. At 16 you're practically an adult. If you're still misbehaving at 16, then obviously spanking isn't and didn't do the trick. Time to find another method. That's when taking away privileges come into play. Such as a cell phone, computer, earlier curfew, more chores, canceling social events, etc.. By 16, you've either learned from the spankings or have gotten better at covering your "tracks".

[mylifeisblink182]

I think spanking did work for me. the incident when i was 16 was isolated. and was given to me by my grandma who felt i needed some "old school" discipline. the problem is now i still i feel like i need to be spanked at times. and other family members have said they would spank me if i misbehaved around them. is this ok? also is there a way we could discuss this more privately> i have other things i would like to talk about but i feel uncomfortable saying them here.

[lamart389]

i just beat down a few mintues ago with a belt man that hurt am 13

[HaitianRNPhanie]

Well, did you deserve it?

[brooknight1]

You know it boils down to personality of the parent(s)and how they want to discipline their child. you see almost every parent have a different method of discipline their child(ren).some method works and some don't and when their method don't work they wind up on the Maury, Dr.Phil show LMAO!! so if you feel the way you discipline your child is effective keep doing it (don't let it get out of hand of course.)