Do you go both WAYS? Are you fake? Are you confused?

[lorethahall]

Thank you for that it was very uplifting im bisexual an its always hard for me.i am 1 of those bisexual that,if im with a man I'm with him, if im with a woman im with her. Thanks for sticking up for us! An your rite love has no gender we sud b free 2 love who we want! One ?.how do u approach a woman if u just starting bac out in the dating scene? I hope u understand

[shebabadbitch101]

thanks for this video it really help me accept myself wayyyyy more cause im bi and its really hard to come out to everyone with out the judgement in its hard to date even though im faithful lol! but cause im bi people think i will cheat on them or im not a part of the gay community...thanks again i dont want to go on in on talking to much lol

[harleensethi09]

Bisexuals if there are any then they are part of gay and transgenders. I doubt bisexuals exist because it is a phase when a person has not met the right lover. I will look into lesbians if a male hurts me and it has happened. I am not a bisexual because I have not had sexual relations or made out with a woman. I do not have anything against lesbians or anyones sexuality as long as there is no cheating. Love is all that matters.

[LadySongz69]

I'm bi-curious, like right now I'm 14 so I haven't figured out what exactly I want but like girls and guys turn me on...i guess only the future can tell haha

[shmoopsy650]

@LadySongz69 true true. Throughout your life your identity will shift and change because of your experiences. Take everything a little at a time, enjoy every moment and love yourSelf through it all!! I'm here if you have any questions, send them to my inbox :p

[sho0hio22]

CHURCH.....lol..tell em girl!!

[arbeish1]

I am bisexual. I appriciate you saying we can be faithful but for me I dont think I could only be with one sex. I am in a relationship with a man, But I could never not have another woman for the rest of my life. So we have threesomes with other women. We also plan to find another female to join our relationship. I think this is the best situation for a bisexual girl. If you like both sexes but stick to one you will always miss the other cuz a man cant offer what a women can and vice versa.

[shmoopsy650]

@arbeish1 well, that's a whole other subject; polygomy. Some people want it others can't handle it. It's all about how you are maintaining your loving relationship to your partner. Everyone shares love differently and maybe for you being polygomous is best because you can have a woman and a man. For others being bisexual is about finding love in either gender not necessarily about having sex with either.

[KRAZiiKiLL]

i love this....i was the same way Like ew bi-sexuals are nasty but now i found out my current girlfriend i was with for 8 months is one and i still love her the same....now if she cheats thats a whole nother story..i dont think if she cheats on me with a guy i would be able to take her back.

[ImsimplyLC]

omg. thank you soooooooo much for this video. i wish every lesbian could watch this. you took all the words out my mouth and verbalized them beautifully! I've came across so many lesbians that refuse to date another bisexual because someone in the past did them wrong. I try to explain to them that you should judge someone by their character not their sexuality. smh. but anyways thanks for this hun.

[shmoopsy650]

@ImsimplyLC I KNOW! I don't get it! Cuz I'm sure that another lesbian has done them wrong too but because of prejudice they aren't open to loving someone for how they identify. It's like saying you won't be open to loving someone because they call themselves biracial instead of deciding on one; black or white.

[MusicLovin123]

i agree with everything you said ,

great video

[MCP2012]

...also about how she was being chastised by other lesbians and lesbian-feminists merely becoz she happened to have come to love and want to be with a particular man. She still identified primarily as lesbian, &, in terms of her feminist activism, nothing (as far as she was concerned) had changed! And her article was an argument for toleration and liberal-minded (rather than narrow-mindedness) within the lesbian community. (That article, btw, might be available online somewhere now...)

[shmoopsy650]

@MCP2012 Oo0!! I would love to read that! If you find it send it to me please!

[MCP2012]

@shmoopsy650 Hi, darlin'! Well, dog-gone-it, I can't remember the lady's name. I prolly hav a photo-copy of that essay somewhere, but beats the heck outta me where. & I haven't searched for it online. I'll give it a shot; meantime, u do the same: I'm almost certain the title of the essay is "My Curious Condition," which is a play on the phrase as that used be used, a half-century or more ago, to politely refer to being pregnant. She wasn't pregnant, mind u, but her lez colleagues...

[MCP2012]

@shmoopsy650 (cont.) surely did (to say the least) find her "condition" curious!! The title was at least something very similar to that. Heck, it might be, by now, reprinted in a radical feminist anthology (say), for all I know (lol)! But, yeah, she was a pretty cool, sorta/kinda "major" figure in radical/lesbian feminism back about 20-25 yrs ago. I guess she's still around (she'd be about 55 or 60ish now, I think). I just can't (yet--I'll keep tryin') recall her name, darn it!

[MCP2012]

The reason I said that is that back 20 or 30 yrs ago, back when radical & lesbian feminism was in its heyday, an article appeared (& can't remember the author's name, darn it) titled "My Curious Condition," in which a self-identified lesbian and radical feminist/activist came to find herself involved with a man, & (obviously, or she wouldn't've been in it!) very mutually loving and fulfilling relationship at that! The article was about how surprised she herself was at first, but also about...

[MCP2012]

Reasonably well-said. Bisexuals (or pansexuals), both female & male, even today (and it was a bit worse a decade or 2 or 3 ago!) oftentimes get a bad rap for no good reason(s). And it IS possible--at least in principle--for almost any woman--even one who identifies as primarily lesbian to come to love--romantically/erotically-­-a male, not just any male, but a special male. If/when that happens, she shouldn't then be shunned by other lesbians! If it's love, it's LOVE. Let it be!

[LittlePumpkin21]

How about transexual women (Post Op) and straight women? :) Discrimimate someone due to their differences or anything is wrong anyway.

[shmoopsy650]

@LittlePumpkin21 Exactly!

[StuddedL0ve]

yess thank youuuuu!!!! make this a vid response 2 my "cheating vs cheating" or i will make tht response 2 this...but basically same smh..same points...thank uuuuuu!!

[shmoopsy650]

@StuddedL0ve lol I cant find the video on your channel YOU HAVE TOO MANY VIDEOS WOMAN!!! Send me the link and I'll link our two videos together yeah?

[Unidentified43]

This will probably be my last comment unless I decide to make a video. Am I saying that bisexual hate is right? NO, I'm really not. Should it stop? YES. Now the way I view not dating someone based off their orientation is the same way I view not dating someone because off their religion, background, or whatever else. People do have prejudices when it comes to dating. Everybody does. People just dont date anybody. Usually ppl have specific things they want in a person. Orientation could/could not

[Unidentified43]

@Unidentified43 be one of them like anything else. For example, if Im deeply religious(Christian) is it wrong for me not to date an atheist or a Muslim. AS long as Im not spewing any hate, trying to kill someone, or infringe on anybodys right to practice freely, I feel a persons preferences should be respected whether you agree or not. I know what Im saying is probably not popular, it's just another side to the coin. Respect is probably a bigger issue than dating. Just my honest opinion & 2cents

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 Thanks for your opinion for real. I agree very much with what you said about religion, and background. I understand the other side of the argument. I do really do. I just can't get around the fact that it's prejudice and I can't respect bullshit excuses that someone lays out as reasons why bisexuals are undateable. Ppl will date how they date, I just want ppl to open their minds. You never know if that girl you just let go was the love of your life.

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 yeah! I'd love a video!!!

[Unidentified43]

@shmoopsy650 yea. id probably create another account and make a video tonight or tomorrow. when im by myself. so i can explain my points better

[AEiam0309]

[Standing ovation with a tear drop of joy lol] I sooooo agree!!! people constantly look down on me because my gf is bi, but im with you i vote love the bisexuals not hate them!!

[shmoopsy650]

@AEiam0309 I just don't understand the prejudice against them. Bisexuals are women who love women too! It's just a label! It makes me sad that ppl are judged so hard for past sexual encounters with that label. Nobody says shit to me even though I've dated men and been with men. I identify as a lesbian but I didn't always. We should start a group LESBIANS FOR WOMEN!!! Lol STR8, Bi, or LEZ IF UR A WOMAN, WE'LL GET DOWN WITH YOU!

[shmoopsy650]

I have yet to hear a valid reason as to why lesbians won't date a bisexual. Cheating or past sexual encounters aren't good reasons, they are EXCUSES and INSECURITIES. We are all apart of the LGBT community, it's time we OPENED the box ;) and think outside of what society has told us about bisexuals.

[Ujames1978]

In reponse to the comment by Unidentified43, this is another example of the 'I'm Not Bi-phobic...BUT!' attitude that I have read and seen over and over again while researching this topic. The idea that Bi-sexual women are a 'Seperate Group...' What's wrong refusing to date a girl solely because she's attracted to men as well? And why do these 'Confused/Curious' women get upset and scream 'Biphobia?'

"We're 'LESBIANS!' We Don't Like Men! You Do! F*** Each Other If You Want, But Stay Away!'

[Unidentified43]

@Ujames1978 How do you know that Im biphobic, bisexual or a lesbian? My point was people can refuse to date whoever they want for whatever reason they want & that should be okay. Whether its looks, orientation, income, etc. & they dont have to explain their reasons. Im sure its ppl out there who dont want to date me for whatever reason(no matter if its dumb) & thats okay with me. Because I understand people have their own personal preferences that should be respected no matter if I disagree.

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 You are right! Ppl have their preferences and shouldnt have to explain them so then there should be no talk of bisexuals being digusting or unfaithful because if that's the reason it's prejudice. It's like this, i'm digging this girl hard, she's everything I've ever wanted in a woman, we are perfect together I can see myself with her for a long time and then I find out 3 weeks later she identifies as bisexual and I'm a lesbian. Why in the hell would I let this woman go?

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 Well the whole issue really is that lesbians like women being a lesbian doesn't mean you only date lesbians. it means you date women. I did talk about confused/curious women briefly but I will eloborate a little more on another video.

[Unidentified43]

@shmoopsy650 Oh I understand that. I was just looking at the other side of things and saying just because a lesbian might not want to date a bisexual doesnt make her wrong either. I mean straight people dont complain that bisexuals dont want them. But on a whole I do think peoples preferences need to be respected and not hated.

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 I'm gonna have to agree with Ujames1978. Theres nothing wrong with preferences but when lesbians degrade bisexuals by labeling them slutty or dirty or disgusting for like men as well thus not dating them its simply just prejudice.

[Ujames1978]

(Cont,) By stating proudly that they have never had sex with/been in a relationship with a man, "Gold Star Lesbians" define themselves in terms of purity and segregation. They also seem to believe that sexuality is on a 'Spectrum' with heterosexual men on one end and 'Pure' lesbians on the other. And indeed, defining sexuality as a 'War,' they hate the turncoats and traitors, "Fem" lesbians and so forth. Of course, there's also insecurity, but again, I think that's just caused by prejudice.

[Unidentified43]

I like this video, but I'm going to look at the other side of the topic.I dont think its wrong for a lesbian to not date a bisexual woman. I mean after all a lesbian and a bisexual is not the same category. What I really do not understand is bisexual women who get upset at lesbian women who dont want to date them. I mean as long as other bisexuals date bisexuals I dont see what the problem is. Also you could talk about women who are confused/curious who use the bisexual label and get with a

[Unidentified43]

@Unidentified43 lesbian and then decide they aren't really into women afterall. And it's true that bisexuals can conform easier and have  an easier time blending into society and they can be with whoever they want when they feel like it and dont have to worry about being uncomfortable. I also notice some bisexuals take their relationships with women less seriously than they do with a man.

I know I made some generalizations in my comments but I wanted to look at it from the otherside sense

[Unidentified43]

@Unidentified43 I figured the majority of the comments would be positive. I dont think mine are negative just some more understanding of why a lesbian woman might be hesitant to date a bisexual. But good video though.

[shmoopsy650]

@Unidentified43 I don't know where you're getting your stats from or who you've personally had encounters with but for me, bisexual people are the same as any other people. Some take relationships seriously while others don't regardless of the gender of their partner. I could say the same thing about stud lesbians not taking their partners seriously. ITS JUST A STEREOTYPE THAT NEEDS TO BE DISCARDED!

[Ujames1978]

Dear Rose,

Thank you so much for this beautiful video, for your recent e-mail and I 'Will' respond asap. Because tragically, the whole issue of lesbian bi-phobia is an issue that has deeply affected my girlfriend and I, and I'm afraid that I can't address everything in a single comment. However, researching Bi-phobia, 'Gold Star Lesbians' etc did lead me to the conclusion that Bi-phobic lesbians often define themselves by their 'Polar Opposition' to men, leaving Bisexuals caught in the middle.

[UcMeHiHaTeRs6969]

Thank u sooo much for doing this topic! Loved the video! I feel kind of "judged" by those of the lesbian community because of my bisexuality...with all the criticisim and hostility toward lesbians/gays, i dont feel that we as a whole have room to discriminate against eachother! There are so many more important things in life to be concerned with than whether or not bisexuality is exceptable....Again, thank u for the video! I really enjoyed hearing from a lesbian's point of view!

[shmoopsy650]

@UcMeHiHaTeRs6969 Your welcome, ma. I'd love to hear what you have to say about these questions; What is your experience dating in the LGBT community? Do you prefer women or men? Or either? Can you define your sexuality for me? What kinds of reactions do you get from lesbians when they find out you are bi?

[LittlePepper01]

Thank you so much for this!!!! Much Luv