I've been doing toilet training with my PDD son for 1 1/2 year now. Pipi are ok, but he still refuses to do no 2 on the toilet and insists that they go on the underwear (he is verbal and explains that to us). The walls of his bedroom is full of charts showing the treats he got since we started. Now he refuses treats when we are able to get him to do a no 2 in the toilet. I'm desperate and scared that we are going to have to do it all over again for my other son.
The boy I know is 15 years old, severly Autistic. He does not have verbal skills. He urinates in the toilet but does not recognise the need when he needs to pooh. So he messes himself but does not complete the motion, he is cleaned up and then the process happens again. This is happening at school and at home. His parents do not know where to turn for help. They have tried pedatricians, the mother has asked other parents, but their children are not as high on the Austic spectrim as her son.
@kiaora224 I have a 4yr old non verbal autistic child. She's doesn't have the ability to feel when she needs to use the bathroom, she under sensitive...we need to raise her level of sensitivity before we can even begin toilet training..now that's fun!
Zedgirl44, I dont think anyone is saying autistic children are in anyway 'dumb' as you say. I am the grandmother of a severly autistic child with very bad sensory disorders. He is 3 and a half and is in no way ready to potty train. He is very smart but is inability to speak and his sensory disorder makes life difficult for him. This isnt about children with milder forms of autism, it is to help parents of children who are more severly impaired.
@zedgirl44 why are you offended?? parents using this advice are likely to have a child with autism at around the age of 3yrs to 4yrs old that need to be potty trained. The fact you can use the toilet doesn't mean autistic toddlers can use it neither does anyone think anyone is stupid.
My son would not use a potty chair - only a " seat " - small seat for children that fit on the the main toilet seat. and was in diapers till the age of three - it was extremely difficult to get him potty trained but eventually we were able to train him before pre school.
My daughter is 8 and potty trained while she's awake but when she sleeps we still put training pants and we have tried everything she wakes up with a full diaper
i have aspergers and i was potty trained by the time i was 18 months old i was also off the bottle by then and back then my mom did not know i had aspergers i did not get labeled that until few months ago
This guy is a fluff. Seven minutes of nonsensical blah-blah. If you a parent and want to teach an autistic child toileting, go and read Chapter 15 of the ME Book by Lovaas published in 1987. This chapter, which is only 3 pages long, will help you to train almost ANY child, even with severe delays.
Ive recently found out my son is autistic and I havent potty trained him yet cause I dont think he is ready he just turned 2 in Dec. he doesnt tell me he is soiled and he doesnt seem to show discomfort by it . Im sure when I go for my feedback meeting they will give me tips but I didnt even think of potty traing till 2 1/2 yrs old
is there no fucking autistic person watching this video that can help us understand why our autistic son cannot shit or piss anywhere except on himself???!!!
Why the fuck should we try and search out this information for ourselves, using reinforcers and bullshit as if they are a show dog!!
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When my son was little I would set him on the toilet backwards and put a dish towel on the tank with some cookies. He had no problem sitting there and even knew the specified times for the potty breaks and offered to sit on the potty at the designated times. He would even sit there till he had a red ring around his bottom. And the minute I let him up from the potty he would pee all over the floor. He was potty trained when he decided to be potty trained.
I'm very irritated whenever someone illustrates a positive reinforcement behavior modification technique, and a bunch of people show up and say, "No that's wrong, because I did something different and it worked." Okay. Great for you. That doesn't mean you're wrong, it doesn't make him wrong. It's just a different method.
While i agree that positive reinforcement is a large part of toilet training, I also think that modeling is extremely important for success. For instance if your toilet training a boy you would want to have men in the child's life model using the toilet. I think this gives the child a better understanding of what is being asked of him and shows the normality of using a toilet.
unless the child is not developmentally ready to be potty trined no matter what the reinforcer is he doesnt mind being wet or siled in his pants ..i caught him splashing around in his own urine unphased..
use a the most valuable Reinforcer and keep it in the toilet every time the child goes give him lots of praise and that reinforcer ( video tv- tape) which stays in the toilet, control the reinforcer and you can control the behaviour.
In the case of my older son (w/DS), frequent trips were met with distinct non-compliance. What worked best, and I suspect will for my Autistic boy, is for potty times to be connected to daily events. IE first thing in the morning, last thing at night, before you go out. Regulation can work in the absence of the readiness skills described in this vid.
Some of his NT peers aren't toilet trained in his 3+ preschool. I agree with positive reinforcement, however, throw out the data collection. Mr. Cicero is plainly wrong in some of his advice.
Not to be incendiary, but are you saying parents who fail to train children w/autism are doing something wrong? I've been toileting my daughter since 30 mos - before she was even diagnosed w/autism. She's now 5 1/2 and still wets herself daily. We have tried everything from stickers to time training. Pull-ups during the day were gone at age 4 (ready or not). When children who are younger than my kid ask their mommies to go potty, it makes me want to chew off my own arm. IDK what I'm doing wrong.
I've been doing toilet training with my PDD son for 1 1/2 year now. Pipi are ok, but he still refuses to do no 2 on the toilet and insists that they go on the underwear (he is verbal and explains that to us). The walls of his bedroom is full of charts showing the treats he got since we started. Now he refuses treats when we are able to get him to do a no 2 in the toilet. I'm desperate and scared that we are going to have to do it all over again for my other son.
martinv751 2 months ago
The boy I know is 15 years old, severly Autistic. He does not have verbal skills. He urinates in the toilet but does not recognise the need when he needs to pooh. So he messes himself but does not complete the motion, he is cleaned up and then the process happens again. This is happening at school and at home. His parents do not know where to turn for help. They have tried pedatricians, the mother has asked other parents, but their children are not as high on the Austic spectrim as her son.
AaronJames3000 5 months ago
Try toilet training an almost completely non verbal 4yr old autistic child. Fun!...
kiaora224 5 months ago
@kiaora224 I have a 4yr old non verbal autistic child. She's doesn't have the ability to feel when she needs to use the bathroom, she under sensitive...we need to raise her level of sensitivity before we can even begin toilet training..now that's fun!
livingblessed100 1 month ago
@livingblessed100 I feel your pain! it is so frustrating, same thing I am going through but my son doesn't understand.
kiaora224 1 month ago
Zedgirl44, I dont think anyone is saying autistic children are in anyway 'dumb' as you say. I am the grandmother of a severly autistic child with very bad sensory disorders. He is 3 and a half and is in no way ready to potty train. He is very smart but is inability to speak and his sensory disorder makes life difficult for him. This isnt about children with milder forms of autism, it is to help parents of children who are more severly impaired.
bjstur44 6 months ago
uh..............
IM AN ASPIE WHICH IS PART OF AUTISM AND IM FINE WITH THE TOILET!!! D:<
AND I KNOW MANY PPL WITH AUTISM AND THEY KNOW HOW TO USE A TOILET!!
GEEZ!!!!!!!!! YOU PPL THINK WERE STUPID OR MENTALLY RETARDED
but you know... were not as dumb as you think
zedgirl44 8 months ago
@zedgirl44 yeah and Im a child
zedgirl44 8 months ago
@zedgirl44 why are you offended?? parents using this advice are likely to have a child with autism at around the age of 3yrs to 4yrs old that need to be potty trained. The fact you can use the toilet doesn't mean autistic toddlers can use it neither does anyone think anyone is stupid.
HannyCheung 1 month ago
you dont pee on the toilet you p in the toilet not on it.
dclark12553 1 year ago
My son would not use a potty chair - only a " seat " - small seat for children that fit on the the main toilet seat. and was in diapers till the age of three - it was extremely difficult to get him potty trained but eventually we were able to train him before pre school.
chibomato78 1 year ago
my daughter is 8 and is okay while she's awake but when she sleeps we still put traing pants on her we have tried everything
dosadler 1 year ago
My daughter is 8 and potty trained while she's awake but when she sleeps we still put training pants and we have tried everything she wakes up with a full diaper
dosadler 1 year ago
my son will pee on the potty but not poop any sugestions. Please help after 8 years im done with poopie diapers.
jlopezosci 1 year ago
@jlopezosci find an BCBA therapist that will address your needs. Also read up on it. Potty alarms are also another option.
D0ct0rFun 6 months ago
i have aspergers and i was potty trained by the time i was 18 months old i was also off the bottle by then and back then my mom did not know i had aspergers i did not get labeled that until few months ago
kiddlyjesus3000 1 year ago
okay why should you yell at your child if they do not go the the bathroom
bsbfan09 1 year ago
i'm gonna potty train my child at 1. i don't believe in this B.S. sorry i just don't.
MONIQUEIJ 1 year ago
This guy is a fluff. Seven minutes of nonsensical blah-blah. If you a parent and want to teach an autistic child toileting, go and read Chapter 15 of the ME Book by Lovaas published in 1987. This chapter, which is only 3 pages long, will help you to train almost ANY child, even with severe delays.
autismvid 1 year ago
this is just what Ive been doing for the last 4- 5 months every 20 minutes we go !! some days we are brilliant others are not good at all
ringosinclair 1 year ago
Ive recently found out my son is autistic and I havent potty trained him yet cause I dont think he is ready he just turned 2 in Dec. he doesnt tell me he is soiled and he doesnt seem to show discomfort by it . Im sure when I go for my feedback meeting they will give me tips but I didnt even think of potty traing till 2 1/2 yrs old
kswt84 2 years ago
is there no fucking autistic person watching this video that can help us understand why our autistic son cannot shit or piss anywhere except on himself???!!!
Why the fuck should we try and search out this information for ourselves, using reinforcers and bullshit as if they are a show dog!!
this is driving my wife and I insane!!!!!
MolossianZagori 2 years ago
@MolossianZagori ---You sound like an asshole/ You seem like you just want a quick fix and let me tell you THERE ARE NONE OUT THERE...Get a grip and stop being such a rude tool/
Kshunka 2 years ago
@Kshunka
does trying to toilet train for 3 yrs sound like a "quick fix" fuck face??!!
MolossianZagori 2 years ago
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MONIQUEIJ 2 years ago
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MONIQUEIJ 2 years ago
i just found out my lil bro is autistic..he can pee but refuses to go number 2
ClichexCasualty 2 years ago
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UniqueMJPT 2 years ago
When my son was little I would set him on the toilet backwards and put a dish towel on the tank with some cookies. He had no problem sitting there and even knew the specified times for the potty breaks and offered to sit on the potty at the designated times. He would even sit there till he had a red ring around his bottom. And the minute I let him up from the potty he would pee all over the floor. He was potty trained when he decided to be potty trained.
rainchild41 2 years ago
I'm very irritated whenever someone illustrates a positive reinforcement behavior modification technique, and a bunch of people show up and say, "No that's wrong, because I did something different and it worked." Okay. Great for you. That doesn't mean you're wrong, it doesn't make him wrong. It's just a different method.
Codababy 3 years ago 4
OK.... whats up with the interviewer?
krcriddle 3 years ago
While i agree that positive reinforcement is a large part of toilet training, I also think that modeling is extremely important for success. For instance if your toilet training a boy you would want to have men in the child's life model using the toilet. I think this gives the child a better understanding of what is being asked of him and shows the normality of using a toilet.
cara3334 4 years ago
unless the child is not developmentally ready to be potty trined no matter what the reinforcer is he doesnt mind being wet or siled in his pants ..i caught him splashing around in his own urine unphased..
funnygrl702 4 years ago 6
use a the most valuable Reinforcer and keep it in the toilet every time the child goes give him lots of praise and that reinforcer ( video tv- tape) which stays in the toilet, control the reinforcer and you can control the behaviour.
elmiralwahab 4 years ago
Interesting video,A+++
annakolod 4 years ago
In the case of my older son (w/DS), frequent trips were met with distinct non-compliance. What worked best, and I suspect will for my Autistic boy, is for potty times to be connected to daily events. IE first thing in the morning, last thing at night, before you go out. Regulation can work in the absence of the readiness skills described in this vid.
ralpheadsuz 4 years ago
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christschool 4 years ago
Some of his NT peers aren't toilet trained in his 3+ preschool. I agree with positive reinforcement, however, throw out the data collection. Mr. Cicero is plainly wrong in some of his advice.
christschool 4 years ago
@christschool i agree with you
MONIQUEIJ 1 year ago
How did you train your child?
ZanTheMonk 4 years ago
Not to be incendiary, but are you saying parents who fail to train children w/autism are doing something wrong? I've been toileting my daughter since 30 mos - before she was even diagnosed w/autism. She's now 5 1/2 and still wets herself daily. We have tried everything from stickers to time training. Pull-ups during the day were gone at age 4 (ready or not). When children who are younger than my kid ask their mommies to go potty, it makes me want to chew off my own arm. IDK what I'm doing wrong.
YellowSarong 2 years ago
I certainly don't mean to be. I made that comment more than 2 years ago. I think each child is different.
christschool 2 years ago