BDSM Talk 10

[john6996ful]

can subspace kill you thoe 

[kinkykelleykicks]

good job girl!

[Nasiruddin84]

I think the psychic reactions of people to bdsm are more complex just to reduce them on two hormones. If it were this a more uniform response would be reasonable. For sure its about chemistry (like all of our brain) but I fear we really don't understand it that far to break it down to its molecular components. Just my nagging criticism. Apart from that your video was insightful. Take care!

[Vickster122162]

My male sub goes wayy out into subspace. So far in fact that he looses all track of time and the ability to speak. We have been together for many years so I know when he is out there by his body language. He LOVES subspace and I enjoy putting him there. :-) WE always use aftercare it is VERY important!

[Atadratel]

I wish ppl were teaching this talk number ten in sex ed classes. Thank you for taking your time and making all these videos. I think it's nice how you're talking about BDSM in that healthy, open-minded and realistic way. Nice channel.

[Atadratel]

This is my favorite video in your channel. I've seen a grown-ass man on a tv about a hour ago, who was claiming that subspace, unlike orgasm, may long from a few hours to a few days, which in my opinion is bullshit; he probably didn't talk about chemical, he was talking about some imaginary psychological state of mind or something like that.. This is almost funny, but it's not, I think it's sad that some ignorant people try things they don't know enouhg about.

[RyuuKage]

my girlfriend goes in to subspace during sex she passes out alot or goes all brain dead i find it adorable

[Yoherz]

Cool. I didn't know about subspace. I'll be sure and watch her next time she does something like that. Or, any girls for that matter.

[kyodrako]

i'am lookign for a mistres in to diapers

[Peikko]

At least once you said "the girl... or boy" :) Now I love you even more.

[ericricou]

lolololololololololololol

[joshcna]

At least now we know why you stabbed yourself with a butter knife while making popcorn :)

[alyssium]

it was purely accidental. i swear. :)

[darkmusic]

hello what is your mail

wanna know about the foot fetish

i like it

thanks what think about you

[Onipa]

Aftercare is for pussies. If you like pain, you wouldn't need to have a FUCKING BLANKET over yourself while someone cuddles with you and plays with your hair.

Posers.

[dentalomental]

What is with the comments? cut loose the little (and I mean little) cock'y person that just offends out of nowhere. the bitter, bitter little man needs to beat up on a girl when his trouble needs viagra belongs on the curb.. or doing time in a county jail. block the boy.. that or buy him cute sundress his fav soccer star might like.

[alyssium]

i disagree with censoring hte comments, which is why i don't delete the negative ones. so, ericrou stays until he goes too far.

[ericricou]

Speaking of brilliant French men of literature, I'd like to mention this quote from the universally respected Albert Camus: "L'homme est, par défaut, un être absurde. Par contre, la grosse torche, elle, est un esti de colisse d'erreur. Son rôle sur cette terre est connu de tous: elle sert d'engrais. Il faut donc éliminer la coliss de de plaie sociale que représente les grosses estis." Inspiring.

[alyssium]

i have been polite and tolerant to this point. i am going to ask you nicely to please refrain, i do not want to block you, but if you continue that will be my decision.

thank you,

e.

[alain819]

Thanks to you,regular people with real social lives, look like total success-stories. As Molières would say; "Crisse que tu me donne le goût de faire gerber mon chien pour ensuite manger les grumeaux tellent tu me dégoûtes, face d'égoût béant". Anyway, thanks to you, I lost all fate in Americans and in life in general. You convinced me to disembowel myself. I'd like to end in a quotation by the great ericricou:" DEATH TO FATTIES, UP THE BROWN, SHOCKER LOELZ!"

[sbbeachboy]

Ah another coinnessour of the existing social strata, please tell us how to live oh spiteful one so that we may suffer along with you never finding acceptance of self and others.

[ericricou]

Ahh nerdly solidarity. What a heart-warming sight! But in all seriousness, none of us care about any of this. It is of utter unimportance. Therefore, my criticizing this woman's unhealthy state of being is quite irrelevant and harmless. So rest your digits and spare us of your cynical attempts at a comeback. I am a far superior human being.

[sbbeachboy]

That's right God only knows that you want to have the healthiest corpse in the cemetery. By the way mr. superior being (Caps left out on purpose) you misused cynical.

[ericricou]

A good example of someone who doesn't take consel of nay-sayers: George W. Bush. Successful man! Brilliant figure of authority! You fat people make me sad.

[alyssium]

that was a very interesting opinion... thank you for that.

[Mousekavich]

...interesting. I find your comments intriguing really. What reason do you have to put this person down? Do you tell every fat person you see that they're fat, or is it something else? Perhaps to make yourself feel better? Or maybe you get sexual pleasure from it?

Sounds like you have a lot of wanna-be doms and tops commenting on your vids here alyssium. Congratulations!

[IcarusTrebonius]

Its called safety first. Taking responsibility is a huge part of an active lifestyle. Subspace is a known issue that can occur at any time due to lack of communication or the ability to interpret a person's response during a scene.

Just my two cents, really.

[c0ldwarri0r]

on after care.

well I wish to thank you for the videos.

you are trying to teach and I suggest that you

try this one thing with regards to the comments people say here. Its Gen Powells 11th commandment " DONT TAKE COUNSEL OF NAY SAYERS" These people are just running the fingers or mouth to put you down. They are into mental masturbation.

You keep up the good work, I am learning from you and thanks again.

[alyssium]

i never take counsel of nay sayers... i simply thank them. :)

thank you very much *hugs* e.

[ericricou]

hmm you're obese

[alyssium]

why yes, thank you. :)

[sbbeachboy]

And your unenlightened, typical 2 digit IQ thinking. Thanks for reminding us of why we left the dark ages.

[Kenjitsuka]

Not very nice comments this time... Just ignore them, alyssium, as your series is very informative and has loads of fans! :)

[alyssium]

i don't mind the negative comments so much.. it just adds another opinion. :)

[ginginnyme]

Also, he wants to use canes on me, but I am afraid of them, not of him. He says its ok if I dont want let him do it, but I can tell he really wants to use them on me. He is always sweet and gentle when he spanks me. What should I do? :/

[HereticMentalityx]

My advice would be to take it reallllllyyy slow and gently at first, talk about everything beforehand, and use your safewords.

[ginginnyme]

He is very, considerate for my pain level. So I do trust him not to hurt me. but the canes he showed me look so damn scary, I freeze. He says he knows exactly how to use them and has experience what parts not to hit.. Sometimes I just wish he was so called "normal" lol

[lynndieengland]

Why are you giving these talks? You don't know any more than the average person.

Aftercare isn't necessary, anyway. It's for pussies.

[alyssium]

aftercare can be hugely important.. when you come down from play and all the chemicals are rushing through your body you can have some very different reactions and you need different types of aftercare.

and these talks are for the new new people coming into bdsm.

[lynndieengland]

I don't know about that. Take Aron Ralston, for example. He was hiking in the woods when a boulder fell onto his arm. He took out a dull pocketknife and sawed his arm off, and then hiked to safety. If he could do all that without any "aftercare", why can't people handle a little scene?

[alyssium]

the instinct of survival. you have two choices... lay there and die or remove your arm and live.... i'm sure after he was out of the situation he needed some aftercare of sorts.

i don't mean aftercare has to be mollycoddling.. but for sure water and usually a blanket.

[lynndieengland]

I have never needed aftercare.

[alyssium]

that is great for you, but some people DO need it.

[ginginnyme]

My boyfriend is into BDSM, I like the spanking hands only though, He told me I went into subspace, but all I remember is feeling very quiet and settled..kind of. But he stopped and held me talking calmly to me. IS that subspace?

[buggynot]

This has nothing to do with the online space combat game Subspace/Continuum.

[alyssium]

no, i'm sorry.

[mikewantscookie]

that's funny because all I could think of when I played the game Subspace/Continuum is that it has nothing to do with what I hoped it would :D

[sinstresses]

adrenaline goes through as a flight of fight sort of chemical. Its whats telling your body fight now! It pumps you up gives you a rush like your superman.

[ibrahimsaab]

I like dolphins. But i don't wanna have sex with them.

[alyssium]

...what?