The Impact On Children Who Parents Are Alcoholics Or Drug Addicts / Educational Video PSA

[TheZeroCrossing]

I agree this is an issue. One can't asume anything is safe. I find it profound how much alcohol has affected my life. I am so angry that I have been so rejected by so many adults and family. I would love to beleave there's hope. But there are still cracks that we fall through. Thanks to your addiction. Thanks for being so selfish look around at the society You created

[nelrish24]

oh my gosh!

[kamronandRobyn]

I guess there is proof that just because both your parent make bad choices does not mean the children have to. I have never and will never have a drug or alcohol addiction. Coming from the environment where I was " raised " if you could say that....it's a big shocker. I mostly raised myself and trained myself to never have those kind of issues in my life.

[disguisingdeath]

I was high once and gave my 2 year old a puff on my crack pipe, is this bad? will it harm it.

[ExtremeRehab]

@ axlfoleyfanatic Please 4give me 4 not replying sooner, just read ur post. Utube will not let me post links, pls go 2 google & type in alanon meetings, then navigate 2 find meetings in your area&online. I encourage everyone 2 go 2 alanon/alateen meetings, knowing that complete anonymity is given & received. The love, kindness, compassion & tools u find in these rooms will fill ur soul with the much needed love & hope that addition has robbed from us all. All the best 2U, please keep in touch.

[Rangersbabes01]

my mum was an alcoholic ever since i was 2

[ostapslobodian]

My dad became a cocaine addict when I was 6.

[lisababy85]

Thank you, I am an adult child of an alcoholic it's AMAZING HOW MUCH IT can make a child suffer. I have a friend that critizes the choices I have made in the past and I am just now realizing there was a reason for it.

[sweetlove20035]

My Daddy and Mommy were both alcoholics. This has been hard for me to confess because of the shame and feeling like I'm all alone in my feelings. I've been emotionally, sexually and physically abused growing up. People a child thought she could trust destoried it all. Some family members will never understand my need to come to terms with it. It is a shame one ever has to go through abuse from older brothers and a grandfather. Dad and mom went to bars every weekend, leaving me with abusers.

[yt9451]

To anyone interested in healing, I come from 2 alcoholic parents who are both deceased for many years now. I am reading a book by Dr Laura called

" Bad Childhood -- Good Life " and it has really helped me to understand alot.

Please dont wait as long as I have to start seeking help. Please start today. I have wasted so much of my life being depressed over this. Its time to move on. The past is the past. So anyone young, please get answers today ok. God Bless.

[requiemvlog]

Thanks for the video. One does have to point out that children of dysfunctional families, even if no substance is present, can also suffer from the same problems.

[rosaryfilms]

@requiemvlog - you are welcome!

[lisababy85]

@requiemvlog that's true!

[Lysebaby620]

Allright here we go... my mother is an alcoholic and I believe she takes speed, her mother was an alcoholic and was a hard core drug abuser, (so was her brother) , her mother was an alcoholic, and so was her mother. So while I understand its not something that can be predictied, I am 19yrs old and deathly scared to have any alcoholic beverages and have never touched one. My heart goes out to all of you. I can only imagine the long term affects cuz I already know what the short ones are!

[givebirthathome]

@Lysebaby620

Well, don't worry about not drinking alcoholic beverages, that will do you good! What you really want to be careful about is *not having children* until you are sure you have sorted out traumas you may have from your mother in your own childhood. If you don't, having your own children will re-awaken them when you may not have the resources to be able to sort them out. As one of my neighbors said, "Having children is like the most powerful acid you have ever taken in your life".

[givebirthathome]

@givebirthathome My husband was an ACOA, who thought he could do just fine without therapy, and apparently was doing OK...until we had our child. 

[sharenslattery]

my mom drinks rund my child hood

[Rainbows648]

Thank you for the information, It is great when I find like minded people giving valuable info to help folks with these problems.

Thank you.

[rosaryfilms]

@Rainbows648 - you are very welcome! regards...

[darrylduke]

I no longer care why we become addicted, but why so many people relapse. After almost 14 years of sobriety. I feel the reason for it is that the individual never fully uncovered the underlying reason for their alcohol or drug use. In almost every instant it seems fears and insecurities are to blame for our inability to cope in life. By finding out what our fears and insecurities are and where they originated from, we can better understand them and begin to understand ourselves.

[gordo33]

*OK I got Big question regarding all this C.A.P thing.

According to all this research do Children grow problems from there parents because its Alcoholic blood is genetcly transfered and they are more at risk at being alcholics and they are stressed out nervous etc.

Or is it not from the blood genes more from the phsycological form factor that they live with them and learn there manners such as them seeing em drink and how they argue and etc.

Or is it both?

[PinkGrapes10]

As a child of two drug addicts, I would say that the theory of genetically transferred tendencies of becoming an alcoholic or addict is totally false. Anybody has the potential to become an alcoholic or addict. It is only due to the way they were raised, what they were exposed to as a child, etc.

[ExtremeRehab]

I was reading the stores,& my heart goes out to all of you. Just like the video states, there is a wonderful support organization for people affected by someone else's alcoholism (or drugs) it's called Alanon. It is amazing. Unconditional support, everyone knows what you're going through, because they are going through it too. Please go, it's time to take care of you. You are important.

[axlfoleyfanatic]

@ExtremeRehab Do you know any websites of forums I could go on. I am Australian and I am not really the type of person who can just be out there and just tell me story straight off ,but in time I would be able to.

[Mus1cGurl]

My mom was 21 and my dad was 28 when I was born. My parents abuse opiates, pot and occasionally other drugs but mostly opiates. I can't move out or work because I can't get Id and my parents don't care about that. I feel humiliated and alone coming home to parents who are high the majority of the time.

[axlfoleyfanatic]

@Mus1cGurl I feel for you! I am not in the same situation as you, I mean I understand more than you would think.But I'm not in the same situation,close.

axlfoleyfanatic.

[muledeer1976]

I was raised by loving alcoholic parents.

They loved me very much but didn't see how it was affecting the family. My Father died when I was 10 of alcholism and my Mother passed away two years ago. She had quit drinking but became an enabler to me.

I drank more then ever after she died. Got a DUI and lost my job.

I have quit drinking though. Been sober for several months now. No AA or anything. Just had to take control of the only person I can, Myself.

Can't say family or friends helped either.

[Dip3rz]

why do you cry about this and blame it on your parents? I was raised by my mother who started drinking daily when i was around 7.. I'm now 19 and i only drink at parties, cause i'm not making excuses but taking control..

[muledeer1976]

Don't see what you mean by me crying about anything.

But anyway. Good for you.

I was talking about taking control of myself.

[Dip3rz]

sorry bout my earlier comment, i was in a bad mood and lashed out. Sorry.

Nice lawn btw

[muledeer1976]

LOL Thanks.

It's all good!

[stagpeacebringer]

I'm sorry to hear this. My father has a problem with alcohol and my whole family is in denial that he has any sort of problem. It was unfair I felt for him to take his double-talk and passive aggressive language out on me. I have found my emotional center now so it doesn't matter anymore. He was once a genius, but he destroyed his brain on alcohol, and I have "usurped" him at his own pathetic game. It is really sad.

The emotions are too much for me to bare sometimes. Anger, mainly hate.

[LUVJONZ99]

bless you and hang in there, I know your pain......my parents drinking and the dysfunctional relationships STILL haunt me as a middle aged adult, I live in a small town and everyone crosses paths with everyone at one time or another...there were not alot of boundaries, hence I curtailed my life and social life also because of my parents drinking and even overlooked my life..I am angry and in therapy........

[briandee]

that's a really touching story, how does it end?

[yamahamoto250]

I was raised by alcoholics and let me tell you it is hell. I now drink everyday almost all day and I believe it was a lack of direction from parents and being totally bored everyday as a child because i couldnt go anywhere cause they wouldnt drive drunk. Its a horrible way to live but atleast im not going to ever have a child if i continue to drink everyday im not that stupid.

[fcukti69]

can some one help me cite this in MLA format??? thanks

[cubboy1997]

my dad's an alcoholic and so was my mom.they both quit doing drugs my mom quit drinking im pretty sure and my dad's going to AA meetings i'm glad my mom gave me to my grandmother.i'm a straight a student now.

[rosaryfilms]

cubboy1997, I am glad to hear that your family is doing better and congratulations on your good grades! Regards...

[bluemoon576]

WolfSyndrome... not always babies having babies in alcoholic homes. My parents were married 7 yrs when I was born (first child). My mom was 30 and my dad was 35. So you cannot generalize the problem. It's something that affects all social classes, races, nationality, ages, etc.

[susan987654]

Lots of life experience has made my views extreme. We, as a society, offer financial incentives for 16 year old drug addicts to get pregnant in order to get out of their parents houses and into subsidized housing. We give them monthly stipends which they use to buy drugs while the kids are neglected and scarred for life. Our misguided attempts to help merely perpetuate the problem. People should not be allowed to have kids until they're capable of raising them properly. We owe kids that.

[woodstyleah]

I'm sorry that you were discarded as a child, not that you have told us that. If you were not discarded as a child than you need to get off your high horse right now. Are you mad at the economy? I am. Or are you just angry that you can't afford pizza rolls anymore? I seriously picture you as fat and miserable and I'm sick of giving my money to the fat and miserable. I'd so rather give my money to babies.

[susan987654]

woodstyleah, it's not productive to attack people personally because they have a different opinion than you do. I had a reasonably good childhood, raised my own children without asking for anything, and am quite comfortable now even in this bad economy. However, I worked in social services for 30 years and have seen that the government gets very little in exchange for the millions it doles out to "needy" families except a bunch of messed up kids who start the cycle all over again.

[susan987654]

People should have to prove their ability to be good parents before they're allowed to have kids, then these issues would all be moot. They should have to prove there is no alcohol or drug abuse, no evidence of violence, meet minimum intelligence levels, and have stable jobs with enough money saved to support themselves and a child. We have laws for everything else, why not have laws that could make it possible for all children to have a healthy family environment.

[troopherxxiii]

You don't sound like you have too much experience in life. I understand your thinking but what your saying is nearly unrealistic. A lot of issues can happen after a child is born. The most important thing to teach any person young or old is to have compassion for others. In this way a child acheives in the spiritual realm which is really the most powerful one. As far as money, the most powerful people I know are the ones who were poor when they were a child.

[woodstyleah]

My child was born with Smith-Magenis Syndrome. I did NOT drink or do any drugs at all when I was pregnant with her. Her dad left when she was 2. I found myself self-medicating with alcohol to where it became a huge problem. I am sober now and still raising my child (8), but it is hard. To say that people should have to prove they are fit before they have children is absurd, and must come from someone who can't have kids or is extremely bitter.

[susan987654]

It would not be so difficult to cut down on the number of irresponsible / drug addicted people who become parents if we as a society stopped espousing the idea that everyone has the "right" to have a child regardless of whether or not they can be a good parent, and if we stopped throwing money at every high school drop out who becomes pregnant without ever checking to see how the money is being spent and without doing periodic drug screens.

[susan987654]

And how many drug addicts / alcoholics teach their children to have compassion for others? When children are raised by someone who's primary relationship is with a drug, they are neglected, ignored, abused, and learn early on to become just like the parents who raised them - indifferent to the feelings and needs of others,

[babigirl83]

How do you propose to "stop" one who is unfit from having kids?

[susan987654]

Same way you stop people from committing rape, window peeping, walking around naked and smoking pot..... We could require that all girls have an implanted contraceptive as soon as they're old enough to conceive, and they would be required to renew it when necessary until they can meet stated requirements such as testing negative for drugs, having attained a certain level of education, having worked for a specified amount of time, and having passed a psychological test.

[forestskog]

@susan987654 Go to Iran. They have a system that works along the lines you seem to like. Women are told never to drink and never to have sex before marriage. If they disobey, they are literally dragged out so a soccer field by the authorities, buried up to their waist, and then stoned to death a mob of hysterical screaming bearded mullahs. Thanks I still prefer the west. No implants for me or mine

[susan987654]

@forestskog What a silly comparison. Legally, a 16 year old girl is too young to consent to sex, but, if she's pregnant, she has full responsibility for the resulting unwanted child. So we don't even allow her to decide whether or not to have sex, but we DO allow her to make all the decisions for a helpless infant. We enforce strict standards on adoptions because we understand the importance of a stable home environment, so why is the idea of enforcing standards for parenthood so detestable?

[forestskog]

@susan987654 Detestable is a bit strong. But having governments laws (and presumably government officials) literally forcing women to have vaginal implants is a bit far from our constitution

[woodstyleah]

Seriously, how do you propose that we have laws for that? Having to meet minimum intelligence levels sounds very much Nazi like to me and pretty damn scary.  You sound like Hitler! You have to have money saved up to have a kid? Yeah because rich people never treat their children bad. It's like you are talking out your ass or something.

[susan987654]

Teachers have to meet certain intelligence and educational requirements in order to get a job, as do doctors, nurses, day care personnel. I can't think of a job more important than having 24/7 responsibility for another persons life - in other words, being a parent - so why shouldn't people have to prove they have some ability to do that job before they're allowed to have it?

[woodstyleah]

Right, you made sense with this post because I've never known of a doctor, nurse or daycare personal to do wrong, ever. You should read more. I can't think of another job more important than raising a kid either but at least I have common sense.

[susan987654]

@woodstyleah Why bother screening people who want to adopt? Sex offenders and drug addicts have the right to have kids ,too right? Do you call the local meth house when you need a babysitter? If not, why? If you wouldn't leave your kid with a drug addict for a few hours, how can you condemn someone else's kid to that environment for their entire life? We have a moral obligation to protect kids that outweighs any obligation to safeguard the "rights" of drug addicts, felons, alcoholics, etc...

[WolfSyndrome]

all these problems can be summed up with one phrase: babies raising babies

[bluemoon576]

I lived in an alcoholic home since I was born until my early 20's. My father hasn't had a drink in 10 yrs now, he's goes to AA meetings. I'm so thankful that he quit drinking. I never used drugs, never smoked or drunk. But I have serious psychological issues, especially now that I'm in my 30's. My dad and I have a healthy relationship nowadays but I still carry some bad issues from these awful times when my dad drank. Thanks for posting this video!

[rosaryfilms]

bluemoon576, I am very sorry to hear about your experiences (our family had similiar problems) -- but thank you for sharing them -- they will help others. Thank you for your comments -- we wish you well! Regards...

[babigirl83]

what kinds of psych. issues do u have if u dont mind me asking.. im doing some research right now on children of alcoholics right now

[CPAsheldon]

I was blessed to have grandparents and parents who warned of the dangers of alchohol and drugs throughout my growing years. Thanks for sharing this video about this organization that can help.

[rosaryfilms]

CPAsheldon, thank you very much for your comments!