Dare to Show Your Face - Carrie

[carriechapmanifyful]

Your Awesome Love you! Great Message We are all Human and come in all shapes and sizes and no matter what size we are we are all Human. Hey dont let those YouTube Haters Get you Down as a fellow fat pride women named Carrie they try to get me down too and to them I just laugh at their ignorance. i cant say it doesn't make me angry but i know that at least i made a stand to tell the world i am beautiful and fat!

[ikymdls]

Nice Video:)

TRUE



[Meluvkatz]

that video was made more than a year and a half ago, are you still fat? just wondering.

[carriepadian]

Yep, still fat, despite all the life that's happened to me in the past year and a half. To be fair, I am slightly less fat than I was when I made this video.

[incitatus167]

I just had another thought. I think we shouldn't comment or pass judgments on random strangers because we can't always correlate size and health. But, when the affective relationship is different - say, when my cousin is so overweight he breaks chairs and has severely impaired mobility - not doing anything would be neglectful. He *can't* take care of his own business, and it's severely impacting his health. Loving my cousin means doing something - *how* is another matter altogether.

[carriepadian]

Oooh...that's a slippery slope though. I totally agree that it's hard to see someone we love struggle with something about their body, but unless they are asking for our help, is it really our place to help them? If a person was having trouble with mobility because of, say, MS, would we still assume that the person somehow "needs" our help and "can't" take care of their own business? A person's struggles in life are their own. We can offer to help but ultimately it's their decision.

[incitatus167]

We need to move away from "size" and towards a more meaningful discussion of health. My whole family comprises big people, and wehave to watch what we eat and exercise ten times harder than regular people. Yes, we have feelings like everybody else, but we also die off and suffer from heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes more than other people. Yours is an important message on how to treat people, but I think we need to be mindful of our health too.

[carriepadian]

Well of course people should care about their own health, but my point is you don't have to be mindful of MY health, just like I don't have to be mindful of yours. We're all perfectly capable of taking care of our own business and discrimination and size prejudice and shaming aren't helping anyone to be more healthy.

[incitatus167]

I agree that shaming people into healthier lifestyles doesn't work, but I'm not so sure we should "mind our own business," so to speak. When obesity-related diseases cost US healthcare $147 billion, I think there are steps we can take to create more healthful environments (sidewalks, mandating PE and banning soda machines from schools etc.).

[carriepadian]

I am all for healthier environments!  They are a positive thing for people of all sizes, not just fat people.

And even doctors can't pinpoint whether obesity is causing those diseases or whether the diseases are causing or contributing to obesity, so trying to cure obesity which may just be a symptom, is the wrong way to go about it. I'm all for healthier environments for everybody

[tree1309]

this is an awesome video...I love how you start this video way you talk is great..

[pcharmes2]

I just wanted to take a second and say this is an awesome video. People like you, Kate Harding, Joy Nash, TheRotund, Paul from BFB... people like you, and like me, and all the other fat folk around the world are, as you said... just people. So yeah.. thanks for this video.

[xolovelisamarie]

god bless you!

[DiscoStu20886]

The truth is, people can be attractive no matter their size. Nobody deserves to feel unwanted or worthless because of their size or anything else. My girlfriend is 380 lbs and is very feminine and sweet and intelligent. I would suggest guys take a second look at BBW because many of them have hearts of gold and are so much more down to earth then fashion crazed weight obsessed types.

[DiscoStu20886]

Nice glasses! I like them on you. :-)

[belovedideas]

I LOVE this one! I totally quoted you and put this vid on my blog today :-) You're awesome!!

[carriepadian]

I think it's notable that this video has been up for five months and this is the first negative comment I've gotten.

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." - M. Gandhi

[BunnyzRAWR]

You really should grow up and stop being so shallow, mate.

[Tinkerbell115458]

Giant asshole. You're obviously are not fat so you don't know what's it like so stop judging.

[tyranniesaurus]

Are you able to look at your asshole in the mirror every morning?

[kalars88]

He's just a troll. I mean, look at his screen name: "JesusLicksMyNads"

I mean, how more obvious of a troll can you be!?

[AngelOfEverything]

Very nice : )

[mentom4evr]

fabulous

[anna24seven]

Yay, Carrie! :-)

[revaDD]

can I still make a video for this?

[carriepadian]

absolutely! Please do! :)

[krissy4nik]

Lovely :o)

[MaqiicTwinkies]

Hi Carrie!! I think you're absolutely wonderful and gorgeous hun :)

[jezzyen]

oh!! you don't need to change!! your personality makes you ... well you!! and you look great!!! you are awesome!! and what you say is very true!!!

[sevendayswonder]

I seriously come back to your videos all the time when I need a lift. Have I told you that people might be making videos at the NAAFA conference? How cool is that!

I really need to find a good way to edit my video.

[carriepadian]

I used Windows Movie Maker which is included (read: free) with Windows XP. I had to do a little experimenting but I eventually figured out how everything worked. I can't wait to see your video!

[sevendayswonder]

Ah, I have an older version of Windows, but the video wouldn't transfer to my computer anyway. I believe that's the program I tried at school...and get this, the sound card isn't compatible, so I couldn't hear anything I said...rendering editing useless. And because I am obsessive compulsive/perfectionist I have a really long tape with lots of takes. I think my solution is going to be to get the video camera, watch through the tape and mark down the sections I want to edit together. *sigh*

[carriepadian]

If you want you can use my laptop to edit when I get to chicago.

[sevendayswonder]

That would be fabulous, except I have it on tape, not in data form because I couldn't even get it to transfer to my computer. I'll bring the tape anyway, just in case I can figure something out.

[coquinat]

Hi Carrie! I think you are absolutely wonderfull!

[Sweetbug74]

You're awesome! Thanks for posting this. This message needs to be outspoken more often.

[DaveSquibbSr]

Very well said

[frostedjade]

Some days people get too wrapped in self image. Hehee you are awesome and definatly doing this you rock :)

[cmtomesch]

you are *awesome* -- thank you so much for saying what matters, and for saying it with such eloquence and sincerity.

[jurmu11]

Hey because you are fat is not a shame to you. You are good to be open about it. Finland is where I am from and fats don't bother us.

[jdobluvrs]

can i move to finland?? :P

[cutielovesme]

yup

[WoooiImAScaryGhost]

Carrie, you are lovely. Thanks from another girl who grew up fat and now LOVES the body she lives in (it's a fat body, of course).

[jdobluvrs]

u should talk to my classmates that go to my school!!!!

[snoopyandmyself]

you're really good at speaking, you should be a public speaker! what you said is so true, it's like 'fat people' are a different species, the group that is unhappy with themselves until they're slim, but that's just not true. fat is just a descriptive word. people shouldnt assume those bigger want to be thin! bigger people should be as happy with their size as skinny people are! (even moreso cause curves are attractive)

[RainstormAngel]

That was wonderful. Its people like you that make the world worth living in =)

[XKERBIS]

You are awesome!

If you really want to lose weight..go on the Biggest Loser Diet...but you are awesome!

[carriepadian]

LOL!  Yeah, the point is I'm not trying to lose weight. But thanks for the kudos anyway! :)

[jeani77]

Wonderful, Carrie! Thanks so much for being the first of us to do this and putting yourself out there. You are brave! And I loved your story.

[lngwstx]

Kudos to you for volunteering to go first.  We love you for it. :-D

[tinaxduzgen]

carrie

you are awesome

xtina

[gnosis1138]

Right on

Got my support

[nellicat]

BRAVA!! Brava, darling, you look beautiful. And strong and brave and thank you for doing this!

[paulmcaleer]

Of course this is excellent, Carrie!

[Akihikio]

Thank you for putting yourself out there. This video is amazing.

[JaneIncognito]

You're a hero, you know. Great video.

[FatButterfly78]

Thank you Carrie!!

You are a wonderful, couragous woman for doing this. Kudos to you!

And a big, adipositive shout-out to all my fellow fatties. Let's dare to show our faces...

[gnosis1138]

Oh yeah

Showing our faces via New Media and the best thing is that we are beginning to outnumber and acceptance is merely a matter of time

but it is our fight that we do now that brings glory to our cause

[odiek77]

I came here as a BFB lurker, and I have to say, bravo! This is a great idea, to actually add voices to the bodies the media chooses to parade to embellish their fake "obesity crisis" stories. I wish you, and any others involved, the best of luck. Please ignore cowardly trolls, they thrive on online attention, since real live people pay them no mind.

[joynash1]

AMEN Sister.

Thank you for doing this.