14 is the proper age and was considered adult until about a century ago. That's when parents and society started retarding children's emotional development so they would stay children longer.
That was so they wouldn't enter the labor market until later reducing the scab pool so unions could be stronger. It also gave authorities more time to indoctrinate them into obeying directions and completing assignments thus making them better workers and soldiers. Plus it allowed parents to delay recognizing their own aging by pretending their adult children weren't adult yet.
The terrible price of all that distortion is now we have a whole society of little children in adult bodies. They missed many of the maturation windows of opportunity so now they will be immature most of the rest of their lives.
That explains a lot of the simple minded decisions people make today.
The only thing I can say about waiting the good person to have sex with, it's that the 1st experience may be not so good, wich is sad if you love him...
On a side note in my opinion this video was really a kind of "holier than thou because I'm a virgin" attitude And it was kind of looking down on people who have sex in their adolescence and young adulthood. People who aren't "waiting for love". Well that's fine if that's your cup of tea but I think that there's no reason to take that "holier than thou" stance. Respect the choices of others.
And honest to god, sex is a big deal until you have sex and then you realize it's not a big deal.
I first had sex when I was 14 and I think that that may be a little early for some people but I had no problem with it. It was with my boyfriend at the time I went out by myself and got the pill, I talked to my parents about it even though they were unsupportive and called me a whore. I don't feel like I made a bad decision I thought about it a long time, it wasn't spur of the moment and now I'm 17 and I look back at it and I'm proud of myself.
Age isn't the best gauge of one's maturity I think
@hot6235 Oh that's not true though! Some of my friends parents were really supportive of them when they got to the age that they were having sex and I was so jealous! It was like "well I want that :( </3"
i guess that it is a strange thing in USA but for eksample in Denmark, where i am from it is legal to have sex at the age of 15, i cant see whats wrong with that as long as you are prepared, that you might get sickness and children, i think that if you think you are old enough to bump then be prepared for what comes with sex. but still 15 is the younges you can be to have sex, it disgusts me to think of 12 to 14 year olds having sex. (dont mind my bad spelling)
@MrNKP25 Thank you for your comment. We understand everything you said. It does seem to be a cultural belief that varies around the world. Don't worry about spelling, you have a great message.
i love your hair! i have a very similar hair color though my hair isn't long, it's just below my ears... as far as teen sex goes, i became sexually active when i was 13... at 14 i discovered my bisexual tendencies and remained sexually active throughout my life up until today where i find myself in a very deep loving relationship with my wife... you're right, sex and its baggage can be too heavy for some girls... i've seen the toll it can take... U gave solid advice... i admire U...
Wow the mixed responce! Make sure you watch part 2 before you get mad. It is our fault, they came in attached and we recommended seperating them. OOOPS.
Here is the deal though: The message is pretty simple if we break it down..
1. in her opinion (& she is entitled)
2. 13, 14 & 15 is young (especially for multiple partners)
3. there are risks (disease & pregnancy)
4. there are options (waiting)
5. respect yourself and decisions (that is a good thing)
11-13 or younger is too young to have sex. check the local laws in your state to see the exact age. between 14 and 16 should only have sex with someone very close in age to you, once again check your local laws. between 16 and 18 can have sex with someone of any age, once again depending on your local laws. remember that the exact age at which you should have sex is unique for each individual. remember to keep sex safe and use a condom, get tested for STD's and if you are a girl, use a BC pill.
It's the culture we live in. Sex is everywhere in our culture and kids just want be like they see. They don't understand what they're doing because they're young and think they have all the answers. And this is a great video, I don't know what the problem is of being "moralistic", you make good points. Sex is just around the corner, but it's about unity and intimacy, not just getting your rocks off. But whatever, what will be will be.
My own sister (thankfully I'm only half related...) went and had sex with this guy she barely knew, fully conscious about not having a condom and relied on the pull out method. She doesn't even know how lucky she was she didn't contract any disease or end up pregnant.
People in HIGH SCHOOL or MIDDLE SCHOOL should NOT be having sex. Knuckle down, hit the books, focus on education and stable friendships before having intercourse with someone. If you can't handle school or friends, you can't handle sex and children and the risks associated with sex. Bam. Ousted. There is no argument against this.
@allison2811 sex is also no big deal its mostly a pleasure thing (a trap to make us reproduce really...) If a girl is going to make such a big deal about it they probably aren't all that great nor mature.
Also to say "in one year you will be ready for sex" is damaging, because even if your in a committed relationship, you can't know when you will feel ready for sex... It leads people to think that there is something wrong with them if they haven't had sex yet. There is no definable time period for all people. Only You can know if you're ready.
@Yahweigh then those so called 'guys' need to be dropped. If sex is what makes a relationship these days, maybe there needs to be another goal for someone to work towards.
@Yahweigh this is true. lets face it, sex is one part of a relationship. but imagine i went to date you but i said that i refused to allow you to meet my friends or family until a year of us dating. you might think something was wrong with me. but sharing friends and family is one part of a relationship. cutting out important parts of a relationship and then expecting to be treated as well as someone who isn't doing that isn't exactly a realistic outlook on life.
I suppose my response to this is mainly informed by my belief that there is nothing necessarily wrong with being a slut and there is nothing necessarily wrong with having sex at a young age. The two together can be rather dangerous to say the least, though. I suppose I simply prefer to not assume it's necessarily harmful and instead judge on an individual basis when it comes to this topic.
But, that's not a feasible position for one to take so far as practical application, which is a big issue.
@VarmitCoyote i completely agree. there is no magical age which all people grow up and are ready for sex. some people mature faster or slower than others, and are ready for responsibility earlier or later than others. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying carefree sex with partners that you don't necessarily love. some of the best sex can only be had outside of a committed relationship. sometimes you just have to let go and have no worries in order to really enjoy it.
The point of many sentences coming to things such as "Oh my god" and, "ya know?" was annoying to me.
But, that unimportant critique aside, I disagree with a lot of what she says so far as the implications I can draw, such as that she thinks ( 0:50 ) love and sex should be connected.
Honestly, I tend to think that she and I would disagree on a lot of opinions we hold, but she and I certainly agree about the goal, which is harm reduction for young people who are still maturing in many ways.
I don't mean to be condescending but this video comes off pretty moralistic, while it is important to discuss what factors makes one ready for sex, and it is important to acknowledge age in respect to maturity as well as certain legal issues in some states. There are many important nuances in this discussion, but your implication that they should "wait for love" is not something all people are willing to do and expecting such and basing public policy on that is dangerous (cont)
@KrissyMcPatriarchy Its fine for you, within your personal life to decide that you are not ready for sex and want to wait to have sex with someone you love, but people have sex for many reasons, sometimes sex happens between a loving couple and it deepens the relationship, sometimes the circumstances are very different than that. I think it would be more productive to discuss how teens can avoid things like pregnancy, STIs and the damage that comes with slut shaming (cont)
@KrissyMcPatriarchy (cont) women, especially young women have a narrow box which their sexuality is supposed to fit into, if you don't have sex you're considered a prude, but if you do have sex, even with one person and then you break up, you're labeled a slut, instead of propagating these stereotypes by talking about moral decline we should be talking about how to make responsible sexual decisions and how to avoid being manipulated into sex that you are not emotionally ready for.
Funny... As much as I share her view point on those young teens needed to perhaps wait a little longer, I cant help but point out the idiocy of someone who has never had sex giving advice on the subject...
@sexualfuturist i think this would be more akin to someone who did have an std giving advise on safe sex. the person who doesn't have one doesn't know the impact and meaning of it all. much like a virgin does not know the impact and meaning of sex.
@greycloud24 Well, since the main theme of her video is advice to not have sex, she may just be the right person then. There are several guest vloggers here that discuss having sex, sex, many sexual partners... It is ok for someone talking to very young girls (middle school) to recommend they put some thought into what could be a life changing decision. It is also ok to respectfully disagree with her. We are just glad we don't need to get herpes to talk about safe sex & risk factors. Whew!
It's a tricky issue as arguments can be made both ways. A lot of European (especially in the Nordic region) countries have the age of consent at 14 or 15. They also have the lowest rates of STD's and teen pregnancies. On the other hand, no teen should be pressured into having sex and a lower age of consent can lead to that. I think the key is to take morals and religion out of the classrooms. Teach pure fact in sex ed classes. Fact can be more sobering than preaching at times!
I really agree that 14 and 15 is a little too young to have sex. Although during that age all the right hormones kick in, a person is still not fully emotionally mature. As you said, it also causes plenty unpleasant side-effects such as STDs and pregnancy and it's almost impossible to control what other people do. If you want to be responsible be responsible with what you do with your body. I love your philosophy of self-respect, wait for love, caring, respect, relationship. I am the same way.XX
I certianly do agree with the idea of waiting for a good long while when you are a kid to have sex. but this idea that society and or those girls are not moral is something I have issues with especialy with girls hitting puberty at younger and younger ages due to an odd case of human evolution. yes there should be safe sex involved if any sex is to be had but to look down on one for exploring themselves or others isn't the best message I think.
Sex is not bad, but it can be dangerous. Instead of perpetuating the backwards American notion that it is bad, why don't you encourage kids to make it safer?
What's wrong with a couple of sexually mature 14- or 15-year-olds engaging in consentual sex? If they're safe? What's the big deal? Safety should be the issue.
@ThirdRAILKink Did Tianna say it was bad? Most people would opine that sex with multiple partners at 14 and acquiring diseases that won’t go away is not a great thing. Agreed that consensual and safe sex is the best choice if one decides that they are going to be sexually active, at any age. However, teen pregnancy, disease, drama, in middle school is something worth talking about choices.
She basically said casual sex was immoral. She said the reason so many younger girls were having more sex was becuase of a "lack of morals". That implies that casual or early sex is immoral and bad.
@sexualfuturist i wish we could simply make a reasonable effort to normalize a simple but effective way to combat sti's. what if it was very easy to get checked for std's AND what if it was a normal part of early dating to check each others recent std screen results? at least they would know what they were walking in too. also access to condoms and other contraceptives along with awareness of std's and their symptoms should be made more common knowledge.
@greycloud24 Agree, Agree, Agree! Meaningful sex education and awareness could save a lot of heart ache and lives. Contraceptives and condoms need to be available like water out of a fountain. The biggest problem facing the US is the notion that: information = permission.
vaccination = permission.
education = permission.
contraception = permission.
All myths.
Good parenting along with meaningful education would go a long way.
You sound like a prudish Christian in this video, bemoaning a lack of "good morals" and conflating casual sex with a lack of self-respect and bad morals. Wait for love? How about instead of discouraging sex, you encourage SAFE sex? That's the problem, kids take risks and behave recklessly and don't have sex safely. Teenagers have always been horny and have always fucked eachother when they had the oppurtunity. The problem isn't a lack of morals, it's lack of birth control and good sense.
@ThirdRAILKink To each their own. This is Tianna's advice from her own experience. She touched on the risks, STD's and pregnancy. Stay tuned for the second part of this video for follow up advice. If we settled for the sex ed model given in schools: disease, do it and die, abstinence, and rubber on a banana by a teacher giving advice that may or may not be taken, we would be missing the point. P2P advice about sex and relationships and heart breaks is often more helpful.
Why is this video so focused on girls? Boys shouldn't be doing it either. Where I'm from I've honestly never heard of anyone having sex under the age of 17. It doesn't have to do with being a girl or boy its about controlling yourself. And you act like it's so wrong for girls to do things but not boys. Both genders are equal. Girls want sex just as much everyone always blames the boys but girls are just as bad. I'm bothered by this whole video.
@iamnumbatwo I think Tianna is give Peer 2 Peer advice. Since she is also female, it is the group she is talking directly to as peers. She also did not give advice to transgenders, asexuals, or monkeys. Sorry it bothers you that this video dies not cover the full spectrum of human sexuality and gender. Stay tuned, if we find a young man that would like to speak to the male audience, we are happy to post it. Would love to hear more about the lack of teen sex in your area, that is cool
Just to introduce myself, I'm from Sweden, and our society teach us to be tolerant and accept peoples different sexuality, opinions and way of life.
I don't judge people based on when they have sex or who they have it with. Why do you?
Do you have any grudge against something or someone that made you say this?
Maybe I just misunderstood you. I would be happy if you would care to explain.
By the way, Your hair looks great (how did you do that)!
Have a nice day! :)
Love from Sweden <3
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14 is the proper age and was considered adult until about a century ago. That's when parents and society started retarding children's emotional development so they would stay children longer.
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That was so they wouldn't enter the labor market until later reducing the scab pool so unions could be stronger. It also gave authorities more time to indoctrinate them into obeying directions and completing assignments thus making them better workers and soldiers. Plus it allowed parents to delay recognizing their own aging by pretending their adult children weren't adult yet.
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The terrible price of all that distortion is now we have a whole society of little children in adult bodies. They missed many of the maturation windows of opportunity so now they will be immature most of the rest of their lives.
That explains a lot of the simple minded decisions people make today.
glopz1 3 weeks ago
Sorry to derail this conversation. But Blue blue hair dye done right, is damn sexy.
Cerecyte1221 3 weeks ago
Meh, all the carebears who say sex is "bad" can definitely gtfo. It's part of our being after all...
Let them do what they wish.
Blasthood 1 month ago
I wish sex wasn't seen as a bad thing, we're all human and we all have sexual needs.
hot6235 1 month ago
The only thing I can say about waiting the good person to have sex with, it's that the 1st experience may be not so good, wich is sad if you love him...
However I respect your choice.
Acrimonator 1 month ago
@Acrimonator I forgot, you've got wonderful eyes...
Acrimonator 1 month ago
Lack of morals is that 14/15 year olds are getting more action then me.
rickyr123190 3 months ago
well i just saw a 15 year girl on virgin diaries who had sex with about 300 guys.
sahil47 3 months ago 4
@sahil47 Ouch! That cannot be good.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
On a side note in my opinion this video was really a kind of "holier than thou because I'm a virgin" attitude And it was kind of looking down on people who have sex in their adolescence and young adulthood. People who aren't "waiting for love". Well that's fine if that's your cup of tea but I think that there's no reason to take that "holier than thou" stance. Respect the choices of others.
And honest to god, sex is a big deal until you have sex and then you realize it's not a big deal.
TanaCooker 3 months ago 2
I first had sex when I was 14 and I think that that may be a little early for some people but I had no problem with it. It was with my boyfriend at the time I went out by myself and got the pill, I talked to my parents about it even though they were unsupportive and called me a whore. I don't feel like I made a bad decision I thought about it a long time, it wasn't spur of the moment and now I'm 17 and I look back at it and I'm proud of myself.
Age isn't the best gauge of one's maturity I think
TanaCooker 3 months ago
@TanaCooker you should NEVER tell your parents that your having sex or even thinking about having sex, they will never help in any way.
hot6235 1 month ago
@hot6235 Oh that's not true though! Some of my friends parents were really supportive of them when they got to the age that they were having sex and I was so jealous! It was like "well I want that :( </3"
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TanaCooker 3 months ago
i guess that it is a strange thing in USA but for eksample in Denmark, where i am from it is legal to have sex at the age of 15, i cant see whats wrong with that as long as you are prepared, that you might get sickness and children, i think that if you think you are old enough to bump then be prepared for what comes with sex. but still 15 is the younges you can be to have sex, it disgusts me to think of 12 to 14 year olds having sex. (dont mind my bad spelling)
MrNKP25 3 months ago
@MrNKP25 Thank you for your comment. We understand everything you said. It does seem to be a cultural belief that varies around the world. Don't worry about spelling, you have a great message.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
The best contraceptive in the world is a good education.
~ Dr. Joycelyn Elders
sexualfuturist 3 months ago 2
i love your hair! i have a very similar hair color though my hair isn't long, it's just below my ears... as far as teen sex goes, i became sexually active when i was 13... at 14 i discovered my bisexual tendencies and remained sexually active throughout my life up until today where i find myself in a very deep loving relationship with my wife... you're right, sex and its baggage can be too heavy for some girls... i've seen the toll it can take... U gave solid advice... i admire U...
Kensho
IChoseTheRedPill 3 months ago
Wow the mixed responce! Make sure you watch part 2 before you get mad. It is our fault, they came in attached and we recommended seperating them. OOOPS.
Here is the deal though: The message is pretty simple if we break it down..
1. in her opinion (& she is entitled)
2. 13, 14 & 15 is young (especially for multiple partners)
3. there are risks (disease & pregnancy)
4. there are options (waiting)
5. respect yourself and decisions (that is a good thing)
Thanks for respectful comments!
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
11-13 or younger is too young to have sex. check the local laws in your state to see the exact age. between 14 and 16 should only have sex with someone very close in age to you, once again check your local laws. between 16 and 18 can have sex with someone of any age, once again depending on your local laws. remember that the exact age at which you should have sex is unique for each individual. remember to keep sex safe and use a condom, get tested for STD's and if you are a girl, use a BC pill.
greycloud24 3 months ago
It's the culture we live in. Sex is everywhere in our culture and kids just want be like they see. They don't understand what they're doing because they're young and think they have all the answers. And this is a great video, I don't know what the problem is of being "moralistic", you make good points. Sex is just around the corner, but it's about unity and intimacy, not just getting your rocks off. But whatever, what will be will be.
ugoodHomeBoy 3 months ago
My own sister (thankfully I'm only half related...) went and had sex with this guy she barely knew, fully conscious about not having a condom and relied on the pull out method. She doesn't even know how lucky she was she didn't contract any disease or end up pregnant.
SheWantsLight 3 months ago
People in HIGH SCHOOL or MIDDLE SCHOOL should NOT be having sex. Knuckle down, hit the books, focus on education and stable friendships before having intercourse with someone. If you can't handle school or friends, you can't handle sex and children and the risks associated with sex. Bam. Ousted. There is no argument against this.
SheWantsLight 3 months ago
@allison2811 Allison, make sure you see part 2. It kind of wraps things up.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
@sexualfuturist Thank you!
allison2811 3 months ago
@allison2811 sex is also no big deal its mostly a pleasure thing (a trap to make us reproduce really...) If a girl is going to make such a big deal about it they probably aren't all that great nor mature.
restlesspride666 3 months ago
pretty...blue...hair. (girls are mostly sluts now adays. Also neurotic, if you reject them they want you?)
restlesspride666 3 months ago
@allison2811
Also to say "in one year you will be ready for sex" is damaging, because even if your in a committed relationship, you can't know when you will feel ready for sex... It leads people to think that there is something wrong with them if they haven't had sex yet. There is no definable time period for all people. Only You can know if you're ready.
allison2811 3 months ago
hi i live your videos
LeifAlexander87 3 months ago
i respect your opinion but nerely all guys will not wait a year at all... not when other girls will offer it on a plate : /
Yahweigh 3 months ago 4
@Yahweigh then those so called 'guys' need to be dropped. If sex is what makes a relationship these days, maybe there needs to be another goal for someone to work towards.
SheWantsLight 3 months ago
@Yahweigh this is true. lets face it, sex is one part of a relationship. but imagine i went to date you but i said that i refused to allow you to meet my friends or family until a year of us dating. you might think something was wrong with me. but sharing friends and family is one part of a relationship. cutting out important parts of a relationship and then expecting to be treated as well as someone who isn't doing that isn't exactly a realistic outlook on life.
greycloud24 3 months ago
You are one beautiful girl.
kijkenify 3 months ago 2
It's funny, 15 is the legal age to have sex in our republic.. Europe ftw. :D But seriously, don't be stupid, use condoms and such...
cyclopwarriorgunman 3 months ago
I suppose my response to this is mainly informed by my belief that there is nothing necessarily wrong with being a slut and there is nothing necessarily wrong with having sex at a young age. The two together can be rather dangerous to say the least, though. I suppose I simply prefer to not assume it's necessarily harmful and instead judge on an individual basis when it comes to this topic.
But, that's not a feasible position for one to take so far as practical application, which is a big issue.
VarmitCoyote 3 months ago
@VarmitCoyote i completely agree. there is no magical age which all people grow up and are ready for sex. some people mature faster or slower than others, and are ready for responsibility earlier or later than others. and there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying carefree sex with partners that you don't necessarily love. some of the best sex can only be had outside of a committed relationship. sometimes you just have to let go and have no worries in order to really enjoy it.
greycloud24 3 months ago
The point of many sentences coming to things such as "Oh my god" and, "ya know?" was annoying to me.
But, that unimportant critique aside, I disagree with a lot of what she says so far as the implications I can draw, such as that she thinks ( 0:50 ) love and sex should be connected.
Honestly, I tend to think that she and I would disagree on a lot of opinions we hold, but she and I certainly agree about the goal, which is harm reduction for young people who are still maturing in many ways.
VarmitCoyote 3 months ago
I don't mean to be condescending but this video comes off pretty moralistic, while it is important to discuss what factors makes one ready for sex, and it is important to acknowledge age in respect to maturity as well as certain legal issues in some states. There are many important nuances in this discussion, but your implication that they should "wait for love" is not something all people are willing to do and expecting such and basing public policy on that is dangerous (cont)
KrissyMcPatriarchy 3 months ago 4
@KrissyMcPatriarchy Its fine for you, within your personal life to decide that you are not ready for sex and want to wait to have sex with someone you love, but people have sex for many reasons, sometimes sex happens between a loving couple and it deepens the relationship, sometimes the circumstances are very different than that. I think it would be more productive to discuss how teens can avoid things like pregnancy, STIs and the damage that comes with slut shaming (cont)
KrissyMcPatriarchy 3 months ago 3
@KrissyMcPatriarchy (cont) women, especially young women have a narrow box which their sexuality is supposed to fit into, if you don't have sex you're considered a prude, but if you do have sex, even with one person and then you break up, you're labeled a slut, instead of propagating these stereotypes by talking about moral decline we should be talking about how to make responsible sexual decisions and how to avoid being manipulated into sex that you are not emotionally ready for.
KrissyMcPatriarchy 3 months ago 4
@KrissyMcPatriarchy i couldn't have said it better myself. i completely agree with you.
greycloud24 3 months ago
Funny... As much as I share her view point on those young teens needed to perhaps wait a little longer, I cant help but point out the idiocy of someone who has never had sex giving advice on the subject...
TheRabid0ne 3 months ago
@TheRabid0ne So would that be the same as someone who has never had an STD giving advice on safe sex?
sexualfuturist 3 months ago 5
@sexualfuturist i think this would be more akin to someone who did have an std giving advise on safe sex. the person who doesn't have one doesn't know the impact and meaning of it all. much like a virgin does not know the impact and meaning of sex.
greycloud24 3 months ago
@greycloud24 Well, since the main theme of her video is advice to not have sex, she may just be the right person then. There are several guest vloggers here that discuss having sex, sex, many sexual partners... It is ok for someone talking to very young girls (middle school) to recommend they put some thought into what could be a life changing decision. It is also ok to respectfully disagree with her. We are just glad we don't need to get herpes to talk about safe sex & risk factors. Whew!
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
It's a tricky issue as arguments can be made both ways. A lot of European (especially in the Nordic region) countries have the age of consent at 14 or 15. They also have the lowest rates of STD's and teen pregnancies. On the other hand, no teen should be pressured into having sex and a lower age of consent can lead to that. I think the key is to take morals and religion out of the classrooms. Teach pure fact in sex ed classes. Fact can be more sobering than preaching at times!
jobsta 3 months ago
I really agree that 14 and 15 is a little too young to have sex. Although during that age all the right hormones kick in, a person is still not fully emotionally mature. As you said, it also causes plenty unpleasant side-effects such as STDs and pregnancy and it's almost impossible to control what other people do. If you want to be responsible be responsible with what you do with your body. I love your philosophy of self-respect, wait for love, caring, respect, relationship. I am the same way.XX
jaduwitch 3 months ago
I certianly do agree with the idea of waiting for a good long while when you are a kid to have sex. but this idea that society and or those girls are not moral is something I have issues with especialy with girls hitting puberty at younger and younger ages due to an odd case of human evolution. yes there should be safe sex involved if any sex is to be had but to look down on one for exploring themselves or others isn't the best message I think.
TheBadcop69 3 months ago 2
Sex is not bad, but it can be dangerous. Instead of perpetuating the backwards American notion that it is bad, why don't you encourage kids to make it safer?
What's wrong with a couple of sexually mature 14- or 15-year-olds engaging in consentual sex? If they're safe? What's the big deal? Safety should be the issue.
ThirdRAILKink 3 months ago
@ThirdRAILKink Did Tianna say it was bad? Most people would opine that sex with multiple partners at 14 and acquiring diseases that won’t go away is not a great thing. Agreed that consensual and safe sex is the best choice if one decides that they are going to be sexually active, at any age. However, teen pregnancy, disease, drama, in middle school is something worth talking about choices.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
@sexualfuturist
She basically said casual sex was immoral. She said the reason so many younger girls were having more sex was becuase of a "lack of morals". That implies that casual or early sex is immoral and bad.
ThirdRAILKink 3 months ago
@sexualfuturist i wish we could simply make a reasonable effort to normalize a simple but effective way to combat sti's. what if it was very easy to get checked for std's AND what if it was a normal part of early dating to check each others recent std screen results? at least they would know what they were walking in too. also access to condoms and other contraceptives along with awareness of std's and their symptoms should be made more common knowledge.
greycloud24 3 months ago
@greycloud24 Agree, Agree, Agree! Meaningful sex education and awareness could save a lot of heart ache and lives. Contraceptives and condoms need to be available like water out of a fountain. The biggest problem facing the US is the notion that: information = permission.
vaccination = permission.
education = permission.
contraception = permission.
All myths.
Good parenting along with meaningful education would go a long way.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
babys having babys....How sad :(
HunterZeroModding 3 months ago 2
You sound like a prudish Christian in this video, bemoaning a lack of "good morals" and conflating casual sex with a lack of self-respect and bad morals. Wait for love? How about instead of discouraging sex, you encourage SAFE sex? That's the problem, kids take risks and behave recklessly and don't have sex safely. Teenagers have always been horny and have always fucked eachother when they had the oppurtunity. The problem isn't a lack of morals, it's lack of birth control and good sense.
ThirdRAILKink 3 months ago
@ThirdRAILKink To each their own. This is Tianna's advice from her own experience. She touched on the risks, STD's and pregnancy. Stay tuned for the second part of this video for follow up advice. If we settled for the sex ed model given in schools: disease, do it and die, abstinence, and rubber on a banana by a teacher giving advice that may or may not be taken, we would be missing the point. P2P advice about sex and relationships and heart breaks is often more helpful.
sexualfuturist 3 months ago
Why is this video so focused on girls? Boys shouldn't be doing it either. Where I'm from I've honestly never heard of anyone having sex under the age of 17. It doesn't have to do with being a girl or boy its about controlling yourself. And you act like it's so wrong for girls to do things but not boys. Both genders are equal. Girls want sex just as much everyone always blames the boys but girls are just as bad. I'm bothered by this whole video.
iamnumbatwo 3 months ago
@iamnumbatwo I think Tianna is give Peer 2 Peer advice. Since she is also female, it is the group she is talking directly to as peers. She also did not give advice to transgenders, asexuals, or monkeys. Sorry it bothers you that this video dies not cover the full spectrum of human sexuality and gender. Stay tuned, if we find a young man that would like to speak to the male audience, we are happy to post it. Would love to hear more about the lack of teen sex in your area, that is cool
sexualfuturist 3 months ago