How To Approach Women

[Myshele23]

as a girl i can tell u i agree with all of this. Just be human, not a douchebag cool guy!!!

[divine0enigma]

After watching this video, I realize that its the complete opposite of what Mystery and Style teach... stuff they both strictly tell you not to do. Conveying interest is definitely not the way to pick up quality women.

[montecore18]

I tried this today,

I accidently gave the girl a static electric shock when I shook her hand.

[divine0enigma]

@montecore18 Hopefully you didn't act embarrassed by it.

[Ihatemyusernamemore]

If I were a girl and he plled that holding his hand out shit I would be like "OH thanks" and hang my handbag or something on it.

[Ihatemyusernamemore]

the whole holding your hand out thing.... what the fuck

[RobiPoland]

Hi I'm Dan :D

[AntiKillerNY]

oh wow, a normal way of meeting women and people!

This will never work :P

j/k

[jdjc79]

I was wondering if I should say 'Hi I'm Dan', even though my name isn't Dan? Should I use my actual name instead? I guess Dan is easy to say.

[mrfuddz]

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[TheFlex21]

I just say "hey how are you"

[kdlehel]

its complicated.

[spoonman73]

6:05 haha classic!

[talon115]

If she's already giving IOI's you can face her and intro yourself. But, if she isn't giving IOI's, you will need a more indirect approach.

[CocoCruise]

Kino-vacuum is a good tool. THanks.

[Socialhitchhiker]

Lol what did you do miss her hand and grab her boob? Don't be ridiculous. No one would slap you for introducing yourself.

[whykatera81]

i tried this and got slapped. thanks alot dan!!

[Zindiya]

Thanks for this Dan, I got a lot of out this! (you should come do a bootcap in Vancouver :D )

[hackysackholder]

hello dan

[bxnyfordham]

dan i enjoyed this thank you

[sam5757]

Thanks Dan! You're non-verbal teachings are key, good job :)

[jimbang]

juggler method is more natural.i like the vibing part.have met some charisma arts instructor and they are awesome at what they do.

[vv41zx]

Thanks for the tip!

[jenniferspitz33]

Dan you got it right!...what works with us girls is smartness! I got this program for my cell from bluepont it plays music when a guy who's looking is near. Then we send texts and if it does not weird me out I meet them right then and there. It's pretty smooth, takes the awkwardness out

[WheresMyMoneyz]

hahahaha 6:05

listen to dan tho he knows what he is talkin about lol

[Gameexpert55]

hi im dan

[luisteamoc]

6:05 hahaha ...

yeah, but this guy is right.

[superam23]

who's dan? haha

[neumdizzle]

i guarantee this guy gets some major poon tang

[dctrex]

Great stuff, Dan!

[Mobile3999]

You're the best man!

[gansvv]

culturally American personal space... intrsting

[mjkl]

hi im dan hi im dan hi im dan hi im dan

STOP I SWEAR HE SAID HI IM DAN LIKE 100 TIMES

[zalma17]

xDDD x2

[snoopyloopy]

at least

[1994elres]

im going say hi im dan even though im alex LOL

[Gameexpert55]

hahahhaahaha hi im dan. imma do that too

[NEWBOYINTHABLOCK]

HI ..I wanna do u??? o really...yes..

[bayan93]

so when i walk up to the girl i say "Hi I'm Dan?" ahah lol jk. good tips bro keep it up

[jakelujan]

good stuff

[Kaukau69allthetime]

Sorry bro', but the nice goody-goody guy routine is like doing a xtra-super-long induction into a hypnotic-trance, which normally should be 1/8th to 1/4 of that time.

Such as an instant induction, POW! There's rapport, POW! initialize suggestions, POW! phone number/email....or home with me....

[samuel315]

yup.

[123subcooled]

You are so sweet bro, love ur last few min video when u say that dont take back ur hand and face u made.

[CypheredSoul]

sounds good so far...but what do you do after you say your name? lol

[robbydamusicman]

lmfao.. SO TRUE

[RuNRi0TUK]

Hail the Ale!

[danny1144]

4:39 on the girls arm

[CobyBabz]

KISS - Keep It Simple.. ;)

[fireinyoursoul]

you should lean forward till there interested in you then lean back a little

[chrizz123456]

very good video. Vibe is really important, if not the most important thing when talking to people.

[AbstractMan23]

really well produced video. one of the best PU vids on youtube. thanks!

[Bobzeaux]

I've heard a lot of people saying that revealing vulnerability is self-destructive.

[bdance23]

Completely wrong buddy. Revealing vulnerability in body language is good because is shows you are not a defensive, shy, and nervous person, but an open person. Also, if you are in a vulnerable position, you show that you are strong and you don't need to be in a defensive position to "defend yourself".

[Bobzeaux]

You can show that you're not defensive, shy, or nervous without revealing vulnerability.

How do you be strong and vulnerable at the same time? Does one not cancel the other out anymore?

[bdance23]

Think of this this way, in life, people are sometimes attacked by other people. If you show that you are defensive, not only does it show that you are insecure in your ability to defend yourself(because you have to "hold" yourself in a defensive position or else you can't defend yourself)but also that a closed body is like anything closed, it is not welcoming to others.

[Bobzeaux]

Some people are attacked by other people... What does that have anything to do with approaching women? If someone makes some sort of attack on you, you're going to make SOME sort of counter-attack, be it verbal, physical, or whatever. That's not insecurity, just human nature. If someone tries to punch you in the face, are you not going to try to either dodge or block it?

[bdance23]

If you are in an open position, you are secure in yourself, and welcoming to others. Try it, it works. I get this information from the PUA community.

[Bobzeaux]

I'm IN an open position. It doesn't make women want to come to me any more than if I weren't.

[bdance23]

Clearly your just here to argue. If your in an open position it simply implies that your friendly and social. It doesn't mean the moment women see you they have an orgasm. But hey, if I were you, I would stay in a closed position, I don't think your worthy of a female companion with your talk. Have a nice life dipshit.

[Bobzeaux]

It's okay to admit that you don't know what you're talking about. Can I help it if every piece of dating advice I come across is heavily flawed when any sort of logic is applied to it?

Resorting to name-calling isn't exactly the best point one could flaunt.

[Egregius]

Although bdance23's last comment was completely uncalled for, he is basically right. Closed posture conveys defensiveness and a closed attitude. It suggests to others that you get attacked a lot, you feel the need to defend yourself from attacks (physical or verbal), or that you're not sure of your ability to defend yourself otherwise. All unattractive traits. By using your shoulder or arms as a barrier, you're also creating psychological distance to people. It's all evolutionary biology really.

[Bobzeaux]

Sounds reasonable enough, except it has nothing to do with me.  I AM in an open position, but it seems like nobody cares.

[Egregius]

Well if you got open posture right, it's time for the rest of course :)

Check if your voice is loud enough (check out 'vocal projection'), and wether you're getting a commitment from the other (for example by doing a 'vacuum' as they call it at Charisma Arts).

[Bobzeaux]

Loud or quiet, people like paying attention to me until I want to date them. :S

Do I dare ask what a "vacuum" is?

[Egregius]

Well I can't be sure what is going on just from 500 character youtube comments of course, and I'm not an expert myself. But if I'd have to guess, I'd ask whether the date-request flowed naturally from the conversation? Did she display personality which you appreciated (verbally or non-verbally), which made you ask her out, or did she think it was based on her looks only? IOW: did you appreciate her for her, or did you ask her because you wanted something from her? AKA displaying needyness.

[Bobzeaux]

I can never be sure what's going on inside of her head, but I DO make sure that any such dating requests arise out of casual conversation. I try to get a taste of who the person is before going that far and to see if I do indeed want to ask her out. I don't even know what neediness is anymore since, apparently, even wanting her for HER is considered needy these days... :(

[vseae15o]

nice

[Sepero1]

In venusian arts, the reason over the shoulder works is because you're NOT trying to introduce yourself. It's indirect game VS. direct game. Neither is better, just different.

[bigtime9209]

sick video dude, awesome.

[clarkent69]

Calibration, my friends. When too lean back and when to lean in...not "do this all the time..." or "Do that all the time..."

[xbookx]

Awesome. I used to lean back, it's comfortable for me, but not for the conversation and the connection between people. Thanks.

[mindlessmonkeys]

Brilliant video, by the way. It's as close as viewers will get to actually taking this portion of your boot camp.

Sam

[mindlessmonkeys]

Holy shit Dan, I have that exact same shirt. Le Chateau!

[Heyjose25points]

nice!