I pray that some day you two would just for one day step out of the "AIDS" box and think for yourselves. i have watched your videos but this must have passed right by me. The contradictions in this video make it almost 3 dimensional, popping off the screen and you advocate Justin B Smiths totalitarian toxic death pill advocacy propaganda. Gays killing Gays now that's a concept!
@HIVVideos I am sorry if I offended you...to be a 100% percent honest we are not the most educated people when it comes to AIDS...So I would like to hear more on your opinions.
@depfox I don't mean to sound so brusque either, I do apologize for that. If there is anything you want to know just send me an email here or on yahoo. My channel is devoted to helping people who have been told that they are "HIV positive" or have an "American" "AIDS diagnosis". There is a witch hunt of the denialist inqusition all over the internet however this witch hunt has cause more people to question what they think they know about HIV and AIDS.
@HIVVideos I will admit that I had no idea that this was even up fpr debate...I watched your video on HIV and I will admit that a lot of what I watched was new to me.
@HIVVideos Another fact I would invite you to recognize is the WHO estimate you have in your video clip. 34 million. This figure is grossly exaggerated by UNAIDS and WHO which the 2 have a serious conflict about Estimates and Ratios. up until 2007 the figure was ALWAYS 40 million world wide google "UN steeply lowers AIDS estimates" by 16%. So AIDS increased by 7 million that year? did you catch that? Perhaps you guys, grab some popcorn and watchh the "House of Numbers Excerpt" here on youtube.
i am a gam man who is not hiv+ but i have 2 feelings about it! 1, i think it is too bad our friends and loved ones have to suffer from this but 2, i think in 2010 there should be no more aids, because of what we know today and if we all PROTECTED ourselfs than we could kill this instead of it killing us. think about hat if no one ever got hiv gain then it would soon die itself ! there is no reason to contract hiv in 2010 and yet we all still suffer from even the thought of it ! god bless !
i feel badly for kids that get this shit but as for adults, fuck em! GRIDS...gay man related immuno deficiency syndrome. hey queers keep the dick out of your mouth and your assholes and you will reduce your risks to ALMOST NOTHING!
@darrel1980 you are an idiot - first of all they are telling their kids to EDUCATE them. Second, you agree with joroma77's bigoted comment, however HETEROSEXUAL people contract HIV too you know
you can get it from blood transfusion or even child-birth in a non-sterile high prevalent area, such as a post-conflict country...in my country many woman get it from their husbands who come back after working abroad.
Guess why normal people don't teach their small children about AIDS? Because they're not in the risk group! I suppose you guys assume "your son" will be in that risk group... Like yourselves. Your videos are disgusting.
The hardest part about this is that the only response I've come up with is silence--the last thing we need.
This year I heard someone got tested for HIV on World AIDS Day.
Hopefully before the next World AIDS Day, at least one person with AIDS will resolve a problem with someone he or she loves. What we cannot yet cure, we must endure.
i felt so happy when i found your videos, i felt so inspired just to see you two together becose for me its really hard to be gay, my family doesn`t know and i know that they may hate me if i tell them the truth T.T but anyway, your videos are really supportive for me. Thanks
radilith ~ I found your message so touching, & have decided to send you something absolutely awesome to read. It's the TRUTH about homosexuality by my Heavenly mentor, Matthew Ward, & something that I so wish that the whole world could read & know about. I hope that it inspires you & makes you realize that being gay is nothing to ever feel embarrassed about ~ don't let others small minds affect yours nor your precious, loving & compassionate heart, ever!
Thank you for this post, it's great to see people educating there children at a young age, they are our future and can make a big impact in the years to come! It's a horrible disease and everyone should help in the potential of finding a cure! Great job guys!!
@Seanster0069, the song is one that I wrote called "Prayer". The video itself is on my channel, and when I get a chance I'll write out the lyrics in the description on the video.
Hmm Dean gross is very open about his status and my brother doesnt talk to me because we have issues around my mother. But from what I can tell everyone knows that he is HIV positive its not a secreat. Please help educate me on why its a bad idea to talk about it.
i can help w/that question Jay, bcuz, although HIV status is federally protected, people can still lose jobs, housing, pensions, health insurance, and many, many other things that may or may not require disclosure of such an illness, especially with the way health insurance reform is going, people right now are NOT protected from pre-existing conditions, HIV disclosure should always be left to the person carrying the disease and be left strictly confidential. discrimination lives unfortunately.
Hmm I think its sad that we live in a world where people need to be scared about a health issue that effects their life. I guess I live in a bubble here in CA. AIDS is one of those things we really do treat as a disease with not a lot of stigma. Even where I work I come across a lot of men and women in SF with HIV/AIDS and have never heard another law enforcement officer make a joke or negative comment about somone with AIDS. I think we in the BAY AREA have come a long way when it comes to AIDS
I think we where so devastated by AIDS here in the BAY AREA that we got the message that AIDS is a human disease. But I guess I am a person who doesnt live with HIV on a day to day basis so I have no first hand Knowledge of its effects on peoples lives. If any youtuber in the bay area has a different story opinion id love to hear it.
remember ryan white, that boy went thru so much hell with AIDS discrimination, im glad elton john took an interest in his story, made the end of his life a lil easier. things have changed, but not enough due to haters, Ins co's, churches, gossip whores, employers etc... Im sure there are some ppl you mentioned who have not told everyone they know. dont leave discrimination to chance if u can help it.
you are correct, its bcuz the community is so open and free there, but across the US, people are denied jobs, housing, health insurance everyday which is why HIV tests require a signature of confidentiality. I have experienced this discrimination first hand, and quite powerless to do anything about it.
Just like it helped ordinary folks hate gays (fear of losing kids to "that lifestyle"), it helps the same folks distance themselves from people with HIV.
that's the million dollar question, i still dont date bcuz, i am single for the 1st time in my adult life, with a disease that has become the elephant in the room, so to speak, when, how, why, where do I disclose and to whom? all very hard questions, for both sides.
I wonder if there is some anti-discrimination act about people with HIV, that they should be protected in housing & employment?
P.S. I'm sorry about your HIV status. Hang on there.
There were other things I wrote, but then deleted... figured you don't need a pep talk from me. Just keep on going, keep on fighting, and have faith in the better future.
there is a federal law, but it rarely gets enforced, also the discrimination can be very subtle, most places know about the law, and will use something else to cloak the real reason behind their discriminatory practices. and thanks for the support! =)
My 2nd BF lost almost all his gay friends to AIDS, including every one of a group of friends who fooled around together, my boy was the only one who wasnt HIV. be careful out there, this means YOU!
I have experienced the same thing, I have lost all my friends, and am now pretty much dealing with this alone, its not easy, i have family support, but its not the same, and sometimes the worst discrimination comes from "my own community." Thanks to Jay and Brian for opening a very very important dialogue that needs to continue on a daily basis.
well u guys have seen my vid on my close friend who commited suicide after finding out he had full blown AIDS. I blame his religion indoctrination for his self hate, contraction of AIDS was a result. 1 LIFE. RIP K
I was inspired to be a buddy at the full aids quilt viewing in DC. an older woman was telling her story about her fun loving full of life family members she lost to AIDS (all 5 of them).
My 1st 19 y/o BF took care of the BF after me who had AIDS, def took a toll on him. It was a long terrible illness, he suffered a lot, he was a great guy. RIP BOB
many years ago i was on a date with a handsome popluar bartender in a big city, in the middle of our date, he got a phone call... another one of his many friends had died from AIDS, after he started to cry & said it was his 125st friend lost to AIDS, he said: i cant make new friends fast enough :(
:O( I have to be thankfull that today we dont have that kinds of deathtoll. It seems odd that I am 39 and gay and have never had a friend that has died of AIDS. Makes me wonder if people are hiding it more or if the stigma has changed..
Important message, guys and Sean (though, Sean, i would have replaced Sharkey's pic (6:29) by the woman he knowingly infected with the virus, as per Wikipedia).
Here's an embarrassing, but frank admission. Recently, when visiting a friend, i briefly met a guy that i came to like, and who seemed to reciprocate the feeling.
After the party, i asked our mutual friend if he would pass my phone number to this guy. A couple days later my friend calls me, audibly tense, and asks me whether i still wanted to follow through with it, as the guy had HIV. I asked my friend whether he had already communicated my interest to the guy. He said he hadn't. I told him to call it off, then. I thanked my friend for breaking the guy's confidence and divulging his condition to me. I do not regret my decision.
Im not sure how id react to that. I would like to think it wouldnt matter to me. But I guess you cant know till you are in that position. Me and bryan have been together sooooo LONG ;o) Well I was 25 Bryan 23 and our dating was limited b4 each other. I never had to make that decision. I remember a cop from Utah that wanted my number who was HIV positive but the long distance was more of an issue then HIV.
I figured: either i'm in it for the sex, or for the long term relationship.
If it's for the sex, do i really want to have a 1 night stand with a guy i know has a grave STD? I'd be so stressed out, i won't be able to get the dice rolling, if you know what i mean.
And if it's for the long-term, then why do i want to consciously bring on myself the heartache of loving a person who suffers from serious health problems?
Hmm well What if when I met Bryan he was HIV positive. I want to think that I could look past that. bryan had brought me so much happiness and love in the last 14years. I cant imagine him not being in my life. I would have made a bad decision if I didnt get to know him.. Love him.. But I get the fear of falling in love and then loosing someone.
That's an interesting point you were discussing here.
I also don't have any experience with HIV/AIDS, it's pretty quite here in terms of this disease, not like in California. So, all I have is TV. "Queer as Folk" depicted a relationship between Michael & Ben (Ben was HIV+), and it didn't stop Michael, they even got married in Canada and kinda adopted a kid.
What's harder: losing the love of your life to AIDS, or never finding your love? That is the question we should answer to ourselves.
I met a wonderful man when I was 35 who told me on our first date that he had AIDS. I said that couldn't be possible with those rosy, chubby cheeks. He must just be HIV+ like me. That was back when the only drug that did anything at all was AZT. We only lived together about a year before he died. I still wasn't over him 8 years later when I met my current husband. Didn't expect to live a quarter as long as I have so far!
That was beautiful; I hope that no one is ever forgotten. I don't know anyone with Aids or HIV but there is still no explanation to how this illness started or if there is a cure. There is still a stigma about Aids and HIV that asks what did they do to deserve it, if one thing can be acknowledged on the 1st it is never to forget that Aids and HIV still exist. Everyday should be a day closer to a cure or at least the end of prejudice to all the victims and survivors who deserve more than 1 day
Great video guys, I didn't even know there was a World AIDS Day. Thanks for educating me. So far no negative commits, so far..... Good luck with that.
Ok... I have two friends in the USA who are HIV+. They were some of the first gay friends I made and I've built a really strong friendship with them. When they told me, it was early in our friendship and I was very unnerved by it, never asked myself if I wanted to stay friends with them. But I have and it's a great friendship. Thing is, they've been asking me to come over on a visit. I want to go, but there's a part of me that's scared to. Any advice appreciated?
Why scared? I have never been scared of AIDS. I think of it as a disease that must be very hard to live with but not a diesease that I have to worry about from friends or loved ones.
Thanks for the feedback, much appreciated. My friendship with my friends is just a very strong friendship, there is no intimitcy behind it. My concerns about visiting them is being in their home, eating food with their cutlery, sitting on their loo. I hear myself saying these things and I want to cring because I know HIV is not transmitted these ways, but its something I do think about.
I think it is ok to be scared of somthing but when you let it crtl you that is when we have to educate ourselfs. So that we can move forward from the fear.
Ok, I defintely gotta do a video on this tomorrow. I've had an uncle that passed away that had full blown AIDS and I work with HIV positive patients daily. Thanks for posting this and reminding me. On a completely unrelated note, Bryan, love your hair cut, very cute!
I have dated two guys who were HIV pos and must say that although it made me concerned for their health it also made me educate myself on the topic, something that everyone should do!
Thank You Leffew family. A very touching vidoe like always. Sadly tho and I hope I am wrong, I don't think a cure will ever be found. There is way to much money to be lost if a cure was ever found.
@tommy2tone, I do wonder if drug companies are fiscally pressured to focus on reducing symptoms rather than curing diseases in the name of profits. No one should ever be allowed to further one's greed at the hands of those who suffer with their very lives.
I think it's important to say the words "die", "died", and "death." Euphemisms like "passed" and "passed away" are not helpful in understanding the reality of life. Good video otherwise.
Thanks for this video Jay and Bryan. We must not forget those who have died from and live with AIDS/HIV. AIDS has touched my life through family and friends. There has been so much progress on treatment but we must not stop fighting. Thanks to Sean too for his video. Here's to a world without AIDS! Love you guys
I remember first time I've heard about AIDS, it was in early 90s in Russia. People were scared. No one knew how you can get it, but everyone knew that once you get it, this is it, you'll die. I remember those dark times, that fear. People literally though you can get it like a flu via air. My parents got tested, secretly, but I knew about that, I overheard them. And I was scared that we all can die just like that.
Information is power, being in dark only makes it worse. We gotta talk about AIDS.
Did you guys hear that they developed a working vaccine for a string of HIV? Who knows if we keep advancing we could be able to get vaccines for HIV someday and prevent it with a shot
News about miraculous vaccines have been floating around for years, but it's all in testing, and only years later we will know if any of them is good enough to be used publicly.
We also have to remember that vaccination is not a cure, it's a preventive measure. Those who already contracted HIV will not be helped with any vaccine. How to help them? Hell if I know.
Yes, Sean Chapin (one "p" in last name) is a great singer, check out his YouTube page: SeanChapin1 is his nick. He posted some of his songs there, they are great.
I think most traditional people still think that talking about sexuallity with kids and teenagers is going to give them "ideas", but a lot of scientific investigations have showed otherwise. A professor of mine always said that it's better to give sexual education years in advance, than a second too late.
Anyway, congrats guys, you have a beautiful family.
I just wanted to say that I think is great that you talk with your kids about HIV/AIDS, and any other sexuality related themes (if that's what you meant when telling Daniel you were going to have a talk with him someday).
I agree with what MacMorrighan wrote, I also wish my parents or someone else would have talked to me or warned me about STI's (formerly STD's).
Thank you fo rthis video. I have been living with HIV for more than twenty years. I do not know how I could have made it this long without my (straight) brother and his constant support. I hope your family continues to be blessed.
I listed these three men on Sean's video but will tell a bit more here, since you asked us to tell our stories.
Terry Ehl was a man from my hometown, my father's friend who contracted HIV through IV drug use. He wasn't the best man in the world but he was a father, a husband, a son...
Kirk and Lance were men I met and became great friends with when I lived in the city. I worked with Lance and was roommates with Kirk. These guys were the life of the party, sometimes, too much so. OMG, we had SO much fun together, whether partying or just watching TV. They both had wicked senses of humor and could make me laugh constantly.
I was able to be with Kirk when he was sick and say our goodbyes when his time came. I only heard about Lance's death through a mutual friend because we had lost contact after I moved back home.
Getting HIV and the illnesses and their deaths could have been prevented. It makes me sad and angry. :-/
R.I.P. Norman Schiffman, took me off the streets and gave me a home when I had none. Died of AIDS related complications July, 2008. I miss you Norm, all the years that have passed since we met, you live on with me. Fred gives his love too...
Oh, and speaking of HIV, St. John's Wort is a powerful anti-viral herb that studies have shown can even kill HIV; they tried to make a medicine with it, which worked in animals and humans, but the people were so photosensitive that they couldn't stand to be near a window with sunlight coming through, so that killed the studies!
I graduated from HS in 1996, and i wish that they had prepared me for life, because I *could* have caught some STD! No one spoke with me about relationships and safe sex; and it just so happened that my first kiss was a Player who purposely broke my heart (for reasons unknown) and he could have given me something (thankfully, he didn't!). But, still! Sadly, it took me almost 10 years before I could trust Gay men again w/ my heart. It also helped that he's fat, with no 6 pack and amazing pecs
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your brother, but if he isn't comfortable telling you he has AIDS odds are he wouldn't be comfortable having you telling the whole world he has AIDS, that was very inappropriate in my opinion.
Thank you for telling me about World AIDS Day. My prayers go out to all those suffering from AIDS and those who have died from this terrible disease. Sean's video was beautiful and touched my heart.
A friend of mine came out to me earlier this year about having HIV, and it made our friendship stronger. I am very thankful that people can live many years now, and I pray that there will be a cure within our lifetimes. Thanks Bryan and Jay for sharing the song to your fans.
A very good friend of mine told me last year he was HIV+. He's the very first person I knew close to me that talked about AIDS. His out look is positive and upbeat. He didn't get it from sex. He contracted it from a drug problem he kept secret from his family and friends. People need to remember that AIDS goes far beyond a "gay" issue and that so many people, straight and gay have it and could get it.
I know people who have died of AIDS - my brother and 3 friends. My brother lived with me until he was too ill for me to care for. I also work with the Association to Benefit Chilldren - it houses and educates children born with HIV and are orphaned. Remembering those who have passed from or are living with HIV/AIDS is something that we all should do. All of my heart and hope goes out to those touched by this disease. Thanks to you and Sean for remembering and opening a dialog.
one of my friends was born with it, shes been fighting it full out since she was born. she is doing better with a new drug she just got and iv been helping her with some homeopathic stuff and the combo really helps her. she hasnt been sick in over a year which for her is rare.
i asked a group of catholics to pray for my friend who commited suicide due to an AIDS diagnosis, they didnt really respond, later someone said it was gods punishment, one other spit on the ground as if spitting on his grave. ironic due his religion causing his situation in the 1st place. somethings never change without outspoken bystanders.
I'm sorry to hear such disgraceful conduct from so called Catholics. I just hope that your experience doesnt in any way infer that such behavior is the standard Catholic experience...I know that had you been in my Church your request would have been honored with heartfelt prayers. I will pray that your friend be in restful peace.....and let us on this day remember all those who have suffered and are suffering with HIV and AIDS.
i wanted to give my response a lil time, as i dont want my anger to be my guide here. i do believe in the positive power of prayer to a higher power i generically call god. Ofcouse there are misguided ppl in every walk of life & religion, imagine what "god" would say if his "children" acted that way in front of him... i suggest you ask these ppl wheres the compassion? wheres the love? i know you will, if you truly want change. 1 LIFE
Thats my brothers birthday! Those statistics are a bit haunting. I'll have to make sure to do anything to help out AIDS organization. Fortunately I dont know anybody with the disease. Thanks for the video. As a teenager I'm still trying to comprehend how big AIDS and HIV really are. thank you
I pray that some day you two would just for one day step out of the "AIDS" box and think for yourselves. i have watched your videos but this must have passed right by me. The contradictions in this video make it almost 3 dimensional, popping off the screen and you advocate Justin B Smiths totalitarian toxic death pill advocacy propaganda. Gays killing Gays now that's a concept!
HIVVideos 9 months ago
@HIVVideos I am sorry if I offended you...to be a 100% percent honest we are not the most educated people when it comes to AIDS...So I would like to hear more on your opinions.
depfox 9 months ago
@depfox I don't mean to sound so brusque either, I do apologize for that. If there is anything you want to know just send me an email here or on yahoo. My channel is devoted to helping people who have been told that they are "HIV positive" or have an "American" "AIDS diagnosis". There is a witch hunt of the denialist inqusition all over the internet however this witch hunt has cause more people to question what they think they know about HIV and AIDS.
HIVVideos 9 months ago
@HIVVideos I will admit that I had no idea that this was even up fpr debate...I watched your video on HIV and I will admit that a lot of what I watched was new to me.
depfox 9 months ago
@HIVVideos Another fact I would invite you to recognize is the WHO estimate you have in your video clip. 34 million. This figure is grossly exaggerated by UNAIDS and WHO which the 2 have a serious conflict about Estimates and Ratios. up until 2007 the figure was ALWAYS 40 million world wide google "UN steeply lowers AIDS estimates" by 16%. So AIDS increased by 7 million that year? did you catch that? Perhaps you guys, grab some popcorn and watchh the "House of Numbers Excerpt" here on youtube.
HIVVideos 9 months ago
i am a gam man who is not hiv+ but i have 2 feelings about it! 1, i think it is too bad our friends and loved ones have to suffer from this but 2, i think in 2010 there should be no more aids, because of what we know today and if we all PROTECTED ourselfs than we could kill this instead of it killing us. think about hat if no one ever got hiv gain then it would soon die itself ! there is no reason to contract hiv in 2010 and yet we all still suffer from even the thought of it ! god bless !
lexusfann 1 year ago
i feel badly for kids that get this shit but as for adults, fuck em! GRIDS...gay man related immuno deficiency syndrome. hey queers keep the dick out of your mouth and your assholes and you will reduce your risks to ALMOST NOTHING!
obamaisamarxist 1 year ago
@obamaisamarxist
google 'AIDS in sabsaharan Africa' or 'war and AIDS'
tatararabuga 1 year ago
@obamaisamarxist you SERIOUSLY need to INVESTIGATE things more DEEPLY.
hardinmichael1981 1 month ago
My Tribute To Aids Victims And A Message To Their Families Who Have Turned Their Backs On Their Loved Ones When They Need Or Needed You the Most!
Remember The Shoe Could Be On The Other Foot Someday! Please Comment On My Video Thanks!
bestkeptsecretout 1 year ago
Even more than the movie stars and other celebrities, Ryan White is the person who put a face to this epidemic for so many people.
MaudeLynne 1 year ago
Brian is quite handsome ;p
MrRomulus456 1 year ago
what are these two dickhead doing telling there kids about aids for
darrel1980 2 years ago
@darrel1980 you are an idiot - first of all they are telling their kids to EDUCATE them. Second, you agree with joroma77's bigoted comment, however HETEROSEXUAL people contract HIV too you know
andygoodyear 1 year ago
Hey I have the solution to your problem: Quit being sodomites! You're talking about AIDS as if anyone can catch it for no particular reason...
joroma77 2 years ago
@joroma77
you can get it from blood transfusion or even child-birth in a non-sterile high prevalent area, such as a post-conflict country...in my country many woman get it from their husbands who come back after working abroad.
tatararabuga 1 year ago
Guess why normal people don't teach their small children about AIDS? Because they're not in the risk group! I suppose you guys assume "your son" will be in that risk group... Like yourselves. Your videos are disgusting.
joroma77 2 years ago
@joroma77 at last someone talkin common sense
darrel1980 2 years ago
Please stop the genocide!
Watch The House Of Numbers & learn the real TRUTH behind the HIV & so-called AID$ SCAM & 25 years of blatant LIES!
HIV tests are nothing short of playing Russian Roulette & ARVs are nothing short of cancer chemotherapy poisons!!!
~South Africa~
annie46664 2 years ago
I am the same dude, I have known people who live with it but no one who has passed from it.
Sorry was re-watching LOL.
A little sad there are no dancing elves in this vid.
ExplorationB 2 years ago
The hardest part about this is that the only response I've come up with is silence--the last thing we need.
This year I heard someone got tested for HIV on World AIDS Day.
Hopefully before the next World AIDS Day, at least one person with AIDS will resolve a problem with someone he or she loves. What we cannot yet cure, we must endure.
ufo8mykat 2 years ago
be blessed and sheltered all those who know the meaning of the words :LIVING WITH AIDS
let us help out in any way we can.
krysana, Poland
krysant50 2 years ago 6
SeanChapin1..fabulous song i really loved listening to this,....mary
terigower 2 years ago 4
i felt so happy when i found your videos, i felt so inspired just to see you two together becose for me its really hard to be gay, my family doesn`t know and i know that they may hate me if i tell them the truth T.T but anyway, your videos are really supportive for me. Thanks
radilith 2 years ago 3
radilith ~ I found your message so touching, & have decided to send you something absolutely awesome to read. It's the TRUTH about homosexuality by my Heavenly mentor, Matthew Ward, & something that I so wish that the whole world could read & know about. I hope that it inspires you & makes you realize that being gay is nothing to ever feel embarrassed about ~ don't let others small minds affect yours nor your precious, loving & compassionate heart, ever!
With love & LIGHT,
~@nnie~
annie46664 2 years ago
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annie46664 2 years ago
"they wont go" -
by george michael
gets me every time
^^^see my fav for best quality
sleekcartim 2 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
AIDS still has a lot more people to cure....
Let's start in California, then sweep through the South, and finish off in New York.
LiberalHuntingSeason 2 years ago
Great video. Thank you!
prarieguy2004 2 years ago
Thank you for this post, it's great to see people educating there children at a young age, they are our future and can make a big impact in the years to come! It's a horrible disease and everyone should help in the potential of finding a cure! Great job guys!!
redmac27 2 years ago
im sorry for those peolple who have this god bless them.
Exsistences 2 years ago 2
great videos...just joined youtube and youre one of my first subscriptions.
wiannoboy 2 years ago
they were one of mine too, and still are fantastic people, and great example of our community. have fun here!
themikeymonitor 2 years ago
I registered a long time ago here, but only to rate videos. Depfox was the first channel I actually wanted to subscribe to.
It's nice to see that people come here for the Leffews!
KirilleXXI 2 years ago
Thank youm it means a lot to bryan me and the kids
depfox 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing this video which I have posted on my bebo and facebook for others to share and reflect on.
Can anyone tell me the name of the song as I'm looking for the lyrics
Seanster0069 2 years ago 2
@Seanster0069, the song is one that I wrote called "Prayer". The video itself is on my channel, and when I get a chance I'll write out the lyrics in the description on the video.
SeanChapin1 2 years ago 3
love that song....and excelent title...Prayer......mary
terigower 2 years ago 2
Great video!
jolson1614 2 years ago
Guys, not a good idea to tell others HIV status, without permission
sleekcartim 2 years ago
Hmm Dean gross is very open about his status and my brother doesnt talk to me because we have issues around my mother. But from what I can tell everyone knows that he is HIV positive its not a secreat. Please help educate me on why its a bad idea to talk about it.
depfox 2 years ago
i can help w/that question Jay, bcuz, although HIV status is federally protected, people can still lose jobs, housing, pensions, health insurance, and many, many other things that may or may not require disclosure of such an illness, especially with the way health insurance reform is going, people right now are NOT protected from pre-existing conditions, HIV disclosure should always be left to the person carrying the disease and be left strictly confidential. discrimination lives unfortunately.
thedancetuber 2 years ago 2
true that. you may want to edit ur vid, if u can.
sleekcartim 2 years ago
Thanks for pointing this out, status must be kept confidential as much as possible.
thedancetuber 2 years ago 2
Hmm I think its sad that we live in a world where people need to be scared about a health issue that effects their life. I guess I live in a bubble here in CA. AIDS is one of those things we really do treat as a disease with not a lot of stigma. Even where I work I come across a lot of men and women in SF with HIV/AIDS and have never heard another law enforcement officer make a joke or negative comment about somone with AIDS. I think we in the BAY AREA have come a long way when it comes to AIDS
depfox 2 years ago
I think we where so devastated by AIDS here in the BAY AREA that we got the message that AIDS is a human disease. But I guess I am a person who doesnt live with HIV on a day to day basis so I have no first hand Knowledge of its effects on peoples lives. If any youtuber in the bay area has a different story opinion id love to hear it.
depfox 2 years ago
remember ryan white, that boy went thru so much hell with AIDS discrimination, im glad elton john took an interest in his story, made the end of his life a lil easier. things have changed, but not enough due to haters, Ins co's, churches, gossip whores, employers etc... Im sure there are some ppl you mentioned who have not told everyone they know. dont leave discrimination to chance if u can help it.
sleekcartim 2 years ago
you are correct, its bcuz the community is so open and free there, but across the US, people are denied jobs, housing, health insurance everyday which is why HIV tests require a signature of confidentiality. I have experienced this discrimination first hand, and quite powerless to do anything about it.
thedancetuber 2 years ago 2
thats really sad I guess the people who would do that to people with a life threatening disease are truly the sick ones ;O(
depfox 2 years ago
Fear is a powerful weapon.
Just like it helped ordinary folks hate gays (fear of losing kids to "that lifestyle"), it helps the same folks distance themselves from people with HIV.
How can we break this fear?
KirilleXXI 2 years ago
that's the million dollar question, i still dont date bcuz, i am single for the 1st time in my adult life, with a disease that has become the elephant in the room, so to speak, when, how, why, where do I disclose and to whom? all very hard questions, for both sides.
thedancetuber 2 years ago
I wonder if there is some anti-discrimination act about people with HIV, that they should be protected in housing & employment?
P.S. I'm sorry about your HIV status. Hang on there.
There were other things I wrote, but then deleted... figured you don't need a pep talk from me. Just keep on going, keep on fighting, and have faith in the better future.
KirilleXXI 2 years ago
there is a federal law, but it rarely gets enforced, also the discrimination can be very subtle, most places know about the law, and will use something else to cloak the real reason behind their discriminatory practices. and thanks for the support! =)
thedancetuber 2 years ago
My 2nd BF lost almost all his gay friends to AIDS, including every one of a group of friends who fooled around together, my boy was the only one who wasnt HIV. be careful out there, this means YOU!
sleekcartim 2 years ago 3
I have experienced the same thing, I have lost all my friends, and am now pretty much dealing with this alone, its not easy, i have family support, but its not the same, and sometimes the worst discrimination comes from "my own community." Thanks to Jay and Brian for opening a very very important dialogue that needs to continue on a daily basis.
thedancetuber 2 years ago 2
well u guys have seen my vid on my close friend who commited suicide after finding out he had full blown AIDS. I blame his religion indoctrination for his self hate, contraction of AIDS was a result. 1 LIFE. RIP K
sleekcartim 2 years ago 2
I was an AIDS Buddy in philly during the worst years... :(
sleekcartim 2 years ago
I was inspired to be a buddy at the full aids quilt viewing in DC. an older woman was telling her story about her fun loving full of life family members she lost to AIDS (all 5 of them).
sleekcartim 2 years ago 2
My 1st 19 y/o BF took care of the BF after me who had AIDS, def took a toll on him. It was a long terrible illness, he suffered a lot, he was a great guy. RIP BOB
sleekcartim 2 years ago 3
RIP BOB
depfox 2 years ago
many years ago i was on a date with a handsome popluar bartender in a big city, in the middle of our date, he got a phone call... another one of his many friends had died from AIDS, after he started to cry & said it was his 125st friend lost to AIDS, he said: i cant make new friends fast enough :(
sleekcartim 2 years ago 2
:O( I have to be thankfull that today we dont have that kinds of deathtoll. It seems odd that I am 39 and gay and have never had a friend that has died of AIDS. Makes me wonder if people are hiding it more or if the stigma has changed..
depfox 2 years ago
Thanks you guys! RIP Ruben Gonzalez, Samuel Gonzales, and Joe Plata (my cousins). May we someday find a cure!
mistressvader88 2 years ago 2
Thank you for the nice story. May they all RIP
depfox 2 years ago
it's too sad video,,,but true
ponnef 2 years ago
what an awesome video...I am sitting here in tears....thank you for posting that, it means alot.
jeep1604 2 years ago 2
Important message, guys and Sean (though, Sean, i would have replaced Sharkey's pic (6:29) by the woman he knowingly infected with the virus, as per Wikipedia).
Here's an embarrassing, but frank admission. Recently, when visiting a friend, i briefly met a guy that i came to like, and who seemed to reciprocate the feeling.
EvenEvenOdd 2 years ago
After the party, i asked our mutual friend if he would pass my phone number to this guy. A couple days later my friend calls me, audibly tense, and asks me whether i still wanted to follow through with it, as the guy had HIV. I asked my friend whether he had already communicated my interest to the guy. He said he hadn't. I told him to call it off, then. I thanked my friend for breaking the guy's confidence and divulging his condition to me. I do not regret my decision.
EvenEvenOdd 2 years ago
Im not sure how id react to that. I would like to think it wouldnt matter to me. But I guess you cant know till you are in that position. Me and bryan have been together sooooo LONG ;o) Well I was 25 Bryan 23 and our dating was limited b4 each other. I never had to make that decision. I remember a cop from Utah that wanted my number who was HIV positive but the long distance was more of an issue then HIV.
depfox 2 years ago
I figured: either i'm in it for the sex, or for the long term relationship.
If it's for the sex, do i really want to have a 1 night stand with a guy i know has a grave STD? I'd be so stressed out, i won't be able to get the dice rolling, if you know what i mean.
And if it's for the long-term, then why do i want to consciously bring on myself the heartache of loving a person who suffers from serious health problems?
EvenEvenOdd 2 years ago
Hmm well What if when I met Bryan he was HIV positive. I want to think that I could look past that. bryan had brought me so much happiness and love in the last 14years. I cant imagine him not being in my life. I would have made a bad decision if I didnt get to know him.. Love him.. But I get the fear of falling in love and then loosing someone.
depfox 2 years ago
That's an interesting point you were discussing here.
I also don't have any experience with HIV/AIDS, it's pretty quite here in terms of this disease, not like in California. So, all I have is TV. "Queer as Folk" depicted a relationship between Michael & Ben (Ben was HIV+), and it didn't stop Michael, they even got married in Canada and kinda adopted a kid.
What's harder: losing the love of your life to AIDS, or never finding your love? That is the question we should answer to ourselves.
KirilleXXI 2 years ago
To most people, AIDS is still very tabu. Luckily now people are able to live fairly healthy and long lives now with the disease. Great video!
sassygalady 2 years ago 3
I met a wonderful man when I was 35 who told me on our first date that he had AIDS. I said that couldn't be possible with those rosy, chubby cheeks. He must just be HIV+ like me. That was back when the only drug that did anything at all was AZT. We only lived together about a year before he died. I still wasn't over him 8 years later when I met my current husband. Didn't expect to live a quarter as long as I have so far!
waynesb 2 years ago 3
Well my friend I have another thing to be thankfull this year. I hope you have a great x-mas and another 50+ years of life.
depfox 2 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
u guys are a rare case in your 40's and no hiv, u are survivors
CUTELOONIE01 2 years ago
This has been flagged as spam show
sad but true,,
alparcker5 2 years ago
That was beautiful; I hope that no one is ever forgotten. I don't know anyone with Aids or HIV but there is still no explanation to how this illness started or if there is a cure. There is still a stigma about Aids and HIV that asks what did they do to deserve it, if one thing can be acknowledged on the 1st it is never to forget that Aids and HIV still exist. Everyday should be a day closer to a cure or at least the end of prejudice to all the victims and survivors who deserve more than 1 day
nowvoyagerlover 2 years ago 2
I honestly don't know anyone who has HIV... But I do pray for those that are affected by it D:
Dkdude9892 2 years ago 2
Great video guys, I didn't even know there was a World AIDS Day. Thanks for educating me. So far no negative commits, so far..... Good luck with that.
TheVirgoGuy 2 years ago 2
Ok... I have two friends in the USA who are HIV+. They were some of the first gay friends I made and I've built a really strong friendship with them. When they told me, it was early in our friendship and I was very unnerved by it, never asked myself if I wanted to stay friends with them. But I have and it's a great friendship. Thing is, they've been asking me to come over on a visit. I want to go, but there's a part of me that's scared to. Any advice appreciated?
BearGuyPaul 2 years ago 2
Why scared? I have never been scared of AIDS. I think of it as a disease that must be very hard to live with but not a diesease that I have to worry about from friends or loved ones.
depfox 2 years ago
Honey. You should go. It's not like they're going to demand unprotected sex the second you arrive.
I'm not saying that you should constantly hold them at arms length. But for God's sake be careful.
phantomsluva 2 years ago 2
Thanks for the feedback, much appreciated. My friendship with my friends is just a very strong friendship, there is no intimitcy behind it. My concerns about visiting them is being in their home, eating food with their cutlery, sitting on their loo. I hear myself saying these things and I want to cring because I know HIV is not transmitted these ways, but its something I do think about.
Thanks again, much appreciated.
BearGuyPaul 2 years ago 2
I think it is ok to be scared of somthing but when you let it crtl you that is when we have to educate ourselfs. So that we can move forward from the fear.
depfox 2 years ago
Ok, I defintely gotta do a video on this tomorrow. I've had an uncle that passed away that had full blown AIDS and I work with HIV positive patients daily. Thanks for posting this and reminding me. On a completely unrelated note, Bryan, love your hair cut, very cute!
GayComicGeek 2 years ago 3
i hope you atach to mine as a video response cant wait to watch it.
depfox 2 years ago
I have dated two guys who were HIV pos and must say that although it made me concerned for their health it also made me educate myself on the topic, something that everyone should do!
Awesome Vid XOXOX
ExplorationB 2 years ago 2
Me and bryan have talked about this issue and wouldnt have a problem dating someone who was HIV pos. If we where single that is...
depfox 2 years ago
Thanks for this video. Like you my boyfriend and I don't know anyone with HIV and don't know anyone who has died from AIDS.
I think it is important that the generations of teenagers coming out now are reminded about what can happen without safe sex.
I think alot of progress has been made on this issue but if we don't keep reminding people it could regress.
orangegoblin82 2 years ago 2
Thank You Leffew family. A very touching vidoe like always. Sadly tho and I hope I am wrong, I don't think a cure will ever be found. There is way to much money to be lost if a cure was ever found.
tommy2tone 2 years ago
@tommy2tone, I do wonder if drug companies are fiscally pressured to focus on reducing symptoms rather than curing diseases in the name of profits. No one should ever be allowed to further one's greed at the hands of those who suffer with their very lives.
SeanChapin1 2 years ago 4
very good point...i have always thought the same thing.
benjaminscameron 2 years ago
I think it's important to say the words "die", "died", and "death." Euphemisms like "passed" and "passed away" are not helpful in understanding the reality of life. Good video otherwise.
qYnBzWFc 2 years ago 3
Thanks for this video Jay and Bryan. We must not forget those who have died from and live with AIDS/HIV. AIDS has touched my life through family and friends. There has been so much progress on treatment but we must not stop fighting. Thanks to Sean too for his video. Here's to a world without AIDS! Love you guys
Fightdog 2 years ago 3
I remember first time I've heard about AIDS, it was in early 90s in Russia. People were scared. No one knew how you can get it, but everyone knew that once you get it, this is it, you'll die. I remember those dark times, that fear. People literally though you can get it like a flu via air. My parents got tested, secretly, but I knew about that, I overheard them. And I was scared that we all can die just like that.
Information is power, being in dark only makes it worse. We gotta talk about AIDS.
KirilleXXI 2 years ago 4
Remember..AIDS took freddy mercury away =(
WerewolfOfTheWater 2 years ago 2
5 *'s, I'll bet the tree will look beautiful when it's done
PaganSteve 2 years ago 2
Did you guys hear that they developed a working vaccine for a string of HIV? Who knows if we keep advancing we could be able to get vaccines for HIV someday and prevent it with a shot
WerewolfOfTheWater 2 years ago
News about miraculous vaccines have been floating around for years, but it's all in testing, and only years later we will know if any of them is good enough to be used publicly.
We also have to remember that vaccination is not a cure, it's a preventive measure. Those who already contracted HIV will not be helped with any vaccine. How to help them? Hell if I know.
KirilleXXI 2 years ago 2
I didn't even know about World AIDS Day until this video. Is that Sean Chappin singing himself in that dedication song? If so he's really good!
u3q2v 2 years ago 3
Yes, Sean Chapin (one "p" in last name) is a great singer, check out his YouTube page: SeanChapin1 is his nick. He posted some of his songs there, they are great.
KirilleXXI 2 years ago 2
Great video and thank you for shareing that other video.
Mysticblue1212 2 years ago 2
I think most traditional people still think that talking about sexuallity with kids and teenagers is going to give them "ideas", but a lot of scientific investigations have showed otherwise. A professor of mine always said that it's better to give sexual education years in advance, than a second too late.
Anyway, congrats guys, you have a beautiful family.
Greetings from Mexico.
loremonterrey 2 years ago 3
Hello!
I just wanted to say that I think is great that you talk with your kids about HIV/AIDS, and any other sexuality related themes (if that's what you meant when telling Daniel you were going to have a talk with him someday).
I agree with what MacMorrighan wrote, I also wish my parents or someone else would have talked to me or warned me about STI's (formerly STD's).
loremonterrey 2 years ago 3
You guys inspire me.
lochenvar90027 2 years ago 3
Thank you fo rthis video. I have been living with HIV for more than twenty years. I do not know how I could have made it this long without my (straight) brother and his constant support. I hope your family continues to be blessed.
lochenvar90027 2 years ago 4
I listed these three men on Sean's video but will tell a bit more here, since you asked us to tell our stories.
Terry Ehl was a man from my hometown, my father's friend who contracted HIV through IV drug use. He wasn't the best man in the world but he was a father, a husband, a son...
debbieomi 2 years ago 3
Kirk and Lance were men I met and became great friends with when I lived in the city. I worked with Lance and was roommates with Kirk. These guys were the life of the party, sometimes, too much so. OMG, we had SO much fun together, whether partying or just watching TV. They both had wicked senses of humor and could make me laugh constantly.
debbieomi 2 years ago 3
I was able to be with Kirk when he was sick and say our goodbyes when his time came. I only heard about Lance's death through a mutual friend because we had lost contact after I moved back home.
Getting HIV and the illnesses and their deaths could have been prevented. It makes me sad and angry. :-/
debbieomi 2 years ago 4
R.I.P. Norman Schiffman, took me off the streets and gave me a home when I had none. Died of AIDS related complications July, 2008. I miss you Norm, all the years that have passed since we met, you live on with me. Fred gives his love too...
kern0099 2 years ago 4
Oh, and speaking of HIV, St. John's Wort is a powerful anti-viral herb that studies have shown can even kill HIV; they tried to make a medicine with it, which worked in animals and humans, but the people were so photosensitive that they couldn't stand to be near a window with sunlight coming through, so that killed the studies!
MacMorrighan 2 years ago
I graduated from HS in 1996, and i wish that they had prepared me for life, because I *could* have caught some STD! No one spoke with me about relationships and safe sex; and it just so happened that my first kiss was a Player who purposely broke my heart (for reasons unknown) and he could have given me something (thankfully, he didn't!). But, still! Sadly, it took me almost 10 years before I could trust Gay men again w/ my heart. It also helped that he's fat, with no 6 pack and amazing pecs
MacMorrighan 2 years ago
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your brother, but if he isn't comfortable telling you he has AIDS odds are he wouldn't be comfortable having you telling the whole world he has AIDS, that was very inappropriate in my opinion.
Justanothertomm 2 years ago
I think AIDS is one of the biggest fears that my dad has for me because two of his cousins, both gay, died with AIDS.
ttowert 2 years ago 2
love the new intros.the other one was a bit to dramatic.
still love u guys and ur vids.
5 stars
guitarherofanpr 2 years ago 2
Simply put:
You guys are just great. Let me know when I can move in with your family. haha
Another great video, Sean.
talentguynyc 2 years ago 2
you need a pre-lit tree!
dallasjjguate 2 years ago
Thank you for telling me about World AIDS Day. My prayers go out to all those suffering from AIDS and those who have died from this terrible disease. Sean's video was beautiful and touched my heart.
mykiskoart 2 years ago 3
A friend of mine came out to me earlier this year about having HIV, and it made our friendship stronger. I am very thankful that people can live many years now, and I pray that there will be a cure within our lifetimes. Thanks Bryan and Jay for sharing the song to your fans.
SeanChapin1 2 years ago 3
Thank you for your video!
Your songs are absolutely great, and your videos are made so professionally, they amaze me every time!
KirilleXXI 2 years ago 2
A very good friend of mine told me last year he was HIV+. He's the very first person I knew close to me that talked about AIDS. His out look is positive and upbeat. He didn't get it from sex. He contracted it from a drug problem he kept secret from his family and friends. People need to remember that AIDS goes far beyond a "gay" issue and that so many people, straight and gay have it and could get it.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago 3
This is very touching.
& thank you so much for posting this to educate and for awareness.
Your family truly inspires me.
JephProductions 2 years ago 2
im sorry ,but that video look like an exam on AIDS :P but im agree everyone must know about it :)
im so glad to know you guys :)
by the way Brian do awasome job on the xmas tree,i hope you didnt cut that tree?
xxx
lailaagrado 2 years ago
thank you for doing this video. awareness is key. luckily, i don't know anyone with this terrible disease.
MarcusHBP7 2 years ago
I know people who have died of AIDS - my brother and 3 friends. My brother lived with me until he was too ill for me to care for. I also work with the Association to Benefit Chilldren - it houses and educates children born with HIV and are orphaned. Remembering those who have passed from or are living with HIV/AIDS is something that we all should do. All of my heart and hope goes out to those touched by this disease. Thanks to you and Sean for remembering and opening a dialog.
leosalra 2 years ago 3
one of my friends was born with it, shes been fighting it full out since she was born. she is doing better with a new drug she just got and iv been helping her with some homeopathic stuff and the combo really helps her. she hasnt been sick in over a year which for her is rare.
caciquepadilla 2 years ago 2
bless.
ccm800 2 years ago
Thank you for being a good friend
depfox 2 years ago
I miss Queen! =(
bananabread119 2 years ago 2
this was the hardest video for me to watch, i could not finish Sean's song, it was just too much, but thanks for this. Michael
thedancetuber 2 years ago 3
Yep, we need to keep those folks and their families in prayer every day.
I've seen it up close and personal on someone's death bed. It isn't pretty.
So remember to keep all folks affected both directly and indirectly in your prayers.
scutter4christ 2 years ago 3
i asked a group of catholics to pray for my friend who commited suicide due to an AIDS diagnosis, they didnt really respond, later someone said it was gods punishment, one other spit on the ground as if spitting on his grave. ironic due his religion causing his situation in the 1st place. somethings never change without outspoken bystanders.
sleekcartim 2 years ago 2
I'm sorry to hear such disgraceful conduct from so called Catholics. I just hope that your experience doesnt in any way infer that such behavior is the standard Catholic experience...I know that had you been in my Church your request would have been honored with heartfelt prayers. I will pray that your friend be in restful peace.....and let us on this day remember all those who have suffered and are suffering with HIV and AIDS.
Tiffanynicolina 2 years ago 2
i wanted to give my response a lil time, as i dont want my anger to be my guide here. i do believe in the positive power of prayer to a higher power i generically call god. Ofcouse there are misguided ppl in every walk of life & religion, imagine what "god" would say if his "children" acted that way in front of him... i suggest you ask these ppl wheres the compassion? wheres the love? i know you will, if you truly want change. 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 2 years ago 2
My uncle has had aids for about 30 years now. We hope for a cure every day.
IAmGoombaSniper 2 years ago 2
I don't know anyone who has HIV/AIDS. I hope a cure is discovered.
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago 3
like the new intro/outro
aids. STD's in general freak me out.
triked14 2 years ago
Thanks guy for this, I cried watching sean's video, I have lose so many friends and have lived with Aids for 17 years.
Texasred63 2 years ago 3
Thank you for telling us. AIDS effects us all. I sooo want to hug you right now. Would lvoe to hear your story if you ever want to tell it someday
depfox 2 years ago
Thats my brothers birthday! Those statistics are a bit haunting. I'll have to make sure to do anything to help out AIDS organization. Fortunately I dont know anybody with the disease. Thanks for the video. As a teenager I'm still trying to comprehend how big AIDS and HIV really are. thank you
saxmason101 2 years ago 3
i have a dreams of hope performance that day =D i support all with aids... it will get better, i hope
ohitzjeremy 2 years ago 4