For Women Only: Why Men Don't Commit

[bumblebeemoi]

Though the stated topic is '"The talk," for a guy never to share how he feels about someone reveals a number of possibilities, each eliminating any need for a talk. He may not have much feeling at all for her. He may be super insensitive or self-centered. Most women have never learned that almost any "talk" can drive a man away. An intelligent lady learns to weave in her inquiry and find out what she wants to know without a "talk." It takes imagination and creativity.

[marianasreality]

She forgot #3 which is marriage doesn't benefit men. Meaning there's nothing a man can get being married that he can't get being unmarried. He gains nothing and puts too much at risk.

[ManSpeakOut]

A great video that covers all of this is "Sex Differences: Why Won't Men Commit?"

I greatly recommend this video.

[ManSpeakOut]

For something so terrible to have a very high possibility to happen to the man if he marries.

Its like going skydiving knowing only 1 of the 2 parachutes work, and there is a 50% you will end up a stain on the sidewalk.

Would you jump with that high of chance of something like that happening?

Due to marriage and divorce heavily tipped in women's favor, it has given women an incentive to divorce since nothing bad and everything good is going to come of it for them.

[ManSpeakOut]

For men, for a marriage to turn sour, could be mean he will end up living in a box in the alleyway for a couple years.

Its like taking a sledgehammer to the head kind of bad.

Divorce can hit a man financially incredibly hard, and it can hurt a lot emotionally too on top of it.

In fact a man is 9.5 times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce.

He is not avoiding it because he fears commitment, what he fears is if that marriage will go bad, and in America there is a 50% chance it will.

[silverhol]

I had this very thing happen to me by the guy saying that he had to get his finances in order and I thought it was an excuse to get rid of me. Then I seen postings on fb and pictures his ex had taken with him and it made me really think he was making excuses. This hurt me and I really hope you can give me some advice. :(

[originaltrip]

@silverhol

what is the reason that you want to get married? why those papers means so much to you? let me answer that for you: you want to take half of everything if you two split up.

[lawshorizon]

A guy doesn’t like to be rushed to commit no more than a woman likes to be rushed into bed. He wants to know that things are, and she is, stable. (He’s likely learned from experience.)

[mikekazik1]

This video lacks many important details. A HUGE reason why men do not want to commit is that they disagree with the legalities of the marriage contract. As is exists today in the US, marriage is heavily biased against men, because it allows women to take most of their assets in a divorce.

[cdw100]

sex differences-why men wont commit

this is on youtube, watch and learn

[MrHangbush]

Damn who told her all our secretes????? Talk about hitting the nail on the head! I'm blown away at how she can get the male mind! its almost creepy, or it's just the fact I've never heard a woman make so much sense without emotions getting in the way of making sense...lol (kidding.....kind of).

[shatdog1]

I believe you are incorrect. Men do not commit because marriage laws in this country greatly favor women when it comes to custody and child support AND: Men do not trust women these days; rightly so, that she won't abandon him once the children are born. This happens all the time even though it is the man who is driven to actually do the filing for divorce.

[Nelson5011]

She gives decent advice. When she says NEXT! guys can now motivate to meet new girls. Everyone wins.

[obits3]

The reason is simple: Guys worry that this loving woman will become a b*tch. I know it is harsh, but that is the truth. I have seen too many married women in their 40's and 50's who treat their men like sh*t.

[whiskerchild]

Men's whole nine yards is looks, and nothing else. Don't pretend that it's something else.

[phillipgaley]

@TRDBaron . . . . the woman was to help the man. In simple logic then, while, to the man was given ability and power of understanding that which he was to be about, to the woman was given ability and power to understand Adam; and it has to do with attendant reasons that, typically, in some things, women can think circles around their men, . . .

[phillipgaley]

@TRDBaron Actually—while, than men of women, the woman has a more complete perception of the man—than that of her distance, your error rate of pure subjectivity, though different, will nonetheless facilitate errors—the thing which answers the propensity for error due to both objectivity and subjectivity, is The Lord's view of things, . . .

As G0D placed the man in the garden with his occupation of time to be in the world's oldest profession (taxonomy, the science of naming things), the woman was

[StraightOuttaDC]

Feminism has enabled family destroying laws and notions to propogate in every society that it has infected. It's because of Feminism that we have laws that destroy men in the courts and legal battles. Marriage, the grander ones being that which women believe themselves entitleted to, is a game of russian roulette with only one empty chamber. It's 4th and 50 in the Super Bowl; a gamble that will not pay off.

Men simply see no reason to commit. Women should be blaming only themselves.

[SacredSocietyAP]

Damn it..She said don't take it personally. You all are missing the big picture here.

[onlyjoetee]

YOUR 2 REASONS ARE EXACTLY CORRECT!!!not ready,or he doesnt love you enough!!!SIMPLE AS THAT!!!!!!!!

[embracingreality]

Why men don't commit? It's the wrong question!

Think about a guy in a relationship where he gets regular sex, as much "companionship" as he wants (or more). Maybe he's cohabitation already and you look after his basic care and feeding. Your as motivated to make this arrangement worthwhile for him as your ever going to be. So what happens if he marries you? You get lazy, start gaining weight, withholding sex, demanding your entitlements. So what the right question?

WHY WOULD HE COMMIT, IDIOTS?

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality it is up to YOU to make sure the woman you marry does not get lazy,gain weight,withhold sex or whatever!!YOU are the head of your wife!!!YOU Sir!!!!!!!!!YOU!!!!!!you should supply sex that she would not want to withhold herself from LOL!!MAN UP!!!LOL

[embracingreality]

@onlyjoetee You seem to imply that women cannot be selfish, dishonest, lazy, manipulative UNLESS a man fails to please her.. Damn are women even human? Last time I checked both genders were human and therefore prone to all the things mentioned. Sure some women respond to "Manhood" but far more DON'T!

Incidentally American men have no authority in marriage legally. At any time a wife can divorce a man for ANY reason. Take his children, home, money, receive child support & alimony. Why marry?

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality ALL women respond to "manhood" they are designed to.Step into your "manhood" with your woman and see what happens.The annointing of leadership is with YOU!!therefore YOU must assume it.The feminine spirit despises weakness in men,know that!!YOU are the leader the director from creation.If you dont assume that,then your house will fall!!Man up and she will automatically woman up,simple as that!

[embracingreality]

@onlyjoetee Your over looking something terribly obvious. "Manhood" can be displayed by any man, not just a woman's husband. In fact statistically wives are just as likely to cheat as husbands. Do you presume no other men can display more "manhood" to your woman than you? When that happens it comes down to a woman decision of integrity, good luck. iIm well aware of manhood pal, even from a spiritual basis. The notion that women respond to it is old news, so is changing their minds later.

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality In any successful team,every player knows his position,assumes it and plays it with no apology.You are not assuming your position,YOU are the head,this is creations design!!with your wife your child even your pet.If YOU don not assume the leadership,the other one will,when that happens the thing breaks down!

[embracingreality]

@onlyjoetee What happens when a wife decides she wants her way in the relationship even more than she wants male leadership? She manipulates, first with conjured up displays of emotion, next she begins to withholding sex. Oh sure, you may consider yourself a great lover but she knows she can get it anytime so she holds out until you break. weeks, months, years.. Where's your manhood, authority? Remember she has ALL the power now because she can legally destroy you. Look around, happens everyday.

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality This is natural law...Natures own law,that governs creation!

[embracingreality]

@onlyjoetee Natural law? Tell that to the millions of men who have lost everything to an ex-wife despite having been good husbands and fathers! Once upon a time natural laws were backed up by state laws. In the USA those days are gone friend. I believe your rather naive if you think you can count on most women responding to manhood indefinitely. Consider a spiritual perspective of Paul in 1 Cor 7:38

"The man who marries the virgin does well but he who marries her not does EVEN BETTER"

So true..

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality "good" husband translates as "weak" man,too busy being "nice"doesnt understand women.Paul was a celibate man who hated women,he's not the person to direct you here.BE THE MAN and she will BE THE WOMAN!!try it and see..

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality the same Paul also wrote,the husband is THE HEAD OF the wife....

[embracingreality]

@onlyjoetee Right. He also TOLD THEM to submit! Why would he need to do that when all of this was just going to go down "automatically" when a man struts his "manhood"? And that was an age where a men literally had authority BY LAW! A man no longer has any more authority than a woman wants to give him. In a No Fault Divorce a woman can destroy a man literally on a whim. I sincerely hope you never find that out the hard way.

I recommend you see "men math and marriage" on youtube.

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality forget THE LAW!!YOU are sitting there waiting for you woman to GIVE you authority!!shit,no wonder you're failing!They expect you to lead,its in their design!you have become "nice" and emasculated,the result is what you're getting!!

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality you are resentful and afraid of women,and you dont know their nature.Anything that you are resentful and afraid of,will NEVER respect you,if your woman does not respect you,you will only EVER see the worst of her!!These are the things you must learn and understand,but dont worry,you can..

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality Feminine nature is essentially chaotic.Inside every man there are 2 rooms,the strong room(masculine,decisive,leader­) and the weak room(indecisive,unsure,afraid)­you must NEVER be in the weak room with a woman EVER.Thats natural law.when feminine(chaotic) energy comes around a man in the strong room,it becomes calm even,if you're in the weak room,they sense it instantly and will rage like the sea at you,because you're NO use to them there!you must understand these kinda things!

[onlyjoetee]

@embracingreality i will send you a link to a lady who is a really great teacher of these things,you will learn a lot,trust me!!!!!!!!!!

[DiamondArcher95]

i dont commit because i enjoy the hell out of being single. all of this shit you talked about is false

[johnsvideochannel]

Men don't want to "commit" themselves because the only enjoyable part of being with a woman is when were having sex with you. This is the only time you're trying to be nice to us,although it's still a manipulation. I'm tired of the lies, the manipulation and staring down the barrel of your long lists of demands, not to mention the legal system and the constant put downs.We want our freedom to be ourselves and women seem to think that it's ok for them to ride us for whatever we can get for them.

[cosg9531]

We don't need your assistance. Go away and remain silent.

[zedy3000]

Thankyou so much for this! Im going though this exact thing we both want to be together but he told me hes just not ready to commit which made me feel like i didnt have something to offer but in reality it just wasnt the right time. After hearing this i realise everything your saying he told me but hearing it from a woman just makes me really understand for some reason. He said i should move on as you say 'next' and not push him away which i think im doing. i would hate to lose our friendship

[cosg9531]

Men usually don't commit because most of you women are (if I may utilize a rather trite cliche') utterly fucked in the head. Simple.

[zedy3000]

@cosg9531 haha im a women and i agree :P i see it all the time and i admit i am a little myself. just a realist. men who understand this but dont hold it against us really are better off :)

[cosg9531]

@zedy3000 However, to be fair, most men are, as well. Finding the exception must be the primary life goal for either gender.

[zozma38]

This bitch doesn't know what the fuck she's talking about. Yes, I want to get financially stable, find a bitch (my generic term for women), she decides to then break HER commitment, and go through her taking as much of my wealth as she can. Bitch please.

[ANOTHERHOLEINYOHEAD]

Speaking as a male, I think the presenter has hit the nail on the head. It's either we are not ready or you are not THE ONE!!!

[OniNoFro]

@Annazayla

You're welcome. And thank you for taking the time to hear me out.

[OniNoFro]

@Annazayla

Simply put, it's easier to appoint a "fall guy" and who better than guys? In media (TV, Movies, Newsprint, ads, etc.) we are often portrayed as bumbling fools. We "can't commit" or "get it done" or "go to the next level" or "show our feelings" or "we're dogs/scum" etc.

Yet most of these statements are symptoms or greater issues. Issues of blind expectation or obedience etc. which can be dealt with via direct candid communication.

That's why they don't say it.

[OniNoFro]

@Annazayla

Look. I'm not saying men have no issues.  Rather, both participants (y'know: adults) need to be aware of the perceived issues/risks they (as their sex) bring to the table. "Relationship experts" rarely *blatantly* say this because it can alienate potential clients/customers/followers. It means they have to take a hard look at themselves and accept personal fault.

In a culture of 'no-fault', this is anathema but it must be done in order to have something stable and good.

[OniNoFro]

In North America:

Over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. That is the odds of flipping a coin.

Over 70% of all divorces are initiated by women.

In an enivornment where divorce/family courts are predisposed to siding with women, in terms of life and risk management, this is a huge risk for men at any given juncture.

Men aren't afraid of commitment. We initiate over 80% of all contact/relationships/actions with women. We are afraid of being systematically and legally destroyed.

[TheTruthHurts2004]

@OniNoFro

As a women you might ask yourself, why showed I care about men’s issues that OniNoFro points out?

1. You cannot find a male to commit to you. Hence, you cannot find the loving relationship you desire.

2. Do you want to see your sons living in an unfurnished apartment sleeping on the floor because his ex-wife took everything? Because that’s where he will be.

3. Do you want to see your grandkids? You won’t because the ex-wife has them.

Fix the Court System!!!

[OniNoFro]

@TheTruthHurts2004

I'm not sure if you are disagreeing with me as it seems we're saying the same thing, :)

It goes beyond the courts (which are the most severe symptom). Many girls are taught the wedding fantasy and not the reality of marriage/commitment; for *better or worse*. Many girls are also raised w/ a semi-princess complex creating a sense of entitlement in them which becomes resentment later on; girls are coddled.

Compared to boys who are taught reality. So why would we commit to pain

[TheTruthHurts2004]

@OniNoFro

I agree with you 100%. What I’m saying to women is you are not immune to the pain caused by our unjust court system. You suffer because you cannot find an intimate relationship; you suffer with your sons and your grandchildren. We need your help to correct this mess and you have a vested interest in ending the gender war.

[OniNoFro]

@TheTruthHurts2004

Ah. Yes I agree with you! As it stands the systemic damage caused by this boy vs girl nonsense only leads to more damage and resentment. What's interesting is if men argue against something, as it hurts them, we're told to "suck it up" but if women argue against the exact same thing, change occurs.

Currently the simplest solution as a man is to not participate in the thing harming us while also railling against it. Eventually women will side with us and speak up. Simple.

[youroutclassed]

@OniNoFro dude i really agree with you. women sometimes dont understand

[DaveXBTube]

@OniNoFro Not only North America but basically the entire Western world. Men should never commit without a very compelling reason to do so. Women if you don't like it, you are going to have to get the laws overhauled so that you share the risks equally.

[jjtiojohn12]

what about guys who want to commit and girls who dont want to committ?

[Gizellita]

People live for money nowadays it explains everything. How many times did the women said FINANCIALLY ,MONEY, FINANCIALLY and lets face it Im a woman and i know a lots of women giving up on their husbands when hes in FINANCIAL difficulties or he's going to a dark phase and its true sometimes when you see a man staying 4 ,5 years with a women without even getting engaged or making things official i dont think thats a good idea the longer you stay the more chances you have on separating.........

[reevescarva]

the following is from a man ask any of them they will tell you the reason that men wont commit is the goldigger problem once a man was kids he is financelly screwed i ask you who is going to come out worst in a seperation the answer the man sorry girls THERE IS NO REASON FOR A MAN TO COMMIT DISPITE THE ADS YOUR NOT WORTH IT

[Sandman2222]

Women this advise is incorrect..we don't want to commit because we simply don't want to be tied down yet, and we are scared that we will miss the freak train lol

[lainamorena]

wow you have such an amazing energy that is giving me courage inspiration,en honesty at the same time i love your video's and man...your friends are lucky to have you as a friend!

[TheMissingh]

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[Razlo5000]

According to this bitch, the right man is willing to put his entire life and his involvement in his kids lives at complete risk at the drop of a hat with absolutely nothing to gain from it? Thats like buying a lottery ticket for a $0 cash prize. No, scratch that, it would only be the same if the lottery ticket costed half of everything you're worth, nagged you to death, was allowed to abuse you, and falsely accuse you of rape and assault. Do they make lottery tickets with holes in them?

[SilentToe]

@Razlo5000

This made me lol

[Razlo5000]

Question is, why can't WOMEN commit? Over 2/3 of divorce cases are initiated by women. Given the fact men have ZERO reproductive rights, Zero automatic rights to their kids, and run the risk of court ordered child support for kids he can't see and alimony to a woman he no longer loves, what is a single reason a man would WANT to get married? Seriously, somebody answer that.

[ManSpeakOut]

Any man with logic and reason will look at the chance and realizes he is playing against Los Vegas odds, a game designed to where you lose almost all the time.

It does not take a professional gambler to know bad odds when they see it, the only males that take such risk are unaware of them or are too sex driven to give a damn.

I can guarantee you if the laws are changed to make marriage and divorce to be equal in reward and punishment for both sexes, more men will be willing to commit.

[ManSpeakOut]

I was real curious on a woman's explanation on why men do not commit, and as I expected....her explanation is miles off the mark

The truth is that with today's laws, marriage and divorce heavily tip towards women's favor, and at the men's expense.

If there is a 50% your marriage will fail and that your wife will "take you to the cleaners" and drain you of everything. Your house, kids, money, assets. Would you make such risk, any logical person that understands probability and gambling says no.

[LoveForDrama]

Great advice! Thank you! :)

[tashload]

The comments are more spot on the subject than the actual video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[GiantPotato]

@tashload

Of course they are. You can't expect to get reliable information on how the legal system screws men and benefits women in every situation from a woman. That's why men don't want to get married.

There is no longer any benefit for a man to do so. No fault divorce has insured that women can do literally anything including giving birth to other men's children in a marriage and then still being able to take their husband to the cleaners thanks to current laws. No thank you.

[assassinXXnissassa]

this man gets treated like shit for not doing anything woman but giving them all my love, if you ask me too ill send you my story thats so f***ed up that youll say daaaaammmmmmnnnnnnn after reading it all

[DIJV79]

Yes! I'm dieing to get my finances in order so I can get married and lose it all LOL! Thats why the divorce rate in the U.S is past 50% and 70% of divorce are filed by women. 

[overthehillsfaraway9]

Why would a man commit if you aren't frequently giving him blow jobs. The main drive in a man's life is to get the most and highest quality blow jobs he can.

[lilbones509]

you shouldnt get married young live go threw life and experience what it can give you be fore you settle down and choose just the father life

[2crazy4pf]

the answer to the question in the title is simple. we're cautious against entrapment and anything that would entreaten our flexible freedom, space and individuality.

[Fvcky0u2]

just another moronic catty women who got hurt at an early age by a man, they say getting married in your 20's is suicide it produces a know it all feminist, like Kara are u a trained therapist kara? i doubt it, id like to see u last a week in my shoes ,

[dbwheeldon]

Kara I must risk sounding like a jerk for the sake of truth. Men have no phobias of committment men actually desire committment to a woman. What we fear is not the committment but what happens after the woman decides to break HER committment! When a woman decides to break her committment men face a high probability of losing his wealth and his children (if there are children). You often claim that you're an 'expert' on men. What is your premise for such a claim? You know very little about men.

[carina81gr]

is it possible he thinks he is ready and he dosent?i am good case and yet he ended up reject me .and he is divorced 1,5 year ago and he told me he is commit phobe ,and when i said ur not ready why u got me in this story.he said he is ready but he wants a woman to be satisfing argg, i had doupt cause of his divorce and he turned and rejected me??well i know why his ex kicked him!he is such a hassle to deal,she was lets say idepedent woman and yet she dismissed him so..cunclusions all yours..

[WoodGirl14]

A very good point of view. Thank you for your video :)

[onegreeneye]

great wisdom..thanx so much..

[bobtommsncom]

you are real and great in this....good, sensible, understandable, achievable advice......love your stuff...!!

[mack70214]

it's not a commitment issue with us men, it's more of "contentment". a woman says "will you commit to me" and a man says "how much do you love me". to some there is a comparison but to some like myself, it's totally different.

[JamalTY]

I had a baby with a guy that was my first everything but it just did not work out im 21 and going to be dating how do i bring it up that i have a baby to a guy?

[thrilla72]

Well you could just casually bring up child in conversation. For instance "oh you'll never believe what my son did the other day". The flipside is to just be direct and say "Do you have anything against dating single mothers". Your choice. To be honest though, if your child is still young it'd be best to concentrate all your energy into raising them until they can sustain themselves ie. 18 yrs +

It is very damaging for a child to have different men walk in and out of their life.

[robert13camus]

You are screwed. Most guys don't want a girl with a baby in tow. Women will say that a guy who can't handle a woman with a baby is a guy who is not mature enough to be a man. The flip side is that the man doesn't want to be an instant dad and have to be punished for your mistake. They think that you are looking for a guy who can afford to take care of your kid. So it is obvious to a man that you are looking for open wallet.

So get ready for "no calling back" and no real interest. Good luck.

[SpazzDog]

Wisdom really does come with age. I only wish women can learn these things sooner. I want to get married and possibly have kids, so someone 25-35 is my ideal age when looking for a wife.

[pyramidhead138]

like blow up dolls right? speakin of which, you ever heard of Bridezillas? its a tv show about the kind of women that should NEVER get married because their stupid mouthy whores

[gavcat004]

I don't think that all American women should be labeled as a result of some stupid cunt that broke your little heart... why are you watching this anyway?

[pyramidsofmars64]

North American women are only good for casual sex. Selfish, greedy, materialistic, shallow. The list goes on and on.

I've dated Asian women and North American women. No comparison. At all.

[lightpralin]

You're the best!

Thank you very much for all the right things you say!

I kind of got all that inside (in the unconsiousness) but when somebody say it - we realise what's right or wrong and get the whole picture in another perspective.

People like you that helps get better relations are JUST the greatest one!

THANKS ! :)