man no fuh tht bih i aint goin no submit. i make money he make money iz alright. i ain gotta no submit man wht shi is that??? everythang else wuz gud tho. except quitting the job. im wit her on tht vvvv why he gotta be th one wid the job? what if i made more? fuhhh
thanks for letting women know. girls - a girl talking here - listen to him, i am said to be feminist but i agree with those qualities 99% - i only have argues about quitting job. that;s it. listen to him and learn.
Compassion - I am finding that most men do not know how to receive it. When the ish hits the fan in life (and it always does with this economy), most men shut down, block the help out, or insist that "You just don't understand".
I've been married for almost 14 years and this advice rings true, I've had discussions with a friend about women needing to keep themselves up becuase men are visual creatures.. Whether Im going to walmart or a party with my hubby(yes, we are one of the few that party together) I always make sure to look my best(he also does the same). He may make little comments when I get attention but I know he likes it and apriciates that I care enough about myself to look nice when we are together.
I view marriage like I view weight loss.Its easy to lose weight, but to keep it off is the goal. Its easy to get married, but to stay married..hmm, now thats the kicker. Marriage is all nice& cute in the beginning and its easy to be all in love and in each other's faces at first, but when all of that cuteness wears off, hmm, you'd better be damn well ready to accept that fact that you've got to put in work to keep your relationship interesting and fun. Its not going to happen on its on.
I can go on& on about this topic &Ive learned so much about myself in my experience with marriage & coming from a family of lots of women& what we talk& feel about this matter. Its never ending really. Marriage is a work in progress. Its not like you get married and BOOM thats it. No.. you have work to do honey. There are things required of you as a wife. From cooking to cleaning, taking care of the kids, keeping your body right, having that time with God, & so on & so forth.
I dont think that there is anyway to express what Im trying to say without seeming regretful, but I just want to get the message across that its best to choose what you want for yourself instead of aspiring to what others want you to be. In society, we're taught as women that if we dont have a husband that something must be wrong with us& for a percentage of this reason I feel that a lot of women are very eager to have husbands absent the fact that they may not even want marriage to begin with
Looking back, marrying young wasnt something that I was eager to do; my husband& I have known each other since we were kids& at the time, our families were wanting us to get married& pushed for it to happen; dont get me wrong, I love my husband& hes my best friend but at the time, I didnt want to disappoint people and so that was the MAIN reason I went through with it & now Im glad I did, but honestly I wish that I had the time to ask myself what it was that I wanted. Versus pleasing others
Its of extreme importance to know who the hell you are& what the hell you want before you jump into a commitment such as marriage. I cant stress that enough. I always tell people that your life isnt a joke. That none of us should be so careless as to not take the time to be as educated as we can to deal with situations that are unfamiliar with what you've been used to dealing with on a regular basis. Choosing the right partner is INCREDIBLY prudent. If you learn nothing else, choose wisely
I come across so many women who express to me how much they desire to be married& really, this is natural. Even some animals mate for life, but there are certain steps that need to be taken before you can confidently know that you're ready to be a wife. I dont know what people think marriage is& maybe they like what they see in movies or what they've read in romance novels, but honey, its not like that. I believe that people can have what they want, but Its of high priority to prepare oneself
I must admit that in the beginning of my marriage, I had doubts. I felt that I'd made a mistake& rushed into a committment that I wasnt truly ready for. I mean, I was 19 for crying out loud; I hadnt even lived yet. Dont get me wrong, Its worked out for the best, but Lord have mercy when I tell you that I learned so much about myself& my husband through our trying yrs. SMH. Plz, for any woman out there who is interested in marriage, plz for the love of God, know thyself. Have your s*** together
Granted it is a feeling of eagerness I'm sure to want to have someone that you love to become your husband & start a family with and thats great, but being knowledgable about the realities of married life and whats required of you to have a successful union is EXTREMELY vital. I cant emphasize this enough. I was married young at 19& thank GOD that our marriage has lasted 13 yrs thus far, but OMG, when I tell you that marriage is no joke.. I kid you not. There is so very much to be educated about
True talk.. There is SOOO much more that goes into a marriage than just the wedding day& the honeymoon. I dont think that most people get the concept of the fact that the person you marry is who you have made a promise to love& honor for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. I watch these shows on tv & the women are just in love with the wedding gowns& they're so taken with all of the preparations that it seems as if they havent grasped the fact that marriage is probably the biggest decision of your life
This is real talk and I appreciate this so much. I agree on so many levels. People don't want to hear the truth because it hurts. I must say that I am ready. Oh yeah if you need help with the credit issues hit me up. I can help with that. I can help you turn bad credit into good credit or no credit into good credit. I'm the Queen of good credit.
That tit for tat will kill any relationship.I tell my daughters all the time Don't follow the advice of anyone who doesn't have just as much or more to loose if they follow their own advice.
Sorry but I refuse...I mean REFUSE to quit my job for anybody. Couple go through their ups and down if one partner have a job or not. Secondly, women fall a victim in relying solely on a man and not protecting their ends because some men will cut off when they feel like it and us women probably won't have the financial resources to survive.
Women keep your jobs..you will need it just in case. Trust, majority of us women have been through this garbage!
@Greatersend I was listening to a pastor the other day on television and he was talking about how a prenuptial agreement is basically an expectation for a failed marriage. "Woman keep your jobs.. you will need it just in case." I bet I don't have to tell you this but after reading what I said and then what you said it quickly became evident. That sounds just like somebody whose requesting a prenuptial! If you have THAT kind of doubt it's already dead. This speaks to submission. Get that.
@Moneycomethoneday No, I don't get it because if a spouse won't marry you without a mutual agreement to get a prenupt,then what does that tell you? It's a protection over his/her finances. No prenupt, no marriage. Point blank. The marriage will fail regardless because he/she wants to marry into money. Got that?
@Greatersend Let me put it this way. Keeping your job is great. Two incomes.. wonderful. When you add the just in case clause it changes the dynamic. It now can be likened to a prenuptial. There's an underlying inherent distrust there. Whether you show it b4 or during it's the same thing. It's shows a lack of confidence in the partner you are with or getting with. That's all I'm saying. That's a shaky foundation or will become one. You need stability. Distrust/lack of confidence counters that.
"Make it hard for someone to take your man." LOL! Good tips. In a marriage remember to give your all. ALL. You hold back for boyfriends, not husbands. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Great tips. Personally, I stay in the Word, the gym and the cookbook. I love my hubby!
GOOD STUFF! I like this list as well!!! It is about giving up the selfishness & doing what's better for the marriage & ur household & YES KEEP the nosey fam members & bitter single friends out of your marriage!!! Get a journal & write, find the marriage ministry leaders @ ur church & have time to speak w/ other married couples, there will be some outlets :)
Lewis- Oh preach it. It's true. It's true. We as women need to realize that as crazy as relationships can be, but if you want him and he wants you, we need to give a little, have a little more sweet, and stay sexy. Do the sit ups (laughing), make sure you keep you up, and stay smelling sweet.
I agree with you...men and women should really know if marriage is something their ready for..Knowing what you want and what you're not ready for is so important..All women are no wifey material..
I think the best point was not telling people your business who can't help- protect your house! One difference I notice between single girls and married women is that married women dont go spreading their relationship business to thier girlfriends
LOL. Its a good video with a very valid points.I'm waiting for the video for the men cause...som men don't know how to BE married. Also...sometimes women of 2010 need to know its ok to be femine.
@minday83 I totally agree! Some women confuse independent with practically being the man. It's nice to be a little delicate lady every now and then! LOL
its probably cuz h already married and happy with his wife so he must have found wifey material in the one he is with. get some base in ya voice. how can a man say what is wifey material if he does not know what he wants. wish $ mrs. wish
That was a good list, would like young women to hear this. There was no one to help me see what healthy submission is when i was young. The hardest thing to learn has been submission to my husband. It has brought a level of emotional security to our union, we know what we can count on in each other.I want young men to understand how to earn trust and loyalty from their wives with their family leadership.
Well said. I don't care what you do in life. There is always a sacrafice involved. You must give up something to get what you want. A ship doesn't need two captins. We need to communicate and compliment one another often. It's really not easy to stay in a relationship. It takes two people working together. Love truly conquers all.
Good stuff Lewis. Got married this year and now that I am on the other side, I can certainly make a distinction among my friends about who is ready for the type of commitment that marriage brings.
YOU ARE NOT LYING about ANYTHING you've said....at least I don't think you are. I really got a lesson out of "time your attitude."
lkofie 1 month ago
grow a man wrong....LOL, so funny cause it's so true.
thadiscerningdiva 2 months ago
I just love you, everything you say and how you say it! Love it!
AllieEmet 4 months ago
man no fuh tht bih i aint goin no submit. i make money he make money iz alright. i ain gotta no submit man wht shi is that??? everythang else wuz gud tho. except quitting the job. im wit her on tht vvvv why he gotta be th one wid the job? what if i made more? fuhhh
Julia23723 6 months ago 2
thanks for letting women know. girls - a girl talking here - listen to him, i am said to be feminist but i agree with those qualities 99% - i only have argues about quitting job. that;s it. listen to him and learn.
julijakeit 6 months ago
Compassion - I am finding that most men do not know how to receive it. When the ish hits the fan in life (and it always does with this economy), most men shut down, block the help out, or insist that "You just don't understand".
GodsButterflye 8 months ago
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what about cooking most of these women do not know how to cook these days and how foes a mariage survive off of take out
nedtaculer 8 months ago
you are speaking some great knowledge my dear
MsIntellectual08 9 months ago
I've been married for almost 14 years and this advice rings true, I've had discussions with a friend about women needing to keep themselves up becuase men are visual creatures.. Whether Im going to walmart or a party with my hubby(yes, we are one of the few that party together) I always make sure to look my best(he also does the same). He may make little comments when I get attention but I know he likes it and apriciates that I care enough about myself to look nice when we are together.
Tonia682 10 months ago
LOL NICE. My mom made 99% of these mistakes. They are no longer together. And I never blamed my dad.
randomdude5640 11 months ago
I view marriage like I view weight loss.Its easy to lose weight, but to keep it off is the goal. Its easy to get married, but to stay married..hmm, now thats the kicker. Marriage is all nice& cute in the beginning and its easy to be all in love and in each other's faces at first, but when all of that cuteness wears off, hmm, you'd better be damn well ready to accept that fact that you've got to put in work to keep your relationship interesting and fun. Its not going to happen on its on.
whitfield136 11 months ago
I can go on& on about this topic &Ive learned so much about myself in my experience with marriage & coming from a family of lots of women& what we talk& feel about this matter. Its never ending really. Marriage is a work in progress. Its not like you get married and BOOM thats it. No.. you have work to do honey. There are things required of you as a wife. From cooking to cleaning, taking care of the kids, keeping your body right, having that time with God, & so on & so forth.
whitfield136 11 months ago
I dont think that there is anyway to express what Im trying to say without seeming regretful, but I just want to get the message across that its best to choose what you want for yourself instead of aspiring to what others want you to be. In society, we're taught as women that if we dont have a husband that something must be wrong with us& for a percentage of this reason I feel that a lot of women are very eager to have husbands absent the fact that they may not even want marriage to begin with
whitfield136 11 months ago
Looking back, marrying young wasnt something that I was eager to do; my husband& I have known each other since we were kids& at the time, our families were wanting us to get married& pushed for it to happen; dont get me wrong, I love my husband& hes my best friend but at the time, I didnt want to disappoint people and so that was the MAIN reason I went through with it & now Im glad I did, but honestly I wish that I had the time to ask myself what it was that I wanted. Versus pleasing others
whitfield136 11 months ago
Its of extreme importance to know who the hell you are& what the hell you want before you jump into a commitment such as marriage. I cant stress that enough. I always tell people that your life isnt a joke. That none of us should be so careless as to not take the time to be as educated as we can to deal with situations that are unfamiliar with what you've been used to dealing with on a regular basis. Choosing the right partner is INCREDIBLY prudent. If you learn nothing else, choose wisely
whitfield136 11 months ago
I come across so many women who express to me how much they desire to be married& really, this is natural. Even some animals mate for life, but there are certain steps that need to be taken before you can confidently know that you're ready to be a wife. I dont know what people think marriage is& maybe they like what they see in movies or what they've read in romance novels, but honey, its not like that. I believe that people can have what they want, but Its of high priority to prepare oneself
whitfield136 11 months ago
I must admit that in the beginning of my marriage, I had doubts. I felt that I'd made a mistake& rushed into a committment that I wasnt truly ready for. I mean, I was 19 for crying out loud; I hadnt even lived yet. Dont get me wrong, Its worked out for the best, but Lord have mercy when I tell you that I learned so much about myself& my husband through our trying yrs. SMH. Plz, for any woman out there who is interested in marriage, plz for the love of God, know thyself. Have your s*** together
whitfield136 11 months ago
Granted it is a feeling of eagerness I'm sure to want to have someone that you love to become your husband & start a family with and thats great, but being knowledgable about the realities of married life and whats required of you to have a successful union is EXTREMELY vital. I cant emphasize this enough. I was married young at 19& thank GOD that our marriage has lasted 13 yrs thus far, but OMG, when I tell you that marriage is no joke.. I kid you not. There is so very much to be educated about
whitfield136 11 months ago
True talk.. There is SOOO much more that goes into a marriage than just the wedding day& the honeymoon. I dont think that most people get the concept of the fact that the person you marry is who you have made a promise to love& honor for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. I watch these shows on tv & the women are just in love with the wedding gowns& they're so taken with all of the preparations that it seems as if they havent grasped the fact that marriage is probably the biggest decision of your life
whitfield136 11 months ago
kmsl at the beginning. but its crazy cause everything checked off, yet im still single
AfroCentricBarbie 11 months ago
hahhaha a Man Farm, to grow men lmao!!!
MizJsaid 1 year ago
This is real talk and I appreciate this so much. I agree on so many levels. People don't want to hear the truth because it hurts. I must say that I am ready. Oh yeah if you need help with the credit issues hit me up. I can help with that. I can help you turn bad credit into good credit or no credit into good credit. I'm the Queen of good credit.
misstorsha 1 year ago
Men take that "submit" word out of context.. which is why women think so negatively of it
ambi101 1 year ago
this is true wisdom
LaShance31 1 year ago
I haven't been able to get on in a while but Ahhh this video was right on time!
mswvk 1 year ago
LOL @ "couldn't find a man on a man farm and she could grow some herself"
mishyprizes 1 year ago
That tit for tat will kill any relationship.I tell my daughters all the time Don't follow the advice of anyone who doesn't have just as much or more to loose if they follow their own advice.
darlynasanford 1 year ago
Geeze -- who are these women you speak of?
bjeaneen 1 year ago
Ooh please preach!!! (So glad to be true wife material! Lol)
NikkiAngelesVista 1 year ago
Sorry but I refuse...I mean REFUSE to quit my job for anybody. Couple go through their ups and down if one partner have a job or not. Secondly, women fall a victim in relying solely on a man and not protecting their ends because some men will cut off when they feel like it and us women probably won't have the financial resources to survive.
Women keep your jobs..you will need it just in case. Trust, majority of us women have been through this garbage!
Greatersend 1 year ago 2
@Greatersend I was listening to a pastor the other day on television and he was talking about how a prenuptial agreement is basically an expectation for a failed marriage. "Woman keep your jobs.. you will need it just in case." I bet I don't have to tell you this but after reading what I said and then what you said it quickly became evident. That sounds just like somebody whose requesting a prenuptial! If you have THAT kind of doubt it's already dead. This speaks to submission. Get that.
Moneycomethoneday 1 year ago
@Moneycomethoneday No, I don't get it because if a spouse won't marry you without a mutual agreement to get a prenupt,then what does that tell you? It's a protection over his/her finances. No prenupt, no marriage. Point blank. The marriage will fail regardless because he/she wants to marry into money. Got that?
Greatersend 1 year ago
@Greatersend Let me put it this way. Keeping your job is great. Two incomes.. wonderful. When you add the just in case clause it changes the dynamic. It now can be likened to a prenuptial. There's an underlying inherent distrust there. Whether you show it b4 or during it's the same thing. It's shows a lack of confidence in the partner you are with or getting with. That's all I'm saying. That's a shaky foundation or will become one. You need stability. Distrust/lack of confidence counters that.
Moneycomethoneday 1 year ago
"Make it hard for someone to take your man." LOL! Good tips. In a marriage remember to give your all. ALL. You hold back for boyfriends, not husbands. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Great tips. Personally, I stay in the Word, the gym and the cookbook. I love my hubby!
SPARKWISDOM 1 year ago
GOOD STUFF! I like this list as well!!! It is about giving up the selfishness & doing what's better for the marriage & ur household & YES KEEP the nosey fam members & bitter single friends out of your marriage!!! Get a journal & write, find the marriage ministry leaders @ ur church & have time to speak w/ other married couples, there will be some outlets :)
Msmissy1102 1 year ago
this is a good video, everything you said is true.
LoveGTV 1 year ago
Lewis- Oh preach it. It's true. It's true. We as women need to realize that as crazy as relationships can be, but if you want him and he wants you, we need to give a little, have a little more sweet, and stay sexy. Do the sit ups (laughing), make sure you keep you up, and stay smelling sweet.
LaSenoraG 1 year ago
Preach! Preach!
LaSenoraG 1 year ago
Awesome advice! Very real!
blackfemale1971 1 year ago
great insightful and well spoken advice. thanks for this video
chescaleigh 1 year ago
beautiful!!!!
Nette4bodysoul 1 year ago
I agree with you...men and women should really know if marriage is something their ready for..Knowing what you want and what you're not ready for is so important..All women are no wifey material..
dwilliams171 1 year ago
Love ya Lewis..dont be so hard on your wife when u get one okay???LOL!
GoldenLarkVoice 1 year ago
Love ya Lewis..dont be so hard on your wife when u get on okay???LOL!
GoldenLarkVoice 1 year ago
Co-sign @glamdiva510 :) BTW this is a DOPE video! :)
JAHZIGIRL 1 year ago
I agree with the video, the key is to find the right person to give yourself too. Thats the hard part lol
blkchynadoll7 1 year ago
LMAO @ "we done had a conversation half a day about how somebody used to do some shit that ain't nobody done recently"
SDot2385 1 year ago 2
right on point lewis!
sammyc597 1 year ago
I love this video!! Baby you aint never lied!!!!! This is real dude! :)
bscottlove2 1 year ago
Amen!
speerrituall1 1 year ago
Been married a few years now...all of this is true, and it's so important to submit to the right man, not someone ill fitted for you.
winterssoulstyce 1 year ago
these negros today are little boys
EyeWearMySunglasses 1 year ago
I think the best point was not telling people your business who can't help- protect your house! One difference I notice between single girls and married women is that married women dont go spreading their relationship business to thier girlfriends
nikki256 1 year ago
I can get with that, now where's my man?
dnb200 1 year ago 3
Are you an Aries?
DownsAngel 1 year ago
Chuuch!!!! Truer words have never been spoken...time for a lil self evaluation. Loved it!!
MsSweetestThing 1 year ago 2
Chuuuurch! Great video, L!
1prettytoya 1 year ago
home this is the truth. wow you broke it down very well. this is the basic that every man looks for.
NeoSoulAngel 1 year ago
LOL. Its a good video with a very valid points.I'm waiting for the video for the men cause...som men don't know how to BE married. Also...sometimes women of 2010 need to know its ok to be femine.
minday83 1 year ago
@minday83 I totally agree! Some women confuse independent with practically being the man. It's nice to be a little delicate lady every now and then! LOL
TheModelNurse 1 year ago
Anyone who dislike this man's videos is a freaking idot, moron, jack @^# and all of the above!!!! Church!!!
krysroc 1 year ago 21
I agree..wow do I agree!!
blklacquer 1 year ago
Encore!
VMJakaThree 1 year ago
The main thing is to be wifey material is to be SELFLESS (goes for men too)
There are MAny things that fall under this main quality but the main attribute is
being Selfless. If you are selfless, that means you also have all the fruits of the spirit (or most)
theLearner 1 year ago
I agree with everything you said
johanna8379 1 year ago
Shoot, submission feels good if you do it right with your man!
WellDamn24 1 year ago
PREACH LEW....I LOVE THIS MAN!!!!! LOL!!!!
mzyorkie 1 year ago
good advice!
scgirl791 1 year ago
here are my stats...
I am everything you mentioned....
Married
TO THE WRONG MAN!!!!!!!!
Trendolyn78 1 year ago
its probably cuz h already married and happy with his wife so he must have found wifey material in the one he is with. get some base in ya voice. how can a man say what is wifey material if he does not know what he wants. wish $ mrs. wish
WISHTV1 1 year ago
u should start writing books lol
nmosby1990 1 year ago 4
That was a good list, would like young women to hear this. There was no one to help me see what healthy submission is when i was young. The hardest thing to learn has been submission to my husband. It has brought a level of emotional security to our union, we know what we can count on in each other.I want young men to understand how to earn trust and loyalty from their wives with their family leadership.
6wasuri2 1 year ago
you should print this list out somewhere, this is legit
davisk1125 1 year ago
Well said. I don't care what you do in life. There is always a sacrafice involved. You must give up something to get what you want. A ship doesn't need two captins. We need to communicate and compliment one another often. It's really not easy to stay in a relationship. It takes two people working together. Love truly conquers all.
zheahra 1 year ago
AMEN!
andsanp 1 year ago
that fabric store analogy was terrible...... but i respect the overall message
davisk1125 1 year ago
@davisk1125 HATER....that shit was funny
XtinaBlaque 1 year ago
Good stuff Lewis. Got married this year and now that I am on the other side, I can certainly make a distinction among my friends about who is ready for the type of commitment that marriage brings.
VelvetElegance 1 year ago