Trust After An Affair - Surviving Infidelity In Marriage

[BluntedWax]

Sorry* not forgiven

[Ginasarah2009]

@BluntedWax Exactly 

[BluntedWax]

In order for a person to be truly forgiven, they must lose something or someone of equal or greater value...

[BluntedWax]

I'm aware this doesn't apply with everyone to this degree. However, it still does apply to everyone but it's a matter of how much.

[BluntedWax]

I know for myself, once u cheat on me and lose my trust It's almost as unforgiving as murdering someone. Regardless what any one thinks, once a person destroys ur trust ur life is forever changed. Anything from social up to business interaction will never be the same as it was before. Whether u realize it or not somewhere in the back of ur head is where this new dout lays. With time this dout will increasingly grow larger changing ur perception on how u view the world.

[LU2013Aziz]

"OOOOOOh interesting!!" fake

[lanimar3417]

I don't know but if someone cheats on you, I think that person doesn't like you anymore and is trying to find someone else. He or she will not cheat on you if the person still likes you, pure and simple and if ever the cheat wants to be back its because he or she is just tied up with marriage. There is a saying by cheaters in our country, no one want to eat the same food all those years. I guess that how cheaters are.

[christofer6]

A young woman once told me, "The guy who left me and never told me why, I still think about and smile. The guy who betrayed my trust and gave me a hundred reasons why, I still think about and want to shoot."

[christofer6]

You can see a relationship/marriage counselor or therapist, together, as a couple. Or some do it individually. Whatever works. As far as I've seen, almost any alternative is better than betraying the trust of someone who has committed to you, who has invested in you. If you feel that nothing else will do, leave. Just walk away. It's better than damaging someone you've told "I love you".

[christofer6]

I second that emotion: DON'T CHEAT. Just don't even put yourself in a position where something could 'happen'. It's one of the most damaging things you can do to harm a person, mentally and emotionally. There are better choices: communication; relationship counselor; or just walk away. You can walk away, clean, and that person could still trust you, respect you, love you. "We can trust without love and be content; but love without trust is just pain." -- Samuel T. Heathington

[earthmagekl7]

why is there a need for privacy when you don't have anything to hide?

[TheYubsu]

@rachelmattin your right but not always the couple will confront the fact that something is wrong in the relationship.an trust me there are many crisis couples can go through but affairs are the true essence and challenge to continue the marriage

[mcgoku30]

what if the spouse got cought??? the infidelity was not admited, it was discovered ... why waste more time with a spouse that spat on all your sacrifices ? I am desperatly seeking an answer to this ...

[bornblond9gb]

Your exactly right why risk everything for someone who doesn't care anything about you....this happened to me years back and the person my ex left me for left him only a few years later after 2 more children and now he's living with a woman and taking care of kids that aren't even his....tell me where's the logic...Cheat with your wife it's safer and cheaper!

[titoferni29]

I am going to buy her book

[marsheeden]

I agree..

[jailarson]

I have an idea. DON'T CHEAT ON YOUR SPOUSE. 30 minutes of sweating and swapping bodily fluids with someone is not worth the giant pain in the ass when your spouse finds out.

[xXGaticaXx]

amen to that

[ubastibastet]

@jailarson No kidding -- there are some people who have a "Problem" with that rule that they teach you in the 3rd grade -- "KEEP YOUR HANDS AND OTHER BODY PARTS TO YOURSELF!!"