What's it going to take to get someone to listen?

[abortedsoul]

I'm glad to witness your struggling, as weird as that sounds. I wish I could say something to make it better or help you out or something, but the only tool I have is to witness your struggle and wish you well. If you need to talk, I'm around.

[EmilyElzbth]

Thanks! I know you are.. :o)

[hoomelemele]

why is he being evaluated? sounds like you have a 'boy', kill-maim-destroy, its in their genes. You could revert to the old fashioned spankins. I believe the younger the child the more you have to be physical w/them until their reasoning abilities kick in, sometimes just lifting the little buggers off thier feet by their shirt and saying NO conveys the message that you are the boss. of course some don't believe in touching, my kids are grown & well adjusted, and still love me.

[yankeegurl62]

If he was a "normal" kid, yeah, a spanking would work, but with a 'these' kids, it dosen't work...my son is ten, I have holes in my walls, he attacks his sister, destroys his toys, they don't understand what they do, and how it effects others around. It's exhausting, and frustrating.....

[ralpheadsuz]

I haven't read the comments (again) but my suggestion is that you learn by experience to child proof... more specifically Aiden-proof your home. Our house is covered in gates and locks, and very little furniture (because Ezra used it as a jungle gym). emailing you...

[Elaina43]

This just broke my heart... I realized that I hadn't seen your vids in QUITE a while... I unsubscribed to a bunch of people a while back in a YT fit of isolationism. But I had to resub. Peace, Emily

[EmilyElzbth]

thanks Elaina..I have not been making videos because I've been busy in NY and busy before that. Things are so much better now..Aidan's improving daily! It's amazing what the right help can do..

[Elaina43]

That is truly fantastic!! I saw your Halloween vid and was thrilled.

[jeffreysquirrel]

interesting to learn about what goes on behind closed doors. i think its all the sweets and sugars in his diet, when i was young i used to be similar, many sweets have 'E flavourings' also which some people react funny too. his behavious is because he has to burn off the sugars and adrenaline pumping through his system. remove all the sugars. see if it helps.

[EmilyElzbth]

Hey again! I've replied to your message but I'll type it hear in case anyone else is reading the comments. I've always been careful about how many sweets my kids get...especially with Aidan having the behavior issues he has.

[Makkoblue]

mORMO BY THE WAY IS MORONI BETTER KNOWN AS NEPHI UNTILL THE BOOK OF MORMON CHANGED IT TO MORONI. mORONI COMES AS A ANGEL OF LIGHT SO THERE FORE WE HEAR FROM THE BIBLE THAT THE ANGEL OF LIGHT IS THE DEVIL. SO THERE FORE MORONI MUST BE A TRICK OR IT IS STATING THAT IT ALSO IS THE DEVIL WHO APPEARS TO JOSEPH SMITH AS THE ANGEL OF LIGHT OR JOSEPH SMITH SECRETLY WAS A SATANI WORSHIPER?

[Makkoblue]

iN ORDER FOR AIDEN TO HAVE THE THIRD POWER HE MUST CALL UPON MORMO AND SAY I AM NOT WORTHY HELP ME!

[Makkoblue]

eACH OF Aiden Wifes well love him and adore him.

Aiden shall be declared a prince to the people.

He shall conquer the muslims with peace and bring joy to the jews yeah for aiden and if the jews fight aiden he shall win lol hurray for Aiden.

[Makkoblue]

Aiden might become a mormon he has the temper as one so there for he shall worship dave mathews cause he is a god like joseph smith lol. Aiden well mary five wifes.

[EmilyElzbth]

Hell that's just more Grandchildren for me to love!

[Makkoblue]

You know if we listen to God we have less proablems then listen to fucking mormons. By the way identify abstract as a dam nmormon lol.

[Makkoblue]

Mormons are good people to a point christians can be the same way ones who call them selfes christians i guess makes them christian? But do these christians have faith or they have doubts?

[Makkoblue]

lo jeywolf howl to the moon!

There are two gods a mormon god and a christian God.

The mormon god has three and is considered the god head. The christian has one and is considered not the God head but the father the son and the holy spirit in one. No where is there two men lol only one man.

[EmilyElzbth]

If he needs medication...and I mean truely needs it (whichI don't believe he does) I will agree to it but not until EVERYTHING else has been tried...and trust me I mean EVERYTHING! I've seen the difference that very basic therapy ideas can make...

[abstractmisfit]

Emily..you dont need to listen to that crap.

You are a good parent, and I am positive that you have thought of diet etc without being preached to by people like this.

[EmilyElzbth]

Hello again abstract! Thanks for your positive comments. As I've replied above, I am careful about the amount of sweets Aidan gets and am indeed thinking of putting him on a gluten-free, casein-free diet. I welcome gladly welcome criticism as I know we all have faults, but I do not let the banter from people like the one above bother me. :o)

[Makkoblue]

You can also turn to God maybe something you should of tried before and maybe you wouldnt have so many problems you do now lol.

[EmilyElzbth]

Really? Let me think on that one...*pfft*

[ralpheadsuz]

EE, *pfft* good one.

[Makkoblue]

Just so you know your son does not need medication if he is hitting the dog. How much junkfood is in his diet?

Does he eat a lot of sweets? Just so you know common fact most kids get hyper and has been proven by too many sweets. You could be responsible of making your kis a diabetic or hyperglycemia's it can happen.

Stop serving him so many sweets and watch his behavior change toward his pets he does not need medication.

[EmilyElzbth]

I NEVER said I was going to put him on medication and I am VERY careful about how many sweets Aidan gets.

[Makkoblue]

I think you worship people and not God.

you quoted dave mathews and gave him credit for a line that is not his Jesus used this line there fore i thought the people should know where dave mathews got that line from thanks.

[EmilyElzbth]

Hummm.... well I've heard the quote in a Dave Matthews song.. I was unaware that Jesus said it but surely you must realize that Jesus said many things and well, sorry I cannot read them all.

[abstractmisfit]

Has Aidan always been this way with your dogs?

[EmilyElzbth]

Yes pretty much from a very young age.

[EmilyElzbth]

He is NOT on medication.... and will not be if I have anything to say about it. My husband took the glass out the day after this happened, I insisted and insisted we take it out that night but he didn't listen. The next day it started falling out.. he listened then!

[dwype]

=)

[Haynes1994]

Oh honey, I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. ((Hugs)) Call me if you need to talk. I'm here for you.

Honey, most Asperger's and Autistic kids are brilliant! It sounds like he meets all the criteria for that. Remember, my friend Tam works with Autistic kids, and she's happy to talk with you.

[EmilyElzbth]

Oh yeah he's def. brillant. I love him just as he is but I really worry about him getting the help needed to prepare of Kindergarten. I may take you up on that offer.

[nihilisia]

Does he have aspergers?? (You arent 100% sure, right?) Maybe some adult aspies could help you figure out how to deal with his behavior. That seems tough

[EmilyElzbth]

We thought he did for a while until someone pointed out that children with Aspbergers don't normally have language delays as severe as what Aidan's are. Of course it's case by case with such things so it's always possible. That's how he seems to act though.. like a child with Aspb. but with language delays.

[mredddogg]

Have you considered homeschooling him? Some special children do better at home with one on one schooling. I homeschool my son and it's the best thing I have ever done. I could never imagine sending him to regular school. Just a thought. Love ya darlin, Beth

[EmilyElzbth]

Funny you say this.. I mention homeschooling in the orginal vid but had to cut it out for length. I have considered it...but only will seriously consider it until after i see how he does in regular school (he's in pre school right now). From what his teachers say, he does well in school and enjoys it. I just don't feel like it's adequate enough for preparing him for Kindergarten.

[FantasticBabblings]

I assume your husband is out of the home more, so he probably is not confronted with everything you are. How could he see all that you see? I am ever impressed by the passion with which mothers will fight for their children. I salute you with a belated happy Mother's Day.

[FantasticBabblings]

Your agony over this is heartbreaking. It seems to be a neurological problem and not any kind of failure of parenting. You seem smart enough to have tried anything I could suggest and more, but I'll take a try. Is there a medical school near your community? Sometimes medical school faculty are more willing to take on a unique challenge that other doctors will push aside.

[EmilyElzbth]

There is in fact! One of the top in the country.. the referral that's been in for four months is through a program that is through this school! I've called them six times, I could call again but that just frustrates me to no end. My mother has called as has our doctor. You leave a messge and they call you back and say "The doctor has to review his file!" *baaah* Thanks though :o)

[FantasticBabblings]

The frustration never ends.

[EmilyElzbth]

I hear that! I'm prepared to fight for him tooth and nail. Thing that makes it really difficult is that I don't think my husband really sees where Aidan is (or isn't). He says he does, but I don't believe he really does. Not blaming him, it's difficult to deal with.

[AberdeenSoldier]

Wow! I understand how hard a situation your in. Just know that there people out there that are in simular situations that your in and hopefully you can call these groups either by phone and or online who can give you the emotional support that you need to help you so you don't go past your breaking point. Good luck.-Kurt

[Peter7777t]

Is there any way you can engage his intellect and thereby divert him into less physical activity? If he understands his letters perhaps you could interest him in a book with pictures and words that he could learn to read with you?

[EmilyElzbth]

I have tried to distract him with reading, writing, coloring, drawing, movies, anything... if I try to have him sit and read or write with me he just kicks and fights. He wants to GO GO GO and like I said in the vid. it's like he just needs to get it out of his system. It's difficult but we're semi-managing it. IT might not be ideal but at least for the most part, I am able to get everyone safe and keep him safe. This time I wasn't.

[Peter7777t]

That's such a dilemma Emily, I often think of you and the stress you are under. I'm trying to think of short term solutions and the only thing that comes to mind is to throw out the toys that enable him to do serious damage. That little car is the obvious example but I'm sure there are other toys and objects that he has access to and that can be tossed out or placed in a locked drawer.

[EmilyElzbth]

Hello Peter! It's interesting you say this as I told my husband that I think it's time we just need to get rid of these toys all together. Any toy cars, shopping baskets, etc. have been banned to the garage and are for outdoor use only. It's very hard though because we do have our two year old daughter who plays with these things fine and wants to have them in the house to play with as there is plenty of room for that.

[corkytara]

sorry love x

[EmilyElzbth]

Thanks :) We're dealing with it.. just frustrating as hell! I need to vent about it every so often!