I am so happy somebody is talking about this! I agree with you 100%. I think sex education should be about safety (I mean besides the overly discussed STD issues, there are other problems), trust and how to reach an orgasm (a lot of women don't)...
@iaffe Thank you! Do read my (very short, very cheap!) TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', available on iTunes & Amazon - and look out for makelovenotporndottv launching in March...I think you'll like it :)
Homosexual activists understand the power of words.
Please visit my channel to watch a one-minute video clip in which popular atheist author Richard Dawkins admits that homosexual activists "hijacked the word 'gay'".
The word "homosexual" is more appropriate and accurate because it, unlike the word "gay", actually describes the behavior/attraction/relationship being discussed.
The word "gay" helps homosexual activists push their agenda.
some people do have sex just like in porn movies, just cos this woman doesnt, doesnt mean porn is unrealistic.
there HAS to be some sort of pressure on the clit ? what a load of shit.
porn doesnt claim its always real, for all people, it just is what it is. yet this woman sets up a website claiming to be real, and the example she puts up is clearly false.
@mikesomething Many thanks for your feedback. Please do check out the 'About' page of the site to see just some of the many emails I've received in the 3 years since launching MakeLoveNotPorn, from young & old, male & female, that demonstrate why this is an issue & it's not just me :) Also, please see my apology/response to @jhop9898 a few comments below re the clit screen :) Pl email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom, v happy to discuss further on phone or Skype - many thanks.
@dogliker2 Well, the difference with me is that I'm pro-porn, not anti-. The issue I am tackling with MakeLoveNotPorn is not porn; it's the lack in our society of an open healthy dialogue around sex and porn, that would enable people to bring a real-world mindset to the viewing of what is artificial entertainment. If you boiled my message down to one thing, it would be purely and simply 'Talk about it'. :)
@cindygallop Yeah, I soon realised this after watching the whole talk. Apologies. Still what I meant (and clearly didn't say) was that what similarities I saw with you and her is that men (predominantly young boys) are being taught this rather brutalised version of masculinity through hardcore sex. “What hope if there for [his] natural sexuality to develop when he has been trained in hard-core misogyny?” But yes, I agree with you ENTIRELY and I love the message you are sending :) Excellent work!
@dogliker2 Thank you! Although I would just stress that MakeLoveNotPorn is a gender-equal proposition - girls/women are equally impacted by their own porn-watching when it acts as default sex ed, in different but equally unfortunate ways. Check out the 'About' page of site for examples, & my short TED e-book (available on iTunes/Amazon) 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', which I think you'll enjoy :)
Not every woman needs clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. You can give a girl an orgasm just by sucking on her nipples if she's turned on enough. Obviously every woman is different and this only works on a fraction of them.
@jhop9898 You're absolutely right - since I launched MakeLoveNotPorn three years ago, I've had a number of women correct me on this one - including one woman who can orgasm just through thinking about it (am deeply envious, asked for tips but this would appear to be a God-given gift :) I'll be correcting this in the next iteration of MLNP - look out for makelovenotporndottv launching this spring. Many thanks.
@cindygallop You're welcome. I was surprised that a girl could an orgasm that way too. I wasn't trying to give her one, I just couldn't leave her breasts alone ;)
And nice website. Not enough people realize sex is a healthy and fun part of life. Good luck with your mental orgasms. John
I do not think this is a reasonable representation of people she talks about, and it feels like she's just been interacting with a very skewed demographic.
@WildfireKitsune Actually, I launched MakeLoveNotPorn 3 years ago based on personal experience, and had no idea then of the extraordinary response it would get. I have over the intervening years had thousands of emails and conversations that demonstrate how widespread this experience is for male and female, young and old, all around the world (I am regularly asked to translate MLNP into different languages which I have not been able to afford to do as yet)...
@WildfireKitsune Please do go to the 'About' page on the site to see just some of the emails I get, and you can read about many other responses and other people observing and addressing this in my short TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' available on Amazon and iTunes. Very happy to discuss further on phone or Skype - do email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom - many thanks.
@cindygallop Actually, it's disingenuious to make it sound or seem like every male under 30 somehow believes porn is the norm, when anything but is true. I'm not saying there isn't the odd person who fits your criteria, but you classified an entire /generation/ of people as doing this. That's wrong, that's insulting, and you are incorrect.
@WildfireKitsune Actually, I do always try to make it clear that a) while MakeLoveNotPorn was inspired by my own personal experience, what it addresses certainly doesn't characterize ALL the men I date, and b) MLNP is gender-equal - porn as defaul sex ed impacts women as much as men. Unfortunately 4 minutes is very short for a TED talk & it wasn't possible to go into a lot of detail there. I apologize if you found what I said insulting, that was definitely not my intention at all. I would love..
@WildfireKitsune ..to talk to you in person. Please do email cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom so we can set up a phone or Skype call and I can apologize to you in person and explain in detail the nuances of all of this and why I'm doing what I'm doing. Please do also read the emails on the 'About' page of the site - I would much rather other people spoke to their own experiences than me :) Many thanks.
This talk makes me quite uneasy, especially the bit about girls being too afraid to tell their boyfriends that they don't want them to do something, cause I can totally imagine that happening all the time.
@Yaarrr Do check out the 'About' page on the website to see just a few of the emails I receive every day from young and old, male and female, from all around the world, that demonstrate what you reference - and you might be interested to read my (v short, v cheap!) TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' available on Amazon and iTunes. Many thanks for your feedback.
20-something young men who are into 50+ women have a fetish they want to fulfill so I'm not surprised they are more porn-influenced when they have sex with you Cindy. I'm not disagreeing with your argument completely, but the type of men you have sex with may affect your ideas about young men's attitudes towards sex.
@Tomasito261 Actually, I'm extremely selective about whom I date & only date utterly lovely younger men - you can read in more detail about my own experiences & responses to MakeLoveNotPorn in my TED book on iTunes & Amazon, 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact On Human Behavior' - very short, very cheap! :) Please do also check out the About page on makelovenotporndotcom for just some of the emails I get that demonstrate why this is an issue. No older-woman fetish going on here :)
@cindygallop I can accept that it's an issue, but the idea that an entire generation of young men are unable to tell the difference between porn sex and reality doesn't match up with my or friends' experiences, and a survey would probably find otherwise. And I'm sure you date some great blokes who think you're excellent company, but I still reckon they 'have a thing' about the older lady and that could lead to fantasy-based sex.
@Tomasito261 Delighted to hear not an issue with you & your friends! The emails on 'About' page of site are only a few of thousands of responses I have received since I launched MLNP nrly 3 years ago (incl professionals/experts reaching out too to confirm) Pl email cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom, wd love to schedule Skype/phone call to discuss & also to share more detail about my personal sex life & the men I date :) as no, what you say is not accurate (and, ahem, I should know :) Many thanks.
Next time you tell someone you're warning them of offensive language and to plug their ears, don't then direct them to a website, to where, if they did plug there ears and didn't hear you, that they are then reading on the website the exact terminology that you had them plug their ears to not hear. This reduces your credibility.
@cmeduck Actually I was specifically asked to provide that interpolation in my talk by the TED conference organizers for the benefit of the audience at TED 2009. I'm so sorry you feel it damages my credibility. The website itself carries a 'click here to enter if you're over 18' warning that is standard for XXX-rated sites and acts as a cue to the nature of the content, so that anyone likely to be offended by it is alerted before entering and can choose not to. Many thanks for your feedback.
@atheist382 There are many reasons why both women and men work in porn. I have a lot of friends in the porn industry (many of whom I met when they reached out on their own initiative to say how much they support MakeLoveNotPorn) who are professional, dedicated and enjoy and take pride in what they do, just like professionals in other fields. Unfortunately society demonizes the industry in generalized terms - it is as complex and wide-ranging as any other industry sector.
This woman is fucking funny. Its refreshing to see an older woman who is comfortable talking about things like this and admitting what most people keep secret. Hey Cindy, I'm 24 and I think you are sexy. How about a date?
Hmm... I expected to find myself insulted or annoyed in some way at this, but actually, I was not. Come to think of it, I can't remember ever not liking a TED presentation. Will visit the website for some amusement (oh okay, and probably some education too :D). Confidence in a lady is always attractive and as long as a woman doesn't consider her age, I don't either... so kudos to you, Cindy, for feeling younger than your age, in all ways. :D Oh and thanks for visiting the youTubez. :)
Cindy, i do totally agree with your point that real sex education has always been missing from our puritanical society but i think this is only a symptom of a much larger crisis of philosophy and values. learning about emotional IQ, relationships, sex are the most important parts o growing up and they are totally ignored in favor of a strict standard curriculum full of bullshit which any truly interested student can read in a book. you cant learn about human relationships from a book.
Cindy, there is plenty of pornography with loving, passionate, real world sex that appeals to both men and women and can even enrich and encourage exploration and connection. the fact that guys in the porns you deride have 12 in dicks should give away that its not the "real world". and that most porn out there is crap reflects the mediocrity of po culture in general. it should come as no surprise that our sex ed sucks when ALL our education (and philosophy) is mind numbing, ignorant, PC drivel.
@bnsomin Totally agree. Alas, when you are young, horny and searching online for anything to do with sex, it's pretty hard to make your way to that past everything else, and if your parents are too embarrassed to talk about sex, your school doesn't teach sex ed, and you've never seen anyone else's erect penis, you don't know it's not 'the real world' :) Do check out the 'About' page on the site to see the emails I get that demonstrate why this is an issue - many thanks.
@cindygallop cool, looking forward to your work, I will check out your site. I would definitely like to see a more in depth ted talk from you. I wish i had this kind of education in school or anywhere as a teenager.
@guyboy625 I'm taking MakeLoveNotPorn forwards with a rather ambitious objective - to make real-world sex socially acceptable and socially shareable. Check out makelovenotporn dottv when it launches in spring 2012 :)
@Capriciou5 Nervous laughter. As one Twitterer said at the time, 'Probably the first time the words 'come on my face' had been uttered on the TED stage several times in rapid succession.' :)
I wish the adolescent CD/mental health treatment facilities I work at could utilize your web site to present this information to our clients. Unfortunately our currently repressive and litigious society won't allow it. Thank you for leading the charge on this issue.
@iiKArMii So sorry - it's my earrings - will never wear them for public speaking again - have been apologizing at regular intervals all through this comment stream.....:)
Anyone else find it rather irritating that she is saying all this stuff as if it's universal? People do not like the same stuff, and I can promise you that people enjoy stuff that she seems to believe no one does like.
@iheartwalle Do tell me how I should do that if the camera is focused on her the entire time, I'm really quite curious. She can say whatever she wants in her slides, it's what flows out of her mouth that is important.
@theoriginalhegs94 Actually, I don't 'believe no one does like'. If you check out the website, you'll see that all it's saying is that some people like stuff, some people don't - and if you take a look at the 'About' page, you'll see some of the emails that indicate why this is an issue, and why even that seemingly very straightforward point needs to be made :) Many thanks. Yours, Irritating (didn't mean to be, honest!:)
As someone who has been teaching sex workshops for about 10 years, Ms. Gallop's effort is long overdue. I laud it. It brings to the fore the matter of communication in sex, something that's been suppressed for the past 20 or so years by the crazies. It's long past time when we opened the doors, and really learned to TALK openly about sex, and not hide in shame or, worse, draw from sources that, while they are occasionally entertaining, rarely provide more than a window into an imaginary world.
@cindygallop No problem :) The talk was good though and important. I used to be very annoyed with hearing my roommate have sex with his girlfriend in a way I knew couldn't be anything but painful for her. I'll visit your site
So I went to the site, thinking why not, maybe I'll learn something. But as a nineteen year old male I have to say that everything there is pretty much common sense. "Some women don't like gagging on your cock." No shit? You don't say?
@307am I'm seriously delighted you don't need MakeLoveNotPorn. If you check out the emails on the 'About' page you'll see why unfortunately other people do :(
@colinag6 Alexander McQueen black leather biker pants, darling, although knowing him, I'm sure the BJ comfort factor wasn't far from his mind when he designed them :)
@AbhishekNaik24 Heh heh. You'd be surprised how many twenty-something kids wanna stick their dicks inthis particular crazy, darling. :) Seriously though, please check out the 'About' page on the website to see why this is an issue - you don't have to take my word for it at all. Many thanks - and if you'd like to discuss further, please do message me privately on here. Yours, Annoying Woman :)
@cindygallop I'm really sorry, i did'nt mean to offend you, it was just a horrible joke. I agree. this is a quite serious issue especially affecting the younger 'consumers'. I can relate to this because even i'm a twenty someting troll ;-)
@miyor123 Actually, darling, it has nothing to do with my generation and everything to do with yours :) Please do check out the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom and you'll see just a few of the many emails I receive every single day that demonstrate why this is an issue. Many thanks. Yours, Bitch. :)
@amntsyy I'm so sorry to hear that. What do you particularly find horrible about it? (Apart from my earring banging against the mic, which I can't apologize enough for :)
I was introduced to this article in a Sexuality Law class in my last year of law school and have to say I love the idea. While I support the watching of porn – especially independent sex-positive porn – I think it's very important for women and men to understand that porn is as real of an interpretation of life as most entertainment is; that is to say it's far from realistic. I'm very glad to see @CindyGallop educate the masses through @TEDtalks and @MakeLoveNotPorn.
@ icyhotonmynuts what I understand is that it's not easy to give up the myth you chose to believe in (i.e "women can come without clitoral stimulation") . but don't worry, a lot of women fake orgasms in order to "please" their boyfriends/husbands, you're not the only one who have been deceived. Time to catch up, though.
@nit3sh Actually, do check out the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom where I have posted just some of the many emails I receive daily, to see why this is an issue. Many thanks.
This is so needed. I too, look at porn, I have sex with lots of different people, i engage some "fetishistic" behaviour. I am no wowser. But i hate the ubiquity of porn, and the corresponding LACK of conversation about sex. About how fabulous sex is, when two people are skin-to-skin, when bodily imperfections are neither criticized nor tolerated but rather EMBRACED, when adults bask in each other's being and bodies, whether in a bed, in a car or tied up to a cross.
@cindygallop I love this idea by the way, I'm sorry some of my fellow redditors are against it, I think they are under the impression that you are against pornography instead of just against ignorance.
@gktjkytjktyjtyjtyjkf Thanks so much! No worries, I'm used to it (you may have noticed that there are over 1,200 comments on this stream and I've responded personally to almost all of them :) This area more than any other demonstrates the truth of that saying, 'We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.' I know the name misleads people - if they really listen, they'll hear me say I'm entirely pro-porn & watch it regularly myself :)
@icyhotonmynuts You're quite right - I've since been corrected on that one, including by a woman who can come from just thinking about it - I'm deeply envious! :) Many apologies. I put the site up on no money nearly 3 years ago and haven't had the funds to correct/expand, but promise I will do so.
"TEDTalks began as a simple attempt to share what happens at TED with the world. Under the moniker 'ideas worth spreading.' talks were released online"
I didn't see any point to this talk other than her complaining about her sexual partners in public. I also didn't see how it fit with anything I posted above. Very disappointed with this video.
@TehShitGoose I'm so sorry you're disappointed. Actually, this was not me just 'complaining about my sexual partners in public'. Do check out my short TED e-book (available on iTunes or Amazon) 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' or the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom to see more detail about this issue, & do email me cindy at ifwerantheworlddotcom - love to discuss further (can do on phone or Skype if you prefer) - many thanks.
This is bullshit. This woman has no expertise in the matter (except that she fucks 20 year old dudes, probably because adult men can't get past her B.S.)
Since when did TED talks just let any idiot on stage to spout nonsense? Sad.
@crassmonkey18 I know - it's shocking who TED lets onstage these days isn't it? :) Actually, I don't pretend to be an expert. Please do check out the 'About' page on the website to see why this isn't actually bullshit, and do message me privately on here - very happy to discuss in more detail. Many thanks. Yours, Any Idiot :)
@nois3 Actually, everything's OK - I'm entirely pro-porn; the issue I'm tackling is not porn, but the complete lack in our society of an open healthy dialogue around sex and porn, that would then enable people to bring a real-world mindset to the viewing of what is essentially artificial entertainment. :)
@TheQuickSilva92 Read my short e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' (on iTunes for only $2.99!) and you'll find out :) I should point out that I've never hit on a younger man in my life - because I've never needed to; strangely enough, those twenty-somethings come after me (in hordes..I respond maybe to 1% of all the approaches I get). Yours, Granny :)
@TheQuickSilva92 Read my short e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' (on iTunes for only $2.99!) and you'll find out :) I should point out that I've never hit on a younger man in my life - because I've never needed to; strangely enough, those twenty-somethings come after me (in hordes..I respond maybe to 1% of all the approaches I get). Yours, Granny :)
I saw Cindy speak at TEDXyouth in Palo Alto last week, and since then, I have referred to her presentation several times to my clients, family and friends, and mentees. She did an excellent job presenting and I fully support her message. Thank you Cindy!
@justin1234go Delighted to hear Canadian schools have put this on the curriculum! Unfortunately you're in the minority vs USA/rest of world :( Would love to know more about how your school teaches this - could you message me privately on here? Many thanks.
@cindygallop and like you I love younger lovers something about an eager 19-22 y/o girl..ohh my. Pity distance and such. I think we'd be grand friends. It is always nice to talk with people who are smart. Esp when they are smarter then I am. You learn more from intelligent people. I never understood men who are intimidated by smart women. Small penises I guess LOL
great talk, I am pleased that you stressed the idea that women especially should speak up. Yes I do enjoy some aspects of porn, but not if I have to make a girl do something she doesn't really want to. I'd rather not do it then. To you guys..she is right..respect your partner, girls never feel obligated to try anything you don't want to.A real man respects his woman, and his self. A real woman respects her man and esp herself. The porn pradigm has to change..it isn't "bad" but it isn't real
@cindygallop yes I did. It's refreshing to meet women who are not afraid of it. I even like it when it gets a bit unrealistic, I just know the difference..There are times I love making love, but I also like making porn.
@hyteprosector Delighted to hear that that is your experience. I do hear from people of all ages, both male and female, that indicate that while this is most pronounced within younger, older also experience it. You may find my short TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', available on Amazon & iTunes, interesting; it goes into a lot more detail about all of this including the many responses from around the world.
@jojocanfly Well spotted :) My top is by Japanese label Undercover, and I bought it because I loved the skull and how subtly it was featured. (There's a much smaller skull in the middle of that interesting 'leaves'-type arrangement around the neckline too.)
Yh that is so true parents are too scared/embarrassed to confront their kids and talk about sex so they have to turn to porno to actually get educated not realising what they are seeing is OTT...Not only that Sex Ed classes rather talk about how to have safe sex rather than talking about the passion and intimacy....Dammit 500 word limit, you cant say much on here can you? One more thing are you allowed to say such words/phrases at a TED event lol
@mabzy2009 Thanks so much for your feedback, and in answer to your question, yes, you certainly are :) Please do email me cindy @ ifwerantheworlddotcom if you would like to discuss further.
You really don't give us men enough credit. We know porn is nothing like the real act of making love. That's why we watch it. If you're worried about men being disconnected from the reality of sex, why not actually be more willing to give us sex?
Could it be that maybe female standards of ideal partners are being manipulated by popular media in the form of romance movies set in New York where everybody is rich, successful and beautiful with no problems to stop them being ideal lovers?
@Destrade So we have the problems, and you dont´t have any at all?
At first, we dont give you sex, we give sex ech other, and if the way you haver learnt to have sex doesnt satisfies me, I wont have any reason to have sex with you
And, what is more, if you are 30 years old and you two could find a way to make the experience better for both But, if, as shs saying, youre 16 years old and you are insecure and its your first experience, you will have to have it this way, or nothing
I am so happy somebody is talking about this! I agree with you 100%. I think sex education should be about safety (I mean besides the overly discussed STD issues, there are other problems), trust and how to reach an orgasm (a lot of women don't)...
iaffe 1 day ago
@iaffe Thank you! Do read my (very short, very cheap!) TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', available on iTunes & Amazon - and look out for makelovenotporndottv launching in March...I think you'll like it :)
cindygallop 17 hours ago
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Please visit my channel to watch a one-minute video clip in which popular atheist author Richard Dawkins admits that homosexual activists "hijacked the word 'gay'".
The word "homosexual" is more appropriate and accurate because it, unlike the word "gay", actually describes the behavior/attraction/relationship being discussed.
The word "gay" helps homosexual activists push their agenda.
lightandbeautiful 2 days ago
some people do have sex just like in porn movies, just cos this woman doesnt, doesnt mean porn is unrealistic.
there HAS to be some sort of pressure on the clit ? what a load of shit.
porn doesnt claim its always real, for all people, it just is what it is. yet this woman sets up a website claiming to be real, and the example she puts up is clearly false.
fail
mikesomething 3 days ago
@mikesomething Many thanks for your feedback. Please do check out the 'About' page of the site to see just some of the many emails I've received in the 3 years since launching MakeLoveNotPorn, from young & old, male & female, that demonstrate why this is an issue & it's not just me :) Also, please see my apology/response to @jhop9898 a few comments below re the clit screen :) Pl email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom, v happy to discuss further on phone or Skype - many thanks.
cindygallop 2 days ago
This reminds me of an article I had read with anti-porn activist Melinda Tankard. Excellent. Funnily enough same phrasing: "the ubiquity of porn"
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@dogliker2 Well, the difference with me is that I'm pro-porn, not anti-. The issue I am tackling with MakeLoveNotPorn is not porn; it's the lack in our society of an open healthy dialogue around sex and porn, that would enable people to bring a real-world mindset to the viewing of what is artificial entertainment. If you boiled my message down to one thing, it would be purely and simply 'Talk about it'. :)
cindygallop 4 days ago
@cindygallop Yeah, I soon realised this after watching the whole talk. Apologies. Still what I meant (and clearly didn't say) was that what similarities I saw with you and her is that men (predominantly young boys) are being taught this rather brutalised version of masculinity through hardcore sex. “What hope if there for [his] natural sexuality to develop when he has been trained in hard-core misogyny?” But yes, I agree with you ENTIRELY and I love the message you are sending :) Excellent work!
dogliker2 4 days ago
@dogliker2 Thank you! Although I would just stress that MakeLoveNotPorn is a gender-equal proposition - girls/women are equally impacted by their own porn-watching when it acts as default sex ed, in different but equally unfortunate ways. Check out the 'About' page of site for examples, & my short TED e-book (available on iTunes/Amazon) 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', which I think you'll enjoy :)
cindygallop 3 days ago
Not every woman needs clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. You can give a girl an orgasm just by sucking on her nipples if she's turned on enough. Obviously every woman is different and this only works on a fraction of them.
jhop9898 1 week ago
@jhop9898 You're absolutely right - since I launched MakeLoveNotPorn three years ago, I've had a number of women correct me on this one - including one woman who can orgasm just through thinking about it (am deeply envious, asked for tips but this would appear to be a God-given gift :) I'll be correcting this in the next iteration of MLNP - look out for makelovenotporndottv launching this spring. Many thanks.
cindygallop 1 week ago
@cindygallop You're welcome. I was surprised that a girl could an orgasm that way too. I wasn't trying to give her one, I just couldn't leave her breasts alone ;)
And nice website. Not enough people realize sex is a healthy and fun part of life. Good luck with your mental orgasms. John
jhop9898 1 week ago
I do not think this is a reasonable representation of people she talks about, and it feels like she's just been interacting with a very skewed demographic.
WildfireKitsune 2 weeks ago
@WildfireKitsune Actually, I launched MakeLoveNotPorn 3 years ago based on personal experience, and had no idea then of the extraordinary response it would get. I have over the intervening years had thousands of emails and conversations that demonstrate how widespread this experience is for male and female, young and old, all around the world (I am regularly asked to translate MLNP into different languages which I have not been able to afford to do as yet)...
cindygallop 2 weeks ago
@WildfireKitsune Please do go to the 'About' page on the site to see just some of the emails I get, and you can read about many other responses and other people observing and addressing this in my short TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' available on Amazon and iTunes. Very happy to discuss further on phone or Skype - do email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom - many thanks.
cindygallop 2 weeks ago
@cindygallop Actually, it's disingenuious to make it sound or seem like every male under 30 somehow believes porn is the norm, when anything but is true. I'm not saying there isn't the odd person who fits your criteria, but you classified an entire /generation/ of people as doing this. That's wrong, that's insulting, and you are incorrect.
WildfireKitsune 2 weeks ago
@WildfireKitsune Actually, I do always try to make it clear that a) while MakeLoveNotPorn was inspired by my own personal experience, what it addresses certainly doesn't characterize ALL the men I date, and b) MLNP is gender-equal - porn as defaul sex ed impacts women as much as men. Unfortunately 4 minutes is very short for a TED talk & it wasn't possible to go into a lot of detail there. I apologize if you found what I said insulting, that was definitely not my intention at all. I would love..
cindygallop 2 weeks ago
@WildfireKitsune ..to talk to you in person. Please do email cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom so we can set up a phone or Skype call and I can apologize to you in person and explain in detail the nuances of all of this and why I'm doing what I'm doing. Please do also read the emails on the 'About' page of the site - I would much rather other people spoke to their own experiences than me :) Many thanks.
cindygallop 2 weeks ago
This talk makes me quite uneasy, especially the bit about girls being too afraid to tell their boyfriends that they don't want them to do something, cause I can totally imagine that happening all the time.
Yaarrr 2 weeks ago
@Yaarrr Do check out the 'About' page on the website to see just a few of the emails I receive every day from young and old, male and female, from all around the world, that demonstrate what you reference - and you might be interested to read my (v short, v cheap!) TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' available on Amazon and iTunes. Many thanks for your feedback.
cindygallop 2 weeks ago
Know what this woman said when she didn't want a guy to cum in her mouth? MMMMHHHN!!!!!!
goodspelr 3 weeks ago
@goodspelr Darling, I don't recall ever saying I didn't want a guy to cum in my mouth? (Listen carefully to my talk :) I most definitely swallow :)
cindygallop 3 weeks ago
20-something young men who are into 50+ women have a fetish they want to fulfill so I'm not surprised they are more porn-influenced when they have sex with you Cindy. I'm not disagreeing with your argument completely, but the type of men you have sex with may affect your ideas about young men's attitudes towards sex.
Tomasito261 1 month ago
@Tomasito261 Actually, I'm extremely selective about whom I date & only date utterly lovely younger men - you can read in more detail about my own experiences & responses to MakeLoveNotPorn in my TED book on iTunes & Amazon, 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact On Human Behavior' - very short, very cheap! :) Please do also check out the About page on makelovenotporndotcom for just some of the emails I get that demonstrate why this is an issue. No older-woman fetish going on here :)
cindygallop 1 month ago
@cindygallop I can accept that it's an issue, but the idea that an entire generation of young men are unable to tell the difference between porn sex and reality doesn't match up with my or friends' experiences, and a survey would probably find otherwise. And I'm sure you date some great blokes who think you're excellent company, but I still reckon they 'have a thing' about the older lady and that could lead to fantasy-based sex.
Tomasito261 1 month ago
@Tomasito261 Delighted to hear not an issue with you & your friends! The emails on 'About' page of site are only a few of thousands of responses I have received since I launched MLNP nrly 3 years ago (incl professionals/experts reaching out too to confirm) Pl email cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom, wd love to schedule Skype/phone call to discuss & also to share more detail about my personal sex life & the men I date :) as no, what you say is not accurate (and, ahem, I should know :) Many thanks.
cindygallop 1 month ago 2
@cindygallop haha ok :)
Tomasito261 1 month ago
Next time you tell someone you're warning them of offensive language and to plug their ears, don't then direct them to a website, to where, if they did plug there ears and didn't hear you, that they are then reading on the website the exact terminology that you had them plug their ears to not hear. This reduces your credibility.
cmeduck 1 month ago
@cmeduck Actually I was specifically asked to provide that interpolation in my talk by the TED conference organizers for the benefit of the audience at TED 2009. I'm so sorry you feel it damages my credibility. The website itself carries a 'click here to enter if you're over 18' warning that is standard for XXX-rated sites and acts as a cue to the nature of the content, so that anyone likely to be offended by it is alerted before entering and can choose not to. Many thanks for your feedback.
cindygallop 1 month ago
Great idea for a website. This issue has to be addressed.
Hey Cindy, any ideas on why women do porn in the first place when it is such a degrading profession?
atheist382 1 month ago
@atheist382 There are many reasons why both women and men work in porn. I have a lot of friends in the porn industry (many of whom I met when they reached out on their own initiative to say how much they support MakeLoveNotPorn) who are professional, dedicated and enjoy and take pride in what they do, just like professionals in other fields. Unfortunately society demonizes the industry in generalized terms - it is as complex and wide-ranging as any other industry sector.
cindygallop 1 month ago
Cindy, you rock.
lbonnice 1 month ago
@lbonnice Thank you :)
cindygallop 1 month ago
This woman is fucking funny. Its refreshing to see an older woman who is comfortable talking about things like this and admitting what most people keep secret. Hey Cindy, I'm 24 and I think you are sexy. How about a date?
DaWorst187 1 month ago
@DaWorst187 Thank you darling! Re that date, email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom with pics :)
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Hmm... I expected to find myself insulted or annoyed in some way at this, but actually, I was not. Come to think of it, I can't remember ever not liking a TED presentation. Will visit the website for some amusement (oh okay, and probably some education too :D). Confidence in a lady is always attractive and as long as a woman doesn't consider her age, I don't either... so kudos to you, Cindy, for feeling younger than your age, in all ways. :D Oh and thanks for visiting the youTubez. :)
OrthodoxAtheist 1 month ago
@OrthodoxAtheist Thank you so much for that kind feedback! :)
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bnsomin 2 months ago
How many of these young mens parents are having healthy, fulfilling sex on a regular basis? and grandparents?
bnsomin 2 months ago
@bnsomin Sadly, I have some anecdotal reporting on that from the people who talk to me that demonstrates the answer is 'not enough'.
cindygallop 2 months ago
Cindy, i do totally agree with your point that real sex education has always been missing from our puritanical society but i think this is only a symptom of a much larger crisis of philosophy and values. learning about emotional IQ, relationships, sex are the most important parts o growing up and they are totally ignored in favor of a strict standard curriculum full of bullshit which any truly interested student can read in a book. you cant learn about human relationships from a book.
bnsomin 2 months ago
@bnsomin Exactly, which is why the next iteration of MakeLoveNotPorn is going to try to tackle this in a much more far-reaching way.
cindygallop 2 months ago
Cindy, there is plenty of pornography with loving, passionate, real world sex that appeals to both men and women and can even enrich and encourage exploration and connection. the fact that guys in the porns you deride have 12 in dicks should give away that its not the "real world". and that most porn out there is crap reflects the mediocrity of po culture in general. it should come as no surprise that our sex ed sucks when ALL our education (and philosophy) is mind numbing, ignorant, PC drivel.
bnsomin 2 months ago
@bnsomin Totally agree. Alas, when you are young, horny and searching online for anything to do with sex, it's pretty hard to make your way to that past everything else, and if your parents are too embarrassed to talk about sex, your school doesn't teach sex ed, and you've never seen anyone else's erect penis, you don't know it's not 'the real world' :) Do check out the 'About' page on the site to see the emails I get that demonstrate why this is an issue - many thanks.
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop cool, looking forward to your work, I will check out your site. I would definitely like to see a more in depth ted talk from you. I wish i had this kind of education in school or anywhere as a teenager.
bnsomin 2 months ago
It sickens me how sexually repressed our society is.
guyboy625 2 months ago
@guyboy625 I'm taking MakeLoveNotPorn forwards with a rather ambitious objective - to make real-world sex socially acceptable and socially shareable. Check out makelovenotporn dottv when it launches in spring 2012 :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
I'd shag her, I mean I'd make love to her:)
axedick 2 months ago
@axedick 'Shag' will do just fine, darling. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
why are they laughing?
Capriciou5 2 months ago
@Capriciou5 Nervous laughter. As one Twitterer said at the time, 'Probably the first time the words 'come on my face' had been uttered on the TED stage several times in rapid succession.' :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
"Heh heh. You'd be surprised how many twenty-something kids wanna stick their dicks inthis particular crazy, darling. :)"
/raise hand
sesquey 2 months ago
@sesquey I am deeply, deeply flattered. Message me privately on here :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
I wish the adolescent CD/mental health treatment facilities I work at could utilize your web site to present this information to our clients. Unfortunately our currently repressive and litigious society won't allow it. Thank you for leading the charge on this issue.
wWSwiftyWw 2 months ago
@wWSwiftyWw I really appreciate that feedback - thank you so much!
cindygallop 2 months ago
@wWSwiftyWw Btw, please do email me cindyatifwerantheworlddotcom - love to hear more about your work.
cindygallop 2 months ago
click
ssmarcos4 2 months ago
@ssmarcos4 I know - so sorry about the earrings, am apologizing regularly all through this thread! :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
What is that fucking clicking
iiKArMii 2 months ago
@iiKArMii So sorry - it's my earrings - will never wear them for public speaking again - have been apologizing at regular intervals all through this comment stream.....:)
cindygallop 2 months ago 16
I think she's a virgin.
BornAgainEngineer 2 months ago
@BornAgainEngineer Ohhhh, darling...in your dreams. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
Anyone else find it rather irritating that she is saying all this stuff as if it's universal? People do not like the same stuff, and I can promise you that people enjoy stuff that she seems to believe no one does like.
theoriginalhegs94 2 months ago
@theoriginalhegs94 Maybe you should actually read the slides, considering they specifically say that SOME do, SOME don't.
iheartwalle 2 months ago
@iheartwalle Do tell me how I should do that if the camera is focused on her the entire time, I'm really quite curious. She can say whatever she wants in her slides, it's what flows out of her mouth that is important.
theoriginalhegs94 2 months ago
@theoriginalhegs94 The two slides she showed us have words on them.
Zeldanon 2 months ago
@theoriginalhegs94 PAUSE ON :: 2:46 ; 3:05 ; 4:02
LOOK I DID THE HARD STUFF FOR YOU
iheartwalle 1 month ago
@iheartwalle :)
cindygallop 1 month ago
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@theoriginalhegs94 Actually, I don't 'believe no one does like'. If you check out the website, you'll see that all it's saying is that some people like stuff, some people don't - and if you take a look at the 'About' page, you'll see some of the emails that indicate why this is an issue, and why even that seemingly very straightforward point needs to be made :) Many thanks. Yours, Irritating (didn't mean to be, honest!:)
cindygallop 2 months ago
Total silence when she said cum on my face.
Exigentable 2 months ago
@Exigentable Yup. Could've heard a pin drop. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
As someone who has been teaching sex workshops for about 10 years, Ms. Gallop's effort is long overdue. I laud it. It brings to the fore the matter of communication in sex, something that's been suppressed for the past 20 or so years by the crazies. It's long past time when we opened the doors, and really learned to TALK openly about sex, and not hide in shame or, worse, draw from sources that, while they are occasionally entertaining, rarely provide more than a window into an imaginary world.
dlrhouston 2 months ago
@dlrhouston Thank you very much for that great feedback!
cindygallop 2 months ago
FUCKING EARRING
TheDenialTwisstt 2 months ago
@TheDenialTwisstt I know. Huge apologies :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop No problem :) The talk was good though and important. I used to be very annoyed with hearing my roommate have sex with his girlfriend in a way I knew couldn't be anything but painful for her. I'll visit your site
TheDenialTwisstt 2 months ago
@TheDenialTwisstt Terrific - thanks!
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jaxxonxx 2 months ago
So I went to the site, thinking why not, maybe I'll learn something. But as a nineteen year old male I have to say that everything there is pretty much common sense. "Some women don't like gagging on your cock." No shit? You don't say?
307am 2 months ago
@307am I'm seriously delighted you don't need MakeLoveNotPorn. If you check out the emails on the 'About' page you'll see why unfortunately other people do :(
cindygallop 2 months ago
she has knee pads built into her pants.... i wonder what those are for
colinag6 2 months ago
@colinag6 Alexander McQueen black leather biker pants, darling, although knowing him, I'm sure the BJ comfort factor wasn't far from his mind when he designed them :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@colinag6 kneeling down?
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AbhishekNaik24 2 months ago
@AbhishekNaik24 Heh heh. You'd be surprised how many twenty-something kids wanna stick their dicks inthis particular crazy, darling. :) Seriously though, please check out the 'About' page on the website to see why this is an issue - you don't have to take my word for it at all. Many thanks - and if you'd like to discuss further, please do message me privately on here. Yours, Annoying Woman :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop I'm really sorry, i did'nt mean to offend you, it was just a horrible joke. I agree. this is a quite serious issue especially affecting the younger 'consumers'. I can relate to this because even i'm a twenty someting troll ;-)
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@AbhishekNaik24 Thank you, I really appreciate hearing that, and no worries! :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
times a changing. Get with it, bitch.
miyor123 2 months ago
@miyor123 Actually, darling, it has nothing to do with my generation and everything to do with yours :) Please do check out the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom and you'll see just a few of the many emails I receive every single day that demonstrate why this is an issue. Many thanks. Yours, Bitch. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago 6
@cindygallop wow, you have a youtube account and actually respond to these comments? jesus.
miyor123 2 months ago
@miyor123 Of course I do. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
who would have sex with that ugly cunt
loldongsman 2 months ago
@loldongsman You'd be surprised, darling. :) Yours, Ugly Cunt
cindygallop 2 months ago
This video is horrible.
amntsyy 2 months ago
@amntsyy I'm so sorry to hear that. What do you particularly find horrible about it? (Apart from my earring banging against the mic, which I can't apologize enough for :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
I was introduced to this article in a Sexuality Law class in my last year of law school and have to say I love the idea. While I support the watching of porn – especially independent sex-positive porn – I think it's very important for women and men to understand that porn is as real of an interpretation of life as most entertainment is; that is to say it's far from realistic. I'm very glad to see @CindyGallop educate the masses through @TEDtalks and @MakeLoveNotPorn.
QueerieBradshaw 2 months ago
@QueerieBradshaw Thank you so much for that feedback!
cindygallop 2 months ago
@ icyhotonmynuts what I understand is that it's not easy to give up the myth you chose to believe in (i.e "women can come without clitoral stimulation") . but don't worry, a lot of women fake orgasms in order to "please" their boyfriends/husbands, you're not the only one who have been deceived. Time to catch up, though.
leno99 2 months ago
@leno99 Watch the Mary Roach orgasm TED talk. You'll see how what you say is wrong.
guyboy625 2 months ago
Yea this a a real huge issue, all the countless lives lost to men cumming on womens faces
nit3sh 2 months ago
@nit3sh Actually, do check out the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom where I have posted just some of the many emails I receive daily, to see why this is an issue. Many thanks.
cindygallop 2 months ago
This is so needed. I too, look at porn, I have sex with lots of different people, i engage some "fetishistic" behaviour. I am no wowser. But i hate the ubiquity of porn, and the corresponding LACK of conversation about sex. About how fabulous sex is, when two people are skin-to-skin, when bodily imperfections are neither criticized nor tolerated but rather EMBRACED, when adults bask in each other's being and bodies, whether in a bed, in a car or tied up to a cross.
madamegeorge62 2 months ago
@madamegeorge62 AMEN SISTER!! :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
Ear ring in the microphone!!!!
gktjkytjktyjtyjtyjkf 2 months ago
@gktjkytjktyjtyjtyjkf I knowwwwww.....am promising publicly never to wear those earrings again when speaking in public! :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop I love this idea by the way, I'm sorry some of my fellow redditors are against it, I think they are under the impression that you are against pornography instead of just against ignorance.
gktjkytjktyjtyjtyjkf 2 months ago
@gktjkytjktyjtyjtyjkf Thanks so much! No worries, I'm used to it (you may have noticed that there are over 1,200 comments on this stream and I've responded personally to almost all of them :) This area more than any other demonstrates the truth of that saying, 'We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.' I know the name misleads people - if they really listen, they'll hear me say I'm entirely pro-porn & watch it regularly myself :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
the first time ive been disappointed by a TED talk.
edenite 2 months ago
@edenite I'm so sorry to hear that :(
cindygallop 2 months ago
This woman looks like a Psychonauts character.
AllOtherNamesTaken 2 months ago 3
@AllOtherNamesTaken Really? Which one? :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
Myth: Women MUST have clitoral stimulation to come.
Fact: Women can come without clitoral stimulation.
Her credibility just flew out the window when I saw that page on her site.
icyhotonmynuts 2 months ago
@icyhotonmynuts You're quite right - I've since been corrected on that one, including by a woman who can come from just thinking about it - I'm deeply envious! :) Many apologies. I put the site up on no money nearly 3 years ago and haven't had the funds to correct/expand, but promise I will do so.
cindygallop 2 months ago
@icyhotonmynuts Buuuuuuut... they *can.* Vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms are very different things.
Maybe you should try fucking someone who does both?
lotictrance 2 months ago
TED = Technology Entertainment Design
"TEDTalks began as a simple attempt to share what happens at TED with the world. Under the moniker 'ideas worth spreading.' talks were released online"
I didn't see any point to this talk other than her complaining about her sexual partners in public. I also didn't see how it fit with anything I posted above. Very disappointed with this video.
TehShitGoose 2 months ago
@TehShitGoose I'm so sorry you're disappointed. Actually, this was not me just 'complaining about my sexual partners in public'. Do check out my short TED e-book (available on iTunes or Amazon) 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' or the 'About' page on makelovenotporndotcom to see more detail about this issue, & do email me cindy at ifwerantheworlddotcom - love to discuss further (can do on phone or Skype if you prefer) - many thanks.
cindygallop 2 months ago
Japanese tentacle hentai = sex education
jliu512 2 months ago
@jliu512 :) I have a number of people in Japan keen to help me launch MakeLoveNotPorn Japan - need a specially tailored version there :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
This is bullshit. This woman has no expertise in the matter (except that she fucks 20 year old dudes, probably because adult men can't get past her B.S.)
Since when did TED talks just let any idiot on stage to spout nonsense? Sad.
crassmonkey18 2 months ago
@crassmonkey18 I know - it's shocking who TED lets onstage these days isn't it? :) Actually, I don't pretend to be an expert. Please do check out the 'About' page on the website to see why this isn't actually bullshit, and do message me privately on here - very happy to discuss in more detail. Many thanks. Yours, Any Idiot :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
omg that ear ring hitting the mic...AAAHHHHH
Martin2968 2 months ago 92
@Martin2968 I knowwwwww....so sorry about that! Will never wear those earrings again when speaking in public, promise! :)
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What sick fuck would have sex with her
SexyLikeThat1000 2 months ago
cindy is x-art porn OK? i watch their clips on youporn.com
nois3 2 months ago
@nois3 Actually, everything's OK - I'm entirely pro-porn; the issue I'm tackling is not porn, but the complete lack in our society of an open healthy dialogue around sex and porn, that would then enable people to bring a real-world mindset to the viewing of what is essentially artificial entertainment. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
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I'm not really believe the whole I have sex with 20 year old man thing
deweys 2 months ago
Lmao wtf is granny doing dating 20 year olds?
TheQuickSilva92 2 months ago 50
@TheQuickSilva92 Read my short e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' (on iTunes for only $2.99!) and you'll find out :) I should point out that I've never hit on a younger man in my life - because I've never needed to; strangely enough, those twenty-somethings come after me (in hordes..I respond maybe to 1% of all the approaches I get). Yours, Granny :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@TheQuickSilva92 Happens the otherway around too.
TheStarlessAeon 2 months ago
@TheQuickSilva92 She is a milf bro. Or gilf/
DeathNoteFreak000 2 months ago
@DeathNoteFreak000 Delighted to hear that :) Yours, MILF/GILF
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop (:
DeathNoteFreak000 2 months ago
@DeathNoteFreak000 ? :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@TheQuickSilva92 Hugh Hefner does.
beckyc892 2 months ago
@beckyc892 :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
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@TheQuickSilva92 Read my short e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' (on iTunes for only $2.99!) and you'll find out :) I should point out that I've never hit on a younger man in my life - because I've never needed to; strangely enough, those twenty-somethings come after me (in hordes..I respond maybe to 1% of all the approaches I get). Yours, Granny :)
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jaxxonxx 2 months ago
Having the time of her life, apparently.
jaxxonxx 2 months ago
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@TheQuickSilva92 Having the time of her life, apparently.
jaxxonxx 2 months ago
I saw Cindy speak at TEDXyouth in Palo Alto last week, and since then, I have referred to her presentation several times to my clients, family and friends, and mentees. She did an excellent job presenting and I fully support her message. Thank you Cindy!
Daniel
fulbodfit 2 months ago
@fulbodfit Thanks so much for that feedback Daniel!
cindygallop 2 months ago
we learn that in school now
justin1234go 2 months ago
@justin1234go Delighted to hear Canadian schools have put this on the curriculum! Unfortunately you're in the minority vs USA/rest of world :( Would love to know more about how your school teaches this - could you message me privately on here? Many thanks.
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belugavision 2 months ago
PS..love the boots..I mean damn..
eahazell 2 months ago
@eahazell Alexander McQueen, darling. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop well you work em luv...always love high boots and high heels.they ar ejust made to be pointed up
eahazell 2 months ago
@eahazell You're so right. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop and like you I love younger lovers something about an eager 19-22 y/o girl..ohh my. Pity distance and such. I think we'd be grand friends. It is always nice to talk with people who are smart. Esp when they are smarter then I am. You learn more from intelligent people. I never understood men who are intimidated by smart women. Small penises I guess LOL
eahazell 2 months ago
great talk, I am pleased that you stressed the idea that women especially should speak up. Yes I do enjoy some aspects of porn, but not if I have to make a girl do something she doesn't really want to. I'd rather not do it then. To you guys..she is right..respect your partner, girls never feel obligated to try anything you don't want to.A real man respects his woman, and his self. A real woman respects her man and esp herself. The porn pradigm has to change..it isn't "bad" but it isn't real
eahazell 2 months ago
@eahazell Hear hear! Thank you so much for that feedback. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop but I do like porn...
eahazell 2 months ago
@eahazell So do I. Did you not hear me say that I'm entirely pro-porn and watch it regularly myself? :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
@cindygallop yes I did. It's refreshing to meet women who are not afraid of it. I even like it when it gets a bit unrealistic, I just know the difference..There are times I love making love, but I also like making porn.
eahazell 2 months ago
I saw this live a TEDxYouth Castillija and it made me embrace old British women talking about sex a lot more :D
Nbsno4lives 2 months ago
@Nbsno4lives Heh heh. Delighted to hear that. Yours, Old British Woman. :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
I find that most women enjoy all the same things I do. This is a generational thing. Not a porn issue. At least not in my dealings.
hyteprosector 2 months ago
@hyteprosector Delighted to hear that that is your experience. I do hear from people of all ages, both male and female, that indicate that while this is most pronounced within younger, older also experience it. You may find my short TED e-book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior', available on Amazon & iTunes, interesting; it goes into a lot more detail about all of this including the many responses from around the world.
cindygallop 2 months ago
thats a skull in the middle of her shirt.
jojocanfly 2 months ago
@jojocanfly Well spotted :) My top is by Japanese label Undercover, and I bought it because I loved the skull and how subtly it was featured. (There's a much smaller skull in the middle of that interesting 'leaves'-type arrangement around the neckline too.)
cindygallop 2 months ago
Yh that is so true parents are too scared/embarrassed to confront their kids and talk about sex so they have to turn to porno to actually get educated not realising what they are seeing is OTT...Not only that Sex Ed classes rather talk about how to have safe sex rather than talking about the passion and intimacy....Dammit 500 word limit, you cant say much on here can you? One more thing are you allowed to say such words/phrases at a TED event lol
mabzy2009 2 months ago
@mabzy2009 Thanks so much for your feedback, and in answer to your question, yes, you certainly are :) Please do email me cindy @ ifwerantheworlddotcom if you would like to discuss further.
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mabzy2009 2 months ago
take your damn ear rings off woman
bmenjamint 2 months ago
@bmenjamint I know - huge apologies - am sure as hell not wearing those again when they bang against the mike! :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
This made me smile more than the "hidden power of smiling" talk. !:D
LongandGeneric 2 months ago
@LongandGeneric Delighted to hear that :)
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schnulli79 2 months ago
@schnulli79 :)
cindygallop 2 months ago
You really don't give us men enough credit. We know porn is nothing like the real act of making love. That's why we watch it. If you're worried about men being disconnected from the reality of sex, why not actually be more willing to give us sex?
Could it be that maybe female standards of ideal partners are being manipulated by popular media in the form of romance movies set in New York where everybody is rich, successful and beautiful with no problems to stop them being ideal lovers?
Destrade 2 months ago 40
@Destrade So we have the problems, and you dont´t have any at all?
At first, we dont give you sex, we give sex ech other, and if the way you haver learnt to have sex doesnt satisfies me, I wont have any reason to have sex with you
And, what is more, if you are 30 years old and you two could find a way to make the experience better for both But, if, as shs saying, youre 16 years old and you are insecure and its your first experience, you will have to have it this way, or nothing
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