Why acting AS at College or Uni was not good for me

[Cedartree5]

people are so inconsiderate these days...

[PinkPunkyKat]

Can you get a gun or tazer to protect yourself?

[Shinebakaaho]

I know what you are talking about, I've been there. I was also different, and I got completely destroyed for that. I will never understand how people may think funny a person being laught at, or how cruel they can be just in the name of "fun". It just doesn't make any sense to me - Well that may be becouse I'm "the" joke.

But anyway, try not to feel too bad about it. You are certanly better them all of them together. Just let them fuck each other and try to move on.

[AhYaOk]

i understand what you're saying, but not everyone is a bully. And for those who are, see them for what they are. They're just very insecure people.

[JMR83]

Star Trek being more popular than Doctor Who and NOT 'geeky".

Star Trek NOT being geeky when the hell was this?

[rollermaul22]

Oh Yeah, the midlands is a regular Bronx, New York. lmao. Jk. Girls can always get away with acting weird. No matter what somebody will always go for the girl. Yeah thanks for the video. I can totally relate.

[Aspergianstar2009]

I am afraid you are sadly wrong. A friends Son has been diagnosed with Aspergers and he had to leave college due to bullying all the time. He had no friends and had to walk the corridors. Kids are cruel and they don't really grow up till they are early to mid 20s.

[Aspergianstar2009]

There are many different groups at Uni. Foreign Students etc. So you will find your niche. Its a lot different to college. Tell people you have a social anxiety disorder and they will not think you are avoiding them. They will understand. Most people now are educated. You could say you have suspected Aspergers. A lot of people know about it now.

[Aspergianstar2009]

Don't worry a friend of mine in the past said that to wind down the wasters watched Tele Tubbies. So they are hardly as intelectual as you would believe LOL. Most get pissed for the first year. The first year of a degree is settling in. Then you nuckle down towards the end.

[Aspergianstar2009]

Sorry Zen I never saw this. I would recommend you are yourself and these days Universities are more tolerant. People have grown up and are more likely to accept odd balls. Lets face it most Professors probably have AS. The quirks and eccentricity.

[enginehead217]

At the time when u were with these 16-18 year olds it didn't bother u that they were at least 4 years younger than u, or did u view all these people against u as being synonomous?

The one thing i can't get over is kids younger than me acting as if they're "bigger" than me lol, although iv learnt to accept it. I suppose for a while i viewed things in quite a streotypical way "younger kids shdu never mess with older kids" "some1 insults u u shud go kick the shit outta them every time" lol

[Aspergianstar2009]

I was at a very bad point in my life when I had low self esteem and beleived I deserved to be bullied. The thing is that NTs pick on vulnerable people and they are like moths to a flame. I put up with 2 years of bullying as i believed it was my fault. Now i would kick the crap out of them like you said. Most kids these days are far too big for their boots. In my day if you said anything to an older lad like that you would have a bloody nose.

[CactusRose33]

I know exactly what you mean. When I tried going to college it was like high school all over again. I was expecting a bit more maturity. Oh yes, the bullying for us girls is really horrible. They don't know how to just respect something they don't understand.

[Aspergianstar2009]

Girls are probably less physical and more psychological than boys. I prefer physical because you can get wounds and they heal. But Psychological Bullying can go on for years.

[Aspergianstar2009]

You would think that Dave, wouldn't you?? But I have had similar even in 2007 and that was at a so called place that was meant to help ASD people get employment. When I spoke out against the way they were I was called a liar. I respected the Boss of the organisation up till then, but since I have not trusted many people. People say whatever they can to get you to sign a piece of paper which keeps them in a job. Most organistaions couldn't care less about Autistics. They just want money.

[davesake]

You were bullied for liking dr who instead of star trek? That's the most disgusting thing ive ever heard. I was taught from a young age to deal with aspergers syndome by treating the world as one big stage and projecting personas that people find easier to deal with, and that bullies find intimidating. Its like, pretending to be tom baker your whole life. Its more fun that way anyway.

[Aspergianstar2009]

I was bullied because I had AS and came over different. People like things in boxes.  I did not come over as Autistic and looked like them, yet I acted a bit Autistic and they could not grasp that. Also they were kids. But in my day it was the only way to go back to full time college having to rough it with a load of immature 16-18 year olds. Now there are more and more mature students returning to College and University.

[Aspergianstar2009]

I think that if I went back in time now I would break a few noses. But I wanted to fit in and I tried my best. But it just did not work.  I got bullied for being different. Life sucked at the time. I had no job, future or girlfriend so I thought. I still lived at home with my parents which the other lads laughed about as I was 4 years older than them. I did not drive and still don't. I was developmentally around 14-16

[nervousneuron]

People didn't really get beaten up around me by gangs, it was more 'fair' fights, as in people getting angry and attacking each other, though I have heard of it happening. And this was primary/high school. The kind of bullying that happens is exclusion, shunning, etc. Those are probably harder to police than physical.

Uni was great, it's full of all different kinds of people. From diplomas to PhDs, etc. There are also a lot of aspies there too.

[ABAisSCIENCE]

This guy is spot on and I just want to say that I've made a video #52 where I'm asking for questions on aspergers.

I don't think an intervention for aspergers should be anything like an intervention for autism and I've seen interventions for aspergers that are quite good.

Please come over and see my latest video and ask questions.

[Aspergianstar2009]

Well Nervousneuron it happened a lot in my day. A lot of people we call Chavs hang around in gangs here. People do not fight fair now. If you are different you are likely to be picked on even as an Adult. The question is are you going to take the risk??? I personally would not want to make myself an easy target. I have had enough bullying in my life. Whilst I am 6ft 4 and capable of inflicting damage on an individual I could not take on a gang of youthes for example.

[nervousneuron]

Bullying is shit, and I don't think anyone should have to fear for their lives. Whether it be for being gay (eg gay bashings) or for being aspie. The police do a good job of protecting our violent criminals from vigilante groups, but how about our students from bullies?

It's not your fault 'for being different' it's theirs for being arseholes.