How Single Moms Needing Sex can find love too

[menarddr]

Here is some advice for Single Mothers that want to score a man. 1. INVITE him over. Too many single moms are Ignorant Bitches, that believe that having a man amongst the kids will ruin them, or she will be embarrassed, ect. DUMB. Put de babies to bed at 10, after McDonalds and DVDs. Then, candles, wine, and Victoria's Secret. Hit the Sheets and screw like its the LastNight on Earth, re-write the Kama Sutra, invent new positions. Sleep naked. Send him on his way at 5:45 before de chilluns wake.

[malarki5]

You, young lady, will absolutely get a man because you are more than merely aesthetically beautiful...you are all-the-way beautiful!

Menelik charles

London

[hugandkissme33]

I respect wht you're doing. You aren't out there seeking to get a replacement man right away so you can feed your children you are doing it fine on your own working and providing for you and yours. Very admirable my mom did it and I love to see a strong, independent woman taking care of hers without having to bring a man around. God bless you and your children Shay. I'm so inspired by both you and my mom who did it all on her own no man whatsoever

[PrincessENC]

Thanks for the vid. I'm a single mom of 2 kids and at times it does seem like it's hard to date or attract the man I'm interested in. I use to think men didn't want to date or talk to a women with more then one child, but I know that's absolutely wrong! I plan to purchase your book when I get a chance.

[dealmaker007]

"How single moms needing SEX can find LOVE too"....

Which comes first here the chicken or the egg?

[lovein30days]

deal maker007, it is just a title the marketing team came up with because there are single mothers who put this in the google, yahoo, etc search and the goal is to show single moms dating and single women that they do not have to settle for just sex. The goal is to open the minds of women everywhere to the possibility of true love.

Shay Your Date Diva

[dealmaker007]

Ok that's cool. Yeah defnintely they will have more success if they deal with the type of guys that share their expectations and vision for mutual love and well being. Nobody has to settle for "just sex", in fact this is a large cause of the problem.

[dealmaker007]

Hey so you're saying if a man doesn't want to be in a relationship with a woman that already has kids he is rediculous?

Well what if he wants his own children with you, but you don't want to have any more? Is he still rediculous. I'm not trying to be "small minded", I'm just asking because there are men in that situation who would decline for that very reason.

[dealmaker007]

And it's not personal or meant to be a jab at single moms. It's just that if the man comes into the picture w/o kids he may want to start with a clean slate with a woman who wants to have her kids with him. Is that wrong or something? I mean guys who already have kids w/ other women may be more understanding because they're single parents too but I think it depends on who you ask.

[lovein30days]

Regardless, of how YOU may view a woman with children, there are plenty of men who do not mind dating and loving a woman with children...trust me! Also, many single women are not looking for a man to take care of them and their kids, they have that covered. But most good men do step in and do accept the kids and love the single mom and do not think twice.

[dealmaker007]

I'm not necessarally putting my personal views into it I'm just saying, I read your comments and I have heard all kinds of POV's from brothas about the topic and I thought I'd swoop in and ask a thought provoking question.

[fervent66]

there is nonthing wrong, in hanging out with a singled mom. i do it every now & then. she is a " mutual friend ". PERIOD. she is not only a good friend, but she is also a co-worker. that's as far as that goes. she has one child, a 15 y.o. daughter. i met her, numerous times. i ALWAYS greet myself to the daughter, whether i'm coming/going in their home. it's a matter of RESPECT & EXCEPTING the child. i do this in front of the mother, & when she is busy getting ready to hang out with me.

[lovein30days]

That is actually a great question. Just keep in mind that most women and men over 30 have already been married at least once and may already have kids. If you want kids and she doesn't whether she has kids or not, there is disorder and I would rec you find someone who wants what you want. Saying that you wouldnt want a woman with kids, you may be eliminating that great woman who would be perfectly compatible with you. Or would you rather a mediocre relationship with someone who has no kids.

[dealmaker007]

No actually I don't advocate that people settle at all. I'm just saying why does it have to be this big personal affront for a (childless) man to say he'd rather have a woman who doesn't have kids yet? Doesn't it come down to personal preferences? I don't think it's necessarally a shallow preference. Nobody has to diss anybody and nobody has to feel dissed. Like you said, it's about finding somebody compatable, that means you will have some who are not comfortable and some who are.

[lovein30days]

You are right, it does come down to personal preference the same way that some women do not like to date short men. Or men who are overweight, bald or who have children by multiple women. Believe it or not there are many women who prefer or accept these traits in good men. It is small minded to believe that all men without kids do not accept or consider or date single women with kids. It is also a belief that simply is not true because I and many others NEVER had/have that issue.

[dealmaker007]

But I never said all men without kids do not/should not accept single mothers. I said there are some guys who don't have kids who would rather be in a relationship with a woman who also doesn't have kids. I was just using an example and asking why do people have to take it so personal if they don't fit somebody preference. Not saying anything is wrong with single parents & I am not judging anybody's situation. But some people would rather start their family from scratch. Does that make sense?

[215rephard]

I agree with you as a man with no children. I don't want to share the mother of my children with ANY man. I shouldn't have to. I don't have any kids and I would like to enjoy my wife for a few years before the kids come. You know, have her to myself. I could have sex with a babymomma but marrying one? That's a stretch in my opinion. Usher married that lady- oh yeah he divorced her. If I was a single parent then I may think differently but I don't have kids. That can wait.

[lovein30days]

Thank God there are many good and good-looking men who do date, love and marry single moms. You don't speak for all single men. Be hey I respect preferences. I prefer good men who are taller, attractive with common sense:) Many men would not qualify.

SYDD

[dealmaker007]

For some reason you seem to think I'm being small minded...I think we have a missunderstanding.

[lovein30days]

dealmaker007, we are cool and your feedback is appreciated. You are NOT one of the small minded individuals who have left negative comments based on their limited thinking. My comments above are for them. Thanks for your support:)

Shay Your Date Diva

[dealmaker007]

Oh thanks for clearing that up I was getting confused cause I didn't see the negative comments. Well aight lol.

[Remedymp]

Her viewpoints on men are very, very, very skewed and myopic.

[lovein30days]

Single moms do not believe the negative small minded thinking of the few. Women such as Vanessa Williams, Demi Moore, and many others who have found men who married and loved them regardless of if they had kids and how many.

If you choose to leave negative comments that do not uplift, you will be blocked and your comments will be deleted. My videos are not your platform to assist in inflating your low self esteem and small mindedness.

[reignsupreme]

Vanessa Williams and Demi Moore are super stars. Not a good comparison.

Some guys will marry a woman with kids and some guys won't. Some women will date a short or broke guy but some women won't. It's all about preference. I just try to date women are pleasing to me.

[lovein30days]

Ok, well tell me who would be a good example for you? Is there anyone we both mutually know because if I knew you and we knew the same people, I would give you at least 5-10 examples of every day folks if that would satisfy you. (exhale)

[reignsupreme]

I never doubted that women with children can find a man. I know plenty women who was able to find husbands despite having children. Most cases, its guys who already have children. They are more prone to commit to a woman with children. A very small percentage of single and childless guys are willing to marry women with children.

[lovein30days]

For all you small minded people who have not watched the other videos but would like to leave negative comments about single mothers know this:

first: I, like 55% of women who have married am DIVORCED!

second: 45% of black women have never been married compared to only 23% of white women have never been married

third: The idea that another man is unwilling to come into the picture and love the woman and her kids is ridiculous and has been proven contrary throughout history.