Look.....just because you loose weight doesnt mean your not still fat in your head.....people dont realize that your mind is still the same...just cuz your body is different doesnt mean you dont feel the same way, think the same things and want the same stuff....your not betraying anyone but yourself when you listen to what other people say....no one can argue that losing weight is a health issue...how come no one addresses the mind when it comes to losing weight....its more than size people
I feel that whether it's for health's sake or vanity's sake, as long as you love and accept yourself for who you are, you're golden. Fuck what other people say. If you want to be plus-size, mid-size, or under-sized, go ahead. Just be healthy and love the hell out of yourself while you're doing it. Only do it for yourself - never for someone else.
HAES is health at EVERY size. Not just plus-size, though that seems to be a focus.
meghan u r awesome for trying to get healthy for the benefit of YOURSELF! you are having extreme health problems with ur back and all that and you have realized that there are lifestyle changes to be made so you no longer have that pain! you have my support! :)
those people are so wrong. You are being a positive example.. no matter your weight someone has a problem with it. My biggest fear growing up was always being called fat, and now that I have lost weight everyone complains im too skinny.. but I like it... If people are complaining it is a problem they have with themselves.
Since seeing you on Ellen, Finding you and Project Lifesize on facebook and twitter - You've inspired me to be ok with my weight. I'm a big girl who's trying to change the way she eats, but trying not to focus on being skinny,. I think the message your sending out is an excellent one. Regardless of size, it's all about acceptance on every level. and I thank you for that.
imo, I have skinny friends that have always been skinny who I consider in the plus sized community for the simple fact that they know I have medical conditions that prevevnt me from losing weight, and they understand that and stick up for me and others, spreading the truth
Ive kinda always dreamt of losing weight, then befriending all those shallow ppl, show them what a good person I am, then throw it on them that I used to be fat and was the same person, but I feel that would make me shallow
You really are incredible. I love that you can look at yourself and those around you and actually notice and acknowledge that sometimes being "accepting" really turns into something else. I loved this entire video. Keep doing what you're doing because you deserve to be healthy and to live a pain free life. Forget those who are trying to bring you down and keep focusing on becoming a healthier you :)
just like you don't have to get skinny for anybody, you don't have to stay big for anybody. i remember reading some stuff on tumblr (yes i mentioned tumblr. come at me bro) when pictures of crystal renn came out after she lost weight and people were like she was our spokesmodel and blah blah blah. get over it. people aren't going to stay the same just for you.
well....people from the community are a little bit mean......since you are trying to loose weight because of medical reasons.......and they should at least comprehend your situation....>!!!!!...i used to be overweight......but medical reasons ''forced'' me to change my lifestyle....!!!.....now i am normal size.......i still love myself......but sometimes i miss my belly......and i still have the impression that i used to be more cute when i was overweight....!!!!!
Also wanted to say that I totally support you on your journey to health! I am not plus-sized, but definitely an ally of the plus-sized community. You have motivated me eat and be healthier as well! = ) I bet the people who are criticizing you would be really sad if you could not longer tour and make music because of your back! Keep going!!!
I think intention is everything in that there is a difference between someone losing weight because they want to be healthy versus someone losing weight because they feel that they have to be thinner to be "beautiful" or "worthy." I am not judging anyone who wants to lose weight, but I so think there can be disastrous consequences in losing weight if you are not in the right frame of mind or have unrealistic expectations--i.e., that losing weight will fix all of your problems. It's complicated!
It amazes me how some commenters don't understand self-acceptance. Everything you said seems so logical. Some in the plus-sized community who are very sensitive and I understand that. There is a lot of uninformed fatphobia out there. Self-acceptance and embracing each others individual decisions does seem like the right thing to me.
You're beautiful just the way you are <3 :) .. I get picked on cuz' of my weight since I was little ... now I'm eating healthy & I feel more awake and confident because for once I'm doing something for me for once. Don't listen to haters, don't let anyone stop you from doing something for yourself because I used to do that and I wasn't happy at all when I started thinking about myself every once and a while my life tured around good luck <3 :)
I grew up overweight my entire life. A few years ago I lost weight (mostly health issues) to the point of a size 8. I gained back almost all of it but while I was somewhat thinner, I still found myself connecting with the plus size community and understanding those who were plus size. For me, it wasn't a feeling that ever went away. I don't think it's betrayal at all.
I think it's great that you've decided, for your own health, to lose some weight. I'd never look down upon anyone for any decision they make, especially involving problems that can get worse such as your back. Even if it was for vanity, if that person feels they would rather be a different size, it's up to that person. Clearly, they still love themselves enough to be grown up about it.
Its like some people want to sabotage you when you are losing weight, and yes I agree with you that we need to embrace all sizes and transition of sizes, because in the end, we are all still us and we are all human beings with feelings that get hurt when what your doing is frowned upon.
Honestly, I think plus size people who give you a hard time about healthier eating are jealous and resentful because they would like to lose weight and feel they can't, for whatever reason. People who are happy in their own skin (at any size) will be supportive. Taking care of your health is *obviously* a great thing for anyone to do, especially if young and talented like yourself, your health is precious.
I don't really care for the term "fat acceptance" for some of the reasons you highlight here. I'm much more interested in self acceptance and size acceptance. I don't think it's necessarily bad for some people to feel out-of-sorts about changes in your life, but I'd think that it would be better to explore why they feel that way rather than be upset with you.
I admire you for living with passion no matter what you're doing.
Just to be fair, if you went down to a size four, you would be unhealthy. It's always better to have too much than not enough.Anyway, you're trying to better yourself in order to better others. Very selfless. :)
People who think you're betraying them will learn to understand to accept it over time. :)
@thebluerobbin I'm sorry but in the world are you talking about? People who are a size four are not unhealthy, or at least not just because they are a size four. I'm not seeing your logic here.
@SilverSprings09 I'm saying for example, me, if I were to go down to a size 30 which my terms would 150 lb., I wouldn't be healthy and anorexic. I'm saying she would lose muscle if she went to that size.
I agree Meghan. No matter what size you are, I find it a shame that people can't be happy when other people make good lifestyle choices. There's no judgement to them that they aren't making those choices--so maybe the defensiveness and blaming is more about them and less about you. Keep rocking it! More power to ya, sister!
that's horrible that people would feel like betrayal that you are losing weight. If ANYTHING I feel like you have INSPIRED me and probably other to actually lose weight for health reasons as well!
Love You Meghan! And I'm happy you are doing well! (PS Hope you enjoyed Toronto!)
I think maybe the reason some people get ornary when their friends lose weight is because often two big friends end up commisserating together. You know each others worst feelings about being big, and it's kind of a knowledge that you still have to feel those things and they don't. Of course, not true, but commisserating about weight issues I find is a very, very vulnerable place.
Thanks for posting this! I discovered this channel thanks to "VintageorTacky" and I'm very glad I did. I've always been plus sized, either more fat or less fat but always fat. Right now I'm in the "more fat" stage and I'm dieting to loose some of that weight. Not because I want to be thin (trust me I was born fat, that's not happening) but just because I'm not comfortable in my skin right now and I can't do all of the things I want to do without my body betraying me. So forget the haters!Do you!
Gosh there are some haters! (Points finger ar Ohernandez13) Meghan you have hit the nail on the head, there always is an element of threat when ANOTHER person in the plus sized community decides its not as healthy to be at the top weight they are before losing weight.... Each person needs to focus on what makes them healthy and if thats a size 16+ then who cares! be happy live life but as long as you are doing it for yourself and not what anyone else thinks then do what makes you happy :)
I look at it as more of a tactical advantage. To win a fight, all I have to do is grab that someone and fall down. Not that anyone is going to pick that fight when I out weigh them 2:1.
You're doing what's right for you. Besides, we've still got another year plus of you before you've lost enough to join that other team.
I just wanted to say go girl u look awesome. I know how u feel because I'm losing weight because of the stress of the weight on my knees and people think u r doing it coz u want to be skinny no that's not true I just want to go a day when I don't have joint pain keep up the good work girl xxoo
I completely understand you I am plus sized and I have a weightloss channel I have my reasons on why I want to lose weight but I always wonder that too if I Lose a certain amount of weight does that mean I am not accepted in the plus size community? Even tho I've been fat all my life? It's hard to make some people understand why your trying to Lose weight in my case.. be around people who don't understand but I'm doing it for me and the healthy way. Meghan I support you girl!;)
Your very inspirational, don't stop... it's such a breath of fresh air :] We are proud of you, its not easy to be an inspiration to many but you have done so by being yourself
I totally get ya! But just continue focusing on your health cuz at the end of the day that's what really matters. That's what's helping me get thru my journey. I don't plan on being a size 2 (most likely I'll still be slightly overweight); I just plan on living a very long and happy life and to do that I gotta take care of my health :)
Those who are pissed are lazy as fuck! It's not like you're doing it b/c you hate being you, it's b/c your HEALTH is deteriorating. Screw those fucking idiots. Let them keep their diabetes or whatever else & complain about how the doctors can't cure it b/c they are too fucked up in the head to stop drinking a gallon of soda a day & chopping down family size boxes of food on their own. I'm SICK of other big woman chewing me out b/c I want to be healthy for my KIDS! Screw you. You be unhappy alone
People look up to you as their inspiration and now that they see your losing weight they feel betrayed.Just stay focused on you and your health.Dont let them stop you.
Also, I think part of all of this is more jealousy then feeling betrayed. Also, you can still preach fat acceptance as a thin person.... it just makes you less relate-able until you have experienced it? idk.
Hm.... it makes me feel bad that I even would considering thinking of you as betraying anyone or being a traitor.
I don't see you as turning your back on us because you are totally doing this for the right reasons. For your health.
But I have to be honest... if you were doing it for vanity reasons, my outlook would probably be different. and that kinda makes me feel like a bad person. lol.
We're all about acceptance and whatnot.... why can't we accept choices other people make for themselves?
I think that anyone who is willing to lose weight for their health or even for their own self-acceptance deserves support. I find that the plus-sized community is a little close minded when it comes to change. Like, if someone wants to no longer be plus-sized it's like "Oh, you aren't happy with yourself!" Or the thought that smaller people don't have problems also. I think it's great that you're losing weight for your health and once you're at a comfortable spot, you should stop.
Fat acceptance is saying that no matter what size you are, you can love your body and who you are as a person. There is no meter to determine how fat you have to be before you can accept yourself. Some people who are a size 4 would still consider themselves fat because they aren't the size they think they need to be. I think the fact you love yourself no matter what gives you the right to speak about acceptance. You still accept people who may not eat healthy.
In a way I get how (not why) people could try and justify being angry but it’s your life and your body so if loosing weight is going to benefit you physically (or even mentally) screw anyone who has something negative to say. In the end the people getting angry don’t have to share in the back pain you are trying avoid or listen in on all the insecure or saddened thoughts of the person who is doing it for vanity sake.
I think it is more of a "left behind" thing. I am not happy with all the weight I have gained and I would love to lose about 30 pounds. I would still be plus sized but I would feel better about myself as a whole. Regardless of your size, I watch you for you! I love your personality! You have to live for yourself and be happy and healthy. It comes down to doing what is best for you.
I feel really uncomfortable because I do want to lose weight not just for health but because of vanity, though admitting that I also want to accept myself for who I am, not just focusing on what I want to become.
Some people want you to pick just one and can't see how someone can try to accomplish both accepting and desiring.
I find that people don't understand the difference between body image problems and just wanting to be healthy. Skinny or fat people want to be healthy. When a thin person starts working out and eating better people say don't feel bad about your weight! you're beautiful. When a fat person starts working out and eating better usually people assume they think they aren't good enough and want to be skinny. We all just want to be healthy and happy.
We talked a bit about this on sunday but I think you hut the nail on the head in all cases. I think the community is afraid of losing plus size role models but they need to realize that trying to be healthy is a good thing for a role model. As I mentioned Sunday you got me into healthy and I feel great. As someone who has been plus size all my life I can attest to the fact that there are a lot of health issues that can acompany it. People also need to remember the community is about acceptance.
great topic. I think it's interesting how the community really does push people out the moment they start losing weight. It's like we push our own insecurities on people trying to better themselves, because they've failed. On another note: You look amazing! You can see a whole new excitement in your eyes for the future. I'm rooting for you =D
Great issue. I'm normally 14/16, but have gone up to 22 before. If I go down to 10, will I be kicked out even though I've spent 2/3s of my life being plus sized.
I'm sure that some people think Jesse shouldn't been in our "club" anymore, but she can stay as long as she likes
Your voice is soothing, and I'm incredibly tired. I don't mean this rudely but this video is putting me to sleep(probably because I listen to your music like overnight) BUT I will most definitely re watch this in the morning.
i'm not plus sized but i do have other body issues, like my lack of boobs. my mom is on the same "team" as me in that sense but the other day she mentioned that some day she may get fake boobs. i really look up to her and the fact that she can accept herself and own what some ppl see as a flaw. so it made me feel like, if she doesn't accept herself the way she is, then why should i? do i need to change too? am i not good enough? i kinda felt like she was joining the dark side for saying that.
I think it comes from a knee-jerk reaction where you losing weight is somehow you saying that being big isn't really ok even though you talk about accepting people for who they are. You're doing what's right for you and the only betrayal would be not doing just that. Acceptance at any size is what matters, making people not feel marginalized for being different is what matters, anyone who gives you shit for losing weight has their own demons to deal with.
I think its a shame that people cant be as supportive of someone loosing weight, but i can see how for some people who feel like they have found a "group of friends" can feel threatened by one of their friends loosing weight. I think people just need to realize that the message isn't necessarily "fat acceptance" rather, its just "acceptance".
Basically, Meghan you are a beautiful girl, 15 pounds lighter or not! Health needs to be the number one priority and you have my support all the way! :)
I was always so worried about you when your back would go out (my dad has degenerative disks as well). I understand how losing weight can help A LOT with that, so I support you times a million! Your health is all that matters!
Maybe the comments stem from the fear of not being able to do the same. As fat girls, we're told we're horrible people for not losing weight, so we band together for support. So one girl being able to actually lose the weight... maybe it's seen as a threat? I don't know...
I read somewhere that the one thing that women are most jealous of is when other women lose weight! You seem very comfortable in your own skin, and I think you should do what you think is best for yourself, your health and well being! Whether you are plus sized or a size zero, there are always going to be people critical of what you are doing :(
Taking better care of yourself is NOT betrayal to anyone. Those plus-sized people who may be giving you a hard time need to check themselves and get a grip on reality. I'm very proud of you for doing what is best for YOU! :) Keep up the great work!
Completely agree with you. The greatest advocates for acceptance of the plus sized community are those who have lived the plus sized life. Thin or plus sized its acceptance that should be the message.
I think it comes from the feeling of abandonment. It's sort of a knee jerk reaction. In a way it can feel like someone is saying hey I'm doing this so now I'm not going to like you anymore. The truth is you have to do what's best for you, and never feel bad about it. I am personally proud of you and I think you look great and I hope you feel awesome.
Look.....just because you loose weight doesnt mean your not still fat in your head.....people dont realize that your mind is still the same...just cuz your body is different doesnt mean you dont feel the same way, think the same things and want the same stuff....your not betraying anyone but yourself when you listen to what other people say....no one can argue that losing weight is a health issue...how come no one addresses the mind when it comes to losing weight....its more than size people
audreyellertson 4 months ago
I feel that whether it's for health's sake or vanity's sake, as long as you love and accept yourself for who you are, you're golden. Fuck what other people say. If you want to be plus-size, mid-size, or under-sized, go ahead. Just be healthy and love the hell out of yourself while you're doing it. Only do it for yourself - never for someone else.
HAES is health at EVERY size. Not just plus-size, though that seems to be a focus.
@ least that's what I get from your videos. =)
I love you!
TheFanwindow 7 months ago
meghan u r awesome for trying to get healthy for the benefit of YOURSELF! you are having extreme health problems with ur back and all that and you have realized that there are lifestyle changes to be made so you no longer have that pain! you have my support! :)
simplyirrst9 8 months ago
those people are so wrong. You are being a positive example.. no matter your weight someone has a problem with it. My biggest fear growing up was always being called fat, and now that I have lost weight everyone complains im too skinny.. but I like it... If people are complaining it is a problem they have with themselves.
katiefershadybaby 8 months ago
Since seeing you on Ellen, Finding you and Project Lifesize on facebook and twitter - You've inspired me to be ok with my weight. I'm a big girl who's trying to change the way she eats, but trying not to focus on being skinny,. I think the message your sending out is an excellent one. Regardless of size, it's all about acceptance on every level. and I thank you for that.
fal00la 8 months ago
imo, I have skinny friends that have always been skinny who I consider in the plus sized community for the simple fact that they know I have medical conditions that prevevnt me from losing weight, and they understand that and stick up for me and others, spreading the truth
Ive kinda always dreamt of losing weight, then befriending all those shallow ppl, show them what a good person I am, then throw it on them that I used to be fat and was the same person, but I feel that would make me shallow
cherilyndria 8 months ago
I prefer larger women and hate to see them lose weight, but I absolutely respect their right to do so! It's your choice, hope it works out for you.
DoctorFeeder 8 months ago
You really are incredible. I love that you can look at yourself and those around you and actually notice and acknowledge that sometimes being "accepting" really turns into something else. I loved this entire video. Keep doing what you're doing because you deserve to be healthy and to live a pain free life. Forget those who are trying to bring you down and keep focusing on becoming a healthier you :)
xoxo
EmmmaKay 8 months ago
just like you don't have to get skinny for anybody, you don't have to stay big for anybody. i remember reading some stuff on tumblr (yes i mentioned tumblr. come at me bro) when pictures of crystal renn came out after she lost weight and people were like she was our spokesmodel and blah blah blah. get over it. people aren't going to stay the same just for you.
BeautyAtAnySize10 8 months ago
Fruity... Almost cherry.
Ssource6 8 months ago
well....people from the community are a little bit mean......since you are trying to loose weight because of medical reasons.......and they should at least comprehend your situation....>!!!!!...i used to be overweight......but medical reasons ''forced'' me to change my lifestyle....!!!.....now i am normal size.......i still love myself......but sometimes i miss my belly......and i still have the impression that i used to be more cute when i was overweight....!!!!!
iani1051989 8 months ago
Also wanted to say that I totally support you on your journey to health! I am not plus-sized, but definitely an ally of the plus-sized community. You have motivated me eat and be healthier as well! = ) I bet the people who are criticizing you would be really sad if you could not longer tour and make music because of your back! Keep going!!!
JIovannone 8 months ago 5
I think intention is everything in that there is a difference between someone losing weight because they want to be healthy versus someone losing weight because they feel that they have to be thinner to be "beautiful" or "worthy." I am not judging anyone who wants to lose weight, but I so think there can be disastrous consequences in losing weight if you are not in the right frame of mind or have unrealistic expectations--i.e., that losing weight will fix all of your problems. It's complicated!
JIovannone 8 months ago 2
It amazes me how some commenters don't understand self-acceptance. Everything you said seems so logical. Some in the plus-sized community who are very sensitive and I understand that. There is a lot of uninformed fatphobia out there. Self-acceptance and embracing each others individual decisions does seem like the right thing to me.
misterpantybuns 8 months ago
Girl. You are awesome. Never Change.
katharineanne91 8 months ago
You're beautiful just the way you are <3 :) .. I get picked on cuz' of my weight since I was little ... now I'm eating healthy & I feel more awake and confident because for once I'm doing something for me for once. Don't listen to haters, don't let anyone stop you from doing something for yourself because I used to do that and I wasn't happy at all when I started thinking about myself every once and a while my life tured around good luck <3 :)
VAzizi2 8 months ago
you can't be angry at someone for wanting to be healthy I mean it's ridiculous, it almost makes them look jealous, or something.
DyamonFTW 8 months ago
what does "SWRM" stand for?
makemepretty123 8 months ago
@makemepretty123 sunday rant with monday..i love them hehe
piperkrabbenhoft 8 months ago
Exactly!
KermitGirl32 8 months ago
I grew up overweight my entire life. A few years ago I lost weight (mostly health issues) to the point of a size 8. I gained back almost all of it but while I was somewhat thinner, I still found myself connecting with the plus size community and understanding those who were plus size. For me, it wasn't a feeling that ever went away. I don't think it's betrayal at all.
jessiib12 8 months ago
I think it's great that you've decided, for your own health, to lose some weight. I'd never look down upon anyone for any decision they make, especially involving problems that can get worse such as your back. Even if it was for vanity, if that person feels they would rather be a different size, it's up to that person. Clearly, they still love themselves enough to be grown up about it.
ZombifiedDollFace 8 months ago
Its like some people want to sabotage you when you are losing weight, and yes I agree with you that we need to embrace all sizes and transition of sizes, because in the end, we are all still us and we are all human beings with feelings that get hurt when what your doing is frowned upon.
SamanthaJSylva 8 months ago
Honestly, I think plus size people who give you a hard time about healthier eating are jealous and resentful because they would like to lose weight and feel they can't, for whatever reason. People who are happy in their own skin (at any size) will be supportive. Taking care of your health is *obviously* a great thing for anyone to do, especially if young and talented like yourself, your health is precious.
BellamyBlue 8 months ago
I don't really care for the term "fat acceptance" for some of the reasons you highlight here. I'm much more interested in self acceptance and size acceptance. I don't think it's necessarily bad for some people to feel out-of-sorts about changes in your life, but I'd think that it would be better to explore why they feel that way rather than be upset with you.
I admire you for living with passion no matter what you're doing.
brandaluna 8 months ago
Who cares what they think. You are doing the right thing for you. You're an inspiration Meghan and you always will be.
bxbrotha3145 8 months ago
Just to be fair, if you went down to a size four, you would be unhealthy. It's always better to have too much than not enough.Anyway, you're trying to better yourself in order to better others. Very selfless. :)
People who think you're betraying them will learn to understand to accept it over time. :)
thebluerobbin 8 months ago
@thebluerobbin I'm sorry but in the world are you talking about? People who are a size four are not unhealthy, or at least not just because they are a size four. I'm not seeing your logic here.
SilverSprings09 8 months ago 2
@SilverSprings09 I'm saying for example, me, if I were to go down to a size 30 which my terms would 150 lb., I wouldn't be healthy and anorexic. I'm saying she would lose muscle if she went to that size.
thebluerobbin 8 months ago
I agree Meghan. No matter what size you are, I find it a shame that people can't be happy when other people make good lifestyle choices. There's no judgement to them that they aren't making those choices--so maybe the defensiveness and blaming is more about them and less about you. Keep rocking it! More power to ya, sister!
faith120604 8 months ago
that's horrible that people would feel like betrayal that you are losing weight. If ANYTHING I feel like you have INSPIRED me and probably other to actually lose weight for health reasons as well!
Love You Meghan! And I'm happy you are doing well! (PS Hope you enjoyed Toronto!)
missShimmer84 8 months ago
I think maybe the reason some people get ornary when their friends lose weight is because often two big friends end up commisserating together. You know each others worst feelings about being big, and it's kind of a knowledge that you still have to feel those things and they don't. Of course, not true, but commisserating about weight issues I find is a very, very vulnerable place.
wingardiumleviosa001 8 months ago
Thanks for posting this! I discovered this channel thanks to "VintageorTacky" and I'm very glad I did. I've always been plus sized, either more fat or less fat but always fat. Right now I'm in the "more fat" stage and I'm dieting to loose some of that weight. Not because I want to be thin (trust me I was born fat, that's not happening) but just because I'm not comfortable in my skin right now and I can't do all of the things I want to do without my body betraying me. So forget the haters!Do you!
martin9592000 8 months ago
Gosh there are some haters! (Points finger ar Ohernandez13) Meghan you have hit the nail on the head, there always is an element of threat when ANOTHER person in the plus sized community decides its not as healthy to be at the top weight they are before losing weight.... Each person needs to focus on what makes them healthy and if thats a size 16+ then who cares! be happy live life but as long as you are doing it for yourself and not what anyone else thinks then do what makes you happy :)
annikalee81 8 months ago
You're still a dumb fat bitch no betrayal on your end :)
ohernandez13 8 months ago
I don't care what size you are. As long as you don't change how beautiful you are on the inside.
elfjeeh 8 months ago
Consequences?
I look at it as more of a tactical advantage. To win a fight, all I have to do is grab that someone and fall down. Not that anyone is going to pick that fight when I out weigh them 2:1.
You're doing what's right for you. Besides, we've still got another year plus of you before you've lost enough to join that other team.
wwwShadow7 8 months ago
I just wanted to say go girl u look awesome. I know how u feel because I'm losing weight because of the stress of the weight on my knees and people think u r doing it coz u want to be skinny no that's not true I just want to go a day when I don't have joint pain keep up the good work girl xxoo
ezza192 8 months ago
You're doing it for the right reasons and some people are going to be hating no matter what you do. You're doing awesome!!!!
cdnsee 8 months ago
You started the video saying "Hey Girls". Just thought I'd remind you that boys watch and love ProjectLifesize too. Supporting you 100%!!! :-)
lewis8000 8 months ago
I completely understand you I am plus sized and I have a weightloss channel I have my reasons on why I want to lose weight but I always wonder that too if I Lose a certain amount of weight does that mean I am not accepted in the plus size community? Even tho I've been fat all my life? It's hard to make some people understand why your trying to Lose weight in my case.. be around people who don't understand but I'm doing it for me and the healthy way. Meghan I support you girl!;)
supergirlnancy1 8 months ago
Your very inspirational, don't stop... it's such a breath of fresh air :] We are proud of you, its not easy to be an inspiration to many but you have done so by being yourself
ApricotArtLover 8 months ago
I agree! - don't let anyone let you feel bad about losing weight though - you are becoming healthier and that is fantastic!
xxxgenevieve 8 months ago
I totally get ya! But just continue focusing on your health cuz at the end of the day that's what really matters. That's what's helping me get thru my journey. I don't plan on being a size 2 (most likely I'll still be slightly overweight); I just plan on living a very long and happy life and to do that I gotta take care of my health :)
j0j0blvd 8 months ago
i don't feel like anyone should be mad if someone is trying to have a healthy lifestyle? accept that. boom.
lianasamo 8 months ago
Those who are pissed are lazy as fuck! It's not like you're doing it b/c you hate being you, it's b/c your HEALTH is deteriorating. Screw those fucking idiots. Let them keep their diabetes or whatever else & complain about how the doctors can't cure it b/c they are too fucked up in the head to stop drinking a gallon of soda a day & chopping down family size boxes of food on their own. I'm SICK of other big woman chewing me out b/c I want to be healthy for my KIDS! Screw you. You be unhappy alone
Raphaelx2ily 8 months ago
People look up to you as their inspiration and now that they see your losing weight they feel betrayed.Just stay focused on you and your health.Dont let them stop you.
Jelloxox 8 months ago
Also, I think part of all of this is more jealousy then feeling betrayed. Also, you can still preach fat acceptance as a thin person.... it just makes you less relate-able until you have experienced it? idk.
CleverestWitch2188 8 months ago
Hm.... it makes me feel bad that I even would considering thinking of you as betraying anyone or being a traitor.
I don't see you as turning your back on us because you are totally doing this for the right reasons. For your health.
But I have to be honest... if you were doing it for vanity reasons, my outlook would probably be different. and that kinda makes me feel like a bad person. lol.
We're all about acceptance and whatnot.... why can't we accept choices other people make for themselves?
CleverestWitch2188 8 months ago
I think that anyone who is willing to lose weight for their health or even for their own self-acceptance deserves support. I find that the plus-sized community is a little close minded when it comes to change. Like, if someone wants to no longer be plus-sized it's like "Oh, you aren't happy with yourself!" Or the thought that smaller people don't have problems also. I think it's great that you're losing weight for your health and once you're at a comfortable spot, you should stop.
XxXTaylorLaineXxX 8 months ago
If you became a size four, you would be like a "fixed" gay. You've "changed", but at heart you are still the same person you were before.
sweetfuckingchrist 8 months ago
Fat acceptance is saying that no matter what size you are, you can love your body and who you are as a person. There is no meter to determine how fat you have to be before you can accept yourself. Some people who are a size 4 would still consider themselves fat because they aren't the size they think they need to be. I think the fact you love yourself no matter what gives you the right to speak about acceptance. You still accept people who may not eat healthy.
Satomi477 8 months ago
In a way I get how (not why) people could try and justify being angry but it’s your life and your body so if loosing weight is going to benefit you physically (or even mentally) screw anyone who has something negative to say. In the end the people getting angry don’t have to share in the back pain you are trying avoid or listen in on all the insecure or saddened thoughts of the person who is doing it for vanity sake.
philiejc 8 months ago
I dont get why someone would get mad because your doing it for your health and issues with your back problems.
AcidBurnShell 8 months ago
I think it is more of a "left behind" thing. I am not happy with all the weight I have gained and I would love to lose about 30 pounds. I would still be plus sized but I would feel better about myself as a whole. Regardless of your size, I watch you for you! I love your personality! You have to live for yourself and be happy and healthy. It comes down to doing what is best for you.
daisydawn79 8 months ago
This is a big thing for me as well.
I feel really uncomfortable because I do want to lose weight not just for health but because of vanity, though admitting that I also want to accept myself for who I am, not just focusing on what I want to become.
Some people want you to pick just one and can't see how someone can try to accomplish both accepting and desiring.
IYQ1317 8 months ago
I find that people don't understand the difference between body image problems and just wanting to be healthy. Skinny or fat people want to be healthy. When a thin person starts working out and eating better people say don't feel bad about your weight! you're beautiful. When a fat person starts working out and eating better usually people assume they think they aren't good enough and want to be skinny. We all just want to be healthy and happy.
veganmadi 8 months ago
We talked a bit about this on sunday but I think you hut the nail on the head in all cases. I think the community is afraid of losing plus size role models but they need to realize that trying to be healthy is a good thing for a role model. As I mentioned Sunday you got me into healthy and I feel great. As someone who has been plus size all my life I can attest to the fact that there are a lot of health issues that can acompany it. People also need to remember the community is about acceptance.
broderickdruce 8 months ago
great topic. I think it's interesting how the community really does push people out the moment they start losing weight. It's like we push our own insecurities on people trying to better themselves, because they've failed. On another note: You look amazing! You can see a whole new excitement in your eyes for the future. I'm rooting for you =D
itsabellavita 8 months ago
Great issue. I'm normally 14/16, but have gone up to 22 before. If I go down to 10, will I be kicked out even though I've spent 2/3s of my life being plus sized.
I'm sure that some people think Jesse shouldn't been in our "club" anymore, but she can stay as long as she likes
flowergirl1313 8 months ago
Your voice is soothing, and I'm incredibly tired. I don't mean this rudely but this video is putting me to sleep(probably because I listen to your music like overnight) BUT I will most definitely re watch this in the morning.
laurapie92 8 months ago
I agree with you 100 percent. & congratulations on the weight loss! :D
KendraUpdyke 8 months ago
it feels like we're doing it together in some weird way x)
iWuvHuskys 8 months ago
I completely agree with you! :-)
xannbe 8 months ago
Tell them bitches they need more dick in their diet.
evmoneyTV 8 months ago
i'm not plus sized but i do have other body issues, like my lack of boobs. my mom is on the same "team" as me in that sense but the other day she mentioned that some day she may get fake boobs. i really look up to her and the fact that she can accept herself and own what some ppl see as a flaw. so it made me feel like, if she doesn't accept herself the way she is, then why should i? do i need to change too? am i not good enough? i kinda felt like she was joining the dark side for saying that.
RainbowMonkey43 8 months ago
I think it comes from a knee-jerk reaction where you losing weight is somehow you saying that being big isn't really ok even though you talk about accepting people for who they are. You're doing what's right for you and the only betrayal would be not doing just that. Acceptance at any size is what matters, making people not feel marginalized for being different is what matters, anyone who gives you shit for losing weight has their own demons to deal with.
thingsthatmakenoise 8 months ago
i was gonna go to bed but i saw a new pls video up. and its monday! yay meghan!
RainbowMonkey43 8 months ago
I think its a shame that people cant be as supportive of someone loosing weight, but i can see how for some people who feel like they have found a "group of friends" can feel threatened by one of their friends loosing weight. I think people just need to realize that the message isn't necessarily "fat acceptance" rather, its just "acceptance".
Basically, Meghan you are a beautiful girl, 15 pounds lighter or not! Health needs to be the number one priority and you have my support all the way! :)
leesha666 8 months ago
I was always so worried about you when your back would go out (my dad has degenerative disks as well). I understand how losing weight can help A LOT with that, so I support you times a million! Your health is all that matters!
Maybe the comments stem from the fear of not being able to do the same. As fat girls, we're told we're horrible people for not losing weight, so we band together for support. So one girl being able to actually lose the weight... maybe it's seen as a threat? I don't know...
blue2draconian 8 months ago
I read somewhere that the one thing that women are most jealous of is when other women lose weight! You seem very comfortable in your own skin, and I think you should do what you think is best for yourself, your health and well being! Whether you are plus sized or a size zero, there are always going to be people critical of what you are doing :(
monstermonsta 8 months ago
ah. men.
MakeupFromKatie 8 months ago
Taking better care of yourself is NOT betrayal to anyone. Those plus-sized people who may be giving you a hard time need to check themselves and get a grip on reality. I'm very proud of you for doing what is best for YOU! :) Keep up the great work!
melsweetie84 8 months ago 59
@melsweetie84 AMEN :)
simplyirrst9 8 months ago
Completely agree with you. The greatest advocates for acceptance of the plus sized community are those who have lived the plus sized life. Thin or plus sized its acceptance that should be the message.
LiveFromTheFridge 8 months ago
I think it comes from the feeling of abandonment. It's sort of a knee jerk reaction. In a way it can feel like someone is saying hey I'm doing this so now I'm not going to like you anymore. The truth is you have to do what's best for you, and never feel bad about it. I am personally proud of you and I think you look great and I hope you feel awesome.
UniquelyBranDid 8 months ago
I think people get jealous because they don't have the strength and/or motivation to do it themselves
agm123456 8 months ago 4
You actually inspired me to lose weight for the right reasons, and I'm currently 15 pounds lighter, doing well, and happy. :)
TheNinjaGirlfriend 8 months ago 31
girl, you're looking great! keep it up!
ktdreams510 8 months ago