How To Deal With a Verbally Abusive Boyfriend

[hahahaha2241]

1:06 I think she's a midget

[steamingleo]

*evil laugh* Oh boy oh boy oh boy. If a brother EVER comes up in my face like that?? HE will be the one that will be the victim of abuse from ME!

[redraven97]

1:07 That is a big door...

[Sonamyy]

if a verbally abusive ex bofriend came to my door with chocolate i'd take it and slam the door. :D

[danone1231]

holy crap 

[XxMarMarx]

That actress is so beautiful!! #Jelly :D

[hime2344]

i been a victim of this

[teamzirbs6]

@hime2344 ; yeah same here =P

[XRyanRevengeX]

love is a joke

[turkeychuck]

step one..put a leash on the woman step 2..smack her like a rag tag bitch

[KraftwithaK]

@turkeychuck Oh, you are soooo single. I just know it.

[reymatt76]

Here's what I've done: Drive away, change your phone number. No more problem! Really, it's really that easy. If you won't do that, then you have no right to complain. And yes, I do speak from experience. I realize it's sometimes gradual, and you can't just leave every guy because he said something to hurt your feelings, but you'll know when enough's enough. Always look out for #1, never forget that.

[SLOTERXX]

this video is sexist what about a girlfriend been verballay abusive this is a one sided video it should say how to deal with a verballay abusive partner.

[addisonroadfan12]

Step one:  Leave him

[TheFeather45]

at 1:33 he is yelling at the girl becauseis jelly is not okay

[AnotherBeerMovie]

Face it! If he doesn't respect you then stop seeing him, good luck and stay strong.

[noobz4lif]

Why am I watching this I am a Guy

[ichigoxmarura15]

@noobz4lif You can be a victim of verbal abuse too, you know. It has nothing to do with gender.

[GiantDoucheNG]

now make one on how to deal with a verbally abusive girlfriend because being an asshole is not exclusive to men as much as people like those who work at howcast would like it to be

[macncheesenadia]

I wish I knew about this 3 months ago.

[Smokex12]

is it just me, or at 1:06 does she look really short?

[USERNAMEKLEMPTOR]

what if the abuser is a girlfriend?

[roithrani]

biggest door ever at - 1:06

[jnetha360]

How to DEAL with a verbally abusive relationship?!! You don't need to fuckin' DEAL with it!!! You can END it!!!!

[cassybear1100]

Step one: make sure u take karate or u know how to punch him

Step 2: punch the douch bag and wrist lock him xP

step 3: call ur dad to get him to best the dude up

Step 4: dump him -___-

Easy

[ThermalFeedback]

How to deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend:

LEAVE! ! !

I was this way before. Whether she was the cause or not is immaterial, she didn't deserve it and I thankful that she didn't leave. NO ONE DESERVES THAT KIND OF SHIT. Leave him and then make sure that when you a not alone, that other person knows how to kick ass.

[williamiswill]

beat him with a cricket bat, then say he was trying to rape you so you dont get in trouble, trust me, the cops will believe you -_____________________-

[ilovemiddleschoolyah]

just kick their ass and leave duh

[TheEmpowered787]

This fits my best friend's bf so much. Infeel like im constantly on the roller coaster ride with hee

[TheEmpowered787]

Thanks for this. M y

[violinist881]

suggest he goes counseling? do you think he will take your advise when he is a person who always thinks he's right?

[Varlwyll]

Self-awareness, courage AND determination? Seems to me that's asking a lot of modern women.

[kelissoso]

If he is VERBALLY ABUSIVE HE WILL GET PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE.

SO U BETTER BREAK OUT WITH HIM.

AND IT WILL NEVER GETS BETTER

DON'T LIE TO URSELFE

[narutoroxanne22]

Hello to all lovers & one's who ARE looking for true their lovers, i just made a video about relationships, for both good & bad sides of a relationships. check it out please, because it's realy usefull!! i think everyone should know the basic & most important notes about having a relationship, it carries moral advices, so take a look, it's on my channel.... Thank you <3

[BuLu12three]

1:05 Big fucking door

[Android18DBZ]

why is she even dating him he is so ugly!

[pingpongingful]

why the fuck would she go out with him in the first place? not only is he an asshole, she's also way out of his league!

[Mai8011]

another way, DUMP HIM and move away from him, get a new boyfriend, tell everyone that he is abusive, tell your parents(and his parents too), and get a new phone number so he doesn't track your phone, change your name too if he can track your name

[Mai8011]

You will need

Karate Lessons

a cellphone

1. see if he is getting abusive, if he is then punch him in the face

2. dump him and see how he reacts

3. If he threatens to kill you, call the cops and make his life miserable

[jayc342009]

@Mai8011 That's right call the cops and get him jailed after you punched him aswel, seriously shut up lol.

[joebama97]

you will need: a knife after he's gone to sleep.... to cut up some watermelon to throw at him then run

[TBVESProductions]

They Forgot To Tell U That U Need A Gun

[SkittleE275]

Step 1: Dump the bastard.

[TheSimsAreAmazing]

easy... dump that basterd

[brandonjh66]

call ur bestfriend to kick his ass

[bubblelemodrop3]

That guy looks like an ape...

[angelcat19]

@bubblelemodrop3 LMAO

[bagies]

Verbal abuse is shit, smack them bitches around

[VioletMoonFire]

BOY OR GIRL YOU LEAVE THEM. DONT' DEAL WITH IT.

[1023218ma]

How did I get from building a laser to this?

[SnoweyMan111]

This video is most popular with:

Female 13-17

Female 45-54

Female 18-24

In order. Also, most people watching are from canada and the US.

This bothers me. 13-17 year olds? Wow...

[VelvetWind8]

@SnoweyMan111 Well you know, they did say that 1 in 4 teenagers are verbally abused by boyfriends, so it actually does apply.

[DriesBraems]

HAHAAHAHHAAA 1 min 44 just to say: dump him

I WANT MY TIME BACK BITCH!

[ihatenumbers987]

Here's what I would do:

Step 1: DUMP HIS ASS AND RUN!!!!!!

[shadowblack1987]

Stop being dumbcunts that cheat and lie.

We will stop 'verbally abusing you'.

[JuliaVSJuliaFilms]

What if a family member does this to you?

[FormatxCwalk]

Give him blow job

[undisputed4life]

Step 1: Get back in the kitchen.

[310myhoodiez]

leave his ass lol fuck all the bullshit

[TheAwesomeBunny1]

Step one:

Dump the HELL` out of him.

Optional: Kick his balls`

[pewpewlololo]

you will need: amazing blowjob skills.

the end.

[blahblah4149]

How to deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend?

Step 1: Dumb his sorry ass!

[RonaldBarone]

avoid all that and do this way

TXT him saying

GET OUT OF MY LIFE YOUR FUCKING ASSHOLE, AND DON'T YOU DARE CALL ME CAUSE I WONT ANSWER YOUR FUCKING PHONE CALLS.

Statics show that assholes deserve to get the info over a txt so that dushbag he is nothing worth your time even calling him.  trust me on that ;-)

[cutey123woohoo]

did he grab her rack?

[omgdan23]

You will need, a fucking gun. What kinda dumbass would make this video.

[fetishisticrose]

ha, in a public place, such as a table in the middle of the street with coffee , lol

[dannymoney02220]

TOTAL FUCKING OPPOSITE, did you know 4 in 4 boys have been abused by their girlfriends

[Raine04]

My friend should watch this but then again she will always make an excuse -smh-

[rd1993xyz]

yeah howcast, we need a one that tells us how to deal with verbally abusive girlfriends. not joking.

[pedrod9basket]

I'm a guy and I can say more simpler steps:

Step 1: Respond to the jackass "BALLS TO YOU" (TIP:kick him in the left ball. Researches tell they're more sensitive on the left ^^)

Step 2: While he's grabbing his balls out of pain, kick him in the face and get a car and runaway

[MrZwinky345]

Thanks

[jordanwantszacefron9]

Um, I think it's called BREAKING UP WITH HIM.

[Mizukihashbrown]

if hes abusive just break up with him its not love if they are willing to tormant you

[MsSkinnyJeans23]

if he yells at u for no reason lots of times especially for somethings small just call the fucking police if needed have someone help u and tell someone that's all

[mrboyface]

this just looks more like nagging than abuse and 9 times out of 10 its the woman whos are always nagging about stupid shit

[japanesegeekfreak]

@mrboyface That's not what the video is about.

[neonmangos1]

a lot of girls love this

[UtubeCreature]

Can't you just instead cut his tongue off ?

[crystalbratcher30ify]

@UtubeCreature yeah that is perfect.i wish i could have done that to my ex jeremy.he told a friend of mine that i was wearing too much makeup and i should stop wearing it.

[utubesgettingboring]

do these losers actually think they are cool by calling women names lol the ones commenting on vids they are probably just faggots,  no real man would ever disrespects a woman ever. they are just bitches who probably got turned down for their own faults thats why they hate women

[AllergicToCramps]

That door handle is really high up...

1:07

[xRocknRollbearx]

after all these steps i was thinking what i would do in this sitch. the answer is al the same: fight the fuck back!!!!!!!!!!

[BleedForMee]

How to deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend? Leave the motherfucker.

[DuboisMandy221]

I get abused..my man tells me what i can and cant wear, and he gets mad at me for saying like "Im gunna go hang oout with my cousins for the weekend, then he'll say "Chh, no, how come you never wanna see me??? jeez, i wanna see you is that bad?, and you better not dress like ur cousins, or show your chest, id me pissed off, trynna look sexy" hed be like that!! and he'd hit me, pull my hair, and bite me. but yeauh ..its not good .

[kimmico123]

@DuboisMandy221 then brak up with him with really big tough BIG guys around u like 3 or 4 never 2 if hes a big guy, if hes small n'd ur smaller 1 big guy and never ever break up alone

[checkyesmilene]

He kinda looks like Dexter.

[checkyesmilene]

My lord the guy playing the boyfriend makes me wanna shoot myself. Something about his "angry" face.

[conbait]

Just say: Oh i'm sorry did u say somthing?

[shurdi3]

How to deal with it:

A knife.

the end

[jrogs32]

hahahhahahhahahahhaa fuck verbal. physicals the way to go

[ninjaninja246]

If a boyfriend insults me, I'll kick his ass!!!

[darkrhage80]

wow howcast has a how to video for everything ex:how to commit suicide

[frankenshank]

Can we get a video about the tricky, advanced manipulative tactics that women employ to emotionally terrorize men? Didn't think so. It's always the man's fault, carry on then!

[MsSoWhat12]

@frankenshank Quit being butthurt. This isn't accusing all males that they're abusers.

[chattycookie]

Step 1: Break up with him.

[chosenboutique]

if you feel unsafe telling him you are leaving because you are afraid he may react with more abuse DO NOT TELL HIM find a time to leave when he doesn't expect it.  Stay somewhere he will not find you and call the police to report your abuse. It's good to have a record so the police are aware if the violence escalates- it usually does when the relationship ends and he knows he's lost all control.

Get counselling !! It is NOT your responsibility to help him. It's his.

[Stunt101Rider]

IF YOU DUMB WHORES DONT LIKE BEING ABUSED THEN YOU CAN LEAVE HIM!!! OR STOP RUNNING YOUR MOUTH AND TALKING TO OUTHER GUYS.EITHER WAY YOUR JUST AS GUILTY.its amazing how u play the victim when ur COMPLETLY cappable of leaving him but u stay anyway?you dumbass females kno its true.

[Biotchhh121]

@Stunt101Rider Your a FUCKING DICK! jesus christ. calm the fuck down, dont call females dumb whores...it is very inappropreate. and we can talk to other guy friends. its no big deal. and what if a girl is afraid to leave him because there afraid of what he might do? ever thought of that. and were not dumbasses. this post of yours makes you look very stupid and is very demeaning.

[Stunt101Rider]

@Biotchhh121 if ur afraid of what he might do than why date him in the first place???and the truth might sound stupid but its still the truth.u bitches need to take responsibility for your choices and actions.if u dont want problems then dont talk to other guys,and stop choosing assholes to date.

[Biotchhh121]

@Stunt101Rider well... a lot of guys do change. there really nice at first then they change on you. you never know who they really are until you date for a while. and no we aren't bitches. we are females.

[Stunt101Rider]

@Biotchhh121 bitches/females same thing.

[Biotchhh121]

@Stunt101Rider not reallly. if were a bitch, then where a bitch from the start(:

[Biotchhh121]

@Stunt101Rider no we are females. SHUT THE FUCK UP!

[Stunt101Rider]

@Biotchhh121 bitches....

[serenecelene]

@Stunt101Rider Just letting everyone know to ignore Stunt101Rider. He's probably still trying to learn how to ride himself. :)

[serenecelene]

@Stunt101Rider ps: why do you assume we are talking to other guys? GTFO! I didn't even speak to guys to respect my ex and he was abusive. It's not like they start out abusive, why are you even watching these videos? I'm guessing your ex accused you of being abusive or something? Hmmm, even if she were speaking to other guys, you need to seek help for your anger issues.

[Stunt101Rider]

@serenecelene if im with a chick who starts talkin to other guys im kickin the shit out of her end of story.

[nicarox105]

@Stunt101Rider someones a little nasty dont u think how would u like it if i called u a dick face

[Stunt101Rider]

@nicarox105 im cool with that.

[Mahaachickaslash]

damn...I'm dealing with a verbally abusive boyfriend and he DOES TELL whom i can see and what to wear and what to do...

Idk wht the fuck to do

I love him so much =/

[elaine31347]

@Mahaachickaslash First, read Patricia Evans book "The Verbally Abusive Relationship". Tell him to be quiet. Literally. Then reassert yourself to him. If his abuse escalates because he cannot control you, follow the instructions in this video. Abuse comes from the violation of personal boundaries. Control is not about love. It is about insecurity and needyness. Love is about trust. If your boyfriend doesn't trust you, he doesn't love you. Period.

[polarspirit]

How To Deal With a Verbally Abusive Boyfriend? Switch to me as your boyfriend. Cuz I never treat women in any abusive manner. lol

[GamingBoy131]

He looks like a woman.

[djoecav]

How do you deal with a verbally abusive GIRLFRIEND?

Not the same thing, people.

[BloodofPatriots]

@djoecav Sleep with her best friend?

[bationnation21]

@djoecav abuse from a man or a women isn't right but it's more common that men abuse women and they are very scary when they do.

[bg11215]

How to deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend? BREAK UP.

[ToxicJoon]

Why is this only directed towards women...?

Guys can be verbally abused, too o_e

[crazylilsucka]

im a guy and why am i watching this?

[kimmico123]

@crazylilsucka cuz ur bf is abuseing u lol jk

[gamnalila]

@crazylilsucka Because these short how to videos are awesomely addictive...

[MultiRump]

@crazylilsucka dammit, u stole my comment lol

[BenOosterveld]

Search You Tube

"Controlling Men's Secrets Exposed"

Lays it out well

[Omeegia]

Verbally Abusive doesn't mean a boyfriend/husband getting mad cause you fucked up.

[ddestroyer100]

if youre boyfrens realy loves you he willl never raise his hand to hurt you

[Benchpress33]

1:07 that door handle is taller than she is

[whatfay357]

arabic proverb, BEAT YOUR WIFE EVERY MORNING, IF YOU DONT KNOW Y , SHE DOES.

[TrIsH2496]

I did get out of an abusive marriage, it just takes deciding you're truly tired of the bullshit .

[SimSheila]

Hhaha there are some way too funny people on youtube. These comments crack me up

[ThaDopist]

how to deal with a verbally abusive boyfriend ... "I AINT FUCKIN U NO MORE OR SUCKIN UR DICK OR MAKING U SANDWICHES !!!!!!!!!!"

[taram1494]

is just simply "grabbing" someone abusive or can lead to abuse.?

[twinkle8211]

its not that easy:'(

[ThaDopist]

@twinkle8211 yea for a retard

[twinkle8211]

@ThaDopist bitch

[sillieness]

@YogaTerrorist - The comment was not addressed to you, but yes I appreciate and agree with your point. Women can indeed be just as abusive, if not moreso. I merely used the example of a heterosexual relationship because it is the most common and most reported. The social stigma and crude humour on abuse was my target of complaint. The video is great. The jokes about 'staying in the kitchen' are not.

[sillieness]

@joepesciscat You are one of the reasons why people in abusive relationships can't get out. You treat it like a joke. It is NEVER a joke when people are emotionally and/or physically abused. It is a life of fear and loneliness. The person you thought you loved is your jailer - keeps you away from the people who actually love you. You are trapped in a cell. 'He's just doing it because he loves you' you tell yourself through the pain.

Shit likes this kills. And you are someone who lets it happen.

[YogaTerrorist]

@sillieness, no, you are your own jailer, the bars created from false vision and a fear of being alone. I am not justifying abusive behavior--and for the record, women can be abusive in a relationship as well--but saying that ultimately it is up to the individual to break out of jail. I thought this video was a great intro in under 2-minutes.

rebelyogi dot co

[RACHELNAROTIC]

Step one: HE DOESNT LOVE YOU IF HE TREATS YOU LIKE THIS. get rid of him.

[PrettyLittlePinup]

Step 1: Dump his ass.

[123pixieboo]

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4. put this on three videos

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it really works

[jmoon219]

The problem is that girls would rather have some worthless piece of shit than a guy who would treat them like queens. I mean, what the fuck??? What is so appealing about fuckers who treat you like shit?

[Cap285]

This video is pointless. All girls stay with guys that treat them like shit.

[123pixieboo]

you will need: a gun

a knife

bullets

self defense skills

optinal:courage

step 1:If he abuses you tell them to fuck off

step 2:if he keeps abusing slap him kick him in the nuts and walk away

step 3:if he keeps on abusing fucking grab a knife stab them in the heart then get a gun(machine works better) and load it and fucking shoot the abusing bitch and run away with no evidence

step 4:feel proud and free of abuse did you know 5 out of 10 teen kill their boyfriends that are abusive!

[beastson]

step 1 dont be fat and dont stop making dinner and maybe there won't be any verbal abuse.

[dippywatcher]

@Joolie9009 I don't think you would like it in prison. Life is not so simple...

[gundamWWW]

Why not just stay single and not date?

Problem solved!

[bssmart1118]

This is an excellent awesome right to the point video.. PERFECT Discription,,

[Q8sugargirl]

@NinJaPaNdaPOcKyP0wER

Well my family dosnt even know that im still with him because they dont want me to talk with him anymore but i cant leave him although he is abusive i just love him ;'(

[dippywatcher]

@Q8sugargirl Based on your posts and assuming you are truthful: I suggest you get some counselling very discreetly. Sounds like you are in a dangerous situation. Another option you may have is to leave quickly, quietly, go to another town and get a restraining order on him. Depends on how violent he is.

Don't fight back unless you know what you are doing. Even then you could land in jail.

I don't think you love him, I think you're confused and paralyzed. Only you can break the cycle.

Good Luck.

[dippywatcher]

@Q8sugargirl I really like your YT name. From where you are living I imagine your situation is complicated.

I think you need to go to your family. I don't know enough about your situation and culture.

The advice in the video would not work in your culture. You do need to get away from him though.

You could end up dead. You do realize that, don't you?

[Q8sugargirl]

@dippywatcher well i didnt mean dead literally!! its just how scared he makes me feel when we have a fight..

and yes the situation is complicated here..

[dippywatcher]

@Q8sugargirl Well if you're sure he wouldn't kill you and you can handle physical violence...

I have a friend whose grand-daughter is in that situation. Money and a child keep them together.

But she is pretty miserable. He is wealthy due to family.

If the abuse is just verbal then you have a different situation. I suppose the thing is you can't change him.

He has to want to change himself. I wish you the best path out of trouble. All relationships are a compromise. Time is on your side for now.

[Q8sugargirl]

my boyfriend is like that ;( and im scared of leaving him coz if i said that i want to leave him im gonna be dead..

[TheDuke00000]

All you need is a spikey or blunt item and aim for dem ballz :D

[NeoQuello]

@TheDuke00000 nah... not a good idea ... youll prolly get a fist ... or multiple ones shoves up ur cunt and ass...

[RicardoTrailersTV]

I used to have a bf that way.. =/

[Jetbus90]

Who cares about abuse? I don't

[YarbroK]

Step one: Leave.

Step two: Run back and use LOW KICK! ITS SUPPER EFFECTIVE!

[SackOnAcid]

I got a dumbass question, does it count verbally abuse to a women if you swore in front of them but you dont sware at them you just sware at other things? (Ya i know its a dumbass question)

[coolrider47]

@SackOnAcid there are no dumb Q's just dumbass A's, and to anwser your Q: No, not to a certain degree. make sure you don't take things too far.

[serenecelene]

@SackOnAcid no it doesn't.

[BarryDennen12]

Yeah, OKAY, FINE .... I should stop being verbally abusive ..

BUT ..

That coffee isn't getting itself, and I've been waiting half an hour.

[funnkxadelic]

my bf verbally abuses me and degrades me only when we are having problems. then he tells me that if i want things to be better between us then it all comes down to me and that it's my job to fix it because i started things. whenever i "start" things, it's only because i was the first to raise my voice.

[FanColdRikkie]

she's small

[serenecelene]

He would cuss me out in public (calling me a whore, hooker, worthless, trash, stupid, etc). I seriously changed everything I could to try and suit him. I would have panic attacks, and constant nightmares. He would throw things, break things, throw temper tantrums, shake me away when i had school the next day, and then ACT sorry. I hate him. His name is Zhi Zeng. aka Tony Zeng. He plays Street fighter. Round face. Math/Engineering Grad. Lives in California. <- Hopefully this can save some1 else!

[nAngryKitty]

@serenecelene You need counseling, I know what your talking about. I had to go to counseling for 3 years.

You were very brave. now go get a restraining order and take a self defense class!!!