To T Or Not To T - Part 3

[Darkoshi]

I think if your main reason for wanting to go on T is to be more comfortable in society, as opposed to being more comfortable with yourself, it would be good to wait a year or so... give yourself time to become comfortable with yourself in society, regardless of what others may think.. It's not been all that very long since your top surgery (even though it may seem like it to you), and it seems like you're still getting used to the "new" you in relation to others.

[Zedie36]

this was a very helpful comment. thank you for sharing it with me.

[MrWHOAMI23]

Man I feel for you! I love when people say your just " "

[tayor2007]

yeah I heard the ice cream van I have been with my partner for almost 10yrs and yes she thought she was getting involved with in her words a very boyish dyke! thats me been on T 6month she went to my therapist with me and decided like you I am me she loves the person inside she had me crying so much for not being emotional! I think your a great person ami no matter what happens do whatever you want to do for you we only get one shot at life try to have no regrets!

love

sam

:)x

[Zedie36]

glad things are working out well for you and your partner.

no regrets.

[tayor2007]

thanks ami so far no regrets

stay safe

sam

x

[ValkyrieVegan2]

I wish I knew the right thing to say Ami, as this is such a big and complex issues as it directly affects your loved ones as well as yourself. I like at the end you feel comfortable with your game plan and it seems reasonable to wait on the issues given ALL that is going on with you and your life .

Best thoughts tomorrow

[Zedie36]

you say the right thing by just commenting and showing your support, so thank you for that.

what do you mean ALL that is going on with me and my life ;)

thanks for the good thoughts!

[jordanpage006]

I hope all goes well for you, buddy.

[Zedie36]

thanks a bunch man!

[fruitgrrl]

sitting in the question is a great place. ayk, i've taken residence there for several months now... until more is revealed.

best of luck tomorrow!

[Zedie36]

thanks autumn. looking forward to hanging with you in berkeley!

[videokidsam]

wow, dude. this is BIG. i like the way you are thinking about it with the open door. just let it mull... very realistic and sensitive to yourself. as you know, i personally go back and forth in my thinking about T for myself, and i love that you have given yourself permission to sit with it. this really resonates. you're awesome.

[Zedie36]

you're awesome too ;)

[MainelyButch]

What happens if your wife decides that she doesn't want you to go on T? Is that going to affect your decision? or the relationship? I'm just curious...from an outside stand point, I could see some serious relationship issues coming if she's not 100% on board with this.

[Zedie36]

if i decide that i really do want to go on T, i hope more than anything that she gets on board because i can't imagine my life without her in it as my partner. i love her more than anything. i think she and i both just need time.

[Zedie36]

thanks buddy!

[Dweebiedo]

Hugs, Ami! Good luck tomorrow. Good idea to just leave that door open and see if your partner wants to talk at some point.

[Zedie36]

hugging you back :)