Trust and Ultimatums - Can I Trust Her?

[theshillelaghlaw]

Tact = lying

Honesty will get you in all kinds of trouble though.

[DudeWithaPage]

"Do these pants make my butt look big?" "NOOOO!" insidevoice: your butt make the pants look big...

[spazwarden2]

yep if you used to compare thinks I think hes right.. comparing the postives and negatives of her :D.... yea my girlfriend makes me happy a long list of positive theres only 2 negatives so I would apply it as postive > negative... this vid is so true

[desertrozes]

i hate the way dan and jennifer cuts in middle while paul is talking.. thats just annoying

[MrEmptyinside]

Paul Carlson is the man!

[Thejam4]

It's easier said then done. But in this situation you need to move on and leave the little nasty lier.... Or not create so many rules. The more rules there are in a relationship the more heartache you are setting yourself up for. 9 times out of 10 the lieing will not stop.

[Kaprice24]

Thats all women do is lie lie lie lie and play bullshit games.

[makingliferightnow]

Not all women are like that. You just havent met the right woman. I have a situation, I could say all men lie. Its just finding that person you can trust. Not all women lie and playbull shit games.  I just got played, and trying to trust again and Im a good woman. So I cant say all men play games and lie, but I do agree with the lying, both sexes do it, its just finding the one that is honest.

[turkhoffman]

Jennifer..........you have a great rack.... positive and insightful!!!!

[decsilentenigma]

ultimatiums giving them more time. if you're really serious about that, Make it known to her, and if she still does it then leave. You cant talk for too much or they will undermine you....do it instead of always talking about it, you'll get a better result

[obamaftwyeah]

a good thing to do is whenever she lies you call her out on it and say "LIAR LIAR PANTS ON FIRE" and put gasoline on her pants (that she's wearing) and light them on fire. trust me its the only way.

[MichaelMatsuo]

lol wtf...

[ursaucie]

I was with a man for 6 years and he always lying about the little things. After 5 year 2 months we finally married.  The lies get worse and bigger. Once a liar always a liar. We ended up divorcing after 10 months. Just like once they they hit you they will always keep hitting you. GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!!

[shady965]

3:36 - 4:10 was ROFL and 6:18 - 6:28 was LOL !

[whitewidow777]

dan has some awfully feminine mannerisms

[raindrop10155]

i liked this vid!!!

[Onwa06]

Maybe she lies because she is afraid that he might not accept her as she is, or afraid that he might freak out on things.

OR maybe she doesn't trust him.

What he needs to do is communicate A LOT. Talk about Everything and Anything.

It takes time for a person to trust another person.

[XxaxX360]

That was not only one of your best episodes, but one of the most information for any relationship problem.

Great job!

[ragetony]

ROGL You two are sooooo cute.

[bArT8472]

One of the best videos from you guys! Paul is a wise guy. Very interesting problem.

[haversacksmith]

Paul Carlson brings the wisdom, again.

And I think he's 100% right. In real-time conversations, I lie all the time, in an instinctive non-premeditated way, usually about tiny insignificant things, because part of my mind is trying to manage the other person's perceptions of me. The lie is out of my mouth before my brain has had a chance to say "Hey, tell the truth". But I don't think it follows that because you lie about the little things you'll lie about the big things too.

[mrdarkknight]

people lie 2# times a day huh? i bet they're all women.

[20Guy]

Telling lies is not just a female trait.

[mrdarkknight]

looooooool at people taking my comment literally and seriously.

[67mustangreg]

Ultimatums suck. My last girl left me over one....

[jenniferjuniper97]

I dunno. My experience is if one feels the need to deliver an ultamatum, and does, the relationship is already fading. No one likes to be "controlled". I too think it's worth evaluating whether a an unpleasant behavior can fall into the "quirk" catagory or if it should be addressed truthfully. but ultamatums tend to put people on the defensive, unless one can deliver it with humor in the bedroom, say during light S&M play. LOL Humor works best I think.

[murbones]

What he meant to say ....My girl is really good in bed and i like humping her but she lies all the time.....

[murbones]

this one was good

[jayrul3z]

ultimatums dont work. You should either give her time to change, if she doesn't and you cant deal with it, then just move on.

[symphonyx64]

Haha its true

[Backhymen]

Happy Valentines Day D@J Have A Fun Night! ;) And loved the video alot have been helping me in my relationship

[szymon308]

an ultimatum should only be used when there really is no other option!

..oh and Jenn is really hot! High five Dan!

[V3125]

wish I had a citation on that study 'cuz I'd love to see if they included suppressio veri

[shafeeq2009]

you're amazing, I like you very much.

[zachy3621]

Well my opinion is trying to keep the relationship with an ultimatium of ending it which lying is like yeah i agree

[herewatchingutube]

Maybe he should sit down with her and tell her that her lying habits are stressing him out and try to make it clear that trust is important to him. If she doesnt cut back on her lying, then he should leave because it wouldnt be worth it if you are always feeling uneasy all the time and second guessing every word that comes out of her mouth.

Happy Valentines Day Dan and Jen!!

(try not to make any more big butt gestures Dan...lol :P )

[xXxJeneanexXx]

( continued )

This couple has flaws like everyone else does. Its not like he has porn addiction problems or her liking BDSM.

The couple needs to have heart to heart talks, it takes time for people to get over certain issues, they just have to get through it together.

[xXxJeneanexXx]

Is it possible that the guy has trust issues?

And I totally agree that its possible that she lies because she wants to keep peace in the relationship instead of causing conflict between the two of them.

I was in the same situation. I lied about the little things because I didn't like conflict. Mind you my sweetie is an easy going guy, but he had in the begining trust issues with women.

[imassbbfan]

Rofl, Dan is awesome.

[BonesAndBones]

Happy Valentine's Day, Dan and Jenn!

I suggest this man sits down and talks to her, and if she refuses to stop, then he may end the relationship.

[Gladosayx]

Not wrong! You shouldnt have to live with it to me nice on her feelings, she isnt on yours.

[creepykidscorner]

1st comment!

[TehNickIsNoob]

who cares! stupid shit

[imassbbfan]

I CARED!

[creepykidscorner]

who cares what you think