Im adopted & am so thankful that my Mom did what was best. I also recently gave up a baby for adoption through an agency & even though it was hard that agency made it so easy all the way through & the lady who helped to my appointments was there to hold my baby before the borthparents got him...
how ridiculous! Adoption makes money for centers. It is not ever in the best interest of the child or a person so selfish, they think they can say we want someone else's child and an agency will procure that for them. It is a crime the endures a life time. plain and simple
I was adopted by two loving people. My Birth mom was very young when she had me. I wish I could have said goodbye to her. What she did for me was the most amazing thing any human being has ever done for me. She loved me very very much. To give me up, was the hardest thing anyone can do. She changed my life. In one year, I am going to meet her and thank her for what she has done for me. I love her so much even though I don't know who she is. But, I will. :)
Adoption is a permanent solution to temporary problems in most cases ( sorry but I must speak the truth) I hope this young lady gets to be reunited some day< the relationship will be forever, so so sad!
i was adopted when i was 4 days old and i dont feel any anger towards my birth mother for giving me up. I know that she could barely take care of herself let alone another human being. I love my mom and dad and my only negative thing towards adoption is not knowing what ethnicity i am. Im mixed but i dont know with what .. i get asked alot and i hate not having an answer for people... or for myself.
@Andypotent people use condoms or any forms of birth control,adoption Agencies don't get kids.They don't get kids, means they don't make money. Adoption Scam, Solicitation for Babies should be outlawed!
This video clip is very powerful. I was 23 when I got preg and gave my son to a family who can never have their own children. . However, I feel adoption is the most selfless gift of love. Hearing what this birthmother said, about how she could not be that selfish, is so powerful. When it comes to choosing whether you want to see him grow up in a less fortunate home vs. have a loving, financially and emotionally ready home, you would think of the baby before yourself.
This video clip is very powerful. I am adopted myself, and I also see how adoption has a very negative stereotype. However, I feel adoption is the most selfless gift of love. Hearing what this birthmother said, about how she could not be that selfish, is so powerful. When it comes to choosing whether you want to see him grow up in a less fortunate home vs. have a loving, financially and emotionally ready home, you would think of the baby before yourself.
What's best for baby is to be raised by her natural mother. Children don't need strangers with money and big houses, and pro-PAP "counselors" don't speak for them. Outsiders are trampling and denying children's basic needs and deceiving their mothers. Babies are happy sleeping in laundry baskets as long as they have their mothers' love and cuddling and milk. Promoting the separation of babies from their loving mothers harms the mother and child. Your babies need you, moms.
You couldn't keep your baby because you didn't have a car? Did I hear that right? And what is this nonsense I hear time and again that to keep your baby would be selfish? Don't you ever think about what the baby wants? And yes, the babies are loved and wanted by their birth mothers, but in most cases, they have no way of knowing that! So they grow up feeling unloved, and unlovable. Do you really understand what is best for baby? Baby needs mommy, plain and simple.
You probably don't know anyone who has placed a baby for adoption or has adopted. It is a very selfless act to place one's baby for adoption when you know you don't have the means and/or support to raise him/her. It takes more than just love to raise a child. Do you watch the news and see how many children are abused or killed by their parents or parent's boyfriends, etc? These are perfect examples of sweet innocent babies that would have been much better off in an adoptive home.
Our son is adopted and will always know how much his birthparents love him. We met his birthparents & we keep in touch with them. We love them dearly & pray for them everyday! Everyday in clinic I see single parents who keep their children but their children are not truly cared for.The kids are usually raised by grandparents, they don't know their fathers/or mothers & they grow up feeling different & not truly wanted. Many grow up in poverty. Don't we want more for our children?
@dr4kiddos Actually you're wrong, most adoptese feel very different growing up in adopted families where they have to pretend to be something they are not but they would never tell you unless they are very out spoken. If you loved your adopted child's first mother you wouldn't call her birth mother, she wasn't a breeder that term is demeaning Im sorry but it is. I do hope you set aside your fears and let mother and child have a relationship,
I read your comment and you're quite wrong; I know many, many people who have surrendered their child to adoption and in every case they were coerced, and regretted it later. This is not about taking children from abusive parents; this is about separating a loving mother from her child, which harms both of them. Mothers have been persuaded that their child would be better off without them, and this is not the case, not for me, not for the birth mothers and adoptees that I know.
@Sammicsno your words are true I appreciate the truth when I see it, I commend you, but please know the term birthmother is demeaning and akin to calling a black person a n word, please look up and research the origins of this term, thanks,they are mothers or natural mothers period.
@raffynjenny Oh I appreciate that you're mothers, through and through, but not everyone is offended by the b word. But, I apologise, sincerely and I will endevour to avoid it.
it makes me happy in a very sad way to know that my birth mother might have felt the same way this woman felt. I am so thankful for the choice she made by giving me to amazing family. this made me start balling. i wonder if it was as hard for her to give me up ad it is for me not knowing her.
Wow, it must be hard not knowing your birthmother.
We just visited our son's birthmother. It was great. We've shared this video with her, as we thought it said a lot about how we felt as adoptive parents.
If she were selfish, she would have aborted her baby. She gave her child life and then gave her the best chance she could have by placing her for adoption.
Bull. It's extremely biased. It makes abandoning your child to be some heroic act. I relinquished my son. I believed the same lies- that I couldn't make it because I was poor and single.
I lost my son because abandoning a child is glorified in our country as "selfless." If she were NOT selfish, she would have gotten her act together and parented. If people hadn't shown her how to get help...
We cannot get help because of things like this. The glorification of adoption loss.
I completely agree with you Amrisart. I was an unwed mother and not one person tried to help us stay together. I was pushed on all sides by adoptive parents, church people, even the crisis center to give up my baby. As soon as I revealed she was mixed, trust me they lost immediate interest ( she is Arab and you cannot even tell) Adoption is big business and take it from someone who went through crisis pregnancy centers
its good to hear someone else feels the same as me im in constant agony after giving up my baby girl last december,im full of anger and hate and regrett now,i lame society and lack of support alot of things went into play,i only hope someday she wants to have a relationship with me,i dream o only holding her in my arms again.
well yes i wrote that awhile ago i've come a long way since then thank God,and i have received pics and a really nice letter and it made me feel so at ease,i know she is where she should be :)
@RaZoReDbABe I'm so sorry for you and your child's loss, you've know idea what is to come, let me suggest to start researching now so you are prepared when it does come. Adoption fog is what you are in we have all been in it at one point or another, permanent solution to temporary problems dear, what do you think women in old days did when there was no such things as cars, I am truly sorry you bought the propaganda, adoption is no win win situation the only ones that feel good are ap's!
This is an amazing video. It's won a bunch of awards (best documentary at Coeur D'Alene Film Festival, special jury selection for outstanding achievement in documentary at Lake County). As an adoptive father this video really helped me see things from the birth mother's perspective. And as the other poster said, there is no bias in this movie - it's not pro-life or pro-choice, it's just pro-birth mother.
Im adopted & am so thankful that my Mom did what was best. I also recently gave up a baby for adoption through an agency & even though it was hard that agency made it so easy all the way through & the lady who helped to my appointments was there to hold my baby before the borthparents got him...
KatherineGonza06 3 weeks ago
how ridiculous! Adoption makes money for centers. It is not ever in the best interest of the child or a person so selfish, they think they can say we want someone else's child and an agency will procure that for them. It is a crime the endures a life time. plain and simple
nadeseh 3 months ago
I was adopted by two loving people. My Birth mom was very young when she had me. I wish I could have said goodbye to her. What she did for me was the most amazing thing any human being has ever done for me. She loved me very very much. To give me up, was the hardest thing anyone can do. She changed my life. In one year, I am going to meet her and thank her for what she has done for me. I love her so much even though I don't know who she is. But, I will. :)
Elizabethrosecullen 6 months ago
Adoption is a permanent solution to temporary problems in most cases ( sorry but I must speak the truth) I hope this young lady gets to be reunited some day< the relationship will be forever, so so sad!
raffynjenny 1 year ago 2
i was adopted when i was 4 days old and i dont feel any anger towards my birth mother for giving me up. I know that she could barely take care of herself let alone another human being. I love my mom and dad and my only negative thing towards adoption is not knowing what ethnicity i am. Im mixed but i dont know with what .. i get asked alot and i hate not having an answer for people... or for myself.
Punkette151617 1 year ago
Protip: Use condoms, kids.
Andypotent 1 year ago
@Andypotent people use condoms or any forms of birth control,adoption Agencies don't get kids.They don't get kids, means they don't make money. Adoption Scam, Solicitation for Babies should be outlawed!
ashatbulaparanormal 1 year ago
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This video clip is very powerful. I was 23 when I got preg and gave my son to a family who can never have their own children. . However, I feel adoption is the most selfless gift of love. Hearing what this birthmother said, about how she could not be that selfish, is so powerful. When it comes to choosing whether you want to see him grow up in a less fortunate home vs. have a loving, financially and emotionally ready home, you would think of the baby before yourself.
friends222 1 year ago
I didn't have the choice to keep my baby. Ever! I found him after 27 years. see Steve & Katy's reunion
bmwkt 2 years ago
This video clip is very powerful. I am adopted myself, and I also see how adoption has a very negative stereotype. However, I feel adoption is the most selfless gift of love. Hearing what this birthmother said, about how she could not be that selfish, is so powerful. When it comes to choosing whether you want to see him grow up in a less fortunate home vs. have a loving, financially and emotionally ready home, you would think of the baby before yourself.
ineed6minuteswithyou 2 years ago
What's best for baby is to be raised by her natural mother. Children don't need strangers with money and big houses, and pro-PAP "counselors" don't speak for them. Outsiders are trampling and denying children's basic needs and deceiving their mothers. Babies are happy sleeping in laundry baskets as long as they have their mothers' love and cuddling and milk. Promoting the separation of babies from their loving mothers harms the mother and child. Your babies need you, moms.
asynkronos 2 years ago
You couldn't keep your baby because you didn't have a car? Did I hear that right? And what is this nonsense I hear time and again that to keep your baby would be selfish? Don't you ever think about what the baby wants? And yes, the babies are loved and wanted by their birth mothers, but in most cases, they have no way of knowing that! So they grow up feeling unloved, and unlovable. Do you really understand what is best for baby? Baby needs mommy, plain and simple.
Sammicsno 3 years ago
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dr4kiddos 3 years ago
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You probably don't know anyone who has placed a baby for adoption or has adopted. It is a very selfless act to place one's baby for adoption when you know you don't have the means and/or support to raise him/her. It takes more than just love to raise a child. Do you watch the news and see how many children are abused or killed by their parents or parent's boyfriends, etc? These are perfect examples of sweet innocent babies that would have been much better off in an adoptive home.
dr4kiddos 3 years ago
Our son is adopted and will always know how much his birthparents love him. We met his birthparents & we keep in touch with them. We love them dearly & pray for them everyday! Everyday in clinic I see single parents who keep their children but their children are not truly cared for.The kids are usually raised by grandparents, they don't know their fathers/or mothers & they grow up feeling different & not truly wanted. Many grow up in poverty. Don't we want more for our children?
dr4kiddos 3 years ago
@dr4kiddos Actually you're wrong, most adoptese feel very different growing up in adopted families where they have to pretend to be something they are not but they would never tell you unless they are very out spoken. If you loved your adopted child's first mother you wouldn't call her birth mother, she wasn't a breeder that term is demeaning Im sorry but it is. I do hope you set aside your fears and let mother and child have a relationship,
raffynjenny 1 year ago
Sr4kiddos
I read your comment and you're quite wrong; I know many, many people who have surrendered their child to adoption and in every case they were coerced, and regretted it later. This is not about taking children from abusive parents; this is about separating a loving mother from her child, which harms both of them. Mothers have been persuaded that their child would be better off without them, and this is not the case, not for me, not for the birth mothers and adoptees that I know.
Sammicsno 3 years ago
@Sammicsno your words are true I appreciate the truth when I see it, I commend you, but please know the term birthmother is demeaning and akin to calling a black person a n word, please look up and research the origins of this term, thanks,they are mothers or natural mothers period.
raffynjenny 1 year ago
@raffynjenny Oh I appreciate that you're mothers, through and through, but not everyone is offended by the b word. But, I apologise, sincerely and I will endevour to avoid it.
Sammicsno 1 year ago
I was adopted!=(
101Th0ng 3 years ago
If I adopted, I would want it to be at least somewhat open. I would want to know the birthmother is happy with her decision. No REGRETS.
nicolemama3 3 years ago
it makes me happy in a very sad way to know that my birth mother might have felt the same way this woman felt. I am so thankful for the choice she made by giving me to amazing family. this made me start balling. i wonder if it was as hard for her to give me up ad it is for me not knowing her.
emafreezone 3 years ago 3
Wow, it must be hard not knowing your birthmother.
We just visited our son's birthmother. It was great. We've shared this video with her, as we thought it said a lot about how we felt as adoptive parents.
MontanaProf 3 years ago
@MontanaProf so glad to see APs that get it. Thank you for your compassion.
bayoubelle57 2 months ago
She Did THE RIGHT THING
matanimeke 4 years ago
If she were selfish, she would have aborted her baby. She gave her child life and then gave her the best chance she could have by placing her for adoption.
athaliaanne 4 years ago
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dr4kiddos 3 years ago
Bull. It's extremely biased. It makes abandoning your child to be some heroic act. I relinquished my son. I believed the same lies- that I couldn't make it because I was poor and single.
I lost my son because abandoning a child is glorified in our country as "selfless." If she were NOT selfish, she would have gotten her act together and parented. If people hadn't shown her how to get help...
We cannot get help because of things like this. The glorification of adoption loss.
AmRisArt 4 years ago
I completely agree with you Amrisart. I was an unwed mother and not one person tried to help us stay together. I was pushed on all sides by adoptive parents, church people, even the crisis center to give up my baby. As soon as I revealed she was mixed, trust me they lost immediate interest ( she is Arab and you cannot even tell) Adoption is big business and take it from someone who went through crisis pregnancy centers
kwoolr 4 years ago 2
I'm sorry. People suck sometimes.
In a sad, sad kind of way, though, it's a good thing that your dear little one is mixed race. I'm glad they lost interest in separating you two.
It definitely highlights the truth of the industry in a stark way, though, doesn't it?
AmRisArt 4 years ago 2
its good to hear someone else feels the same as me im in constant agony after giving up my baby girl last december,im full of anger and hate and regrett now,i lame society and lack of support alot of things went into play,i only hope someday she wants to have a relationship with me,i dream o only holding her in my arms again.
RaZoReDbABe 4 years ago
Would you have felt different with an open adoption?
nicolemama3 3 years ago
well yes i wrote that awhile ago i've come a long way since then thank God,and i have received pics and a really nice letter and it made me feel so at ease,i know she is where she should be :)
RaZoReDbABe 3 years ago
Oh that makes me so happy to see you feel so much better. Thank you.
nicolemama3 3 years ago
@RaZoReDbABe I'm so sorry for you and your child's loss, you've know idea what is to come, let me suggest to start researching now so you are prepared when it does come. Adoption fog is what you are in we have all been in it at one point or another, permanent solution to temporary problems dear, what do you think women in old days did when there was no such things as cars, I am truly sorry you bought the propaganda, adoption is no win win situation the only ones that feel good are ap's!
raffynjenny 1 year ago 2
This is an amazing video. It's won a bunch of awards (best documentary at Coeur D'Alene Film Festival, special jury selection for outstanding achievement in documentary at Lake County). As an adoptive father this video really helped me see things from the birth mother's perspective. And as the other poster said, there is no bias in this movie - it's not pro-life or pro-choice, it's just pro-birth mother.
beeguy1 4 years ago
@beeguy1 you're sick! no offense intended but sick!
raffynjenny 1 year ago
This video does an amazing job of presenting adoption from the birthmother's perspective without any bias.
I've seen the full video...it's amazing.
MontanaProf 4 years ago