Who loves their children more? Strict Eastern parents who devote endless hours to making sure their children achieve the best they can, or lenient Western parents who go off to watch their own TV or have their own parties instead of caring for their children?
Repugnant woman. This sort of dictatorship is what we don't want to impose from any early age! No Chinese renaissance for years to come because of people like this.
Every child is different; what works for one may not work for the other and parents need to understand that. Always expect the best from your child and make sure they realize you love them.
What happens if a child does his/her best with a tiger mom like Chua, yet only gets a B+ grade? Does the child get grounded indefinitely, get sent to bed without dinner, and/or have tiger mom tell siblings and husband not to talk to the child until her next report card shows an "A" grade? What if the child simply is not gifted enough in a subject to get an "A" -- does tiger mom then resent/lessen her love for the child due to a high mark missed? That being said, you are a SEXY woman, Chua! :)
i'm 17 but i know in the future i will become a "tiger mom" even though i've always hated how my mom was. I may not be as strict but i do believe to a certain extend it is acceptable/reasonable. I agree with her that if you set high expectations that come along with assistance will help your child be pushed in the direction to succeed.
I like her. She seems honest and sincere. Often we are too quick to judge things that seem "different" but the truth is, no one is perfect. No "one way" of raising a child is ideal. We all make mistakes.
She is not a bad partent. I hope that when I hve kids one day that I can finda good balance between tiger mom and the american mother. I believe in balance of everything. there is such thing as to much of a good thing.
shutup criticizing her. she's saying what worked 4 her and her kids are more successful than most western kids, so appharently there is a lot of accuracy in how she raised her kids, though it was a bit extreme.
My parents have found a balance between "Tiger Parenting" and "American Parenting." My dad is an immigrant from Russia and my mom is an immigrant from Mexico. My mom is strict; she expects straight A's from my sister and I and always pushes us to do better. Yet, she is still our friend and she allows us to develop socially, not only intellectually. It shows expecially well in my sister; she goes to an Ivy League, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, etc. I'm only 14 but I'm not a stereotypical...
The key to parenting is finding a balance between "Tiger Mom-ism" and "American Parenting." Both of my parents are immigrants, and I have noticed that many people with immigrant parents are more disciplined. My mom (who has mainly raised me) is partly a Tiger Mom. She expects great grades from me and my sister, is strict, and knows that I can always do better. Yet she is our friend... she definetly lets us develop socially and not only intellectually. I think...
A girl across the street lives like this. I used to ask her to come over but she would always be practicing piano. She's in 3rd grade but when she gets home from school her mom teaches her 9th grade school She's Japanese not chinese though.
Thanks, Amy, but I'd rather raise my kids the right way.
With LOVE. As in, letting them follow their own dreams and balancing them out as individuals. Or, you know, teaching them that their effort and is what counts, instead of some gold medal that's worthless in the long run.
But I probably lost you due to the fact that I don't advocate child abuse. "Tiger mother", yeah right. Even the title of your book is a crock.
Your mistake is in assuming that Amy Chua didn't love her kids. If she didn't care for them, why would she spend hours practicing piano and drilling math with them when it's SO much easier to just let them loose? You know what happens when you let your kids pursue their dreams? They end up on "Teen Mom."
Also, you are mistaken in believing that effort is what counts. Effort is useless if it leads nowhere. History is made by people's successes, not just through effort alone. That's why effort fades and the gold-medalers are remembered and celebrated.
@yootubeification Effort fades, kind sir? Then please elaborate as to why Thomas Edison is remembered for trying a thousand times to achieve the perfect bulb and getting it right on the thousandth time. Also, explain to me as to why Mozart is revered for writing masterful works solely through effort. After all, it's not like there was some "Grand Prize" in in for them.
I will be patiently awaiting your diligent response. Sorry I took long in replying. I was too busy with all my effort.
you people that dislike the message of the book and other opinions that Americans are lazy are you yourself in American and Western society...America is blessed to have people that actually work hard (i.e. immigrants from China , Russia, India, etc.) as opposed to those that watch ESPN, American Idol, and other moron culture media. (I am a white, American, male.)
This book is so heavily biased and opinionated that I couldn't take it seriously. This woman has no degree in psychology or even scientific evidence to back up her claims. My mother's a licensed marriage and family therapist and was completely appalled at it. She's worked with students who grew up in this kind of environment and has heard many horror stories. Chua knows smack about mental health, which is why she has no concept of the crippling emotional damage that this can cause.
Though I agree with some of her morals and ideas, her methods for raising children were borderline abuse. She talks about how her kids need to respect her, but you can't achieve respect with fear. It doesn't work that way. I agree: Western children are disrespectful, unintelligent, lazy shits. She's right there. But she still needs counseling. And I don't buy the whole cultural bullshit, because even her Chinese parents were calling her out on her obsessive behavior. She's not mentally stable.
I wonder how many Tiger Mothers are now Tiger Cubless because their strictness and borderline abusive ways to raise their children end up alienating them. I wouldn't be surprised if Ms. Chua's daughters all moved FAR AWAY at first opportunity. This may be okay back in China, but here in the US when your children can how see how other childrens lived and raised?
This is probaby the reason why we see so many american / european white men flocking to asia to find spouses - they think that asian women make better wives and mothers
I am 12 and I read her book, and honestly, it was like a diary for me
Contrary to what all the American mothers are thinking, I am already grateful of my parent's strictness and firm belief in me. I couldn't want any other parents
My tiger mom is actually my dad, who made sure I was perfect in everything. My mom is a lot more encouraging. I'm born a rabbit, and it's true i'm sensitive and cry easily, I think I'm pretty stubborn and demanding. I do piano and violin, and I get straight A's.
Even though im a hundred percent chinese,(not born here) I thingk she is really stupid, she just wanna show her daughters what she had suffered when she was a child because her childwood memories ruin by her childwood!
@Frankly9158 Actually I don't really think so. I mean she is strict but she's strict for a reason. She wants to be that parent that actually cares about her children's grades and wants them to be successful in life unlike most teenagers and kids that don't care about anything and just do anything they want. She's inspiring but when I have kids I wouldn't treat them like she did because it is a little bit too harsh but I would want them to be smart and not lazy.
When I was younger, I was scared of my parents' reaction if I got a low score, but now, they're more understanding and I'm more worried about disappointing them. To be honest, I think I was more productive when they were harsher.
If my parents had put that much energy and time into helping me achieve academically, I would've been happier...probably. Even though my parents (my mom on the majority side) sent me to reading/math prep schools on the weekends from when I was in 3rd grade up to when I was in 11th grade, I eventually snapped. The first school I went to, I understood half of the stuff. Some of the stuff took me a really long time to get and I felt a lot of pressure, felt like I wasn't good enough.
I'm going to be a white, male, mountain lion dad. I'll do all the things tiger parents do, except I'll make my kids perfect Chinese folk songs on an erhu instead of Baroque compositions on violin.
My Asian parents were never strict with me and always told me there are no shortcuts in life. I was raised with love and because I loved my parents so much I wanted to impress them. I wanted them to be happy and not depressed all the time because of my grades or whatnot. I went to a middle school and high school of 90% Asians and I got straight A's. I passed countless CM piano tests and I still continue to play piano even now. Yet I still had time for video games & TV.
my asian parents high expectations ruined my grades. when i didn't get decimals in 6th grade they yelled at me instead of helping me or encouraging me. i lost faith in myself and stopped trying in mathematics.
i finally got my grades up in high school after i joined the wrestling team and a kung fu class. all that time away from my parents let me think for myself. and i'm now going on to study cultural anthropology because fuck math and i want to make a documentary on asian parenting one day.
@quocdarock - I'm not Asian or Asian-American (I'm African-American) but I've heard similar complaints about that type of parenting. I can empathize somewhat personally because my parents were "Tiger parents" somewhat when I was in elementary and middle school. They relaxed some when I got to high school but I understand how all that high-pressure, over-concern about making As and focusing on certain studies can be unhealthy. It also squelches a child's personal and social growth.
People need to read the book from cover to cover before they start talking. And yes, I did read the book, loved it, agreed with most of it, and definitely felt sympathetic towards her children at times. However, there's always more to the story than most people share.
Well, I'm Hispanic and I took violin in elementary school and I HATED it, so I dropped out of the class! I don't get straight A's, but I am always close to getting straight A's. I feel my parents raised me very well in many ways, so I guess everyone's different.
@mariahcarey50 "There are no Asterisks in life" and by that I mean getting always close to straight A's is NOT the same as getting straight A's. It isn't even similar.
My German-Irish parents raised me the same way, except without the "love" part. This form of parenting works (it worked for some of my siblings) but it must also come with love or else it's just abusive.
1:54 IMPORTANT PART!!!! AMY CHUA LEARNED FROM HER MISTAKE. The media is scary...people did not even read the end of the book. (My Chinese dad was like her, and I thank him for forcing me to play the violin . I hated it. It was so hard for me. However, right now as a high school junior, I love the violin. I am 110% percent sure I will never quit the violin. My dad wasn't that strict because he only hoped I can bring joy to myself and the others one day, maybe teaching violin as a "part-time" job!
1:50 IMPORTANT PART!! PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND HER APPROACH. ARE AMY CHUA WOULD NOT EVEN THINK THAT "CHINESE MOMS ARE SUPERIOR" NOW. SHE LEARNED FROM HER MISTAKES, and that is the important part. The media today is scary...(My dad is like her, and yes, I thank him for forcing me to play Violin when I was in first grade. I hate it because it was so hard for me, but now, as a high school junior, I love playing Violin. I am 100% sure I will never quit Violin.)
Amy Chua pointed out numerous times that this is a memoir, not a how-to guide. Whether or not you agree with what she says, the purpose of the book is not to serve as a parenting manual, which many of you are treating it as.
This is how black parents were in the 60's, when blacks were united by segregation. I miss the "tough love" days. Weakling parents are the reason for teen suicide and anti-bullying campaigns.
@MightyPhalus What do weakling parents have to do with teen suicide and anti-bullying campaigns? I don't see the correlation. There are many more reasons for suicides and bullying issues other than parenting issues.
@dc19921000 its funny because the nation with the most suicides just happen to be asians, so its just ridiculous for her to write this in her book.obviously shes misinformed and makes me wonder how man more things are cheap blows? displaying her jealousy is what shes really doing believing to be superior,she writes a book that is a type of how to guide then says its not a how to in order to disguise her superiority complex she has.heres something to think about,who wants a robot for a kid?not me
Friday night (5/20/11), I actually heard Chua decry creativity by saying "creativity never developed a theory of reletivity." This made me smile, because, in fact, Einstein was a terrible mathmatician in relation to the size of his intellect. The theory of reletivity was initially conceived entirly within Einstein's creative mind, and it was up to others to help him work out the math later on. Rote learning without the sparks of creativity and imagination is meaningless.
The woman simply plugged into another one of these popular American fads. Rather than buy her silly books, just watch an hour of, say, Richard Feynman on how his parents raised him & how he in turn raised his own children. This woman is one of the most narcissistic Asians I've ever come across. Fact is, most kids borne of educated parents grow up to be well educated. She has NO deeper "knowledge" on parenting than the next woman. Her objective: manufacture "controversies" to sell mindless books.
I can agree that parents have a responsibility to encourage their kids to learn. This means providing them (if they are financial able to do so) with toys, books, computer, films. But it is cruel to Force your kid into learning, by emotional abuse. I suppose there is a fine line.
It's pretty obvious that most people commenting here have not actually opened up the book and read it. It's a quite interesting and LOOK into her life and the way in which she chose to raise her children. There is no preaching here-she made plenty of mistakes and at times had to change her approach to parenting based on what her family's needs were. I don't necessarily agree with all of her parenting choices, but in this world, you do need to protect your children against mediocrity.
@mirnavalerio Yep, mediocre students will be the end of us! Ask Walt Disney (poor grades due to chronic daydreaming), or Thomas Edison (expelled), or Woodrow Wilson (failed HS English), or Winston Churchill (failed 8th grade), or Bill Gates (threatened with expulsion for poor grades). We each have unique gifts, and we don't all learn the same way. School should be a place of descovery, not programming.
@BDFONLINE exactly,i ordered a program th@ shows how 2 B faster than a caclulator "human calculator" without anything but UR brain Pwer & even studied FotograFic memory,& less than 2 months my math skills along with formulas not being able 2 4get them if i tried made my grades so good teachers thought i was cheating & had 2 take the tests again.but basically school lowers students abilities Bcuz the way th@ human calc teaches math is totally backwards & 10 X easier,efficient learning.
My friend was brought up no different from any typical family in the U.S. His parents split up and he has a horrible step-mother but he doesn't bitch and moan about it, but instead gets straight A's all the time. He spends most of his day playing oustide with friends, videogames, or T.V. Tried to learn how to play guitar on his own accord. This "Tiger" mom probably doesn't get any better results from her kids yet he is raised extremely normally. Perfect example of how her parenting isn't needed.
Im surprised no one called child support years ago. Pushing her kids out of love? Thats like a boyfriend saying "I love you" right before they beat their girlfriend.
There was one part in the book where she forced one of her daughters to play the piano without dinner until she gets the piece. That is bad as Communists starving their own people for the sake of other Communists.
I know Amy Chua was raised by strict parents, but that doesnt mean she leashes it out on her own kids.
@DarknessOfSorrow She's doing so because she feels this is how you bring the best out of your kids and for some reason she figures since her chinese parents do it then that means all chinese parents are the same. This can not be more wrong. LOL.
@DarknessOfSorrow No, it's not the same. It's not that Amy Chua felt the need to take it out on her children. She loved her parents, she understood why they raised her the way they did. She's a college law professor at Yale. She put so much time into making sure her children were the best, making sure they did her homework, making sure they attended their lessons and practiced. To most, she seemed strict, but to me, her intentions were out of love.
Ugh... Just love your kids enough to put time and energy into raising them. Whatever that means for you - coddling, permissiveness, harshness, discipline - WHATEVER, just root your parenting in genuine care, concern, and commitment to being a good father or mother, and your kids will turn out just fine.
Americans hate her because they don't like anyone shining a light on their degeneracy.
Americans don't love their children. They are permissive because it's easy. It takes a lot of time correcting homework and teaching children. So they simply don't. They watch TV and let their kids do the same. If they're not lazy they are selfish. They want to make money to buy more fancy stuff instead of spending time with their children.
@MardukHail I agree there is laziness involved. I bet American kids could be just as successful academically, and in the real world, if they raised their kids encouragingly - and with a higher degree of discipline (and not necessarily in the sense and to the degree, that Chua does). However, that being said, a child who is truly intelligent, will have a desire to learn and a rage to master.
@MardukHail Nah, I went to a high school with 70% Asians, their insane obsession with grades, SAT scores and getting into IVY league schools, forces them to ignore beauty in the world (or the beauty of science or math), never develop or train their creativity, and have a hard time finding true passion.
Remember, Einstein had poor grades while attending a high school that taught rote learning like these Asian SAT Cram schools, but poor grades in high school didn't hurt him all that much...
@MardukHail I understand. My parents had been hippies. Their attitude was "Don't stress. Enjoy life and be free." Which is great if you are going to be 17 forever. But, looking back, I wish I was pushed a bit more. Not just enough to get by. It was tough going into the adult world with no real work ethic instilled in me. The Military helped. And a lot of trial and error.
I read the book so I can say whatever I want. She is a mean, abusive and harsh mother. She also comes off a very snobbish in the book, she writes likes shes better than everyone else.
At the end of the book Lulu goes buck wild and you can't blame her. She was abused her whole life. Seems as though the mother wanted perfect children to so SHE can look good. The whole book was I I I ME ME ME ME. The kids had to play perfect piano & violin so SHE could look good.
I voted you guys up. Folks finally get it. I have no place for immature children with the retarded Soccer moms that hang around my school all day. Don't ever marry a soccer mom, unless you can spend $599 a week just for gas in their SUV 4 wheel drive for on the paved highway. But global warming doesn't apply to them driving about hypocritical. But when it comes to designer labels, and wasteful spending they learned instead. And they don't know the meaning of ignorance, Not fake made up words.
No TV/Computer/play dates are a bit extreme, as well as a few others... but other than that, my mom is a Tiger Mom too, I don't regret it... except for learning the violin lol. THAT I regret :P
Give the poor woman a break! She loves her kids! They love her! She's a good mom, and equally importantly, she's a successful mom. With so many people out there with maniacal teenage drop out children, I covet her style and hope to mimic it someday myself.
idk but ArmBradPitt said that her kids dont even acknowledge that they are of chinese descent, that she married a white guy, im pretty sure the way she talks of being a chinese descent from an immigrant family heavily influenced from their traditional ways, SHE WAS prob. DISOWNED from her family marrying a "white" guy.
i have read her book. i was not impressed whatsoever. this book is basically all about how chinese mothers are the sh-t, american mothers are lazy pushovers and how she got bitched slapped by her daughter. but at the same time she still sounded like a concieted, selfish woman who lived bicurously through her daughters' successes.
@1234blahluv bicuriously? do you mean vicariously? she's not living through her daughter's violin successes, she graduated from Harvard Law School. she's not living vicariously through anybody.
Actually many of the new generation,young people in the western are not respectful and do not obey their senor but they have special attention to their lovers...Parents get less honors and care from them than their lovers... They hardly try to realize that their moms show them this beautiful world and their seniors show them the most perfect way of life but they give them disrespect and disobey in turns....
i don't get why ppl are giving her crap...mt parents raised me pretty much the same way and im pretty content with it....like she said, with immigrant families...her type of parenting is pretty typical
American society hard to accept her.. we are society of accepting smoking pot , under age drinking , video games ...we got use to kids getting D and F , we don't value academic achievement as top priority we view sports figure and Rap music as the top priority .. discipline kids is against the law .. no one value the education system, beginning with republscum who rather given priority to tax cut to the rich then educating kids ** someday when your kids got into jail stop wonder why **
I agree in terms disciplining and subordinating your child, however i feel that the real problem is herself. she displacing these angers towards her kids. maybe a way to keep her lifestlye in check. she has insecurity issues. she did mention in the book she will crack down everytime she's with her husband friends because they were much more smarter than her. why did she chosen the paino and the violin,
possibly in d past she couldn't do it. so she took it out on her kids
Disciplining and pushing your children is fine, but this woman takes it to a whole other level. In her book she is obnoxious, screams at them when they make one tiny mistake, does stupid thing like forces her daughter to try caviar then patronizes her and completely puts her down. Thats just going too far. My mom is reading her book right now and we're seriously amazed at the insane things she does. She is lucky her relationship w/ her children isn't tarnished due to her own actions
@orkid682 No, happiness is by no means a cost. Just today a huge group of my college-aged Asian friends took Tiger Mom quotes and gave American versions of them, laughing their butts off while mocking western parenting phrases like "we don't want to hurt their feelings." To Westerners, Tiger Mom's style seems completely wrong. To my circle of friends, Western parenting is a joke. My friends are incredibly happy and can't imagine a western upbringing. Each side always believes he has it best.
I'm 34 and the child of immigrants from Brazil. My father came to the U.S. to make a better life for himself and with that came rules and structure.... two VERY important things seem to be missing nowadays. There is nothing wrong with raising the bar and making your child strive to be the best.
Its hilarious she keeps referencing chinese upbringing yet she marries a white guy and her children refuse to acknowledge they are chinese (or even half chinese). LOL. Doing a fine job there. Also its pretty well known that this type of parenting has nothing to do with race and its more of a culture thing of which its not chinese exclusive. People falling for this garbage are the reasons why there are bad parents out there.
I read her book and I'm only 15. But she really inspired me to do things. I'm thinking about taking piano leasons, and she gave me a lot parenting techniques. I'm a boar just like Lulu and I'm able to push myself to do things. I hate when my Mom forces me to do things, so it's very intresting I think. Different personatities are just so intriguing.
I like this interview. It gives Chua a chance to say her story. PBS did a good job asking questions without attacking her.
I look forward to reading about the "clash of cultures" this illustrates. I am a conservative Hispanic and look to learn from Chua's clash in hopes of preventing some in my family. Trial and error. Life is a lesson.
I was raised by a Chinese tiger mother and she had the exact same parenting techniques as Chua does. I am now 21 years old and traumatized. I have dropped out of college and can not function socially. Thanks a lot Tiger mom. I have written a book about it, its called "Tiger Mother Son of a Bitch" By Derrick Lin
im an immigrant student, senior in hs. and my mom used these methods on me too (though not as harsh and as strict) and as a child, it was hard and sometimes i cried. but after 2nd grade, i can take care of myself and study on my own and still get stright A and i'm just so thankful to my mom that she trained me to cope with all the work because i'd never get this far without her. so even though some part of her book might sounds really crule, it works.
I wrote to Ms. Chua to thank her for writing such a great book. She replied immediately in the sweetest of tigress ways. I love Amy Chua! Read the book, people! It's actually very good :)
To the people who can't handle a little humor and a biting reality, I have to say you're kind of pathetic. Who doesn't know that the greatest happiness comes after hardship?
and to the people leaving nasty comments about her,
I'm sorry you weren't raised by Chinese parents.
Perhaps then you'd have done better at the SAT's and not have grown to be so damn bitter.
@anniechenface happiness can come in many different forms, and however anyone wants to achieve that goal is there priority. Don't judge others or make fun of them either, there is no need. all i'm saying is find happiness at your own cost...not over others detriment
FYI, Chinese students have the highest suicide rate. I guess this is how you raise a robot. Also the fact she's making a profit off a stereotype is kind of disgusting. Thanks mommy dearest.
Whoa if I were her daughter, this woman would kick me out. She raising her kids to expect the best, but when they grow up and aren't the best or aren't getting anything at all, what's she gonna do?
She must have one messed up marriage ! She spent an obsessive amount of time with her daughters, along with a full time position as a professor. Children are suppose to be apart of your life, not take over your life. Good Grief !! Why did her husband let her do this ?? Her next book should be titled: "How to Emasculate Your Jewish Husband"
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She should stop generalizing and giving Asian mothers a bad rap. My mother is more lenient on my grades and my productivity, but that enforced my independent and creative thinking skills, without my mother having to think for me.
the goal is to deny them the pure fun that only a child can have. they'll grow, up looking forward to that time when they can really achieve that happy goal, and finally get there and see that it's too late. as an adult you can never experience pure unadulterated joy and happiness that is such a gift of childhood. good job at robbing your children of that, amy. i'm sure the tiny amount of money they might make more since they weren't allowed sleepovers or video games will be worth missing out.
Who loves their children more? Strict Eastern parents who devote endless hours to making sure their children achieve the best they can, or lenient Western parents who go off to watch their own TV or have their own parties instead of caring for their children?
luffypirateking0 3 days ago
ah it's the asian fathers who do the work
xIegionx 1 week ago
@yootubeification yeah but her mom "loved" her so much that Emily ended up killing herself because of all the pressure
trevrocks62 1 week ago
tijon..One way track!!
TheSwagzter 2 weeks ago
Lucky she isnt my mom.
missyyunivue 2 weeks ago
Repugnant woman. This sort of dictatorship is what we don't want to impose from any early age! No Chinese renaissance for years to come because of people like this.
amir650 3 weeks ago
Every child is different; what works for one may not work for the other and parents need to understand that. Always expect the best from your child and make sure they realize you love them.
iRickder 1 month ago
@iRickder true you are right
martinezmarcio1 1 month ago
Tiger moms children will be in soo much trouble if they are seen with a trumpet.
andrewlol111 1 month ago
What happens if a child does his/her best with a tiger mom like Chua, yet only gets a B+ grade? Does the child get grounded indefinitely, get sent to bed without dinner, and/or have tiger mom tell siblings and husband not to talk to the child until her next report card shows an "A" grade? What if the child simply is not gifted enough in a subject to get an "A" -- does tiger mom then resent/lessen her love for the child due to a high mark missed? That being said, you are a SEXY woman, Chua! :)
Ashkii63 1 month ago
i'm 17 but i know in the future i will become a "tiger mom" even though i've always hated how my mom was. I may not be as strict but i do believe to a certain extend it is acceptable/reasonable. I agree with her that if you set high expectations that come along with assistance will help your child be pushed in the direction to succeed.
crushlesschick 1 month ago
I have ADHD and have worked with children with psychiatric disabilities. This woman preaches sick, toxic and abusive behavior towards children!
The3djimbo 1 month ago
I like her. She seems honest and sincere. Often we are too quick to judge things that seem "different" but the truth is, no one is perfect. No "one way" of raising a child is ideal. We all make mistakes.
silverapple69 1 month ago
She is not a bad partent. I hope that when I hve kids one day that I can finda good balance between tiger mom and the american mother. I believe in balance of everything. there is such thing as to much of a good thing.
TheBeanSpirit 2 months ago
she isn't really Asian... ABC... Twinkie!! She does Not represent Asian Culture!
MrDontmakemecomeover 2 months ago 2
shutup criticizing her. she's saying what worked 4 her and her kids are more successful than most western kids, so appharently there is a lot of accuracy in how she raised her kids, though it was a bit extreme.
tharsicavignesh 2 months ago
My parents have found a balance between "Tiger Parenting" and "American Parenting." My dad is an immigrant from Russia and my mom is an immigrant from Mexico. My mom is strict; she expects straight A's from my sister and I and always pushes us to do better. Yet, she is still our friend and she allows us to develop socially, not only intellectually. It shows expecially well in my sister; she goes to an Ivy League, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, etc. I'm only 14 but I'm not a stereotypical...
jackiechanster 3 months ago
The key to parenting is finding a balance between "Tiger Mom-ism" and "American Parenting." Both of my parents are immigrants, and I have noticed that many people with immigrant parents are more disciplined. My mom (who has mainly raised me) is partly a Tiger Mom. She expects great grades from me and my sister, is strict, and knows that I can always do better. Yet she is our friend... she definetly lets us develop socially and not only intellectually. I think...
jackiechanster 3 months ago
I'm proud to be a Tiger mom!
thongsengk 3 months ago
lol its so true, and i have to agree with some of her methods. my mom never let me go on sleepovers either. it doesnt sound harsh to me at all.
elmirasahar 4 months ago
congratulations, ur kids are smart. once they graduate from school theyll be so lost in life having no contact with other human beings
GHilightReel 4 months ago
A girl across the street lives like this. I used to ask her to come over but she would always be practicing piano. She's in 3rd grade but when she gets home from school her mom teaches her 9th grade school She's Japanese not chinese though.
frenchiedog13 4 months ago
Yo Chua; we love our burgers, booze & cage fighting. DEAL wit it
asdhjwef 5 months ago
Well, Chua's right on the money.
dasteufelhund 5 months ago
Thanks, Amy, but I'd rather raise my kids the right way.
With LOVE. As in, letting them follow their own dreams and balancing them out as individuals. Or, you know, teaching them that their effort and is what counts, instead of some gold medal that's worthless in the long run.
But I probably lost you due to the fact that I don't advocate child abuse. "Tiger mother", yeah right. Even the title of your book is a crock.
extremesniper007 6 months ago
@extremesniper007 i think there is a difference between love and having your children walk all over you.
elmirasahar 4 months ago
@extremesniper007
Your mistake is in assuming that Amy Chua didn't love her kids. If she didn't care for them, why would she spend hours practicing piano and drilling math with them when it's SO much easier to just let them loose? You know what happens when you let your kids pursue their dreams? They end up on "Teen Mom."
yootubeification 4 weeks ago 5
@extremesniper007
Also, you are mistaken in believing that effort is what counts. Effort is useless if it leads nowhere. History is made by people's successes, not just through effort alone. That's why effort fades and the gold-medalers are remembered and celebrated.
yootubeification 4 weeks ago
@yootubeification Effort fades, kind sir? Then please elaborate as to why Thomas Edison is remembered for trying a thousand times to achieve the perfect bulb and getting it right on the thousandth time. Also, explain to me as to why Mozart is revered for writing masterful works solely through effort. After all, it's not like there was some "Grand Prize" in in for them.
I will be patiently awaiting your diligent response. Sorry I took long in replying. I was too busy with all my effort.
extremesniper007 3 weeks ago
I am reading your book "World on Fire". Quite good! Thanks.
rmwtsou 6 months ago
I recommend the essay entitled "The Harmful Myth of Asian Superiority".
mikepep33 6 months ago
you people that dislike the message of the book and other opinions that Americans are lazy are you yourself in American and Western society...America is blessed to have people that actually work hard (i.e. immigrants from China , Russia, India, etc.) as opposed to those that watch ESPN, American Idol, and other moron culture media. (I am a white, American, male.)
hudsonjamesc 6 months ago
This book is so heavily biased and opinionated that I couldn't take it seriously. This woman has no degree in psychology or even scientific evidence to back up her claims. My mother's a licensed marriage and family therapist and was completely appalled at it. She's worked with students who grew up in this kind of environment and has heard many horror stories. Chua knows smack about mental health, which is why she has no concept of the crippling emotional damage that this can cause.
Disgusting.
ValtronW 6 months ago
Though I agree with some of her morals and ideas, her methods for raising children were borderline abuse. She talks about how her kids need to respect her, but you can't achieve respect with fear. It doesn't work that way. I agree: Western children are disrespectful, unintelligent, lazy shits. She's right there. But she still needs counseling. And I don't buy the whole cultural bullshit, because even her Chinese parents were calling her out on her obsessive behavior. She's not mentally stable.
ValtronW 6 months ago
How interesting...I wonder how many people actually read her book o-o...
iLuviPhone4 6 months ago
The tiger mom is an alien.
kylejoeable 6 months ago
What a disgusting woman...
baggytheo 6 months ago
I wonder how many Tiger Mothers are now Tiger Cubless because their strictness and borderline abusive ways to raise their children end up alienating them. I wouldn't be surprised if Ms. Chua's daughters all moved FAR AWAY at first opportunity. This may be okay back in China, but here in the US when your children can how see how other childrens lived and raised?
PungiFungi 6 months ago
This is probaby the reason why we see so many american / european white men flocking to asia to find spouses - they think that asian women make better wives and mothers
123MichaelTan 7 months ago
I am 12 and I read her book, and honestly, it was like a diary for me
Contrary to what all the American mothers are thinking, I am already grateful of my parent's strictness and firm belief in me. I couldn't want any other parents
My tiger mom is actually my dad, who made sure I was perfect in everything. My mom is a lot more encouraging. I'm born a rabbit, and it's true i'm sensitive and cry easily, I think I'm pretty stubborn and demanding. I do piano and violin, and I get straight A's.
amazingannie7 7 months ago
@amazingannie7 i feel bad for you
cuterose743 6 months ago
I wonder how she would react if her husband cheated on her
takerdust 7 months ago
Even though im a hundred percent chinese,(not born here) I thingk she is really stupid, she just wanna show her daughters what she had suffered when she was a child because her childwood memories ruin by her childwood!
Frankly9158 7 months ago
@Frankly9158 Actually I don't really think so. I mean she is strict but she's strict for a reason. She wants to be that parent that actually cares about her children's grades and wants them to be successful in life unlike most teenagers and kids that don't care about anything and just do anything they want. She's inspiring but when I have kids I wouldn't treat them like she did because it is a little bit too harsh but I would want them to be smart and not lazy.
HiCallMeShadow 6 months ago
If you love your children you will disciplen them. We have come to associate disciplen with punishment... disciplen is guiedance
jtscreenit 7 months ago
Way to fall for the marketing! Simply a low brow argument for low brow people.
"Insecurities of an ABC - A look at passive aggressive ethno-narcissism " would have been a better title for it though.
>:}
XBLS1 7 months ago
When I was younger, I was scared of my parents' reaction if I got a low score, but now, they're more understanding and I'm more worried about disappointing them. To be honest, I think I was more productive when they were harsher.
MsGoldful 7 months ago
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TutorSAT 7 months ago
If my parents had put that much energy and time into helping me achieve academically, I would've been happier...probably. Even though my parents (my mom on the majority side) sent me to reading/math prep schools on the weekends from when I was in 3rd grade up to when I was in 11th grade, I eventually snapped. The first school I went to, I understood half of the stuff. Some of the stuff took me a really long time to get and I felt a lot of pressure, felt like I wasn't good enough.
ROCK3RxCHiCK23 7 months ago
I'm going to be a white, male, mountain lion dad. I'll do all the things tiger parents do, except I'll make my kids perfect Chinese folk songs on an erhu instead of Baroque compositions on violin.
wicaco 7 months ago
@wicaco you don't need to be a "mountain lion dad" just be a old school 1950's American father. You get the same results.
Volf99 7 months ago
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Superfoiling 7 months ago
My Asian parents were never strict with me and always told me there are no shortcuts in life. I was raised with love and because I loved my parents so much I wanted to impress them. I wanted them to be happy and not depressed all the time because of my grades or whatnot. I went to a middle school and high school of 90% Asians and I got straight A's. I passed countless CM piano tests and I still continue to play piano even now. Yet I still had time for video games & TV.
asianoxenkk 7 months ago
my asian parents high expectations ruined my grades. when i didn't get decimals in 6th grade they yelled at me instead of helping me or encouraging me. i lost faith in myself and stopped trying in mathematics.
i finally got my grades up in high school after i joined the wrestling team and a kung fu class. all that time away from my parents let me think for myself. and i'm now going on to study cultural anthropology because fuck math and i want to make a documentary on asian parenting one day.
quocdarock 8 months ago 19
@quocdarock - I'm not Asian or Asian-American (I'm African-American) but I've heard similar complaints about that type of parenting. I can empathize somewhat personally because my parents were "Tiger parents" somewhat when I was in elementary and middle school. They relaxed some when I got to high school but I understand how all that high-pressure, over-concern about making As and focusing on certain studies can be unhealthy. It also squelches a child's personal and social growth.
A86 2 months ago
I have ADHD and have worked with children with psychiatric disabilities. This woman preaches sick, abusive, toxic nonsense that harms children!
The3djimbo 1 month ago
People need to read the book from cover to cover before they start talking. And yes, I did read the book, loved it, agreed with most of it, and definitely felt sympathetic towards her children at times. However, there's always more to the story than most people share.
iLime14 8 months ago
Well, I'm Hispanic and I took violin in elementary school and I HATED it, so I dropped out of the class! I don't get straight A's, but I am always close to getting straight A's. I feel my parents raised me very well in many ways, so I guess everyone's different.
mariahcarey50 8 months ago
@mariahcarey50 "There are no Asterisks in life" and by that I mean getting always close to straight A's is NOT the same as getting straight A's. It isn't even similar.
Volf99 7 months ago
My German-Irish parents raised me the same way, except without the "love" part. This form of parenting works (it worked for some of my siblings) but it must also come with love or else it's just abusive.
wadehwallace 8 months ago
1:54 IMPORTANT PART!!!! AMY CHUA LEARNED FROM HER MISTAKE. The media is scary...people did not even read the end of the book. (My Chinese dad was like her, and I thank him for forcing me to play the violin . I hated it. It was so hard for me. However, right now as a high school junior, I love the violin. I am 110% percent sure I will never quit the violin. My dad wasn't that strict because he only hoped I can bring joy to myself and the others one day, maybe teaching violin as a "part-time" job!
c830124 8 months ago
1:50 IMPORTANT PART!! PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND HER APPROACH. ARE AMY CHUA WOULD NOT EVEN THINK THAT "CHINESE MOMS ARE SUPERIOR" NOW. SHE LEARNED FROM HER MISTAKES, and that is the important part. The media today is scary...(My dad is like her, and yes, I thank him for forcing me to play Violin when I was in first grade. I hate it because it was so hard for me, but now, as a high school junior, I love playing Violin. I am 100% sure I will never quit Violin.)
c830124 8 months ago
I don't know a Chinese mom who isn't a tiger mom. All Chinese mom's are tiger moms.
madbug1965 8 months ago
I'm guessing she probably doesn't like to watch the show "Modern Family."
megapark2 8 months ago
Amy Chua pointed out numerous times that this is a memoir, not a how-to guide. Whether or not you agree with what she says, the purpose of the book is not to serve as a parenting manual, which many of you are treating it as.
dc19921000 9 months ago
This is how black parents were in the 60's, when blacks were united by segregation. I miss the "tough love" days. Weakling parents are the reason for teen suicide and anti-bullying campaigns.
MightyPhalus 9 months ago
@MightyPhalus What do weakling parents have to do with teen suicide and anti-bullying campaigns? I don't see the correlation. There are many more reasons for suicides and bullying issues other than parenting issues.
dc19921000 9 months ago
@dc19921000 its funny because the nation with the most suicides just happen to be asians, so its just ridiculous for her to write this in her book.obviously shes misinformed and makes me wonder how man more things are cheap blows? displaying her jealousy is what shes really doing believing to be superior,she writes a book that is a type of how to guide then says its not a how to in order to disguise her superiority complex she has.heres something to think about,who wants a robot for a kid?not me
jay33011211 8 months ago
Friday night (5/20/11), I actually heard Chua decry creativity by saying "creativity never developed a theory of reletivity." This made me smile, because, in fact, Einstein was a terrible mathmatician in relation to the size of his intellect. The theory of reletivity was initially conceived entirly within Einstein's creative mind, and it was up to others to help him work out the math later on. Rote learning without the sparks of creativity and imagination is meaningless.
BDFONLINE 9 months ago
if this can prevent some kids to not be as stupid as many of the people commenting on here, im fine with it
py2o3434 9 months ago
The woman simply plugged into another one of these popular American fads. Rather than buy her silly books, just watch an hour of, say, Richard Feynman on how his parents raised him & how he in turn raised his own children. This woman is one of the most narcissistic Asians I've ever come across. Fact is, most kids borne of educated parents grow up to be well educated. She has NO deeper "knowledge" on parenting than the next woman. Her objective: manufacture "controversies" to sell mindless books.
HenryDavidT 9 months ago
The Chinese culture produces creepy robot people like Amy Chua.
futurefeet 9 months ago
I can agree that parents have a responsibility to encourage their kids to learn. This means providing them (if they are financial able to do so) with toys, books, computer, films. But it is cruel to Force your kid into learning, by emotional abuse. I suppose there is a fine line.
zadeh79 9 months ago
It's pretty obvious that most people commenting here have not actually opened up the book and read it. It's a quite interesting and LOOK into her life and the way in which she chose to raise her children. There is no preaching here-she made plenty of mistakes and at times had to change her approach to parenting based on what her family's needs were. I don't necessarily agree with all of her parenting choices, but in this world, you do need to protect your children against mediocrity.
mirnavalerio 9 months ago
@mirnavalerio Yep, mediocre students will be the end of us! Ask Walt Disney (poor grades due to chronic daydreaming), or Thomas Edison (expelled), or Woodrow Wilson (failed HS English), or Winston Churchill (failed 8th grade), or Bill Gates (threatened with expulsion for poor grades). We each have unique gifts, and we don't all learn the same way. School should be a place of descovery, not programming.
BDFONLINE 9 months ago
@BDFONLINE exactly,i ordered a program th@ shows how 2 B faster than a caclulator "human calculator" without anything but UR brain Pwer & even studied FotograFic memory,& less than 2 months my math skills along with formulas not being able 2 4get them if i tried made my grades so good teachers thought i was cheating & had 2 take the tests again.but basically school lowers students abilities Bcuz the way th@ human calc teaches math is totally backwards & 10 X easier,efficient learning.
jay33011211 8 months ago
My friend was brought up no different from any typical family in the U.S. His parents split up and he has a horrible step-mother but he doesn't bitch and moan about it, but instead gets straight A's all the time. He spends most of his day playing oustide with friends, videogames, or T.V. Tried to learn how to play guitar on his own accord. This "Tiger" mom probably doesn't get any better results from her kids yet he is raised extremely normally. Perfect example of how her parenting isn't needed.
odst818 9 months ago
Im surprised no one called child support years ago. Pushing her kids out of love? Thats like a boyfriend saying "I love you" right before they beat their girlfriend.
There was one part in the book where she forced one of her daughters to play the piano without dinner until she gets the piece. That is bad as Communists starving their own people for the sake of other Communists.
I know Amy Chua was raised by strict parents, but that doesnt mean she leashes it out on her own kids.
DarknessOfSorrow 9 months ago
@DarknessOfSorrow She's doing so because she feels this is how you bring the best out of your kids and for some reason she figures since her chinese parents do it then that means all chinese parents are the same. This can not be more wrong. LOL.
ArmBradPitt 9 months ago
@DarknessOfSorrow No, it's not the same. It's not that Amy Chua felt the need to take it out on her children. She loved her parents, she understood why they raised her the way they did. She's a college law professor at Yale. She put so much time into making sure her children were the best, making sure they did her homework, making sure they attended their lessons and practiced. To most, she seemed strict, but to me, her intentions were out of love.
sprinkledcupcakelove 6 months ago
@sprinkledcupcakelove
Well said.
BeatleBangs1964 3 months ago
Ugh... Just love your kids enough to put time and energy into raising them. Whatever that means for you - coddling, permissiveness, harshness, discipline - WHATEVER, just root your parenting in genuine care, concern, and commitment to being a good father or mother, and your kids will turn out just fine.
physicianmusician 9 months ago
@physicianmusician
great advice and so true
junkntrnk 9 months ago
I am a 15 year old American man.
Needless to say, I feel insulted by this woman.
and strangly turned on
spartanwarrior721 9 months ago
@spartanwarrior721
ok Im a forty something women who thinks you're pretty funny.
junkntrnk 9 months ago
@spartanwarrior721 lmao
rspkk0 9 months ago
Amy r hot...
goodguygonebetter 9 months ago
Americans hate her because they don't like anyone shining a light on their degeneracy.
Americans don't love their children. They are permissive because it's easy. It takes a lot of time correcting homework and teaching children. So they simply don't. They watch TV and let their kids do the same. If they're not lazy they are selfish. They want to make money to buy more fancy stuff instead of spending time with their children.
MardukHail 9 months ago 36
@MardukHail
wow-that is one of the most prejudicial statements I've ever heard. Americans don't love their children. you're kinda an ass
junkntrnk 9 months ago
@MardukHail I agree there is laziness involved. I bet American kids could be just as successful academically, and in the real world, if they raised their kids encouragingly - and with a higher degree of discipline (and not necessarily in the sense and to the degree, that Chua does). However, that being said, a child who is truly intelligent, will have a desire to learn and a rage to master.
zadeh79 9 months ago
@MardukHail Nah, I went to a high school with 70% Asians, their insane obsession with grades, SAT scores and getting into IVY league schools, forces them to ignore beauty in the world (or the beauty of science or math), never develop or train their creativity, and have a hard time finding true passion.
Remember, Einstein had poor grades while attending a high school that taught rote learning like these Asian SAT Cram schools, but poor grades in high school didn't hurt him all that much...
loveofphysics 8 months ago
@MardukHail I understand. My parents had been hippies. Their attitude was "Don't stress. Enjoy life and be free." Which is great if you are going to be 17 forever. But, looking back, I wish I was pushed a bit more. Not just enough to get by. It was tough going into the adult world with no real work ethic instilled in me. The Military helped. And a lot of trial and error.
jpd782 8 months ago
@MardukHail lolno
falubii 8 months ago
@MardukHail not all americans i like that my mom will do anything for me. you can not say wat u dont know!
cucho803 7 months ago
@MardukHail You are an insane person.
jake59413 4 months ago
No sleepovers or playdates? :( harsh.
markymarkfan17 9 months ago
GUN BOW, HOOWAAHH??? I GIVE U SPRING ROLL!! thats how asian people sound GUN BOWWAHHH???
ANT51FIFTY 9 months ago
Point is, raise your children accordingly and not a bunch of failures who will suck your money dry once they turn 18.
D00Mlaster 10 months ago
I read the book so I can say whatever I want. She is a mean, abusive and harsh mother. She also comes off a very snobbish in the book, she writes likes shes better than everyone else.
At the end of the book Lulu goes buck wild and you can't blame her. She was abused her whole life. Seems as though the mother wanted perfect children to so SHE can look good. The whole book was I I I ME ME ME ME. The kids had to play perfect piano & violin so SHE could look good.
angelsgurl 10 months ago
I voted you guys up. Folks finally get it. I have no place for immature children with the retarded Soccer moms that hang around my school all day. Don't ever marry a soccer mom, unless you can spend $599 a week just for gas in their SUV 4 wheel drive for on the paved highway. But global warming doesn't apply to them driving about hypocritical. But when it comes to designer labels, and wasteful spending they learned instead. And they don't know the meaning of ignorance, Not fake made up words.
hangemhigh2000 10 months ago
She might have a point... she might not.. Have you seen her Tumblr? Ridiculous.
I don't like her parenting method AT ALL. But I have not hate towards it - if she feels thats how kids should be raised - so be it.
crayon13c 10 months ago
No TV/Computer/play dates are a bit extreme, as well as a few others... but other than that, my mom is a Tiger Mom too, I don't regret it... except for learning the violin lol. THAT I regret :P
pastasauce516 10 months ago
this book should be made into a movie
jfh034 10 months ago 3
Give the poor woman a break! She loves her kids! They love her! She's a good mom, and equally importantly, she's a successful mom. With so many people out there with maniacal teenage drop out children, I covet her style and hope to mimic it someday myself.
Hear it in her own daughter's words here:
.nypost.com/p/entertainment/why_love_my_strict_chinese_mom_uUvfmLcA5eteY0u2KXt7hM
ach1088 10 months ago
@orkid682 The only way you'd truely know that is if you go and speak to her personally. You don't judge someone until you get to know them.
snakelared 10 months ago
idk but ArmBradPitt said that her kids dont even acknowledge that they are of chinese descent, that she married a white guy, im pretty sure the way she talks of being a chinese descent from an immigrant family heavily influenced from their traditional ways, SHE WAS prob. DISOWNED from her family marrying a "white" guy.
mrknowledgeman 10 months ago
i have read her book. i was not impressed whatsoever. this book is basically all about how chinese mothers are the sh-t, american mothers are lazy pushovers and how she got bitched slapped by her daughter. but at the same time she still sounded like a concieted, selfish woman who lived bicurously through her daughters' successes.
1234blahluv 10 months ago
@1234blahluv bicuriously? do you mean vicariously? she's not living through her daughter's violin successes, she graduated from Harvard Law School. she's not living vicariously through anybody.
aieshaisok 10 months ago
@1234blahluv You can't be impressed by anything if you go have an adamant opinion against it while reading.
Travaillons 10 months ago
Actually many of the new generation,young people in the western are not respectful and do not obey their senor but they have special attention to their lovers...Parents get less honors and care from them than their lovers... They hardly try to realize that their moms show them this beautiful world and their seniors show them the most perfect way of life but they give them disrespect and disobey in turns....
uhoo98 10 months ago
i don't get why ppl are giving her crap...mt parents raised me pretty much the same way and im pretty content with it....like she said, with immigrant families...her type of parenting is pretty typical
phidinhtran 10 months ago 4
American society hard to accept her.. we are society of accepting smoking pot , under age drinking , video games ...we got use to kids getting D and F , we don't value academic achievement as top priority we view sports figure and Rap music as the top priority .. discipline kids is against the law .. no one value the education system, beginning with republscum who rather given priority to tax cut to the rich then educating kids ** someday when your kids got into jail stop wonder why **
superwhiz88 10 months ago 6
I agree in terms disciplining and subordinating your child, however i feel that the real problem is herself. she displacing these angers towards her kids. maybe a way to keep her lifestlye in check. she has insecurity issues. she did mention in the book she will crack down everytime she's with her husband friends because they were much more smarter than her. why did she chosen the paino and the violin,
possibly in d past she couldn't do it. so she took it out on her kids
gto11520 10 months ago
Disciplining and pushing your children is fine, but this woman takes it to a whole other level. In her book she is obnoxious, screams at them when they make one tiny mistake, does stupid thing like forces her daughter to try caviar then patronizes her and completely puts her down. Thats just going too far. My mom is reading her book right now and we're seriously amazed at the insane things she does. She is lucky her relationship w/ her children isn't tarnished due to her own actions
stepupfolifeex0 10 months ago
@orkid682 No, happiness is by no means a cost. Just today a huge group of my college-aged Asian friends took Tiger Mom quotes and gave American versions of them, laughing their butts off while mocking western parenting phrases like "we don't want to hurt their feelings." To Westerners, Tiger Mom's style seems completely wrong. To my circle of friends, Western parenting is a joke. My friends are incredibly happy and can't imagine a western upbringing. Each side always believes he has it best.
Slashtap3 10 months ago
What does this woman have against guitars? Or oboes? Or clarinets?
zayatz 10 months ago
I'm 34 and the child of immigrants from Brazil. My father came to the U.S. to make a better life for himself and with that came rules and structure.... two VERY important things seem to be missing nowadays. There is nothing wrong with raising the bar and making your child strive to be the best.
popcornfreak828 10 months ago 4
Its hilarious she keeps referencing chinese upbringing yet she marries a white guy and her children refuse to acknowledge they are chinese (or even half chinese). LOL. Doing a fine job there. Also its pretty well known that this type of parenting has nothing to do with race and its more of a culture thing of which its not chinese exclusive. People falling for this garbage are the reasons why there are bad parents out there.
ArmBradPitt 10 months ago
I read her book and I'm only 15. But she really inspired me to do things. I'm thinking about taking piano leasons, and she gave me a lot parenting techniques. I'm a boar just like Lulu and I'm able to push myself to do things. I hate when my Mom forces me to do things, so it's very intresting I think. Different personatities are just so intriguing.
StrainChain 10 months ago 11
she has nice hair
TakenByThoughts 11 months ago
I like this interview. It gives Chua a chance to say her story. PBS did a good job asking questions without attacking her.
I look forward to reading about the "clash of cultures" this illustrates. I am a conservative Hispanic and look to learn from Chua's clash in hopes of preventing some in my family. Trial and error. Life is a lesson.
rissapena 11 months ago 2
I was raised by a Chinese tiger mother and she had the exact same parenting techniques as Chua does. I am now 21 years old and traumatized. I have dropped out of college and can not function socially. Thanks a lot Tiger mom. I have written a book about it, its called "Tiger Mother Son of a Bitch" By Derrick Lin
moshetbuitz 11 months ago 2
im an immigrant student, senior in hs. and my mom used these methods on me too (though not as harsh and as strict) and as a child, it was hard and sometimes i cried. but after 2nd grade, i can take care of myself and study on my own and still get stright A and i'm just so thankful to my mom that she trained me to cope with all the work because i'd never get this far without her. so even though some part of her book might sounds really crule, it works.
tomaotgirl 11 months ago
I think this method only works if the parents makes sure the kid always knows they're loved, so in her case it did, but it won't work for everyone.
violintiffany 11 months ago
It sounds like the combination of both West and East is the best way to teach your kids. Not one way or the other.....
juno612 11 months ago
So your kids can solve any math problem put in front of them? So can a calculator.
TheMrClamberto 11 months ago
her daughters are so talented! that is proof that Chua's method works.
sabrinastarlight 11 months ago
Ive met kids who have been raised like this, and it screwed them up. they have terrible social skills, and have no passion for anything they do
siteofskye 11 months ago
@siteofskye HEY! I have a lot of friends
budgerigar42 11 months ago
Is she raising children, or is she raising robots?
I'd rather be happy, than be a robot.
FortitudeOfHeaven 11 months ago
The book his horribly written, but I guess I can appreciate her journey from Tiger Mother to BiTigermother.
foxh8er 11 months ago
now that is a real psychopath
itsluciano 11 months ago
My friend committed suicide because of her "tiger mom." This woman reminds me a little to much of my friends mother.
kraidlike 11 months ago
@kraidlike ur friend did NOT. stop trying to make us feel sorry for u
theparkster20 11 months ago
I wrote to Ms. Chua to thank her for writing such a great book. She replied immediately in the sweetest of tigress ways. I love Amy Chua! Read the book, people! It's actually very good :)
idontknowkarate 11 months ago
it's hard to listen to meanies, but she is definately right.
kmsabia 11 months ago
Does she have tiger blood?
ColossalM 11 months ago 3
@ColossalM
Ha Ha. Oh Yeah and she is BYWINNING
plescia1317 11 months ago
Check out my parody of Amy Chua:
Youtube video "Tiger Mother, Shmiger Mother"
GutsyTherapist 11 months ago
my mom even thinks that asian mother do better. but seriously, if amy chua was my mom i'd be out on the streets. this woman would kick me out.
1234blahluv 11 months ago
In general, Chinese mom do raised their children better
Look China's case, Their children taking very good care of their old parents with much respect, their 50 years old son has to obay their parent
A old civilization can refine the way of teaching and loving certainly better
fdoca 11 months ago
I don't have a tiger mom. I have a TIGER DAD! :P And now I'm raking in the A's on my report card. All A's, no blemish. Hihihi :D
tinapie23 11 months ago
um......where's the dad?
beboposaur 11 months ago
I overcame my Tiger Mother in my book called
Tiger Mother: Son of a Bitch.
She was worse than Amy Chua
moshetbuitz 11 months ago
To the people who can't handle a little humor and a biting reality, I have to say you're kind of pathetic. Who doesn't know that the greatest happiness comes after hardship?
and to the people leaving nasty comments about her,
I'm sorry you weren't raised by Chinese parents.
Perhaps then you'd have done better at the SAT's and not have grown to be so damn bitter.
anniechenface 11 months ago
@anniechenface happiness can come in many different forms, and however anyone wants to achieve that goal is there priority. Don't judge others or make fun of them either, there is no need. all i'm saying is find happiness at your own cost...not over others detriment
ocfilmsfan123 11 months ago
i feel sorry for those bashing her for no reasons. those people just can not handle the truth.
pekwind 11 months ago
FYI, Chinese students have the highest suicide rate. I guess this is how you raise a robot. Also the fact she's making a profit off a stereotype is kind of disgusting. Thanks mommy dearest.
TheNameisLuz 11 months ago
@TheNameisLuz FYI America has a ridiculously high crime rate, much higher than China. Even though China has 20x more people.
PinkRoboticDinosaurs 10 months ago
This woman has an evil look to her eyes. Any kid would be intimidated by her. She's an Asian Cruella Deville.
MrHotpantsImComin 11 months ago
I don't know why people got so mad at her, I will definitely read the book....
tiffany10301 1 year ago
if one of her children commit suicide then we'll know.
MrSamyboi911 1 year ago
so nobody watched the whole clip, I guess.. probably wrote most of the comments before they got halfway
theaak 1 year ago 26
Wow, no freedom
soccerhatrick21 1 year ago
Hey cool, the so called "superior" Chinese Tiger Moms, forcing her children to learn to use Western instruments.
Rao665 1 year ago
Whoa if I were her daughter, this woman would kick me out. She raising her kids to expect the best, but when they grow up and aren't the best or aren't getting anything at all, what's she gonna do?
1234blahluv 1 year ago
CHINESE PARENTS ARE NOT ALL LIKE THIS! UGH! STEREOTYPES MUCH... :(
47mrox 1 year ago
What is so magical about the piano and violin?
TreachMarkets 1 year ago 3
My parents are like that too, they don't allow me to do anything that's not school-related
mysterystickman 1 year ago
Amy Chua speaks the truth. She's a pretty cool mother. I appreciate her a lot!
jsjcanon 1 year ago
HER EYES ARE SO UNEVEN ITS DISTRACTING
superxderp 1 year ago
She must have one messed up marriage ! She spent an obsessive amount of time with her daughters, along with a full time position as a professor. Children are suppose to be apart of your life, not take over your life. Good Grief !! Why did her husband let her do this ?? Her next book should be titled: "How to Emasculate Your Jewish Husband"
GMAN95120 1 year ago
Response to "Why 'Tiger Moms' Pose A Systemic Risk To China"
Rick, you thought you know Asian or Chinese history pretty well, sure, you did to some extent. However you're misleading people here because you have almost no data to support your points but take everything for granted. As an SEC senior risk manager, you should not make such a low-level mistake, which may lead people to think of you as not qualified. Read more on Blog. Tiger Moms .net
TigerMomsNet 1 year ago
She should stop generalizing and giving Asian mothers a bad rap. My mother is more lenient on my grades and my productivity, but that enforced my independent and creative thinking skills, without my mother having to think for me.
maaanatee 1 year ago
I guess you never won anything.
PaolaBrownEnglish 1 year ago
the goal is to deny them the pure fun that only a child can have. they'll grow, up looking forward to that time when they can really achieve that happy goal, and finally get there and see that it's too late. as an adult you can never experience pure unadulterated joy and happiness that is such a gift of childhood. good job at robbing your children of that, amy. i'm sure the tiny amount of money they might make more since they weren't allowed sleepovers or video games will be worth missing out.
nogoodbastid 1 year ago
I bet of all the people who've commented all over YouTube on this subject, less than 1% have actually read her book. ;-)
Nilyentaraka 1 year ago 42