When I started my transition nearly 2 years ago, I tried to meet people like me in my area. I quickly gave up when all the ones I met were escorts. It saddens me, but some seem to like the money it gives them. Seriously, some months ago, my aunt told me to consider it, since it would make me a lot of money. Wow! WTF! Seriously, I'm happy with my small office job and living like every woman should.
HUG! Thank you for your talk about accountability of transitioning. We are women, and we must take hold of that GIFT!!! Thank you for helping this woman finally decide to transition for that abandoned girl who so wanted to come out, when I was 4.
@urmwhynot HUG! You are very welcome. I am Carey in NYC. :) You are an absolute inspiration, and GEM, Precious! I have used similar words as you have to encourage others to transition, since 2000, but I was too scared to do it myself. Whether it was my kids, or my parents (I grew up in Japan as a MK - missionary kid - so that gives you some idea of my societal blocks), I pushed down my deep desire, need, craving, primal code to transition! And, that SUCKS! I am prepared to accept the.......
@urmwhynot I am prepared to accept the consequences, as well as the absolute gifts and blessings that come from letting the GIRL fully bloom! (Crying...) Thank you, Hon, for YOU!!! HUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!
Well, while some may see him as a fraud, I do know wiccans who of most things will agree that he was a witch. As a witch myself, I do not follow the wiccan tradition, but ultimately I identify with that law as being the easiest in describing what I would otherwise call, 'the law of congruity'. And yes, you are right in that.. wiccans, and witches are not the same thing.. but do not discard the fact that wicca is formalized witchcraft.. And no offense taken, nor given:)
I'm a pagan (former Wiccan) and I don't know where you get the idea that it is a fact that Wicca is formalized withcraft. Wicca is full of all kinds of things that were made up by Gardner and pulled from all different places that had nothing to do with witchcraft as it was actually practiced by pre-Christian Europeans. For example, karma or the law of congruity are eastern philosophies and as far as I know didn't come into witchcraft until Gardner or after.
The basis of Wicca and its foundings are hardly something you can sum up by assuming it was fabricated, or "made up by" one man. Considering you declare yourself as a pagan, and former Wiccan, and also suggest that Wicca was a something "made up", says to me that you have a bias towards the path, and so your opinion can only be assorted, as it is. As for the Law Of Congruity.. This is not an eastern concept.. tis like saying, magick is a western concept, The law of magick as it is applied....
...teaches the magician, that magick is cyclic in its form, as are all energies that exist within the world, and that most certainly, 'what goes around, does comes around'... Do you think the old pagans where not aware of this? To work with magick, one must be akin to the cyclic nature of all things. And to suggest that the old ones where oblivious to this, by suggesting that these are eastern concepts is ludicrous.
I will admit that I do have some 'issues' with Wicca. That's only fair. But I didn't say that Wicca was made up. I said that it was full of things that were made up, not the entire religion. As for the law of congruity, perhaps I was wrong about it being solely an eastern philosophy. Do you know of any sources that might suggest that witches acknowledged a law of congruity? And I mean witches specifically as in the people who practiced the aboriginal spiritual traditions of pre-Christian.....
...so to say you are 'perhaps wrong' about something, is to say that you accept that at one point in time, you believed that you weren't 'wrong'... which would also suggest that knowledge for you does have an end... Remember that the society we live in today has robbed our predecessors of much in the way of literature, and real 'identity'... and so much is left to you, to discover yourself, in the way of truth especially... and truth can only be found in experience of a thing... yes?
I personally believe in a law of return or as you call a Law of Congruity, but I haven't been able to find anything that suggests the idea was common among European pagans pre-Christian or otherwise. My main issue was with you saying that it was a fact that Wicca is formalized witchcraft when Wicca is a compilation of lots of things, not just witchcraft. And how would me at some point in time believing I wasn't wrong about something suggest that knowledge for me has an end?
Well, if you can't understand what I mean by saying wicca is formalized witchcraft, then you are missing the fact that the founder of wicca, was a witch... fey. And since you admit that you have 'issues' with wicca, your observance of what I say will not be the same as most who do not have 'issues' with wicca. You will not see the craft of my people taught in classes on the net, or on any great spectrum for that matter. But british folk magic, and its tradition, you will.. In wicca...
As for your second question, you answered it yourself.. because when someone assumes they are 'right' about something, considering the topic especially, they are admiting that they completely knowledgable about the matter, in all of its aspects, have understood it, in its entirety, and therefor 'know' it completely...
I'm confused. May I need to get some sleep (I've been up all night) and then answer you tomorrow. I am interested in talking with you, just too tired to now.
I think I was confusing you saying that Wicca is formalized witchcraft as saying that it was THE formalized version of witchcraft when in actuality it is only one version of witchcraft. And to believe that one is right about something does not mean that they think they are completely knowledgeable about the matter in all of its aspects and therefore know it completely.
Well, Im not sure what inspires your logic.. but you cannot be right about something, when you do not know it, especially something as deep as the laws that govern us.
You can be 'right' about the origin of something without being 'right' about every single other issue about the topic. For example, I know that I am 'right' when I say that the earth is round without knowing every single little thing about the earth.
True, and you 'know' this... how? Because science tells us so, as per the research of many who came before us. So you are not so much 'right' about the shape of the earth, as you are quoting another persons 'knowing', and trusting that they are 'right', because you trust they 'know'..You may see photos, or film of the earth, but you still need the 'knowing' of someone to tell you what it is you are viewing.
Aside from that, the Law of Congruity, and its existence in pre-christian cultures shouldn't be a debate for you, simply because, anyone who acknowledges the laws, knows they are universal... like gravity... For each action, there is a reaction says the law... and the understanding of magick wouldnt exist in any culture, if this law was not first acknowledged.
But I don't know if you're correct when you say the 'understanding of magick wouldn't exist in any culture, if this law was not first acknowledged.' I don't know very much about Voodoo, but I don't think they acknowledge a law of congruity yet they practice magic.
To use magick in any instance, you must understand that your actions will cause a reaction in the universe around you(acknowledgment of the Law of Congruity). You cannot practice magick, unless you first understand, that "every action, has an equal, or opposing reaction".. because this is the basis of all ritual. When one casts a spell, they make an action, to cause a reaction.
I see what you mean about every action has an equal or opposing reaction, but I that's still not quite the same thing as karma is it? Correct me if I'm wrong, but my understanding of karma is essentially - you reap what you sow. Acknowledging that what you do has an equal or opposite reaction isn't the same as acknowledging that what you do might come back around to you in a positive or negative way depending on you original action.
This is where the Law, and Karma are different. The Law describes only what 'is' - Karma makes up the philosophy of a spirituality.
For example, the Law describes cause and effect, but Karma explains mans spiritual relationship to cause and effect. And I think your summarizing of Karma is at most, a childish, and 'unknowing' understanding of a very ancient philosophy. What Karma describes is more than what you understand it does. Search for "Karma" on wikipedia.. seek its meaning for yourself.
Now, I think I have satisfied my need to correct your initial challenge of my statements. I would suggest to you, going by your channel, and the things it describes, that you have much searching to do, and learning therein... And even by my own interactions with you, I can say that I am confident this is true. But know this one thing, that when you speak on something, be sure to 'know' it first. Least your opinion be taken with any substance. This is the last reply you will receive from me.
Exactly. Sorcery is Foolery, because Sorcerers are fools for not accepting the fact that they do not own nor control Magick. A real Magician can go to Hell and back untouched, while not being affected by the Magick he is under or Magick that is sent to him. a Sorcerer on the other hand will get under it's own spell, spellbound by his own intention, ego, and ignorance. Thus a Sorcerer destroys himself three times.
i just had to come back and re-comment this video. i totally agree with you on these points. i used to do porn awhile back with the whoel shemale thing and it's cool with the money and stuff but all these transes keep doing it even after they are passable or have had surgeries, it's like a stripper who keep stripping even after having money to go to college.
the girls that remain in the field continue to perpetuate trans as a fetish/object rather than as authentic ppl (whether male or female)
What are you going to do with these offenders then if you can't put up with them, gas chamber ?
Anybody with a half decent mind knows not to judge and entire group just because one gives a bad image to the rest of the group(I think that is grammatically wrong :S sorry)
So why should you care about that bad image that's being created of you by others.
Actually.. it was "This "should not" be tolerated, or perpetuated"
This doesnt mean that I want people gased???That was clearly your idea.. do I sound, or look like a violent person?LMAO
And what defines a decent mind? Thats quite a generalized comment.
And why should I care about ppl making my, and others lives hard?? Well, near 50% of all transgender ppl neck themselves coz of the "image". This video is for the ppl sick of the sexualized image perpetuated by others with our condition.
Oh of course I wouldnt like to think your a violent person, infact Ill be prejudice and say because of "do as ye will..." quote, the last thing i'd expect you to be is sombody that would inflict violence upon anything.
But I Did misquote you, so I won't argue back on that)
On what defines a decent mind (or what I was reffering to) is A mind without discrimination, (and we are both in the western world so thats objective to the most of us)
Yes people might be necking (if you dont mean suicide please correct me) themselves because of the bad image created, but Thats more than just a trans issue (my opinion of course)
If i were to tackle that, I would attack discrimination as a whole as then if you got rid of that,
it would be a whole live-let-live situation.
people could objectify themselves to all fuck, and nobody would be caring about the image. People would accept who they are and the world could just be a giant love fest ! <3
I completely agree the action of a few do reflect upon all of us... Iv exp. a bit of it my self going out with my friends. guys walking up to you thinking your a free piece of meat.
I see where you are coming from and I agree completely.
On a similar but somewhat different note, there have always been "bad" women and "good" women and never the two shall mix. Ha
I completely understand where you said the Trans woman is more effected than the genetic woman by each others actions. They are "judged" on their own actions. (genetic women)
I think wanting to be accepted as a woman is one of the reasons for promiscuity within the transwoman. (If I am wording this correctly)
You are free to have that opinion, but I speak only from experience.. and I live successfully in my gender role...which must be testament to something..
And I am not telling anyone how to live their lives... this isnt about telling people.. its about being informed about ones output, and how others view it.
Aside from this, you can look below and follow the comments of others who see it as I do...
I completely agree with this video. We are way more than some objectified image and shouldn't objectify ourselves simply because we feel we need to for others.
I know most transgirls will probably compliment you on your looks and voice. The truth is they are both awesome but I think the thing I love most about you is that you have a very wise head on those lovely shoulders. I love the way you express yourself so confidently and beautifully. You are an inspiration.xx
Also, you raise the issue of trans-phobia as a result of sexual objectification. That's a good point too. If more transgender people make themselves known, the phobia will decrease. A lot of it is down to a fear of the unknown.
There's also a nasty hypocritical puritanicalism that permiates society. It hates the idea of sex without punishment. Be the punishment pregnancy, disease or marriage! lol
You raise a great point but I think it's more complex than you suggest. It's not just transformed women who objectify themselves sexually for validation, plenty of born-females do that too. I dare say plenty of men do it too. After all, to be sexually desired is a validation of self as we are born with the instinct to reproduce and sex is how we achieve this.
However when the desire for validation leaves you feeling dirty and used, then it's a destructive urge and you need to address it.
and yes... genetic women, and gay men are plenty objectified... but this does not so much affect the way all women, or gay men are perceived, where as for trans women it is different.. the common understanding of what trans is, is usually defined by the media, or the sex industry... we can hardly say the same for women or gay men...each of who are well-known to society... as apposed to the transgender condition.
There are people from every community who objectify themselves, sorry to say. It's not just the LGBT community. The trick is to not let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch. Unfortunately, many an ignorant person doesn't see it that way. Let the negative criticisms roll off your back, don't stoop to their level, and present yourself to society with a certain level of dignity and self-respect, and that will ultimately carry you through to better times.
no need to be sorry, it is true what you... but i am not addressing the GLBT community, or any community.. i am addressing members of the wider trans community... this does not apply to anyone who is not transgender.. though it could, its not my intention to address the issues of objectification found in any other circumstances, least the person viewing its genuinely transgendered.. so no, im not talking to CD's/Genetic women/Gay men.. I am speaking to trans women..
I understand where you're coming from, and I certainly don't want to diminish the focus of your point of view. I guess what I'm ultimately saying is there's a positive way to respond to objectification in any community, trans or otherwise. People often mistake trans women based on what they see on the Jerry Springer show, and me as a straight man who likes hetero trans women is often mistaken as gay. You see where I'm coming from. It's all about holding yourself to a higher standard.
i agree, we need more ppl from the trans comminity who post things like musical skill or artistic skill, then ppl will see us all better and things would be way easier
Another great video. And I agree wholeheartedly, since I'm a witch as well. It's great to see another very intelligent, articulate woman not only representing the trans community, but the pagan community as well. :)
Well congrats!! You are now on the hot tamale train(I LUV Mary Murphy)..ahahaha!!! Im happy this could resonate with you.. because I see you, and you are far too pretty to let men objectify you:)
Haha, I find you super pretty and your voice is amazing :) I wish it would switch!! its been way too long that its deep nothing works :( and I sooooo love your dual shade hair, do you style it with a root lifter or just flat iron and spray?
I watched your video, and your voice is very good...there are many who would envy your voice. And my hair.. well, that deserves a whole vlog all to itself..ahaha... I style it with a flat iron, and a tiny bit of spray, yes:)
Thank you for finally speaking up for us. I find quite hilarious when men think because I'm TG that im automatically a slut that will do them in the parking lot. I'm very reserved and think a man should earn my love not take it and throw it away!
I love how you tagged in the beginning that being who we are isn't some sexual gratification, but rather a deep conviction. I totally agree with how other trans people present themselves shining a light, either positive or negative, on everyone else. If only there were far more positive lights than there is. Of course, the respectable people we all love are probably staying out of the spotlight because of who's there already. But overall, a great vlog as usual... bless you!
Whoa!! You have such gorgeous features(going by your channel photo)....Im a kiwi girl born and bred in Auckland. My father is of Polynesian/Scottish descent, and my mother is of Irish Descent:)
When I started my transition nearly 2 years ago, I tried to meet people like me in my area. I quickly gave up when all the ones I met were escorts. It saddens me, but some seem to like the money it gives them. Seriously, some months ago, my aunt told me to consider it, since it would make me a lot of money. Wow! WTF! Seriously, I'm happy with my small office job and living like every woman should.
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HUG! Thank you for your talk about accountability of transitioning. We are women, and we must take hold of that GIFT!!! Thank you for helping this woman finally decide to transition for that abandoned girl who so wanted to come out, when I was 4.
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@justforyouspecialone Beautiful! Thank you for you wonderful comment x
urmwhynot 6 months ago
@urmwhynot HUG! You are very welcome. I am Carey in NYC. :) You are an absolute inspiration, and GEM, Precious! I have used similar words as you have to encourage others to transition, since 2000, but I was too scared to do it myself. Whether it was my kids, or my parents (I grew up in Japan as a MK - missionary kid - so that gives you some idea of my societal blocks), I pushed down my deep desire, need, craving, primal code to transition! And, that SUCKS! I am prepared to accept the.......
justforyouspecialone 6 months ago
@urmwhynot I am prepared to accept the consequences, as well as the absolute gifts and blessings that come from letting the GIRL fully bloom! (Crying...) Thank you, Hon, for YOU!!! HUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!
justforyouspecialone 6 months ago
Thank you. So much.
19liljay88 7 months ago
:D blessed be )O(
ThornPuppet 7 months ago
@ThornPuppet Blessed indeed )O(
urmwhynot 6 months ago
:)
delusivex 8 months ago
But as a witch?!!! What?
RatcliffeDavid 1 year ago
Beautiful, Intelligent, and Humorous - U = HOT!
ftfout 1 year ago
Do you feel anything down there?
KigurumiAlice 2 years ago
I just want to say that i'm sooo jealous of you.
You look so perfect, I would never turn out as good as you if i started changing myself.
Is there any chance that you could post or send a picture of you before the whole thing? :)
Love Tommy
Tompa589 2 years ago
Heya Lea,
Might just be me, thou theres no sound coming thru at all via that video.
*hug!*
highflyerlaura 2 years ago
Hey Laura,
The volume on this video is low... but it definitely has sound.. may be turn the speakers up?:)
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Okies!!! I can hear it now, although only just.
Thanks Lea!!
*hug!*
highflyerlaura 2 years ago
I didn't mean it in an offensive way! I just wanted to point out that being a Wiccan and a Witch aren't even remotely the same things.
roojooroojoo 2 years ago
Well, while some may see him as a fraud, I do know wiccans who of most things will agree that he was a witch. As a witch myself, I do not follow the wiccan tradition, but ultimately I identify with that law as being the easiest in describing what I would otherwise call, 'the law of congruity'. And yes, you are right in that.. wiccans, and witches are not the same thing.. but do not discard the fact that wicca is formalized witchcraft.. And no offense taken, nor given:)
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I'm a pagan (former Wiccan) and I don't know where you get the idea that it is a fact that Wicca is formalized withcraft. Wicca is full of all kinds of things that were made up by Gardner and pulled from all different places that had nothing to do with witchcraft as it was actually practiced by pre-Christian Europeans. For example, karma or the law of congruity are eastern philosophies and as far as I know didn't come into witchcraft until Gardner or after.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
The basis of Wicca and its foundings are hardly something you can sum up by assuming it was fabricated, or "made up by" one man. Considering you declare yourself as a pagan, and former Wiccan, and also suggest that Wicca was a something "made up", says to me that you have a bias towards the path, and so your opinion can only be assorted, as it is. As for the Law Of Congruity.. This is not an eastern concept.. tis like saying, magick is a western concept, The law of magick as it is applied....
urmwhynot 2 years ago
...teaches the magician, that magick is cyclic in its form, as are all energies that exist within the world, and that most certainly, 'what goes around, does comes around'... Do you think the old pagans where not aware of this? To work with magick, one must be akin to the cyclic nature of all things. And to suggest that the old ones where oblivious to this, by suggesting that these are eastern concepts is ludicrous.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I will admit that I do have some 'issues' with Wicca. That's only fair. But I didn't say that Wicca was made up. I said that it was full of things that were made up, not the entire religion. As for the law of congruity, perhaps I was wrong about it being solely an eastern philosophy. Do you know of any sources that might suggest that witches acknowledged a law of congruity? And I mean witches specifically as in the people who practiced the aboriginal spiritual traditions of pre-Christian.....
ReGreta9 2 years ago
......Europe, not magicians in general.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
...so to say you are 'perhaps wrong' about something, is to say that you accept that at one point in time, you believed that you weren't 'wrong'... which would also suggest that knowledge for you does have an end... Remember that the society we live in today has robbed our predecessors of much in the way of literature, and real 'identity'... and so much is left to you, to discover yourself, in the way of truth especially... and truth can only be found in experience of a thing... yes?
urmwhynot 2 years ago
... so what does experience tell you, when you ask it about the governance of the Law of Congruity?
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I personally believe in a law of return or as you call a Law of Congruity, but I haven't been able to find anything that suggests the idea was common among European pagans pre-Christian or otherwise. My main issue was with you saying that it was a fact that Wicca is formalized witchcraft when Wicca is a compilation of lots of things, not just witchcraft. And how would me at some point in time believing I wasn't wrong about something suggest that knowledge for me has an end?
ReGreta9 2 years ago
Well, if you can't understand what I mean by saying wicca is formalized witchcraft, then you are missing the fact that the founder of wicca, was a witch... fey. And since you admit that you have 'issues' with wicca, your observance of what I say will not be the same as most who do not have 'issues' with wicca. You will not see the craft of my people taught in classes on the net, or on any great spectrum for that matter. But british folk magic, and its tradition, you will.. In wicca...
urmwhynot 2 years ago
As for your second question, you answered it yourself.. because when someone assumes they are 'right' about something, considering the topic especially, they are admiting that they completely knowledgable about the matter, in all of its aspects, have understood it, in its entirety, and therefor 'know' it completely...
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I'm confused. May I need to get some sleep (I've been up all night) and then answer you tomorrow. I am interested in talking with you, just too tired to now.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
I think I was confusing you saying that Wicca is formalized witchcraft as saying that it was THE formalized version of witchcraft when in actuality it is only one version of witchcraft. And to believe that one is right about something does not mean that they think they are completely knowledgeable about the matter in all of its aspects and therefore know it completely.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
Well, Im not sure what inspires your logic.. but you cannot be right about something, when you do not know it, especially something as deep as the laws that govern us.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
You can be 'right' about the origin of something without being 'right' about every single other issue about the topic. For example, I know that I am 'right' when I say that the earth is round without knowing every single little thing about the earth.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
True, and you 'know' this... how? Because science tells us so, as per the research of many who came before us. So you are not so much 'right' about the shape of the earth, as you are quoting another persons 'knowing', and trusting that they are 'right', because you trust they 'know'..You may see photos, or film of the earth, but you still need the 'knowing' of someone to tell you what it is you are viewing.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Aside from that, the Law of Congruity, and its existence in pre-christian cultures shouldn't be a debate for you, simply because, anyone who acknowledges the laws, knows they are universal... like gravity... For each action, there is a reaction says the law... and the understanding of magick wouldnt exist in any culture, if this law was not first acknowledged.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Touche
ReGreta9 2 years ago
But I don't know if you're correct when you say the 'understanding of magick wouldn't exist in any culture, if this law was not first acknowledged.' I don't know very much about Voodoo, but I don't think they acknowledge a law of congruity yet they practice magic.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
To use magick in any instance, you must understand that your actions will cause a reaction in the universe around you(acknowledgment of the Law of Congruity). You cannot practice magick, unless you first understand, that "every action, has an equal, or opposing reaction".. because this is the basis of all ritual. When one casts a spell, they make an action, to cause a reaction.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I see what you mean about every action has an equal or opposing reaction, but I that's still not quite the same thing as karma is it? Correct me if I'm wrong, but my understanding of karma is essentially - you reap what you sow. Acknowledging that what you do has an equal or opposite reaction isn't the same as acknowledging that what you do might come back around to you in a positive or negative way depending on you original action.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
So a law of congruity would not be the exact same thing as a law of return or karma.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
Or rather your idea of the law of congruity would not be the exact same thing as a law of return or karma I mean.
ReGreta9 2 years ago
This is where the Law, and Karma are different. The Law describes only what 'is' - Karma makes up the philosophy of a spirituality.
For example, the Law describes cause and effect, but Karma explains mans spiritual relationship to cause and effect. And I think your summarizing of Karma is at most, a childish, and 'unknowing' understanding of a very ancient philosophy. What Karma describes is more than what you understand it does. Search for "Karma" on wikipedia.. seek its meaning for yourself.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Now, I think I have satisfied my need to correct your initial challenge of my statements. I would suggest to you, going by your channel, and the things it describes, that you have much searching to do, and learning therein... And even by my own interactions with you, I can say that I am confident this is true. But know this one thing, that when you speak on something, be sure to 'know' it first. Least your opinion be taken with any substance. This is the last reply you will receive from me.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Exactly. Sorcery is Foolery, because Sorcerers are fools for not accepting the fact that they do not own nor control Magick. A real Magician can go to Hell and back untouched, while not being affected by the Magick he is under or Magick that is sent to him. a Sorcerer on the other hand will get under it's own spell, spellbound by his own intention, ego, and ignorance. Thus a Sorcerer destroys himself three times.
scarletredtv 2 years ago
@scarletredtv
there is no such thing as magic..would be more the reason a sorcerer is a fool.
TheHellBound666 1 year ago
You say Witch.. you sure you don't mean Wiccan? That law has nothing to do with being a Witch..
roojooroojoo 2 years ago
Well, tell me then good sir, who began wicca, and what was he?
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I dnt know why I assumed you are male... 'good lady', if it is applicable.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Gerald Gardner, and he was a fraud.
roojooroojoo 2 years ago
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roojooroojoo 2 years ago
i just had to come back and re-comment this video. i totally agree with you on these points. i used to do porn awhile back with the whoel shemale thing and it's cool with the money and stuff but all these transes keep doing it even after they are passable or have had surgeries, it's like a stripper who keep stripping even after having money to go to college.
the girls that remain in the field continue to perpetuate trans as a fetish/object rather than as authentic ppl (whether male or female)
devaloki 2 years ago
Didnt you say "this will not be tolerated"
Who will not tolerate it ?
What are you going to do with these offenders then if you can't put up with them, gas chamber ?
Anybody with a half decent mind knows not to judge and entire group just because one gives a bad image to the rest of the group(I think that is grammatically wrong :S sorry)
So why should you care about that bad image that's being created of you by others.
MoistMilk 2 years ago
Actually.. it was "This "should not" be tolerated, or perpetuated"
This doesnt mean that I want people gased???That was clearly your idea.. do I sound, or look like a violent person?LMAO
And what defines a decent mind? Thats quite a generalized comment.
And why should I care about ppl making my, and others lives hard?? Well, near 50% of all transgender ppl neck themselves coz of the "image". This video is for the ppl sick of the sexualized image perpetuated by others with our condition.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Oh of course I wouldnt like to think your a violent person, infact Ill be prejudice and say because of "do as ye will..." quote, the last thing i'd expect you to be is sombody that would inflict violence upon anything.
But I Did misquote you, so I won't argue back on that)
On what defines a decent mind (or what I was reffering to) is A mind without discrimination, (and we are both in the western world so thats objective to the most of us)
MoistMilk 2 years ago
Yes people might be necking (if you dont mean suicide please correct me) themselves because of the bad image created, but Thats more than just a trans issue (my opinion of course)
If i were to tackle that, I would attack discrimination as a whole as then if you got rid of that,
it would be a whole live-let-live situation.
people could objectify themselves to all fuck, and nobody would be caring about the image. People would accept who they are and the world could just be a giant love fest ! <3
MoistMilk 2 years ago
Didnt you say "this will not be tolerated"
Who will not tolerate it ?
MoistMilk 2 years ago
You seem disgusted right after saying you have something to b*tch about :)
I so gotta go down under!
lpfix2007 2 years ago
I completely agree the action of a few do reflect upon all of us... Iv exp. a bit of it my self going out with my friends. guys walking up to you thinking your a free piece of meat.
Kaili808en 2 years ago
hey you are Australian . . . so am i
great vids :)
queenboxi 2 years ago
I see where you are coming from and I agree completely.
On a similar but somewhat different note, there have always been "bad" women and "good" women and never the two shall mix. Ha
I completely understand where you said the Trans woman is more effected than the genetic woman by each others actions. They are "judged" on their own actions. (genetic women)
I think wanting to be accepted as a woman is one of the reasons for promiscuity within the transwoman. (If I am wording this correctly)
yescandles 2 years ago
Hate to disagree with some one so gorgeous but...
Who are you to tell another person how to live their life?
What you think is 'derogatory' to your visions and ideals may not be the same for every other person in the world.
It is my opinion that it is a very backwards and anti-progressive notion to want to be 'ladylike' and
fit into society's standards.
HillaryTS 2 years ago
You are free to have that opinion, but I speak only from experience.. and I live successfully in my gender role...which must be testament to something..
And I am not telling anyone how to live their lives... this isnt about telling people.. its about being informed about ones output, and how others view it.
Aside from this, you can look below and follow the comments of others who see it as I do...
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I completely agree with this video. We are way more than some objectified image and shouldn't objectify ourselves simply because we feel we need to for others.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
I know most transgirls will probably compliment you on your looks and voice. The truth is they are both awesome but I think the thing I love most about you is that you have a very wise head on those lovely shoulders. I love the way you express yourself so confidently and beautifully. You are an inspiration.xx
seahorse331 2 years ago
i love it when u go from a pout to a suprised smile! makes me smile back :)
FWtrapper 2 years ago
Also, you raise the issue of trans-phobia as a result of sexual objectification. That's a good point too. If more transgender people make themselves known, the phobia will decrease. A lot of it is down to a fear of the unknown.
There's also a nasty hypocritical puritanicalism that permiates society. It hates the idea of sex without punishment. Be the punishment pregnancy, disease or marriage! lol
MrSonicAdvance 2 years ago
You raise a great point but I think it's more complex than you suggest. It's not just transformed women who objectify themselves sexually for validation, plenty of born-females do that too. I dare say plenty of men do it too. After all, to be sexually desired is a validation of self as we are born with the instinct to reproduce and sex is how we achieve this.
However when the desire for validation leaves you feeling dirty and used, then it's a destructive urge and you need to address it.
MrSonicAdvance 2 years ago
read my reply to 6672rock... i am not speaking about anyone outside of the transgender identity...as per the title.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
and yes... genetic women, and gay men are plenty objectified... but this does not so much affect the way all women, or gay men are perceived, where as for trans women it is different.. the common understanding of what trans is, is usually defined by the media, or the sex industry... we can hardly say the same for women or gay men...each of who are well-known to society... as apposed to the transgender condition.
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I se what you're saying. I think you're right, but it's mainly down to ignorance through lack of accurate information.
MrSonicAdvance 2 years ago
There are people from every community who objectify themselves, sorry to say. It's not just the LGBT community. The trick is to not let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch. Unfortunately, many an ignorant person doesn't see it that way. Let the negative criticisms roll off your back, don't stoop to their level, and present yourself to society with a certain level of dignity and self-respect, and that will ultimately carry you through to better times.
6672rock 2 years ago
no need to be sorry, it is true what you... but i am not addressing the GLBT community, or any community.. i am addressing members of the wider trans community... this does not apply to anyone who is not transgender.. though it could, its not my intention to address the issues of objectification found in any other circumstances, least the person viewing its genuinely transgendered.. so no, im not talking to CD's/Genetic women/Gay men.. I am speaking to trans women..
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I understand where you're coming from, and I certainly don't want to diminish the focus of your point of view. I guess what I'm ultimately saying is there's a positive way to respond to objectification in any community, trans or otherwise. People often mistake trans women based on what they see on the Jerry Springer show, and me as a straight man who likes hetero trans women is often mistaken as gay. You see where I'm coming from. It's all about holding yourself to a higher standard.
6672rock 2 years ago
Excellent video!
Kudos.
jujutubes 2 years ago
u r a smart and beautiful lady....
xxdeathonarrivalxx 2 years ago
And you are a very wise woman x x
waitingtolive 2 years ago
But Im a lady!!!
waitingtolive 2 years ago
i agree, we need more ppl from the trans comminity who post things like musical skill or artistic skill, then ppl will see us all better and things would be way easier
kotekotekitty 2 years ago
Another great video. And I agree wholeheartedly, since I'm a witch as well. It's great to see another very intelligent, articulate woman not only representing the trans community, but the pagan community as well. :)
Hisrevenge 2 years ago
I removed my video just because what you said :(
lpfix2007 2 years ago 3
Dnt frown lovey!! Smile!! You are beautiful
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Yaaay you speak to me haha, :) Well I posted my video with naked ness... and your right, I agreed so I removed it.
lpfix2007 2 years ago
Well congrats!! You are now on the hot tamale train(I LUV Mary Murphy)..ahahaha!!! Im happy this could resonate with you.. because I see you, and you are far too pretty to let men objectify you:)
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Haha, I find you super pretty and your voice is amazing :) I wish it would switch!! its been way too long that its deep nothing works :( and I sooooo love your dual shade hair, do you style it with a root lifter or just flat iron and spray?
lpfix2007 2 years ago
I watched your video, and your voice is very good...there are many who would envy your voice. And my hair.. well, that deserves a whole vlog all to itself..ahaha... I style it with a flat iron, and a tiny bit of spray, yes:)
urmwhynot 2 years ago
See in this video your all blonde again! you have very good features, but i truly hate my voice, till I get ma'amed on the phone ill be happy :)
How far along are you in transition and do you have msn or something?
lpfix2007 2 years ago
Thank you for finally speaking up for us. I find quite hilarious when men think because I'm TG that im automatically a slut that will do them in the parking lot. I'm very reserved and think a man should earn my love not take it and throw it away!
KimberATL 2 years ago 3
DAMN RIGHT!!
urmwhynot 2 years ago
I love how you tagged in the beginning that being who we are isn't some sexual gratification, but rather a deep conviction. I totally agree with how other trans people present themselves shining a light, either positive or negative, on everyone else. If only there were far more positive lights than there is. Of course, the respectable people we all love are probably staying out of the spotlight because of who's there already. But overall, a great vlog as usual... bless you!
sceirus99 2 years ago
hey girrl, great video, what do u use to make ur lips so plump btw?
devaloki 2 years ago
dem lipzes are minzes.. AHAHA... i come from a full lipped family...:):P
urmwhynot 2 years ago
lol nicce! whats ur heritage?
i'm sicilian, hungarian, und german ;]
devaloki 2 years ago
Whoa!! You have such gorgeous features(going by your channel photo)....Im a kiwi girl born and bred in Auckland. My father is of Polynesian/Scottish descent, and my mother is of Irish Descent:)
urmwhynot 2 years ago
Good video, I wish my last (trans) girlfriend had half the brains of you. Much Love
MechX20 2 years ago 2
I agree with you, i think that acting silly perpetuates the negative dismissive view to trans women. great video :)
mexlep101 2 years ago 2