Letter from Confused GBoy TonyaTko Needs Help from all TS TG Trans Gender / Sexuals

[Character83]

Your hair looks very cute.. 1 of my Favorite styles on you..

[TheDreemchaser]

Does anyone know if this person got the help they needed?

[lavinalive]

I say, If he wants to be a woman 1 day and a man the other day, whats the big deal about that?? Why does he have to choose between 1 or the other? Most days i like to dress normal but sometimes i like to throw on my black lipstick and dress goth. Every day is a new day... Peace

[kemetpowernow]

again iam a transexual if i can help this person tanya tko i will if she is open to others who can give support sorry if i miss this i dont have fave book i dont like face book but iam open to help this person

[TonyaTko]

@kemetpowernow You are TS Kem??? All these years I didnt know that. Wow.

Thanks for sharing. I hope she is on YT and writes to you.

-Tko

[kemetpowernow]

@TonyaTko yes iam ts tanya tko and i love you we talk about before i guess you forgot i hope this person get the her she need okay iam open to help thank to you

[kemetpowernow]

hello tanya tko iam transexual who been a fan of yours for years now this is very common in

people who are trying to find them self and could the world tell you your male and gay you think that who you are even if you feel like a women until you find people who are just like you i hope this person find support it very important

[masic88]

i will say This much, for certain: the young guy definitely needs to not worry about "pleasing" those people who can't accept That which will make him feel most happy.

he definitely needs to.. ..try to find some way to get out of that house of No Love.

that will be his biggest challenge of course..

..it doesn't sound like he has much money to afford even a decent apartment.

let alone, going halves on a simple room, with a room•mate.

maybe he'll get lucky, though?

[blueiguy1]

He is WAY to inwardly focused (which is normal) he needs to find people who are like him and have already transitioned. Also he needs to become economically self sufficient. He should also have the ability to make sure he is not left on the street. As that can be very painful. The transformation is extensive but not the end of the world. And perhaps find career avenues that are not going to be impacted when he transforms

[riptiki]

Repost the video where you remake yourself into a man Tonya!

[TonyaTko]

@riptiki Thats on my other channel dear.... It was the video I did for that guy... what was his name?... STOKES... yes... Chris stokes. Search for the words TonyaTko and Christ Stokes or go here /watch?v=-qN-NrSecLo also, I think I added this video as a video response to it.

That was soooooooo long ago. Thanks for the reminder :-)

-Tko

[big504easy]

"My gosh i dont even think thats rain its SNOW!!!.. even better oo cause its a chilly world out there hahaha. lets talk (sigh)" lolol thats soo Coming to america esk. like when Lisa McDowell was on stage

[RawLab]

is that your real hair? Cause I just watched a one year old video of you and you had super super short hair. Did all that hair grew in one year? Amazing! Also, you made me really interested about Vitamin E against stretch marks. I hope it really helps. Love xx

[rayeraye91]

Can I just point out. A lot of the time when you make a V.blog and you tell us that you're going to make another V.blog about a topic that has just come to mind whilst filming. You never seem to get around to making that video.

I don't know about anybody else; but a lot of the time I have been anticipating those videos that you promise to make. Like on your video you said you're going to make a whole video about what men mean when they say certain things to a woman.

[tdiep]

I think she needed to accept herself as who she feel comfortable being. We live in a world where if you are different people judge you in a bad way. She needed to love herself first. If a person really love you they will accept you for who you are. A good friend will alway be your friend no matter what. There is no easy answer but do you want to live your life how people want you to live or how you want your life to be? Live in other people happiness or your own?

[supaspydamn]

Newton's I. Every object in a state of uniform motion tends to remain in that state of motion unless an external force is applied to it. Don't stop being who you truly want to be, once you look inside yourself and figure out who that is.

[supaspydamn]

He was obviously raised not to love himself. He had exactly what he wanted, a straight guy, and gave it up! I say, try to move! Leave the pain and bad memories behind so that you can during surround yourself with living, accepting, and understanding people. Love yourself, and don't let any outside forces affect your life and desires!

[BrooklynLady26]

Do what makes you happy... and Prey that everything else will be ok.

[wagechi29]

He should join the transgender community on YouTube.

[mijan1995]

no ass )=

[Pooobaihr23]

PS! I wish I had great skin. My skin is good, as far as no breakouts and such. But my skin tone is warped. lol. Vitaligo (sp) runs in my family, and though I don't actually have it, (i think. >.> ) My skin has light patches.  T.T .. Nothing can help that but makeup and even then it shows through unless I have the FULL coverage stuff. Stage makeup. lol.

[Pooobaihr23]

Sadly I am not transgendered, but I am bisexual. I don't know what advice I could give him other than, he shouldn't have let that guy go. lol that's not helpful at all though. That guy opened up to him, even with his "faults" and was willing to look past all of that. What he should have done was sit down with him and talk to him about all of this. He didn't even have to do it all in one go. Slow and steady wins the race. But I'll pass this vid on to my Transgendered friends.

[doogienahnah]

Your makeup is gorgeous....

[ytilive]

One of my good friends transitioned m to f. She had a really hard time as well. She was very different when she was trying to fit in as a man. She literally hated , downright despised. the part that made her a man. She was very depressed, then she packed up and moved to California where no one knew her and had the major surgery. She is so much happier now. She is in a relationship with a guy and it sounds like they are in love. I'm very happy for her, though I hate the distance.

[oohjeffrey]

Oh and by the way, I am not transgendered, I am just a gay teenager :)

[oohjeffrey]

In order for anyone to be happy, they have to love themselves. I think that tomorrow he needs to wake up with a smile on his face and say today is the today he will do whatever will make his depression go away. If that calls for him moving (he is an adult), him saying RIP to the male him, or what have you, he needs to do that. This is his only life, why live it a way that you don't want too? He needs to stop caring about society and his family's feelings, and put himself first.

[pumkinpie27]

prt 2: Choose yourself! This is your reality, so make it a happy one. As for your family and anyone judging or saying nasty things...listen... THEY'LL GET OVER IT! They really will!

[pumkinpie27]

To the person who wrote the letter: I want you to know this; Never do anything or stop doing something because of FEAR. Fear is nothing but a mental bully! There was a story in Marie Claire magazine about someone who had the same feelings. He was Scared too, but he pushed past that fear and and got the surgery done in Thailand. Since then, he's been happier than ever in his life. YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY! its no one responsible for your happiness but YOURS! So other opinions are not your concern!

[TonyaTko]

Excuse the Poor mic sound :-(

The camera was picking up from the handheld mic on the FLOOR :-((

-Tko

[crackmonster99]

Dang Tonya you're behind on TS issues. They're born with their brain in the wrong body probably because of the hormones in the womb and there's no way to fix it but to have the surgery or just get to a comfortable point for them. They just have to do what feels right for them...problem solved.

[blackhumanity103]

a real man is looking for a uterus..aint nothing fake about that!

[OverXposedKC91]

im far from an expert. i suggest she finds a support group. there she will find people who loves you for who you are. she should get the surgery so she can look like how she feels.

[MeNoi38]

There is a beautiful transgender female on here that I would suggest him going to her youtube channel... nochokin's channel or search for her as DIMOND STYLZ

She shares her life about being transgender and yes, loving it!! Go check her out!! Much Love..to you and your own personal walk in life!!!!

Sure, there will be haters to this video and for you...plz keep the mirror on yourself at all times..then you will see you can't judge anybody!!

Love ya... TonyaTko

[SoLady1]

Be who you are and don't worry about anybody else. It's YOUR life! Live it they way you feel comfortable!

[emynmolly]

This letter broke my heart. It is easy for someone that is not in the situation to say, "Be yourself, live your life" but we all know it is not that simple. He wants what we all want, to live life as we chose and have the support of those we love. If both seems impossible, it is like living each day with a broken heart. I think you should seek counseling from a professional and with their help maybe you can learn to embrace who you are. Do not allow fear to be your greatest motivator. God bless!

[tssexychanel]

I am gonna inbox you my personal contact info he can contact me directly

[history797]

WOW LADY YOU LOOK AMAZING FOR ME AT HOME ON MY LAPTOP IN TORONTO ONTARIO

[tyondra]

My sister changed into a man, it took our family about 2 years to get use to it. But it never felt the same, it felt like i lost my sister. Just love the body god gave you and be yourself. My family still talk about him as if she is still a girl. We dont know whats right to say to the him sometime, cause we dont want to hurt hes feelings . Be blessed

[Bronzstar]

Some ppl love pity parties. And i'm fresh out of confetti! Why would a woman (Homosexual) trapped in a male body ask a heterosexual love guru, skin care professional about a very complex subject like this. In this day and age, He could have consulted with an experienced transgender woman for some sound advice. He needs confidence and courage. Both those traits are acquired within time!

[spareld]

aww poor kid :(

[TheDreemchaser]

...do whatever it is that makes you feel free. Society is going to put you in a box regardless of what you do, so if you have the ability to chose your box, do so. Additonally, it sounds like this person may be gender variant (google it). At the end of the day it’s about what this person wants to do, if there is a desire to transition, DO it, if there is a desire to dress in drag, DO it, whatever it is that makes you happy DO it because life, is way too short. I’ll try to post a response video.

[TheDreemchaser]

Hm. This isn’t your traditional type of video Big Sister, but I’m glad that you did it. I would suggest that this indivdual seek counseling, not as a negative, but as a way to help overcome this ‘confusion’ and ‘sadness’. This suggestion may be helpful especially considering that he is African American and WE don’t really talk about our mental health, but it’s an issue regardless of our sexual orientation.

[SHERAYAMILI]

I know it will be hard honey, but I say live your life and do what makes you happy. If you choose to be a woman than I say do it!! Your family may not like it, but they will come around. Peace and blessings sweety! Don't let no one take your thunder!

[TheSecondWind22]

You should be whatever makes you happy. And if being a female is what makes you happy then he should go for it. I know you're going to be okay and I accept you for whatever you choose. And at the end and beginning of everyday were all human beings. I recommend that you visit a website called meetup.com, the website brings ppl toghether who share the same interest together to meet rather it be, sewing, painting, hiking, food, etc. I hope I helped. Take Care...much love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!­!

[arpee9216]

The answer is self-love. If you know you are a woman deep down inside then that is your true nature and people will just have to accept that. Don't force yourself to feel disgusted with transgenders because then you are feeling disgusted of yourself. Love yourself and embrace it and those who truly love you will support you and be by your side. Those who don't accept you - love them anyway. They are still learning about unconditional love and acceptance. Everything is going to be OK.

[Pooobaihr23]

I can't listen to this at the moment. I'm not on the right computer T.T But I will give this a listen later on today (after Ive finished my daily workout )

[redkard1979]

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