I believe there are good and bad traits that come along with adoption, but, even if the system is corupt and even if the cgild may not get to be with you forever, I dont believe that any bad can come from love. If you really have that love to give thwn give it no matter what others tell you. Just having a few momments to believe that someone can truly and honestly care about you is worth more than anything else they can recieve... something they deserve. If u can love them.
I am a single man and I worked 2 jobs and became a foster parent and now have adopted 3 boys that are siblings. My youngest was 13 months when I got him. My other 2 were 4 and 6 they are now 9 14 and 17. I am in the process of becoming a foster parent again. Its the hardest job you will ever have but one of the best. Good luck in all that you do.
I'm a 39 year old female in South Carolina. I obtained my foster license at age 35 and I fostered 10 children within a year. I am professional with full time job. I had a failed private adoptions and then a few months later adopted my daughter through DSS. She's now almost 4. I've had my son as a foster child since he was 11 months old. He's pre-adoptive and I hope to finalize before next summer.
No one can tell you when you are ready, you will know in your heart.
I am 17, I work in childcare, I have done my level 2 in Childcare and Education Diploma, and when I get a little older I would like to become a long term foster carer, I think it's great. How did it go, where you able to foster and if so what are your experiences with the rules of fostering etc e.g age, sex, prospects.
It shouldn't matter weather you are single or not! I was a foster child and it didnt matter weather the placements have one parent or two! As long as they were nice and they cared for me is all that mattered to me!! And have you got a foster kid yet??
it seems to me that all the people that say that they are/were foster kids on here tend to say go for it and everyone else is against it, except actual foster parents.
i think it depends on where you live . in philadelphia (dhs) there are plenty of kids that really NEED homes. where i am at less than 2 hours away from philly youd never be accapted as a foster father..too many mennonites are available.plus around here they take kids away from decent homes. (goverment grants ) and it is a big buisness. especially the white kids.dam shame. move to philly- youll get a kid in need.
I'd advise a different route. Big Brother Program, volunteer with youth programs, help children honestly. The foster care program has become a business. Businesses are out for financial gains. Well intended individuals, as yourself, need to learn the truth about the system, before jumping in. Talk to real parents and children who are involved in the system.I know that you hope to hear only the pros, but the truth is that the system is broken.With the system, your either for them or against them.
I am a 28 year old single foster parent. I currently have 5 foster kids in my home. Two have been with me for over 9 months now. If you have the desire in your heart, then stick with it. I do not do this for the money, and to be honest....if you are a great foster parent....you will find that you spend more, then you get from the state. The payback in the end is...having the child look at you and say you are the best dad.
if thats what u want too do then do it i am a single parent in Canada but i take little ones in i would advise u to check out other things on here type in the word foster parent check out those sites the system is corrupted and u might pay for it in the long run i love what i do 20 years now .
I think that you need to get with reality and gain an understanding of the system and how it works. It's great that you want to help kids, but the system is corrupt and you want to become a part of it. What a hero.
I think its great you are considering it. I am 13 and i would die if i didn't have my parents. Personally i know a lot of people that are adopted or foster children and they are really quiet and shy sometimes because they dont have a person that gives them love. So i think you should go for it, just as long as you are finacially ready and mentally ready! ;D
Single foster parent? I don't see a problem, but obviously it depends on the mix between the parent and child. Some kids might need a mom and a dad, others might not. Go for it!!! You sound like a caring guy.
1. You should get an older child (say, 10 or older) of the same sex. (Younger children need more of your time, and children of single parents often relate more with someone of their own sex, especially in foster care)
2. Realize that with older children come bigger issues.
3. Be prepared for hard times by having money saved up. The hardest thing for a foster child is having to leave because of a foster parent's request... Even if they are still wanted, they will think they aren't.
Yes, I am looking for a 10-12 year old boy, preferably a 10 year old. I figured any younger would be more dependent than I could manage and any older would be more independent than I could manage (I know I was a loudly defiant teen!)
I would think you would be more interested in the thoughts of a former or current foster child... If you care about the children... Then go for it... If it is just a means to making money, or so you can say how great a person you are, doing this... Then don't! We want to be wanted, not used!
I was a foster child who had both single and married foster parents. It seems most of the parents who made an impact on me were single. However, if you go that route, I want to make clear a few things. I will cover those in another comment, as these have to be short!
Any home that is loving and welcoming to a child, is better than where these children come from. That is why they are in the system in the first place. A little good, compassion, and attention can make all the difference in these children's lives.
I believe there are good and bad traits that come along with adoption, but, even if the system is corupt and even if the cgild may not get to be with you forever, I dont believe that any bad can come from love. If you really have that love to give thwn give it no matter what others tell you. Just having a few momments to believe that someone can truly and honestly care about you is worth more than anything else they can recieve... something they deserve. If u can love them.
AnaAnimal67 6 months ago
if you want to do it then go for it!
ladyoscar4eva 7 months ago
I am a single man and I worked 2 jobs and became a foster parent and now have adopted 3 boys that are siblings. My youngest was 13 months when I got him. My other 2 were 4 and 6 they are now 9 14 and 17. I am in the process of becoming a foster parent again. Its the hardest job you will ever have but one of the best. Good luck in all that you do.
terrybus40 1 year ago
I'm a 39 year old female in South Carolina. I obtained my foster license at age 35 and I fostered 10 children within a year. I am professional with full time job. I had a failed private adoptions and then a few months later adopted my daughter through DSS. She's now almost 4. I've had my son as a foster child since he was 11 months old. He's pre-adoptive and I hope to finalize before next summer.
No one can tell you when you are ready, you will know in your heart.
tateandobby 1 year ago
I am 17, I work in childcare, I have done my level 2 in Childcare and Education Diploma, and when I get a little older I would like to become a long term foster carer, I think it's great. How did it go, where you able to foster and if so what are your experiences with the rules of fostering etc e.g age, sex, prospects.
Tom
moon1592 1 year ago
It shouldn't matter weather you are single or not! I was a foster child and it didnt matter weather the placements have one parent or two! As long as they were nice and they cared for me is all that mattered to me!! And have you got a foster kid yet??
krysta1311 2 years ago
It only takes one person to make a difference in a childs life. I'd say work hard and go for
jesussbravesoul 2 years ago
it seems to me that all the people that say that they are/were foster kids on here tend to say go for it and everyone else is against it, except actual foster parents.
Kiljan137 2 years ago
have you gotten a foster kid yet?
Kiljan137 2 years ago
Honestly if I were to grow up single, I would also seriously consider it.
tostrong4you 3 years ago
Not a good idea. The system is far too corrupt to get into it right now. Check out my channel for proof.
patiencepoet 3 years ago
i think it depends on where you live . in philadelphia (dhs) there are plenty of kids that really NEED homes. where i am at less than 2 hours away from philly youd never be accapted as a foster father..too many mennonites are available.plus around here they take kids away from decent homes. (goverment grants ) and it is a big buisness. especially the white kids.dam shame. move to philly- youll get a kid in need.
grownfosterkid 3 years ago
I'd advise a different route. Big Brother Program, volunteer with youth programs, help children honestly. The foster care program has become a business. Businesses are out for financial gains. Well intended individuals, as yourself, need to learn the truth about the system, before jumping in. Talk to real parents and children who are involved in the system.I know that you hope to hear only the pros, but the truth is that the system is broken.With the system, your either for them or against them.
daaronad 4 years ago
I think you should go for it. I'm hoping to adopt as well when I'm in my late 30's
boofind 4 years ago
foster me:(
emilyron1234 4 years ago
I am a 28 year old single foster parent. I currently have 5 foster kids in my home. Two have been with me for over 9 months now. If you have the desire in your heart, then stick with it. I do not do this for the money, and to be honest....if you are a great foster parent....you will find that you spend more, then you get from the state. The payback in the end is...having the child look at you and say you are the best dad.
blktastic 4 years ago
if thats what u want too do then do it i am a single parent in Canada but i take little ones in i would advise u to check out other things on here type in the word foster parent check out those sites the system is corrupted and u might pay for it in the long run i love what i do 20 years now .
Smartypants1965 4 years ago
I think that you need to get with reality and gain an understanding of the system and how it works. It's great that you want to help kids, but the system is corrupt and you want to become a part of it. What a hero.
Patism66 4 years ago 2
He's trying to help - being a jerk is not exactly constructive.
arandea 3 years ago
Thanks...so how does my hair look in this video? :) heh heh
ChannelingOne 4 years ago
I think its great you are considering it. I am 13 and i would die if i didn't have my parents. Personally i know a lot of people that are adopted or foster children and they are really quiet and shy sometimes because they dont have a person that gives them love. So i think you should go for it, just as long as you are finacially ready and mentally ready! ;D
Kluless27 4 years ago
Single foster parent? I don't see a problem, but obviously it depends on the mix between the parent and child. Some kids might need a mom and a dad, others might not. Go for it!!! You sound like a caring guy.
27may1972 4 years ago
1. You should get an older child (say, 10 or older) of the same sex. (Younger children need more of your time, and children of single parents often relate more with someone of their own sex, especially in foster care)
2. Realize that with older children come bigger issues.
3. Be prepared for hard times by having money saved up. The hardest thing for a foster child is having to leave because of a foster parent's request... Even if they are still wanted, they will think they aren't.
janetteethemommy 4 years ago
Yes, I am looking for a 10-12 year old boy, preferably a 10 year old. I figured any younger would be more dependent than I could manage and any older would be more independent than I could manage (I know I was a loudly defiant teen!)
ChannelingOne 4 years ago
I would think you would be more interested in the thoughts of a former or current foster child... If you care about the children... Then go for it... If it is just a means to making money, or so you can say how great a person you are, doing this... Then don't! We want to be wanted, not used!
janetteethemommy 4 years ago
The only reason is because I love kids and I have a lot of love to give.
ChannelingOne 4 years ago
I was a foster child who had both single and married foster parents. It seems most of the parents who made an impact on me were single. However, if you go that route, I want to make clear a few things. I will cover those in another comment, as these have to be short!
janetteethemommy 4 years ago
one of my neighbors had adopted 3 kids and she was single and she seemed to have done well
panchogordo1 4 years ago
Any home that is loving and welcoming to a child, is better than where these children come from. That is why they are in the system in the first place. A little good, compassion, and attention can make all the difference in these children's lives.
13thDimension 4 years ago