Very Good ! I have experienced a few Abusive relationships and this is true. I also think it is wise to avoid the abuser during the friendship/dating phase, I know there are always early signs of this type person and being able to spot one and Nip the relationship in the bud before it even begins is essential, don't look back and be brave !
As far as boudries go. You hit the spot. When mine cheated I left and she knew I don't play with cheaters. Also, like you stated, when I left she did do the fake crying and I hung the phone up on her.
I been busy and working on another narcissist video.. BTW, this is a good video but, are you just relating to cheaters that are narcissists? I say this because I know relationships that had cheater, but they were not narcissists and the couple survived the infidility.
No do not take them back! 98% of woman cheaters are more than just a cheater,they lie,steal,cheat,bad mouth you to others,and are very very deceptive ! They will do it again,its a character flaw! Some one once told me a if cheater can cheat they can do anything,even kill!
Some women are NPD/BPD/Sociopaths/Psychopaths... actually every woman has some of these traits to various degree - Men should learn to identify these women.
There are Laws, Legislations, Court and Police practices that encourage False Accusations, Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
This leads to an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country.
@GoogIeTvShow4Men this is just about how abusers use cheating as a way to gain dominance over their victim and for them to accept it as normal (which it's anything but)
James, I said this before and I say it again, A Narcissistic like what you have described here exhibits the same behavior as a drug addict exhibits to their enabler. What's worse is that they like to draw allies into their misery and many times that ends up being your children. My ex even did all she could do to draw my female family members into it. Thankfully they saw me grow up and knew that what she said about me was a lie, but that didn't stop her from lying to me about it.
James how is someone conned that badly? I've known men that have had unstable gf but they are like yeah she's like that but he wanted to be with her. With this he had this imagine of the woman being a 180 than what she was. He is wealthy and I told him it's a scam for his $, that is why she pressures for marriage so much & fast. I was like she is 25 years younger, your "ideal" and you didn't even have to pursue her but she pursued you? I've got a bridge!! How does someone not see the cheating?
@Lisa9744 it's the same as any other form of abuse. We've been brain washed and conditioned not to see it. That's why I make the videos I make, so others can wake up and see the things that are really going on around them in their relationships.
to the point where he would miss a return flight on and be waiting for er (if they were on vacation.) I don't understand how a man could pay for a vacation, have a woman do this bs fight, her get another hotel room and disappear for days, and he still assume guilt, and not see the red flags- but defend her chastity and desire to be a missionary with him in a 3rd world county? And this this go on repeatedly? It was horrifying & heartbreaking to watch someone be a victim of a psychopath. (cont)
Great video James. I've seen this in real time happening to a friend. What I saw before the promiscuity of the girl was the bs fights she started with him - and he had SO much guilt over it. The emotions she portrayed seemed fake to me - something seemed off - it wasn't real. It's really horrific to watch. I don't know how he didn't see it was such bs - I mean it was so extreme. She would supposedly be upset about something (ridiculous) and then leave him for days - (continued).
@Lisa9744 what you just described is exactly what I'm hoping men will avoid. It seems todays man is a sucker for this treatment, because society tells him he has to man up and accept it. I say NO.
Before you do the video about raising a child that is not his, look at the official blood test studies done back in the sixties, it is an eye-opener! The rate accross all religions and societies accross the road could be (if I remember correctly) 25% cuckolding. Only exception was the Amish. Recent DNA studies appear to back this up but they have not been done at the same rate.
@NoFaithNoPain Yes, I do plan to do more research on this. I've have heard in passing some of these same numbers (25 to 30 percent), and one thing to keep in mind these are the "old" numbers that we know about or the people that were honest and confessed/took a DNA test. What about the ones that haven't? I'm truely convinced at least half or more than half of every child that is born the man that thinks he's the father isn't. That's scarey.
@begood4000 Actually the original tests were done on the sly. It was a blood group test done for other purposes that showed up the anomoly. Women are less likely to agree now that DNA is more conclusive. With blood group it only showed impossible parentage (at 10%) Stats were used to show a possible 25% be it a stockbroker belt or the inner city slums, religious r secular. All the same. Try the book "The Science of Discworld" that has a most amusing writup by two scientists.
@NoFaithNoPain I will have to check it out. I think if men were able to get a DNA test for their child at birth without asking permission from the mother this nonsense would come to a screeching hault. Also allowing children to be used as pawn by the horrible double standards in custody cases. If it were truely equal and women had to own up to 50% of the $ for a child they give girth to and they knew they weren't going to get any money this nonsense would stop literally over night
Ohh I've dealt with this kind of garbage; garbage always stink, so if you want to keep smelling the rotten; it's going to be a nightmare. Keep your head high, retain your morals, self respect please. When you see one just leave and never look back
and B. to tolerate Huge amounts of disrespect and abuse-basically telling me what 'normal' is. what happens is that your perceptions of what is normal are altered and you have a very hard time spotting or seeing anything wrong with other peoples disrespect . so that is why some people get cheated on. its because on some level the other person understands they can get away with it as compared to other people they wouldnt even dare even speak in a disrespectful tone since it would offend them
Solid advice. Im convinced that our putting up with shit in life stems from our being taught/programmed/brainwashed at what amounts of abuse and disrespect is "normal" from our childhood. see my dad FORBID me from getting angry. How fucked up is that? Even when that crazy sunavabitch would disrespect ME and treat me like crap I was not allowed to get angry and if I did he would ramp up his own abuse. Basically this trained me to A. almost never get angry at anything and basically be a robot.
Hi James, this s not your best material, and now I am beginning to wonder about your motives. Much of what you say about "cheaters" and how to respond.. I agree with. If every relshp apple your "I forgive but we are over" approach would prob leave half of the worlds relshps on the rocks..world full of single parents..then even more children without father and mother role models..instead increase in the number of children raised by role models on TV, piers, Hollywood and more "Big Govt".
Hi James, this s not your best material, and now I am beginning to wonder about your motives. Much of what you say about "cheaters" and how to respond.. I agree with. If every relshp apple your "I forgive but we are over" approach would prob leave half of the worlds relshps on the rocks..world full of single parents..then even more children without father and mother role models..instead increase in the number of children raised by role models on TV, piers, Hollywood and more "Big Government".
@tradestar2201 I think you're taking what I'm saying out of context. For example if someone stole money from you, though you hopefully will forgive them. Would you again leave your wallet alone with them ? Once a cheater knows they've cheated on you and you have accepted it, they know they know have you where they want you. Cheating is a form of abuse. If someone hits you it's best to find a exit. Why ? Because they will more than likely do it again and again. I for one am for together famlies
@begood4000 I think the main issue on having together families is for one not living like we see in hollywood and on television. Leading these kinds of lives is a main reason for the abuse and cheating to begin. However, what I tell folks here is learn the signs early on before a child is born, Before marriage happens. When someone hits you, emotionally abuses you (and yes cheating is emotional abuse) LEAVE as safely as possible and don't look back. It takes time and effort to build a family.
I took back a cheater.they turned to christ .wow what God can do for a persons heart.she is amazing.its not just scocietys opinion,it was jesus christ opinion also.
@aLocoCooKoo God can do all things. However, in most cases, most peoples expiriences with taking back cheaters isn't as lucky as yours. There are story after story of people taking back cheaters that took them off of the path that God put them on and ended up on one of pain and destruction.
A Very Informative Video. I Appreciate The Information. Thanks For Sending It To Me!
drleonard 1 month ago
Very Good ! I have experienced a few Abusive relationships and this is true. I also think it is wise to avoid the abuser during the friendship/dating phase, I know there are always early signs of this type person and being able to spot one and Nip the relationship in the bud before it even begins is essential, don't look back and be brave !
AlienBeauty1 1 month ago
As far as boudries go. You hit the spot. When mine cheated I left and she knew I don't play with cheaters. Also, like you stated, when I left she did do the fake crying and I hung the phone up on her.
JCMAGIC7 1 month ago
I been busy and working on another narcissist video.. BTW, this is a good video but, are you just relating to cheaters that are narcissists? I say this because I know relationships that had cheater, but they were not narcissists and the couple survived the infidility.
JCMAGIC7 1 month ago
No do not take them back! 98% of woman cheaters are more than just a cheater,they lie,steal,cheat,bad mouth you to others,and are very very deceptive ! They will do it again,its a character flaw! Some one once told me a if cheater can cheat they can do anything,even kill!
sn9696 2 months ago
Short answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
TheLordmep 2 months ago
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I thank you, and I love love love the video, keep up the good work. Happy New Year! Love Love Love, Mr.Happy
Mrhappyonline 2 months ago
@begood4000 :
Thanks for another great contribution.
Some women are NPD/BPD/Sociopaths/Psychopaths... actually every woman has some of these traits to various degree - Men should learn to identify these women.
There are Laws, Legislations, Court and Police practices that encourage False Accusations, Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
This leads to an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country.
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MenAreG00D 2 months ago
exactly indeed =)
Scorpiusgrl 2 months ago
Maybe not... we all cheat in one way or another. I am wondering why such info, was this about a computer LDR relationship?
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GoogIeTvShow4Men 2 months ago
@GoogIeTvShow4Men this is just about how abusers use cheating as a way to gain dominance over their victim and for them to accept it as normal (which it's anything but)
begood4000 2 months ago
@begood4000
I think I need more information, than just an opinion, but I see many forms of cheating and each one has a path to follow.
GoogieTvShow4Men
GoogIeTvShow4Men 1 month ago
James, I said this before and I say it again, A Narcissistic like what you have described here exhibits the same behavior as a drug addict exhibits to their enabler. What's worse is that they like to draw allies into their misery and many times that ends up being your children. My ex even did all she could do to draw my female family members into it. Thankfully they saw me grow up and knew that what she said about me was a lie, but that didn't stop her from lying to me about it.
maconsumner 2 months ago
@maconsumner you are correct. This is how they indeed behave
begood4000 2 months ago
James how is someone conned that badly? I've known men that have had unstable gf but they are like yeah she's like that but he wanted to be with her. With this he had this imagine of the woman being a 180 than what she was. He is wealthy and I told him it's a scam for his $, that is why she pressures for marriage so much & fast. I was like she is 25 years younger, your "ideal" and you didn't even have to pursue her but she pursued you? I've got a bridge!! How does someone not see the cheating?
Lisa9744 2 months ago
@Lisa9744 it's the same as any other form of abuse. We've been brain washed and conditioned not to see it. That's why I make the videos I make, so others can wake up and see the things that are really going on around them in their relationships.
begood4000 2 months ago
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to the point where he would miss a return flight on and be waiting for er (if they were on vacation.) I don't understand how a man could pay for a vacation, have a woman do this bs fight, her get another hotel room and disappear for days, and he still assume guilt, and not see the red flags- but defend her chastity and desire to be a missionary with him in a 3rd world county? And this this go on repeatedly? It was horrifying & heartbreaking to watch someone be a victim of a psychopath. (cont)
Lisa9744 2 months ago
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Lisa9744 2 months ago
Great video James. I've seen this in real time happening to a friend. What I saw before the promiscuity of the girl was the bs fights she started with him - and he had SO much guilt over it. The emotions she portrayed seemed fake to me - something seemed off - it wasn't real. It's really horrific to watch. I don't know how he didn't see it was such bs - I mean it was so extreme. She would supposedly be upset about something (ridiculous) and then leave him for days - (continued).
Lisa9744 2 months ago
@Lisa9744 what you just described is exactly what I'm hoping men will avoid. It seems todays man is a sucker for this treatment, because society tells him he has to man up and accept it. I say NO.
begood4000 2 months ago
NO!
ilovety65 2 months ago
Before you do the video about raising a child that is not his, look at the official blood test studies done back in the sixties, it is an eye-opener! The rate accross all religions and societies accross the road could be (if I remember correctly) 25% cuckolding. Only exception was the Amish. Recent DNA studies appear to back this up but they have not been done at the same rate.
NoFaithNoPain 2 months ago
@NoFaithNoPain Yes, I do plan to do more research on this. I've have heard in passing some of these same numbers (25 to 30 percent), and one thing to keep in mind these are the "old" numbers that we know about or the people that were honest and confessed/took a DNA test. What about the ones that haven't? I'm truely convinced at least half or more than half of every child that is born the man that thinks he's the father isn't. That's scarey.
begood4000 2 months ago
@begood4000 Actually the original tests were done on the sly. It was a blood group test done for other purposes that showed up the anomoly. Women are less likely to agree now that DNA is more conclusive. With blood group it only showed impossible parentage (at 10%) Stats were used to show a possible 25% be it a stockbroker belt or the inner city slums, religious r secular. All the same. Try the book "The Science of Discworld" that has a most amusing writup by two scientists.
NoFaithNoPain 2 months ago
@NoFaithNoPain I will have to check it out. I think if men were able to get a DNA test for their child at birth without asking permission from the mother this nonsense would come to a screeching hault. Also allowing children to be used as pawn by the horrible double standards in custody cases. If it were truely equal and women had to own up to 50% of the $ for a child they give girth to and they knew they weren't going to get any money this nonsense would stop literally over night
begood4000 2 months ago
Once a cheater she will always be a cheater!
Guys...never take them back!
dannytuason 2 months ago
Ohh I've dealt with this kind of garbage; garbage always stink, so if you want to keep smelling the rotten; it's going to be a nightmare. Keep your head high, retain your morals, self respect please. When you see one just leave and never look back
Scorpiusgrl 2 months ago 4
@Scorpiusgrl exactly
begood4000 2 months ago
and B. to tolerate Huge amounts of disrespect and abuse-basically telling me what 'normal' is. what happens is that your perceptions of what is normal are altered and you have a very hard time spotting or seeing anything wrong with other peoples disrespect . so that is why some people get cheated on. its because on some level the other person understands they can get away with it as compared to other people they wouldnt even dare even speak in a disrespectful tone since it would offend them
suchafool990 2 months ago
@suchafool990 you nailed it. That's exactly it.
begood4000 2 months ago
Solid advice. Im convinced that our putting up with shit in life stems from our being taught/programmed/brainwashed at what amounts of abuse and disrespect is "normal" from our childhood. see my dad FORBID me from getting angry. How fucked up is that? Even when that crazy sunavabitch would disrespect ME and treat me like crap I was not allowed to get angry and if I did he would ramp up his own abuse. Basically this trained me to A. almost never get angry at anything and basically be a robot.
suchafool990 2 months ago
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Hi James, this s not your best material, and now I am beginning to wonder about your motives. Much of what you say about "cheaters" and how to respond.. I agree with. If every relshp apple your "I forgive but we are over" approach would prob leave half of the worlds relshps on the rocks..world full of single parents..then even more children without father and mother role models..instead increase in the number of children raised by role models on TV, piers, Hollywood and more "Big Govt".
tradestar2201 2 months ago
Hi James, this s not your best material, and now I am beginning to wonder about your motives. Much of what you say about "cheaters" and how to respond.. I agree with. If every relshp apple your "I forgive but we are over" approach would prob leave half of the worlds relshps on the rocks..world full of single parents..then even more children without father and mother role models..instead increase in the number of children raised by role models on TV, piers, Hollywood and more "Big Government".
tradestar2201 2 months ago
@tradestar2201 I think you're taking what I'm saying out of context. For example if someone stole money from you, though you hopefully will forgive them. Would you again leave your wallet alone with them ? Once a cheater knows they've cheated on you and you have accepted it, they know they know have you where they want you. Cheating is a form of abuse. If someone hits you it's best to find a exit. Why ? Because they will more than likely do it again and again. I for one am for together famlies
begood4000 2 months ago
@begood4000 I think the main issue on having together families is for one not living like we see in hollywood and on television. Leading these kinds of lives is a main reason for the abuse and cheating to begin. However, what I tell folks here is learn the signs early on before a child is born, Before marriage happens. When someone hits you, emotionally abuses you (and yes cheating is emotional abuse) LEAVE as safely as possible and don't look back. It takes time and effort to build a family.
begood4000 2 months ago
I took back a cheater.they turned to christ .wow what God can do for a persons heart.she is amazing.its not just scocietys opinion,it was jesus christ opinion also.
aLocoCooKoo 2 months ago
@aLocoCooKoo God can do all things. However, in most cases, most peoples expiriences with taking back cheaters isn't as lucky as yours. There are story after story of people taking back cheaters that took them off of the path that God put them on and ended up on one of pain and destruction.
begood4000 2 months ago