....But it is disconcerting to hear that I can Never "Heal".
I have been in counseling for the better part of 25 years to help with my incest recovery...and the resulting chaos it caused my life. I have devoted my life to working with handicapped people...until I had an Autistic boy of my own, that is... now my life is devoted to him. It is difficult to know how to Balance my Deep Desire to Give my Children a Good, Healthy, Growth-filled Life...with my "narcissistic" Artist side.
Thank you for your work...this series is saving my life right now. Getting me away from someone Toxic.
I have tended to be drawn to this kind of man over and over again...I have a history of a narcissistic mother who ignored sexual abuse by my narcissistic father....and I realized during the past 10 to 15 years that I behaved in a "self-centered" manner that caused me to lose friends...and was lucky enough to have been clued in on what I was doing. Counseling and soulsearching helped me....
but what are we narcissists to do? If we are born with a beautiful body and very handsome face, and everyone wants to be around you and talk to you etc. check out the dolce and gabbana fashion shows behind the scenes and see how these models are worshiped,
Your videos are brilliant but i don't want to be healed, i prefer to be around other narcissist's LOL
The renewing of the mind through Jesus Christ is my only hope for our marriage and the healing of which you speak . For nothing is impossible for God. Until then ,the Holy Bible ,prayer and Malignant Self Love ,gets me through the day , thanks
One thing for sure that CAN change a NPD is a stroke. I have seen it first hand. I know one that though not completely changed-- became even loving at times., after a series of strokes.
This is so true. My husband (a NPD) has some self-awareness and I believe he recognizes that somehow he causes extremely psychological pain to others, but of course, he doesn't care. There are times when I can say "When you do this, it makes others feel like this or that." He will be aware of it briefly...but eventually and often quickly reverts back to his toxic and destructive ways. They just don't care or have any empathy whatsoever. NPDs choose cruelty every time.
Some narcissists are more likely to revert when they hit rock bottom, if their narcissistic supply is internalized, escapist fantasies for instance. I read about a narcissist who was going through therapy and making a lot of progress, but when he couldn't see the therapist anymore he felt abandoned and turned inward, reverting back to his fully narcissistic state over a manner of months and never really opening up to his new therapist.
like you say i married a npd, and when all supply went away the npd person did a miraculous change, In effect doing everything possible to maintain the good in her life. But as you say their is something that i cant explain in side me, it is a deep knowing that this is still the same person,in many ways just in a very weaken state.the NPD person acuses me of being unforgiving ,i dont think that is it, It is inside of me a see but more so feel their disease.
@hearrtsodarrk i can imagine they are just sick of fighting how they feel, or what they dont feel which is empathy and genuine emotions.....i feel so bad for narcissists, i think only God can take away their demons and let their true personality come through
Is it natural for a narcissist to be suspicious of compliments? When one gives me a compliment i am always thinking that there may be some hidden agenda or manipulation.
@vipmousasi Suspicious of compliments? Narcissists love compliments. If you're perfect, there is no such thing as a false compliment. They feed on praise. I would think that narcissists are less suspicious of compliments than anyone else.
@qwexas constantly complimenting a narcissist will reveal a weakness in the narcissist eventually. of course, they might attempt to block this and therefore layer compliments with suspicion. this again will eventually lead to an exposed weakness, closer to the collapse of the false self.
Narcissism is self destructive, but at least you can some how learn to make modifications in your self appraisals and conceitedness with reconditioning. Will your true self seep through the false self a little bit? Maybe someday. No?
Yes, there is. Search my website for the articles titled "The Delusional Way Out" and for the keyword avoidant and (separately) for the keyword schizoid.
This is totally realistic, every point is true; narcissist can improve just when they feel it can bring some benefits to them; as soon as their circumstances do get better, they come back to the old ways...I've lived to see that...
You have great insight into the matter.. Have you yourself been a victim of a narcissist, and if yes, how did you survive? :)
It sounds like insight. It is like a Paranoid Schizophrenic becoming aware that the voices and things he/she may see aren't actually real....so technically it is insight.
I was watching IPsychopath on Youtube and it appears that the interviewer was being hostile. He even mentions in one of his blogs about having the advantage of the camera and the edit. I thought he was trying to demonize you, sure you may have a dark side, but in his eyes he tried to make you look like a sadistic...
(continued)....psychopath, who may as well be a serial killer and eats babies or something along that nature. It is very difficult for people not to see past it and question the person making the Documentary. I think you're more of a Scientist than a Antisocial Personality type, who I think usually lack abilities, not have them.
What the interviewer failed to notice is that we all have a dark side...just some of us are better at manipulating others...;)
....But it is disconcerting to hear that I can Never "Heal".
I have been in counseling for the better part of 25 years to help with my incest recovery...and the resulting chaos it caused my life. I have devoted my life to working with handicapped people...until I had an Autistic boy of my own, that is... now my life is devoted to him. It is difficult to know how to Balance my Deep Desire to Give my Children a Good, Healthy, Growth-filled Life...with my "narcissistic" Artist side.
Linda
ladyopinx 2 months ago
Thank you for your work...this series is saving my life right now. Getting me away from someone Toxic.
I have tended to be drawn to this kind of man over and over again...I have a history of a narcissistic mother who ignored sexual abuse by my narcissistic father....and I realized during the past 10 to 15 years that I behaved in a "self-centered" manner that caused me to lose friends...and was lucky enough to have been clued in on what I was doing. Counseling and soulsearching helped me....
ladyopinx 2 months ago
but what are we narcissists to do? If we are born with a beautiful body and very handsome face, and everyone wants to be around you and talk to you etc. check out the dolce and gabbana fashion shows behind the scenes and see how these models are worshiped,
Your videos are brilliant but i don't want to be healed, i prefer to be around other narcissist's LOL
racer83racing 2 months ago
@racer83racing so something good with your beauty
lovemyselfforever86 1 month ago
"It's the best I can offer." HILARIOUS!
bluestmarble 3 months ago
oh man youre good , its like l cant hide anything from you .
antonkhuu 3 months ago
The renewing of the mind through Jesus Christ is my only hope for our marriage and the healing of which you speak . For nothing is impossible for God. Until then ,the Holy Bible ,prayer and Malignant Self Love ,gets me through the day , thanks
Kathydrel 4 months ago
Not too hopeful, but unfortunately, true.
kellycat2552 4 months ago
One thing for sure that CAN change a NPD is a stroke. I have seen it first hand. I know one that though not completely changed-- became even loving at times., after a series of strokes.
heygeno1951 4 months ago
This is so true. My husband (a NPD) has some self-awareness and I believe he recognizes that somehow he causes extremely psychological pain to others, but of course, he doesn't care. There are times when I can say "When you do this, it makes others feel like this or that." He will be aware of it briefly...but eventually and often quickly reverts back to his toxic and destructive ways. They just don't care or have any empathy whatsoever. NPDs choose cruelty every time.
blueguise23 5 months ago
@blueguise23 why are you still with him?
LTBL88 5 months ago
I must certainly be a self-aware narcissist. Because I fit more than 90% of everything you describe in your videos, and am certainly aware of it.
LeHuyAnh 5 months ago
Some narcissists are more likely to revert when they hit rock bottom, if their narcissistic supply is internalized, escapist fantasies for instance. I read about a narcissist who was going through therapy and making a lot of progress, but when he couldn't see the therapist anymore he felt abandoned and turned inward, reverting back to his fully narcissistic state over a manner of months and never really opening up to his new therapist.
Laughingblades 6 months ago
Hi. Did you say narcissistic improves with age?
chefwannabe1 6 months ago
good info
ssips720 8 months ago
But Jesus looked at them and said to them, "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26 RSVA
rhoadess 1 year ago
If you have an ego your a narcissist
EmptyStep 1 year ago
like you say i married a npd, and when all supply went away the npd person did a miraculous change, In effect doing everything possible to maintain the good in her life. But as you say their is something that i cant explain in side me, it is a deep knowing that this is still the same person,in many ways just in a very weaken state.the NPD person acuses me of being unforgiving ,i dont think that is it, It is inside of me a see but more so feel their disease.
59Disciple 1 year ago
All of them do. See the relevant video on my YouTube channel.
samvaknin 1 year ago
Do some narcissists gladly accept their disorder ?
hearrtsodarrk 1 year ago
@hearrtsodarrk i can imagine they are just sick of fighting how they feel, or what they dont feel which is empathy and genuine emotions.....i feel so bad for narcissists, i think only God can take away their demons and let their true personality come through
patriciacarrasco 5 months ago
Is it natural for a narcissist to be suspicious of compliments? When one gives me a compliment i am always thinking that there may be some hidden agenda or manipulation.
vipmousasi 1 year ago
@vipmousasi Suspicious of compliments? Narcissists love compliments. If you're perfect, there is no such thing as a false compliment. They feed on praise. I would think that narcissists are less suspicious of compliments than anyone else.
qwexas 9 months ago
@qwexas constantly complimenting a narcissist will reveal a weakness in the narcissist eventually. of course, they might attempt to block this and therefore layer compliments with suspicion. this again will eventually lead to an exposed weakness, closer to the collapse of the false self.
Customer5566 6 months ago
Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Narcissism is self destructive, but at least you can some how learn to make modifications in your self appraisals and conceitedness with reconditioning. Will your true self seep through the false self a little bit? Maybe someday. No?
halkiphulkiben 1 year ago
@halkiphulkiben The true self doesn't exist anymore.
vipmousasi 1 year ago
Charlie sheen is a textbook narcissist.
vipmousasi 1 year ago
.... the narcissist admits to a problem only when abandoned or in crisis..but reverts to old form when life returns to "normal"...
hmm
Josephjr4444 1 year ago
Yes, there is. Search my website for the articles titled "The Delusional Way Out" and for the keyword avoidant and (separately) for the keyword schizoid.
samvaknin 1 year ago
Sam, is there any connection between avoidant personality disorder and compensatory narcissism?
Jesusmalaark1 1 year ago
There is a lot of info about me on my website.
samvaknin 1 year ago
This is totally realistic, every point is true; narcissist can improve just when they feel it can bring some benefits to them; as soon as their circumstances do get better, they come back to the old ways...I've lived to see that...
You have great insight into the matter.. Have you yourself been a victim of a narcissist, and if yes, how did you survive? :)
philonqi 1 year ago
It sounds like insight. It is like a Paranoid Schizophrenic becoming aware that the voices and things he/she may see aren't actually real....so technically it is insight.
I was watching IPsychopath on Youtube and it appears that the interviewer was being hostile. He even mentions in one of his blogs about having the advantage of the camera and the edit. I thought he was trying to demonize you, sure you may have a dark side, but in his eyes he tried to make you look like a sadistic...
IJUSTSUBSCRIBENOW 1 year ago
(continued)....psychopath, who may as well be a serial killer and eats babies or something along that nature. It is very difficult for people not to see past it and question the person making the Documentary. I think you're more of a Scientist than a Antisocial Personality type, who I think usually lack abilities, not have them.
What the interviewer failed to notice is that we all have a dark side...just some of us are better at manipulating others...;)
IJUSTSUBSCRIBENOW 1 year ago
Ayahuasca will heal Narcissism.
MasterRO1000 1 year ago
@MasterRO1000 how so? ive heard, but not been that path.
Customer5566 6 months ago