I've been dealing with emotional abuse my entire life. I went through with it with my mother and my ex boyfriend. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with. Thanks for sending me this video.
Dedicated to the man who was in my life that told me I was "stupid" when he was questioned or when he made a mistake, and who never apologized to me, but always demanded I apologize to him even when he was wrong. As an empath, I understand you. As a child of God, I forgive you. But as a free and beautiful wild horse, I run to green pasture and to clean, pure rivers of water to find real love. I hope you find it someday too. God bless the animals who teach us freedom and love and escape..
18 years. But until 3 years ago, my mom treated me so great. Probably even too good, she let me get away with things I should have been disciplined for often. But the other thing is, she also threatens to kill herself, about once a week. She's also threatened to committ herself about once-twice a week. I really think she might be a little insane, not just emotionally abusive. She can never make up her mind on a lot of things, always switching back and forth. She's VERY bi-polar too.
My mother and father are emotionally abusive. Especially my mother. My whole life before my big sister started college, my mother treated her like dirt. Back then she would always treat me like a princess and my sister scum. But right after my sister moved out and started college, my mother started treating me the same way she treated my sis; like shit. And, she started favoring my sister and sucking up to her instead. My sister had been getting that dirt treatment from our mother for
My dad's been Emotionally abusing me since I was 5. I'm 15 now and I've given up. I just don't care anymore. The arguing, the harsh words, it doesn't matter anymore, I've been tainted to much. Please, if you are in a relationship of some sort with an Emotionally Abusive person, find help before it's to late.
I just broke up with my bf tonight I did so much for him and this is exactly what he did to me idk y I believed him when he told me he loved me he never showed it he only showed it if he needed something and I feel like a damn fool ='(
thanks for caring for those who have taken the "slippery paths" of abusive relationships and were left with a bitter taste and many in/visible scars...education on this field is as important as any other kind of learning, so keep up the good work!
If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
THERE IS ONLY ONE THING GOOD ABOUT EMOTIONAL ABUSE...IT BROUGHT US TOGETHER ON HERE TO DISCUSS IT...WE DONT KNOW EACH OTHER PERSONALLY BUT WE UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER'S PAIN! GOD BLESS AND FIND PEACE!
The one thing about this video I dont like is that the words make it seem like women are the only victims. I am a man who for almost a year was going after one girl and she had a grip on my emotions the whole time. My friends finally forced me to let her go and I have. Ive got another girlfriend now but all I can ever think about is how much I want to be with her even though she treated me horribly. Dont play with peoples emotions, it hurts a lot more than you could know.
@jibsonable Hey girl, I just want to say that we all (every human) have to experience every good and bad till we learn How life works. And in the process you may find some good person(there are some). I cared about my last gf like an insane person. Cared about her health, took her out every evening, gave her gifts to see a smile on her face. But she was cheating me since the beginning, she loved another guy and slept with him. She hung out with me only to get pampered. Well, got an experience!
@zacinfinite what exactly is emotional abuse? my sister tells me to stop talking if company is here or what not..I feel intimidated...is that emotional abuse??
@zacinfinite what exactly is emotional abuse? my sister tells me to stop talking if company is here or what not..I feel intimidated...is that emotional abuse?? I just wanted to make sure; I feel that it is cause its so frustrating and I cry but wasnt sure...there are days I CANT WAIT TO HAVE MY OWN PLACE but only cause of finances Im stuck...But ONE day I will be free!
@zacinfinite You feel that way because people who love themselves and have a high self-steem, a good childhood and good emotional support don't allow that to happen. The guiltiness comes from allowing it to happen.
@zacinfinite You feel that way because people who love themselves and have a high self-steem, a good childhood and good emotional support don't allow that to happen. The guiltiness comes from allowing it to happen. Because sometimes we can provoque those situations ourselves, to fullfil our prophecy and what we know lack of love inside ourselves.
It seems no matter how hard you try it never goes away. This is the hardest part of anyones life to heal is the pain of abuse. When I see it being done to my friends I don't know what to do. It hurts so bad. No matter how old they get. No matter how old I get it still hurts. I want to be strong and help but I only become overwhelmed.
I'm trying to break away from my ex who has emotionally abused me for the past two years. I don't think he fully understands everything he's done to me. When I talk about the emotional abuse, he'll dance around the subject and mention anything else BUT it. I've went through emotional abuse my entire life and having to go through it with him has not helped me at all, but I'm trying to use it as a stepping stone. I hope anyone else who has to go through this can get out... quickly. God Bless.
I... It's a bit painful to read the words (because I have a parent doing this to the othe rparent), and I'll admit that I've only gotten through about 1/4 of the whole thing. The music is lovely, and it's comforting. Would someone let me know the title of this track?
Speaking as a victim of emotional abuse, I can tell you first hand the kind of things I've been through... If there is anyone out there in need of a friend, or just someone to listen, contact me... for five years since i was in the early stages of adolescence, I've been living with an emotionally abusive step-father... I know your pain
you know its not always about relationships with ur "partner" alright. ur parent can yell at u and call u a slut or whore or tell u that they're gunna shoot you if you tell anyone about this. call u a nasty fucking bitch and threaten to send you away to a different home or drop you off on the side of the road to fend for urself. and im talking kids under the age of 16. i know alot of people that have emotional problems with their parents or even some physical. lots of ppl, including me.
that love me love me not programming really messes with your head. dont believe them when they say they are sorry or will never do it again, because they cant help themselves..
It's easy to say walk away, but as you say emotional abusers keep you financially dependent, and they isolate you from, and eventually drive away, everyone you are close too. There is no help out there for emotionally abused people, and believe me I've tried! There is help for physically abused and sexually abused people,as there should be, but none for us. They offer to helpyou get counselling but no person trying to keep control of you is going to let you do that. What to do?
Great Video... big warning for everyone. Emotional Abuse is a silent killer. It's so hard to see...almost invisible. I've spend 7 months in abusive relationship when I was no more then "object". It can happened to everyone ( I am trainee life coach, therapist). I will NEVER think that stuff like this will happened to ME but it did...still hurts. Erosion of identity and then open violence...abuser will "love you" until you will find enough strength to run away..and then they will try DESTROY YOU
My biological father is the very definition of an abuser of all three types; the only difference was that he had a nice childhood but he was a brat. He decided to pass on his bastardness to my little sister, who happened to have blonde hair and blue eyes. She was the spoiled "Aryan Princess" (oh yeah, he LOVED Hitler) and I was the Bruised Cinderella. He would call me his princess and tell me to get him a glass of water. He was even able to hide all the abuse from my mom for years.
@threetailedfox1 Im sorry (. you must have resentment toward your sister? I wouldnt blame you...If you need to talk send me an email ). ive nothing better to do...but be an ear ). sometimes just getting it out can help...If you are NOT 18 yet...hang in there...and you will have your OWN life..I pray you can find some joy and be on your own and be free!
First-THANK YOU-This is a powerful video-what "they" promise is what we truly desire-when the follow through doesn't ever come, I believe, because "we" are good people "we" get stuck on the "HOPE" that "they" will change and 'come through' more than being stuck on "them"-hope can bring us through cancer, tragedy, loss of jobs, but HOPE with an emotional abuser can be destructive. I don't know, of any other situation in life where HOPE could fail a person.dare2bucounseling
First-THANK YOU-This is a powerful video-what "they" promise is what we truly desire-when the follow through doesn't ever come, I believe, because "we" are good people "we" get stuck on the "HOPE" that "they" will change and 'come through' more than being stuck on "them"-hope can bring us through cancer, tragedy, loss of jobs, but HOPE with an emotional abuser can be destructive. I don't know, of any other situation in life where HOPE could fail a person.
wow. my ex was def. emotionally abusive. He was very nice at first but towards the end of our relationship he changed. He would compliment me then put me down. He would always have excuses for treating me poorly and any time I would bring up something wrong he did, somehow it was always my fault. He would always say i was overreacting or deny that he said hurtful things to me. He would also talk to lots of girls but was cautious of me with other guys. He also had temper and lied to me a lot.
It's very easy to say that identify an "culprit" and project all the blame on them. The roots of this, on both fronts (abuser and abused) are usually in childhood. It takes a a lot of bravery and skill to get out of these patterns so please don't unnecessarily shame those who are caught in them as they are generally both victims.
my girlfriends mom treated her like crap and she was like her slave and she would manipulate everything and then make her believe she was the crazy one i called child protective services and the took her to a foster home. unfortunately we had to break up because the foster house was far away. but im glad she doesn't have to deal with her crazy mother anymore. i still love her but it was best for her because if i wouldn't have done that she would have committed suicide by now
this video does not show enough. it can get much worse. i was told constantly, i was too fat and ugly, i dropped down to 120 at the end of this relationship, i was only 140 to start. i made 80% of the money, yet i was lazy. i was a virgin and yet forced to endure stretching excercises to make me ready while he slept w/ other girls and he wanted me to particpate w/ him. i threw away everything and ran 1200 miles
This is all true for how my mother treated me and my brother. But mainly me because I'm the oldest and a girl. I wish you weren't so specific in the video/description saying it has to be your partner and "he" because really it all truly fits my mother's type of abuse to a T lol! Well at least a lot of it.
my ex boyfriend physicly abused me for 3 years, i never told anyone! i couldnt.. in the begining i told my very bestfriend and she blew up on him.. everything just got wors, everytime id see him all he would do is hit me and put me down. to this day i still cant be around a guy without flinching everytime they move.
This can be anyone; girlfriend, boyfriend, parents, friends. All I can say is end it and be strong. Work towards empowering yourself. Then whe you have power over your own destiny, end the relationship. This especially applies to monetary situations like child-parent relationships. Your parents will probably say like you owe them; just say that the service has been paid for. They got what they bought; a punching bag, a slave to bitch around with in exchange for food and shelter.
Im been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for 6 years and Im done. Im tired and being accused of being a "whore." I told him I will NOT and have never been one because of what those "whores" can do that WILL break up a family. I was called useless and a "f$cken Bi%ch." I used to literally fight back but ended me being in trouble for DV. Im so so tired and friends what friends? I believed him that they were just trying to get something from me like a "free ride" because we have a car.
im going through this emotional abuse rightnow....he plays with head alot...tells me he loves me...tells me he needs me..but yet...he ignores me......i wanna walk away ...but my other side says ..stay...it will work out someday....???i know people out there are probably like "wow...your soo fukin stupid to stick with an asshole like him" well...yea im stupid....but i dont know what it is about him that makes me want to stay....help me.......
@roses1091 I went through the same thing with my ex girl friend the relationship really took its toll on me she recently go back in contact with me after about two yearss of not seeing her but I still feel like she has control over me I still want to be with her even though she caused me so much pain I dont know what to do part of me thinks I should forgive her and let her back in my life the other part me says how could you let her back in your life after everything she put you through
@mmtna hey....well i wish i could help you out...but obviosly im stuck in the same situation....=( sooo i cant tell you to forget about her...when i cant do the same with him..im so confused...he recently told me he needed a "break"..its more like friends with benefits..he still kisses me...and just acts as if were not taking a break....i feel like if its wrong...like . i dont wanna see him,talk or be with him...am i right?but yet i cant help it....i dont know..i hope the best for you!!!
@roses1091 yeah I had that friends with benefits thing going on for a long time with her until she went away for a while she gave me her number but Im scared to talk to her maybe she has changed and she will treat me right this time or maybe she just wants to abuse of me a little more its fucked up but I feel like I could right a book or a thousand songs about everything I ve been through with her but I am also scared to be alone I feel like I need her she makes me want to actually live life
@mmtna well...i think you should give it another try...i mean..if she finally realized that she lost a good person in her life...im sure she'll be treating you right this time....and im sure that she wont do anything stupid to have that happend again...soo just call her...and i hope everything goes good....yea..me too...i feel like i can just listen to a million songs about break ups..but mm to me...i dont think my guy will ever change...thats why i decided to just let go and move on...
@roses1091 You aren't stupid. My boyfriend does that. Dosen't help were both addicts to. I try to get clean and he sabatoges it (I believe). Then when I say Im done with it like we're over, he says "so u think there gonna let u keep her? An addict of a mom?" Where he is one to! i just know he will lie and say things llike even on his dad's grave or on out daughter that he's not lying or hiding anything. Now that's bad especially when he was lying. I just don't knw why I stay or put up w/his B.S.
@moznico woaw...well have you tried asking for help? i mean..youve tried getting cleaned but your bf is the one that doesnt let you live your life...do you have family that can help you? no one should be alone.....especially when you have kids... and they need their parents to get help....idk why people enjoy hurting other people..on my part i feel weak even thinking about leaving him...but idk..but im sure that if you get cleaned..you leave that guy and live a new life with your kids....
@roses1091 Thanks for the response. I've never mentioned this stuff before. But dang, our daughter loves her dad so much. Since reading the comments I've come to realize my mom was an emotional abuser. She always said "You can't embarrass this family" So growing up I never had a social life just went 2 school to get the A+'s for her. She would ignore us and make us feel like we did something when my parents argued (that wud go for days). That's probably why for 6 years I've stay this long
@moznico your so welcome! :) i wish there something i can help you with....i may not know you....but i would love to help you and your daughter....and your mom isnt so supportive then...and im sorry for the loss of your father...but im sure hes proud and will be proud once you find that happiness with your family..and your mom should not be embarrassed about you making that mistake...she should be there to support you and be proud that you got cleaned....is your bf a physical abuser?
@roses1091 yeah. He's hit me. I was the one that caled the cops the first time ever, and I ended being arrested because I admitted I hit him. He switched and lied that he was in self-defense which is why I got "those scratches and bruises" on me. They believed him and I was arrested for the first time ever in my life. He apoligized and bailed me out and paid for my classs & put on probation for a year. Worst time ever. He dosen't hit me but now he "batters" me verbally.
@moznico woaw.....well bad things always happen to good people.....you should really go to those programs that can help you out....they can help you get your life on track...im sure they dont charge...
@roses1091 Then I just rebeled in 2004 when I was 21. I never went to parties or had friends. So it wasn't a suprise (from what my counselor said) I went to meth to cope. But I've been clean a whole year of 2008 but relapsed. I know it's both the drugs and the relationship that are toxic. My dad was supportive of me being clean but he died in 2009 at his workplace. And when I was clean my mom was "embarrassed" because her ideal family was exposed by me...So i really don't bug to anyone about me
I was in a school from grade primary (kindergarden) until 8th grade . Kids started calling me names and telling me to do things I didn't want to do, in like second grade . at eighth grade i switched schools and that's when all the name calling and such stopped . not completely but a lot of it did . I say not completely because then my mom started yelling at me and stuff and told me to go die and such... I would cry for hours every night and no one would have a clue because I never told anyone
i went thro the same thing for 3 and half years with my past boyfriend i had cut off all ties with my friends and he had to be with me all the time with use to argue all the time .. about silly things and i didnt have clue what the warning signs were even my mum and dad were letting me know.. but it was great for 2 years of the 3 years untill he blame it on the medication he was taking.. which was wrong the pit point was when he yelled at me and my best friend and took a knife out of the draw
Thank you so much for this video! Until now, I wasn't sure if my thoughts and feelings were rational. But that's what abusers do, isn't it? They cause you to question yourself. It's something that grows slowly so that you don't even notice it.
This is a great video.....many of us may not even realize that we are in abusive relationships. We may sense that things are not going well but not really identify these behaviors as abuse. Very eye opening...thanks for posting it
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my ex destroyed me, made me out to be the abuser in the end, i started to believe it!!! i have lost family and friends, my life! the evil person destroyed me, i still dont know what is real and what isnt, i feel i cant move on!
never let anyone treat you this way! get out while you can!! if anyone is watching and feel this way, save yourself now, you deserve to be happy!
Abusive caregivers/spouses are manipulators - see 3:20 - they isolate you, make you dependant, and abuse. And the relationships repeat themselves. You MUST break the cycle.
I have been emotionally abused my whole life so thats prpopaply the reason why i didnt reconize immediatly that my bf was abussing me too. i was up ti the point where i was cutting myself. god helped me get through the pain and i want to help people get through this so if anyone needs a listening ear im hear for them. god helped me get through this so now o want to help others. god can get you through any thing if you let him.
This video hit home to me cause it was me. I cried and cried the first time watching it cause I felt the pain. After watching it a few times...well tomorrow the children and I are going to a shelter, the arrangements have been made. What got me was the end...it is what they learned, I don't want my children to learn this as love.
The key is to learn the warning signs and not cut off friends and family. Speak to someone that will listen and care. This can be difficult as emotional abusers are great liars and skilled at turning your support systems against you. The con others into thinking they're perfect. So when you cry out for help you won't be believed. Keep your friends of family in the loop from day one so this won't happen. men who are abused dott comm
This video hit home to me cause it was me. I cried and cried the first time watching it cause I felt the pain. After watching it a few times...well tomorrow the children and I are going to a shelter, the arrangements have been made. What got me was the end...it is what they learned, I don't want my children to learn this as love.
@ilmhbpd yes... besides having a ex narcissist abuser. Ironically my mother had and has this problem. What I've learned is I never tell much of anything to my mother regarding my private life. I do speak to her but it's about average every day stuff. When she rambles I let her. I don't get envolved in her life on a deep personal level. I keep visits short and it all seems to work that way.
@begood4000 yea its def. not that easy for me tho lol. she used to draw me in all the time, try to make me believe i had to tell her everything and it workd for a while.bc she was all i had, i wasnt aloud to hang out. every time we talkd i ended up always saying too much, bc i longed for her to care or to say shes proud of me, but it always back fired unexpectedly. now without me even talking to her she is spreading lies around the family and friends about me. none of them will get close to me.
@Skyclad65 The best way to help is to be supportive of your daughter, and provide her the resource material you find here on youtube and other sites. So she can watch and read stories that will end up sounding like hers. Once she's starts this process it will be hard to stop and she will more than likely wake up. Once that happens you should be able to help her out the way you want to.
@begood4000 I understand what you are saying and partly agree. They may be "skilled" at turning your support system against you and "con" others into thinking they are perfect-some may. But I think lots of these people that emotionally abuse have problems themselves, and are just taking it out on other people unintentionally. I don't think the majority of them plan everything. think not just the person being emotionally abused but the abuser also should be helped-just think about it :)
@begood4000 I have emotional abuse from family. No one understands why I am trying to avoid these individuals and everyone makes excuses for them. But they always deceive me and always rip me apart when they disagree with me. No one understands and I DON'T have family to support me. Some friends care though. They are my TRUE family.
@ozus2 so true, my abusive parents are just supportive when it comes to my basic needs yet i get my emotional needs from my friends..when i am at home, i feel that i am a stranger..
For me, it was 10 years of abuse by my father. It's difficult as a child having that exposure, especially at a young age. It really screws you up and your relationships, and destroys you emotionally. I went through this whole stage of repressing everything in middle and high school. During my teenage years, it caught on to me and I had horrific breakdowns. It's still a healing process.
Till to this day, I cringe every time I see or hear parents yelling in front or at their children.
God thank you for saved my life, getting close to you is healling all my wounds, all my pain. I know you have the right one for me somewhere and I will wait as you told me. God bless
I was 8 years in pain, God knows how much I suffered, I was so close to end my life but God was there for me always, Ladys!!! no matter what happen he will be there for us, Pray with all your heart and find forgiveness for that person who really hurt you and walk away, we are princesses of God and we deserve better,.
what can i say to all u ladies who have been abuse emotinally or any type of abuse plz leave..why?i myself in my early 20s was emotionally abuse by my bf and almost lost my life! i realized i was being abused when i ended in the hospital..we deserve better sumone who will love us for who we are! dnt let this happen to u or let abuse go any further
I am in a situation. I gave up everything in my home country to come to the USA with my husband. My husband abuses me and there is not much I can do. My family and friends are millions of miles away. I have no support system whatsoever. He calls me names, screams at me, swears at me, says I am useless, ugly, calls me retarded, etc. He embaresses me in public. I am such a nervous wreck. I am so depressed. He has sucked the LIFE out of me. What do I do? Considering divorce, which hurts big time.
I am in a emotional abusive relationship as well, everyone in my life seems to see it as i have been in denial for years, constantly making excuses for my husband and why he does what he does and somehow it must be my fault like he says. I had insecurities going into the relationship. i have eating disorder for 11 years and my husband knows how hard i am on myself and plays on my insecurities. i have a hard time leaving even though i realize what he says and does in unacceptable!
I am still being amotionally abused, it has crippled me.I will see myself out of this hell,i wont be a sponge for thier hurtfaul ways and words.I matter,I will rise above and be whoever i need to be for me.
All abusers do it because they know no different and they hav many psychological and mental dealings. They need to be in counciling and on medication. Noone should stay in an abusive relationship but that does not mean you can't support them from a distance if they are willing to "fix" themselves. Abusers know it as the way their life has always been. The have to pick lifestyle change per say.
if anyone feels their being emotionally abused, please get out of that relationship, never talk to that person again, in the end of the day, you can do much better and don't let somebody like that ruin your life :)
This video was my life and my estranged husband was EXACTLY like this, I cried hard when I watched this the first time. Especially the part about humiliation by ignoring me, he did that all the time. All of this is him. But I finally got the courage to leave him for good, he is still "punishing me" for doing so, he has filed appeal after appeal to get a restraining order against him lifted (yes when he physically came after me I left for good)..I'm still being abused by him by lies in court
my mother is like that. She chose a sexually and physically abusive alcoholic over me and my siblings. And she blames me for her inability to see her kids, telling me that I lie and I need to go back to court an tell the truth. It makes you feel like my whole life was a lie, when I know it isn't. There's other details along with that, but it's too much to explain. Emotional abuse is terrible.
how do you get out of a relationship like this? im with someone for three years and he never wants to take me anywhere he tells me he loves me but wont make a move from hes mothers to move out or start a life. he lies all the time and always wants to be out with the lads the lads the lads. he makes excuses when i ask him to take me out then screams at me . ive lived in silnce for three years i cant get out . how do you get out. finding inner strength is shit.i cant do it
My husband does this. I make plans to leave, but then he is so kind again. I think I must be a coward for staying. It's been going on for almost 10 years now.
My mother's abusive. She's mentally sick, and I need help. . . Please watch my videos about my parents, and tell all your friends. I need publicity and need to raise awareness. Thank you so, so much.
yes i'm in relationship like this right now, For a whole year, it's really hard. I love him so much, but at the same time i'm gonna hate him more and more, cause all the things he do or doesn't do. So now I just try to listen my mind and start to live my own life without him..
Thank you for posting this. My mother still won;t accept that she is doing anything wrong. After 40 years of put downs, control, taking everyone else's side but mine, not coming to see me in the hospital when I was seriously ill... and making me say the things she wants me to say, alienating people from me, whilst she still is perceived as being the nice person. It made me think that this was the norm and it isn;t.
but when i was 7 years old it was his own war he yelled at me 2 times a day. he called me stuipid when i knew i was not. he abuses me becuase his father abused him, my mother seems to try to get out of the way. only once she has defended me.
my father never yells at me when someone is around, he cares to much about his "reputation", hes embarressing, im a tomboy he makes me where frilly dresses and cannot except i cry alot and like different things, so he yells at me for every thing he can. i choose my words carfully to defend myself but when i do he hits me. im twelve years old and its wereing off
I've been dealing with a relationship exactly like this the past 3 years and I'm struggling to pick myself up. I know I have to though and I will be a stronger person in the end, it's just hard having someone you love make you believe that you're worth nothing.
I respect anyone who has come out of a relationship like this and had the ability to get their self esteem back up. It's hard.
I agree with all said in this video, very well done. Abusers are compulsive liars & very good at making people believe what they want them to. And I agree with the last post ~ the most important thing to do is expressed in the words at the end of this video! The important thing to remember is to reach the point where you remove yourself & let go of the relationship completely on every level except as a learning experience, to move on & grow as a person. My prayers are with all who suffer.
The video is so right on how others don't see it because they come off so nice and charming to others. My husband hasn't bought groceries or buys one meal a week in over a yr and says the most awful things but to others tells them awful things about me and comes off looking so great. He is a cheater but what did I expect he is a great car salesman hmmm, good career for a liar.
There are a lot of sensitive people who replay the negative things said over and over throughout thier life. Its not easy for everyone to overcome it.
The key is to learn the warning signs and not cut off friends and family. Speak to someone that will listen and care. This can be difficult as emotional abusers are great liars and skilled at turning your support systems against you. The con others into thinking they're perfect. So when you cry out for help you won't be believed. Keep your friends of family in the loop from day one so this won't happen. men who are abused dott comm
Becoming more aggressive will rarely stop an abuser. It will rather make the abuser have the perfect motives to abuse other people more and more. There's one book, by Dr. George Simon, I recommend: In Sheep's Clothing, it gives good advice on how to deal with abusers.
So on top of my sister's verbal & physical abuse,I'm bein physically abused by lil kids. (Dont laugh.8 & 12yo black kid's punches to the face & nuts hurt)
The difference between people who made a mistake and couldn have hurt someone, and a true abuser is that - unlike you - real abusers rarely regret having hurt someone and almost never apologize. I think you just made a mistake and have learned from it, thus it enabled you to change. You're a good person. Abusers tend to abuse others again and again, without apologizing for it.
My sister's abuse even effects my relationships.Its hard to get close to women,becuz in the back of my mind,I know eventually she'll meet my sister who we'll try her hardest to humiliate me.
I moved back home a few years ago & it's been really hard.She's always poppin up & tormenting me.If shes not degradin me shes butterin me up for somethin....
If I dont give her what she wants its "Fuck you then you faggot ass bitch."So either way,I get used or get abused.Sometimes both at the same time.Its a lose/lose situation.
I've been dealing with emotional abuse my entire life. I went through with it with my mother and my ex boyfriend. It's a terrible thing to have to deal with. Thanks for sending me this video.
dawnofthedeadling 2 months ago
Dedicated to the man who was in my life that told me I was "stupid" when he was questioned or when he made a mistake, and who never apologized to me, but always demanded I apologize to him even when he was wrong. As an empath, I understand you. As a child of God, I forgive you. But as a free and beautiful wild horse, I run to green pasture and to clean, pure rivers of water to find real love. I hope you find it someday too. God bless the animals who teach us freedom and love and escape..
moniquemonicat 3 months ago
18 years. But until 3 years ago, my mom treated me so great. Probably even too good, she let me get away with things I should have been disciplined for often. But the other thing is, she also threatens to kill herself, about once a week. She's also threatened to committ herself about once-twice a week. I really think she might be a little insane, not just emotionally abusive. She can never make up her mind on a lot of things, always switching back and forth. She's VERY bi-polar too.
blubryfields4evr 3 months ago
My mother and father are emotionally abusive. Especially my mother. My whole life before my big sister started college, my mother treated her like dirt. Back then she would always treat me like a princess and my sister scum. But right after my sister moved out and started college, my mother started treating me the same way she treated my sis; like shit. And, she started favoring my sister and sucking up to her instead. My sister had been getting that dirt treatment from our mother for
blubryfields4evr 3 months ago
My dad's been Emotionally abusing me since I was 5. I'm 15 now and I've given up. I just don't care anymore. The arguing, the harsh words, it doesn't matter anymore, I've been tainted to much. Please, if you are in a relationship of some sort with an Emotionally Abusive person, find help before it's to late.
HerDamagedAngel 4 months ago
talk about extreme and over doing.
illmicman 4 months ago
I just broke up with my bf tonight I did so much for him and this is exactly what he did to me idk y I believed him when he told me he loved me he never showed it he only showed it if he needed something and I feel like a damn fool ='(
babybyotch89 5 months ago
thanks for caring for those who have taken the "slippery paths" of abusive relationships and were left with a bitter taste and many in/visible scars...education on this field is as important as any other kind of learning, so keep up the good work!
thelksis 6 months ago
is emotional abuse illegal? Because if it is, I have lost my hope of society.
zonip67 7 months ago
emotional abuse causes depersonalization disorder
DillonCallaway 7 months ago
it hurts so bad.:(
blacksheepgirl 7 months ago
whats this song called?
Heathaaxoxobiaatch 7 months ago
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THERE IS ONLY ONE THING GOOD ABOUT EMOTIONAL ABUSE...IT BROUGHT US TOGETHER ON HERE TO DISCUSS IT...WE DONT KNOW EACH OTHER PERSONALLY BUT WE UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER'S PAIN! GOD BLESS AND FIND PEACE!
jibsonable 8 months ago
The one thing about this video I dont like is that the words make it seem like women are the only victims. I am a man who for almost a year was going after one girl and she had a grip on my emotions the whole time. My friends finally forced me to let her go and I have. Ive got another girlfriend now but all I can ever think about is how much I want to be with her even though she treated me horribly. Dont play with peoples emotions, it hurts a lot more than you could know.
bloopdogful 8 months ago
it is fucked up humanity altogether everywhere in the world. I hate being emotionally abused. Never gona marry
zacinfinite 8 months ago
@zacinfinite I hear ya! my last bf was controlling..NO more!
jibsonable 8 months ago
@jibsonable Hey girl, I just want to say that we all (every human) have to experience every good and bad till we learn How life works. And in the process you may find some good person(there are some). I cared about my last gf like an insane person. Cared about her health, took her out every evening, gave her gifts to see a smile on her face. But she was cheating me since the beginning, she loved another guy and slept with him. She hung out with me only to get pampered. Well, got an experience!
zacinfinite 8 months ago
@zacinfinite im sorry she hurt you...its just hard to see how people treat people.
jibsonable 8 months ago
@zacinfinite what exactly is emotional abuse? my sister tells me to stop talking if company is here or what not..I feel intimidated...is that emotional abuse??
jibsonable 8 months ago
@zacinfinite what exactly is emotional abuse? my sister tells me to stop talking if company is here or what not..I feel intimidated...is that emotional abuse?? I just wanted to make sure; I feel that it is cause its so frustrating and I cry but wasnt sure...there are days I CANT WAIT TO HAVE MY OWN PLACE but only cause of finances Im stuck...But ONE day I will be free!
jibsonable 8 months ago
Worst problem with Emotional Abuse: You Think That Its Your Fault, ALWAYS!
zacinfinite 8 months ago
@zacinfinite You feel that way because people who love themselves and have a high self-steem, a good childhood and good emotional support don't allow that to happen. The guiltiness comes from allowing it to happen.
Anatye 7 months ago
@zacinfinite You feel that way because people who love themselves and have a high self-steem, a good childhood and good emotional support don't allow that to happen. The guiltiness comes from allowing it to happen. Because sometimes we can provoque those situations ourselves, to fullfil our prophecy and what we know lack of love inside ourselves.
Anatye 7 months ago
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1970tlong 9 months ago
sometimes it needs to be slow... so you have time to reflect...
1970tlong 9 months ago
great info, but could this video be any slower... dang!
imyourgalfriday 9 months ago
It seems no matter how hard you try it never goes away. This is the hardest part of anyones life to heal is the pain of abuse. When I see it being done to my friends I don't know what to do. It hurts so bad. No matter how old they get. No matter how old I get it still hurts. I want to be strong and help but I only become overwhelmed.
Mineretta2012 9 months ago
I'm trying to break away from my ex who has emotionally abused me for the past two years. I don't think he fully understands everything he's done to me. When I talk about the emotional abuse, he'll dance around the subject and mention anything else BUT it. I've went through emotional abuse my entire life and having to go through it with him has not helped me at all, but I'm trying to use it as a stepping stone. I hope anyone else who has to go through this can get out... quickly. God Bless.
dawnofthedeadling 9 months ago
I... It's a bit painful to read the words (because I have a parent doing this to the othe rparent), and I'll admit that I've only gotten through about 1/4 of the whole thing. The music is lovely, and it's comforting. Would someone let me know the title of this track?
wesnable 10 months ago
Speaking as a victim of emotional abuse, I can tell you first hand the kind of things I've been through... If there is anyone out there in need of a friend, or just someone to listen, contact me... for five years since i was in the early stages of adolescence, I've been living with an emotionally abusive step-father... I know your pain
Blimpop 10 months ago
you know its not always about relationships with ur "partner" alright. ur parent can yell at u and call u a slut or whore or tell u that they're gunna shoot you if you tell anyone about this. call u a nasty fucking bitch and threaten to send you away to a different home or drop you off on the side of the road to fend for urself. and im talking kids under the age of 16. i know alot of people that have emotional problems with their parents or even some physical. lots of ppl, including me.
xXxbarrelzxXx 10 months ago
that love me love me not programming really messes with your head. dont believe them when they say they are sorry or will never do it again, because they cant help themselves..
SovereignBeing 10 months ago
@SovereignBeing sounds like you have been with a headworker. Hope you are safe.
Skyclad65 10 months ago
It's easy to say walk away, but as you say emotional abusers keep you financially dependent, and they isolate you from, and eventually drive away, everyone you are close too. There is no help out there for emotionally abused people, and believe me I've tried! There is help for physically abused and sexually abused people,as there should be, but none for us. They offer to helpyou get counselling but no person trying to keep control of you is going to let you do that. What to do?
carolelea41 11 months ago
Great Video... big warning for everyone. Emotional Abuse is a silent killer. It's so hard to see...almost invisible. I've spend 7 months in abusive relationship when I was no more then "object". It can happened to everyone ( I am trainee life coach, therapist). I will NEVER think that stuff like this will happened to ME but it did...still hurts. Erosion of identity and then open violence...abuser will "love you" until you will find enough strength to run away..and then they will try DESTROY YOU
MrSebastiansek 1 year ago
My biological father is the very definition of an abuser of all three types; the only difference was that he had a nice childhood but he was a brat. He decided to pass on his bastardness to my little sister, who happened to have blonde hair and blue eyes. She was the spoiled "Aryan Princess" (oh yeah, he LOVED Hitler) and I was the Bruised Cinderella. He would call me his princess and tell me to get him a glass of water. He was even able to hide all the abuse from my mom for years.
threetailedfox1 1 year ago
@threetailedfox1 Im sorry (. you must have resentment toward your sister? I wouldnt blame you...If you need to talk send me an email ). ive nothing better to do...but be an ear ). sometimes just getting it out can help...If you are NOT 18 yet...hang in there...and you will have your OWN life..I pray you can find some joy and be on your own and be free!
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First-THANK YOU-This is a powerful video-what "they" promise is what we truly desire-when the follow through doesn't ever come, I believe, because "we" are good people "we" get stuck on the "HOPE" that "they" will change and 'come through' more than being stuck on "them"-hope can bring us through cancer, tragedy, loss of jobs, but HOPE with an emotional abuser can be destructive. I don't know, of any other situation in life where HOPE could fail a person.dare2bucounseling
Dare2BUCounsel 1 year ago
First-THANK YOU-This is a powerful video-what "they" promise is what we truly desire-when the follow through doesn't ever come, I believe, because "we" are good people "we" get stuck on the "HOPE" that "they" will change and 'come through' more than being stuck on "them"-hope can bring us through cancer, tragedy, loss of jobs, but HOPE with an emotional abuser can be destructive. I don't know, of any other situation in life where HOPE could fail a person.
Dare2BUCounsel 1 year ago
wow. my ex was def. emotionally abusive. He was very nice at first but towards the end of our relationship he changed. He would compliment me then put me down. He would always have excuses for treating me poorly and any time I would bring up something wrong he did, somehow it was always my fault. He would always say i was overreacting or deny that he said hurtful things to me. He would also talk to lots of girls but was cautious of me with other guys. He also had temper and lied to me a lot.
taybrownps 1 year ago
nice video,,, thanks for uploading! i agree with those statements!
aizaaveer 1 year ago
It's very easy to say that identify an "culprit" and project all the blame on them. The roots of this, on both fronts (abuser and abused) are usually in childhood. It takes a a lot of bravery and skill to get out of these patterns so please don't unnecessarily shame those who are caught in them as they are generally both victims.
arngrim2k 1 year ago
my girlfriends mom treated her like crap and she was like her slave and she would manipulate everything and then make her believe she was the crazy one i called child protective services and the took her to a foster home. unfortunately we had to break up because the foster house was far away. but im glad she doesn't have to deal with her crazy mother anymore. i still love her but it was best for her because if i wouldn't have done that she would have committed suicide by now
nicksantana93 1 year ago
@nicksantana93 YOU NEED A REALLY BIG HUG AND A PARTY FOR THE BOTH OF YOU. SERIOUSLY! YOU'RE SUCH A SWEETIE~!!!!!!
threetailedfox1 1 year ago
are women more likely to be emotionally abusive?
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Can the victims take legal action against these abusers ? It's probably very hard to prove in court ....complicated !
inorla 1 year ago
this video does not show enough. it can get much worse. i was told constantly, i was too fat and ugly, i dropped down to 120 at the end of this relationship, i was only 140 to start. i made 80% of the money, yet i was lazy. i was a virgin and yet forced to endure stretching excercises to make me ready while he slept w/ other girls and he wanted me to particpate w/ him. i threw away everything and ran 1200 miles
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allennyquistlas 1 year ago
This is all true for how my mother treated me and my brother. But mainly me because I'm the oldest and a girl. I wish you weren't so specific in the video/description saying it has to be your partner and "he" because really it all truly fits my mother's type of abuse to a T lol! Well at least a lot of it.
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bnvzxczxvczxds 1 year ago
my ex boyfriend physicly abused me for 3 years, i never told anyone! i couldnt.. in the begining i told my very bestfriend and she blew up on him.. everything just got wors, everytime id see him all he would do is hit me and put me down. to this day i still cant be around a guy without flinching everytime they move.
333missmae 1 year ago
This can be anyone; girlfriend, boyfriend, parents, friends. All I can say is end it and be strong. Work towards empowering yourself. Then whe you have power over your own destiny, end the relationship. This especially applies to monetary situations like child-parent relationships. Your parents will probably say like you owe them; just say that the service has been paid for. They got what they bought; a punching bag, a slave to bitch around with in exchange for food and shelter.
FromBoomTown 1 year ago
@FromBoomTown But the contracts up when you're older. Cause once you have your own money, you finally have power. Get them out of your life.
FromBoomTown 1 year ago
The worst form of abuse is being ignored for years in your own home, as I am.
334286 1 year ago
It's sad that I regcognise all these things happening to me. :/
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Im been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for 6 years and Im done. Im tired and being accused of being a "whore." I told him I will NOT and have never been one because of what those "whores" can do that WILL break up a family. I was called useless and a "f$cken Bi%ch." I used to literally fight back but ended me being in trouble for DV. Im so so tired and friends what friends? I believed him that they were just trying to get something from me like a "free ride" because we have a car.
moznico 1 year ago
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moznico 1 year ago
This is deep.
ChicagoFan32 1 year ago
Excellent !!!!!! thanks
itsbygrace 1 year ago
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God bless you for posting this. It is very beneficial in helping me deal with my strange family situation. Keep on ministering to others.
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gurscheA1 1 year ago
They deceive themselves and not see reality as it is, they control and deceive others,
A con person is right. They are con people.
RichardTheEdwin 1 year ago
I know what you mean.....and you're right.
WinchanIsWatching 1 year ago
im going through this emotional abuse rightnow....he plays with head alot...tells me he loves me...tells me he needs me..but yet...he ignores me......i wanna walk away ...but my other side says ..stay...it will work out someday....???i know people out there are probably like "wow...your soo fukin stupid to stick with an asshole like him" well...yea im stupid....but i dont know what it is about him that makes me want to stay....help me.......
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 I went through the same thing with my ex girl friend the relationship really took its toll on me she recently go back in contact with me after about two yearss of not seeing her but I still feel like she has control over me I still want to be with her even though she caused me so much pain I dont know what to do part of me thinks I should forgive her and let her back in my life the other part me says how could you let her back in your life after everything she put you through
mmtna 1 year ago
@mmtna hey....well i wish i could help you out...but obviosly im stuck in the same situation....=( sooo i cant tell you to forget about her...when i cant do the same with him..im so confused...he recently told me he needed a "break"..its more like friends with benefits..he still kisses me...and just acts as if were not taking a break....i feel like if its wrong...like . i dont wanna see him,talk or be with him...am i right?but yet i cant help it....i dont know..i hope the best for you!!!
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 yeah I had that friends with benefits thing going on for a long time with her until she went away for a while she gave me her number but Im scared to talk to her maybe she has changed and she will treat me right this time or maybe she just wants to abuse of me a little more its fucked up but I feel like I could right a book or a thousand songs about everything I ve been through with her but I am also scared to be alone I feel like I need her she makes me want to actually live life
mmtna 1 year ago
@mmtna well...i think you should give it another try...i mean..if she finally realized that she lost a good person in her life...im sure she'll be treating you right this time....and im sure that she wont do anything stupid to have that happend again...soo just call her...and i hope everything goes good....yea..me too...i feel like i can just listen to a million songs about break ups..but mm to me...i dont think my guy will ever change...thats why i decided to just let go and move on...
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 You aren't stupid. My boyfriend does that. Dosen't help were both addicts to. I try to get clean and he sabatoges it (I believe). Then when I say Im done with it like we're over, he says "so u think there gonna let u keep her? An addict of a mom?" Where he is one to! i just know he will lie and say things llike even on his dad's grave or on out daughter that he's not lying or hiding anything. Now that's bad especially when he was lying. I just don't knw why I stay or put up w/his B.S.
moznico 1 year ago
@moznico woaw...well have you tried asking for help? i mean..youve tried getting cleaned but your bf is the one that doesnt let you live your life...do you have family that can help you? no one should be alone.....especially when you have kids... and they need their parents to get help....idk why people enjoy hurting other people..on my part i feel weak even thinking about leaving him...but idk..but im sure that if you get cleaned..you leave that guy and live a new life with your kids....
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 Thanks for the response. I've never mentioned this stuff before. But dang, our daughter loves her dad so much. Since reading the comments I've come to realize my mom was an emotional abuser. She always said "You can't embarrass this family" So growing up I never had a social life just went 2 school to get the A+'s for her. She would ignore us and make us feel like we did something when my parents argued (that wud go for days). That's probably why for 6 years I've stay this long
moznico 1 year ago
@moznico your so welcome! :) i wish there something i can help you with....i may not know you....but i would love to help you and your daughter....and your mom isnt so supportive then...and im sorry for the loss of your father...but im sure hes proud and will be proud once you find that happiness with your family..and your mom should not be embarrassed about you making that mistake...she should be there to support you and be proud that you got cleaned....is your bf a physical abuser?
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 yeah. He's hit me. I was the one that caled the cops the first time ever, and I ended being arrested because I admitted I hit him. He switched and lied that he was in self-defense which is why I got "those scratches and bruises" on me. They believed him and I was arrested for the first time ever in my life. He apoligized and bailed me out and paid for my classs & put on probation for a year. Worst time ever. He dosen't hit me but now he "batters" me verbally.
moznico 1 year ago
@moznico woaw.....well bad things always happen to good people.....you should really go to those programs that can help you out....they can help you get your life on track...im sure they dont charge...
roses1091 1 year ago
@roses1091 Then I just rebeled in 2004 when I was 21. I never went to parties or had friends. So it wasn't a suprise (from what my counselor said) I went to meth to cope. But I've been clean a whole year of 2008 but relapsed. I know it's both the drugs and the relationship that are toxic. My dad was supportive of me being clean but he died in 2009 at his workplace. And when I was clean my mom was "embarrassed" because her ideal family was exposed by me...So i really don't bug to anyone about me
moznico 1 year ago
I was in a school from grade primary (kindergarden) until 8th grade . Kids started calling me names and telling me to do things I didn't want to do, in like second grade . at eighth grade i switched schools and that's when all the name calling and such stopped . not completely but a lot of it did . I say not completely because then my mom started yelling at me and stuff and told me to go die and such... I would cry for hours every night and no one would have a clue because I never told anyone
ilTHfeaa 1 year ago
... :'(
LixKaTz 1 year ago
i went thro the same thing for 3 and half years with my past boyfriend i had cut off all ties with my friends and he had to be with me all the time with use to argue all the time .. about silly things and i didnt have clue what the warning signs were even my mum and dad were letting me know.. but it was great for 2 years of the 3 years untill he blame it on the medication he was taking.. which was wrong the pit point was when he yelled at me and my best friend and took a knife out of the draw
CowgirlAngel22 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this video! Until now, I wasn't sure if my thoughts and feelings were rational. But that's what abusers do, isn't it? They cause you to question yourself. It's something that grows slowly so that you don't even notice it.
fireballpip 1 year ago
This is a great video.....many of us may not even realize that we are in abusive relationships. We may sense that things are not going well but not really identify these behaviors as abuse. Very eye opening...thanks for posting it
Only1Meya 1 year ago
I cant find words for this video...
Choose to Love Yourself First.... so true..
BlackDivisionCommand 1 year ago
I get emotionally abused everyday by family and old friends, I get sad all the time :(
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ilresqunow 1 year ago
my ex destroyed me, made me out to be the abuser in the end, i started to believe it!!! i have lost family and friends, my life! the evil person destroyed me, i still dont know what is real and what isnt, i feel i cant move on!
never let anyone treat you this way! get out while you can!! if anyone is watching and feel this way, save yourself now, you deserve to be happy!
NoosesGive 1 year ago
Excellent vid!...and in a nutshell, " Choose to Love Yourself first"
missreggae1luv 1 year ago
Abusive caregivers/spouses are manipulators - see 3:20 - they isolate you, make you dependant, and abuse. And the relationships repeat themselves. You MUST break the cycle.
egl2r 1 year ago
the key is to love your self. you have to love yourself before anyone can love you.
Bowen435867 1 year ago
I have been emotionally abused my whole life so thats prpopaply the reason why i didnt reconize immediatly that my bf was abussing me too. i was up ti the point where i was cutting myself. god helped me get through the pain and i want to help people get through this so if anyone needs a listening ear im hear for them. god helped me get through this so now o want to help others. god can get you through any thing if you let him.
Bowen435867 1 year ago
This video hit home to me cause it was me. I cried and cried the first time watching it cause I felt the pain. After watching it a few times...well tomorrow the children and I are going to a shelter, the arrangements have been made. What got me was the end...it is what they learned, I don't want my children to learn this as love.
sharbear76 1 year ago
I was emotionally abused by adults when I was 14-15
Paulwhoisvegan 1 year ago
This is my 2nd day coming out from the emotional abuseI had been thru for the past 15 months.
He always belittle me, such words like I'am a worthless human being, a PIG, a COW, kind of abuses that I never heard in my whole life.
This is not what I need in life. ENOUGH OF HIM.
daveamos10 1 year ago
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TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
The key is to learn the warning signs and not cut off friends and family. Speak to someone that will listen and care. This can be difficult as emotional abusers are great liars and skilled at turning your support systems against you. The con others into thinking they're perfect. So when you cry out for help you won't be believed. Keep your friends of family in the loop from day one so this won't happen. men who are abused dott comm
begood4000 1 year ago 2
@begood4000 Great reply and advice, thanks a lot!
mariana2062 1 year ago
@begood4000 Great reply and advice, thanks a lot!
mariana2062 1 year ago
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This video hit home to me cause it was me. I cried and cried the first time watching it cause I felt the pain. After watching it a few times...well tomorrow the children and I are going to a shelter, the arrangements have been made. What got me was the end...it is what they learned, I don't want my children to learn this as love.
sharbear76 1 year ago
@begood4000 yes but what really sucks is if its your own mother doing it to you..and tries to cut off other family as your support system
ilmhbpd 1 year ago
@ilmhbpd yes... besides having a ex narcissist abuser. Ironically my mother had and has this problem. What I've learned is I never tell much of anything to my mother regarding my private life. I do speak to her but it's about average every day stuff. When she rambles I let her. I don't get envolved in her life on a deep personal level. I keep visits short and it all seems to work that way.
begood4000 1 year ago
@begood4000 yea its def. not that easy for me tho lol. she used to draw me in all the time, try to make me believe i had to tell her everything and it workd for a while.bc she was all i had, i wasnt aloud to hang out. every time we talkd i ended up always saying too much, bc i longed for her to care or to say shes proud of me, but it always back fired unexpectedly. now without me even talking to her she is spreading lies around the family and friends about me. none of them will get close to me.
ilmhbpd 1 year ago
@begood4000 its happening to my daughter, help me please.
Skyclad65 1 year ago
@Skyclad65 The best way to help is to be supportive of your daughter, and provide her the resource material you find here on youtube and other sites. So she can watch and read stories that will end up sounding like hers. Once she's starts this process it will be hard to stop and she will more than likely wake up. Once that happens you should be able to help her out the way you want to.
begood4000 1 year ago
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@begood4000 "emotional abusers are great liars and skilled at turning your support systems against you"
....is SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE!!!!!!!!!! D:
Been there. Has yet to recover from the abuse...but will, by the Grace of God.
QueenRiddler 9 months ago
@begood4000 I understand what you are saying and partly agree. They may be "skilled" at turning your support system against you and "con" others into thinking they are perfect-some may. But I think lots of these people that emotionally abuse have problems themselves, and are just taking it out on other people unintentionally. I don't think the majority of them plan everything. think not just the person being emotionally abused but the abuser also should be helped-just think about it :)
CatBrearley 8 months ago
@begood4000 I have emotional abuse from family. No one understands why I am trying to avoid these individuals and everyone makes excuses for them. But they always deceive me and always rip me apart when they disagree with me. No one understands and I DON'T have family to support me. Some friends care though. They are my TRUE family.
allison098 7 months ago
@allison098 sometimes friends are better than family members.. xo dont give up hope..
ozus2 6 months ago
@ozus2 so true, my abusive parents are just supportive when it comes to my basic needs yet i get my emotional needs from my friends..when i am at home, i feel that i am a stranger..
tatoearashiga 6 months ago
For me, it was 10 years of abuse by my father. It's difficult as a child having that exposure, especially at a young age. It really screws you up and your relationships, and destroys you emotionally. I went through this whole stage of repressing everything in middle and high school. During my teenage years, it caught on to me and I had horrific breakdowns. It's still a healing process.
Till to this day, I cringe every time I see or hear parents yelling in front or at their children.
esotericnostalgia 1 year ago
God thank you for saved my life, getting close to you is healling all my wounds, all my pain. I know you have the right one for me somewhere and I will wait as you told me. God bless
bethalihu 1 year ago
I was 8 years in pain, God knows how much I suffered, I was so close to end my life but God was there for me always, Ladys!!! no matter what happen he will be there for us, Pray with all your heart and find forgiveness for that person who really hurt you and walk away, we are princesses of God and we deserve better,.
bethalihu 1 year ago
Nice
Samadhiatman500 1 year ago
what can i say to all u ladies who have been abuse emotinally or any type of abuse plz leave..why?i myself in my early 20s was emotionally abuse by my bf and almost lost my life! i realized i was being abused when i ended in the hospital..we deserve better sumone who will love us for who we are! dnt let this happen to u or let abuse go any further
shorty07able 1 year ago
I am in a situation. I gave up everything in my home country to come to the USA with my husband. My husband abuses me and there is not much I can do. My family and friends are millions of miles away. I have no support system whatsoever. He calls me names, screams at me, swears at me, says I am useless, ugly, calls me retarded, etc. He embaresses me in public. I am such a nervous wreck. I am so depressed. He has sucked the LIFE out of me. What do I do? Considering divorce, which hurts big time.
jcdiedtosave 1 year ago
ughh..
KianaOffical 1 year ago
I am in a emotional abusive relationship as well, everyone in my life seems to see it as i have been in denial for years, constantly making excuses for my husband and why he does what he does and somehow it must be my fault like he says. I had insecurities going into the relationship. i have eating disorder for 11 years and my husband knows how hard i am on myself and plays on my insecurities. i have a hard time leaving even though i realize what he says and does in unacceptable!
2952michelle 1 year ago
I am still being amotionally abused, it has crippled me.I will see myself out of this hell,i wont be a sponge for thier hurtfaul ways and words.I matter,I will rise above and be whoever i need to be for me.
ruzabelle13 1 year ago
All abusers do it because they know no different and they hav many psychological and mental dealings. They need to be in counciling and on medication. Noone should stay in an abusive relationship but that does not mean you can't support them from a distance if they are willing to "fix" themselves. Abusers know it as the way their life has always been. The have to pick lifestyle change per say.
musicdraganfly 1 year ago
if anyone feels their being emotionally abused, please get out of that relationship, never talk to that person again, in the end of the day, you can do much better and don't let somebody like that ruin your life :)
teksoulja47 1 year ago
This video was my life and my estranged husband was EXACTLY like this, I cried hard when I watched this the first time. Especially the part about humiliation by ignoring me, he did that all the time. All of this is him. But I finally got the courage to leave him for good, he is still "punishing me" for doing so, he has filed appeal after appeal to get a restraining order against him lifted (yes when he physically came after me I left for good)..I'm still being abused by him by lies in court
mpdsmom 2 years ago
my mother is like that. She chose a sexually and physically abusive alcoholic over me and my siblings. And she blames me for her inability to see her kids, telling me that I lie and I need to go back to court an tell the truth. It makes you feel like my whole life was a lie, when I know it isn't. There's other details along with that, but it's too much to explain. Emotional abuse is terrible.
whattyawantfromme 2 years ago
AMEN to you ....
bbwsbbwbellyboobs 2 years ago
how do you get out of a relationship like this? im with someone for three years and he never wants to take me anywhere he tells me he loves me but wont make a move from hes mothers to move out or start a life. he lies all the time and always wants to be out with the lads the lads the lads. he makes excuses when i ask him to take me out then screams at me . ive lived in silnce for three years i cant get out . how do you get out. finding inner strength is shit.i cant do it
Colada1985 2 years ago
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO.
Divine3231 2 years ago
i was there too but out as well
pomfan07 2 years ago
Great video.Emotional and verbal abuse is so insiduous...
TextTonicUK 2 years ago
My husband does this. I make plans to leave, but then he is so kind again. I think I must be a coward for staying. It's been going on for almost 10 years now.
zimgirfreak 2 years ago
I feel the same way.
LauraAshley128 2 years ago
Wow. Truly beautiful. I was there but now I'm out. *sigh*
JinxTrinity 2 years ago
how did you get out. I'm in a relationship like this, and I have tried many times to leave, but i just end up going back. how do you do it?
LauraAshley128 2 years ago
My mother's abusive. She's mentally sick, and I need help. . . Please watch my videos about my parents, and tell all your friends. I need publicity and need to raise awareness. Thank you so, so much.
LiveLaughLoveCA23 2 years ago
yes i'm in relationship like this right now, For a whole year, it's really hard. I love him so much, but at the same time i'm gonna hate him more and more, cause all the things he do or doesn't do. So now I just try to listen my mind and start to live my own life without him..
kaidi564 2 years ago
Thank you for posting this. My mother still won;t accept that she is doing anything wrong. After 40 years of put downs, control, taking everyone else's side but mine, not coming to see me in the hospital when I was seriously ill... and making me say the things she wants me to say, alienating people from me, whilst she still is perceived as being the nice person. It made me think that this was the norm and it isn;t.
TheAnnieMaz 2 years ago
holy shit you are describing my mother too.
nicerackz 2 years ago
oh i hope thing go good for you i will prey for you
SuperCottoncandy101 2 years ago
Mariana - Thank you SO much for posting this video. Thank you.
Kaypidee21 2 years ago
but when i was 7 years old it was his own war he yelled at me 2 times a day. he called me stuipid when i knew i was not. he abuses me becuase his father abused him, my mother seems to try to get out of the way. only once she has defended me.
rainbowpixx 2 years ago
my father never yells at me when someone is around, he cares to much about his "reputation", hes embarressing, im a tomboy he makes me where frilly dresses and cannot except i cry alot and like different things, so he yells at me for every thing he can. i choose my words carfully to defend myself but when i do he hits me. im twelve years old and its wereing off
rainbowpixx 2 years ago
I've been dealing with a relationship exactly like this the past 3 years and I'm struggling to pick myself up. I know I have to though and I will be a stronger person in the end, it's just hard having someone you love make you believe that you're worth nothing.
I respect anyone who has come out of a relationship like this and had the ability to get their self esteem back up. It's hard.
Shelleyfg87 2 years ago
thank you for enlightening people to the deep suffering that goes on!! my respect goes out to you for caring for others!! xxxxx
MissBelinda100 2 years ago 2
I agree with all said in this video, very well done. Abusers are compulsive liars & very good at making people believe what they want them to. And I agree with the last post ~ the most important thing to do is expressed in the words at the end of this video! The important thing to remember is to reach the point where you remove yourself & let go of the relationship completely on every level except as a learning experience, to move on & grow as a person. My prayers are with all who suffer.
apryldawnn 2 years ago 4
@apryldawnn they are also good at acting sweet when need be and making you look like the bad guy, like my neighbour does.
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
This video made me cry...in fact I can't stop crying...
thank you...I especially like the part that says choose to love yourself first...
666TheGothicGirl666 2 years ago 4
The video is so right on how others don't see it because they come off so nice and charming to others. My husband hasn't bought groceries or buys one meal a week in over a yr and says the most awful things but to others tells them awful things about me and comes off looking so great. He is a cheater but what did I expect he is a great car salesman hmmm, good career for a liar.
LacyB71 2 years ago 3
I cried because it was exactly what i had gone through, but now am glad I have started all over again.
Ruks8 2 years ago
There are a lot of sensitive people who replay the negative things said over and over throughout thier life. Its not easy for everyone to overcome it.
iloveyourstorytoo 2 years ago 2
This video made me cry. Thank you for making this.
iloveyourstorytoo 2 years ago 2
how is the song called?
phiyeah 2 years ago
Close Cover, by Wim Mertens
mariana2062 2 years ago
thx :D
good video !!
phiyeah 2 years ago
The key is to learn the warning signs and not cut off friends and family. Speak to someone that will listen and care. This can be difficult as emotional abusers are great liars and skilled at turning your support systems against you. The con others into thinking they're perfect. So when you cry out for help you won't be believed. Keep your friends of family in the loop from day one so this won't happen. men who are abused dott comm
begood4000 1 year ago
thats great i don't need an emotional abuser in my life, but what if that emotional abuser is your father.
israelifaggot 2 years ago
Becoming more aggressive will rarely stop an abuser. It will rather make the abuser have the perfect motives to abuse other people more and more. There's one book, by Dr. George Simon, I recommend: In Sheep's Clothing, it gives good advice on how to deal with abusers.
mariana2062 2 years ago
thanks
israelifaggot 2 years ago
And since alot of this abuse is witnessed by my nephews,they've learned to repeat it.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
She encourages my nephews to disrespect me.If they wanna cuss me out or punch me in the face,they've always got mom's Ok.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
If I try to lay down the law on them I hear "Dont yell at my son" "Dont hit my son bitch" "Cant take a hit from a lil boy? You that weak you faggot"
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
So on top of my sister's verbal & physical abuse,I'm bein physically abused by lil kids. (Dont laugh.8 & 12yo black kid's punches to the face & nuts hurt)
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
Correction: '....sister's verbal & emotional abuse'
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
She's been diagnosed with diabetes & is still eatin like a pig.I'm sorry to say,I really hope she dies soon.I will be so relieved.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
lori watson of fox,oklahoma your a emotional abuser and a child abuser
ultradad45 2 years ago
The Bible says not to trust in the arm of flesh. Don't trust people. They are very unreliable.
jeabo0adhd 2 years ago
What Bible verse is that? I would like to know so I can look it up?
MiSsTiLa21 2 years ago
I believe I was an emotional abuser. And I regret it, and apologizing will never be enough to show how truly sorry I am to the one person I hurt.
Time might've helped me change my ways and end up being a good friend but I will always regret what I once was.
NostalgicDays88 2 years ago
Hi Nostalgic,
The difference between people who made a mistake and couldn have hurt someone, and a true abuser is that - unlike you - real abusers rarely regret having hurt someone and almost never apologize. I think you just made a mistake and have learned from it, thus it enabled you to change. You're a good person. Abusers tend to abuse others again and again, without apologizing for it.
mariana2062 2 years ago
mariana2062: Great vid.But it only focuses spouses.Thats not the only kind.Interfamily abuse is just as common & IMO alot worse...
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
My older sister has abused me my whole life.She's called me a fag & a coward since at least 4yrs ol.And she's always loved to embarass me.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
My sister's abuse even effects my relationships.Its hard to get close to women,becuz in the back of my mind,I know eventually she'll meet my sister who we'll try her hardest to humiliate me.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
IMO an abusive spouse is nothing.You can leave them & move on.But an abusive sibling never goes away.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
I moved back home a few years ago & it's been really hard.She's always poppin up & tormenting me.If shes not degradin me shes butterin me up for somethin....
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
If I dont give her what she wants its "Fuck you then you faggot ass bitch."So either way,I get used or get abused.Sometimes both at the same time.Its a lose/lose situation.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
Sometimes she'll bring one of her trashy homegirls (Who shes of course told how much of loser I am) over & then fake match make....
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
Sometimes the girl is just toyin me along for fun with my sis.But if there is genuine interest,my sis'll make comments to extinguish that....
thegreatcrates 2 years ago