I was watching your other film about Schizophrenia and recovery and I removed my comment about how good looking you are because it felt inappropriate. But I will say it here I think you are really soooo fit and gorgeous.
@Chico1584 Yeah he is beautiful. Schizophrenia and delusions like the angel he mentioned in his videos are fascinating. I would be dating him already if he would live anywhere near me :)*lol*
I dont understand you whites,I mean your fucking extincting , and you just act like ostrich , got on some lets-be-gay-thats-so-democratic shit , God , what the fuck is wrong with you guys.Blacks and arabs are going to take over and thats when this planet will get fucked up.
You must be from an orthodox or at least conservative branch of Judaism. I belong to a Reform congregation in small town Florida. They have been completely supportive of me, and when I met my husband to be, of him as well. We were married in a religious ceremony, performed by our openly Gay Rabbi, in front of a large number of members of our congregation, who were kvelling with joy for us. I hope you find the same happiness within your religious family.
I totally know what you mean when you talk about being petrified or that the world would stop as fast as you came out and i just wonder why do we need to go through so much pressure? why does it need to be this tough?
i can really relate to your video mate, check out my channel, you have really inspired me, and am going through the same stuff as you did. hope things are good for you now!!
Thank you so much for this, I came out at the age of nineteen and it cost me everything. I was thrown out of the house, had to sell everything I possessed in order to survive but=I'm still here IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER!!!
Thank you so much for posting this video i also come from a deeply religious family and you have given me hope that one day they will accept or at least understand me.
@marcymarc2421 The way I see it is that God loves everyone on this Earth as long as they are being good to each other. How anyone can call being gay a 'sin' is beyond me. Love is the most natural thing in this world & it shouldn't make a difference who you love. I hope your family will come to both understand and accept you. Often it just takes time for them to get used to it. Be strong & always be true to yourself :)
• Bagley and Tremblay (1997) reported that 5 out of 8 suicide attempters were homosexual/bisexual males (16, 17), and a previous study of the same sample had reported that 6 out of 8 suicide attempters (75%) had been sexually abused (experienced unwanted sexual acts) before the age of 17 V Bagley, C., Wood, M., and Young, L. (1994). Victim to abuser: mental health and behavioral sequels of child sexual abuse in a survey of young adult males . Child Abuse & Neglect, 18(8), 683-97.
Obrigado, I'm gay too, and is so hard to leave the closet. I left there about 4 years and I am very happy now. I live in Brazil, a country that is very homophobic But I do not really care what people think. I just try to be happy. "joys and sorrows, is the life
Giovanni ( John/Johnny) "Amico Mio" I know that I've remarked somewhere on your great "Videogenic" presence, not to mention that "Faccia Bella" (Beautiful Face) ! But I think it bears repeating "Amico Mio", that Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, is both grateful to you for your wonderful contribution to this most important Campaign, as well as beautifully "Flummoxed" with pride in you!
@blainebill39 Ciao Blaine, thank-you so much for your message. It means a great deal to hear from you. I hope you're doing well and keeping strong Blaine. Bobby Griffiths is always in my thoughts and prayers, and now you are too. I hope that one day there won't be a need for a campaign like this because we will all be accepting of one another, no matter of each others sexuality. I hope that day comes soon :) Jonny.
Johnny "Amico Mio" thank you for such a warm response! I truly draw strength from the "Mitzvah" that is your video here, and the contributions of so many of our brothers and sisters out there! It serves to convince me that todays' world is in fact nothing like the one in which Bobby and I were two "out" boys in love in! That awareness alone nourishes my soul, and emboldens me to whatever it will take to keep these kinds of things from happening to young people!
You deal with so much with the Schizoaffective disorder and depression... and the bigotry and ignorance people show towards mental illness, add being gay on top of that where the discrimination, harassment and bullying can seep to one's core. You sir, are one STRONG MAN!!! You have done such a wonderful thing by lending your voice to this chorus. I admire you. BEST WISHES TO YOU (and everyone watching this video) for a wonderfully bright future filled with love.
@wawa2 Thank-you :)) I'm only strong because of people like you. Thanks for all your support and encouragement, I would be truly lost without it. All the best to you x
im gay 14 and im a in closet at home and i am open in school im from luton also in the school a lot of the people the boys spreaded round that i have aids and wen i changed in the room for p.e they were literaly people on the other side of the room and i was on the other side they were avoiding me. many asian boys hated me because im gay and a muslim but im sort glad i came out the girls love me because im gay so im like a gay best friend i got great frends but some hated me so they went away
@GAXxJUNAIDxXGA Don't let the people at school get you down. I really admire your strength to come out at such a young age, you have enormous courage and I wish I could have done what you did at 14. Hold your head up high and refuse to take any notice of those boys, they are obviously so insecure about themselves that they have to pick on someone else. You've got a great future ahead of you, I know you're going to go far with all your strength and positivity! Keep smiling :)
You are so inspring. I'm not gay, but your story is amazing... i actually reeally reallly ike it when people come out with themselves. I mean we all have our suspitions of who is gay.. but not many people are open about it and strong to what they are. If more people were powerful in the way of telling about themselves i feel that gay people would have so much more respect. I love your story ! :)
I think this is one of the more inspiring 'it gets better' videos I've seen, because you did have it so bad, and it really did get a lot better for you. I'm really pleased for you.
I was moved by your words and how you told your story. It was so painful inside. I'm glad for your coming out, but you still need to be so get used to your new self now. I can still feel a little bit of sadness in you! Cheer up! Can we be friends? please check on ferrari09adona@gmail.com, that is my facebook! I hope we can be friends!
thanks again,I just saw your video on mental disorder and really loved it, i'm bipolar and i've suffered from depression, I also have a schizophrenic friend so I understand what you have been trough, sometimes it can be tough but just have to stay strong and ask for help.
also loved the poems!!!! you're a grat writer!!!!!!
thanks so much for the video, i've been watching a lot of them and it's really giving me hope, i'm 19 and still in the closet,I live in a really small town with very judgemental people, the only gays I know in my hometown are the ones who are being called faggots by all of my guy friends, so i'm getting away from those ignorants and planing on moving somewhere else with the two of my best friends and one of them is who I have to pretend to be dating with and her sister, thanks again.
@giovanniimperiale I can't imagine what it's like for you right now but i'm so pleased that you're thinking forward. One day soon you will be free and can live the life you should be living. Until then, keep reminding yourself that things will definitely get better. It's only a matter of time before you move away from your hometown and the start of a much happier, fulfilling life. Thinking of you.
@CentralPerk07 Have you spoken to anyone at all about your depression and anxiety?? Coming out feels like such a release. No matter how the people around you take it, let me tell you that you will feel a massive weight lift off as soon as you tell them that you are gay. I believe you do have the courage to come out, it's within you. Try and find that strength. Believe in yourself. Coming out was probably the best day of my life, it can be for you as well :)
@CentralPerk07 anytime you want to talk send me a message, don't feel you have to go through this alone. People might judge you for being gay, but you have to rise above it. People only judge and make comment because of their own insecurity. Remember that if you're feeling judged. And tell yourself that no-one has any right to tell you how you should be living your life. It's YOUR life, no-one else's. Don't let anyone take away your identity and start loving yourself for all that you are.
Good video Johnny (sp?)! It's sweet and straight to the point but was paced enough for us to understand your point of view and the feelings you had up until the point of you coming out. Its always a brave thing to do when you stand up for yourself and seriously, its a different experience for everyone. This concept of staying true to who you are can be used in different scenarios but because this is was for a gay man coming out, it definitely is worth it. Enjoy life now because it is short.
What would your advice be to somebody who ever since they were born, they were raised strong christian believer but all of a sudden what they believe in is turning against them, that the God who loves them now hates them because of their sexuality. That's my case, I don't know what's to do.
@1albuseverus God doesn't hate you. There are people in this world who are killing each other, stealing from one another, and not respecting their fellow human beings. It is them that God and faiths should be angry with. Not someone like you, who only wants to be free to love who you choose-where's the crime in that?? It's time that religion moved into the 21st century. Please don't feel anything other than proud of who you are. And don't let your religion or anyone else tell you otherwise.
@johnjusthuman thank you so much for them kind words. You really inspire me to move on. my case is really complicated, cuz all of my family are very strong christian believers, and based on what I know about them, they will not accept people like me, they are totally against it, of course they don't know that I'm gay. I don't know what to do sometimes, knowing that my family will never accept me because of who I'm,plus people telling me that God won't accept me either, it just drives me INSANE.
@1albuseverus You don't know that your family won't accept it. Sure it might take them some time to come to terms with it, but who's to say that they eventually won't get used to it? If they see that you are happier than perhaps they will accept you for who you really are. Walk away from the people that tell you "God won't accept you". How do they know? Have they spoken to God personally? No-it's their own excuse for not wanting to accept you. What about friends? Can you confide in them?
@johnjusthuman well i've got some friends that are acceptable,which gives me strength to move forward. Of course, not everybody knows about me, only 3 best friends know. As for my family, and I don't think I will have the courage to tell them. I can pretty much say that they are homophobics, which I don't blame them because of their strong faith in the bible. And that is the thing, I too believe in the bible, but I also believe that God made me this way and he loves me no matter what.
@1albuseverus If you can do it-if you can believe in the bible, and at the same time believe God loves you no matter who you are, then others can believe it too. I believe it. Your family might too if you give them the chance. It's time for you to start living your life. At the end of the day, your life belongs to only you and no-one else can or should tell you how to live it. Being gay isn't a choice, it's a part of you-just like your arms, legs, heart, mind etc. Perhaps you should write...
@johnjusthuman ....write your family a letter. You don't need to give it to them. Just write down everything you want to say to them. Get it all out your system. It's a first step. And then, who knows, maybe you'll have gained the courage and be ready to share everything in the letter with them. Do it today. Life is too precious and short to live it as anything but true to who you are.
Im gay and Im proud! good for all of us! I agree with you John, you are cute, I would not ask to marry me but would be good to have a friend in London! =D send me a messege =)
You are like the waiter you described in your life! Damn, if I didn't know I was gay, I know now. Just kidding, I know I'm gay (out for about 1 month now). Thanks for posting the vid. Really provides courage for those who are thinking of coming out/starting to come out. Cheers mate!
Thanks for posting this - many people live with that fear and stress of covering up there whole lives, I think it causes an early death. Your vid is an encouragement for leaving that behind and living a happier life! Things are much better for coming out than they ever have been.
i can't remeber how i came across the 'it gets better' project on youtube but one hot link after another i saw your vid.my straight-acting lover who's in his early 30s and from a very religious family has never thought of coming out,as it would only mean losing his family.it's usually not a problem till whenever we have a fight,he'd blame that his life is nothing but a big fat lie bcos he's still in the closet.i really wish i can help him.i may share this vid with him:)
@boy0327 There's a Rabbi I know that also came from a very religious family. When he came out, he feared that his family would never speak to him again. He's actually become closer to his family in the time since he has come out. He is now happily married and his family accepted and supported it fully. I understand that your lover has his doubts about coming out but it might actually be the best thing he has ever done.Life is short.Surely he deserves the right to live his life who he really is.
The God I believe in doesnt insite hatred upon people who are who they are! Its just ridiculous how people can be so small minded all the time... Come on people, the bible was written a LOOOOOOONG time ago.
great video, im going through that shit right now and it helps to know someone else has dealt with the inconceivable loneliness that comes with being gay, only if america had more guys like you
@funckydave I'm sorry to hear that. Please don't feel alone in what you are going through. I'm always here if you want to chat. I promise you that the loneliness you feel now is just temporary and that things really do get better. Each one of the many 'It Gets Better' videos can testify to that. Hang in there and try and keep positive. You soon will be through the storm and much brighter days lay ahead. Jonny. ps I'd love to come to America!!!
@funckydave What about friends or people that you can trust? It might be good to talk to one or two of them when you are ready? You may be surprised by your Dad's reaction. I know someone who's Dad is a Rabbi. His Dad was stunned at first but coming out hasn't changed a thing and their relationship is stronger than ever. It could be the same for you.
@johnjusthuman I have a close friend who i came out to a couple of months ago, it was probably the happiest time i can remember, but its complicated. we talk about it every once and awhile but i just need to vent sometimes and theres things i cant even talk about with her because she doesn't understand. I really want to come out, theres actually nothing more i want, but most of my family and some of my closest friends
@johnjusthuman are complete homophobs and i dont want to lose them because they're all that keep me sane these days you know, sometimes i just want to explode and tell everyone but i know its not that easy. Thanks again for listening, it really helps
@funckydave Sometimes you have to put yourself first. Of course you don't want to lose them, but you need to think about your happiness and well-being too. Perhaps they are not true homophobes and seeing you 'come out' might change them. I've seen it happen before. It might help to put everything you want to say in a letter. You don't have to send it, just write down what you want to say to them. That's the first step. Don't hold anything in, keep venting, I'm always here.
@funckydave Don't put too much pressure on yourself. But set yourself a goal maybe? For example, that you would like to come out to the people around you within 6 months times. At least that gives you something to focus on and a goal to accomplish?
@johnjusthuman thanks, it helps talking with someone who understands. ive put a lot of thought into it and i think by the end of the year i will have come out, the closet sucks
I have a similar story at the age of 21 (two years ago). I went into a year long depression as well. It wasn't until, I accepted those words, that it all got better. It's nice to know, I am not alone. Thanks for posting this video.
"Identical twins have identical genes. If homosexuality was a biological condition produced inescapably by the genes (e.g. eye color), then if one identical twin was homosexual, in 100% of the cases his brother would be too...But as we saw above, if one is homosexual, the other is usually not."
Great work, you are very sincere and your message here is impressive. In a strange way too, the vituperative anti-gay "comments" (below) are sort of ... useful (a) because they show what young and not so young gay people are up against and (b) because it's also absolutely clear that these homophobic outpourings all seem to be based on some sort of explicit "Christian" position.
I want to apologize for all the ignorant small minded ridiculous fanatic people who have said all these hateful things. God is love and what he cares about is being you and being in love with you. thats all that matters. so dont worry about these people who say shit. You are beautiful and I love you. and no that not all of us who are straight are ignorant assholes. so thank you johnny for this. you and everyone else making these videos are making a difference
If I could go back and counsel my 21 years old self, I would say that you can't wait for your family or friends to come around, they won't. You have to work hard to find people who love you and accept you. As I've learned in my psychology classes, the basis for much of therapy is taking responsibility for your own healing and happiness. You can't rely on someone to do it for you. If you are fortunate, however, people can support you. You just need to find them. I'm still looking.
I have been reluctant to respond to any of these It Gets Better Video's because I believe in the message and the power and necessity of hope. However, in the 10 years that I've been out, since I was 21, my life has not gotten better. I hoped that my family would eventually come around or at least tolerate my being gay, they haven't. My Mom, who was truly a gentle person but passed away 5 years ago, referred to a young gay couple as 'disgusting' after I had come out.
@daamqc Don't give up on change. At anytime you could meet someone who you fall in love with and things would surely then get better. Hope and optimism has got me through life and even when I'm at my lowest, I still have hope for the future. I am sorry about your Mom. At least you have remained true to yourself-I know people that literally 'went back in the closet' after they came out to their parents. Even if it hasn't done yet, it will get better.
haha talk bout fat your fatter than i am lol. and evidently youve been token the reefer to much cause you sound retarded in your vids. Thank God you dont get to decide who goes to heaven there will be gays in heaven but we wont have to identify as gay then. its hard to believe your 30 something and acting 3 i block you i block you why dont you get off the internet go to school and grow up go see a counsiler before you become even more retarded
I can completely empathize with you. My father was the one who was more accepting of me. And quite honestly, coming out was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. They should make you the spokesperson for the It Gets Better campaign, you are so adorable!
@jenna120s If it's a choice, then that means I can just choose to like women then? Let me ask you a quick question. If sexuality is a choice, doesn't that mean you could choose to be gay then? And let me ask you another question, who would CHOOSE a sexuality where they're bullied, maimed, beaten up and abused?
@jenna120s My original comment still stands, try not repeating yourself. I dated girls because I felt I had to. I didn't fancy them physically or sexually. I've seen the amount of comments you've been posting all up and down the IGBproject, and it's sad to see that you have so much time on your hands that you actively go out seeking confrontation.
@jenna120s Being gay is a choice? Really? What do you like? What turns you on? What makes you happy? Those things you can't control. What you like, I might hate. It is the way your brain is programmed. You can't choose what you like just like you don't choose to be gay. It is the way you are programmed and how your body responds. You can choose to hide it or you can choose to express it, those are the choices. Science is a pain, I know.
Why do I have to watch all those hateful comment made by mostly Americans ? Seriously, people. You make the world think of us Americans as intolerant people and religion as poison ( I know that not Americans are this stupid). Don't you know that the separation of state and church indeed exists? You judge peope based on their sexual orientation and wish them death so you can feel better about yourself, some self-hating homophobes. What you're doing is pathetic and heartless. Get a life and STFU.
John, well done. I don't have words to tell you what a good job you've done. This video rocks and is really from the heart. I'm glad your through the bad crap. Look up to the future :)
GOD DIDN'T MAKE GAYS... THATS LIKE TO SAY GOD MADE PEOLE TO HAVE SEXY WITH ANIMALS OR DEAD PEOPLE .. YOU KNOW HOW STUPID YOU PEOPLE SAY GOD MADE ME GAY.. JUST LOOK IN NATURE A MAN IS MADE FOR A WOMAN YOU FOOLS SATAN HAS BLINDED THE MINDS OF THE FOOLS!!!!1
@jasonmildward34 Do you think God really gives a damn about sexuality? As long as people are spreading love and respect. Isn't it about time we all try and do this? For the sake of future generations. Maybe if you learnt to accept and respect every woman and man, regardless of their sexuality, this world could be the kind of place God intended it to be. Full of only peace and harmony.
@jasonmildward34 Do you realise that you cannot judge someone based on your beliefs? There are billions of people on this planet, all of whom believe different things. Using your belief as a means of justification to insult someone proves that you do not have a solid argument, as you are resorting to using something that cannot be proven. Hating someone without a valid reason, like you are doing, could also be said to be the work of "Satan", but there's no proof he exists either.
@jasonmildward34 It's words like yours that are behind all the hate and bullying which precipated this movement.. Maybe you should do some research before spitting such venom.
Dude you need to look at nature yourself, animals engage in homosexual acts all the time. Plus if 'nature' is your only defence then what are your views on contraception? What’s natural about that? I mean its pretty safe to say that in our modern society sex isn't only for procreation. And Satan? Presuming you're religious, why don't you try reading the bible and see how many homosexual references you find, did you know it’s apparently an 'abomination to eat shrimp'!?
inspiring video
farmerz245 22 hours ago
You are beautiful.
I'm 23 and gay. I'm out, but still working on learning to love myself.
whyyesyes 3 days ago
Wonderful, thanks so much!
jaketjak 2 weeks ago
<3
chenyiting123 1 month ago
you have beautifull eyes
MrSama555 1 month ago
Thanks for sharing John. That was well told and presented. All the best for your future.
kingy002 1 month ago
Thank you for your willingness to share your experiences.
blubrboy 1 month ago
Wow, John. You've overcome some massive obstacles. I'm very proud of you! Stu :)
mrniksuncle 1 month ago
I was watching your other film about Schizophrenia and recovery and I removed my comment about how good looking you are because it felt inappropriate. But I will say it here I think you are really soooo fit and gorgeous.
xxx
Chico1584 2 months ago
@Chico1584 Yeah he is beautiful. Schizophrenia and delusions like the angel he mentioned in his videos are fascinating. I would be dating him already if he would live anywhere near me :)*lol*
SimontheSorceror 1 week ago
Im asian btw,with arabs roots
TheCockyCunts 2 months ago
I dont understand you whites,I mean your fucking extincting , and you just act like ostrich , got on some lets-be-gay-thats-so-democratic shit , God , what the fuck is wrong with you guys.Blacks and arabs are going to take over and thats when this planet will get fucked up.
TheCockyCunts 2 months ago
I seen two videos by this guy now and he comes across as a very honest and sincere guy, I hope he keeps up the good work....
andysplace67 2 months ago
You are such a beautiful person. <3
Smil3GiggleLov3 2 months ago
@Smil3GiggleLov3 yes he is....
andysplace67 2 months ago
Ur a great inspiration... I'm on your same situation my family is not Jewish but Christian. Thanks for posting
limbos3 2 months ago
You have the sexiest accent + you're handsome = win.
AlbertMUAH 3 months ago
YOU Sir in one word: AWESOME! Good on ya! 2 Thumbs and 2 Toes up on this video!
DukeofSassington 3 months ago
:)
thanks mate. give yourself a hug for me.
2buttontyler 3 months ago
You must be from an orthodox or at least conservative branch of Judaism. I belong to a Reform congregation in small town Florida. They have been completely supportive of me, and when I met my husband to be, of him as well. We were married in a religious ceremony, performed by our openly Gay Rabbi, in front of a large number of members of our congregation, who were kvelling with joy for us. I hope you find the same happiness within your religious family.
Snowydog123 3 months ago
I have 4 words to say to you... You Are A legend..!!!! x
welshguy272 3 months ago
I have $ words to say to you... You Are A legend..!!!! x
welshguy272 3 months ago
Johnny, you're gorgeous! =)
PunjabiSoulQueen 3 months ago
I like your hair :D congratulations and very happiness!!
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musicalman543 4 months ago
You're awesome. I admire your bravery and sincerity. :)
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I totally know what you mean when you talk about being petrified or that the world would stop as fast as you came out and i just wonder why do we need to go through so much pressure? why does it need to be this tough?
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i can really relate to your video mate, check out my channel, you have really inspired me, and am going through the same stuff as you did. hope things are good for you now!!
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paddybt4 4 months ago
Thank you so much for this, I came out at the age of nineteen and it cost me everything. I was thrown out of the house, had to sell everything I possessed in order to survive but=I'm still here IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER!!!
mowestjohn 5 months ago
@mowestjohn Oh yeaaa,,you deserve your butthole tossed..pm me ill fuckin give you a colonscopy with my tongue !!
BizzareCorpse 5 months ago
Thank you so much for posting this video i also come from a deeply religious family and you have given me hope that one day they will accept or at least understand me.
marcymarc2421 5 months ago
@marcymarc2421 The way I see it is that God loves everyone on this Earth as long as they are being good to each other. How anyone can call being gay a 'sin' is beyond me. Love is the most natural thing in this world & it shouldn't make a difference who you love. I hope your family will come to both understand and accept you. Often it just takes time for them to get used to it. Be strong & always be true to yourself :)
johnjusthuman 5 months ago 7
@johnjusthuman You are a great man.
PERSONIFICATIONOFYAY 3 months ago
• Bagley and Tremblay (1997) reported that 5 out of 8 suicide attempters were homosexual/bisexual males (16, 17), and a previous study of the same sample had reported that 6 out of 8 suicide attempters (75%) had been sexually abused (experienced unwanted sexual acts) before the age of 17 V Bagley, C., Wood, M., and Young, L. (1994). Victim to abuser: mental health and behavioral sequels of child sexual abuse in a survey of young adult males . Child Abuse & Neglect, 18(8), 683-97.
waxonify 4 months ago
This is seriously one of the best "It Gets Better" videos I've seen. Thank you :)
yippedoodah 5 months ago
LOVE YOUR VIDEO !!
mortalitet 5 months ago
Obrigado, I'm gay too, and is so hard to leave the closet. I left there about 4 years and I am very happy now. I live in Brazil, a country that is very homophobic But I do not really care what people think. I just try to be happy. "joys and sorrows, is the life
always happy or always sad.
is always boring."
JonanLucas 6 months ago
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TheDavin69 6 months ago
Sweet handsome guy...all the way in london. i never win. smh.
thelonelyslayer 6 months ago
Bravo!
tpjl25 6 months ago
@johnjusthuman
Ciao Bello!
Giovanni ( John/Johnny) "Amico Mio" I know that I've remarked somewhere on your great "Videogenic" presence, not to mention that "Faccia Bella" (Beautiful Face) ! But I think it bears repeating "Amico Mio", that Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, is both grateful to you for your wonderful contribution to this most important Campaign, as well as beautifully "Flummoxed" with pride in you!
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci!
Blaine
blainebill39 6 months ago
@blainebill39 Ciao Blaine, thank-you so much for your message. It means a great deal to hear from you. I hope you're doing well and keeping strong Blaine. Bobby Griffiths is always in my thoughts and prayers, and now you are too. I hope that one day there won't be a need for a campaign like this because we will all be accepting of one another, no matter of each others sexuality. I hope that day comes soon :) Jonny.
johnjusthuman 6 months ago
@johnjusthuman
Ciao Bello!
Johnny "Amico Mio" thank you for such a warm response! I truly draw strength from the "Mitzvah" that is your video here, and the contributions of so many of our brothers and sisters out there! It serves to convince me that todays' world is in fact nothing like the one in which Bobby and I were two "out" boys in love in! That awareness alone nourishes my soul, and emboldens me to whatever it will take to keep these kinds of things from happening to young people!
blainebill39 6 months ago
You deal with so much with the Schizoaffective disorder and depression... and the bigotry and ignorance people show towards mental illness, add being gay on top of that where the discrimination, harassment and bullying can seep to one's core. You sir, are one STRONG MAN!!! You have done such a wonderful thing by lending your voice to this chorus. I admire you. BEST WISHES TO YOU (and everyone watching this video) for a wonderfully bright future filled with love.
wawa2 7 months ago
@wawa2 Thank-you :)) I'm only strong because of people like you. Thanks for all your support and encouragement, I would be truly lost without it. All the best to you x
johnjusthuman 6 months ago
im gay 14 and im a in closet at home and i am open in school im from luton also in the school a lot of the people the boys spreaded round that i have aids and wen i changed in the room for p.e they were literaly people on the other side of the room and i was on the other side they were avoiding me. many asian boys hated me because im gay and a muslim but im sort glad i came out the girls love me because im gay so im like a gay best friend i got great frends but some hated me so they went away
GAXxJUNAIDxXGA 7 months ago
@GAXxJUNAIDxXGA Don't let the people at school get you down. I really admire your strength to come out at such a young age, you have enormous courage and I wish I could have done what you did at 14. Hold your head up high and refuse to take any notice of those boys, they are obviously so insecure about themselves that they have to pick on someone else. You've got a great future ahead of you, I know you're going to go far with all your strength and positivity! Keep smiling :)
johnjusthuman 6 months ago 4
@GAXxJUNAIDxXGA yay! :D Im not the only gay Muslim
TheMuslimGayBoy 5 months ago
this one is totally awesome, so much better folks
rockyreyz 8 months ago
DAYUMMMMMMMMMM u r a cutie....lick lick...imma move to London LOL
TubeTrollster 8 months ago
Great video and thank you for sharing. On a side note, I love your accent. I hope things continue to go well for you! =)
20thPaul 9 months ago
You are so inspring. I'm not gay, but your story is amazing... i actually reeally reallly ike it when people come out with themselves. I mean we all have our suspitions of who is gay.. but not many people are open about it and strong to what they are. If more people were powerful in the way of telling about themselves i feel that gay people would have so much more respect. I love your story ! :)
oliviaaahhhh 9 months ago
I think this is one of the more inspiring 'it gets better' videos I've seen, because you did have it so bad, and it really did get a lot better for you. I'm really pleased for you.
UnitedColorsofTom 9 months ago 2
FAG
1randomlol 10 months ago
@1randomlol fuck up
ItsJackMacDonald 10 months ago
@ItsJackMacDonald its shut the fuck up and you sould do that right about now fag
1randomlol 10 months ago
@1randomlol lmao fine shut the fuck up! silly small minded people honeslty!
ItsJackMacDonald 9 months ago
@1randomlol 3 months later again fuck up
ItsJackMacDonald 6 months ago
@1randomlol Get a life u asshole! Nobody likes you here!
911timber 9 months ago
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@911timber ok i will when you quit being a FAGGOT
1randomlol 9 months ago
@911timber nobody likes you period hahah
1randomlol 8 months ago
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Dear JohnJustHuman,
I was moved by your words and how you told your story. It was so painful inside. I'm glad for your coming out, but you still need to be so get used to your new self now. I can still feel a little bit of sadness in you! Cheer up! Can we be friends? please check on ferrari09adona@gmail.com, that is my facebook! I hope we can be friends!
adonismodaser 10 months ago
thanks again,I just saw your video on mental disorder and really loved it, i'm bipolar and i've suffered from depression, I also have a schizophrenic friend so I understand what you have been trough, sometimes it can be tough but just have to stay strong and ask for help.
also loved the poems!!!! you're a grat writer!!!!!!
I think i'm in love...
giovanniimperiale 10 months ago
Thank you. I cried when you talked about your father.
mysticmerman 10 months ago
beautiful words from a beautiful man life is so much better out of the closet
dolphinguy32 10 months ago
thanks so much for the video, i've been watching a lot of them and it's really giving me hope, i'm 19 and still in the closet,I live in a really small town with very judgemental people, the only gays I know in my hometown are the ones who are being called faggots by all of my guy friends, so i'm getting away from those ignorants and planing on moving somewhere else with the two of my best friends and one of them is who I have to pretend to be dating with and her sister, thanks again.
giovanniimperiale 11 months ago 11
@giovanniimperiale I can't imagine what it's like for you right now but i'm so pleased that you're thinking forward. One day soon you will be free and can live the life you should be living. Until then, keep reminding yourself that things will definitely get better. It's only a matter of time before you move away from your hometown and the start of a much happier, fulfilling life. Thinking of you.
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@johnjusthuman So you like sucking cock huh?
Integra0warrior 9 months ago
You are such an honest, strong, smart man! Best of luck to you.
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CentralPerk07 11 months ago
@CentralPerk07 Have you spoken to anyone at all about your depression and anxiety?? Coming out feels like such a release. No matter how the people around you take it, let me tell you that you will feel a massive weight lift off as soon as you tell them that you are gay. I believe you do have the courage to come out, it's within you. Try and find that strength. Believe in yourself. Coming out was probably the best day of my life, it can be for you as well :)
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CentralPerk07 11 months ago
@CentralPerk07 anytime you want to talk send me a message, don't feel you have to go through this alone. People might judge you for being gay, but you have to rise above it. People only judge and make comment because of their own insecurity. Remember that if you're feeling judged. And tell yourself that no-one has any right to tell you how you should be living your life. It's YOUR life, no-one else's. Don't let anyone take away your identity and start loving yourself for all that you are.
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@CentralPerk07 You should consider killing yourself.
Integra0warrior 9 months ago
Good video Johnny (sp?)! It's sweet and straight to the point but was paced enough for us to understand your point of view and the feelings you had up until the point of you coming out. Its always a brave thing to do when you stand up for yourself and seriously, its a different experience for everyone. This concept of staying true to who you are can be used in different scenarios but because this is was for a gay man coming out, it definitely is worth it. Enjoy life now because it is short.
dannysimion 11 months ago
What would your advice be to somebody who ever since they were born, they were raised strong christian believer but all of a sudden what they believe in is turning against them, that the God who loves them now hates them because of their sexuality. That's my case, I don't know what's to do.
1albuseverus 11 months ago
@1albuseverus God doesn't hate you. There are people in this world who are killing each other, stealing from one another, and not respecting their fellow human beings. It is them that God and faiths should be angry with. Not someone like you, who only wants to be free to love who you choose-where's the crime in that?? It's time that religion moved into the 21st century. Please don't feel anything other than proud of who you are. And don't let your religion or anyone else tell you otherwise.
johnjusthuman 11 months ago
@johnjusthuman thank you so much for them kind words. You really inspire me to move on. my case is really complicated, cuz all of my family are very strong christian believers, and based on what I know about them, they will not accept people like me, they are totally against it, of course they don't know that I'm gay. I don't know what to do sometimes, knowing that my family will never accept me because of who I'm,plus people telling me that God won't accept me either, it just drives me INSANE.
1albuseverus 11 months ago
@1albuseverus You don't know that your family won't accept it. Sure it might take them some time to come to terms with it, but who's to say that they eventually won't get used to it? If they see that you are happier than perhaps they will accept you for who you really are. Walk away from the people that tell you "God won't accept you". How do they know? Have they spoken to God personally? No-it's their own excuse for not wanting to accept you. What about friends? Can you confide in them?
johnjusthuman 11 months ago
@johnjusthuman well i've got some friends that are acceptable,which gives me strength to move forward. Of course, not everybody knows about me, only 3 best friends know. As for my family, and I don't think I will have the courage to tell them. I can pretty much say that they are homophobics, which I don't blame them because of their strong faith in the bible. And that is the thing, I too believe in the bible, but I also believe that God made me this way and he loves me no matter what.
1albuseverus 11 months ago
@1albuseverus If you can do it-if you can believe in the bible, and at the same time believe God loves you no matter who you are, then others can believe it too. I believe it. Your family might too if you give them the chance. It's time for you to start living your life. At the end of the day, your life belongs to only you and no-one else can or should tell you how to live it. Being gay isn't a choice, it's a part of you-just like your arms, legs, heart, mind etc. Perhaps you should write...
johnjusthuman 11 months ago
@johnjusthuman ....write your family a letter. You don't need to give it to them. Just write down everything you want to say to them. Get it all out your system. It's a first step. And then, who knows, maybe you'll have gained the courage and be ready to share everything in the letter with them. Do it today. Life is too precious and short to live it as anything but true to who you are.
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1albuseverus 11 months ago
Very inspirational
1albuseverus 11 months ago
Im gay and Im proud! good for all of us! I agree with you John, you are cute, I would not ask to marry me but would be good to have a friend in London! =D send me a messege =)
mexicanguy2000 11 months ago
you are so hot and nice guy do you married me ?
jota691991 11 months ago
Honesty is life. Many thanks.
jckfmsincty 11 months ago
You are like the waiter you described in your life! Damn, if I didn't know I was gay, I know now. Just kidding, I know I'm gay (out for about 1 month now). Thanks for posting the vid. Really provides courage for those who are thinking of coming out/starting to come out. Cheers mate!
Fatechopper 1 year ago
pretty amazing story.
drones86 1 year ago
Thanks for posting this - many people live with that fear and stress of covering up there whole lives, I think it causes an early death. Your vid is an encouragement for leaving that behind and living a happier life! Things are much better for coming out than they ever have been.
sunflyer40 1 year ago
marry me:)
steve4jesuschrist 1 year ago
@steve4jesuschrist You wouldn't want to marry me! I've been told I snore in my sleep!
johnjusthuman 1 year ago 4
Thats fine with me :) I will be living in France soon. If you are ever in Paris , message me.
steve4jesuschrist 1 year ago
Johnny - thank you for sharing. I share your belief. I do appreciate you and what you have done. Do celebrate your life -
Rand
RandMcM 1 year ago
cheers for the clip!
i can't remeber how i came across the 'it gets better' project on youtube but one hot link after another i saw your vid.my straight-acting lover who's in his early 30s and from a very religious family has never thought of coming out,as it would only mean losing his family.it's usually not a problem till whenever we have a fight,he'd blame that his life is nothing but a big fat lie bcos he's still in the closet.i really wish i can help him.i may share this vid with him:)
boy0327 1 year ago
@boy0327 There's a Rabbi I know that also came from a very religious family. When he came out, he feared that his family would never speak to him again. He's actually become closer to his family in the time since he has come out. He is now happily married and his family accepted and supported it fully. I understand that your lover has his doubts about coming out but it might actually be the best thing he has ever done.Life is short.Surely he deserves the right to live his life who he really is.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
The God I believe in doesnt insite hatred upon people who are who they are! Its just ridiculous how people can be so small minded all the time... Come on people, the bible was written a LOOOOOOONG time ago.
zXJulianXz 1 year ago
great video, im going through that shit right now and it helps to know someone else has dealt with the inconceivable loneliness that comes with being gay, only if america had more guys like you
funckydave 1 year ago
@funckydave I'm sorry to hear that. Please don't feel alone in what you are going through. I'm always here if you want to chat. I promise you that the loneliness you feel now is just temporary and that things really do get better. Each one of the many 'It Gets Better' videos can testify to that. Hang in there and try and keep positive. You soon will be through the storm and much brighter days lay ahead. Jonny. ps I'd love to come to America!!!
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman thanks=]
funckydave 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman My dad is an exmarine and a priest so its hard to even think about coming out to him or anyone else
funckydave 1 year ago
@funckydave What about friends or people that you can trust? It might be good to talk to one or two of them when you are ready? You may be surprised by your Dad's reaction. I know someone who's Dad is a Rabbi. His Dad was stunned at first but coming out hasn't changed a thing and their relationship is stronger than ever. It could be the same for you.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman I have a close friend who i came out to a couple of months ago, it was probably the happiest time i can remember, but its complicated. we talk about it every once and awhile but i just need to vent sometimes and theres things i cant even talk about with her because she doesn't understand. I really want to come out, theres actually nothing more i want, but most of my family and some of my closest friends
funckydave 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman are complete homophobs and i dont want to lose them because they're all that keep me sane these days you know, sometimes i just want to explode and tell everyone but i know its not that easy. Thanks again for listening, it really helps
funckydave 1 year ago
@funckydave Sometimes you have to put yourself first. Of course you don't want to lose them, but you need to think about your happiness and well-being too. Perhaps they are not true homophobes and seeing you 'come out' might change them. I've seen it happen before. It might help to put everything you want to say in a letter. You don't have to send it, just write down what you want to say to them. That's the first step. Don't hold anything in, keep venting, I'm always here.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman i think about it a lot but im not sure now is the right time
funckydave 1 year ago
@funckydave Don't put too much pressure on yourself. But set yourself a goal maybe? For example, that you would like to come out to the people around you within 6 months times. At least that gives you something to focus on and a goal to accomplish?
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
@johnjusthuman thanks, it helps talking with someone who understands. ive put a lot of thought into it and i think by the end of the year i will have come out, the closet sucks
funckydave 1 year ago
@funckydave that's awesome! i'll be there every step of the way if you want to talk. You're on the path to freedom now (:
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
how about comin to america ; )
funckydave 1 year ago
I have a similar story at the age of 21 (two years ago). I went into a year long depression as well. It wasn't until, I accepted those words, that it all got better. It's nice to know, I am not alone. Thanks for posting this video.
quagmire1000 1 year ago
@quagmire1000 I'm so glad to hear it got better for you (: you deserve only happiness. Thanks for sharing.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago
A very sad story, in that you were dealing with serious mental health issues as well as being gay.
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laughking108 1 year ago
Thank you so much for posting this :),
emmateacup 1 year ago
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"Identical twins have identical genes. If homosexuality was a biological condition produced inescapably by the genes (e.g. eye color), then if one identical twin was homosexual, in 100% of the cases his brother would be too...But as we saw above, if one is homosexual, the other is usually not."
-- N.E. Whitehead, Ph.D
STRUTTER777U 1 year ago
You are an admirable, gay man. If only American families could be so supportive of their gay children. Thank you.
jckfmsincty 1 year ago
cute
notsostr8 1 year ago
goshhhhh u r bloody hot !
greatworld1979 1 year ago
Like the song says What a difference a day makes. What a difference a person makes when there's someone like you to show others how human you are.
TheRamrod100 1 year ago
You're very cute, johnny, thanks for posting.
rscmrcmd 1 year ago
Great work, you are very sincere and your message here is impressive. In a strange way too, the vituperative anti-gay "comments" (below) are sort of ... useful (a) because they show what young and not so young gay people are up against and (b) because it's also absolutely clear that these homophobic outpourings all seem to be based on some sort of explicit "Christian" position.
jarabaa 1 year ago
you didnt tryed long enough then
it must be posible
dontmakemeMADhelper1 1 year ago
sick fuck
kill youreself
johny lol
dontmakemeMADhelper1 1 year ago
@dontmakemeMADhelper1 lol, wtf, who says that...? Would you say that to his face in person? ..
patryktv 1 year ago
cute :)
90mloda 1 year ago
You're a great guy! All my best to you. Keep courageous and keep going. Love you. I wish I could just hold you just for a minute. Thanks for this!!
123benny4 1 year ago
I want to apologize for all the ignorant small minded ridiculous fanatic people who have said all these hateful things. God is love and what he cares about is being you and being in love with you. thats all that matters. so dont worry about these people who say shit. You are beautiful and I love you. and no that not all of us who are straight are ignorant assholes. so thank you johnny for this. you and everyone else making these videos are making a difference
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grantlucy11 1 year ago
If I could go back and counsel my 21 years old self, I would say that you can't wait for your family or friends to come around, they won't. You have to work hard to find people who love you and accept you. As I've learned in my psychology classes, the basis for much of therapy is taking responsibility for your own healing and happiness. You can't rely on someone to do it for you. If you are fortunate, however, people can support you. You just need to find them. I'm still looking.
daamqc 1 year ago
I have been reluctant to respond to any of these It Gets Better Video's because I believe in the message and the power and necessity of hope. However, in the 10 years that I've been out, since I was 21, my life has not gotten better. I hoped that my family would eventually come around or at least tolerate my being gay, they haven't. My Mom, who was truly a gentle person but passed away 5 years ago, referred to a young gay couple as 'disgusting' after I had come out.
daamqc 1 year ago
@daamqc Don't give up on change. At anytime you could meet someone who you fall in love with and things would surely then get better. Hope and optimism has got me through life and even when I'm at my lowest, I still have hope for the future. I am sorry about your Mom. At least you have remained true to yourself-I know people that literally 'went back in the closet' after they came out to their parents. Even if it hasn't done yet, it will get better.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago 6
@daamqc Love you. Here for you.
123benny4 1 year ago
@daamqc who cares what they think? be happy ;)
Joshy51112 1 year ago
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@daamqc It gets better when you abandon the homosexual lifestyle.
STRUTTER777U 1 year ago
You are inspiring.
101andysa 1 year ago
haha talk bout fat your fatter than i am lol. and evidently youve been token the reefer to much cause you sound retarded in your vids. Thank God you dont get to decide who goes to heaven there will be gays in heaven but we wont have to identify as gay then. its hard to believe your 30 something and acting 3 i block you i block you why dont you get off the internet go to school and grow up go see a counsiler before you become even more retarded
bluemew88888 1 year ago
Johnny, you are adorable. Heart
hoyk09 1 year ago
I can completely empathize with you. My father was the one who was more accepting of me. And quite honestly, coming out was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. They should make you the spokesperson for the It Gets Better campaign, you are so adorable!
CLGAJM 1 year ago
Trhank you for sharing your story. Note you have a beautiful voice.
donkerengel 1 year ago
I don't like gay guys.
jenna120s 1 year ago
@jenna120s Wonderful contribution. With that sort of attitude, the feeling is probably mutual.
xmaster2 1 year ago
@xmaster2 You chose to be gay and it's wrong. Yes, you are bi.
jenna120s 1 year ago
@jenna120s If it's a choice, then that means I can just choose to like women then? Let me ask you a quick question. If sexuality is a choice, doesn't that mean you could choose to be gay then? And let me ask you another question, who would CHOOSE a sexuality where they're bullied, maimed, beaten up and abused?
xmaster2 1 year ago
@xmaster2 You dated girls and tried to be bi. you are bi. Being gay is a choice.
jenna120s 1 year ago
@jenna120s My original comment still stands, try not repeating yourself. I dated girls because I felt I had to. I didn't fancy them physically or sexually. I've seen the amount of comments you've been posting all up and down the IGBproject, and it's sad to see that you have so much time on your hands that you actively go out seeking confrontation.
xmaster2 1 year ago
@xmaster2 gay guys will always be bi.
jenna120s 1 year ago
@jenna120s Obvious troll is obvious.
xmaster2 1 year ago
@jenna120s Being gay is a choice? Really? What do you like? What turns you on? What makes you happy? Those things you can't control. What you like, I might hate. It is the way your brain is programmed. You can't choose what you like just like you don't choose to be gay. It is the way you are programmed and how your body responds. You can choose to hide it or you can choose to express it, those are the choices. Science is a pain, I know.
smrtmonkey222 1 year ago
Why do I have to watch all those hateful comment made by mostly Americans ? Seriously, people. You make the world think of us Americans as intolerant people and religion as poison ( I know that not Americans are this stupid). Don't you know that the separation of state and church indeed exists? You judge peope based on their sexual orientation and wish them death so you can feel better about yourself, some self-hating homophobes. What you're doing is pathetic and heartless. Get a life and STFU.
Theclowcard 1 year ago
You're so valiant, so honest... and so hot. Best luck, man!
jasonmuscle 1 year ago
you're hot
teaizyummy 1 year ago
Wonderful story! Thank you and Blessings!
thanatosnoir 1 year ago
John, well done. I don't have words to tell you what a good job you've done. This video rocks and is really from the heart. I'm glad your through the bad crap. Look up to the future :)
Much love,
Stiofán x
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DEATH TO ALL GAYS!!!!!!!
jasonmildward34 1 year ago
@jasonmildward34 Ya dad
BackToBasicsBitch 1 year ago
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GOD DIDN'T MAKE GAYS... THATS LIKE TO SAY GOD MADE PEOLE TO HAVE SEXY WITH ANIMALS OR DEAD PEOPLE .. YOU KNOW HOW STUPID YOU PEOPLE SAY GOD MADE ME GAY.. JUST LOOK IN NATURE A MAN IS MADE FOR A WOMAN YOU FOOLS SATAN HAS BLINDED THE MINDS OF THE FOOLS!!!!1
jasonmildward34 1 year ago
@jasonmildward34 Do you think God really gives a damn about sexuality? As long as people are spreading love and respect. Isn't it about time we all try and do this? For the sake of future generations. Maybe if you learnt to accept and respect every woman and man, regardless of their sexuality, this world could be the kind of place God intended it to be. Full of only peace and harmony.
johnjusthuman 1 year ago 27
@johnjusthuman I give a damn about peoples' sexuality because it's a choice and all gay guys want me.
jenna120s 1 year ago
@jasonmildward34 Do you realise that you cannot judge someone based on your beliefs? There are billions of people on this planet, all of whom believe different things. Using your belief as a means of justification to insult someone proves that you do not have a solid argument, as you are resorting to using something that cannot be proven. Hating someone without a valid reason, like you are doing, could also be said to be the work of "Satan", but there's no proof he exists either.
xmaster2 1 year ago
@jasonmildward34 You said it. Satan has blinded the minds of fools! Take it with salt!
BackToBasicsBitch 1 year ago
@BackToBasicsBitch Why are you spouting religious comments on a video that has nothing to do with religion?
xmaster2 1 year ago
@xmaster2 Excuse you. I was replying to a comment made by "Jason.M 34"
BackToBasicsBitch 1 year ago
@jasonmildward34 It's words like yours that are behind all the hate and bullying which precipated this movement.. Maybe you should do some research before spitting such venom.
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ron1401 1 year ago
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Dude you need to look at nature yourself, animals engage in homosexual acts all the time. Plus if 'nature' is your only defence then what are your views on contraception? What’s natural about that? I mean its pretty safe to say that in our modern society sex isn't only for procreation. And Satan? Presuming you're religious, why don't you try reading the bible and see how many homosexual references you find, did you know it’s apparently an 'abomination to eat shrimp'!?
davecubitt 1 year ago