Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800799SAFE

[just2pissyouoff]

What? the bitch wouldn't shut up

[MrJimmyscho]

Sarah Buel believes that women who kill and then claim that the person they killed were abusive should be set free. This, and her severe anti-man position that places women as powerless and victimized, and ignores men who are abused, is why Sarah Buel isn't respected as a DV advocate. She's too divisive and extreme, too sexist. Also, her claim that she is a multiple-abuse survivor has been called into question many times. No records to prove or disprove. Sounds fishy to me.

[circethesorceress]

This is really great that you posted this...great job.

[ShadowCrashed81]

Domestic violence goes both ways.

[j1o2y3c4e5]

But...what is the likelihood that she will be honest and readily answers yes if you asked her whether she feels threatened at home? and what is the next step after universal screening? when she says yes? if you recommend getting conselling for the husband, then he is likely to go home and beat his wife for rattling out on him, which exacerbates the problem and her silence on the issue. i am interested toknow what Buel and Ensler advised to do in anti-DV after universal screening. thanks Jeff!

[LukeBrackett]

I wonder if this little dink realizes that 50% or more of DV is committed by females? Females are also the prime abusers of children. He needs to get a life.

[BiscuitDoughJones]

Also (and this is a judgment call on my part), the fact that she is a "survivor" of multiple abusive situations just seems a little Dave Pelzer, Professional Victim At Large for my taste. Additionally, none of her claims have been substantiated by legal documents, police reports or hospital documentation. It just seems suspicious to me. I'm certainly not calling her a liar, but I do question her complete honesty and legitimacy of her backstory and the whole "helpless woman" stance.

[BiscuitDoughJones]

Sarah Buel is not "Dr. Buel". She has a law degree and persons with a law degree do not receive the title of "doctor".

I'm familiar with Professor Buel and although I appreciate her commitment to helping women who are in abusive situations, I must disagree with her outdated notion of female helplessness and perpetual disempowerment, which seemed to be a major factor in her presentation at my school.

[KeinMitleid000]

I love your videos. I think that you're a great speaker and it's nice to see someone put the message out there in a more practical way.

[serafina1107]

you are so awesome for having internalized what the Dr. had to say, and actually being inspired to post this. BRAVO!1

[BigxButtxWendy]

I think universal screening is a MUST and will undoubtedly offer a voice to those who feel voiceless. Had I been asked if I felt threatened at home during a visit while in that type of environment, there would have been no mistaking my answer and no denying what had been going on, because I probably would have just burst into tears.

[BigxButtxWendy]

I also can't ever remember being offered the hotline number by a healthcare professional either. (which wouldn't have mattered much, considering "he" controlled the phone, so my use of it was very limited and VERY monitored)

This was an excellent video. Off the top of my head, eye contact(or lack thereof) would be one thing you didn't mention, that CAN be a sign.

[BigxButtxWendy]

The worse my situation became, the less I could look people in the eye. Not only because he would make accusations, but also because looking them in the eye made me feel like they knew what I wasn't telling them and I didn't want people to know.

Good luck with your medical career.

[kitcatnos2000]

i had a terrible thing happen to me . and for long time i was believing my own lie that thinking this person that was abusing me was alright and its wrong .

[weedboy74a2]

for three years i was subjected to kicks, punches, bloody noses, intimidation and terror. When I finally fought back, after my batterrer stabbed me in the head with a screwdriver, I was arressted and lost rights to my home and property. Domestic violence is a lesbian feminist lie. Google Christy

Cardinal. She is a fighter for the anti-man cause!!!

[bumpsywhoops]

You are an idiot. Domestic violence is a very unfortunate fact. At no point in his video did this guy say that women are the only ones subjected to abuse at home, he's just trying to promote the message that there is help out there if you are a victim, which has absolutely nothing to do with gender. It's shocking that what you say would happen to guy but if it's true, why don't you work to promote your cause rather than giving this guy grief, he is going a good thing here?

[AntiAbortion101]

Sorry Kid, but you've been fed Feminist lies and now you do not know how to think for yourself. Go read angry harry or glenn sacks (google them), you are pussy whipped.

[bumpsywhoops]

What does this video have to do with feminism?

[EquisHalo]

it's cool that you were that inspired.

[tanaide]

I really think as our society is changing we need to be aware that the old stereotypes of gender are changing, borders become unclear and there is lo longer that much of a difference as you find in the older generations :o)

This is just my opinion, I hope I haven't offended anyone

[tanaide]

It is a good thing to point out that not only women may be victims of domestic violence and to widen the awareness here, as I believe that as a man it might be harder still to seek help due to the fact that people "haven't heard it exists in men". I myself have survived D/V and I found it hard to even admit to it.

[tanaide]

But reading the two comments above mine I felt the need to express my opinion on the matter of men as victims of domestic violence:

There certainly are not even nearly as many victims amongst men as there are in women, but I see no need to "cut out" the male fraction here and put them in a whole different box like sedrn above suggested.

[tanaide]

Again, usmedstudent, you did a great job, thank you for your effort. This is a very important topic and raising awareness is ever so much important since the victims often find themselves in a position unable to actively ask for help.

[sedrn]

jbgood3? You AGAIN!? So do you go in every DV against Women and post your 'message' that men are in the same danger as women? Why not post your own videos promoting your 'male abuse' message? THIS issue is violence against women, which you know because you post in most of them!

[jbgood3]

Did Dr Buel mention male DV victims and their children. "There are no stereotypes" except they are all female victims. The UK home office Research Study 191 Domestic Violence was first released in 1999 [1] 4.2% of women and 4.2% of men said they had been physically assaulted by a current or former partner in the last year. 4.9% of men and 5.9% of women had experienced physical assault and/or frightening threats.

[meggiblu]

Thank you! You did a terrific job covering the issue. It is empowering for women to hear real men speak up against domestic violence. I might add regarding strangulation often there is difficulty swallowing for even weeks after. There are a few males arguing males are abused equally and posting...Good to have a man do this video. Again, Thank You!

[SwimmerKeri]

Nice video. Thanks for raising awarness on this very important topic. Here is what I learned in med school: some questions to ask if you suspect the person is being domestically abused: S.A.F.E. Stands for:

1. Are you concerned about your SAFETY or the safety of your children?

2. Do you feel AFRAID?

3. Do you have FRIENDS or FAMILY support?

4. Do you have an EMERGENCY plan?

[kite973]

Excellent job. This is definitely something that people should be aware of, as you said.

[Urgelt]

This is a great topic to cover.

Domestic violence thrives in secrecy and shame. Penetrate the secrecy and it can be stopped. Awareness, vigilance, involvement are the duties of every citizen.

[hotmamacita83]

very good!!