Bullying at work

[925jdb]

thats assult. call poilce and file assult charges, take notes, dates and time. then get a attorney. i went through my boss bullying me. he grab me, push, yelled at me. this when on for 8 months. the big boss also would bully me. so i took notes, date, time. i was forced to quit my job. so i turned the company into the eeoc, they're investigating them. now i'm takin zoloft and trazodone. it's effected me mentally. i'm not gonna let those bastards get away with it. i want to sue them.

[CharmingLordSausage]

What I've noticed about workplace bullies is that there's always an underlying whiff of incompetence about them. Sure, they may be good at most of their tasks, but at the end of the day if you are leaving work feeling drained with the voice of your boss stuck in your head, it means that you work for an ineffective manager. If someone is bullying you it means that they know that you are aware of their shortcomings. They see you as someone to be neutralized. Buy a pen cam. Tape em - sue em!

[cookiedais]

I am suffering a lot at work from colleagues attitudes towards me . I am constantly being undermined and am left out of all conversations etc. and have heard them slagging me off as soon as I leave the room . I work within a small group of 5 people and my manager and it all started when i challenged them on the way the were treating a former colleague who was lucky enough to get another job , now they have started on me . I go home from work most days in tears . It is making me ill .

[CharmingLordSausage]

@cookiedais

"being undermined and am left out of all conversations etc"

Hey, it sounds like your in a difficult place. What you have to remember is that you haven't done ANYTHING wrong. This situation isn't about you or your performance or your character traits. It is about THEM. They have the problem not you. If you are being victimized it means that you are simply saying NO to being one of their minions. They know that you know they are weak. You are already standing up for yourself.

[PlantaPress]

(Continued from previous comment) but they were meetings that weren't arranged. Things like that are called Gaslighting, and they are destructive because they are SO bloomin difficult to challenge without looking and feeling like a paranoid idiot. You KNOW there is something negative going on, and they know it as well, but you can't call them out on it as easily. This is what has always stumped me.! It's an equal opportunity tactic too - I've experienced this behaviour from both men and women x

[PlantaPress]

Spot on, I can relate to all of this, especially the second girl. The verbal abuse and the talking about her in the same room, I can deal with because it is overt. SAme with the first girl getting slapped, bless her - that was an assault and she could have got her charged criminally for that. What always got to me was the covert stuff, the first cluster of behaviours that the second girl described around ignoring, whispering in the room, phone calls not received, people turning up for meetings.

[gmsyd09]

all you do is look the bully in the eye and say very assertivley, '' fuck off cunt and let me do my job!''

[PlantaPress]

@gmsyd09

I totally agree lol, and with the overt stuff I would actually take great pleasure in doing that, let alone feel able to haha! It's the covert, gaslighting behaviours that are the problem, because they are effective enough to make a negative impact on the target, but subtle enough to go undetected &difficult to challenge without the target looking/feeling like a fool. Also they're childish behaviours as well, but ignored over time they accumulate & make for a very negative workplace.

[Fvcky0u2]

am i the only one who thinks jenni's gorgeous

[kucoru16]

Teasing, gaslighting, and attempts of humiliation is something everyone should be able to handle. If a bully or subordinate starts sabotaging a victim's work environment, they should be fired IMMEDIATELY, no questions asked.

[PlantaPress]

@kucoru16

Agreed! As soon as I crack doing that, for myself, PlantaPress is going to publish a book on it! Gaslighting is the last bastion of the modern bully - once we figure out how to smoke them out permanently, they have nowhere else to hide!

[jia2001]

I just had two guys try to pick on me and trash talking and I said to them that I am not afraid of you and that felt REALLY good to stand up for myself and I told the supervisor about this next time they do something I beat them up

I know that violent doesn't solve problem, but they got to learn to not fuck with other people cause that's the way it suppose to be and wish me luck on my next work day maybe I am going to kick their ass

Everyone DON'T BE AFRAID OF THE BULLIES

[DannyLovesOregon]

I was bullied at the community development services for People with Disabilities in the workplace who sneered at me devilishly ?

[sandydogy]

The sad fact is some mangers are who they are because they got their by creeping. A good manager has a good team where everyone works together and if someone is weak in that team others help that person as long as they are not just been lazy, I have had things at work and very often the people who bully when you complain it is because they have people higher up who look after them

[oblio1000]

Management is a diificult job, usually performed by persons lacking the basic prerequisite skills and education. Poor managers commonly avoid employee contact by erecting a wall of policies, procedures, performance appraisals and write-ups. Personally, I prefer a slap over a smiling sing-song voice saying "getting along is more important than doing it right".

[chocomocha]

I want to give them a hug.... i was bullied at work too by this mean guy.

[BosieQueens]

I can identify. I was bullied out of my job but did not know how to handle the situation of how to expose the behaviour I was subjected to. It is important to know WHAT TO DO. It is unlikely that the bully will be tackled properly because of a variety of reasons. However, it is important to expose them and know hoe to. Laws must be passed to criminalise this behaviour urgently.

[juliandraart]

i hate bullies but Bullying is a big problem for all of us!

[sakinehbs]

stand up for your right. don't let no one bully you , get another job, your health is more important then any job.

[bullybehindyou]

These 2 video's are great, you should do more as it really helps victims hear other victims stories, as they are sadly all the same, but need a voice and need exposing.

[Lifetracks]

@bullybehindyou

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