The reason many INFJ/INFJ relationships don't work would likely come down to a bit more than what you touched on. The whole 'agreeing to avoid conflict' is only one side of it. More to the point, most INFJs loathe being lied to and knowing the person does not trust them enough to be honest above all else. As a result, INFJ's who lack the ability to confront and be honest at the risk of creating a conflict are going to be unhappy regardless of who they date. This skill can be developed though.
Again, this was helpful - specifically, the 'emotional distance/violating closeness' part. Thanks for reply today too. I still haven't gotten my head around MBTI...
You see enmeshment in almost all relationships. I think typically one or both partners start becoming complacent with being validated this way. While this may be appropriate in certain situations, to much use creates insidious effects. Its hard not to share a moment of happiness or interest with someone you love and care about. I think that this is why it is so common and this is why it becomes mistaken for affection.
@incogneuro The trouble with enmeshment is that you are never your own person because you become saturated in the other. In a way, I feel like that's the ideal way that society looks at relationships and that's why people may fall into this. Sit back and listen to some "love songs" and the lyrics... the words in 95% of those song do not make the point of "we are two equal and separate people who communicates our feelings and work to understand how to meet each others needs".
The reason many INFJ/INFJ relationships don't work would likely come down to a bit more than what you touched on. The whole 'agreeing to avoid conflict' is only one side of it. More to the point, most INFJs loathe being lied to and knowing the person does not trust them enough to be honest above all else. As a result, INFJ's who lack the ability to confront and be honest at the risk of creating a conflict are going to be unhappy regardless of who they date. This skill can be developed though.
alanavens 2 months ago
Hi , where are you from ? :)
NiePatrzSieTutaj 3 months ago
Again, this was helpful - specifically, the 'emotional distance/violating closeness' part. Thanks for reply today too. I still haven't gotten my head around MBTI...
GrimmTeather 4 months ago
Sounds like an insightful book!
janglepopmelody 4 months ago
:-) ... nice video .. ... thank you
expodential 4 months ago
You see enmeshment in almost all relationships. I think typically one or both partners start becoming complacent with being validated this way. While this may be appropriate in certain situations, to much use creates insidious effects. Its hard not to share a moment of happiness or interest with someone you love and care about. I think that this is why it is so common and this is why it becomes mistaken for affection.
Good thought provoking subject :)
incogneuro 4 months ago
@incogneuro The trouble with enmeshment is that you are never your own person because you become saturated in the other. In a way, I feel like that's the ideal way that society looks at relationships and that's why people may fall into this. Sit back and listen to some "love songs" and the lyrics... the words in 95% of those song do not make the point of "we are two equal and separate people who communicates our feelings and work to understand how to meet each others needs".
jenilyn8705 4 months ago
Heyyy long time no see. Welcome back.
Good insights. I loved the 'questions for self' you addressed. Thank you!
FunnyHolidays 4 months ago