I have to say, being a gay male in a healthy homosexual relationship, that being gay can be a choice. My boyfriend and I both have the same views on homosexuality; we love each other 100%, however, we are both straight men as well. We are NOT bisexual though. We choice to be with men because their is no drama at the end of the night that there is with women. We don't fight or have arguments, we simply have debates. Anyway, I am just saying we do choose to be gay, not all gays do, but some do.
Part 2: I frankly blame the Pastors. Many are filling these offices, but did God call them into their office? Most do not carry the anointing to break these yokes and or curses. That's how serious it is! Because you're ordained by some theology school or religious affiliation doesn't mean God called you into that office. You will know them by their fruit...abundant fruit or not at all! Their job is to TEACH how to be free of unrepented generational sins, as far back as 10 generations!!
Actually, when a person has a propensity for a particular immoral sin, it’s generally recognized as a curse, which can go back as far as 10 generations. When you have parents who never knew or served God, the sins of their 4-fathers remain in their lineage or family tree. As Christian parents, we’re to break these curses, but few so called pastors are aware of curses. Even so, God wants to break these curses if we go to him, that's what salvation is all about, destroying our sin.
Actually, when a person has a propensity for a particular immoral sin, it’s generally recognized as a curse, which can go back as far as 10 generations. When you have parents who never knew or served God, the sins of their 4-fathers remain in their lineage or family tree. As Christian parents, we’re to break these curses, but few so called pastors are aware of curses. Even so, God wants to break these curses if we go to him, that's what salvation is all about, destroying our sin.
Okay,I do not agree with this one, most things I agree with but,I do not really agree with this video,I respect your thought's and opinions;however,I have some theories on this,but it's all merely conjectures,supported somewhat by facts but very complex.I'm still working on it but I haven't gotten all the information. I still respect your opinion like I said before but I just have a different view on it,if you'd like to hear it,I'll tell you but....if,& only if you listen with an open mind
Excellent! But ... not "30 to 50 years" [together] ... I have friends that have been partnered for 63 (sixty-three) years and counting! My Partner and I are only 14 years ... but planning on a lot more! Peace ...
I tell my husband this, time and time again but he still thinks that many of you are gay because it is fashionable now. I've told him everything, that you can tell a child is gay even before he knows what it means and the other arguments you mention. Another of his arguments is that gays usually have a weak or missing father figure. When I tell him that my gay uncle was brought up exactly the same as his 6 siblings, he still isn't convinced. Argh...
huh. That's a great way to describe it. actually, those kinds of examples are eerily similar to the ones I use when explaining my bisexuality to belligerent people :D well said!
Well, actually, the term "deviant" implies being something that is considered against the norm, so therefore gay is deviant. Although, I get your point, and agree with you otherwise. However, as a sociologist I wanted to point out what the word meant.
People always tell me oh blah blah theres no possible way that you were born that way but honestly i was. Ive been crushing on my male teachers since like age 7 (: so doesnt that tell you ive been this way my whole life?
@BrybryBarbie No it says you are attracted for some unknown reason to your male teacher. Maybe it's your DNA or maybe its chemicals or even some traumatic childhood experience. It's like saying people are born attracted to red heads or muscular twinks with bubble-butts.
EXACTLY JOHN!!!!!! I hate when pplsay that it was a choice and they usually don't have complete significant arguments for their false accusation! this is the exact argument that i throw at everyone who believes it's a choice. to which they always have to respond with a religious answer where they have already lost the battle. great video, short and sweet. can't wait for the rest...
WHY WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO BE GAY? so you can make your stupid little you tube movie, and have a so called purpose in life! Without your choice of being "gay", you would just be an average Joe, nothing special about you! NEWSFLASH, you can have a purpose in life, without having to pave the way for gays! IT'S YOUR CHOICE, AND YOU WILL BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR CHOICE!
I used to say this (that no one choses to be gay) to people, but then a gay friend of mine got really pissed at me saying that I'm ashamed to be gay - which is not true AT ALL. Kinda happy to see someone else say it, I haven't said it in months since he reacted that way, so thanks I guess :)
Why is this argument always used? It is a totally illogical argument. Being bullied has nothing to do with the choice to live a homosexual lifestyle. Gay is a lifestyle choice; therefore it is a choice to be gay.
@benisturning30 Is i really a lifestyle choice? Is being straight also a lifestyle choice? I suppose if you thought being gay were than to you it would be. But I digress. If it is a choice, why don't the ones who arre bullied and harassed change? The logical response would be that they either can't, don't know how, or don't want to. and thus, the choice to change is eliminated, and the entire choice dssapears.
@movelea I can choose to think I'm a good singer and audition for American Idol; this has nothing to do with the possibility that I can be rejected. I am a homosexual and I am attracted to men but I must choose to have sex. That is a lifestyle choice. I can also be hungry but must I overeat? It is semantics. I pointing out how the definitions of words have changed in meaning, This needs too end.
@benisturning30 Yu JUST said that the person in question is already homosexual, so it ISN'T a lifestyle choice. The lifestyle choice, I suppose, would be the choic of how much sex you wat to have. The gay persopn could even choose to be celibic, that is a lifestyle choice, but being gay, and I mean BEING gay; not having sex with the same gender, is a part of you that you can't change. Why do you think this needs to end?
@movelea I don't consider myself gay; I am homosexual. These are totally separate meanings. Look up the definition of lifestyle. And the etymology of the word "gay" means something totally different; therefore, it is slang and not really a term that describes homosexual sex. We men use the term to describe fem straight guys also. You realize some fem guys are straight? But to say they are gay does not mean they fuck other men. Your argument is invalid.
@benisturning30 Gay means happy by the dictionary. It means homosexual (usually referring to homosexul males) as slang. fem is the word you are looking for to describe someone feminine. Also, to say someone is homosexual doesn't mean that they have homosexual sex either, just that they are attracted to the same gender.
2 Timothy 3 1This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
@chpoof You're right chpoof, but the fact that it reads 'Being gay is not a choice' is probably a good idea for those extremely dumb Youtubers out there who don't know what a misconception is and who would simply read 'Being gay is a choice' and go 'oooh this dude is talking sense!'
Yes it's sad to see how many people think it is a choice. Well to people who think so, I ask at what point in your life did you decide your were going to be whatever you are? Did you wake one morning and weigh all the options and settle for your current sexuality? Did someone teach you? Or is there a file you can download off the Internet somewhere? Please back your answer up with convincing evidence not just a story about some event that may or may not have happened. Thanks!
@n8e1 I was infact taughtabout homosexuality.For the first ten yars of my life, I didn't even know anything but straigh existed, so I thought I was straight. Now, however, after being taught about bisexuality, transgender and all other sexual orientations, I know that I am not straight, as my previous actions and thoughts would seem to show. I am asexual, and when I realized that it seemed almost like I was weighing the options. I said "This is what I am, it makes sense now"
They know its not a choice. They know its not a disease but as long as they keep the myth alive, it gives them the illusion of power. Washington State just passed a bill to legalize marriage equality thats 7 states out of the 50. The obese governor of NJ--I mean really is he that threatened by us--claims he will never let a similar bill pass. I"m here I'm queer and I'm pagan.
Couv, it's about time that an intelligent and articulate gay person stood up and told it like it is. You're making the videos that I should have begun making years ago here. Don't ask. I just haven't. At least not yet. John, you're a great man. Thank you.
I completely agree Omg. But i Feel like Being a Gay Male is much more Unnacepted in Society then Lesbians, But either way. Its Unnacceptable for any straight Person to claim its a Choice, It bothers me when people Argue something there not educated it. It just proves how Niave and stupid they really are. How can u claim to understand what makes a Homosexual a Homosexual when youve never expereinced it. Couver Yuu Inspire me <3.
I dont think a gay person woke up one morning and said "Think I'll be gay" and I don't know if you could reverse a gay person. So I am not totally against the idea that being gay is not a choice. But if it is not a choice, then what else is not a choice? Are all my personality traits made up before I was born? Society used to be attracted to pale & larger ppl, now its tan & skinny. If you are gay and have a kid, what are the chances of him being gay? Ppl say you're born gay...well...why? how?
@DPMorris27 I don't think thatit's you are born gay. It's like nature vs nurtur, and being gay comes more from experiences than actual genes. I'm not saying that someone"raises" children gay, buthat their environnement influences them untill pubety, and then they are either gay,straight Whatever.
@movelea and that is total Bull-shhhht i was raised in a loving family in an non-gay environment i didn't knew what gay was until i discovered that i was one and researched on the internet what was it that was happening with me...because i saw around me when i was little only boy X girl... everywhere and when they were trying to get a girl in lets say primary school like 5th grade...i was watching the boys in my class...i found out that i liked looking at them...so tell me how isit nat Vs nurtur
@FrozenUsagi You don't have to be raised in a gay environnment to have nature influence you like that. And, infact, Not all adopted children of gay couples turn out gay, so that argument has no merit.
Second, I stand by peole notbeing "born gay" a in, it isn't in their genes. The same way thet your personality isn't in your genes. I'm not saying that youchoose to be gay, I'm notsaying you're born gay. It's just something tht happens, the same goes for being straight.
@movelea i most certainly didn't chose a life where i got bullied or i can't go with my bf in town holding our hands or anything any kind gesture of love u cant show...where str8 people trow their sexuality in ur face every day...u can see riding the buss str8 couples making out and no one cares... (i dont say that u should do this in public...) but it would be nice to be able to give the kiss good-bye or an intimate hug when u meet/say bye-bye ...so dear Movelea...beforeUwrite smth think:P
I actually have a friend who thinks being gay is a choice, or at least that's what he told me during a heated discussion one time. I'm not really sure why straight people think gay people decided one day to be gay, or lesbian, or bi, or trans. Maybe they just can't understand the idea of being anything other than straight? That whole hetero-normative complex thing going on. *shrugs* I might be bi-sexual, but I don't live by my sexuality. It's just a part of who I am.
If being gay is not a choice or a mental disorder that is developed thru a person's life experiences...then why is their no scientific data that shows a gene or a brain malfunction to prove that being gay is NOT a choice. Can we detect that a person is going to be gay before they are born? What other traits are out of my hands? I just feel like the gay community would want to back up science if it could be proven. That way...society HAS to accept you. Im gna get shit for this but its a legit "?"
Thank you for this video. This is one topic that can get me going, simply because I think it is the root cause for so many of the problems homosexuals face. I don't know how many times I've talked to people and had them tell me they think being gay is a choice and then I have to educate them about the facts. I find for the most part people are just ignorant and don't understand because they don't have to go through it. Hopefully, this video can help some people understand this isn't a choice
Haha. I've often pondered that my gayness might have been because women annoy me (specifically, my mother kind of does sometimes). But kissing girls just didn't make me feel turned on at all. At all. The first time I kissed a guy in college, I felt those fireworks and it was honestly more of a sense of relief than anything! Like, "Oh, everything makes sense now! Great, I'm not asexual!" LOL. Great post, I do see the issues and I think it's tough to meet good guys. OK I'll shut up now! Hehe.
Preach, brother, preach! Also, you forgot to mention that being gay is a "pit" as regards to dating. I've yet to find a thriving "gay dating" scene if there is one... or go on many dates, and it seems like all the good guys live far away. Gay Murphy's Law? Other than that, pretty much spot on. From my earliest I can remember, I was "different"- didn't know the word 'gay' at age 7, 8, 9. Homosexuality is just as valid as hetero, there's no reason why it's a "choice" or worse, a "pathology".
This is me. I'm struggling with my sexuality (age 25) and this is one of the things I'm slowly realising. I didn't choose to be this way. unfortunately those closest to me, my family (christians) will never accept that truth. It's why I'm struggling with self acceptance.
Thank you John! I hate when people say that we are choosing to be gay. It's not a choice to be gay. You're born gay and the only thing you choose is to live your life out and proud or repress your feelings and deny who you truely are. I hate the word lifestyle as well. My life is no different than anyone else. It just happens to be with a man and not a woman. There is no difference at all and it really gets me when they use that term as if what I have is different. Love you guys! <3.....
@cherrydog9 I have ad I agree I think I would be a great asset to it. Though, I dont know how I feel about the American Government. All I ever see is things I do not like, and I am not sure if I would want to subject my being to all that negative energy. But, who knows...maybe one day I can see myself doing something like that.
Amen. I'm sure that all gay men would agree that at some point in their lives they wished nothing more than to be straight. But, all in all, I feel so happy and blessed to be gay. It's made me who I am!
Seeing this video made me think so I did some reading & video screening. People seem unable to differentiate between being gay and having gay sex. There are a lot of straight men who do gay pornography. People seem to think that the desire to have sex with members of the same sex is what makes us gay. THIS is the misconception. I am gay because I am EMOTIONALLY fulfilled in my same sex relationship. Sexuality is SO much more than a physical act. Unfortunately mainstream media doesn't get that.
@ravaboi22 This is great. You should totally make a video about this and make it a response to this video. It would be amazing of you and get the world out there. You bring up a very important dynamic to sexuality and I find it extremely fascinating. Thanks for you two cents.
I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
This was disturbing to watch...I felt, disrespected I guess. The point of this video was to inform that being gay is not a choice, but then you go on to give negative reasons as to why. Yea it might be a harder life for some (I've never run into any problems with it personally) but that makes you stronger. If I could choose, I would choose to be gay because I have become such a better, respectful, and stronger person. @disamjisa ...Best response I've seen yet. I agree 100%
@111086sr I agree with you that this video was a bit negative. I consintrated only on the harder, more negative aspects to being a gay human being and left out the more positive and blissful things. I only did this to shed light on it not being a choice. There are people who truly believe that it is, and so I thought if I were to make a video talking about the hardships of being gay, that they would understand why someone would never choice to go down that road.
@111086sr But, with that said, I am very happy to be gay and there are so many things about myself, and things I have in my life that I only have because I am gay and I wouldn't change for the world. I am stronger, more creative, I know who I am more, I feel like I can empathize more with others, and I care so much more about the balance of equality. I actually don't have any problems with my gayness either, but I know others do, and this is why I post what I post. Sorry if you felt disrespected
ok first off i respect your opinion and how you feel that being gay is not choice but in my opinion from my prospective i think that being gay (homosexual) is a choice because for one thing your parents cant control who you want to be if your parents are gay just for a example.. if they are and your parents inhase youto be homosexual i think thats wrong because you have choice from doing something its why we have rights if we choose to be straight we will or gay, etc....i respect your opinion
@Emily585Emily 2 problems you need to look at, 1- what is sexuality and how it works. 2. Many many parent do not raise kids to be gay- i dont even think any think that way, and if they did, wouldn't explain the many LGBT folks that are rejected by family. I suggest you re evaluate your opinion, its filled with flaws and disproven misunderstandings.
@leatopia i dint say parents raise their childern to be gay i was using a example as if two ladies who are toughether and have a little girl or boy you get my point.. and the kid would look at them seeing if thats how life may be when their little and so it progresses in their mind. I believe my opinion is right idgas if u like my opinion or not i got my rights (: so ya fuk u! '' i dont see a ring around my finger'' who tells me tht my opinion is right or wrong ^____^
@Emily585Emily just because you have an opinion doesnt make it correct or accurate. Sure its your legal opinion, but its a very stupid and misguided one at that, and yes there are stupid opinions. You said that you didnt say parents raise kids to be gay- yet thats exactly what you state for same sex parents, whom are Parents no diff than any other- A child raised in a gay home will see homosexuality as ok, because it is, and while they WONT "become" gay they will become more open to diff people.
@leatopia So your opinion is always right....bullshit!!!!XD someone needs to pull their head out of their ass and yes it is true iv seen it with my own eyes l: i have family members who are gay iam not against it i just think its not right i go by the bible and i think seeing my family members who are gay raising their childern as i see it from my PROSPECTIVE.. is wrong. weather you gaf or not idgad I BELIEVE MY OPINION IS RIGHT and man was meant for woman nothing else ((:
@movelea acuually they can be right or wrong einstein had he's theories and people some people dont agree with them to this day.. If you read the bible it says who among man vs man oe woman vs woman is on longer god's child they shall be among the devil's hands and will be burn in hell for iternatly and is a discrase to the lord. case close i proved my point [:
@Emily585Emily First off, those were theories and not opinions. Second, if ic CAN be right or wrong it isn't an opinion. For example: "Abortion is good" is an opinion, and isn't right or wrong because it's just how th person who said it feels. Arbortion causes death in a featus is a fact, and true.
@movelea firsto ff yes they are and yes agreeing to abortion or not is a opinion i could say i like smoking and my nabor tells me they hate it which is their opinion everyone in the world doesnt agree on the same thing its why we have war and its why we disagree with differnt things no one would give a damn about others opinion and idc about urs frankly.... i care about mine and believe in mine and i believe its correct weather you agree or not idrgad read the bible and theirs prove
@movelea i never said that you mentionned anything about the bible did i? no. im making a point that it says correctly that being gay is offinive to god he doesnt like he's childern to be with the same gener he made man to be with woman thats it case closed! he didnt make man to be with man and woman to be with woman it just doesnt work that way but unfortantlly people do it which idc iam not afended by it i just dont agree with it....
@Emily585Emily I confused by your comment, but I respect your opinion too. But, hun, trust me your sexuality isnt a choice, regardless of how much your parents teach you to be one way. I was taught to be st8 my entire life, and I am gayer then gay. ;)
@Couver87 sorry if i got you confused its better if i express my opinons/sayings etc.. in words or for say vids xP. anyways! well iam glad ur standing for what you believe in and iam all for gay pride i love u guys :D iam all friend for all . In my opinion i just think weather or not ur parents tell u to be straight etcv and you wish ot be gay etc.. i think its not a choice because your not born out of the blue to be it not tring ot be bitchy >.<. just how i see it but i respect ur opinion
A friend of mine posted this video on Facebook, and I wanted to personally remark here to tell you I agree. I don't see myself following you more in the future on this, but you hit some really great marks.
My mother tends to say that I am because someone else 'queered' me when I was 13. I gravitated to him because he was respectful of it -- not because I knew he was (how could I have) or because he knew I was (maybe he did, but out of compassion he stuck with me, I believe).
@russtops Well, maybe you should consider following one of my other videos I will post, because it talks about society and how some people think you can catch being gay. Its quite good, and then you could show it to your mother. LOL regardless, thanks for stopping by and commenting. Cheers.
@Couver87 You really summarized everything concisely in less than 2 minutes here, and I also applaud that. That's tight.
I have a friend whose grandparents believe that by being gay, I'm going to hell, but worse, I'm just going to track AIDS into the house (I'm going walk in and shed it on the carpet along with gayness), because they heard old people are at risk for catching it, and part of that is the media terrorism effect. They're further scared into discrimination. Adage: Fear paralyzes.
Can you not get married in the US? I was totally unaware of that, I thought that now it was like here in the Uk where you can.
There are so many civil partnership here be it, a guy and a guy or 2 females it's considered to be just the same as a wedding between a man and a woman to most people I know at least.
I don't think it matters if it is a choice or being gay is something you are born as. We live in a *supposedly* free country, therefore we should be allowed to engage in "the pursuit of happiness" as we see fit. I never get into conversations on whether or not being gay is biologic. I don't care. I will march to my own beat regardless of what anyone says.
great video john it's not a choice so we should embrace it !!! maybe 1 day gays well all have the same rights in this country as everybody else . keep fighting the good fight ;)
While it angers me that we are second class citizens under the law, I am a stronger more confident and aware individual because of it. And for that, I would not change even if I could. Instead, I choose to change society and how we are treated. In fact, I just got my employer to add LGBT protections to its anti-discrimination policies.
@natefrom828 I agree. I often think about what type of person I would have turned into if I were a heterosexual. And, then that makes me very happy that I am who I am.
@MDkid1 Exactly, and now that I am reading all these posts, I almost wish I would have made a small segment in my video talking about how its not just all physical sex that makes someones sexuality. Its being with that person emotionally too. I wouldn't be able to share myself emotionally like I do with another man, its just unnatural to me. So, good comment thanks for your two cents.
@awesomelyaware ask your boss when he/she chose to be straight. If anyone believes its a choice then they must also believe that everyone (including themselves, their parents, their grandma, etc.) is bisexual and can simply choose their sexuality, like their breakfast or clothes.
From age 7 when I first came out until age 19 when I really came out - Had I had the choice - I would have chosen to NOT be gay. I did not have that choice as I am Gay. Always have been - always will be - and extremely proud to be Gay. I can truthfully say to their god - thank you for all the young gay men and lesbian women speaking out on YouTube. LGBTQ
@kvnd2 I really don't think its something we are even supposed to think about. I truly believe within me that sexuality is something that humans have no control over. With that said, I do not think we are even supposed to ponder that decision. But, if I may, I wouldn't change anything about who I am, so I guess that means that if I had the choice I would choose to be gay. Blessings.
OMG love the topic, my boss who is also a really good friend of mine thinks that being gay is a choice. lol. I agree with you, why would we want to wake up and say "You know what today I want to take the tougher road in life" "I Guess i'll be gay"
@Couver87 No sir I did not say, I did not like your Video. My comment was not Intended to be rude. My comment mearly stated the fact that you do have a choice. Now do we need to take this any further....
hi. we should get married. in CT where I live since it is legal there.
Wacamgizmo 1 day ago
I have to say, being a gay male in a healthy homosexual relationship, that being gay can be a choice. My boyfriend and I both have the same views on homosexuality; we love each other 100%, however, we are both straight men as well. We are NOT bisexual though. We choice to be with men because their is no drama at the end of the night that there is with women. We don't fight or have arguments, we simply have debates. Anyway, I am just saying we do choose to be gay, not all gays do, but some do.
tybridge51 3 days ago
@tybridge51 If you can have sex with woman, and even feel sexually attracted to them, you are not gay.
Ranokian 3 days ago
Part 2: I frankly blame the Pastors. Many are filling these offices, but did God call them into their office? Most do not carry the anointing to break these yokes and or curses. That's how serious it is! Because you're ordained by some theology school or religious affiliation doesn't mean God called you into that office. You will know them by their fruit...abundant fruit or not at all! Their job is to TEACH how to be free of unrepented generational sins, as far back as 10 generations!!
1LonePuma 4 days ago
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Actually, when a person has a propensity for a particular immoral sin, it’s generally recognized as a curse, which can go back as far as 10 generations. When you have parents who never knew or served God, the sins of their 4-fathers remain in their lineage or family tree. As Christian parents, we’re to break these curses, but few so called pastors are aware of curses. Even so, God wants to break these curses if we go to him, that's what salvation is all about, destroying our sin.
Best regards
1LonePuma 4 days ago
Actually, when a person has a propensity for a particular immoral sin, it’s generally recognized as a curse, which can go back as far as 10 generations. When you have parents who never knew or served God, the sins of their 4-fathers remain in their lineage or family tree. As Christian parents, we’re to break these curses, but few so called pastors are aware of curses. Even so, God wants to break these curses if we go to him, that's what salvation is all about, destroying our sin.
Best regards
1LonePuma 4 days ago
i want to have your adopted babies. ^__^
NickNakSoWhack 1 week ago
Of course you didn't choose to be gay; you're among the lucky ones to be CHOSEN!
TheCynedd 1 week ago
@Nidoqu33n12 I'd like to hear your theory.
speciauxability 2 weeks ago
Okay,I do not agree with this one, most things I agree with but,I do not really agree with this video,I respect your thought's and opinions;however,I have some theories on this,but it's all merely conjectures,supported somewhat by facts but very complex.I'm still working on it but I haven't gotten all the information. I still respect your opinion like I said before but I just have a different view on it,if you'd like to hear it,I'll tell you but....if,& only if you listen with an open mind
Nidoqu33n12 2 weeks ago
@Couver87 yeah plus on top of that if gay was a choice why are there people pretending to be straight?
vexion15 2 weeks ago
Excellent! But ... not "30 to 50 years" [together] ... I have friends that have been partnered for 63 (sixty-three) years and counting! My Partner and I are only 14 years ... but planning on a lot more! Peace ...
keywestjj 2 weeks ago
I tell my husband this, time and time again but he still thinks that many of you are gay because it is fashionable now. I've told him everything, that you can tell a child is gay even before he knows what it means and the other arguments you mention. Another of his arguments is that gays usually have a weak or missing father figure. When I tell him that my gay uncle was brought up exactly the same as his 6 siblings, he still isn't convinced. Argh...
Makeupzised 2 weeks ago
huh. That's a great way to describe it. actually, those kinds of examples are eerily similar to the ones I use when explaining my bisexuality to belligerent people :D well said!
OneJumpFromEden 2 weeks ago
Well, actually, the term "deviant" implies being something that is considered against the norm, so therefore gay is deviant. Although, I get your point, and agree with you otherwise. However, as a sociologist I wanted to point out what the word meant.
leathandcasey 2 weeks ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Finally someone who understands this world!
hstooobs 2 weeks ago
great video :) well said
lukejwohlgemut 2 weeks ago
The only part of being gay that is a choice is if you finally accept yourself and choose to come out
2mysterious8 2 weeks ago
@2mysterious8 Not for everyone.
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
People always tell me oh blah blah theres no possible way that you were born that way but honestly i was. Ive been crushing on my male teachers since like age 7 (: so doesnt that tell you ive been this way my whole life?
BrybryBarbie 3 weeks ago
@BrybryBarbie No it says you are attracted for some unknown reason to your male teacher. Maybe it's your DNA or maybe its chemicals or even some traumatic childhood experience. It's like saying people are born attracted to red heads or muscular twinks with bubble-butts.
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
EXACTLY JOHN!!!!!! I hate when pplsay that it was a choice and they usually don't have complete significant arguments for their false accusation! this is the exact argument that i throw at everyone who believes it's a choice. to which they always have to respond with a religious answer where they have already lost the battle. great video, short and sweet. can't wait for the rest...
BeBreezyTV 3 weeks ago
@BeBreezyTV It isn't the behavior that is a choice; it is the lifestyle.
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
@benisturning30 so your saying being gay is a choice?
BeBreezyTV 2 weeks ago
@BeBreezyTV It really, when you think about it, isn't that simple. It even perpetuates the idea that this sexuality isn't complex.
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
one more jew zombi. no jews-no gays.
dudeFromBucovina 3 weeks ago
WHY WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO BE GAY? so you can make your stupid little you tube movie, and have a so called purpose in life! Without your choice of being "gay", you would just be an average Joe, nothing special about you! NEWSFLASH, you can have a purpose in life, without having to pave the way for gays! IT'S YOUR CHOICE, AND YOU WILL BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR CHOICE!
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@sitbackforawhile "you can have a purpose in life, without having to pave the way for gays!"
Yes, but he wants this to be his purpose in life (only one of many purposes he has).
movelea 3 weeks ago
Decision or not, you have the right to be it and I don't think Gays are second class citizens.
awaseniu 3 weeks ago
I used to say this (that no one choses to be gay) to people, but then a gay friend of mine got really pissed at me saying that I'm ashamed to be gay - which is not true AT ALL. Kinda happy to see someone else say it, I haven't said it in months since he reacted that way, so thanks I guess :)
longcroft187 3 weeks ago
Why is this argument always used? It is a totally illogical argument. Being bullied has nothing to do with the choice to live a homosexual lifestyle. Gay is a lifestyle choice; therefore it is a choice to be gay.
benisturning30 3 weeks ago
@benisturning30 Is i really a lifestyle choice? Is being straight also a lifestyle choice? I suppose if you thought being gay were than to you it would be. But I digress. If it is a choice, why don't the ones who arre bullied and harassed change? The logical response would be that they either can't, don't know how, or don't want to. and thus, the choice to change is eliminated, and the entire choice dssapears.
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea I can choose to think I'm a good singer and audition for American Idol; this has nothing to do with the possibility that I can be rejected. I am a homosexual and I am attracted to men but I must choose to have sex. That is a lifestyle choice. I can also be hungry but must I overeat? It is semantics. I pointing out how the definitions of words have changed in meaning, This needs too end.
benisturning30 3 weeks ago
@benisturning30 Yu JUST said that the person in question is already homosexual, so it ISN'T a lifestyle choice. The lifestyle choice, I suppose, would be the choic of how much sex you wat to have. The gay persopn could even choose to be celibic, that is a lifestyle choice, but being gay, and I mean BEING gay; not having sex with the same gender, is a part of you that you can't change. Why do you think this needs to end?
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea I don't consider myself gay; I am homosexual. These are totally separate meanings. Look up the definition of lifestyle. And the etymology of the word "gay" means something totally different; therefore, it is slang and not really a term that describes homosexual sex. We men use the term to describe fem straight guys also. You realize some fem guys are straight? But to say they are gay does not mean they fuck other men. Your argument is invalid.
benisturning30 3 weeks ago
@benisturning30 Gay means happy by the dictionary. It means homosexual (usually referring to homosexul males) as slang. fem is the word you are looking for to describe someone feminine. Also, to say someone is homosexual doesn't mean that they have homosexual sex either, just that they are attracted to the same gender.
movelea 2 weeks ago
@movelea This is the problem with slang. guys say a guy is gay if he's "different". It doesn't just mean one thing. Are you a woman or a man?
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
@benisturning30 That has absolutely no bearing on this situation.
movelea 2 weeks ago
@movelea What has not bearing?
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
@movelea My gender, which you asked me to tell you.
movelea 2 weeks ago
See, if I had a choice, I would be a normal 14 year old girl, but Im not, because I feel like a boy. It wasnt my choice.
GlamNationIsUs 3 weeks ago
@GlamNationIsUs Look on the bright side. You're facing a future with far more comfortable footwear than your girly counterparts.
AstoriaRego 3 weeks ago
@AstoriaRego true. XD
GlamNationIsUs 3 weeks ago
2 Timothy 3 1This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
JayAnonymousTV 3 weeks ago
i am bisexual and i'm proud to be WHO I AM!
yay!
haha
awesomeness2571 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Couver87
Is pedophilia a choice???
JayAnonymousTV 3 weeks ago
a-fucking-men. amen amen amen
vegasbaby92 3 weeks ago
Great video, but the title threw me off: Wouldn't the misconception be that being gay IS a choice?
chpoof 3 weeks ago
@chpoof You're right chpoof, but the fact that it reads 'Being gay is not a choice' is probably a good idea for those extremely dumb Youtubers out there who don't know what a misconception is and who would simply read 'Being gay is a choice' and go 'oooh this dude is talking sense!'
hazard19 3 weeks ago
@chpoof You are totally right! I am going to re title this video and make sure I write the correct form on the future ones. Thanks!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@Couver87 Thanks back at ya! I look forward to seeing your future videos. :-)
chpoof 3 weeks ago
good points.
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Yes it's sad to see how many people think it is a choice. Well to people who think so, I ask at what point in your life did you decide your were going to be whatever you are? Did you wake one morning and weigh all the options and settle for your current sexuality? Did someone teach you? Or is there a file you can download off the Internet somewhere? Please back your answer up with convincing evidence not just a story about some event that may or may not have happened. Thanks!
n8e1 3 weeks ago
@n8e1 I was infact taughtabout homosexuality.For the first ten yars of my life, I didn't even know anything but straigh existed, so I thought I was straight. Now, however, after being taught about bisexuality, transgender and all other sexual orientations, I know that I am not straight, as my previous actions and thoughts would seem to show. I am asexual, and when I realized that it seemed almost like I was weighing the options. I said "This is what I am, it makes sense now"
movelea 3 weeks ago
What did your conservative parents say about this? I honestly am not hearing this argument enough man.
gnr2391 3 weeks ago
They know its not a choice. They know its not a disease but as long as they keep the myth alive, it gives them the illusion of power. Washington State just passed a bill to legalize marriage equality thats 7 states out of the 50. The obese governor of NJ--I mean really is he that threatened by us--claims he will never let a similar bill pass. I"m here I'm queer and I'm pagan.
kla631 3 weeks ago
watching this made me wanna send this video to all the homophobic people I know.
but I know it'd be pointless since they'd just reply with "But the bible says blah blah."
iwannadrinkacupoftea 3 weeks ago
@iwannadrinkacupoftea
DO IT ANYWAY!!
gnr2391 3 weeks ago
As eloquent and straight-talking as always :) PREACH!!! :D
strangebob2007 3 weeks ago
Great video and you made several points! keep it couver and thanks again ^^
fatlo971 3 weeks ago in playlist Autres vidéos de Couver87
Good points, Thank You!
JoshuaaRyann 3 weeks ago
Couv, it's about time that an intelligent and articulate gay person stood up and told it like it is. You're making the videos that I should have begun making years ago here. Don't ask. I just haven't. At least not yet. John, you're a great man. Thank you.
cjay2 3 weeks ago
I completely agree Omg. But i Feel like Being a Gay Male is much more Unnacepted in Society then Lesbians, But either way. Its Unnacceptable for any straight Person to claim its a Choice, It bothers me when people Argue something there not educated it. It just proves how Niave and stupid they really are. How can u claim to understand what makes a Homosexual a Homosexual when youve never expereinced it. Couver Yuu Inspire me <3.
ThePazzazz 3 weeks ago 2
It's a choice...
TheSuperpuppie 3 weeks ago
@TheSuperpuppie Could you please tell me how youknow, because if you have solid evidence, that would change everything.
movelea 3 weeks ago
I dont think a gay person woke up one morning and said "Think I'll be gay" and I don't know if you could reverse a gay person. So I am not totally against the idea that being gay is not a choice. But if it is not a choice, then what else is not a choice? Are all my personality traits made up before I was born? Society used to be attracted to pale & larger ppl, now its tan & skinny. If you are gay and have a kid, what are the chances of him being gay? Ppl say you're born gay...well...why? how?
DPMorris27 3 weeks ago
@DPMorris27 I don't think thatit's you are born gay. It's like nature vs nurtur, and being gay comes more from experiences than actual genes. I'm not saying that someone"raises" children gay, buthat their environnement influences them untill pubety, and then they are either gay,straight Whatever.
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea and that is total Bull-shhhht i was raised in a loving family in an non-gay environment i didn't knew what gay was until i discovered that i was one and researched on the internet what was it that was happening with me...because i saw around me when i was little only boy X girl... everywhere and when they were trying to get a girl in lets say primary school like 5th grade...i was watching the boys in my class...i found out that i liked looking at them...so tell me how isit nat Vs nurtur
FrozenUsagi 3 weeks ago
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FrozenUsagi 3 weeks ago
@FrozenUsagi You don't have to be raised in a gay environnment to have nature influence you like that. And, infact, Not all adopted children of gay couples turn out gay, so that argument has no merit.
Second, I stand by peole notbeing "born gay" a in, it isn't in their genes. The same way thet your personality isn't in your genes. I'm not saying that youchoose to be gay, I'm notsaying you're born gay. It's just something tht happens, the same goes for being straight.
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@movelea i most certainly didn't chose a life where i got bullied or i can't go with my bf in town holding our hands or anything any kind gesture of love u cant show...where str8 people trow their sexuality in ur face every day...u can see riding the buss str8 couples making out and no one cares... (i dont say that u should do this in public...) but it would be nice to be able to give the kiss good-bye or an intimate hug when u meet/say bye-bye ...so dear Movelea...beforeUwrite smth think:P
FrozenUsagi 3 weeks ago
@FrozenUsagi I didn't say that you chose that life, I infact, said the opposite.
movelea 3 weeks ago
It really is true, we don't choose to be gay, we are simply born that (see Born this way by Lady Gaga)
supasexykitten 3 weeks ago
I actually have a friend who thinks being gay is a choice, or at least that's what he told me during a heated discussion one time. I'm not really sure why straight people think gay people decided one day to be gay, or lesbian, or bi, or trans. Maybe they just can't understand the idea of being anything other than straight? That whole hetero-normative complex thing going on. *shrugs* I might be bi-sexual, but I don't live by my sexuality. It's just a part of who I am.
Bradley8787 3 weeks ago
If being gay is not a choice or a mental disorder that is developed thru a person's life experiences...then why is their no scientific data that shows a gene or a brain malfunction to prove that being gay is NOT a choice. Can we detect that a person is going to be gay before they are born? What other traits are out of my hands? I just feel like the gay community would want to back up science if it could be proven. That way...society HAS to accept you. Im gna get shit for this but its a legit "?"
DPMorris27 3 weeks ago
Exceptionally *Awesome* Video!.....Right-On!!! :-)
smurfit24 3 weeks ago
short and to the point..love it..posting to fb..
Trippleg1993 3 weeks ago
Thank you for this video. This is one topic that can get me going, simply because I think it is the root cause for so many of the problems homosexuals face. I don't know how many times I've talked to people and had them tell me they think being gay is a choice and then I have to educate them about the facts. I find for the most part people are just ignorant and don't understand because they don't have to go through it. Hopefully, this video can help some people understand this isn't a choice
Darthbunny11 3 weeks ago
Haha. I've often pondered that my gayness might have been because women annoy me (specifically, my mother kind of does sometimes). But kissing girls just didn't make me feel turned on at all. At all. The first time I kissed a guy in college, I felt those fireworks and it was honestly more of a sense of relief than anything! Like, "Oh, everything makes sense now! Great, I'm not asexual!" LOL. Great post, I do see the issues and I think it's tough to meet good guys. OK I'll shut up now! Hehe.
divita711 3 weeks ago
@divita711 And what, praytell,is bad about being asexual?
movelea 3 weeks ago
Preach, brother, preach! Also, you forgot to mention that being gay is a "pit" as regards to dating. I've yet to find a thriving "gay dating" scene if there is one... or go on many dates, and it seems like all the good guys live far away. Gay Murphy's Law? Other than that, pretty much spot on. From my earliest I can remember, I was "different"- didn't know the word 'gay' at age 7, 8, 9. Homosexuality is just as valid as hetero, there's no reason why it's a "choice" or worse, a "pathology".
divita711 3 weeks ago
Everytime I see a video about this misconception, I am... shocked to see how many people still think it IS a choice... ughhhh, seriously people.
GayGHvain87 3 weeks ago 10
@GayGHvain87 Me too!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
you are right on. i didn;t chose to be gay. but i knew i like guys from an early age. didn;t understand it then but it took years for me to come out.
masterbearar 3 weeks ago
A FRIKIN MEN! ;P
Variance83 3 weeks ago
Very well put: gayness! love it
FonZ19912010 3 weeks ago
Preach it, Brother! Amen!!
CatotheCensor1 3 weeks ago
good start - looking forward to the others
willbande 3 weeks ago
I love you.
TheThunderDragoon 3 weeks ago
Great vid
wxhalloween 3 weeks ago
This is me. I'm struggling with my sexuality (age 25) and this is one of the things I'm slowly realising. I didn't choose to be this way. unfortunately those closest to me, my family (christians) will never accept that truth. It's why I'm struggling with self acceptance.
roadtou 3 weeks ago
uff-da. I am gonna go to bed now but I'll be back to comment in the morning... or afternoon... I promise, John. I won't forget!
divita711 3 weeks ago
Thank you John! I hate when people say that we are choosing to be gay. It's not a choice to be gay. You're born gay and the only thing you choose is to live your life out and proud or repress your feelings and deny who you truely are. I hate the word lifestyle as well. My life is no different than anyone else. It just happens to be with a man and not a woman. There is no difference at all and it really gets me when they use that term as if what I have is different. Love you guys! <3.....
GBEAR525 3 weeks ago
εεε πες τα δικέ μου...
pepermint26 3 weeks ago
You're so great.
I'd give you a million thumbs up and a hug if I could, because all of what you've just said was spot on.
RosieLovesMandorks 3 weeks ago
couv, have you ever thought about getting into politics? i think you would make us all proud.
thumbs up
cherrydog9 3 weeks ago
@cherrydog9 I have ad I agree I think I would be a great asset to it. Though, I dont know how I feel about the American Government. All I ever see is things I do not like, and I am not sure if I would want to subject my being to all that negative energy. But, who knows...maybe one day I can see myself doing something like that.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Excellent start to this series. You are amazing.
Hugs
HotMissa 3 weeks ago
Excellent video; Thank-You.
TheCynedd 3 weeks ago
Amen. I'm sure that all gay men would agree that at some point in their lives they wished nothing more than to be straight. But, all in all, I feel so happy and blessed to be gay. It's made me who I am!
Jessolor 3 weeks ago
@Jessolor Me too!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Seeing this video made me think so I did some reading & video screening. People seem unable to differentiate between being gay and having gay sex. There are a lot of straight men who do gay pornography. People seem to think that the desire to have sex with members of the same sex is what makes us gay. THIS is the misconception. I am gay because I am EMOTIONALLY fulfilled in my same sex relationship. Sexuality is SO much more than a physical act. Unfortunately mainstream media doesn't get that.
ravaboi22 3 weeks ago
@ravaboi22 This is great. You should totally make a video about this and make it a response to this video. It would be amazing of you and get the world out there. You bring up a very important dynamic to sexuality and I find it extremely fascinating. Thanks for you two cents.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Wow my ad was about being a mormon....wow....
PinaColada4645 3 weeks ago
@PinaColada4645 mine was about christian mingle:S
702timothy 3 weeks ago
@702timothy I always find it ironic at some of the Add's I get on my videos. :-/
Couver87 3 weeks ago
I big THANK YOU! I'm saving a link to this on my computer so I can show it to everyone who constantly asks me why I chose to be gay. <3
Colt3792 3 weeks ago
Apparently Cynthia Nixon disagrees.
trisshandy 3 weeks ago
@trisshandy She recanted her comment and corrected her statement and apologized.
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I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
billiejoemhfan 3 weeks ago
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I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
billiejoemhfan 3 weeks ago
I like this and yes, I'm straight. I don't see why it's my right or anyone else's to judge someone else's lifestyle. We're all the same, we have one life to live so why should we limit anyone's happiness, well being, or families.
billiejoemhfan 3 weeks ago
This was disturbing to watch...I felt, disrespected I guess. The point of this video was to inform that being gay is not a choice, but then you go on to give negative reasons as to why. Yea it might be a harder life for some (I've never run into any problems with it personally) but that makes you stronger. If I could choose, I would choose to be gay because I have become such a better, respectful, and stronger person. @disamjisa ...Best response I've seen yet. I agree 100%
111086sr 3 weeks ago
@111086sr I agree with you that this video was a bit negative. I consintrated only on the harder, more negative aspects to being a gay human being and left out the more positive and blissful things. I only did this to shed light on it not being a choice. There are people who truly believe that it is, and so I thought if I were to make a video talking about the hardships of being gay, that they would understand why someone would never choice to go down that road.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@111086sr But, with that said, I am very happy to be gay and there are so many things about myself, and things I have in my life that I only have because I am gay and I wouldn't change for the world. I am stronger, more creative, I know who I am more, I feel like I can empathize more with others, and I care so much more about the balance of equality. I actually don't have any problems with my gayness either, but I know others do, and this is why I post what I post. Sorry if you felt disrespected
Couver87 3 weeks ago
haha he sounds really pissed off
MrDohoanggiap1412 3 weeks ago
@MrDohoanggiap1412 A little!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
I absolutely loved this video.
LarrysLife25 3 weeks ago
@LarrysLife25 Thanks
Couver87 3 weeks ago
ok first off i respect your opinion and how you feel that being gay is not choice but in my opinion from my prospective i think that being gay (homosexual) is a choice because for one thing your parents cant control who you want to be if your parents are gay just for a example.. if they are and your parents inhase youto be homosexual i think thats wrong because you have choice from doing something its why we have rights if we choose to be straight we will or gay, etc....i respect your opinion
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily 2 problems you need to look at, 1- what is sexuality and how it works. 2. Many many parent do not raise kids to be gay- i dont even think any think that way, and if they did, wouldn't explain the many LGBT folks that are rejected by family. I suggest you re evaluate your opinion, its filled with flaws and disproven misunderstandings.
leatopia 3 weeks ago
@leatopia i dint say parents raise their childern to be gay i was using a example as if two ladies who are toughether and have a little girl or boy you get my point.. and the kid would look at them seeing if thats how life may be when their little and so it progresses in their mind. I believe my opinion is right idgas if u like my opinion or not i got my rights (: so ya fuk u! '' i dont see a ring around my finger'' who tells me tht my opinion is right or wrong ^____^
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily just because you have an opinion doesnt make it correct or accurate. Sure its your legal opinion, but its a very stupid and misguided one at that, and yes there are stupid opinions. You said that you didnt say parents raise kids to be gay- yet thats exactly what you state for same sex parents, whom are Parents no diff than any other- A child raised in a gay home will see homosexuality as ok, because it is, and while they WONT "become" gay they will become more open to diff people.
leatopia 3 weeks ago
@leatopia So your opinion is always right....bullshit!!!!XD someone needs to pull their head out of their ass and yes it is true iv seen it with my own eyes l: i have family members who are gay iam not against it i just think its not right i go by the bible and i think seeing my family members who are gay raising their childern as i see it from my PROSPECTIVE.. is wrong. weather you gaf or not idgad I BELIEVE MY OPINION IS RIGHT and man was meant for woman nothing else ((:
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily I'm prett sure that opinions can't be right or wrong, only stated facts can.
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea acuually they can be right or wrong einstein had he's theories and people some people dont agree with them to this day.. If you read the bible it says who among man vs man oe woman vs woman is on longer god's child they shall be among the devil's hands and will be burn in hell for iternatly and is a discrase to the lord. case close i proved my point [:
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily First off, those were theories and not opinions. Second, if ic CAN be right or wrong it isn't an opinion. For example: "Abortion is good" is an opinion, and isn't right or wrong because it's just how th person who said it feels. Arbortion causes death in a featus is a fact, and true.
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea firsto ff yes they are and yes agreeing to abortion or not is a opinion i could say i like smoking and my nabor tells me they hate it which is their opinion everyone in the world doesnt agree on the same thing its why we have war and its why we disagree with differnt things no one would give a damn about others opinion and idc about urs frankly.... i care about mine and believe in mine and i believe its correct weather you agree or not idrgad read the bible and theirs prove
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily If you say you like moking, that is a stated fact. I'm not trying to demean the Bible, I never even mentionned it.
movelea 3 weeks ago
@movelea i never said that you mentionned anything about the bible did i? no. im making a point that it says correctly that being gay is offinive to god he doesnt like he's childern to be with the same gener he made man to be with woman thats it case closed! he didnt make man to be with man and woman to be with woman it just doesnt work that way but unfortantlly people do it which idc iam not afended by it i just dont agree with it....
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
@Emily585Emily I confused by your comment, but I respect your opinion too. But, hun, trust me your sexuality isnt a choice, regardless of how much your parents teach you to be one way. I was taught to be st8 my entire life, and I am gayer then gay. ;)
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@Couver87 sorry if i got you confused its better if i express my opinons/sayings etc.. in words or for say vids xP. anyways! well iam glad ur standing for what you believe in and iam all for gay pride i love u guys :D iam all friend for all . In my opinion i just think weather or not ur parents tell u to be straight etcv and you wish ot be gay etc.. i think its not a choice because your not born out of the blue to be it not tring ot be bitchy >.<. just how i see it but i respect ur opinion
Emily585Emily 3 weeks ago
GO! GO! GO!!!!!! Very helpful content. A wonderful way to kick off this series!
lloyd614 3 weeks ago
A friend of mine posted this video on Facebook, and I wanted to personally remark here to tell you I agree. I don't see myself following you more in the future on this, but you hit some really great marks.
My mother tends to say that I am because someone else 'queered' me when I was 13. I gravitated to him because he was respectful of it -- not because I knew he was (how could I have) or because he knew I was (maybe he did, but out of compassion he stuck with me, I believe).
russtops 3 weeks ago
@russtops Well, maybe you should consider following one of my other videos I will post, because it talks about society and how some people think you can catch being gay. Its quite good, and then you could show it to your mother. LOL regardless, thanks for stopping by and commenting. Cheers.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@Couver87 You really summarized everything concisely in less than 2 minutes here, and I also applaud that. That's tight.
I have a friend whose grandparents believe that by being gay, I'm going to hell, but worse, I'm just going to track AIDS into the house (I'm going walk in and shed it on the carpet along with gayness), because they heard old people are at risk for catching it, and part of that is the media terrorism effect. They're further scared into discrimination. Adage: Fear paralyzes.
russtops 3 weeks ago
Wow
aurestest 3 weeks ago
Can you not get married in the US? I was totally unaware of that, I thought that now it was like here in the Uk where you can.
There are so many civil partnership here be it, a guy and a guy or 2 females it's considered to be just the same as a wedding between a man and a woman to most people I know at least.
TheSouthOfTheCity 3 weeks ago
Actually I did make a choice, I decided to stop living a lie. Your orientation is a gift from God.!
ncstu 3 weeks ago
@ncstu I agree.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Of course it is not a choice! Who would choose gayness in a world "made for and by the heterosexuals"?
Anyway, if it is a choice, somebody replied for me ;)
Gay, and happy to belong to a "minority"
Jorge
edar43 3 weeks ago
I don't think it matters if it is a choice or being gay is something you are born as. We live in a *supposedly* free country, therefore we should be allowed to engage in "the pursuit of happiness" as we see fit. I never get into conversations on whether or not being gay is biologic. I don't care. I will march to my own beat regardless of what anyone says.
feriwarlock 3 weeks ago
great video john it's not a choice so we should embrace it !!! maybe 1 day gays well all have the same rights in this country as everybody else . keep fighting the good fight ;)
SuperWillard89 3 weeks ago
@SuperWillard89 Maybe! I hope so, now wouldnt that be great!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Way to go... Awesome video. Can't wait for the rest.
Netti2nite 3 weeks ago
While it angers me that we are second class citizens under the law, I am a stronger more confident and aware individual because of it. And for that, I would not change even if I could. Instead, I choose to change society and how we are treated. In fact, I just got my employer to add LGBT protections to its anti-discrimination policies.
natefrom828 3 weeks ago 2
@natefrom828 I agree. I often think about what type of person I would have turned into if I were a heterosexual. And, then that makes me very happy that I am who I am.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
given the choice i would most definitely chose being gay but its not a choice so we live with it
deromo1 3 weeks ago
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Being with a man just "feels right" can't really explain it any other way sorry, and neither should I have to!
MDkid1 3 weeks ago
Being with a man just "feels right" can't really explain it any other way sorry, and neither should I!
MDkid1 3 weeks ago
@MDkid1 Exactly, and now that I am reading all these posts, I almost wish I would have made a small segment in my video talking about how its not just all physical sex that makes someones sexuality. Its being with that person emotionally too. I wouldn't be able to share myself emotionally like I do with another man, its just unnatural to me. So, good comment thanks for your two cents.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@awesomelyaware ask your boss when he/she chose to be straight. If anyone believes its a choice then they must also believe that everyone (including themselves, their parents, their grandma, etc.) is bisexual and can simply choose their sexuality, like their breakfast or clothes.
mdstudio 3 weeks ago
Love to all my gay brothers and sisters around the world! :) We are amazing, strong and wise people!
TheMamadeira 3 weeks ago 3
@TheMamadeira AMEN!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
Great video and so very true.
mdstudio 3 weeks ago
From age 7 when I first came out until age 19 when I really came out - Had I had the choice - I would have chosen to NOT be gay. I did not have that choice as I am Gay. Always have been - always will be - and extremely proud to be Gay. I can truthfully say to their god - thank you for all the young gay men and lesbian women speaking out on YouTube. LGBTQ
mpmikemp 3 weeks ago
@disamjisa Amen brother!!! Or sister!!!!
lovegaga4ever98 3 weeks ago
If I could chose I don't think I would choose to be gay.....
kvnd2 3 weeks ago
@kvnd2 I really don't think its something we are even supposed to think about. I truly believe within me that sexuality is something that humans have no control over. With that said, I do not think we are even supposed to ponder that decision. But, if I may, I wouldn't change anything about who I am, so I guess that means that if I had the choice I would choose to be gay. Blessings.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
OMG love the topic, my boss who is also a really good friend of mine thinks that being gay is a choice. lol. I agree with you, why would we want to wake up and say "You know what today I want to take the tougher road in life" "I Guess i'll be gay"
AwesomelyAware 3 weeks ago
@AwesomelyAware You should show him my video. He seems like he needs a bit of a reality check in my opinion.
Couver87 3 weeks ago
You have the choice to not make any more video's....
MrGroovy888 3 weeks ago
@MrGroovy888 And you have the choice to not make rude comments and watch videos that you dont like Mr. Groovy!
Couver87 3 weeks ago
@Couver87 No sir I did not say, I did not like your Video. My comment was not Intended to be rude. My comment mearly stated the fact that you do have a choice. Now do we need to take this any further....
MrGroovy888 3 weeks ago
Hey John, My standard reply to those who tell me "it's a choice"? I simply ask THEM to "make the choice to be gay for ONE WEEK... and ACT ON IT!"
That usually stops the conversation dead in its' tracks! =)
Keep up the GREAT work.
lwiesmann 3 weeks ago