I need your advice, Is this normal, What should I DO?

[russtex]

Yes...it is normal.

[levy3poop]

i watched 2 other videos you've posted, you're a real cool, and real person. you're not putting on a fake smile to make shitheads not question you. you keep it real. you're really cool and i think you h

[Danoneeno]

Part 2: I've got every peace from everywhere, and I made from those peases a very grate thing. My oun personality. Every where now I'm different from the others, but at the same time I'm the girl thet can be from them. I hope you understood what I ment :) However, Seth, I wish you a good luck in this complicated choice ;)

[Danoneeno]

Part 1:Think very careful before do something. Fallow your hart, what does it say?

I think you must go back, regroup your mind, untile you'll got the answer. I think that a man must go ahead, but musn't forget his past.

You know, when I was 6 years old, my family used to remove from Syria to Russia. It was veeery hard for me, 'coz it was everything new: lnguage, people, culture, religions... "The way how people think" as you said. But now I don't feel sorry for that now, you know what did I do?

[martinevans]

Go home is my opinion.

Yet you know in your own heart what is right, dont you Seth.

[midtownjohn]

Moving to a new place is stressful. It takes 3- 6 months for it all to come together. It does not happen overnite or even a month.

Try a staffing agency where you can get a customer service job or hospitals have plenty of jobs. Wear a suit on each interview and wite a thank you note after each interview.

A two day break from your friend will be good to clear your head. Life is all about change.

Things will get better.

[oinkymo]

Yup, getting homesick is normal. You cannot run away from yourself. So say if you're depressed to begin with, moving to a new place won't fix it. Did the person ask you to move there? If no, then he has zero obligation. If yes, then maybe and just maybe, he has 3% obligation to show you around but that's about it. He didn't put a gun on your head. And even if he promised you a million things, people can lie or change their mind so don't count on it.

[CrypticalK]

Yes, everything you said is "normal". I noticed things that you thought but didn't say when you were making this video.

Seems your living arrangements are not ideal.. the lack of a base - a place you think of as your new home.. the lack of your own space & time.. the feeling of being crowded & like you've got to be cool for other people.. ??

Take some time alone.. maybe go for a drive/walk, discover your new area, find somewhere nice to stop and think about things.

[CrypticalK]

I hope you get your head around things & everything works out well for you.

[mach5p1]

The man who belives he should a CEO becouse he doesn't want to have to work on a factory floor. Start a flower shop, maybe.

[jeepdriver86]

hope everything works out for u buddy

[Seth38101]

thanks bro. I just need to hang in there

[rew3737]

ok, so I watched it again and I get the impression you are blaming someone else for how you are feeling right now. Please don't blame someone else. You made the decision to move. Just remind yourself of this and why you actually did it. Just take a LONG walk, don't go away for a few days. Walks always help me. :)

[Seth38101]

I not once blamed anyone for my feelings. Im just confused. I need to post my own vid response to this

[rew3737]

Thanks for making the video response and clearing things up.  I know how it feels when you first make a big move. When I first left my little country town in Georgia I moved to upstate new york! Man! What a change that was, lol. I went through all the things you are going through now.

[rew3737]

Moving is one of the most stressful things you can do in your life. Just give it time and realize it for what it is. You are feeling all these emotions only because of teh move. O...lean on your special friend a little! :) I am sure that will help!

[tallderektoronto]

Dude, what about service or retail or even administration jobs ? Do they have a temp agency close by cause they can be a good foot in the door ya know !

[Dhampir101980]

hey, seth

Take sometime for yourself and figure out what makes you happy. go visit your other friend and get a fresh point of view on things. What your feling is normal,it's fear of the unknown/change. You'll feel better once you find your footing.

Best of luck,

you always have us on youtube.

[gamemaster014]

don't worry you will get through this and were all gonna help you out:)

[scareykatt]

we can't count on someone for help all the time either.

i was homeless for a while, thanx to the ex.

i signed up for some housing.

few months later, I got my own place.

I have the same apartment over four years now.

sometimes, we need to hit rock bottom and start from scratch.

[tallderektoronto]

Ya well it's like Wynnona sings in her song, "When you hit rock bottom ya get knowhere to go but up or sideways ! " it's so true aint it ? keep your spirits up all of ya!

[IAGuy06]

My best suggestion about the job part is maybe think of some of your strengths... jobs you might be able to do but never thought about before. There are a lot of jobs that you might not think of that YOU CAN DO you just hadn't thought of it before because you are concentrated on one area. (?)

[IAGuy06]

Yes, emotions tend to spread. If you are upset and short with people, unless they recognize there is a problem and try to help, they will return with the same. I really think you need to talk to him/them about it. Tell them what's going on, you might be surprised. If they are unwilling to help you through this transition period, maybe you should move out for at least a little while.

Take care of yourself Andrew. My message box is always open.

[Texasred63]

Wow, ok here is my take seth, first welcome to Adulthood!! Second did you do this for YOU or for others? You keep say it was a great sacafice on your part to be there, why is it a sacafice? You have to do what is right for you not others, that will come later.

[claushah]

First, my Dear, who did you sacrifice for? I would hope that a majority of this was for yourself. The feelings that you are going through sound totally normal, I remember moving from everyone and everything I knew, I really went through a grieving cycle. Also, remember, that it is also a change for him, step back, remember that you are both having a change right now. Remember what it was, and why. What does your gut say?...Really, what is the first voice? My thoughts are with you.

[chkdsskt]

you are welcome, I lost so much time waiting for people to be as they should be, but it is hard. may be they dont make it meanly, they just are too busy on themselves they dont have chance to see what one needs. BTW, a girlfriend can be really useful in this cases, LOL, for real, a person who you can run to when things seems to fall appart.

[eliteservice1]

Hey man i should get a +10

[chkdsskt]

You have to be there to figure out how the heck you will make it. All can say to you is: live your own life, not somebody else's. Have fun as you can, and about the job... Dont loose hope, keep trying it. Yours trully, Alejandro from Venezuela.

[Seth38101]

thanks so much for you comment

[chkdsskt]

Hi, well. In first place, as many people wrote here, you SHOULD NOT SPECT people to be as you want to, they are themselves. And, yes, it can suck, it can be like a punch in the stomach, painful. You made all this HUGE SACRIFICE for them or for YOU? are you living your life?.

you have to do things for you in first place. And NO!, you dont need to leave this place to "regroup your mind".

[eliteservice1]

Everyone sacrifices something everyday no matter how small or large its just life it dosnt make you or anyone any more special than anyone else.

[Seth38101]

well duh HAHA my mind was a wreck when I made this

[eliteservice1]

You need to have fun with your friends when as much as you can but at the same time take care of your business.

Enjoy life because you may not be here tomorrow .Its impossible to know what the future will bring.Life is realy short and can end at anytime.I know that this is easy said than done but all we can do is try.

You should not expect something in return because you have goals you are trying to complete because we all do.You are sacrificing for yourself.

[eliteservice1]

you need to cool out it takes time to get a job you realy want it may even take a year or two to find a great job you realy want and will be happy with.But even when you do find that great job for like most of us after so long you will get sick of that job as well.

What you need to do is stay put and try to have fun stop worrying about finding that great job so much.

[JHCSCORPIO]

You are homesick for things familiar. Consider where you are at in your life and where you want to go. You are a charming young man and have the ability to interact with many kinds of people. Consider a larger city where you can explore greater opportunities personally and professionally. What are your sacrifices you speak of? Only make moves in your life for "you" and know one else. Come to Charlotte...many opportunities are here. Take a camping trip / road trip and clear your head.

[Starlababy]

I think you need to realize that people don't usually appreciate your sacrifices. I've had three children, and they didn't turn out as I wanted them to be. I got dicouraged. But thats the way life is. I think you should go visit your freind, and relax for a while.

[boscobear49]

There's a lot of good advice here, especially about knocking off the "sacrifice" shit. If you didn't move away from home for yourself, then you moved for the wrong reasons. You have to put yourself first, Andrew, to be happy with yourself and with others. I sence you left home because you couldn't be yourself there. If that's true, then it would be a mistake to go back. Do what you need to do to become the person you want to be. It may not be easy, but you really have no other choice.

[cash082]

Andrew

I'm sorry to hear whats going on your life.But my advice is to slow down a bit and take it in as it comes.and maby you could get away to where just about no one is, think"what can I do to fix the problems?what would make life great? come up with a strategy and do it!Just a bit of advice, hope it helps Feel free to call me email or whatever if you ever feel like talking or something.

Hope all is better soon

good luck

[foreverlonging]

I would be careful with the usage of the word depressed. People use the word instead of being sad I think you're just going through an adjustment. Depression is biological and most people dont' know when they're depressed until they're clinically diagnosed. But I think it's mainly you adjusting to new stuff. All the best :)

[Seth38101]

good one

[thesmiths1013]

just wondering, did you make this move because of someone you thought you could have a relationship with?

[Seth38101]

no,, not entirely there are so many reasons

[johnofjordan]

When I finished uni, I was broke and jobless. I came home. I spent six months looking for a job, with no luck at all. It drove me nuts. It was a real ego crusher.

But yes, get AWAY. Get some perspective. I think firstly though you need to stop saying "sacrifice" so much. You just need to decide if you want to go home. Or if you want to stay. And frankly if you're really anxious, perhaps you should see a doctor.

[gamemaster014]

and you will get through this all of us are gonna help you out :)

[gamemaster014]

ok I think you should go up and visit your other friend for a few days just get away from it all clear some things up and come back down and hit it again and it's tougher than people think moving away from where you always are i know the feeling and what your feeling is home sick and it is normal i wish you the best of luck andrew

[LucyFan73]

Dude, take one of those crappy jobs! It will get your mind off your troubles to work. You can still look for a better job in the meantime and at least you will have some money coming in. Just because you accept a crappy job doesn't mean you will be in it forever.

[Sandguy99]

Hi Andrew.

I wish I had magic words, but the best few I can think of are to "slow down a little". Your frustration comes from not seeing the results you dreamed of right away. Life's timing just doesn't work that way, Buddy.

[Sandguy99]

Perhaps take a deep breath and try and remind yourself that things ARE moving forward just as they are meant to. Your friends may be taken back a little because they are reacting to you in an agitated state. And, YES this is all normal!!! Try not to panic, let life move at a realistic pace, and most importantly know your friends do care. You'll be fine.

[Yellowcorrado]

Hey Seth,

This is what you call homesick. This is normal. Everyone feels this way (when they are young and moved away). It's probably because it's all new and your outside your comfort zone. I recently did this. DON'T think of how things are at home, but rather whats in front of you now. Don't think about the problems in life, think about wherever you are at the time.. kind of like a vacation. :)

Call me. :)

[bugsinrug]

First of all..stop saying "sacrifice"...you made a "choice" .. you..not anyone else. Life is a series of choices. Get out on your own, even for a few days, regroup and rejuvinate your mind. You cannot change others...only yourself. Oh, and I am subbing. lol. hugs, Chris

[BobbyBrady2000]

What you are going through is normal. You need to be proud of yourself for taking the leap to make your own way in the world. It's only been 2 weeks and you need to just relax and roll with it for awhile. Remember, they have already gone out on their own. I think you are nervous about starting a new life.

[Jinxie228]

Seth, I've moved before 1200 miles and its tough starting over. I think that when you expect them to react to your sacrifice it will only disappoint you. They don't know what your expectations are and they will always fail to meet them. We don't mean to do it but we do.

You to really search your soul and decide was the move really right for you.. sounds like you made the sacrifice to for them but it might not be working for you.

[Seth38101]

Its all real confusing. I dont know if I expect anything, thats why I am wondering do I really expect much? I dunno

[bluewolverine40]

just clad your not 40 and about too be fazed out of job for mexico :|

[bluewolverine40]

im telling you if you dont have degree too sweep the GD floor your just in this rut and i think a sad day in america dont get started on that lol

[KC1967]

miggamoggamootmoot

[Seth38101]

well there ya go! Thats the Answer to EVERYTHING WOW!!! haha

[blumac81]

Heya Seth, I think that you're feeling down because you are finding the same situation in a new city, so it's a disappointment. Yes I think you should get out on your own for a bit, do some soul searching and explore all the options you have now. For example, if you don't like the jobs you are getting now, maybe you should consider going to college for a new career? There are lots of avenues of financial aid out there. Just uncover those hidden doors in your life bro :) Hang in there!

[Seth38101]

I have thought of that and getting into my dream career would be awesome and you really do not need school to do it, its just no one seems to give the new guy a chance, even though I been doing the things I like ALL my life. I dunno, its hard

[lemonette]

You put a lot of pressure on someone when you "sacrifice" and expect something in return. A true sacrifice is not made expecting certain results. Try to relax and realize that nothing comes "fast and easy" that is worth very much. The grass may be greener on the other side of the fence, but somebody still has to MOW it. Love you, and hope things get calmer for you soon.

[Seth38101]

you are so right, I really did not expect alot but I am just wondering if deep in my mind I am.. its a tough thing

[plunger878]

GOOD LUCK Bro, You are one hell of a guy for the things you do for people......and yourself. People better respect that because there really is not too many people as yourself in this world. You are golden

[plunger878]

Andrew, You really did make a big bold move and HUGE CRAZY changes. I know you did this for certain people and yourself and its not a bad thing at all, hell I could never do that. You are committed to making things work.

[3535358]

Andrew I really feel for you man...first thing is consider me giving you a great big hug :D.

Going away for a few days is definitely not a bad idea, but I don't think things will change that much. It's obvious you had big hopes going there and things are not panning out as expected...keep at it Andrew...stay strong...don't give up.

[3535358]

I know you like to drive...go for a long drive...ask God to guide you...he will if you ask with an open heart. It takes time...but you know...there's reasons for this...just keep all your options open.

The best advise I could give you is...communication. Don't be afraid to express exactly how you feel to others. Maybe they don't know what to do or say to you. They see you in that state of mind...and maybe they feel that you are shuting them off.

[3535358]

Hope everything will work out for you Andrew...you're a great guy...remember, you've got to create your own chances.

Peace and love to you,

I will keep you in my prayers :D

Marc

[jusmill2002]

I think this is normal you did give up a lot to be there and its not like your not trying to find a job and better yourself, I think you should get away for a couple of days and recollect your thoughts. You cant spend everyday with someone with out getting pissed, so go and spend a couple of days at your friends or back home. I dont think i could do what you did.

[sugarandlance]

I have been there, I know what you mean 90 percent. I would love to talk to get the other 10 percent. If you need to talk, talk to me. Are you 300 miles closes or farther from Robby?

[Seth38101]

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