Well I think it's great but... what about when the person is so severly bpd that even talking to them sends them into a rage? Some people with bpd can't even be spoken to, or they will lash out. This can be extremely difficult to deal with.
I'm the opposite. I usually express myself too much and give too many details. lol but I know a lot of my guy friends seem like they have this exact, same condition. Most men just don't like expressing their feelings.
I think I have BPD except I have "Awesome thrill seeker mask" Unemployed layabout mask "If your face guy" "phobic recluse guy" and hmm I'm not really sure about the last one...Well I guess; "Hey don't yoou judge me man!" No that was in your face guy, I'm sure it's a petulant child somewhere in there but he can kick some healthy adult ass. Know what I mean? WOOT DO THE DEW..EXTREME..(crying It's never extreme enough for me to be happy) Thanks for sharing brother! Crazies of the world UNTIE!
Hello, I´m a psychologist from Berlin. Really great! I had to cry because I found it so brilliant. Please do more videos like that. This is exactly what people need to see to understand it. No book can explain like you explain :)
Wow, this video was the best I've ever seen about Borderline personality disorder! Congratulation! Exactly that's how people should talk with me and understand me... This video is really useful! Love
Concise and very interesting. I was thinking about reading Jung or Freud to help myself, as I suffer from a disorder myself. I was wondering if any of these books allow the person to help him heal himself? I'm sure you must have heard of Nietzsche, his works helped me a lot, still are helping me infact to fight off self-induced oppression. I was just wondering whether Jung or perhaps Freud were worth listening to as far as helping oneself without the help of a therapist?
@fredbloggs02 Avoid Freud and save yourself hours of pointless reading. Get straight in to Jung, He was way ahead of his time. Freud was way behind and should remain left behind.
@VapoVibes I heard of Freud first through Nietzsche and Schopenhauer, obviously they were of the same era and I got intetested from Schopenhauer's view of the unconscious will. Yeah Freud wrote many large tomes...some sounded interesting, others, not particularly. I think I'll try purging myself with Jung first. When you say behind the times, you mean the ancient Greek influence in his work or just not particularly useful to treat oneself with? Cheers for the advice m8:)
@fredbloggs02 I think our entire approach to psychology/psychiatry is shifting and will continue to do so. The way we label people with so called "mental illness" is wrong in my opinion. Left brain science is not the answer. Jung was on to things that are now becoming more apparent. But in his time, Freud was afraid of Jung and his theories. And labelled him a "mystic" But collective consciousness, precognition and many other theories that Jung touched on are all coming to the fore now.
@VapoVibes the "illness" part is only our reflection of society. we live on the border of right and left brain. we are born living from our hearts into a left brain (reason dominated, separative) world. relating to the world from the right (emotion based, integrative) brain, we are taught by society that it's wrong to be that way because it threatens the very structure of the way the world works. if were all living from our hearts, we wouldn't be consuming ourselves souless, i think.
I really like this video, I relate to it a lot, is there more about these 5 faces in one of the books you talk about and if so which one? or is it both? Thanks
the psychiatrist will hate his guy. they would not have a clue because there pseudo science has it as a disease and only drugs can fix this yet they have not fixed anyone.
This is old school psychiatry. this is there to unlock you mind causing all you outburst and pain
You have given me a gift. I have a new understanding as I am bi polar and bpd what a f'n nightmare to live with myself. No wonder I am so suicidal the punitive parent wants the death penalty!! How do I evict the punisher? And find the will to live? We must actually seriously attempt suicide to get into a hospital or see a psychiatrist for help here in Canada
There really is not enough drugs to fix this it is vitally necessary to call in a Higher Power Every day. I would not wish mental illn
@spiritwoman45 Goodness, I feel you. No one pays attention. The healthcare system here is severely fucked. CAMH was a disappointment for me, even when I spent time there. What's wrong with Canada? :\
You're communicating with the "client" in a confrontation, antagonizing way. Your facial expressions, when you're talking to him are annoying - you're looking at him like he's nuts. No wonder his defenses are up! You said "don't push" but you're pushing! I would ask him what he imagines things will be like for him when his mother is away at work. Ask him to describe what he imagines life will be like. There are vays of getting people to talk.
The best example of borderline personality is not this video, it's russochristine below. Over dramatic and manipulative in the respect of trying to over blow an issue and get pity. THAT is what they do and full of empty threats trying to make the other person feel guilty. When it actually comes down to it however, they rarely act on it...but they will go on and on all day like they will. That is the truth about BPD.
Today I was seeing a physiologist and I asked if I was bod he sed I think so ? It starts in adolescents ? I do get very down and think I don't deserve my family they have put up with me and my crazyness for years , I just feel bad for them mostly
I think I have bpd. I have been waiting for a long time to get to a psychologist. I started seeking help in February 2011 and my first appointment is 29th of Marsh 2012. I can´t know for sure yet but I am glad I figured out there is something wrong with me. I have not been drinking for 9 months now but that was just the start of my problems.
I thought I was the only one. I've just recently been diagnosed. Before that I just thought I was losing my mind. You feel very alone when you're surrounded by people that can deal with anything that comes their way, while you, yourself can't.
Thank you for this video. The bible thumpers must have their archiac say I guess. Forget them...The kind of person that you exhibit as the questioner is, in my experience, estremely rare and hard to find. Like non-judgemental truly loving Christians..
I think a very important point was "getting one's needs met" and how BPDs react sometimes by doing impulsive things when they dont know how to respond properly. How it can get them into trouble. You made me think a lot. Thanks.
What I don't get about psychologists is that why do they have to be trained to react to a patient who is freaking out in a therapy session. Being trained to calm a patient down seems so insincere to me. I can see if it was schizophrenia or some psychotic disorder but not a personality disorder like BPD or an anxiety disorder. Why can't ppl just say what they think?
I dont have BPD myself, but my mum has, and this video has really helped me to understand how to talk to her during one of her mood swings, thank you so much, amazing video!
This is so like me I do the same and have the 5 faces my worst one is I want to express how I'm feeling and I'll start a sentence about it then stop dead scared I'm saying to much and people will get into me so I stop and talk about something else or I put a fake smile on and pretended everything is fine just incase I upset anyone when really I'm screaming in the inside! But thanks for this video you are a good listener and showed you understand I've been suffering BPD and I know how it feels a
@illflywithyounow Thanks for posting that! I've been looking for new people to chat with who can understand and relate. Makes it feel less lonesome. :)
Thank you for making this. I was diagnosed with BPD almost 10 years ago. It is an everyday struggle for me. I showed this video to my GF, who tries very hard to handle everything and it really helped her understand how my mind works a little better than even my therapist could. I think I will show this to some of my family as well and hope it helps them understand too. Thank you soo much for this. You have no idea how much this will help people like me and those who have to live with us.
Wow, I never knew about the 5 masks. It really did help me understand myself a bit more, wow. Thank you so much! You're a great teacher/actor. You portrayed BPD so well. And let me just throw in that you're extremely handsome! ;) Thanks so much!
I have a question. Someone I know recently told me he thought my ex had NPD. I looked it up and it made a lot of sense. However I recently looked into BPD as well and it's starting to make sense as well, maybe more sense. My question is, how do you distinguish between the two? In relation to that, how do you respond differently to the two? Are they overlapping?
This is fascinating. Thanks for making this! The conversation is very realistic and you've pointed out things that I've never noticed! I've never been diagnosed with bpd, but I've been investigating the possibility, and this is exactly what a deep conversation with me is like. Which makes me wonder, do these 5 faces happen only with bpd, or maybe abuse/neglect sufferers in general?
@arenaskiez OR PERHAPS EVERYONE SHOULD STAY FAR FAR AWAY FROM PEOPLE WITH SUCH CLOSED MINDS, 'BETTER THAN YOU' ATTITUDES....WELL BASICALLY ANYONE LIKE YOU. OR PERHAPS WE SHOULD REACH OUT TO YOU BECAUSE CLEARLY IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO POST SUCH AWFUL HEARTBREAKING MESSAGES ONLINE AS A WAY TO TAKE THE FOCUS OFF OF YOU.....WELL YOU MUST BE REALLY STRUGGLING WITH YOUR OWN DEMONS. WHICHEVER ONE IT IS....I HOPE THE MESSAGE IS CLEAR! KEEP YOUR HARSH WORDS TO YOURSELF!
I've been recently diagnosed with BPD, the abnormal way I operate in conversation now makes a lot more sense to me! Even though I feel a tiny bit more confident now, my partner just thinks I'm 'annoying' or 'mean', we've been together for a year and she's coming to the end (not of our relationship) of her tolerance of my BPD, how do I help her to help me without basically saying 'treat me like this jess'?
I've struggled with bpd mixed with separation anxiety my whole life. Thanks for making this video. It helps people I'm close with understand a little bit better how I process.
I have bpd, but i don't tend to show my emotions, well i try :/ but only because i'm so scared of losing everyone and being alone, so that's another point, a person with bpd will get really upset if they lost you, so they don't mean it when they're angry at you, we're more angry at ourselves... :/ x
@smileywinks Think of this: either you have free-will, or you don't.
IF you do, then you're not sick. You're a being who IS as you ARE. This NOT a problem with YOU. This IS you :) But if free-will is illusory, then indeed you are subject to a mental issue.
Now..I'm not going to say which is the most rational one; I'll leave yourself to decide it.
you have helped me so much.I used to think i had bipolar. i ruined everything around me. i tried to control myself. i never got in physical fights. well once. i was just very passive aggressive. i never told anyone about my feelings or problems. i didnt want help i just wanted to be left alone. at the same time i wanted love, acceptance, understanding and support. but when i got it i pushed them away. i took everything out on my little sister. and am trying to mend the bond. i am a wok in progrs
@WorshipInTruth Seems like it didnt work so well... Please educate yourself, if you knew anything about this disease you would not be calling someone with bpd "not normal" nor call them "lunatics".
@WorshipInTruth Your username suggests that you have strong religious beliefs. I don't think Jesus would have called anyone suffering a mental illness a "lunatic", he would have offered support. I am truly disgusted, you should be ashamed of yourself.
@EmmaFaceOnFire Yeah, Jesus would have cured them, he would have exorcised their demons or what have you. Jesus can help these people but they need to call upon him, and they arent going to do that unless they first realize they have a serious problem and are suffering from a sort of madness. Most of us suffer from a certain degree of insanity or madness, in one way or another, the point is to recognize this terrible sin, repent and be saved.
@WorshipInTruth I wouldn't say it was necessarily a sin to get ill. BPD stems (as shown in this video) from childhood neglect and/or abuse. In my opinion, inviting Jesus into your life is one way of feeling less empty, for some, but I think the most important thing that sufferers must do (myself included) is learn to love oneself. I'm working on it currently, and it is difficult but I will get there.
@EmmaFaceOnFire We get ill and we die because we are fallen sinners. Since when is having a bad personality an "illness"?? I probably have a personality disorder myself (although not BPD) yet I dont try to make myself feel better by pretending I have an "illness" I am honest with myself that I have a shitty personality that people do not care for. You do not invite Jesus into your heart, he chooses you and the Spirit comes upon his elect.
@WorshipInTruth Forgive her Father for she knows not what she says........I'm praying for you that you will stop being so judgmental & mean to people who are truly trying to reach out and help others. If you do not have anything nice to say, please don't say anything at all. You are obviously a very confused person who does not comprehend what being a true Christian is all about........
it would be awesome if non BPD suffers could experience what we go through... yeah it may hurt them but they dont think about how much it hurts the ones diagnosed with it.
@Bowlegs Besides, this isn't a "I'm gonna bitch about my ex" forum. Its a channel dedicated to help those with bpd and those who want to understand it, something you are clearly not good at.
@Thebowlegs not victims? I was used by daddy as a sex toy, abandoned, beaten daily by foster parents and humiliated until I was 21, spit on, had all my hair cut off, was made to sleep on the floor, used as a house slave, I could go on and on at the horrors I endured and now I have to live with the extreme trauma that it caused. Not a victim? Its people like you that trigger our anger because you are too ignorant to understand what we go through and yet expect excellent care.
Very informative, thanks. Was diagnosed with bpd 3 weeks ago at the age of 42. Been suffering for a long time and it's nice to know that I'm not the only on that feels like this.
Let me tell you there ARE 5 phases, but not as you put it. Firstly there is the normal phase 1. Any trigger enters a person into phase 2, questioning. Unsatisfactory result enter into phase 3. questioning now with distrust. this is the last chance to return to normal phase, but after this phase 4 and 5 cant be stopped. Phase 4 is frustration and anger etc of the injustice where destruction occurs, and lastly phase 5 after the storm the remorse and sorrow, introverted thoght. then back to phase 1
I am astonished at how some people here leave hateful comments. Many people are too self absorbed to try to understand others' pain. You should be ashamed of yourselves. If you are a non-bpd, you are NOT obligated to accept abuse from a bpd, but you can still be compassionate from a distance. I am grateful for the very few people that have visited me when I was feeling suicidal, gave me 20 bucks when I couldn't work for a few days, and admire my beauty and qualities:)
@kassandramd first of all non bpd are the victims not the bp.second of all the path of utter destruction that bp leave behind will make the most sweet hearted people curse in languages not know.so YOUR the one who needs to have some compassion cause this is really a forum that non bp use to heal from the damage and hurt.
@TheBowlegs Go on the other "hateful" sites I've seen you post in and keep my comments out of because it is for you Nons" to bitch and demonise all of us in.My boyfriend of ten years found out I had it and we became closer.I was the victim and never physically hurt anyone in my life.Yes I have had chaotic relationship and internalised most of my anger.How ignorant some of you so called nons and norms are.I wonder how many of you are angry because you may be afraid of the truth >:/
Excellent video Bas. Thank you so much. I have BPD, although I don't like to admit it to myself. This was so spot on. Your portrayal was incredible. I can relate to all of the different 'characters' (i.e., punitive parent, abandoned child, etc...) , and am amazed that this information even exists. I have never been able to pull apart my different selves when I am reacting angrily, and am left bereft of understanding. I think this may help a little bit. Very selfless of you to do this.
I recently ended a friendship with a BPD who was my medical provider because he became unethical towards me after I became his "safe" person. I learned that I do not have nor want the skills to help BPD's. All my time was spent trying to understand how to help him without becoming co-dependent. The situation became too unhealthy and I struggled to keep my sanity. I am a very giving person but that relationship took too big a toll on my life. Very sad, but I am glad it is over. Great vid!
Psychiatry was developed before 1900 in Germany to get rid of people complaining.First use of directed energy weapons can be seen in psychiatric literature from 1908, see Psychiatrie->Zur Klinik der Narkolepsie on my homepage.After murdering oponents in ww2,Psychiatry was relaunched in´45 to persecute+silence concentration camp survivors.
As a Doctor in a German nuthouse said:
Half the inmates are mad.The other half are secret service agents on training.
And also, you are a GREAT actor. I saw somebody suggest you get into that. Id suggest that as well. I would also suggest stop trying and expect others to cater to your so-called "illness". Put more energy towards changing yourself. I see you have a lot of advice. Your first and most important is to talk and vent on a daily basis. I noticed, as did my crazy ex, that doing so did WONDERS. That should be your biggest piece of advice. Not about your illness. Rather about how your day went.
@robduncan2000 do you know that what you say is not irrelevant but is needed AFTER you get the understanding of a BPD-diagnosed person, and that this understanding is exactly what he is trying to explain? Did you listen to the final words of his video which basically says the same? --> Getting a person with BPD through the day is like making a safe place for him. :) have a nice day
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Sounds/looks like another BPDer making more excuses for his lack of desire to try and be a decent human being and then laying the blame on his innocent victim. Blaming them for not catering and bowing to his illness. Oh, and most of all, pity HIM. Has a great need to feel the victim. Pathetic.
Unless you treat a BPDer like a damaged child then of course its the victims fault. (notice how he says "everything depends on YOU"! Dude, its not your victims who need to do the changing.
I was looking up videos of BPD and after seeing yours, I learned a lot. But I'm also a bit confused. I really don't know if I have BDP because I don't notice it or if I'm bipolar but friends have pointed out certain things. Anyway, thank. You very much! :D
@Belldandy722 it's important to understand that the brain and it's dysfunctions do not fit in with an "either or either" framework. In other words, people aren't either bipolar or borderline (or, for that matter, any other disorder), but rather the symptoms can overlap and they both share a lot of the same symptoms. Neurodysfunction does not fit in so conveniently with "labels" of the archaic discipline of psychiatry.
You'd make a superb counselor. You're also very handsome. I found this video while searching for BPD vids to try and understand the disorder. I can see how people with BPD have great difficulty in relationships. Thanks for taking the time to educate others.
Hello bas exellent clip,I have BPD & BP and PTSD,I was sexualy abused as a child
am now dealing with it slightly better than I have been but it is a struggle...must also say I felt like shoutinfg at the screen asking when did you come and film me?!
so real...Thank you...and of course have showed this to people who have dealings with me..
Im very confused, I have been diagnosed as bipolar, but It feels like I can never say what I want to say in a conversation, then I explode in anger, I feel worthless all the time, I have big problems with my family and throughout my life I have had to deal with being abandoned by both my mother and father, I am going to therapy and taking meds, but I still feel this way. I am not sure if I have both neither or just one....what should I tell my shrink ???....every time I go to see her I am fake..
God Bless you........I am a kenyan medical student just prepairing for psychiatry clinical exam and ths hav just saved my tym .........SUBSCRIBING just now
If one has it and has to deal with another who has it then it all goes down hill, like parent and child, then child grows up to have spouse who has it.....
I have had to deal with this with a friend..whenever she cries, she gets mad at herself and says "crying is a weakness". for me, the hardest part of dealing with her, is her ability to look me straight in the eye and lie to me repeatedly
i dont get it, isnt this normal. i mean shifting emotions when u talk about different things?? or do i just see it as normal because this behavior is normal to me?? isnt he just kind of experiencing the emotion he had when that specific thing happenned,,,,,,,re living it sort of. isnt that normal
i dont get it, isnt this normal. i mean shifting emotions when u talk about different things?? or do i just see it as normal because this behavior is normal to me??
@serenoj69 If you had a friend whose legs stopped working, would you think it too much effort to help them sit, or stand, or take them out? If you have a disabled child, will you think it too much effort to take care of it? BPD is an illness. It's not a lifestyle choice. If someone comes into your life with BPD, nobody is suggesting they take over your life, but this guy has given you some valid information to help you understand. I'm glad my BPD suffering friend sent me this.
As I posted this seems like you have to be a counselor to have a relationship with a bpd - what non-bpd is going to know how to respond liek this on a daily basis with someone who is irrational and on a rollercoaster ride. you have to "walk on eggshells" with their life and urs and now create prompts to understanding - seems like a lot for an everyday person who is NOT a therapist
my mom has this, and I'm trying to get help for her and to find a therapist for her. Getting to listen to her real self is seemingly impossibly, but this video is a step in the right direction.
Hi my name is christopher and i can across your video and it explains alot about my girlfriend i remember she told me she has BPD but i never understood it we have been together more than a year and dont get me wrong i love this woman and we have been threw alot i was just wondering what can i say to her to make things better or to help her she tells me sometimes im gonna leave her and she is nothing but she isnt she is my everything if you can help me i will like that thank you
I recently parted with someone with BPD and I came across this video and wanted to thank you for putting it up. You are courageous. I've watched your other videos with great interest. The videos have helped me to better understand BPD in the context of my relationship with ex bf.
Why should we take this effort?? I understand your need and of other BPD's, but hy should we put so much energy insome just to get some normalcy back???
@Serenoj69 I agree it sounds like you have to be a counselor to be around these type of people - mostly you dont even know it s bpd til afterwards and maybe even not then especially if the person is not in counseling it seems to take a lot of energy while living your own day to day life. it is a series of calm questioning with a person who isnt calm and rational
Well this is an interesting video, my best friend has BPD and I do try to read about it, to try understand and better help her. I like your comment at the end of the video, about how hard it is to "deal" with someone with BPD, when actually having BPD is a lot more difficult. Yeah it is hard to be close to someone with BPD, but I wouldn't trade her for the world, and all I want to do, is help her. Thanks for the video.
(cont.) and hopeless. Then there's this video which explains BPD perfectly - honest but with compassion. I especially want to thank you for that last bit. Yes it is very difficult dealing with someone with BPD - but imagine being the one with it. Those who hate us can leave us. We are stuck with ourselves. People understanding and knowledgeable like the man in this video are the ones who help spread awareness, knowledge and understanding of this illness. My "identity" makes so much more sense
Thank you SO MUCH. I am a 31 year old woman with BPD and tonight I had a breakdown. I was sitting here crying and for some reason came across this video. This is SO helpful. I've been in therapy over half of my life and this is the first explanation that really makes sense!! I finally see someone out there understands. I have seen books saying that those with BPD are bad and don't deserve love, which is an inhumane, sick and damaging point of view. It's so depressing! It makes me feel all alone
Thanks! Nice done video ... both subject as well as editing. I just discovered that I have BPD. my elder brother also has it which explains why we get into dramatic rage & forgiveness from time to time. Good video.
This video touched me and made me cry. It was weird to see so much of myself in you're character... I have bpd and its getting better but its still there and I don't know how to help myself :( Its ruining my life
Well I think it's great but... what about when the person is so severly bpd that even talking to them sends them into a rage? Some people with bpd can't even be spoken to, or they will lash out. This can be extremely difficult to deal with.
battlangl 1 day ago
I'm the opposite. I usually express myself too much and give too many details. lol but I know a lot of my guy friends seem like they have this exact, same condition. Most men just don't like expressing their feelings.
GetTheHook 2 days ago
I can't believe I never saw this about myself before...
kaighnyne 3 days ago
when you said you were describing identity dissociative disorder.. it sounded like you were describing bipolar disorder, is that what you meant?
emmonkeys 3 days ago
I think I have BPD except I have "Awesome thrill seeker mask" Unemployed layabout mask "If your face guy" "phobic recluse guy" and hmm I'm not really sure about the last one...Well I guess; "Hey don't yoou judge me man!" No that was in your face guy, I'm sure it's a petulant child somewhere in there but he can kick some healthy adult ass. Know what I mean? WOOT DO THE DEW..EXTREME..(crying It's never extreme enough for me to be happy) Thanks for sharing brother! Crazies of the world UNTIE!
Fauthal 3 days ago
Hello, I´m a psychologist from Berlin. Really great! I had to cry because I found it so brilliant. Please do more videos like that. This is exactly what people need to see to understand it. No book can explain like you explain :)
Anova41 3 days ago
Excellent video :)
pirnia02 1 week ago
very interesting.
Mike3gdc 1 week ago
Wow, this video was the best I've ever seen about Borderline personality disorder! Congratulation! Exactly that's how people should talk with me and understand me... This video is really useful! Love
maybenotmetheone 1 week ago 2
Amazing job
JimiDelicious 1 week ago
Once more, great video Meandmyblack, I think we'll all get through this nightmare eventually.
fredbloggs02 1 week ago
Really cleverly done video, thanks.
peterclark231 1 week ago
Concise and very interesting. I was thinking about reading Jung or Freud to help myself, as I suffer from a disorder myself. I was wondering if any of these books allow the person to help him heal himself? I'm sure you must have heard of Nietzsche, his works helped me a lot, still are helping me infact to fight off self-induced oppression. I was just wondering whether Jung or perhaps Freud were worth listening to as far as helping oneself without the help of a therapist?
fredbloggs02 1 week ago
@fredbloggs02 Avoid Freud and save yourself hours of pointless reading. Get straight in to Jung, He was way ahead of his time. Freud was way behind and should remain left behind.
VapoVibes 1 week ago
@VapoVibes I heard of Freud first through Nietzsche and Schopenhauer, obviously they were of the same era and I got intetested from Schopenhauer's view of the unconscious will. Yeah Freud wrote many large tomes...some sounded interesting, others, not particularly. I think I'll try purging myself with Jung first. When you say behind the times, you mean the ancient Greek influence in his work or just not particularly useful to treat oneself with? Cheers for the advice m8:)
fredbloggs02 1 week ago
@fredbloggs02 I think our entire approach to psychology/psychiatry is shifting and will continue to do so. The way we label people with so called "mental illness" is wrong in my opinion. Left brain science is not the answer. Jung was on to things that are now becoming more apparent. But in his time, Freud was afraid of Jung and his theories. And labelled him a "mystic" But collective consciousness, precognition and many other theories that Jung touched on are all coming to the fore now.
VapoVibes 1 week ago
@VapoVibes the "illness" part is only our reflection of society. we live on the border of right and left brain. we are born living from our hearts into a left brain (reason dominated, separative) world. relating to the world from the right (emotion based, integrative) brain, we are taught by society that it's wrong to be that way because it threatens the very structure of the way the world works. if were all living from our hearts, we wouldn't be consuming ourselves souless, i think.
erinlomeara 1 week ago
Excellent job! Thank you for making this video.
7thirteen713 1 week ago
it is helpful! thank you very much indeed!
sonicheroin 2 weeks ago
I really like this video, I relate to it a lot, is there more about these 5 faces in one of the books you talk about and if so which one? or is it both? Thanks
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good video.
the psychiatrist will hate his guy. they would not have a clue because there pseudo science has it as a disease and only drugs can fix this yet they have not fixed anyone.
This is old school psychiatry. this is there to unlock you mind causing all you outburst and pain
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CliveGains80s 2 weeks ago
You have given me a gift. I have a new understanding as I am bi polar and bpd what a f'n nightmare to live with myself. No wonder I am so suicidal the punitive parent wants the death penalty!! How do I evict the punisher? And find the will to live? We must actually seriously attempt suicide to get into a hospital or see a psychiatrist for help here in Canada
There really is not enough drugs to fix this it is vitally necessary to call in a Higher Power Every day. I would not wish mental illn
spiritwoman45 2 weeks ago
@spiritwoman45 Goodness, I feel you. No one pays attention. The healthcare system here is severely fucked. CAMH was a disappointment for me, even when I spent time there. What's wrong with Canada? :\
9eyesdesign 2 weeks ago
Dank je voor info eidelijk weet ik wat er mis is met me
TheFredschoon 2 weeks ago
Borderline Personality is a nice way of saying Female Psychopath. Check out Thomas Sheridan's amazing work into this scam.
nonearthlychildren 2 weeks ago
You're communicating with the "client" in a confrontation, antagonizing way. Your facial expressions, when you're talking to him are annoying - you're looking at him like he's nuts. No wonder his defenses are up! You said "don't push" but you're pushing! I would ask him what he imagines things will be like for him when his mother is away at work. Ask him to describe what he imagines life will be like. There are vays of getting people to talk.
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you rock, this analysis is awesome. and I find it to be accurate ! rock on
misanthrop18 3 weeks ago
hahaha the conversation with yourself was really funny actually :P
numbcore 3 weeks ago
thanks again
AfiBless 3 weeks ago
I have been blind for 22 years of my life, thank you.
AfiBless 3 weeks ago
I am newly diagnosed and still trying to wrap my head around what this disorder is. This was very informative for me. Thank you for creating it.
amourcasse 3 weeks ago
Very well done.
Konni1969 3 weeks ago
Have you tried making porn ?
luckylangerie 3 weeks ago
Kan je ook een keer met mij komen praten? Zou een verademing zijn. Iemand die niet reageert op de heftige emoties.
ElizeCeline 3 weeks ago
The best example of borderline personality is not this video, it's russochristine below. Over dramatic and manipulative in the respect of trying to over blow an issue and get pity. THAT is what they do and full of empty threats trying to make the other person feel guilty. When it actually comes down to it however, they rarely act on it...but they will go on and on all day like they will. That is the truth about BPD.
MsHolmar 4 weeks ago
Interesting and a great idea.
ZLUGGO 4 weeks ago
By the way I didnt think I needed to be dealt with. WTH
russochristine1 4 weeks ago
Wow. I guess I am really F@*ked up. Why not just off myself right here and now???
If I didnt have my faith I would. I think the abandonment issue is the worst of all of these emotions.
When you get to it, does anyone really care about what I go through. In my life NO.
russochristine1 4 weeks ago
Today I was seeing a physiologist and I asked if I was bod he sed I think so ? It starts in adolescents ? I do get very down and think I don't deserve my family they have put up with me and my crazyness for years , I just feel bad for them mostly
ZIGGIEPRODUCTIONS1 1 month ago
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I think I have bpd. I have been waiting for a long time to get to a psychologist. I started seeking help in February 2011 and my first appointment is 29th of Marsh 2012. I can´t know for sure yet but I am glad I figured out there is something wrong with me. I have not been drinking for 9 months now but that was just the start of my problems.
kyssuber 1 month ago
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kyssuber 1 month ago
I thought I was the only one. I've just recently been diagnosed. Before that I just thought I was losing my mind. You feel very alone when you're surrounded by people that can deal with anything that comes their way, while you, yourself can't.
Winchester85 1 month ago
I went 2 years with a girl who has BPD and also suffers from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)...worst rollercoaster you can imagine!
broomet 1 month ago
@meandmyblacktable Jij bent zeker Nederlands?! Echt een goeie video, ik heb ook BPD en ik herken mezelf er echt in.
mintos1987 1 month ago
I have BPD, its a bitch.
DeanieBoi07 1 month ago
Thank you for this video. The bible thumpers must have their archiac say I guess. Forget them...The kind of person that you exhibit as the questioner is, in my experience, estremely rare and hard to find. Like non-judgemental truly loving Christians..
joyceunruh 1 month ago
Thank you so much, I must say your video really helps me. I hope to see more of your videos about BPD.
MarDesire 1 month ago
your such a cutie, love the accent also :-)
ThickNCurly1 1 month ago
Thank you.
heathernunya 1 month ago
i have bpd but this is so funny heehee ^.^
TheThunderGirl1 1 month ago
that guy is normal!!!
p0ch4k0 1 month ago
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genewiev 1 month ago
you nailed this!
genewiev 1 month ago
@genewiev i would love to see your take on the matter of snakes in suits.
genewiev 1 month ago
I think a very important point was "getting one's needs met" and how BPDs react sometimes by doing impulsive things when they dont know how to respond properly. How it can get them into trouble. You made me think a lot. Thanks.
Cardywhite111 1 month ago
What I don't get about psychologists is that why do they have to be trained to react to a patient who is freaking out in a therapy session. Being trained to calm a patient down seems so insincere to me. I can see if it was schizophrenia or some psychotic disorder but not a personality disorder like BPD or an anxiety disorder. Why can't ppl just say what they think?
Gasparro18 1 month ago
not fully spot on, but you did a pretty good job at this *thumbsup*
XXMacVXX 1 month ago
Wow. This is amazing...it touched me on so many levels. Thank you.
horsecharmer9961 1 month ago
Good work, young man.
DreamShield2012 1 month ago
I dont have BPD myself, but my mum has, and this video has really helped me to understand how to talk to her during one of her mood swings, thank you so much, amazing video!
perry842 1 month ago
thank you so much for sharing this
asterixa3 1 month ago
thank you for clarifying ....I have family members like this...it's not easy
fetishisticrose 1 month ago
This is so like me I do the same and have the 5 faces my worst one is I want to express how I'm feeling and I'll start a sentence about it then stop dead scared I'm saying to much and people will get into me so I stop and talk about something else or I put a fake smile on and pretended everything is fine just incase I upset anyone when really I'm screaming in the inside! But thanks for this video you are a good listener and showed you understand I've been suffering BPD and I know how it feels a
Emmjanearapoglu 1 month ago
Hello bpd fellows, you should all come and talk to us other sufferers at mom (mapofmates) :D
illflywithyounow 2 months ago
@illflywithyounow Thanks for posting that! I've been looking for new people to chat with who can understand and relate. Makes it feel less lonesome. :)
xxPerFeCtLYfLAWEdx 1 month ago
Thank you for making this. I was diagnosed with BPD almost 10 years ago. It is an everyday struggle for me. I showed this video to my GF, who tries very hard to handle everything and it really helped her understand how my mind works a little better than even my therapist could. I think I will show this to some of my family as well and hope it helps them understand too. Thank you soo much for this. You have no idea how much this will help people like me and those who have to live with us.
ClaudiaandArmand 2 months ago
Wow, I never knew about the 5 masks. It really did help me understand myself a bit more, wow. Thank you so much! You're a great teacher/actor. You portrayed BPD so well. And let me just throw in that you're extremely handsome! ;) Thanks so much!
MuddaFux1 2 months ago
this is genius! .. that's me in every way,, freaks me out how real it is
valeria91 2 months ago
I have a question. Someone I know recently told me he thought my ex had NPD. I looked it up and it made a lot of sense. However I recently looked into BPD as well and it's starting to make sense as well, maybe more sense. My question is, how do you distinguish between the two? In relation to that, how do you respond differently to the two? Are they overlapping?
hijodeganas 2 months ago
Man fantastic video. The role play helps alot. Though I don't really even have the disorder, I found it fascinating.
utmax85 2 months ago
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utmax85 2 months ago
This is fascinating. Thanks for making this! The conversation is very realistic and you've pointed out things that I've never noticed! I've never been diagnosed with bpd, but I've been investigating the possibility, and this is exactly what a deep conversation with me is like. Which makes me wonder, do these 5 faces happen only with bpd, or maybe abuse/neglect sufferers in general?
reremae 2 months ago
@arenaskiez I agree with superfohn. Not cool.
coleannhan 2 months ago
im pretty sure i have bpd. feelin pretty hopeless.
eileenerxx 2 months ago
@eileenerxx please seek help if you you feel that way! Lots of people want to help you!
coleannhan 2 months ago
WARNING: Stay far, far away from people with BPD. End of story.
arenaskiez 2 months ago
@arenaskiez OR PERHAPS EVERYONE SHOULD STAY FAR FAR AWAY FROM PEOPLE WITH SUCH CLOSED MINDS, 'BETTER THAN YOU' ATTITUDES....WELL BASICALLY ANYONE LIKE YOU. OR PERHAPS WE SHOULD REACH OUT TO YOU BECAUSE CLEARLY IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO POST SUCH AWFUL HEARTBREAKING MESSAGES ONLINE AS A WAY TO TAKE THE FOCUS OFF OF YOU.....WELL YOU MUST BE REALLY STRUGGLING WITH YOUR OWN DEMONS. WHICHEVER ONE IT IS....I HOPE THE MESSAGE IS CLEAR! KEEP YOUR HARSH WORDS TO YOURSELF!
chelsealynnrademaker 2 months ago
@chelsealynnrademaker lol sounds like you have BPD yourself. Seek help.
arenaskiez 2 months ago
@arenaskiez Dude thats really harsh. Please be more considerate of others and they way they might feel.
superfohn 2 months ago
@superfohn I could say the same for people who have BPD. They should have thought about that first.
arenaskiez 2 months ago
I've been recently diagnosed with BPD, the abnormal way I operate in conversation now makes a lot more sense to me! Even though I feel a tiny bit more confident now, my partner just thinks I'm 'annoying' or 'mean', we've been together for a year and she's coming to the end (not of our relationship) of her tolerance of my BPD, how do I help her to help me without basically saying 'treat me like this jess'?
mwinnful 2 months ago
your accent sucks.
MrStridethrough 2 months ago
@MrStridethrough So? He didn't make this video to show off his accent, but to make us understand stuff about BPD.
LoonaLuna20 2 months ago
I've struggled with bpd mixed with separation anxiety my whole life. Thanks for making this video. It helps people I'm close with understand a little bit better how I process.
guitarz928 2 months ago
Dude im a social worker and youve made me understand bpd better! Thnx dank je wel man
TheBazzywazzy 2 months ago
i got BPD, it sucks. Effects all parts of my life.
Xeonophon 2 months ago
This was amazing... my mom has bpd and you nailed her. Your walkthrough is so accurate and honest, I really appreciate it. Thank you so much!!
dreamcaster555 2 months ago
I have bpd, but i don't tend to show my emotions, well i try :/ but only because i'm so scared of losing everyone and being alone, so that's another point, a person with bpd will get really upset if they lost you, so they don't mean it when they're angry at you, we're more angry at ourselves... :/ x
smileywinks 2 months ago 13
@smileywinks Think of this: either you have free-will, or you don't.
IF you do, then you're not sick. You're a being who IS as you ARE. This NOT a problem with YOU. This IS you :) But if free-will is illusory, then indeed you are subject to a mental issue.
Now..I'm not going to say which is the most rational one; I'll leave yourself to decide it.
MrVirtualCoder 1 month ago
you have helped me so much.I used to think i had bipolar. i ruined everything around me. i tried to control myself. i never got in physical fights. well once. i was just very passive aggressive. i never told anyone about my feelings or problems. i didnt want help i just wanted to be left alone. at the same time i wanted love, acceptance, understanding and support. but when i got it i pushed them away. i took everything out on my little sister. and am trying to mend the bond. i am a wok in progrs
BadActingWYIM 2 months ago
You are so fucking sexy! I have BPD too - lets see how many emotions the both of us can stir up together! (LOL)
TheSheyonceChannel 2 months ago 16
@TheSheyonceChannel He didnt say he had BPD, he was trying to help normal people to deal with lunatics like yourself.
WorshipInTruth 1 month ago
@WorshipInTruth Seems like it didnt work so well... Please educate yourself, if you knew anything about this disease you would not be calling someone with bpd "not normal" nor call them "lunatics".
Tweker1337 1 month ago
@WorshipInTruth Your username suggests that you have strong religious beliefs. I don't think Jesus would have called anyone suffering a mental illness a "lunatic", he would have offered support. I am truly disgusted, you should be ashamed of yourself.
EmmaFaceOnFire 1 month ago
@EmmaFaceOnFire Yeah, Jesus would have cured them, he would have exorcised their demons or what have you. Jesus can help these people but they need to call upon him, and they arent going to do that unless they first realize they have a serious problem and are suffering from a sort of madness. Most of us suffer from a certain degree of insanity or madness, in one way or another, the point is to recognize this terrible sin, repent and be saved.
WorshipInTruth 1 month ago
@WorshipInTruth I wouldn't say it was necessarily a sin to get ill. BPD stems (as shown in this video) from childhood neglect and/or abuse. In my opinion, inviting Jesus into your life is one way of feeling less empty, for some, but I think the most important thing that sufferers must do (myself included) is learn to love oneself. I'm working on it currently, and it is difficult but I will get there.
EmmaFaceOnFire 1 month ago
@EmmaFaceOnFire We get ill and we die because we are fallen sinners. Since when is having a bad personality an "illness"?? I probably have a personality disorder myself (although not BPD) yet I dont try to make myself feel better by pretending I have an "illness" I am honest with myself that I have a shitty personality that people do not care for. You do not invite Jesus into your heart, he chooses you and the Spirit comes upon his elect.
WorshipInTruth 1 month ago
@WorshipInTruth Your ignorance is truly astounding.
EmmaFaceOnFire 1 month ago
@WorshipInTruth Forgive her Father for she knows not what she says........I'm praying for you that you will stop being so judgmental & mean to people who are truly trying to reach out and help others. If you do not have anything nice to say, please don't say anything at all. You are obviously a very confused person who does not comprehend what being a true Christian is all about........
CHAWKETTE80 1 month ago
@TheSheyonceChannel stfu disgusting hooker
MrGrevy 1 month ago
it would be awesome if non BPD suffers could experience what we go through... yeah it may hurt them but they dont think about how much it hurts the ones diagnosed with it.
TheCatherinemichelle 3 months ago
@Bowlegs Besides, this isn't a "I'm gonna bitch about my ex" forum. Its a channel dedicated to help those with bpd and those who want to understand it, something you are clearly not good at.
kassandramd 3 months ago
@Thebowlegs not victims? I was used by daddy as a sex toy, abandoned, beaten daily by foster parents and humiliated until I was 21, spit on, had all my hair cut off, was made to sleep on the floor, used as a house slave, I could go on and on at the horrors I endured and now I have to live with the extreme trauma that it caused. Not a victim? Its people like you that trigger our anger because you are too ignorant to understand what we go through and yet expect excellent care.
kassandramd 3 months ago
Very informative, thanks. Was diagnosed with bpd 3 weeks ago at the age of 42. Been suffering for a long time and it's nice to know that I'm not the only on that feels like this.
All the best, Wingo
WingoStoverman 3 months ago
This is scary I've come to know two ppl that are act exactly like this vid. WOW
JeenieJ 3 months ago
Let me tell you there ARE 5 phases, but not as you put it. Firstly there is the normal phase 1. Any trigger enters a person into phase 2, questioning. Unsatisfactory result enter into phase 3. questioning now with distrust. this is the last chance to return to normal phase, but after this phase 4 and 5 cant be stopped. Phase 4 is frustration and anger etc of the injustice where destruction occurs, and lastly phase 5 after the storm the remorse and sorrow, introverted thoght. then back to phase 1
FatFriendly1 3 months ago 2
Hartstikke bedankt voor dit en alle clips.
vriendelijk groet Paul.
TheSugarStreet 3 months ago
woah, Dutch accents sound vietnamese.
Anywaysss, good video
chickenbutt101 3 months ago
thank you for being understanding
it hurts to have so many emotions
MooooonDemon 3 months ago
I am astonished at how some people here leave hateful comments. Many people are too self absorbed to try to understand others' pain. You should be ashamed of yourselves. If you are a non-bpd, you are NOT obligated to accept abuse from a bpd, but you can still be compassionate from a distance. I am grateful for the very few people that have visited me when I was feeling suicidal, gave me 20 bucks when I couldn't work for a few days, and admire my beauty and qualities:)
kassandramd 3 months ago 2
@kassandramd first of all non bpd are the victims not the bp.second of all the path of utter destruction that bp leave behind will make the most sweet hearted people curse in languages not know.so YOUR the one who needs to have some compassion cause this is really a forum that non bp use to heal from the damage and hurt.
TheBowlegs 3 months ago
@TheBowlegs you legit?? seriously try put your self in the shoes of a suffer.
TheCatherinemichelle 3 months ago
@TheBowlegs Go on the other "hateful" sites I've seen you post in and keep my comments out of because it is for you Nons" to bitch and demonise all of us in.My boyfriend of ten years found out I had it and we became closer.I was the victim and never physically hurt anyone in my life.Yes I have had chaotic relationship and internalised most of my anger.How ignorant some of you so called nons and norms are.I wonder how many of you are angry because you may be afraid of the truth >:/
ellzedd41 3 months ago
Excellent video Bas. Thank you so much. I have BPD, although I don't like to admit it to myself. This was so spot on. Your portrayal was incredible. I can relate to all of the different 'characters' (i.e., punitive parent, abandoned child, etc...) , and am amazed that this information even exists. I have never been able to pull apart my different selves when I am reacting angrily, and am left bereft of understanding. I think this may help a little bit. Very selfless of you to do this.
SuperAnimalDrummer 3 months ago
wow need to play this for Drama A level. im 17 and im almost crying when he becomes the child becuase i can relate. exactly what i needed thanks =]
ClanBasedGaming 4 months ago
I recently ended a friendship with a BPD who was my medical provider because he became unethical towards me after I became his "safe" person. I learned that I do not have nor want the skills to help BPD's. All my time was spent trying to understand how to help him without becoming co-dependent. The situation became too unhealthy and I struggled to keep my sanity. I am a very giving person but that relationship took too big a toll on my life. Very sad, but I am glad it is over. Great vid!
Cneumann22 4 months ago
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Psychiatry was developed before 1900 in Germany to get rid of people complaining.First use of directed energy weapons can be seen in psychiatric literature from 1908, see Psychiatrie->Zur Klinik der Narkolepsie on my homepage.After murdering oponents in ww2,Psychiatry was relaunched in´45 to persecute+silence concentration camp survivors.
As a Doctor in a German nuthouse said:
Half the inmates are mad.The other half are secret service agents on training.
Dubbed correctly, they are snitchers.
wwwtotalitaerde 4 months ago
Waarom niet in het Nederlands? Dan zou ik het beter snappen. Heb zelf ook borderline.
Sminieify 4 months ago
And also, you are a GREAT actor. I saw somebody suggest you get into that. Id suggest that as well. I would also suggest stop trying and expect others to cater to your so-called "illness". Put more energy towards changing yourself. I see you have a lot of advice. Your first and most important is to talk and vent on a daily basis. I noticed, as did my crazy ex, that doing so did WONDERS. That should be your biggest piece of advice. Not about your illness. Rather about how your day went.
robduncan2000 4 months ago
@robduncan2000 do you know that what you say is not irrelevant but is needed AFTER you get the understanding of a BPD-diagnosed person, and that this understanding is exactly what he is trying to explain? Did you listen to the final words of his video which basically says the same? --> Getting a person with BPD through the day is like making a safe place for him. :) have a nice day
powermikertje 3 months ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
Sounds/looks like another BPDer making more excuses for his lack of desire to try and be a decent human being and then laying the blame on his innocent victim. Blaming them for not catering and bowing to his illness. Oh, and most of all, pity HIM. Has a great need to feel the victim. Pathetic.
Unless you treat a BPDer like a damaged child then of course its the victims fault. (notice how he says "everything depends on YOU"! Dude, its not your victims who need to do the changing.
robduncan2000 4 months ago
@robduncan2000 Fuck you dumb ass
chaoticmindfk 4 months ago
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I concur! What a jack ass
batmonibat 3 months ago
I was looking up videos of BPD and after seeing yours, I learned a lot. But I'm also a bit confused. I really don't know if I have BDP because I don't notice it or if I'm bipolar but friends have pointed out certain things. Anyway, thank. You very much! :D
Belldandy722 4 months ago
@Belldandy722 it's important to understand that the brain and it's dysfunctions do not fit in with an "either or either" framework. In other words, people aren't either bipolar or borderline (or, for that matter, any other disorder), but rather the symptoms can overlap and they both share a lot of the same symptoms. Neurodysfunction does not fit in so conveniently with "labels" of the archaic discipline of psychiatry.
Evilrolfharris 4 months ago
@Evilrolfharris Oh okay (: Thank you for taking the time to explain that to me. Much appreciated c:
Belldandy722 4 months ago
You'd make a superb counselor. You're also very handsome. I found this video while searching for BPD vids to try and understand the disorder. I can see how people with BPD have great difficulty in relationships. Thanks for taking the time to educate others.
Rh1no1 4 months ago
Hot accent : )
onlyallegra 4 months ago
@onlyallegra hot guy
remyfacade 4 months ago 12
Hello bas exellent clip,I have BPD & BP and PTSD,I was sexualy abused as a child
am now dealing with it slightly better than I have been but it is a struggle...must also say I felt like shoutinfg at the screen asking when did you come and film me?!
so real...Thank you...and of course have showed this to people who have dealings with me..
TheSugarStreet 4 months ago
Nice Dutch accent ;)
Greetings from the Netherlands.
Ps: nice vid that shows bpd very well
1i1bb1i1 4 months ago
Nice dutch accent ;)
1i1bb1i1 4 months ago
Im very confused, I have been diagnosed as bipolar, but It feels like I can never say what I want to say in a conversation, then I explode in anger, I feel worthless all the time, I have big problems with my family and throughout my life I have had to deal with being abandoned by both my mother and father, I am going to therapy and taking meds, but I still feel this way. I am not sure if I have both neither or just one....what should I tell my shrink ???....every time I go to see her I am fake..
mariss711 4 months ago
thank you.
kathrynaguirre 4 months ago
Very well done.
wallsedwin 4 months ago
excellent video. its really helped me nderstand bpd, you've made it really easy to understand. thank you :)
biccierooney2010 4 months ago
your so hot dude.
Matthewdjf 4 months ago
Oh lord...
i just figured out i have BPD...
This is really helpful Thanks haha
iwanfishz9 5 months ago
God Bless you........I am a kenyan medical student just prepairing for psychiatry clinical exam and ths hav just saved my tym .........SUBSCRIBING just now
TheSapache 5 months ago
If one has it and has to deal with another who has it then it all goes down hill, like parent and child, then child grows up to have spouse who has it.....
tinyctlo 5 months ago
Great, well done!
infogranny 5 months ago
powerful.
tpalfl 5 months ago
love the ending. good job with the video! cheers!
BANQUET 5 months ago
I have had to deal with this with a friend..whenever she cries, she gets mad at herself and says "crying is a weakness". for me, the hardest part of dealing with her, is her ability to look me straight in the eye and lie to me repeatedly
MRsophacles 5 months ago
oh noo, i think i have bpd....dear lord.. :(
TheAncientMind 5 months ago
I can TOTALLY relate to this. Your videos are very helpful. Thanks for making them.
DiaShanti 5 months ago
I'm not diagnosed with BPD because I'm too young but this was scary! Exactly like me!
xSplanten 5 months ago
i dont get it, isnt this normal. i mean shifting emotions when u talk about different things?? or do i just see it as normal because this behavior is normal to me?? isnt he just kind of experiencing the emotion he had when that specific thing happenned,,,,,,,re living it sort of. isnt that normal
baloorina 5 months ago
i dont get it, isnt this normal. i mean shifting emotions when u talk about different things?? or do i just see it as normal because this behavior is normal to me??
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invidiata22 5 months ago
@serenoj69 If you had a friend whose legs stopped working, would you think it too much effort to help them sit, or stand, or take them out? If you have a disabled child, will you think it too much effort to take care of it? BPD is an illness. It's not a lifestyle choice. If someone comes into your life with BPD, nobody is suggesting they take over your life, but this guy has given you some valid information to help you understand. I'm glad my BPD suffering friend sent me this.
milliebert68 5 months ago
As I posted this seems like you have to be a counselor to have a relationship with a bpd - what non-bpd is going to know how to respond liek this on a daily basis with someone who is irrational and on a rollercoaster ride. you have to "walk on eggshells" with their life and urs and now create prompts to understanding - seems like a lot for an everyday person who is NOT a therapist
teacher1651 5 months ago
this is totally spot on - i struggle with bpd daily and this was an amazingly informative video for those who have to deal with/know us!
surrendersweet 5 months ago
my mom has this, and I'm trying to get help for her and to find a therapist for her. Getting to listen to her real self is seemingly impossibly, but this video is a step in the right direction.
AFcunningham 5 months ago
Hi my name is christopher and i can across your video and it explains alot about my girlfriend i remember she told me she has BPD but i never understood it we have been together more than a year and dont get me wrong i love this woman and we have been threw alot i was just wondering what can i say to her to make things better or to help her she tells me sometimes im gonna leave her and she is nothing but she isnt she is my everything if you can help me i will like that thank you
YAYmeligore 5 months ago
I recently parted with someone with BPD and I came across this video and wanted to thank you for putting it up. You are courageous. I've watched your other videos with great interest. The videos have helped me to better understand BPD in the context of my relationship with ex bf.
Peetz1970 5 months ago
This seems to be between a therapist and a customer, not between friends.
Serenoj69 5 months ago
Why should we take this effort?? I understand your need and of other BPD's, but hy should we put so much energy insome just to get some normalcy back???
Serenoj69 5 months ago
@Serenoj69 I agree it sounds like you have to be a counselor to be around these type of people - mostly you dont even know it s bpd til afterwards and maybe even not then especially if the person is not in counseling it seems to take a lot of energy while living your own day to day life. it is a series of calm questioning with a person who isnt calm and rational
teacher1651 5 months ago
Well this is an interesting video, my best friend has BPD and I do try to read about it, to try understand and better help her. I like your comment at the end of the video, about how hard it is to "deal" with someone with BPD, when actually having BPD is a lot more difficult. Yeah it is hard to be close to someone with BPD, but I wouldn't trade her for the world, and all I want to do, is help her. Thanks for the video.
Murmanhaha 6 months ago
(cont.) I have emailed this to my family, thank you so much!!! :)
11NightAngel11 6 months ago
(cont.) and hopeless. Then there's this video which explains BPD perfectly - honest but with compassion. I especially want to thank you for that last bit. Yes it is very difficult dealing with someone with BPD - but imagine being the one with it. Those who hate us can leave us. We are stuck with ourselves. People understanding and knowledgeable like the man in this video are the ones who help spread awareness, knowledge and understanding of this illness. My "identity" makes so much more sense
11NightAngel11 6 months ago
Thank you SO MUCH. I am a 31 year old woman with BPD and tonight I had a breakdown. I was sitting here crying and for some reason came across this video. This is SO helpful. I've been in therapy over half of my life and this is the first explanation that really makes sense!! I finally see someone out there understands. I have seen books saying that those with BPD are bad and don't deserve love, which is an inhumane, sick and damaging point of view. It's so depressing! It makes me feel all alone
11NightAngel11 6 months ago
wow my wife is a borderline.... thank you
cyaard 6 months ago
@milascave2 people with bi-polar too
GoldenlightPereillie 6 months ago
I like this video helped me to understand about what i am going through
dididmh 6 months ago
Thanks! Nice done video ... both subject as well as editing. I just discovered that I have BPD. my elder brother also has it which explains why we get into dramatic rage & forgiveness from time to time. Good video.
samann95014 6 months ago
This video touched me and made me cry. It was weird to see so much of myself in you're character... I have bpd and its getting better but its still there and I don't know how to help myself :( Its ruining my life
strangelittlegirl27 6 months ago