Girl's Guide to Dating: The Narcissist

[WinstonSmith6079]

Well, I don't talk like that guy in the video. But then again, I probably also wouldn't be going on a date with that girl in the video either.

And I absolutely would NOT want to even be around that lady lost. No, not at all! LOLOLOLOL LMAO!

[WinstonSmith6079]

@thejolene100 Yep. You got that right.

That host lady doesn't know what she's talking about. Heh, a woman that doesn't know much about men--how new and original! LOL

But yeah, the guy is an egoist--that lady-host is the narcissist, in fact. I wouldn't say a word to her, unless it was something that she really, really wouldn't want to hear LOL hehe In fact in I really wouldn't want to deal with her at all LOL hehe

[dogterd]

Cmon ladies, we all know what you really want is a violent, alcoholic tattoed knucklehead that will `protect` you.

The only problem with that is that he`ll beat the shit out of you once in awhile.. .or maybe track you down and kill you after you break up with him.

All your bullshit about ``looking for a nice guy and walks in the park... is just fodder for men`s jokes.

[WinstonSmith6079]

@dogterd LOL I don't know if I could have said that better myself!

And that 'looking for a nice guy and quiet evenings at home and walks on the beach, blah, blah, yada, yada' is great mens' joke fodder, because the women who say that are sooo full of shit.

And the belligerent, alchie, knucklehead IS exactly what they want. And as far as I'm concerned that's all they should get, as that's they best they can do, and don't deserve anything any better than that.

[glutamin111]

Thats not a narcissist loool

This guy really has sort of a "small man syndrome" and so seems insecure of himself. NPD person would actually make very strong attempts to come out as perfect as possible

[ElasticGiraffe]

This is a horrible misrepresentation of pathological narcissism... Narcissists will read you like a book and then play you like a CD. Most are intelligent enough to know that they cannot manipulate your feelings if they boast about how superior they are compared the rest of humanity, so they put on an attractive facade to lure you into their private web. As your relationship with his fabricated self develops, you will see him reveal a frighteningly dark, raging side whenever his ego is wounded.

[bontropolis]

Yeah, a real narcissist usually picks a girl he "admires" or wants the approval of - then when he gets her - or when she seems to care, and begins the demands and wants her to prove her love to him. His complete lack of caring and common kindness can erode her sense of self esteem - after all, the man who adored her now treats her like crap. If she had narcissistic parent(s) she may believe that's the best she'll ever really have - and all she deserves.

[lemsip]

@nso1256 He's probably just drunk or high on cocaine.

[slim240293]

I'm a narcissist and I don't usually talk about myself at a date, I'm just trying to get her to want me more and more so I can feel extraordinary being me. ^_^

[Veisbergs1]

With very little research done you could have created a more accurate representation of a narcissist. I am not usually blunt but this is a complete misconception, it saddens me that you are incorrectly educating individuals on such an important matter.

[maconsumner]

Not a true narcissist, a true narcissist tends to listen to and act interested to suck the victim in. After that they become belittling and nasty to their victims if they do not conform to their fantasy world of relationships, but this is after they have them firmly on the hook. Narcissism is another clinical term that many tend to use to describe an asshole. There is a lot more to it than this.

[lemsip]

@maconsumner This is what they are like if they haven't developed social skills or are not interesting in hooking you but somebody else instead because they don't want to target you for some reason.

They behave differently with different people.

[GeneralSauerKraut]

Yeah never shutting up about themselves is the girl's job, what is he thinking?

[LatinoLokaso]

How come girls are aloud to be Narcissists and men are not?

[MiamiPush2theLimit]

This guy isn't a narcissist. He's just an asshole.

[rico46davis]

the video is slightly misleading, the narc will charm you in direct response to many of your positive and negative tells in your behaviour.whether he or she knows it or not there is always an element to draw you in and abuse you at the same time. this can be difficult to spot and understand immediately.a give and take, good or bad, yes or no response from you is your first clue. do not allow your self to ignore your emotional response after considering who this person really is and what they are

[Zenigundam]

Fuck this video.

Narcissists are people with vision. Everyone else is just jealous and immature

[Boofelcake]

@Zenigundam narcissism derives from Narcissus, who fell in love when he saw himself in a pond of water... they have vision, but only if they are in it. Jealousy and immaturity have nothin to do with it. A narc could be a crack addict who looks like sasquatch with fungus growing on it's face...yet still he/she find themselves above anybody else.

[lemsip]

@Boofelcake I can't believe the number of female singers in the charts who are narcissists; La Roux, Lady Gaga, Beyonce, Rihanna, Katy Perry and Amy Winehouse. I avoid that lot like the plague.

[DropDeadCouture]

the truth about narcissists is that they have hidden their soul and are afraid of anyone loving them for who they really are (their soul), so they have an image ideal to live up to. sometimes it gets so bad for them that they dont even remember what it was like to own a soul. they loose themselves while getting so caught up in their narcissistic facade. i know one of these. i wish i could help but they are deep down plagued by intense insecurity and fear of someone loving them.

[zablujnc]

I think the vast majority of people are to some digree narcissistic... I think the biggest difference is in wether they are alpha or betha people... so to say... dare to act on their nervousness or repress it... (and later feel envious on those that don't... or repress even that)

I won't judge on what is "right" or "wrong" ... I just think it goes like that..

Oh yes and... I am a textbook narcissist, and if you feel like disregarding my whole comment on the base of that, than so be it.

[abadkitty808]

bipoler disorder? like lincon?

[Riversleigh1]

Hey I spent time with a narc. He can talk for hours about himself, in fact he has no other subject. Good luck Johnny wherever you are and good ridence too.

[BabyNeuron]

This video is terrible at describing narcissism.

Narcissists are malignant psychic vampires...

"wait until you know eachother better"

Get the hell away from a narcissist. Don't let them in.

[lmollot]

when were nervous we cant stop talking-why not just say one minute and just say sorry something i forgot-i have to go-its his own job to fix himself-feeling sorry 4 guys can cost u even ur life if u dont obey-men kill women everyday

[isabellamurdock]

I wish i had this good advice 14 yrs ago

[Ironandtheshizzelz]

Hes acting like a woman not a narcissist

[TheBlackLesbian]

That's not true. The majority of those diagonalize with Narcissism Personality Disorder are men. The female version is Borderline Personality Disorder.

[Ironandtheshizzelz]

@TheBlackLesbian

your saying that this is how a true narcissist acts in a date? your a fucking retard. Narcissist will make you feel extremely special in the first date not act like a overtalking woman like in this video.

[Hzqi]

@TheBlackLesbian

Yar, ah, no. Nothing you've written is correct.

There is no male or female incarnation of either. They are seperate, and they are universal.

[JohnnyRock2000]

@TheBlackLesbian - BPD is narcissism without the directness or the testosterone. One thing for sure, male or female they are easy to rage.

[ADORABEL25]

@TheBlackLesbian

so untrue, borderlines do ave a heart a soul, they can love a person. In matter of fact wen they love tey love deeper then "normal" people. Every emotion is so muc stronger in te heart mind and soul of a borderliner. You just can not compare toes 2 disorders with eachother. A borderliner does know , and if not CAN face their problems and if they want to work on it. They can feel compassion, understand feelings of other people. Borderliner=human, narcist=beast

[Hzqi]

@Ironandtheshizzelz

lol!

[lilsweeti13]

What? Hey, Listen, No one cares what you have to say!

How does that sound to you? Good to me. I just don't want to hear you say that to me.

Just admit that I am perfect flawless in every way!

[patriciacarrasco]

this person is NOT a narcissist...people shouldnt diagnose people w/ real psychological terms they really dont know about...this dude is just a bore! narcissism is very real and devastating, i know people like this and my mother is like this...its like people calling other people bi-polar when they dont really know what bi-polar is...

[Timmmay33]

Not surprising, but interesting of how the gender rolls persist to show the female as the most sensible. Whereas the male is beyond help with extreme narcissism. Not just in this video, but most videos throughout YouTube.

Is it not true in regards to parenting, divorce, financial, judicial leniency, and education would be based upon entitlement of most women? No, not all women are narcissistic, likewise as not all men. However, there is NOTHING in regards to entitlement but obligation for men.

[huntercarney1]

no one acts like that. at all... really bad.. terrible video.... god damnit

[sbtbfanatic]

There are lots of women like this!  They are so boring!!

[yubarraboo]

Yah, narcissists tend to be very charming and confident in order to get you where they want you.

They also tend to be flippant and look down their nose at people...

[REdCr0ss98]

Real narcissists are much smarter than that. They act "normal" and play the role of "Mr.Perfect" which oftens means that they don't talk about themselves too much, because they understand its a turn off. Real N's are dreadfully calculating,intelligent,aware.

The guy in the video is what I call a "Douche-Bag"\

people, please don't let this video fool you, real N's DO NOT act like this. I know because I am an N myself.

[jbossysaucy]

@REdCr0ss98 i have never met an N that is aware of his/her own narcissism. This is usually why they are so hard to treat. They easily spot another N, but they usually never see it in themselves. What made you think you were one?

[sairaj1]

they are very charming at first. do not date them. stay away.

[ncfwhitetigress]

I'm automatically repelled from people like this, romantically-speaking. I'll hang out with them and be friends, but they never get the goods.

[jbossysaucy]

@ncfwhitetigress I wish I had been...both my husbands were N's. Looks like im dating another too....

[crazyedd123]

1:17

his lips must've been burning XD

[a1mint]

TV so encourages this behavior.

Take "The Bachelor / Bachelorette" for instance. They constantly yack about themselves and even if they talk about the other, it all is about how it reflects on themselves.

A complete void of genuinely having a selfless interest in the other. Clear signs of narcissism.

Really sad. Really nice pretty happy girl. Getting her to talk about things, then makes jokes, reflect on life together, is just not in some people...

[ntiego]

as everyone is saying, this is a big false hollow ego not nec'lly narcissim.

with narcissim, u might not see this at first.

[RavenBettyBlue]

This is an ad for razor blades? Weird.

[splintercellfool]

this is not a narc lol

this is more of a 'small man syndrome' case. hes kinda tall so it must be down there.

narcissists like to listen and play along with what the girl says getting deeper and deeper into the girls life to know everything about the girl, that way they can use it to get to her.

I do it i wont lie it works really well, im a hard hard hardcore narc but i cant help it.

[davlor86]

that's right. Narcisstics are really good people actually. this guy from the video is just an idiot who doesn't even have a clue about how a narcissistic really is....

[splintercellfool]

hes an asshole more than anything lol

[WickedRude]

yes sir. as far as personality disorders go, they're worse out there.

[krunkaintdead69]

that is the typical douche. they seem to be growing in numbers.....

[Blockup5]

this woman is highly insecure

[jbgood3]

A narc on the first date (m or f) will listen to you and give you lots of attention. This is done to look for your vulnerabilities so that they can exploit them later. Don't date a narc unless you want to be destroyed emotionally.

[RitalinLad]

YEA TOBY!!!!!!

[ecclaed]

I have experienced this more than once.

From what I've experienced, they try too hard to mask insecurity.

[nomorepropaganda]

This isn't a true narcissist. A narcissist will make you feel like you're really special. Then they will start the "narcissism" after they have you in their clutches.

[RubyJBSTL]

ABSOLUTELY. They are going to read YOU very well and be the most interesting person you have ever met. They want to knock you off your feet so your adulation will be deep.

[Lalachicki]

exactly

[shadowfox363]

No, that's a sociopath.

[sandraplumberd]

check out on google What Makes a Narcissist Tick

and view the vid of the same name on here

[shadowfox363]

Try reading what what a narcissist really is and not just go by what random people say. A true narcissist, someone with the actual disorder, doesn't care enough about you to worry about rather or not you have been affected by time. All they care about is that you pay attention to them.

I really need to stop talking to people.

[rjpancerniCAUSA]

@RubyJBSTL True. Females can read males much, much better (naturally, without narcissism).

[jbossysaucy]

@nomorepropaganda That is absolutely true! They hook you then mistreat you and make you think its all your fault!

[Isochest]

@nomorepropaganda I think you are right from what my mum said. Pathologues act before they trap their victims. My dad's a Narcissist & he's a total waste of space.

[J1zzardOfOz]

@nomorepropaganda mwahahhaha. so true, but don't tell our secrets.

[FaultyGolem]

@nomorepropaganda

Fully agree!! They are all charming and completely "into you" in the beginning then it slowly changes, and if you don't agree or go along with their plan, you are kicked to the curb. The ONLY people Narcs keep around are those who are useful for their purposes.

[LaleArpaci]

@nomorepropaganda Totally on the money

[leytem]

DAMN THAT BITCH IS A HATER HAA

[lemsip]

@nomorepropaganda It depends if they have social skills or not.

[Riversleigh1]

@nomorepropaganda A reply to a very old post, I disagree. Because a narcs greatest compliment is that they are with you. I love this vid. Wish I had had this advice years earlier