Wonder if they would be able to answer as honestly if they were to speak japanese, and then be translated? I really got the feeling that not all of them were able to say all that they wanted to say; and at least not the way they wanted to say it... Subtitles are fine with me :P
Exchange student from Malaysia! I didn't expect to hear that but I'm not exactly surprised either. Most of my friends who went for foreign exchange programs went to Japan.
I like the last girl she's much more honest to her heart, than thinking about moving to another country or to get to learn English aka just to use people like that for your own benefit.
1 thing I have learned from Japanese friends @ my University is that women are far more likely than men to MARRY a foreigner. This is mainly due to their own culture. Women are more open to the idea because, in Japan, they are sort of expecting to be subservient. Not that would be the only reason, but it seems to be the one that crops up the most when I ask around.
Men, on the other hand, prefer the subservient type and know most foreigners, especially American women, are more free minded.
It's always interesting to hear people's honest opinions. The interesting thing about love, however, is that it has a funny knack of treating opinions, preferences and even prejudices like the Berlin Wall. Eventually, any barrier will come down. Perhaps love is what ultimately makes life interesting and varied, in that we aren't truly able to choose with whom we fall in love. Love happens when it does, and takes the two swept up in its wake along with it.
I think they don't want to marry a foreigner because they are totally different and don't speak Japanese but would if the foreigner was totally committed to learning Japanese and being one of them would it be okay to marry one for them?
Like the guy said at the beginning of the video, don't get discouraged/hearbroken: this is only the views of select individuals. and oF COURSE their parents prefer marrying w/in the culture; every previous generation is more conservative than the current one. there are plenty of Japanese nationals who love foreigners. the idea that Japan is some weird, alien world where group think is common is false. people are people, no matter the country. some hate you, some love you; a lot don't care.
I always get sad that the foreign girls are okay with american/european guys, but the guys are never interested in american/european guys. I wouldn't mind a Japanese guy, but I don't really see it happening.
It makes sense why they would only want to date a foreigner and not marry, there are a ton of differences in husband/ wife dynamics in the states and in japan.
There is many problems a foreign man faces in Japan when dating women(note; i lived in Japan last year, but I no longer do, however I hope to someday return and live there). The main problem is most Japanese women who want a foreigner man almost always want to live in a western country or just want to learn english off of you. For me personally, I wanted a real japanese woman who could not speak english and would want to always speak japanese, I never found such a woman.
I can understand the last girl's concern for trying to get along and truly comprehend someone from a different culture, but most foreigners love the Japanese culture as well. Heck, The only culture out there that I truly enjoy is the Japanese. Nothing else makes more sense or gives me more joy :) In fact, If it wasn't for my country of birth and physicial appearance, I'd be 100 % Japanese ^^
Why would you want (or not want) a foreign girl/boyfriend and not a foreign wife/husband? Call me old fashioned but I only want to date the person I plan to marry, no matter what age. Which I did. :) What I'm trying to say is that I don't understand why people would want to waste their time with the dating game.
@310BPM you misunderstood me. i'm not wishing everybody would speak french to me in japan but it is a rare event when i travel, my english helped me way more. i just thought it would be cool to meet a japanese person who can speak french.
After seeing most of the "How to" videos, explaining the "less pleasant parts" of Japan, this one makes me still looking forward for trips and maybe a long-term stay in Nihon, hehe. You can feel that the people in the video are very fond to their culture, and I sure want to adapt to it. And now I also have hope in finding people who would, even if not directly, show you the way to blend in as good as possible. Thanks to the interviewers, ki o tsukete kudasai !! ^_^ (sorry for bad japanese)
@wheeler1 lol its not a "requirement" to learn english. No one can make you learn a language, unless you went to a prison in the country of the language you wanted to learn. It is only a requirement for kids to take english classes during school.
@KirstieXoXo Around 1% of the population is foreign and Nearly all of those are Chinese, Korean or Brazilian. Other than that there are barely any other foreigners. Unless they'd been abroad it'd be very unlikely and strange.
@KirstieXoXo it is, overall, I heard another youtuber who lives in japan (teaches english), speak about that 1/5 of the children in tokyo comes from mixed parents, but obviously, in the kansai area the mix is far less.
when I went to Osaka with my girlfriend, as i didnt live in the tourist area, and i only saw a handfull foreigners living there. around the shopping areas you will see a few mixed couples.. but I think it is becomming more acceptable.
I found it very interesting how none of them answered with, "Well, if I'm in love with them, I would want to marry them." or soemthing along those lines. It was always more of language and cultural issues that steered them clear of marriage to a foreigner. O.O
@bloc22 Not really, well yeah in Japan. I had a Japanese girl in the USA but she moved back to Japan and left me alone, I still communicate but yeah, Was it SUPER HARD for you? and they never pay any attention to you? I feel bad if they didn't =/ must suck for you.
I'm Swedish and i would have a VERY hard time answering those questions:
How do you know if the love of your life is going to be "foreigner"??
Also, I wouldn't become the boyfriend of ANY girl that i didn't consider marrying.
Not that we'd have to get married (marriage is unimportant) - i just wouldn't settle for anything less then what makes me madly in love (no, i'm not religious). Everyone deserves the best relationship only, otherwise it's a waste of our short lives.
@clarkcolt45 Thats what I love about japanese, and koreans, they seem to have a more pragmatic approach to relationships, not this fake best relationship only crap.
You may get lucky to have this best relationship, but your a low percentage even though everybody thinks they have the best relationship.
But whatever, we will stick to enjoying life the best we can instead of shoehorning ourselves into a fantasy where we go in with false expectations.
They are fine with foreign boyfriends but when the matter escalates to marriage, I am surprised that they have a total change of heart. That is going to break a lot of hearts.
@bigfatfoot Well, I believe most people don't think about marriage or who to marry. If a japanese woman gets a foreigner as a boyfriend and they are together a couple of years. They might change their mind. After all I believe it's all about love in the end and not your culture and/or heritage, even tho I think that is important aswell.
Lol, it's good advice to notice the reactions, when asked the girl squints and kind of cringes a little.. the guy on the other hand spreads a sincere smile from ear to ear the moment he hears the question even if he said no!
@Destruction3402 so what is their true mind then? Can you explain the "honne" behind this "tatemae" in a clear way so that simple folk can have the secret revealed. Because I don't know what is the truth.
Well, at least some of them are honest. That´s okay, of course. I think it could be difficult in some way, especially for their parents or even grandparents.
It could work out too, but that´s up to both people in a relationship.
Example: Let's say your child asks you for a cookie, and you ask: "Well, what did your mother say?" As they reply "Mom said... yes.", they look to the left. This would indicate a made up answer as their eyes are showing a "constructed image or sound. Looking to the right would indicated a "remembered" voice or image, and thus would be telling the truth.
Sorry for the double post but I had to do it. Ayumi Hamaski married a foreigner!! OK maybe that isn't the best representative example but hey it could happen. I also wonder if the time factor has anything to do with it. If a Japanese girl knows that your time in Japan is short, maybe she is less willing to get involved? That has happened to me a couple of times but I never really thought about it that much. While cultural differences can be a hurdle don't let it be a handicap & learn from it.
Ah nice to know people are being someone civil on this one in their responses. Yes, true most are likely just being polite. The polite response vs true feelings is a major hurdle no doubt. What I have found is that Japanese express more truthfully in written text then face to face conversation. Overall a very interesting video and one which you can never have to much information.
My brother-in-law lives in Japan and is married to a Japanese woman. I have several friends foreign to Japan that are dating Japanese men/women. I go to school in Niigata-Japan every summer. I'll be living in Japan for the next 2 years, starting April 2012. In "my" experience, I've met Japanese girls who only date foreign guys. Lot's of Japanese guys/girls want western partners. In effect, lot's of foreigners to Japan don't like other foreigners, for that reason. This is just "my" experience.
This is absolutely fascinating to watch, then I thought about it and I said to myself would my parents care if I had a foreign girlfriend and the answer is maybe, but not much.
Generally speaking, Everybody feels more comfortable with their own culture because that is what they know best, it is very simple actually, no mistery.
@frepi From my experience living together with my japanese girlfriend for several years, japanese people don't like to discuss stuff, at all, at least not serious stuff too much. "Maybe" is a way for japanese people to avoid not being nice to people and again, to avoid serious discussion, because I think they're not comfortable with it.
as a girl it's really hard to get a serious relationship with a japanese guy- as pointed out before it might seem exciting and kinda adventurous for a japanese guy to have a foreign girlfriend, but they hardly consider you as "marriage material"......so mostly the relationship has an expiration date and you know it....pretty frustrating LOL
@Lori82hb it is true and is not only japanese guy but it goes to this chinese guy I have dated for three months. Mostly all asian girls are bold enough to marry someone outside their race and very happy. These asian girls know what they want. They didn't like asian guys that much because the asian guys are doing the same thing or just plain out not bold as these asian girls. It sad but it is how it is.
I'm against marriage because it is an agreement between a couple and the state. I'm against the state. I'm fine with personal unions however. Besides that, marriage can be (Depending on location) a very sexist institution. I'm not just talking about taking a man's last name. I'm talking about often times men getting the most out of divorce settlements in many places, as an example.
it's not so surprising tho. most of my friends have chosen nice middle class in english girls to settle down with... for me personally, that's boring. i guess there's a type of person that no matter where they're born are going to be more interested in the opposite side of the planet. lol
I do not understand why so many people say that there so many differences in cultural understanding of marriage and relationship between Japan and the West. As a Southern European I can see many similarities between ours and theirs general understanding of the matter.
@aulocus I think it's because the U.S. and countires smililar to us have views on it that are so massively different from everyone else's. Speaking from the a U.S. perspective, I think marriage is one big trap, and an easy way for a guy to ruin his life. But it's because of how marriage works in the U.S. that I've become so advertent to it. It's a horrible, one-sided affair here. The fact that U.S. divorce rate is nearing 50% and Japan's is 27% says a lot already about differences.
Marrying someone from another country is very hard as there are so many gaps in communication . I'm talking mainly about Japanese and Korean as their language and upbringing is so different from say someone from Aust. It can work , but if you're a person who thrives on conversation/communication in a relationship , you're asking for a hard time . It depends what you value most and If you don't mind explaining more then talking freely with your partner . Sure a Japanese girl/boy can learn Englis
I am surprised that none of them brought up the subject of love. I mean, if someone asked me if I would marry someone from another country I think I would say that if I fell in love with them and loved them very deeply then, yes of course I would.
i hear japanese think badly of u.s women because "loud and demanding women who are shallow & expect the boyfriend to do everything" but then again that could be people who got turned down by a "foreigner".please tell people there that u.s women are all not the same. i also hear that when foreigners go to japan and make fools of emselves like getting drunk and being rude or annoying say their from america when their not.but again they dont c alot of white,black people so they might just assume
@BlueEyes72 I'm from the U.S. myself and I think U.S. women are loud, demanding, shallow, and do expect the boyfriend to do everything. This opinion isn't a Japanese exclusive and I'm sure tons of other guys would agree with the same statement.
@PinuyashaRPG That's my general perception of women in the west. I move to Canada at the age of 11. Don't get me wrong. I love to shower my woman with everything but only when they deserve it not demanded it.
Your channel is amazing and informative. What I learned in this video is that whether they accept foreigners or not is based on the generational gap that their parents gave. Some parents stuck to tradition, while others believe in trusting their child's decisions. I've always liked the "lady with the glasses" responses to all your interview questions. she seems to have charisma and doesn't seem nervous about the questions. Great vid. :)
Don't know whether it's been already mentioned in any of your videos, but after watching this one I started to wonder whether being a declared single (a person who openly says that he/she doesn't want to get married) is common or not. Or whether they still try to follow the traditional pattern of getting married or simply choose to live in open relationships?
I realize that this question may sound a bit odd, though ^_^
@AkallabethGoth my twin and our friend is the same way. they both say they dont see themselves getting married. but would like to have a long term boyfriend
@SheWhoLovesPineapple It's a very pertinent question. Japanese have the idea that foreigners like to fool around. Some Japanese women wouldn't want to date a foreigner to fool around with but they would marry him if he was seriously interested in her.I've seen it happen many times.
@SheWhoLovesPineapple To keep it fair. He has to ask the same questions to everyone. And her second answer could give more reason as to why she wouldn't want a foreign partner.
they're super polite, but they're lying. it's interesting how their is such a massive difference between boyfriend and husband. a boyfriend is a potential husband! the last girl is so adorable!
Ironic how the girl at end who probably has the best English in this video is the one that says she is worried about communication and understanding another culture.
@blahk04 - Why's that ironic? That would be a normal reaction. If you think communication is a problem, then you do your best to be a good communicator.
@Roryomg Yeah compared to the other rich countries in the world, the Japanese are horrible at English. Especially since many of them study it in elementary school and high school.
Opposites attract.. I honestly don't want to marry another Canadian like myself. Canadians are crazy people... CRAZY I TELL YOU!! :P But love is a strange thing and anything could happen..
@danpluso While I agree that opposites attract, it doesn't really apply to every combination of racial makeup. For example, here in Toronto the white guy/asian girl couples far outnumber the asian guy/white girl by an incredibly huge margin. Opposites attract, but there is an unwritten hierarchy that many girls will follow that will prevent them from "mating" with someone who they perceive as being below their status.
I love the 2nd dude! he's always honest! Some people might get offended but I think the key is to learn and understand what and why they are saying it.
Why is it usually girls are more accepting towards having foreign relationships than guys? not trying be like rude or anything!! hoping someone has an answer :)
@heatherlovebug1 Generaly the idea is that the women are more outgoing for relationships and seem to be far more polite about the questions. They also have to think of continuing family roles through generations.
Your disclaimer at the beginning of this vid was incredibly important. My experience is that most gaijin seldom meet xenophobic Japanese, and if they do, they never become aware of it simply because they don't speak enough Japanese to know it. Also, the average Japanese is rather polite, even if they detest foreigners. But in fact many do. You only begin to know this well after about 5 years or so of being there.
next you should ask them if it would be ok to date or marry a black foreigner. Because, as you well know, in Japan there are 'good' foreigners and 'bad' foreigners. The governor of tokyo, mr ishihara, has even verbalised it.
I noticed none of them said anything about Americans or America, it was all like Germany, France, Switzerland, ect not that i blame em just interesting observation.
G'day!
Are you Aussie?
kindersurprise8 1 day ago
do they see other people from asia as Foreigner or a little Foreigner because there is no much diffrence between behaving en culture
CeaNer 3 days ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
@CeaNer
Look at the "what do asians like" video.
TheJapanChannelDcom 3 days ago
Wonder if they would be able to answer as honestly if they were to speak japanese, and then be translated? I really got the feeling that not all of them were able to say all that they wanted to say; and at least not the way they wanted to say it... Subtitles are fine with me :P
DahBjorn 3 days ago
Exchange student from Malaysia! I didn't expect to hear that but I'm not exactly surprised either. Most of my friends who went for foreign exchange programs went to Japan.
questionshinobi18 1 week ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
I like the last girl she's much more honest to her heart, than thinking about moving to another country or to get to learn English aka just to use people like that for your own benefit.
Keira15true 1 week ago
1 thing I have learned from Japanese friends @ my University is that women are far more likely than men to MARRY a foreigner. This is mainly due to their own culture. Women are more open to the idea because, in Japan, they are sort of expecting to be subservient. Not that would be the only reason, but it seems to be the one that crops up the most when I ask around.
Men, on the other hand, prefer the subservient type and know most foreigners, especially American women, are more free minded.
BobbyKendo 1 week ago
Does first girl feel cold or something? She needs to find a Swiss or German guy who likes to have a Japanese girlfriend dressed in a blanket.
yasumi07 1 week ago
It's always interesting to hear people's honest opinions. The interesting thing about love, however, is that it has a funny knack of treating opinions, preferences and even prejudices like the Berlin Wall. Eventually, any barrier will come down. Perhaps love is what ultimately makes life interesting and varied, in that we aren't truly able to choose with whom we fall in love. Love happens when it does, and takes the two swept up in its wake along with it.
comradeharley 1 week ago 4
"lol, no. no thank you. lol" he rocks lol.
X8802 1 week ago
fuking comecial every fuking video!! >:O
HolyEyEolo 1 week ago
@HolyEyEolo commercial*
zepherighost 1 week ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
@zepherighost
fuking grammer nazy every fuking place you go!! >:O
HolyEyEolo 6 days ago
@HolyEyEolo Nazi.
zepherighost 5 days ago
@zepherighost
Nazi**
HolyEyEolo 5 days ago
@HolyEyEolo
fuk it why am i nazyfied ??? leamme alone you nazy!
HolyEyEolo 5 days ago
I think they don't want to marry a foreigner because they are totally different and don't speak Japanese but would if the foreigner was totally committed to learning Japanese and being one of them would it be okay to marry one for them?
hanaxbutu 1 week ago
Like the guy said at the beginning of the video, don't get discouraged/hearbroken: this is only the views of select individuals. and oF COURSE their parents prefer marrying w/in the culture; every previous generation is more conservative than the current one. there are plenty of Japanese nationals who love foreigners. the idea that Japan is some weird, alien world where group think is common is false. people are people, no matter the country. some hate you, some love you; a lot don't care.
rss313 2 weeks ago
It's funny to see some would date/marry for culture and the others wouldn't because of culture
causerDAguv 2 weeks ago
Your questions were kind of fishing for specific answers, not very open ended
takadi 2 weeks ago
I always get sad that the foreign girls are okay with american/european guys, but the guys are never interested in american/european guys. I wouldn't mind a Japanese guy, but I don't really see it happening.
GalaxyofStarrs 2 weeks ago
just say NO. lol
TheMrForplay 2 weeks ago
why dont you tteach us some japanese...
benarroch15 2 weeks ago
I don't care about nationality or race of my boyfriend. and marriage doesnt matter to me coz I will never do. lol haha
light80050 2 weeks ago
It makes sense why they would only want to date a foreigner and not marry, there are a ton of differences in husband/ wife dynamics in the states and in japan.
StarPrincess144 3 weeks ago
This kinda broke my heart! lol
Aphroditexx 3 weeks ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
I'M FROM SWITZERLAND!!! ... no I'm not. -____-;
clarinini 3 weeks ago
i think many modern japanese women like the culture freedoms that western women have
s0cialengineers 3 weeks ago
There is many problems a foreign man faces in Japan when dating women(note; i lived in Japan last year, but I no longer do, however I hope to someday return and live there). The main problem is most Japanese women who want a foreigner man almost always want to live in a western country or just want to learn english off of you. For me personally, I wanted a real japanese woman who could not speak english and would want to always speak japanese, I never found such a woman.
CoolManNowicki 1 week ago
is a difference between Asian Foreigner and a western Foreigner in japan
CeaNer 3 weeks ago
I can understand the last girl's concern for trying to get along and truly comprehend someone from a different culture, but most foreigners love the Japanese culture as well. Heck, The only culture out there that I truly enjoy is the Japanese. Nothing else makes more sense or gives me more joy :) In fact, If it wasn't for my country of birth and physicial appearance, I'd be 100 % Japanese ^^
WaterCrystalline 3 weeks ago 12
damn it... the cutest girl doesn't want a foreigner.... wtf
kilzinha 3 weeks ago
the guys were honest ..... the girls were just being polite
kilzinha 3 weeks ago
@kilzinha
the girls just like foreigner guys, though.
Dihyyy 2 weeks ago
Politeness is near enough in their DNA. I don't think we really got any honest answers apart from the last one.
RMCFShaunay1991 3 weeks ago
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Why would you want (or not want) a foreign girl/boyfriend and not a foreign wife/husband? Call me old fashioned but I only want to date the person I plan to marry, no matter what age. Which I did. :) What I'm trying to say is that I don't understand why people would want to waste their time with the dating game.
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garrvict 3 weeks ago
There's hope
CouchPatrol001 3 weeks ago
Hehehe this is funny.
tgkg 4 weeks ago
GAIJIN
SPS148669 4 weeks ago
The lady at 5:20 > seems very open minded and cute, sort of feel sorry for her as i can see it could go very bad with certain asswipes :(
slovakiboi 1 month ago 10
I want a Japanese girl.
schlegelt 1 month ago
i like that girls starting at min 5:20 she is Kawaii(for me)
Hanukator 1 month ago
when i go to japan i need to meet that 1st girl's brother! it would be so cool to speak french there! (i'm french canadian by the way ^_^)
jodelle6 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
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why would you go to Japan just to speak French? you can do that here. lol.
310BPM 3 weeks ago
@310BPM you misunderstood me. i'm not wishing everybody would speak french to me in japan but it is a rare event when i travel, my english helped me way more. i just thought it would be cool to meet a japanese person who can speak french.
jodelle6 3 weeks ago
After seeing most of the "How to" videos, explaining the "less pleasant parts" of Japan, this one makes me still looking forward for trips and maybe a long-term stay in Nihon, hehe. You can feel that the people in the video are very fond to their culture, and I sure want to adapt to it. And now I also have hope in finding people who would, even if not directly, show you the way to blend in as good as possible. Thanks to the interviewers, ki o tsukete kudasai !! ^_^ (sorry for bad japanese)
Icedmindblow 1 month ago
confirm subscription - イイエズ (yes)
CAKESTAR 1 month ago
I heard it was a requirement to learn english!
wheeler1 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
@wheeler1 From middle school, yes.
needmanshini 1 month ago
@wheeler1 lol its not a "requirement" to learn english. No one can make you learn a language, unless you went to a prison in the country of the language you wanted to learn. It is only a requirement for kids to take english classes during school.
jsz430 1 month ago
ahh~so sad that only the girls seem to be more open minded~
oh well~ but its interesting to see their answers!
hydeistlove 1 month ago
Is it unusual for Japanese people to marry a foreigner??
KirstieXoXo 1 month ago
@KirstieXoXo Around 1% of the population is foreign and Nearly all of those are Chinese, Korean or Brazilian. Other than that there are barely any other foreigners. Unless they'd been abroad it'd be very unlikely and strange.
luvmaya 1 month ago
@KirstieXoXo it is, overall, I heard another youtuber who lives in japan (teaches english), speak about that 1/5 of the children in tokyo comes from mixed parents, but obviously, in the kansai area the mix is far less.
when I went to Osaka with my girlfriend, as i didnt live in the tourist area, and i only saw a handfull foreigners living there. around the shopping areas you will see a few mixed couples.. but I think it is becomming more acceptable.
CAKESTAR 1 month ago
11:03 unfortunately you would be favourited through your honesty T_T
DasFaTe 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
I found it very interesting how none of them answered with, "Well, if I'm in love with them, I would want to marry them." or soemthing along those lines. It was always more of language and cultural issues that steered them clear of marriage to a foreigner. O.O
Konekosan01 1 month ago
Japanese girls are cute, adorable and shy. The way I love them.
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun and why they're SUPER HARD to obtain and also why they'll probably never pay any attention to you ;)
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 Not really, well yeah in Japan. I had a Japanese girl in the USA but she moved back to Japan and left me alone, I still communicate but yeah, Was it SUPER HARD for you? and they never pay any attention to you? I feel bad if they didn't =/ must suck for you.
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun I was talking about in Japan. Don't act like a big shot yet buddy.
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 Well that's what I said in Japan. It's easy here in the Bronx.
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun You live in the Bronx??...........me too! lol that's awesome
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 Yep, born and raised.
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun Same
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 Koolio, small world huh?? 1404 noble ave East bronx new york Come at me if you wanna fight me lol just kidding.
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun 5 Minerva Place in Jerome. I'll be there hahahaha just messin
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 That's by Boulevard right Ahh man I ate at bedford cafe one day over there The sammish was good lol
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
@TeriyakiShogun I go there everyday! I get a bagel and cream cheese before headin to class lol
bloc22 1 month ago
@bloc22 hahaha kool
TeriyakiShogun 1 month ago
Very interesting interesting interview.
ありがとう @TheJapanChannelDcom
dlzerocool 1 month ago
To the first girl, I am Swiss ^^ :D
(But I want to live in Japan) :D bad luck for you.
dlzerocool 1 month ago
THE LAST GIRL WAS TOTALLY HONEST !!!thumbs up if you agree :D
jaedenize 1 month ago 32
@jaedenize And pretty cute. :3
thrash77581 1 month ago
@jaedenize she is alright
RedQueen100 3 weeks ago
6:05 that girl is so lying you can tell when there lying when they swing there head down to the left/right!
jaedenize 1 month ago
I'm Swedish and i would have a VERY hard time answering those questions:
How do you know if the love of your life is going to be "foreigner"??
Also, I wouldn't become the boyfriend of ANY girl that i didn't consider marrying.
Not that we'd have to get married (marriage is unimportant) - i just wouldn't settle for anything less then what makes me madly in love (no, i'm not religious). Everyone deserves the best relationship only, otherwise it's a waste of our short lives.
clarkcolt45 1 month ago 3
@clarkcolt45 Thats what I love about japanese, and koreans, they seem to have a more pragmatic approach to relationships, not this fake best relationship only crap.
You may get lucky to have this best relationship, but your a low percentage even though everybody thinks they have the best relationship.
But whatever, we will stick to enjoying life the best we can instead of shoehorning ourselves into a fantasy where we go in with false expectations.
waltermh111 1 month ago
They are fine with foreign boyfriends but when the matter escalates to marriage, I am surprised that they have a total change of heart. That is going to break a lot of hearts.
bigfatfoot 1 month ago 18
@bigfatfoot Not really :) Just look at this channel's creator. ^^ Love knows no Boundries my friend.
WaterCrystalline 3 weeks ago
@bigfatfoot Are you sure that is normal? I know from other countries like vietnam that intercultural marriage is normal.
Bocktiggi 2 weeks ago
@bigfatfoot Well, I believe most people don't think about marriage or who to marry. If a japanese woman gets a foreigner as a boyfriend and they are together a couple of years. They might change their mind. After all I believe it's all about love in the end and not your culture and/or heritage, even tho I think that is important aswell.
stoffni 1 week ago
Boyfriend ehhh?? friends? :).
A7Jey 1 month ago 3
10:06 Idk why but I adore this girl. Ill be her boyfriend!
Epirc 1 month ago
You deserve Like button :3
FaRiSX7 1 month ago
last girl is so kawaiiii
stevelau1933 1 month ago 2
maybe have your wife do one of the interviews?
KELLERMANisBACK 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
Lol, it's good advice to notice the reactions, when asked the girl squints and kind of cringes a little.. the guy on the other hand spreads a sincere smile from ear to ear the moment he hears the question even if he said no!
LugeoLeon 1 month ago
They're just being modest and polite.
I think many Japanese are very careful before marrying a foreigner.
Destruction3402 1 month ago 2
@Destruction3402 so what is their true mind then? Can you explain the "honne" behind this "tatemae" in a clear way so that simple folk can have the secret revealed. Because I don't know what is the truth.
Floodlezoot 1 month ago
the girls seem more open to the idea of marrying/dating a foreigner than the guys but still you can see them having to think about it a little lol
jr2nd 1 month ago 3
my answer would you like a foreign boyfriend? YES A JAPANESE BOYFRIEND
<3
sopeopp 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews 3
@sopeopp Same here and at the question "Will your parents would agree" My mother will definitely say "YES" ! xD
TheSunset0 1 month ago
Alot of times, I forget to like the video, but every time I see his little caption, I always remember! :) Clicking the like button is always nice!
xochieox 1 month ago
Hello THEJAPANCHANNELDCOM guy, thanks for making all these videos, they make me smile.
zepherighost 1 month ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
would my parents be happy if i have a japanese husband? As long as i'm happy they are
The rest of my family would shun me....
Caity909 2 months ago 4
Well, at least some of them are honest. That´s okay, of course. I think it could be difficult in some way, especially for their parents or even grandparents.
It could work out too, but that´s up to both people in a relationship.
FlintFandango 2 months ago
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DensetsuShonen 2 months ago
Sorry for the double post but I had to do it. Ayumi Hamaski married a foreigner!! OK maybe that isn't the best representative example but hey it could happen. I also wonder if the time factor has anything to do with it. If a Japanese girl knows that your time in Japan is short, maybe she is less willing to get involved? That has happened to me a couple of times but I never really thought about it that much. While cultural differences can be a hurdle don't let it be a handicap & learn from it.
BlazinNSoul 2 months ago
Ah nice to know people are being someone civil on this one in their responses. Yes, true most are likely just being polite. The polite response vs true feelings is a major hurdle no doubt. What I have found is that Japanese express more truthfully in written text then face to face conversation. Overall a very interesting video and one which you can never have to much information.
BlazinNSoul 2 months ago
My brother-in-law lives in Japan and is married to a Japanese woman. I have several friends foreign to Japan that are dating Japanese men/women. I go to school in Niigata-Japan every summer. I'll be living in Japan for the next 2 years, starting April 2012. In "my" experience, I've met Japanese girls who only date foreign guys. Lot's of Japanese guys/girls want western partners. In effect, lot's of foreigners to Japan don't like other foreigners, for that reason. This is just "my" experience.
MarioCurtis 2 months ago 3
This is absolutely fascinating to watch, then I thought about it and I said to myself would my parents care if I had a foreign girlfriend and the answer is maybe, but not much.
zepherighost 2 months ago
girl at 5.19 wants a foreighn husband ?.......pick me please :D
truthfilter 2 months ago
I live in Switzerland and my dream is to marry a japanese man and go live in japan! xd Like the opposit :D
amorefly 2 months ago
switzerland YOU MUST BE SO HAPPY NOW! but remember german, poland france is close enough :D
CptEddyPrice 2 months ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
@CptEddyPrice I'm french, but I don't get what you mean...? OO
TheSunset0 1 month ago
@TheSunset0
In this video they wanted to go to Switzerland and Germany but Poland and France is close enough :)
CptEddyPrice 1 month ago
@CptEddyPrice AH yeah, okay, yeah. xD
TheSunset0 1 month ago
@CptEddyPrice To be fair, France DOES border Switzerland, and many Swiss speak French. So it pretty much is close enough.
mattorama 1 month ago
Generally speaking, Everybody feels more comfortable with their own culture because that is what they know best, it is very simple actually, no mistery.
03Terrestre 2 months ago
Strange how almost each answer begins with "Maybe". Is it a common practice in Japanese?
frepi 2 months ago
@frepi From my experience living together with my japanese girlfriend for several years, japanese people don't like to discuss stuff, at all, at least not serious stuff too much. "Maybe" is a way for japanese people to avoid not being nice to people and again, to avoid serious discussion, because I think they're not comfortable with it.
Enemtee 2 months ago in playlist The Japan Interviews
@Enemtee
Wow...Imagine trying to corner a corrupt politician or an abusive parent in that context...
frepi 2 months ago
as a girl it's really hard to get a serious relationship with a japanese guy- as pointed out before it might seem exciting and kinda adventurous for a japanese guy to have a foreign girlfriend, but they hardly consider you as "marriage material"......so mostly the relationship has an expiration date and you know it....pretty frustrating LOL
Lori82hb 2 months ago
@Lori82hb it is true and is not only japanese guy but it goes to this chinese guy I have dated for three months. Mostly all asian girls are bold enough to marry someone outside their race and very happy. These asian girls know what they want. They didn't like asian guys that much because the asian guys are doing the same thing or just plain out not bold as these asian girls. It sad but it is how it is.
moiaiyou19 2 months ago
Hmmm...that's like asking do i wanna marry an american that is chinese. lol
johnson6099 2 months ago
I'm against marriage because it is an agreement between a couple and the state. I'm against the state. I'm fine with personal unions however. Besides that, marriage can be (Depending on location) a very sexist institution. I'm not just talking about taking a man's last name. I'm talking about often times men getting the most out of divorce settlements in many places, as an example.
Aleenik 2 months ago
@Aleenik
Men getting the most out of divorce?Thats bs. You can get cleaned out in the US with a divorce and these liberal courts.
jxsilicon9 2 weeks ago
it's not so surprising tho. most of my friends have chosen nice middle class in english girls to settle down with... for me personally, that's boring. i guess there's a type of person that no matter where they're born are going to be more interested in the opposite side of the planet. lol
karmaburna 2 months ago
Not sure if I've seen a video about it. But I really wonder why they make such big difference in boyfriend/girlfriend and married in Japan?
Why does it seem like almost everyone is completely set on that they have to marry?
saiyoucho 3 months ago
I do not understand why so many people say that there so many differences in cultural understanding of marriage and relationship between Japan and the West. As a Southern European I can see many similarities between ours and theirs general understanding of the matter.
aulocus 3 months ago
@aulocus I think it's because the U.S. and countires smililar to us have views on it that are so massively different from everyone else's. Speaking from the a U.S. perspective, I think marriage is one big trap, and an easy way for a guy to ruin his life. But it's because of how marriage works in the U.S. that I've become so advertent to it. It's a horrible, one-sided affair here. The fact that U.S. divorce rate is nearing 50% and Japan's is 27% says a lot already about differences.
PinuyashaRPG 3 months ago
@PinuyashaRPG 50% ?! That is so selfish, towards the children I mean. Just terrible.
aulocus 2 months ago
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Just out of curiosity have you had a chance to interview those who do not like foreigners?
wicreed 3 months ago
Marrying someone from another country is very hard as there are so many gaps in communication . I'm talking mainly about Japanese and Korean as their language and upbringing is so different from say someone from Aust. It can work , but if you're a person who thrives on conversation/communication in a relationship , you're asking for a hard time . It depends what you value most and If you don't mind explaining more then talking freely with your partner . Sure a Japanese girl/boy can learn Englis
TheLanternmusic 3 months ago
"Would you like a foreign wife?" "uh... no, no thank you." lol
rushgal100 3 months ago 57
@rushgal100
Don't forget to say that he was so sorry to say "no". You could see it. :-D
therealdefpunk 2 months ago 3
the up front discription of this video rocks.
very intriguing :)
RobCardIV 3 months ago
I am surprised that none of them brought up the subject of love. I mean, if someone asked me if I would marry someone from another country I think I would say that if I fell in love with them and loved them very deeply then, yes of course I would.
Lucailey 3 months ago 11
lol, they need time to consider if their answer is the truth.
jtplatinum 4 months ago 20
i hear japanese think badly of u.s women because "loud and demanding women who are shallow & expect the boyfriend to do everything" but then again that could be people who got turned down by a "foreigner".please tell people there that u.s women are all not the same. i also hear that when foreigners go to japan and make fools of emselves like getting drunk and being rude or annoying say their from america when their not.but again they dont c alot of white,black people so they might just assume
BlueEyes72 4 months ago
@BlueEyes72 I'm from the U.S. myself and I think U.S. women are loud, demanding, shallow, and do expect the boyfriend to do everything. This opinion isn't a Japanese exclusive and I'm sure tons of other guys would agree with the same statement.
PinuyashaRPG 3 months ago 16
@PinuyashaRPG That's my general perception of women in the west. I move to Canada at the age of 11. Don't get me wrong. I love to shower my woman with everything but only when they deserve it not demanded it.
Polypoly06 2 months ago 2
@PinuyashaRPG Not all of us... :( I'm much more like a Japanese person, introverted... But there are a lot who give us bad names, yeah...
HippyGoat 1 month ago
Your channel is amazing and informative. What I learned in this video is that whether they accept foreigners or not is based on the generational gap that their parents gave. Some parents stuck to tradition, while others believe in trusting their child's decisions. I've always liked the "lady with the glasses" responses to all your interview questions. she seems to have charisma and doesn't seem nervous about the questions. Great vid. :)
springfever2002 4 months ago
I love the variety of opinions on here! It correlates with a lot of what you say in your other videos about ''Dating'' and ''Relationships''. :D
fReEdoMzHAlo 4 months ago
Don't know whether it's been already mentioned in any of your videos, but after watching this one I started to wonder whether being a declared single (a person who openly says that he/she doesn't want to get married) is common or not. Or whether they still try to follow the traditional pattern of getting married or simply choose to live in open relationships?
I realize that this question may sound a bit odd, though ^_^
AkallabethGoth 4 months ago
@AkallabethGoth my twin and our friend is the same way. they both say they dont see themselves getting married. but would like to have a long term boyfriend
BlueEyes72 4 months ago
it's so adorable how they apologize for not wanting to marry foreign person XD
CheeklessOnion 5 months ago 3
All the girls except the hottest say they wouldn't mind a foreign boy friend 11:05 - damn lol
ZenonOne 5 months ago
Awesome stuff! Having a Japanese girlfriend would be pretty cool!
TheCosmicburrito2 5 months ago
@TheCosmicburrito2 Why?
arbide3 5 months ago
When they start tilting their head i know straight away their going to say no like the guy did @ 4:01 lol its very cute^^
thugangel662 5 months ago
Why did you ask that last girl if she would marry a foreigner when she said she wouldn't even date one...?
SheWhoLovesPineapple 6 months ago
@SheWhoLovesPineapple It's a very pertinent question. Japanese have the idea that foreigners like to fool around. Some Japanese women wouldn't want to date a foreigner to fool around with but they would marry him if he was seriously interested in her.I've seen it happen many times.
MrKoize 6 months ago 2
@SheWhoLovesPineapple To keep it fair. He has to ask the same questions to everyone. And her second answer could give more reason as to why she wouldn't want a foreign partner.
winxcat 6 months ago
You at 2:10 - I'm Swiss, so will you marry me? :)
Ambu1993 6 months ago
the long mmm... sound means nooooo!!! XD
avegailtadiarca 6 months ago
they're super polite, but they're lying. it's interesting how their is such a massive difference between boyfriend and husband. a boyfriend is a potential husband! the last girl is so adorable!
xhellokittyx465 6 months ago 21
Ironic how the girl at end who probably has the best English in this video is the one that says she is worried about communication and understanding another culture.
blahk04 6 months ago 6
@blahk04 - Why's that ironic? That would be a normal reaction. If you think communication is a problem, then you do your best to be a good communicator.
BayviewFinch 6 months ago
Wow the language struggles are huge.
Roryomg 6 months ago
@Roryomg Yeah compared to the other rich countries in the world, the Japanese are horrible at English. Especially since many of them study it in elementary school and high school.
blahk04 6 months ago
Opposites attract.. I honestly don't want to marry another Canadian like myself. Canadians are crazy people... CRAZY I TELL YOU!! :P But love is a strange thing and anything could happen..
danpluso 6 months ago
@danpluso While I agree that opposites attract, it doesn't really apply to every combination of racial makeup. For example, here in Toronto the white guy/asian girl couples far outnumber the asian guy/white girl by an incredibly huge margin. Opposites attract, but there is an unwritten hierarchy that many girls will follow that will prevent them from "mating" with someone who they perceive as being below their status.
undeadnightorc 2 months ago
These interviews are the most popular of all the play lists in my opinion. Please make more. Good Topic Do they own any pets?
Zeldalover12100 6 months ago
I love the 2nd dude! he's always honest! Some people might get offended but I think the key is to learn and understand what and why they are saying it.
alemmora 6 months ago 2
Why is it usually girls are more accepting towards having foreign relationships than guys? not trying be like rude or anything!! hoping someone has an answer :)
heatherlovebug1 6 months ago 3
@heatherlovebug1 Generaly the idea is that the women are more outgoing for relationships and seem to be far more polite about the questions. They also have to think of continuing family roles through generations.
Roryomg 6 months ago
Thumbs up if you dated a Japanese girl whose parents hated foreigners.
Dax893 6 months ago
@Dax893 hahaha no one thumbs up u . ur the only one
XDhairstyles 6 months ago
Your disclaimer at the beginning of this vid was incredibly important. My experience is that most gaijin seldom meet xenophobic Japanese, and if they do, they never become aware of it simply because they don't speak enough Japanese to know it. Also, the average Japanese is rather polite, even if they detest foreigners. But in fact many do. You only begin to know this well after about 5 years or so of being there.
blondecrazygaijin 7 months ago
There is still hope :D
MrMandosss 7 months ago
next you should ask them if it would be ok to date or marry a black foreigner. Because, as you well know, in Japan there are 'good' foreigners and 'bad' foreigners. The governor of tokyo, mr ishihara, has even verbalised it.
blackpassenger 7 months ago
love the accents!!! xD
4BlackLotus 7 months ago
i just think that nobody speaks about love... if someone ask me that question i say that if i would love a foreigner i wanted to be with him
cree69 7 months ago 2
I noticed none of them said anything about Americans or America, it was all like Germany, France, Switzerland, ect not that i blame em just interesting observation.
musicequalslifebk 7 months ago