Girl thats it! You straight keepin it real! I could not have said it better...I think the fiance is just being selfish and impatient...Marriage is about patience...She just has to learn that is not all about the glamour...Marriage is work. So this is her true test!!! but for some reason she cant see that. Its a test to see how she needs to be patients and flexible and understanding, and supportive
@sweetsweets81 Oh my goodness, thank you so much babygirl. I appreciate hearing that for sure. Let me know what you think, any suggestions, or request...whatever. Inbox me boo. Thank you again. Muah!
Gurl, I'm sorry I'm posting so much, but I just heard you say something about the Justice of Peace. That's what I would have been on from the begnning but that was AWESOME suggestion. I personally believe in investing in the life AFTER marriage like the house and creating a life together (career, kids, etc). But, you are so right about that. I am responding as I hear the video, so I won't forget what I was saying. But, good point.
Girl post away. I love hearing your opinions. Everyone's opinion is important, whether we totally agree, partially agree or don't agree at all! LOL. As long as this young lady isn't totally resistant to the idea of it all. If he resents her for this, it's gon be ugly. And you're right girl, invest in your life after the wedding. The wedding is just a formality, NOT a necessity.
Oh and another thing honey the reason being I say don't change much is because sometimes the wedding will go farther back then you thought not just because of the situation with his mama but because planning a wedding in itself is a crazy situation, to the point the couple may wait LONG time. But, if you can work it out with the changes do that but I know it's a lot to do all at once.
You are also right but I would just wait and see. And the open-mindedness is so important, your very right about that. But, I just think moving the dates around is crazy in itself.
yeah she is being selfish to a certain degree. she needs to be understanding i mean she is sick. c'mon now! yeah and they will think she is a selfish bitch if she makes him get married at this particular time. and if she doesn't get better, who's gonna be happy at the wedding besides her? if she forces the issue and gets him to marry her, she will feel stupid cuz she will look up and see that everyone isnt happy, not even her man because of his mother's illness.
All I wanna do is just pray for this man's mother, his sanity, and the state of their marriage. And at the end of it all, I hope it all comes out well, y'know.
No you are right!!! I totally agree, and this was my first thought when I heard this. And I see the whole thing as a test of understanding and empathy. You love this man, then you would understand his situation. This is what a real marriage is about! I think she want to have her man and marriage ceremony for herself just because she called it first. Marriage is more than the ceremony. And if she want the legality of it, go to the courthouse and get it done! Make it work boo! She's being selfish
Girl you know it's a test, and she's failing right now. My thing is, she may not even have to end up changing anything. But her to not really consider it, judging by the circumstance, it sounds like she's being unreasonable.
I'm so glad you put a video response to this. It's not the right way to start off a marriage. He might even resent the bride if he felt she was more concerned about the wedding instead of his mom. Trust me I just went to my cousin's wedding and half those people were only there for the free food and drink. Family First because they will be with you big wedding or small wedding. When there's a will there is a way. Rearrange the situation and whoever doesn't like heart is not in the right place.
Yeh, like it's just crazy to me that she's even trippin on this. The woman is, not a little sick, got the sniffles, got a cough, she is TERMINALLY ILL. like seriously.
RIGHT THAT's just crazy, If that was my mom I wouldnt be thiinking about a wedding, he gave her two months advance call your vendor's and let them know whats going on, and ask can you get a later date,
yeh, family is so important. the wedding is just a show, to be honest. and there's nothing wrong with wanting your wedding, but at what cost are you willing to get it? at the cost of your marriage???
I feel you girl and it seems like there is no problem between the mother and the bride to be except the way she being selfish. She being a bridezilla because every one know that FAMILY IS FIRST no matter how crazy they are at the end of the day they the last first and last people to have your back.
Cant win with mothers for realll!!! ive been married 16 years I know....Let the mom and if she doesnt he will end up resenting her
dluellen123 2 years ago
@dluellen123 Thank you for your comment. Family is big!!! She just really needs to realize the meaning of priorities.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
Girl thats it! You straight keepin it real! I could not have said it better...I think the fiance is just being selfish and impatient...Marriage is about patience...She just has to learn that is not all about the glamour...Marriage is work. So this is her true test!!! but for some reason she cant see that. Its a test to see how she needs to be patients and flexible and understanding, and supportive
dluellen123 2 years ago
PREACH GIRL!!!!! Word from the wise!!!!
sweetsweets81 2 years ago
@sweetsweets81 :) Thanks Diva!
MissChriss82 2 years ago
Love the channel by the way... you're so talented... and gorgeous! :-)
sweetsweets81 2 years ago
@sweetsweets81 Oh my goodness, thank you so much babygirl. I appreciate hearing that for sure. Let me know what you think, any suggestions, or request...whatever. Inbox me boo. Thank you again. Muah!
MissChriss82 2 years ago
Oh you're welcome, I will make sure I do.
sweetsweets81 2 years ago
Gurl, I'm sorry I'm posting so much, but I just heard you say something about the Justice of Peace. That's what I would have been on from the begnning but that was AWESOME suggestion. I personally believe in investing in the life AFTER marriage like the house and creating a life together (career, kids, etc). But, you are so right about that. I am responding as I hear the video, so I won't forget what I was saying. But, good point.
BlaqGurl25 2 years ago
Girl post away. I love hearing your opinions. Everyone's opinion is important, whether we totally agree, partially agree or don't agree at all! LOL. As long as this young lady isn't totally resistant to the idea of it all. If he resents her for this, it's gon be ugly. And you're right girl, invest in your life after the wedding. The wedding is just a formality, NOT a necessity.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
Oh and another thing honey the reason being I say don't change much is because sometimes the wedding will go farther back then you thought not just because of the situation with his mama but because planning a wedding in itself is a crazy situation, to the point the couple may wait LONG time. But, if you can work it out with the changes do that but I know it's a lot to do all at once.
BlaqGurl25 2 years ago
You are also right but I would just wait and see. And the open-mindedness is so important, your very right about that. But, I just think moving the dates around is crazy in itself.
BlaqGurl25 2 years ago
You are making valid points that the woman, any woman in a real relationship should consider
hoopzsquared 2 years ago
thank you so much. I try to be a little devil's advocate on things, but this one just left me a little perplexed, you know.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
@ MissChriss82...Great point! I totally agree sister. 100%!!! Nice job.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
yeah she is being selfish to a certain degree. she needs to be understanding i mean she is sick. c'mon now! yeah and they will think she is a selfish bitch if she makes him get married at this particular time. and if she doesn't get better, who's gonna be happy at the wedding besides her? if she forces the issue and gets him to marry her, she will feel stupid cuz she will look up and see that everyone isnt happy, not even her man because of his mother's illness.
treasurecat03isme 2 years ago
All I wanna do is just pray for this man's mother, his sanity, and the state of their marriage. And at the end of it all, I hope it all comes out well, y'know.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
No you are right!!! I totally agree, and this was my first thought when I heard this. And I see the whole thing as a test of understanding and empathy. You love this man, then you would understand his situation. This is what a real marriage is about! I think she want to have her man and marriage ceremony for herself just because she called it first. Marriage is more than the ceremony. And if she want the legality of it, go to the courthouse and get it done! Make it work boo! She's being selfish
KoolGirlsDoThis 2 years ago
Girl you know it's a test, and she's failing right now. My thing is, she may not even have to end up changing anything. But her to not really consider it, judging by the circumstance, it sounds like she's being unreasonable.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
I'm so glad you put a video response to this. It's not the right way to start off a marriage. He might even resent the bride if he felt she was more concerned about the wedding instead of his mom. Trust me I just went to my cousin's wedding and half those people were only there for the free food and drink. Family First because they will be with you big wedding or small wedding. When there's a will there is a way. Rearrange the situation and whoever doesn't like heart is not in the right place.
BeautifyWithin 2 years ago
I just feel like what if was your mom!!!!!!!
soulcandy24 2 years ago
Yeh, like it's just crazy to me that she's even trippin on this. The woman is, not a little sick, got the sniffles, got a cough, she is TERMINALLY ILL. like seriously.
MissChriss82 2 years ago
RIGHT THAT's just crazy, If that was my mom I wouldnt be thiinking about a wedding, he gave her two months advance call your vendor's and let them know whats going on, and ask can you get a later date,
soulcandy24 2 years ago
I meant to say the first and last to have your back at the end of the say.
retrobaby88 2 years ago
yeh, family is so important. the wedding is just a show, to be honest. and there's nothing wrong with wanting your wedding, but at what cost are you willing to get it? at the cost of your marriage???
MissChriss82 2 years ago
I feel you girl and it seems like there is no problem between the mother and the bride to be except the way she being selfish. She being a bridezilla because every one know that FAMILY IS FIRST no matter how crazy they are at the end of the day they the last first and last people to have your back.
retrobaby88 2 years ago