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  • What if he is "chronically unavailable" because he is in afghanistan?

  • Okay question they chasing, a woman stops the chase have sex, then he says we shouldn't have done this we were friends. What is saying in men language ?????

  • STOP CHASING WOMEN . IF ALL MEN STOP CHASING WOMEN IT WOULD CHANGE THE FACE OF THE DATING GAME . WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN CAN CHARGE MEN FOR SEX AND GET MONEY OUT OF MEN OTHER WAYS . IT'S BECAUSE YOU MEN GIVE UP YOUR CONTROL . YOU TAKE CONTROL LET THEM CHASE YOU AND MAYBE THEY WILL PAY YOU FOR SEX OR GET MONEY OUT OF THEM . CHANGE THE GAME MEN . STOP BEING FOOLS . THAT'S WHY WOMEN ARE SOMEWHAT AHEAD OF YOU .

  • STOP CHASING WOMEN . IF ALL MEN STOP CHASING WOMEN IT WOULD CHANGE THE FACE OF THE DATING GAME . WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN CAN CHARGE MEN FOR SEX AND GET MONEY OUT OF MEN OTHER WAYS . IT'S BECAUSE YOU MEN GIVE UP YOUR CONTROL . YOU TAKE CONTROL LET THEM CHASE YOU AND MAYBE THEY WILL PAY YOU FOR SEX OR GET MONEY OUT OF THEM . CHAGE THE GAME MEN . STOP BEING FOOLS . THAT'S WHY WOMEN ARE SOMEWHAT AHEAD OF YOU

  • I had to come back and look at this again! Right on point!

  • Thumps up if you just turned down the volume and stared at her tits :) (-) (-)

  • Big Boobs

  • you're amazing =]

  • Get fun with beautiful Asian women  *lushfmlk.info*

  • OMG the slut of Salisbury lane priceless ur class all the way

  • I Truly believe you should write a book, I have never read a book that covers so many Important factors that you cover.

    Please keep the videos coming. I would like to write to you in private but I am not sure how?

    XxX

  • Turn to Jesus , and repent. It will not fare well for many.

  • Thank you my dear!

    I really agree there are no shy man. You put that so well. He either wants you or there is no reasons for you to want him.

    Warm hugs darling,

    Best wishes and the best of of luck!

  • She said she is going ice skating. I hope she doesn´t break through the ice and start a tidal wave that engulfs all the coasts of the world. OINK OINK. lol

  • This video is 5* !!!!

  • dats shit u talkin bout shy men is a bunch of bullshit. im notsayin im shy but i have a friend who is and for u to say when it comes to having making descions it will be the the female is not true. the relationship is 50/50. most of the stuff u say is true but the rest is not. stop lookin at men like they are all the same because they are not.

  • Women like unavailable men, this video is not gonna help that. On another note, I agree, men and women fake it until they make it. Test them by not letting the relationship be perfect, fucked up people will show themselves. Haha, get what you want before sex? What if the lady just wanted sex?

  • When are you coming again to St. Kitts? I would like to meet you.

  • excellent advice!

  • this is really good advice... watching this, this morning just helped me stop a big mistake

  • Thank you! xD

  • Boy, Tanya you are so right about what you said. I have encountered so many men that promise you the world, but do not deliver. I think it is through a man's actions, regarding how he cares for you. Actions speak louder than words!!

  • I have jungle fever now

  • Noob.

  • You speak the truth. I'm just shaking my head up and down saying yes. You should be on tv.

  • Hm, if shy men shouldn't be able to mate, bitchy women shouldn't either. People can be brought out of shyness. This is a very narrow attitude you're putting forth.

  • @mre2u2 hehehe, I'm sorry MrE, that is my own personal bias. But you're right, to each their own, and I believe I stated that. :)

    -Tko

  • Respond to this video...  I USUALLY AGREE WITH HER BUT MEN SHOULD NOT CHASE A WOMAN THAT'S WHY THESE WOMEN ARE F-CKED UP NOW . NO WOMEN SHOULD CHASE THE MAN OR IT SHOULD BE MUTUAL CHASING . MEN SHOULD BE MEN AND STOP GIVING THESE WOMEN THE CONTROL . WQHEN MEN CHASE WOMEN YOU GIVE UP YOUR CONTROL

  • she has more than his ear, dear.you want us NOT to be an aggressive overbearing and but you don't want us to make the first move. Pick a lane, dear.

  • These are really great! They touch on alot of things I dealt with. It's so easy to get caught up in unrewarding situations, regardless of how savvy you are. Emotions and logic are very different!

  • Tonya it's not just the women gettin played. Women that play men act like they are victims and blame everything on everyone else. Trust me, this is coming from a man that used to be nice. I've been played and yes I play now with no worries, but I only play those that I believe deserve it. I am careful not to play nice girls, I just can't do that.

    And yes nice guys finish last. When I turned that around is when I started to finish first. When I show my "niceness" is when I get played very hard.

  • it's spring. I am get rid of my so called guy friends who just basically just tease me. they are on the ignore list. I am too cute to waste time.

  • i had a great Valentine's day this year. i spent it with good friends making dumplings for Chinese New Year. that is what it is all about spending time with cool people.

  • Yea i waz liztening 2 ya video today and im a man and ya videos is very powerful dat wuld be co if young ladies would listen 2 your advice cuz wat you are say iz true and i like that dudes play gurlz all the tyme but woman really dnt want a nice guy they go for the badd ones i dnt mean 2 be hat'n or any thang but dey do and chu iz rite men do chaze for wat they want but but every tyme i chaze i get a put dwn cuz of mi eyez their hazel so juz bout every gurl thing ima a playa but im not n

  • wow! wish i saw this video last year, thnx for the advice.

  • I love your advice sista.

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  • fuck that im lookin out 4 da men, i been played twice and im talkin big time, i dont care i would shatter a womens heart with out a doubt, its always dat bitch u turn men into a monster

  • kno u turn your self nto a monster. Ur responsible for your own action and emotions

  • lol tonya i already tried MULTIPLE girls not to get played i said to them WHAT THE GUY is gonna do and they are players !! cuz i know them but they never listen so i don't think they will now xD

  • Thank you TonyaTko!

    Blessings,

    Cinnamonslices

  • at 23:00 yeah but buying things isent the same as trying to forme a lasting relationship, its hard for some of us were not made of stone(that would be nice lol)

  • The number 1 thing that kills relationships is ignoring warning signs early on that is the best advice anyone can get. The way you deliver your teaching just penetrates my brain.

  • thx for your advices

  • GODDESS

  • Great advice I have never been in this situation were a guy never turned up for holidays + valentines day!. But I agree that if a giy does not spend holidays with you then he must be cheating on you. If a guy loved you he would spend time with you no one else if there was a problem he would ring you or tell you face to face that he can't make it because his mum or someone is in hospital, then you but flowers go to the hospital to wish the person well ans see if the guy was not lying.

  • Valentine's day is my day from hell.

  • yeah lol i h8 it :(

  • its all good.

  • "Get everything you need before sex"...."I don't know if you need Gucci"......lol......

  • Some ppl feel they do... who am I to judge what one woman wants/needs. Some women need that diamond ring... some just need that diamond. Some need love, and some just need lust. All I am saying is each woman knows what she needs to be comfortable enough to lay down... just get it b4 hand. If you need love, or respect or whatever, dont expect it to come after. be comfortable with whatever BEFORE you do is my only point.

    -Tko

  • Just be to clear....I want you to know that I was not protesting against your statement...I just found it a little funny that's all...because to some it would sound a little gold diggerish....but however I do agree with everything you said....why should sex be the first thing you give away when meeting someone?? By the way....I love your vids they are very helpful and encouraging... : )

  • hey....Builtlikeastallion is my secondary accout....I didnt want to confuse you....ciao....

  • Every women has their own needs. OMG I don't know what I need im too scared to even say yes to a guy if he asks me out now he is waiting for a reply and im not saying nothing yet. What the hell is wrong with me lol

  • Yur so smart, and beutiful. U r my role model. When i was very young my mother was abused by sooo many men and that has followed me through out my whole life. You have tought me that not all men are like that... Your amazing hun! I luvv yu

  • ii have a singlet like you :)

  • some dumb shit right there...

  • rponschual1:

    Are you serious? Yes, if course she has been hurt but she is bringing that to the table in a very objective and gentle way. I know this as well. One of my guy friends once said it best: "Guys are jerks, but they don't know they are being jerks." It just happens. Yes, I can see that, as a man, her video may seem biased and slightly disturbing, but she doesn't need help. This is how it is. Sad but true.

  • omg you cant generalize a whole population of people like that..... thats IGNORANT. just like racism is.

  • Thank you Tonya. I really learned a lot.

  • I LOVE YOU,

  • thank you hunny 4 the advice ur like my mum ur so free n very intelligent lots of luv from the uk x

  • YESSSS! SPEAK SISTA SPEAK!

  • This is one of the best advice videos I've ever seen

  • Looking good, very good. You can have all my damn money lol. JK

  • thats why some yall women gettin played instead of looking to Jesus for the truth yall go to youtube so plane on crap happ over and over agian

  • GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!WOOOOAHHH

  • i know the true answer jesus Is the true answer i am married lead by God. if you follow God you wouldnt be in these problems. becasue God wouldnt lead u to such a person

  • DAMN YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL!!!

  • How does this relate to the "progress of women" as a whole? And, where is the commonality between men and women when it comes to this episode?

  • tonyas an attractive woman, i would go after tonya too. lol lol.

  • He's just not that into you... my best friend thinks that's the funniest thing of all time.

  • stop giving advice on how women can get things from men tanya. bitch get a job if you plan to be rich.

  • HAHAHA Tonya, you were speaking to me during this video.

  • You said you had a lot to say in a short amout of time. 30 mins is not a short time. That's an episode. On average I see vids at 10 mins at longest but 30 mins is long for youtube vids.

  • Honey don't watch it. I make vids for people who WANT to watch it. If you feel you dont have the time to get the information within then, that's on you. But don't tell me that I have to somehow qualify my videos to fit into your desire.

  • If u need the information u'll listen to the video. Put the video on play while u clean your room. You do what you need to. I don't time them or edit them, I talk from the heart and what comes out comes out. Those who get it, get it, those who dont ask me to say what I need to say in a time or manner which is CONVENIENT to them...

    I make videos for FREE on Youtube. If you want to watch it, do. But I KNOW my self worth and I know that I'm WORTH listening to for 30 minutes or 3 hours.

    -Tko

  • Tonya, you are the big sister, i've never had!!!

    Everything you said, i've taken it!!!

    I LOVE YOU!!!

  • hi TKO, I was just wondering what the "V" on your hat stands for. Thanks

  • @feigned don't be too quick to judge what the 'majority' of women "know."

    Many women out there NEEDED to hear this message, which is evident from the responses both on this video and in my email, both on youtube and on my website.

    -Tko

  • Oh and i like your voice. :)

  • LOL U dont have time. And the video i 30 minutes.

  • Wonderful words of WISDOM. Women LISTEN..... It doesn't matter who the words of wisdom are coming from. IT'S the truth. So the TRUTH shall open your EYES. Thanks TONYA. YOU are the greatest. Yoy are never to old to continue to learn.

  • amazing..advice I needed to hear

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  • Oh my brother you can in NO WAY make or tailor the emotions and chemicals of LOVE to LOGIC. It simply CANT BE DONE. The chemical released when one is falling in love is linked to insanity. That is why when you love someone nothing else matters. You dont even see the fault in them. Hell they shit dont even stank..lol If you can logically talk your way out of your love for someone then it was NOT LOVE . I love my child. I can never make my mind NOT love him. Point of video is to help women BEFORE

  • sista,you are so fine.

  • love your advice!!

  • mamaaaaaaa tonyaaaaaaaaaaaaa I looooooove yaaaaaaaaaaaa

  • Wow Tonya, so much wisdom. I also enjoyed the delivery of your pearls of wisdom--had a good giggle!

  • nice tits baby

  • I agree with everything! Im 37 I can take advice from anyone that has my best interest at heart. Im sure that you do Tonya! Gr8 vid! BRAVO!

  • I "preach" this ALL the time. I am always on my friends about relationship issues. Being a student , I learned much from my teacher and I pass along my knowledge THANKS MAMA!! YOU ARE WONDERFUL!

  • If a guy ever says these words out of his mouth, "I'm a nice guy"...RUN!! RUN LIKE YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT!!!

    I learned that the hard way.

  • And if ANYONE male of female says "Trust Me" open your ears... bcz a LIE is coming up

    -Tko

  • shy men shouldnt get laid

    girl ur bad lol

  • so all of that hard work was for nothing

    and men end up with broken hearts over and over again

    so your advice to women:

    dont tell me..show me

    let him show you..before you make up your mind

    my advice to men:

    find out if this girl is worth fighting for..before you Start ''showing'' her

    coz we all know..some of these women are not worth it. Not worth fighting for

    seriously

  • let that man SHOW instead of talking all these nice things

    thats true..but here's the thing

    there are allot of women of woman out there who don't appreciate the things men do for them

    so lets say this guy has showed everything that he possibly could to let that girl know..he's into her

    you know what happens then..that girl will be digging him for a while..untill she meets someone else

    then she will drop him luck a brick

    (allot of women are like this)

  • Gunstreets you are right. I am sorry to say that i experienced what you said in your last comment.

  • man

    sorry that it happened to you

    no-one deserves that

  • Theres a way to do everything. And no one is saying you should be a push-over or a doormat. Think about it... the girl you were doing all of this for did she say "Don't tell me... Show me?" or was she saying no no no, and you decided to show show show. If someone is saying "NO!" you need to get the green light before you move ahead. Being too nice to someone who is not really interested will only make them LESS interested.

    Remind me to do a video for guys about the tactic of hooking chicks

    TKO

  • wel..well. the queen responded to my comment rofl ;)

    we dont need tactics for hooking chicks

    you know why

    coz no one understands chicks

    men dont understand chicks

    neither do women rofl

    a woman's emotion is like a crazy rollercoaster ride combined with a never ending labyrinth

    there's no way figuring it out, and once you've experienced it you want to get out as fast..but you cant coz the ride isn't over

    Fellas holla at me

    lol

  • This video was so on point, it ain't even funny. Great Vid Ms. TKO - excellent excellent excellent..wow!

  • To long vlog :S damn girl 30 min...

  • I'd rather hear 30 min of something uplifting than 4 min of BS.

  • hm yeah true true

  • just to pick on you a bit...wooooow you said Jimmy "Superfly" Snuka...he hasnt wrestled in 15 years..lol

  • OH women like nascar and football too. Yes we are wire different..again love ya!!!! can wait for next post. next topic you need to teach our young black women (guys too). how to dress for a interview!!! OMG i have seen some crazyness.

  • a true player in the game can get away on holidays. but the side chick show know her place anyway. she knows she is the jumpoff. sometimes the number 2 was in it for sex then she catches feelings. ladies remember your place. if you number 1 and number 2 and 3 or 9 10. know your role. be save and god bless

  • @803HR, Ohhhh Be Quiet!

    -Tko

  • you know i am right....love your page, to be honest love you and you beautiful thick body. and you cant mess up the game.....women know they are the jumpoff, side chick, side pussy, number 2, 3 ,4...99. oh and one thing...valentines day is a JOKE. Yes i am gonna say it....its a media, hallmark holiday made up to generate dollars. it has no religious link to christianity, valentine day not in the bible.. ........tonya :-*

  • No man should care about what Valentine's day means to HIM. What matters is how this day is seen to his woman. If there is anything that means a lot to your partner and you disregard it, the INITIAL problem begins with YOU.

  • I don't care WHO invented it or what its called. In Japan Feb 14th is the called "White Day" and its the opposite where chocolates and such are given to the guys. No man or woman should enter into a relationship or sex act, thinking about THEMSELVES First. If both people think about the OTHER person Then and only then can mutual pleasure TRULY begin.

    -Tko

  • It does matter who invented...if its not with my religious views it does matter

  • why shouldn't a man care...if i dont believe in it, why should i celebrate it? you make it seem like its a womans holiday.

  • As it is celebrated in this country, it IS a woman's holiday. HiRoll, I really don't care WHAT you do. Go ahead and find whatever woman u want to find who believes or doesnt believe in whatever, and you treat her any kind of way you CHOOSE to treat her. If you use the misjudgment of trying to become MY man, then your point of view on this matters to me, but other than that, I could give a rat's rump.

    Christmas is a PAGAN holiday which had NOTHING to do with JESUS. Easter too. Open ur eyes

    TKO

  • and remember ladies after you get all you need/want be ready for sex, i myself think valentines day is over rated and since i take good care of my women when that day comes they dont need nothing, so.......sex it is........lol

  • Tonya u talking like we man are evil, all we want to do is hit that pussy,nothing else

    u sound like u been hurt by a man & u are really bitter

  • Doorag, why don't you be quiet. And YES that's ALL YOUNG MEN DO WANT. Why don't you write out what it is that I said that's wrong??

    -Tko

  • Doorag1986, How is it that she is bitter? How is she saying that men are evil? You are way off-- FAIL!

    TonyTKO, Thanks sooo much for this video. There are many confused women who are being manipulated and don't know when they are being played. I'll pass this video along.

  • love u tonya!

  • True! True! I have a good one know,but God knows it took awhile to find him.

  • If your sweetie is chornically absent from holidays and they work in the freight industry, you might want to check the paranoid attitude!

    :0)

  • Happy St. Valentine's day Tonya! Hugs and kisses, sweetie!

  • I feel that tactics, chasing, catching up etc, does not enter into it for the most part if the two people stick to some basics. Get to know the person first, then friendship, then dating if both are comfortable. Get IT before you have sex, is ok if IT is going to help the relationship. If IT is material or along that line, the person needs to know where you stand.

  • thanks for the awesome advice!!! :o) it is really good

  • i spent the day with my baby today , it was good for me today , i met the parents , and played pool with her brothers , and took pictures had fun ..

  • Tonya, What you s Iay is true & yes both men & women can and will get played. Yes I ignorred the warning signs. What happens is you make excuses. She is under stress; she has personal issues she has to cope with etc. Oh yeah not being there with me for the holidays when she used to. Ive been down that road too.

    Thank you for your video.

  • ur brest is outta control but i love it!!!! WURK IT GURL

  • tonya you lookin so damn good i like what you got to say thats why i subscibed to this channel

  • you should raise the can up a bit i bet5you got a beatiful head i would love to see it

  • THX GURL, TEACH ON

  • LOL @Wolfie, well a wolf should be a wolf... why put on sheeps clothing? ;-)

    -Tko

  • Happy Valentine's Day to you and Thank You for giving this advice. Ladies please listen to this Lady, because there are way to many players out there for you not to use your head. I loved the way you described the sex before you get want you want.

  • cool

  • Hey girl. I'm a mom to two teen daughters.  I talk to them (not lecture) on my own, but I sent them the link to your video to hear some great advice from another young woman. Keep it up. Great stuff.

  • Ms. Tonya, I have to say that you need to make a more comprehensive video on this subject. I love this video, it is very truthful and to the point but I would love to hear more from you on this subject, please. Thank you in advance.

  • ok purplekisses, more comprehensive in terms of what? I can speak on this for days

    -Tko

  • Thank you Tonya for schooling our young ladies. This message is on target.

    Love you Tonya!

  • Mary J Blige No Happy Holidaysssssssssss

  • This just keeps getting better!!!!

  • het girlie...i emaiked you w/ my contact info....btw happy v-day

  • show us your breast in a nice top..you flirt to much ;)

  • That man gave you some good advice.......SPREAD IT LIKE WILD FIRE!!!!

  • Haha, Tonya...it happened again. Whenever I have a complex situation in my life, you come up with a video that offers me a solution or at least an extremely valuable new aspect to help me find a solution. This is crazy. Since I subscribed to your channel, this has happened well over 10 times where you said something in your video that gave me a very accurat solution. Thanks so much, Honey. =) Lots of hugs!

  • Awe well that's WONDERFUL Thanae, I'm glad I am able to help you. If you ever have any questions plz reach out.

    -Tko

  • Happy Valentine's Day, Tonya!!!

    Btw, you look great!!!!!!

  • Hey miss thing! long time no talk!

    -Tko

  • Love the way how girls blame us men for doing the wrong stuff, when its them doing everything wrong making us react and do something stupid.

  • Hey toyna!!

    first let me say it was cool runing into u the other day..u are as nice as i th u wud b..

    and no you dident take it back to superfly snuka..

    and i have to say im a shy guy..

  • Same here... you're so tall nice in person. Loved the crisp hair cut :)

    -Tko

  • you make a message to the men as well not to be fooled or played by women , we men end up being the biggest suckers to it

  • i don't like chasing women. it's usually not worth it when there's an easier girl around.

  • Well gohoya, keep going for your "Easier" women... Doesnt seem like the ones with more worth are missing out on much, since you're just looking for 'easy' stick with "easy."

    -Tko

  • HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TONYA!!!!!

    Great advice thanks.

  • Nice video, i found that interesting as a man myself. I think ur absolutly right about all of those. Every woman deserves to be happy and end up with someone with the right intestions that they want and not get played or lied to, unless they want to.

    Scientifically speaking yes, shy men shouldnt get laid and get blue balls until they come out of there shell, but there is allways porn as an alternative unlike the good ol days.

    I guess this further confirms my inabily to get laid, damn my corner!

  • Have a great and happy Valentines Days Tonya. Take care now.

  • its a good thing your doing but thares more honist guys out thare then thare are liers/"players"

    and its not that men and women don't know thes things its just that thay think with thare emotions insted of thare brane witch makes things worse.

    still your a well spoken lady and you are a very wise one at that but i notced that you to were talking with your emotions as well as your mind.

  • Good advice :), I've never seen a 30min video on youtube! happy valentines day Gorgeous!!!

  • 30 min o.o

  • Lookin Good TKO...Happy V Day

  • My girlfriend decided to come down all the way from Connecticut just to see me this valentines day.

  • Tonya, I would never try to take advantage of you, no matter HOW much testosterone I have.

    The football represents the vagina. The men compete for it.

    The Alpha Males in today's society are the ones with MONEY.

    The more money, the more ALPHA.

    Money is also the #1 cause of marital argumernts

    ALL people, both male and female, use and deceive.

    You seem to have an extra strong distrust for men and the need to dominate.

    And never mistake patience for shyness. patience has it's limits.

  • lol just got done watching the whole video pretty interesting I'm 21 and a virgen and OMG it gets so hard for me sometimes with guys lol and i learn couple things from this video thanks you so much for posting much love to you ,, your gorgeous mamaz !!

    xoxo happy valentines day!

  • Thanks Piink, I wish I could talk ON and ON about virginity and celibacy. It gets so hard out here with all of these warped points of views and skewed standards

    -Tko

  • "SHY MEN SHOULDN'T GET LAID" lmao :O)

  • Great advice.

    ~T

  • HAHAHAHA IM MEANT CLAP!! not CRAP LOL

  • lol.!!!! you made me hella laugh hahaha

  • OMG! ive been commenting while watching this LONG video and the ending just made me Crap!

    I'm only 16 but i will hold on to this advice forever ♥♥

    Thanks Tonya

    and HAPPY VALINTINES DAY!!

  • happy valentines day tonya u look beautiful 2day

    -scott

  • Love is not logical and you cant deal with things of the heart from a mental stand point.

  • very good vid. so true. BTW you look very pretty today

  • haha when you were describing Men you were decribing my EX xDD