Dating Tips: Overcoming Emotional Insecurity

[BellaEsmeralda7]

Thanks for your videos and advice. Very insightful and helpful :)

[K20civicsirturbo]

how is this tip just for women? I guess us men dont have emotionshuh?

[hilarioussable]

thank you, sweetie, you helped me a lot!

[TheMangaQueen]

i dont know how to get my confidence up :(

[katyx24]

THE SECRET.

[daveco1270]

This might not be the best analogy, superheroM, but work with me. If there's a band that you absolutely love, would you delete them from your I-tunes if other people told you they thought the band sucked? What if the majority of people you knew thought that? Hopefully you wouldn't care, you'd say, "I love this band no matter what others are saying, I think they rock." If you can do that for a band, you should be able to do it for yourself. Not caring what people think is attractive.

[daveco1270]

Superheromike, it's not what other people think that matters. It's sad that you think that. Confidence doesn't have to revolve around how you look. (You have other things to offer.) It's hard not to get caught up in what other people think, but it can be done. Sorry that people have been telling you you're not attractive, but don't let those a-holes decide how you're going to precieve yourself.

[superheromike]

sorry i think it is a lot of crap. the girl in the video reminds me of that phony go to college online chick. also how can i think im attractive when my whole life i have been told otherwise? i really cant lie to myself. what good would that do? just make me feel like a fake too. i cant just say im so pretty i can be a model and expect to get it. truth is it is what other people think that matters.

[Drakken682]

@superheromike

Well yeah, if you show to anyone that you are a loser, people will treat you as a loser and you'll be unattractive. You'll have to stop rationalizing that shit like that, like "huh I am a nerd, everyone sezs so it must be true, la la la" and change things in your life to help you feel more confident, more present, more in the moment, and more assuming of yourself. And yes, it means you'll have to change style, work out on yourself, go out of your confort zone, and so on.