This video is kinda ignorant you should support your children if they want to crossdress and you should let them because that's who they are and if u don't let them wear what they want they will feel bad about themselves but its good that you believe being gay isn't a choice
if your child wants to be transgender or just likes to dress like a woman or anything like that you should just accept it. you shouldn't make them feel like shit and unloved because that's not what you want. at its going to lead to is deep depression and eventually suicide. then you wont have a child at all.
I grew up with my sisters and a sweet boy and i was also raised not to say no, so i somehow struggle with these things even now at primary school the girls used to complain that i walked like a girl i didnt notice anything. So i tried to watch how my dad walked and tried to imitate.May be because i grew up with my sisters i am attracted to female clothing. I am hetrosexual. everywhere i have been people say i have girl tendencies. They make comments that i do things like a girl but i act normal
I grew up with my sisters and a sweet boy and i was also raise not to say no, so i somehow struggle with these things at primary school the girls used to complain that i walked like a girl i didnt notice anything. So i tried to watch how my dad walked and tried to imitate.May be because i grew up with my sisters i am attracted to female clothing. I am hetrosexual.Almost everywhere i have been people always say i behave like a girl. They make comments that i do things like a girl but i act normal
We never imagine that our children are going to be anything but normal. As mother's we pray that they are healthy when we become pregnant. Once your child is born, let me say, there is an automatic bond and love that no one on this earth can ever explain to a NON mother. So you can imagine all that you want, that you would not accept anything like that. You as a mother end up accepting your child no matter what because YOU made them. Only a sick person abandons their child.
Zooming to 7:40: I don't choose to be gay. I am attracted to men. No YOU don't have to sleep with men and that is true for you a WOMAN... you don't need to get it up you get is shoved in. GUYS need to be aroused and to be honest, women turn me off so quickly I get as soft as can be. SO I DO NOT CHOSE TO ACT ON MY HOMOSEXUAL TENDENCIES. I just do what I need to to be sexually aroused. If I didn't do it I would be alone for the REST OF MY LIFE
Also, the fact that you say "this is not what I signed up for" is very discouraging as a parent. You expect your wife or future-wife to produce this perfect, flawless baby? Not gonna happen bud. Maybe he or she will be gay, maybe they'll have autism, maybe they'll have a physical deformity. What child you get is out of your control. You must accept the child you get and nurture it with all the love you have, because this is your child.
You're taking that line out of context. I NEVER said anything about not loving the child or not keeping it or beating it so I don't know why you say "You must accept the child you & nurture it with all the love you have, because this is your child". Some of you are so sensitive about this topic that you hear things that were never said. It's out of love that I would not allow my son to wear a dress. He can do what he wants when he's grown.
As for the actual topic at hand, well, I would discourage the wearing of a dress if only to prevent my "son" the humility from other children teasing him, but in the end if he really really wants to dress like a girl, he will dress like a girl. Maybe not as a child, and maybe not as a teenager either if the parent is especially not understanding.... but one day, as an adult, the child will dress like a girl; cross-dress.
The part where you say "I don't think a child is gay or straight at that age" is totally false. From the moment you are conceived in the womb, whether you are homosexual or heterosexual is hard-wired in your DNA. It's something you cannot change.
Instead, I would say it's hard to tell if a child is gay or straight at a young age. Children just don't have those sorts of feelings until they hit puberty, and that's usually when it becomes obvious.
That's semantics. Young children NORMALLY don't have sexual thoughts or sexual attractions. That's all I'm saying. I wasn't commenting on whether or not people are born gay.
The whole "It's not what I had in mind" shows you'd never be ready for parenting, one thing my parents reassured me as a young girl was that once you've had a child you have to be 100% prepared for anything and be ready to accept and encourage them on what they want to do, or there will be unneeded tension between the child and parent
You're taking that line out of context. It's one thing to expect your child to look a certain way or have a certain eye color, but it's a different thing to expect a boy when your child comes out with a penis since that's what happens most of the time. I was explaining why parents take time to get used to certain things or even try to steer the child away from certain things. Even parents of trans kids who are supportive STILL mourn the loss of their son who "became a girl" so come off it.
@UHeardMe1stTime That's just it you keep saying "expect." You can't EXPECT anything, nothing goes the way you want it to because they develop their own personality, they aren't you so just because you wouldn't expect them to wear a dress or want them to for fear of them being picked, doesn't mean you should discourage it. You can't prevent them from making mistakes the have to on their own and learn that way.
Why do you think they call pregnancy "EXPECTING"? Why do people buy BOY close when then find out it's a boy? With your line of thinking, parents should not buy clothes for their unborn babies / or infants because that would be assuming or expecting something. And I don't even get what you're arguing about because I never said I would not love my child or disown it.
@UHeardMe1stTime I would dress children as my parents did and my sister has in a gender neutral environment until they can decide for themselves what they want to wear. Gender defined clothes and your child walking around naked are two different things, gender neutral would be safe, if one so desires to let their child walk around naked then that's there business and it's not anyone's place to judge
No disrespect but that's just crazy. Very few people are transgender, but we should dress children neutrally to accommodate something that rarely happens. For the majority of kids who are not trans, how does this benefit them? You want gender neutral clothes for all kids just for the sake of a rare minority. Sorry, but if it ain't broke don't fix it. Deal with transgenderism IF/WHEN is happens. No need to preempt it.
@UHeardMe1stTime It's not dealing with transgenderism preemptively. Raising them in a neutral environment allows them the freedom to decide what they want and when. Not saying they will wear grey tshirts forever. It simply means an androgynous look, one most teens see as it's own fashion area today, that way when they do decide on what they want to wear they can wear those things. It's not fixing anything, it's setting a good foundation.
I wished he was dead for years. It boils down to whether you love your child or if you're a homophobe. You think you're doing the right thing, but in reality, they will develop a hatred for you and themselves so great that either they will kill themselves or never talk to you again. Either way, you've lost your child.
When you were little, you knew who you wanted to be. If a child doesn't feel comfortable in their body, they should be allowed to embrace who they truly are. YOU AREN'T TRANSGENDERED! You have no room to talk about this subject, you have no experience. I hope and pray you never have children.
@TippingChairs AT 5 years old it the PARENTS who make the decisions for the child, stop being so damn emotional, if you would let your little boy wear a dress go right ahead, but don't try to enforce your opinions and views on others!
" If a child doesn't feel comfortable in their body, they should be allowed to embrace who they truly are. "
Just because a boy wants to put on a dress DOES NOT mean he is transgender. You're jumping to conclusions. Kids get all sorts of crazy inappropriate ideas. I had a 5 y/o student tell me he wanted to marry his sister. I corrected him. If my boy tells me he wants to wear a cress, I'll correct him. Dresses are for GIRLS.
@UHeardMe1stTime Yeah, and your "boy" might be a "girl"~ but you apparently live in a fantasyland where transgendered individuals don't exist. Must be nice having your head in the sand.
1. You're assuming that just because a boy wants to put on a dress he's transgender.
2. If you're saying that the reason the "boy" wants to wear a dress is because he's actually a girl then that still proves my point that dresses are for girls.
That's cool, but I think the two are sorta connected. You want them to be old enough to understand the consequences, but by the time they are old enough, it can make it that much harder to transition. I transitioned older (I was 30), after many years of trying to be the man everybody wanted me to be. Lucky for me I'm short (5'4"), small boned, with a gender neutral face (I got mistaken for a girl all the time). But a lot aren't so lucky. Testosterone can mess you up the longer you wait ;-)
Kids don't go thru puberty at 5, 6, 7, 8 or 9 USUALLY. So again there's no reason to jump the gun. Little kids get all sorts of crazy ideas. It may be just a phase.
Also, the argument you make about being short & small boned & mentioning testosterone ruins the argument that gender is internal, not external.
@UHeardMe1stTime True, gender is internal, but the way the rest of the world reacts to you is EXTERNAL. It is a proven fact that transgenders who pass well are more accepted in their desired gender by mainstream society. Not so much if you look like a big 6'3" dude in dress. Sadly, I know a few transgenders who will never be accepted as women because they look too much like men. Testosterone blockers at an early age (before puberty) can stop this from happening.
@UHeardMe1stTime Mostly fear. Fear of what my family would say, fear of what my co-workers would say. I need not have worried, everybody was really cool about it (most people are). I worked in city hall, issuing building permits. Most of our customers are contractors who are big, macho guys, I was worried about how they would react. But they were wonderful, even protective of me. Some even asked me out. ;-)
You miss a huge point about litltle boys being "sweet." There's gender identify and there's sexual orientation. Two different things. Gender expression is how straight tomboyish women and effeminate straight men exist. It's also why there are femme gay women and manly gay men. A "sweet" boy is simply effeminate. That's it. Will he be gay? Probably so, thought not necessarily.
I think you should raise a child to be true to their nature. If they are teased for who they are, then they have to deal with it. A parent guides a child to handle it. This is what develops character and how to deal with adversity. A parent should guide a child that it is beneficial to be honest, selfless (without being a chump), empathetic, and how to cope in a crazy world which is getting crazier. A parent's job - to prepare them to cope with life, not what to be in life and to love them
And you're probably an ADULT. You can make your own decisions & (I assume) you are prepared to live with the consequences. My young (hypothetical) son is not an adult so I will not allow him to do things that I don't feel are in his best interest.
Oh, how original. That's the best comment next to "you're a lesbian". This attitude you have is why you all think people have changed their minds but then when it's time to vote you find out otherwise. You need to learn to be civil when expressing your views instead of spouting out regurgitated LAME insults. It does not help your cause.
Have you ever heard of transgender? Someone who feels they are of the opposite gender? I am one. The reason a lot of these children kill themselves because society says they aren't the woman/man they are.
Nobody is there for them to say they are. Just a bunch of people who say they need to be men or women
@SparklesInYourFace Thank you. I'm also transgender (male to female), and I just want to make it clear that we are people too, and shouldn't be treated as lesser or demonized or anything like that. We're just as human as the rest of y'all.
In which, (to society) that would be part of someone who is transgender choices. To dress like a woman. Chances are if your hypothetical young son did this. They aren't doing the cross dressing as a fetish. He is probably doing this because he sees other girls, and thinks I'm one of them. I'mma do that. It may be a phase may not. If you go and try to stop them (and this is word of therapists) that will ruin them. That their parents don't accept/see them how they do.
"He is probably doing this because he sees other girls, and thinks I'm one of them. I'mma do that."
Oh, so you've got a diagnosis before hand? How do you know? This behavior could be a symptom of something else. You not even asking if it could be. you've already got your diagnosis.
Did you know that most people who have dysphoric feelings GROW OUT OF IT? if my kid gets into his teens & is transgender, that's 1 thing. But at 5 y/o , NO!
I think that all these comments come from the fact that no one understands what you are doing on youtube struggling for something to say ,, surely you have other things going on in your life that you can discourse on ? keep away from subjects that you know nothing of or are to hypothetical for you. Write about cooking or gardening and keep away from child education until you actually HAVE a child ,, and then god forbid !
Im sorry you had a bad childhood... Maybe you should look at the problems you have with yourself before going on the internet with some bull shit like this, How other people raise their children is none of your damn business. AND BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE CHILDREN YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND. AND FYI OTHER KIDS tease kids that do these kinds of things because their parents put it in their heads. Children grow opinions on things based on what the are taught. You should never have a child.
Oh, please stop the melodrama. I said I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. All these other accusations you are pulling out of your rear end. If you wanna let your young child do whatever he/ she wants because they feel like it, go ahead. See where that gets them.
you cannot raise a child straight just like you cannot make someone gay. you either are or your not. No amount of whippings or abuse i.e( discouragement) will ever change that. If your a girl in a boys body it wont change that either it will just make things worse.
@UHeardMe1stTime You should really listen to your own video. You said you would discourage him and you went on to say you did not know how far you would go to do that. Infact by your own words you are saying you can raise a child Gay or Straight. . If a child is wearing dresses and doing girly things its because maybe they are a GIRL. despite being labelled as a boy.
You're changing what I said. i didn't say I would discourage HIM. Before you start trying to add things to what I said, the point is I would not allow my young son to wear a dress.
"Infact by your own words you are saying you can raise a child Gay or Straight."
This video is not about sexual orientation. It's about boys with feminine behavior. There are feminine males who are straight so orientation has nothing to do with it.
" If a child is wearing dresses and doing girly things its because maybe they are a GIRL."
Nope. Many if not most kids with dysphoric feelings grow out of it (just a phase). If your child is having dysphoric feelings you should take them to s psychologist & have them checked out.
@UHeardMe1stTime and when they are checked out, the feelings ARE NOT GUARANTEED TO GO AWAY. Let me say that again: it's not guaranteed to be a phase. It is indeed a VERY real possibility that the feeling won't go away, and it may very well follow them into adulthood. If this was the case with your own child, how would you react? Keep in mind that you can't "train" this out of them or teach them to act differently to make it go away. It's there for life.
There you go changing what I said again. I didn't say it was guaranteed, but in most cases it is a phase or the feelings aren't strong enough to feel the need to transition.
"If this was the case with your own child, how would you react?"
I would not let a small child transition. IF they get older (teen) & the feelings persist THEN we can talk about transitioning. But not in elementary school.
"Keep in mind that you can't "train" this out of them or teach them to act differently to make it go away."
Nobody's making that claim. But I can restrict him from wearing dresses & take him to the playground where other boys are. I'm not going to encourage femininity in my son.
Yea you are Homophobic... and to let you know GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference. You cannot use force or discouragement as you put it change either one. You can greatly scar a child or damage a child for life doing things your way. It scared me a lot to hear that you worked in a day care!
Thank God that things are changing and people do not see things as you or 1950's America anymore.. Gender is not between your legs its whom you are inside
Yea you are Homophobic.... and to let you know GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference. You cannot use force or discouragement as you put it change either one..You can greatly scar a child or damage a child for life doing things your way. It scared me a lot to hear that you worked in a day care! Thank God that things are changing and people do not see things as you or 1950's America anymore.. Gender is not between your legs its whom you are inside
You call me homophobic but they you say "GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference". I never said I had any problem with homosexuality. Get your argument straight.
I would not allow my son to wear address nor would I encourage feminine behavior in him.
You are ignorant and cruel. Go ahead and shove your Girly Boy into a closet. While you're at it, nail it shut and bury it. It makes a convenient coffin. If you had a girl who wanted to play sports with the boys would you discourage that? you say "I didn't sign up for this". Oh poor you. You signed up for it by getting pregnant. You don't get to choose who comes out. You may believe that you are protecting your son, but you are only making the damage worse.
I "signed up" for being a parent which includes providing guidance for my son. i would not allow him to wear a dress. nobody said anything about forcing anyone into any closets. If your argument were strong you would not need to put words in my mouth.
when you want a child, have one by artificial insemination and ask for 100 % non cross dressing Heterosexual sperm ,,, see if your doctor finds any !! Sexual preference and sexual identity are separate conditions ,,,,,, and yes you can know as a small child that you are gay or TS just like you knew that you were not ,,,, and another thing gay men dont dress up as women ,,, 70to 80 % of Transvestite men are straight !!!! you need to study more before puting your views in youtube , DONT have kids
None of your comment contradicts anything I said in the video. I said I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. All that other stuff you said, I didn't say it.
@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
Parents are supposed to train their children in the way they should go...You would think. It's disgusting what some mothers are doing, yes doing, to their sons.
What a crock of shit. For WOMEN to actually have the gams to say that they would discourage their son from crossdressing is such a farce - WOMEN, for the last 100 or so years have been fighting tooth and nail to break down stereoypes -- the fruits of which you now enjoy today, but when the 'fight' comes to you, you cower like a scared child! You strike me as the type of person who is only too happy to have people fight your battles for you.
@UHeardMe1stTime your reply leaves me with the sense that you don't fully understand my comment. I'll make my point another way starting here ---> It's hypocrital to enjoy the societal reformation that girls have enjoyed while at the same time shunning the same sort of reformation from your 'son'. To the observer it appears that you think it's OK for women to be and dress however they want, but not men? In your view men must be and act a certain way - FULL STOP. Does that sound right to you?
@pyramidhead138 Gay is a disposition like being straight, bisexual, or trans, caused by a combination of genetics and environmental interaction. Attraction is not a choice really but acting on it is, which is fine, at least according to sane people.
ma'am, you dont even have to BE gay to get teased at school. im a straight guy, but ive been accused of being gay just because im different. thats just the trouble with society, if your not like them, you get treated like an outcast
I think it is healthy for men and women to celebrate their differences. Some people take the whole unisex thing too far in my opinion. So I would definitely discourage my little boy from girly tendencies like wearing a dress.
@UHeardMe1stTime So your talk is ONLY about cross-dressing and not transsexuals? How do you decide if your kid is a cross-dresser and not a transsexual? Lots of transsexuals start out as cross-dressers (until they come to terms with it).
All I said was I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. If he gets in his teens & is transgender OR and adult & wants to cross dress, that's a different story.
@UHeardMe1stTime I get what your saying, but it's not always easy to make that distinction. Your young son may want to wear a dress because he IS transgender. Really, if your son want's to wear a dress, you should take him to a qualified gender therapist, because they are the only ones who can tell. And if your child is transgender, the sooner you find out the better because starting hormone therapy before puberty will go a looong way in making your son's transition easier. :-)
"Your young son may want to wear a dress because he IS transgender."
A child is too young to make such a permanent decision. like I said, if the child gets older & the feeling persists, fine. Until then, NO DRESSES for boys.
@UHeardMe1stTime Your child isn't making a DECISION. he either is transgender or he isn't. It's not a decision any of us make, anymore than gay or lesbians make the decision to be gay or lesbian. It's just the way you are, and believe me it does not go away. The sooner you know, the sooner you can help your child deal. Harlan Ellison once said "You don't have the right to an opinion. You have the right to an INFORMED opinion". You need to do some research before making decisions
I wasn't making the choice argument when I said decision. You are still missing what I'm saying. I'm talking about AGE, maturity & ability to understand consequences of actions. You arguing that transgenderism is real & not a choice which are arguments I never. All I'm saying is that my YOUNG son is not going to transition or wear a dress. If he gets OLDER & it persists, we'll take it from there. My argument is AGE, AGE, AGE.
Im a tv ,have a fiance a boyfriend and a girlfriend ,,,men like it ,, women like it .we could explain this to death for you n u still wouldnt get it .years ago womens freedom was capped and it was risen against ,,,same with gays ,,, the same will happen for tv and ts
"Understanding the PANIC of having a an effeminate son" ??? So you dont condone a man punching to death a little boy but your sympathizing with him cus u UNDERSTAND the panic LOL... This is crazy.... Your using softer words to express what you really mean. Basically you HATE gays and you dont want a son whos a faggot. Just say it like it is. No need to sugar code it.
Gay children get picked on for the same reason fat kids, black kids, smart kids, slow kids, short kids, tall kids, ugly kids, etc get picked up. Because people are assholes.
I bet they're not even getting picked on for being gay. How would the other kids know they were gay unless they were like, gawking at their dicks in the shower room or something?
They just use the abuse and shitty lives of kids as a excuse to martyr themselves. Gays don't give a shit about children.
i would allow my son to be in a club or watever where its mostly girls? i really dont see the harm in letting him be in a comfortable enviornment. who knows maybe he'll straigten up from the chicks being mean/despising to him.
2:04 lol your so right. but people exaggerate when they say such things. 3:5 totally agree with you there. i think thatsall you really had to say. but i would have said "hurt". "tease" makes your point sound petty. we all no parents period freak over the safety of their child. what are they being exposed to, who are they hanging out with, why did he push you,etc..
didnt know you were so conservative uheard, especially in gender roles. We can sit here and theorize and speculate what you would do, but the truth is you never know until it happens to you. In that regard, it would be best to ask somebody whos been through it. But if it was me id lt the boy play hockey, could be lookin at the next wayne gretzky
@UHeardMe1stTime im just saying you would fit in well over at fox new :D Seeing as you were a tomboy wearing jerseys I thought maybe you could see the other side where a boy would want to put on something girly. And in the end, theyre going to do it anyways even if they put the dress back on in the school bathroom. Kids do the opposite of parents so maybe if you give them the ol seal of approval and say "you look so cute in that dress" they will run for the hills lol
@UHeardMe1stTime keep on theorizing im just gonna keep living my life. Im not so bored that i create hypothetical situations about dresses
nobody said anything about a 4 year old and the "school bathroom" can imply they change into their dress when they get out of school and go downtown to show it off away from school authority. I can tell your set in your ways so there aint no 2 ways about it. Nice "chattin" with you
I told you the gays were going go apeshit over this vid! three groups you dont eff with, jews, gays and atheists. they are SUPER sensitive and very sardonic in their attacks. if you are not with them, you are against them. funny thing they are the most close minded of all and will not accept any opinion unless its THEIR opinion. these groups want attention we have to ignore them. love your channel as always!
@shyvixx1 I'm a Jewish gay atheist and agree 100% with everything this woman said. I shouldn't say I'm a Jewish atheist (as that's a bit of an oxymoron), I should say I was raised as Jewish, but decided early on that I was an atheist.
that's wrong!! why the hell would someone beat/punch a baby/child? especially if the baby/child is not even their's to begin with? that's fucked up! you don't do shit like that. i don't care if it has to do with something that you don't like. you don't do shit like that, and you definitely don't do shit like that to someone elses child. that's wrong!! he may not agree with it, but that's no excuse for homophobic behavior, and i'm not accepting it!! this shit pisses me off!!
I think genes determine a someones personality more than ppl think. If a boy/guy acts girly/boyish i think it's bc they were born that way. Same with other personality traits.
Its the parents fault duhh, at that age. If the parents don't nurture the child well at a young age they change and adapt to who ever gives them the emotional guidance they need, like a teacher or older children usually the opposite sex.
I crossdressed occasionally until I was about seven. I didn't have identity issues, I knew I was a boy, but sometimes I liked to feel like a girl. I didn't even do anything really effeminate except wear dresses.
There was nothing wrong with it, and the only way it would've adversely affected me is if my parents had been assholes and tried to control my behavior.
Whenever you have a subject like this you get ALL these women defending little boys wearing dresses and in favour of them showing their "femininity"
Yet these are the same type of women who don't think twice about shunning a "nice guy" who's too sweet because they are not attracted to them, so I don't see HOW they would be in favour of an increasing amount of boys/men cross dressing! WTF!
Its hard enough for most men to get laid, how the fuck is he going to do it wearing a dress?!?!
@UHeardMe1stTime - Exactly, if you have sought professional help for your little boy and it turns out that he is not trans-gender or gay, but is still allowed to develop and nurture his fetish for women's clothing leading up to adulthood, then essentially you've ruined part of his life, because lets on honest on a serious note there aint to many women wanting to hook up and have kids with a straight guy wearing dresses and high heels!
Thats the excuse that kids are going to tease other kids if a boy dresses up like a girl? Thats isn't a good reason to deter your child from not dressing up like a girl. So then , by your line of reasoning , if a child was precocious and knowledgeable on many topics , and his peers teased him for that, then he should just stop being precocious to mitigate the teasing. No, the best line of approach is to point out the ignorance of kids perpuating the teasing and let your kid be himself
"Thats the excuse that kids are going to tease other kids if a boy dresses up like a girl? Thats isn't a good reason to deter your child from not dressing up like a girl."
"Who says YOU'RE the judge of this? It's MY child, so i judge what reasons are good or bad based on our unique situation.
Just because my kid wants to do something doesn't mean I should let him do it. There's a reason we don't let people do certain thing until a certain age.
@UHeardMe1stTime "Who says YOU'RE the judge of this? It's MY child, " Who are you to judge what dress of clothing is best appropriate for your child? Parents aren't aways the best people to make these judgements just like the parent you criticized for feeding her kid too much sugar or your aunt who instead of taking their kid to a doctor to heal their sick child, prayed about it instead. Parents in many instances don't know what is best for their kid. Kids aren't your property
God, this was one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. Can't believe I listened to it.
SitarKnight 1 hour ago
This video is kinda ignorant you should support your children if they want to crossdress and you should let them because that's who they are and if u don't let them wear what they want they will feel bad about themselves but its good that you believe being gay isn't a choice
AlienKing222 4 days ago
Well then lets pray to god you don't have a boy.
egioescandon1 4 days ago
if your child wants to be transgender or just likes to dress like a woman or anything like that you should just accept it. you shouldn't make them feel like shit and unloved because that's not what you want. at its going to lead to is deep depression and eventually suicide. then you wont have a child at all.
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I grew up with my sisters and a sweet boy and i was also raised not to say no, so i somehow struggle with these things even now at primary school the girls used to complain that i walked like a girl i didnt notice anything. So i tried to watch how my dad walked and tried to imitate.May be because i grew up with my sisters i am attracted to female clothing. I am hetrosexual. everywhere i have been people say i have girl tendencies. They make comments that i do things like a girl but i act normal
supernaturalone1 6 days ago
I grew up with my sisters and a sweet boy and i was also raise not to say no, so i somehow struggle with these things at primary school the girls used to complain that i walked like a girl i didnt notice anything. So i tried to watch how my dad walked and tried to imitate.May be because i grew up with my sisters i am attracted to female clothing. I am hetrosexual.Almost everywhere i have been people always say i behave like a girl. They make comments that i do things like a girl but i act normal
supernaturalone1 6 days ago
We never imagine that our children are going to be anything but normal. As mother's we pray that they are healthy when we become pregnant. Once your child is born, let me say, there is an automatic bond and love that no one on this earth can ever explain to a NON mother. So you can imagine all that you want, that you would not accept anything like that. You as a mother end up accepting your child no matter what because YOU made them. Only a sick person abandons their child.
xxBellaxxDonnaxx 1 week ago
Zooming to 7:40: I don't choose to be gay. I am attracted to men. No YOU don't have to sleep with men and that is true for you a WOMAN... you don't need to get it up you get is shoved in. GUYS need to be aroused and to be honest, women turn me off so quickly I get as soft as can be. SO I DO NOT CHOSE TO ACT ON MY HOMOSEXUAL TENDENCIES. I just do what I need to to be sexually aroused. If I didn't do it I would be alone for the REST OF MY LIFE
jojojosephpaul 1 week ago
I know that I've made a lot of comments, but your moral compass is pointing in all the wrong directions, and I find it personally upsetting.
catzrock10150 1 week ago
@catzrock10150
I don't think you know what a moral compass is. Moral compass refers to doing right or wrong. Not allowing my son to wear a dress is HARDLY wrong.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
Also, the fact that you say "this is not what I signed up for" is very discouraging as a parent. You expect your wife or future-wife to produce this perfect, flawless baby? Not gonna happen bud. Maybe he or she will be gay, maybe they'll have autism, maybe they'll have a physical deformity. What child you get is out of your control. You must accept the child you get and nurture it with all the love you have, because this is your child.
catzrock10150 1 week ago
@catzrock10150
"this is not what I signed up for"
You're taking that line out of context. I NEVER said anything about not loving the child or not keeping it or beating it so I don't know why you say "You must accept the child you & nurture it with all the love you have, because this is your child". Some of you are so sensitive about this topic that you hear things that were never said. It's out of love that I would not allow my son to wear a dress. He can do what he wants when he's grown.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
As for the actual topic at hand, well, I would discourage the wearing of a dress if only to prevent my "son" the humility from other children teasing him, but in the end if he really really wants to dress like a girl, he will dress like a girl. Maybe not as a child, and maybe not as a teenager either if the parent is especially not understanding.... but one day, as an adult, the child will dress like a girl; cross-dress.
catzrock10150 1 week ago
The part where you say "I don't think a child is gay or straight at that age" is totally false. From the moment you are conceived in the womb, whether you are homosexual or heterosexual is hard-wired in your DNA. It's something you cannot change.
Instead, I would say it's hard to tell if a child is gay or straight at a young age. Children just don't have those sorts of feelings until they hit puberty, and that's usually when it becomes obvious.
catzrock10150 1 week ago
@catzrock10150
That's semantics. Young children NORMALLY don't have sexual thoughts or sexual attractions. That's all I'm saying. I wasn't commenting on whether or not people are born gay.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
The whole "It's not what I had in mind" shows you'd never be ready for parenting, one thing my parents reassured me as a young girl was that once you've had a child you have to be 100% prepared for anything and be ready to accept and encourage them on what they want to do, or there will be unneeded tension between the child and parent
LivingtheMash 1 week ago
You're taking that line out of context. It's one thing to expect your child to look a certain way or have a certain eye color, but it's a different thing to expect a boy when your child comes out with a penis since that's what happens most of the time. I was explaining why parents take time to get used to certain things or even try to steer the child away from certain things. Even parents of trans kids who are supportive STILL mourn the loss of their son who "became a girl" so come off it.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
@UHeardMe1stTime That's just it you keep saying "expect." You can't EXPECT anything, nothing goes the way you want it to because they develop their own personality, they aren't you so just because you wouldn't expect them to wear a dress or want them to for fear of them being picked, doesn't mean you should discourage it. You can't prevent them from making mistakes the have to on their own and learn that way.
LivingtheMash 1 week ago
@LivingtheMash
Why do you think they call pregnancy "EXPECTING"? Why do people buy BOY close when then find out it's a boy? With your line of thinking, parents should not buy clothes for their unborn babies / or infants because that would be assuming or expecting something. And I don't even get what you're arguing about because I never said I would not love my child or disown it.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
@LivingtheMash
"You can't prevent them from making mistakes the have to on their own and learn that way."
in that case , should I just let him walk around naked if he wants?
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
@UHeardMe1stTime I would dress children as my parents did and my sister has in a gender neutral environment until they can decide for themselves what they want to wear. Gender defined clothes and your child walking around naked are two different things, gender neutral would be safe, if one so desires to let their child walk around naked then that's there business and it's not anyone's place to judge
LivingtheMash 1 week ago
@LivingtheMash
No disrespect but that's just crazy. Very few people are transgender, but we should dress children neutrally to accommodate something that rarely happens. For the majority of kids who are not trans, how does this benefit them? You want gender neutral clothes for all kids just for the sake of a rare minority. Sorry, but if it ain't broke don't fix it. Deal with transgenderism IF/WHEN is happens. No need to preempt it.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
@UHeardMe1stTime It's not dealing with transgenderism preemptively. Raising them in a neutral environment allows them the freedom to decide what they want and when. Not saying they will wear grey tshirts forever. It simply means an androgynous look, one most teens see as it's own fashion area today, that way when they do decide on what they want to wear they can wear those things. It's not fixing anything, it's setting a good foundation.
LivingtheMash 1 week ago
well we all know you're not smart enough to be a father.
andythefox100 1 week ago
@andythefox100
You're not smart enough to be commenting.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
Closed minded you have no fucking idea about what your talking about
MrBearsCave 2 weeks ago
@MrBearsCave
No, YOU don't.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
If the kid wants a dress, and they aren't being picked on by their freinds,....why should you bully them ?
Would you rather they hide it ?
brickley2000 2 weeks ago
@brickley2000
I didn't say anything about me bullying anybody.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Sorry.
I just thought that people imposing their beliefs on others and forcing them to conform to what they demand,.... WAS bullying.
I guess I was wrong though.
brickley2000 2 weeks ago
@brickley2000
Check the dictionary for definitions. You can't just make up stuff. No, that's not what a bully is.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
My dad tried the same thing.
I wished he was dead for years. It boils down to whether you love your child or if you're a homophobe. You think you're doing the right thing, but in reality, they will develop a hatred for you and themselves so great that either they will kill themselves or never talk to you again. Either way, you've lost your child.
3percentmilk 2 weeks ago
When you were little, you knew who you wanted to be. If a child doesn't feel comfortable in their body, they should be allowed to embrace who they truly are. YOU AREN'T TRANSGENDERED! You have no room to talk about this subject, you have no experience. I hope and pray you never have children.
TippingChairs 2 weeks ago
@TippingChairs AT 5 years old it the PARENTS who make the decisions for the child, stop being so damn emotional, if you would let your little boy wear a dress go right ahead, but don't try to enforce your opinions and views on others!
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@TippingChairs
" If a child doesn't feel comfortable in their body, they should be allowed to embrace who they truly are. "
Just because a boy wants to put on a dress DOES NOT mean he is transgender. You're jumping to conclusions. Kids get all sorts of crazy inappropriate ideas. I had a 5 y/o student tell me he wanted to marry his sister. I corrected him. If my boy tells me he wants to wear a cress, I'll correct him. Dresses are for GIRLS.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Yeah, and your "boy" might be a "girl"~ but you apparently live in a fantasyland where transgendered individuals don't exist. Must be nice having your head in the sand.
strikerk 1 week ago
@strikerk
1. You're assuming that just because a boy wants to put on a dress he's transgender.
2. If you're saying that the reason the "boy" wants to wear a dress is because he's actually a girl then that still proves my point that dresses are for girls.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 week ago
hey dumb ass women cross dress all the time think about it
MsKatelyngurl 2 weeks ago
@MsKatelyngurl
I still wouldn't let my young son wear a dress.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
That's cool, but I think the two are sorta connected. You want them to be old enough to understand the consequences, but by the time they are old enough, it can make it that much harder to transition. I transitioned older (I was 30), after many years of trying to be the man everybody wanted me to be. Lucky for me I'm short (5'4"), small boned, with a gender neutral face (I got mistaken for a girl all the time). But a lot aren't so lucky. Testosterone can mess you up the longer you wait ;-)
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
Kids don't go thru puberty at 5, 6, 7, 8 or 9 USUALLY. So again there's no reason to jump the gun. Little kids get all sorts of crazy ideas. It may be just a phase.
Also, the argument you make about being short & small boned & mentioning testosterone ruins the argument that gender is internal, not external.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime True, gender is internal, but the way the rest of the world reacts to you is EXTERNAL. It is a proven fact that transgenders who pass well are more accepted in their desired gender by mainstream society. Not so much if you look like a big 6'3" dude in dress. Sadly, I know a few transgenders who will never be accepted as women because they look too much like men. Testosterone blockers at an early age (before puberty) can stop this from happening.
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
May I ask why it took you so long to transition?
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Mostly fear. Fear of what my family would say, fear of what my co-workers would say. I need not have worried, everybody was really cool about it (most people are). I worked in city hall, issuing building permits. Most of our customers are contractors who are big, macho guys, I was worried about how they would react. But they were wonderful, even protective of me. Some even asked me out. ;-)
marti386 2 weeks ago
Not alot going on in this video.
TheGreytights 2 weeks ago
You miss a huge point about litltle boys being "sweet." There's gender identify and there's sexual orientation. Two different things. Gender expression is how straight tomboyish women and effeminate straight men exist. It's also why there are femme gay women and manly gay men. A "sweet" boy is simply effeminate. That's it. Will he be gay? Probably so, thought not necessarily.
sclay12345 2 weeks ago
@sclay12345
I didn't miss that point. I talked about effeminate straight men.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
I did not insult you or call you a lesbian.....now im done with this conversation
tanymas1 2 weeks ago
you're terrible.
brunosmovies 2 weeks ago
I think you should raise a child to be true to their nature. If they are teased for who they are, then they have to deal with it. A parent guides a child to handle it. This is what develops character and how to deal with adversity. A parent should guide a child that it is beneficial to be honest, selfless (without being a chump), empathetic, and how to cope in a crazy world which is getting crazier. A parent's job - to prepare them to cope with life, not what to be in life and to love them
MsTdt4321 2 weeks ago
u need to love him or her i am a crloosadresser it is what it is
joybehard 2 weeks ago
@joybehard
"u need to love him or her "
When did I said I would not love my child?
"i am a crloosadresser it is what it is"
And you're probably an ADULT. You can make your own decisions & (I assume) you are prepared to live with the consequences. My young (hypothetical) son is not an adult so I will not allow him to do things that I don't feel are in his best interest.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Please for the love of God do not have any children!
tanymas1 2 weeks ago
@tanymas1
Oh, how original. That's the best comment next to "you're a lesbian". This attitude you have is why you all think people have changed their minds but then when it's time to vote you find out otherwise. You need to learn to be civil when expressing your views instead of spouting out regurgitated LAME insults. It does not help your cause.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
Have you ever heard of transgender? Someone who feels they are of the opposite gender? I am one. The reason a lot of these children kill themselves because society says they aren't the woman/man they are.
Nobody is there for them to say they are. Just a bunch of people who say they need to be men or women
SparklesInYourFace 2 weeks ago
@SparklesInYourFace Thank you. I'm also transgender (male to female), and I just want to make it clear that we are people too, and shouldn't be treated as lesser or demonized or anything like that. We're just as human as the rest of y'all.
LANmineTFC 2 weeks ago
@SparklesInYourFace
"Have you ever heard of transgender?"
Yes. But this video is about cross-DRESSING.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime
In which, (to society) that would be part of someone who is transgender choices. To dress like a woman. Chances are if your hypothetical young son did this. They aren't doing the cross dressing as a fetish. He is probably doing this because he sees other girls, and thinks I'm one of them. I'mma do that. It may be a phase may not. If you go and try to stop them (and this is word of therapists) that will ruin them. That their parents don't accept/see them how they do.
SparklesInYourFace 2 weeks ago
@SparklesInYourFace
"He is probably doing this because he sees other girls, and thinks I'm one of them. I'mma do that."
Oh, so you've got a diagnosis before hand? How do you know? This behavior could be a symptom of something else. You not even asking if it could be. you've already got your diagnosis.
Did you know that most people who have dysphoric feelings GROW OUT OF IT? if my kid gets into his teens & is transgender, that's 1 thing. But at 5 y/o , NO!
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
I really do not like you ....
bluewithoutyou 3 weeks ago
who are you?
XDarkDestroyaX 2 weeks ago
You need to shut your trap
bluewithoutyou 3 weeks ago
what are you on about
XDarkDestroyaX 2 weeks ago
Who are you ?
bluewithoutyou 3 weeks ago
I think that all these comments come from the fact that no one understands what you are doing on youtube struggling for something to say ,, surely you have other things going on in your life that you can discourse on ? keep away from subjects that you know nothing of or are to hypothetical for you. Write about cooking or gardening and keep away from child education until you actually HAVE a child ,, and then god forbid !
TheFiown 3 weeks ago
Have you ever listen to you talking> I am sorry, you sound really like a Lesbo. Listen to you for a moment. Closet?! Stop talking crap!
JohnDuccher 3 weeks ago
@JohnDuccher
"you sound really like a Lesbo"
That doesn't make me wrong & you right & it doesn't bother me to be called a lesbian.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Well thats ok then because you sound just like a butch lesbian ..
bluewithoutyou 3 weeks ago
Im sorry you had a bad childhood... Maybe you should look at the problems you have with yourself before going on the internet with some bull shit like this, How other people raise their children is none of your damn business. AND BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE CHILDREN YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND. AND FYI OTHER KIDS tease kids that do these kinds of things because their parents put it in their heads. Children grow opinions on things based on what the are taught. You should never have a child.
jackrmour 3 weeks ago
@jackrmour
Oh, please stop the melodrama. I said I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. All these other accusations you are pulling out of your rear end. If you wanna let your young child do whatever he/ she wants because they feel like it, go ahead. See where that gets them.
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TheIsisfive 2 weeks ago
you cannot raise a child straight just like you cannot make someone gay. you either are or your not. No amount of whippings or abuse i.e( discouragement) will ever change that. If your a girl in a boys body it wont change that either it will just make things worse.
tanymas1 3 weeks ago
@tanymas1
"you cannot raise a child straight just like you cannot make someone gay. "
Please tell where I said it was possible to turn someone gay or straight. you're making up stuff I never said.
"No amount of whippings or abuse i.e( discouragement) will ever change that."
Again, this was never said by me.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime You should really listen to your own video. You said you would discourage him and you went on to say you did not know how far you would go to do that. Infact by your own words you are saying you can raise a child Gay or Straight. . If a child is wearing dresses and doing girly things its because maybe they are a GIRL. despite being labelled as a boy.
tanymas1 3 weeks ago
@tanymas1 Well said dear
bluewithoutyou 3 weeks ago
@tanymas1
'You said you would discourage him"
You're changing what I said. i didn't say I would discourage HIM. Before you start trying to add things to what I said, the point is I would not allow my young son to wear a dress.
"Infact by your own words you are saying you can raise a child Gay or Straight."
This video is not about sexual orientation. It's about boys with feminine behavior. There are feminine males who are straight so orientation has nothing to do with it.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
@tanymas1
" If a child is wearing dresses and doing girly things its because maybe they are a GIRL."
Nope. Many if not most kids with dysphoric feelings grow out of it (just a phase). If your child is having dysphoric feelings you should take them to s psychologist & have them checked out.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime and when they are checked out, the feelings ARE NOT GUARANTEED TO GO AWAY. Let me say that again: it's not guaranteed to be a phase. It is indeed a VERY real possibility that the feeling won't go away, and it may very well follow them into adulthood. If this was the case with your own child, how would you react? Keep in mind that you can't "train" this out of them or teach them to act differently to make it go away. It's there for life.
LANmineTFC 2 weeks ago
@LANmineTFC
"he feelings ARE NOT GUARANTEED TO GO AWAY"
There you go changing what I said again. I didn't say it was guaranteed, but in most cases it is a phase or the feelings aren't strong enough to feel the need to transition.
"If this was the case with your own child, how would you react?"
I would not let a small child transition. IF they get older (teen) & the feelings persist THEN we can talk about transitioning. But not in elementary school.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@LANmineTFC
"Keep in mind that you can't "train" this out of them or teach them to act differently to make it go away."
Nobody's making that claim. But I can restrict him from wearing dresses & take him to the playground where other boys are. I'm not going to encourage femininity in my son.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime What a load of rubbish you talk.You need to go get yourself checked out
bluewithoutyou 2 weeks ago
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Yea you are Homophobic... and to let you know GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference. You cannot use force or discouragement as you put it change either one. You can greatly scar a child or damage a child for life doing things your way. It scared me a lot to hear that you worked in a day care!
Thank God that things are changing and people do not see things as you or 1950's America anymore.. Gender is not between your legs its whom you are inside
tanymas1 3 weeks ago
Yea you are Homophobic.... and to let you know GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference. You cannot use force or discouragement as you put it change either one..You can greatly scar a child or damage a child for life doing things your way. It scared me a lot to hear that you worked in a day care! Thank God that things are changing and people do not see things as you or 1950's America anymore.. Gender is not between your legs its whom you are inside
tanymas1 3 weeks ago
@tanymas1
You call me homophobic but they you say "GENDER or gender identity has absolutely nothing to do with ones sexual preference". I never said I had any problem with homosexuality. Get your argument straight.
I would not allow my son to wear address nor would I encourage feminine behavior in him.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
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tanymas1 3 weeks ago
You are ignorant and cruel. Go ahead and shove your Girly Boy into a closet. While you're at it, nail it shut and bury it. It makes a convenient coffin. If you had a girl who wanted to play sports with the boys would you discourage that? you say "I didn't sign up for this". Oh poor you. You signed up for it by getting pregnant. You don't get to choose who comes out. You may believe that you are protecting your son, but you are only making the damage worse.
GurlVeruca 3 weeks ago
@GurlVeruca
I "signed up" for being a parent which includes providing guidance for my son. i would not allow him to wear a dress. nobody said anything about forcing anyone into any closets. If your argument were strong you would not need to put words in my mouth.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
when you want a child, have one by artificial insemination and ask for 100 % non cross dressing Heterosexual sperm ,,, see if your doctor finds any !! Sexual preference and sexual identity are separate conditions ,,,,,, and yes you can know as a small child that you are gay or TS just like you knew that you were not ,,,, and another thing gay men dont dress up as women ,,, 70to 80 % of Transvestite men are straight !!!! you need to study more before puting your views in youtube , DONT have kids
TheFiown 3 weeks ago
@TheFiown
None of your comment contradicts anything I said in the video. I said I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. All that other stuff you said, I didn't say it.
UHeardMe1stTime 3 weeks ago
2nd the kid care be transgender...
rbkiggreen 3 weeks ago
sweet boys are just being them.. so fuck ... 2 stop being homophobic homo phobic homophobic
rbkiggreen 3 weeks ago
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@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
potionsmistresss 1 month ago
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@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
potionsmistresss 1 month ago
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@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
potionsmistresss 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime i am a woman attracted to men that wear dresses. your logic is flawed. we do not all have to conform. it may be your choice, but i pray for your future children if you think we should all teach our kids to fit in and all be alike. our differences are what make us unique and special. you shouldn't kill that in a child's spirit.
potionsmistresss 1 month ago
Parents are supposed to train their children in the way they should go...You would think. It's disgusting what some mothers are doing, yes doing, to their sons.
Drebln893 1 month ago in playlist More videos from UHeardMe1stTime
What a crock of shit. For WOMEN to actually have the gams to say that they would discourage their son from crossdressing is such a farce - WOMEN, for the last 100 or so years have been fighting tooth and nail to break down stereoypes -- the fruits of which you now enjoy today, but when the 'fight' comes to you, you cower like a scared child! You strike me as the type of person who is only too happy to have people fight your battles for you.
I'm sorry but to hear this makes me cringe.
TheGreatToopi 1 month ago
@TheGreatToopi
Don't put other people's words in my mouth. You can't use what other women have said / done against me.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime your reply leaves me with the sense that you don't fully understand my comment. I'll make my point another way starting here ---> It's hypocrital to enjoy the societal reformation that girls have enjoyed while at the same time shunning the same sort of reformation from your 'son'. To the observer it appears that you think it's OK for women to be and dress however they want, but not men? In your view men must be and act a certain way - FULL STOP. Does that sound right to you?
TheGreatToopi 1 month ago
i dont believe that gay is a choice, i believe its genetic
pyramidhead138 1 month ago
@pyramidhead138 Gay is a disposition like being straight, bisexual, or trans, caused by a combination of genetics and environmental interaction. Attraction is not a choice really but acting on it is, which is fine, at least according to sane people.
rowdyrottenpeeper 1 month ago
@pyramidhead138 ...(BEING GAY IS GENETIC)....You're a bloody idiot
Drebln893 1 month ago in playlist More videos from UHeardMe1stTime
ma'am, you dont even have to BE gay to get teased at school. im a straight guy, but ive been accused of being gay just because im different. thats just the trouble with society, if your not like them, you get treated like an outcast
pyramidhead138 1 month ago
chris crocker is such a dyke
pyramidhead138 1 month ago
I think it is healthy for men and women to celebrate their differences. Some people take the whole unisex thing too far in my opinion. So I would definitely discourage my little boy from girly tendencies like wearing a dress.
imsatindoll 1 month ago in playlist More videos from UHeardMe1stTime
A man can wear a dress and still be exclusively attracted to women. This is not a gay thing. It's a "normal vs. not normal" thing.
ImNotYourFriend212 1 month ago
@ImNotYourFriend212
"A man can wear a dress and still be exclusively attracted to women."
But good luck getting a woman that likes a man in a dress.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 month ago 6
@UHeardMe1stTime true true true
pyramidhead138 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Ha! Look in the right places and you would be surprised. Watch for the ones with fetishes though, keep up the good work nice videos.
rowdyrottenpeeper 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime it happens if your around trans women like i have been around they get hit on by downlow women or lesbians all the time .
mular55 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Ummmm... I'm a M2F transsexual, I date women, and I've never had trouble finding women who are attracted to me. Just sayin'
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
Most m2f trans people consider themselves to be FEMALE, not men in a dresses.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime So your talk is ONLY about cross-dressing and not transsexuals? How do you decide if your kid is a cross-dresser and not a transsexual? Lots of transsexuals start out as cross-dressers (until they come to terms with it).
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
All I said was I would not allow my young son to wear a dress. If he gets in his teens & is transgender OR and adult & wants to cross dress, that's a different story.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime I get what your saying, but it's not always easy to make that distinction. Your young son may want to wear a dress because he IS transgender. Really, if your son want's to wear a dress, you should take him to a qualified gender therapist, because they are the only ones who can tell. And if your child is transgender, the sooner you find out the better because starting hormone therapy before puberty will go a looong way in making your son's transition easier. :-)
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
"Your young son may want to wear a dress because he IS transgender."
A child is too young to make such a permanent decision. like I said, if the child gets older & the feeling persists, fine. Until then, NO DRESSES for boys.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime Your child isn't making a DECISION. he either is transgender or he isn't. It's not a decision any of us make, anymore than gay or lesbians make the decision to be gay or lesbian. It's just the way you are, and believe me it does not go away. The sooner you know, the sooner you can help your child deal. Harlan Ellison once said "You don't have the right to an opinion. You have the right to an INFORMED opinion". You need to do some research before making decisions
marti386 2 weeks ago
@marti386
I wasn't making the choice argument when I said decision. You are still missing what I'm saying. I'm talking about AGE, maturity & ability to understand consequences of actions. You arguing that transgenderism is real & not a choice which are arguments I never. All I'm saying is that my YOUNG son is not going to transition or wear a dress. If he gets OLDER & it persists, we'll take it from there. My argument is AGE, AGE, AGE.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 weeks ago
@UHeardMe1stTime lol. You will still be miss read because of crazy emotion.
paulsimage 1 week ago
@UHeardMe1stTime
Im a tv ,have a fiance a boyfriend and a girlfriend ,,,men like it ,, women like it .we could explain this to death for you n u still wouldnt get it .years ago womens freedom was capped and it was risen against ,,,same with gays ,,, the same will happen for tv and ts
pst291 2 weeks ago
i have to agree withy ou. im not homophobic and i support my gay peers and friends but i think myself i would discourage the "Cross-dressing."
and thank you for saying just because a man is gay doesnt mean he will wear a dress.
rainonmebi 1 month ago
@MrTempUzer
Interesting. What made you become more masculine?
UHeardMe1stTime 1 month ago
"Understanding the PANIC of having a an effeminate son" ??? So you dont condone a man punching to death a little boy but your sympathizing with him cus u UNDERSTAND the panic LOL... This is crazy.... Your using softer words to express what you really mean. Basically you HATE gays and you dont want a son whos a faggot. Just say it like it is. No need to sugar code it.
askar4kill 1 month ago
Gay children get picked on for the same reason fat kids, black kids, smart kids, slow kids, short kids, tall kids, ugly kids, etc get picked up. Because people are assholes.
I bet they're not even getting picked on for being gay. How would the other kids know they were gay unless they were like, gawking at their dicks in the shower room or something?
They just use the abuse and shitty lives of kids as a excuse to martyr themselves. Gays don't give a shit about children.
JimProfitCommunist 1 month ago 2
u would be a great parent for doing that, real talk!
WizzoPro9476 1 month ago
I hate when people say "I knew I was gay since I was 3 years old". I didn't even know I had a dick until I was like 5 years old.
Viktir666 1 month ago 2
i would allow my son to be in a club or watever where its mostly girls? i really dont see the harm in letting him be in a comfortable enviornment. who knows maybe he'll straigten up from the chicks being mean/despising to him.
JSkelentonKey 2 months ago
2:04 lol your so right. but people exaggerate when they say such things. 3:5 totally agree with you there. i think thatsall you really had to say. but i would have said "hurt". "tease" makes your point sound petty. we all no parents period freak over the safety of their child. what are they being exposed to, who are they hanging out with, why did he push you,etc..
JSkelentonKey 2 months ago
Maybe you could talk about Colorism in depth. Light skinned privilege. I'd love to hear your opinion on it.
maipai101 2 months ago
@stoptheh8PLEASE
ellegantgirl
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
didnt know you were so conservative uheard, especially in gender roles. We can sit here and theorize and speculate what you would do, but the truth is you never know until it happens to you. In that regard, it would be best to ask somebody whos been through it. But if it was me id lt the boy play hockey, could be lookin at the next wayne gretzky
musicIuvr 2 months ago
@musicIuvr
Not letting my son wear a dress is conservative? Wow? J
No, really, why would I let me son wear a dress?
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime im just saying you would fit in well over at fox new :D Seeing as you were a tomboy wearing jerseys I thought maybe you could see the other side where a boy would want to put on something girly. And in the end, theyre going to do it anyways even if they put the dress back on in the school bathroom. Kids do the opposite of parents so maybe if you give them the ol seal of approval and say "you look so cute in that dress" they will run for the hills lol
musicIuvr 2 months ago 2
@musicIuvr
"you were a tomboy wearing jerseys"
A 14 y/o tomboy, not 4 y/o. Also, no one ever said anything about my jerseys, but they would say something about a boy in a dress.
"theyre going to do it anyways even if they put the dress back on in the school bathroom."
Boys are not allowed to wear dresses at school. And again we are talking about a young child around 5-6 y/o.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime keep on theorizing im just gonna keep living my life. Im not so bored that i create hypothetical situations about dresses
nobody said anything about a 4 year old and the "school bathroom" can imply they change into their dress when they get out of school and go downtown to show it off away from school authority. I can tell your set in your ways so there aint no 2 ways about it. Nice "chattin" with you
musicIuvr 2 months ago
@musicIuvr
"keep on theorizing im just gonna keep living my life. Im not so bored that i create hypothetical situations about dresses"
It's called a discussion topic. If that's how you feel why do you watch videos?
"nobody said anything about a 4 year old"
My video was about a 4-6 year old boy, so I was the 1 who said something about a 4 y/o.
" imply they change into their dress when they get out of school "
A 4-6 y/o child would mostly likely not be able to do this.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
I told you the gays were going go apeshit over this vid! three groups you dont eff with, jews, gays and atheists. they are SUPER sensitive and very sardonic in their attacks. if you are not with them, you are against them. funny thing they are the most close minded of all and will not accept any opinion unless its THEIR opinion. these groups want attention we have to ignore them. love your channel as always!
shyvixx1 2 months ago 14
@shyvixx1 I've met lots more religious people who are easily offended instead of atheists.
Viktir666 2 months ago
@shyvixx1 I'm a Jewish gay atheist and agree 100% with everything this woman said. I shouldn't say I'm a Jewish atheist (as that's a bit of an oxymoron), I should say I was raised as Jewish, but decided early on that I was an atheist.
flossySPACEK 1 month ago
@shyvixx1
Wow... are YOU a shithead.
4LMTaylor 3 weeks ago
@4LMTaylor ugh there needs to a large canyon where all the freaks and perves should be thrown off. smh
shyvixx1 3 weeks ago
that's wrong!! why the hell would someone beat/punch a baby/child? especially if the baby/child is not even their's to begin with? that's fucked up! you don't do shit like that. i don't care if it has to do with something that you don't like. you don't do shit like that, and you definitely don't do shit like that to someone elses child. that's wrong!! he may not agree with it, but that's no excuse for homophobic behavior, and i'm not accepting it!! this shit pisses me off!!
JRockLovinAtheist 2 months ago
I think genes determine a someones personality more than ppl think. If a boy/guy acts girly/boyish i think it's bc they were born that way. Same with other personality traits.
GGLebo23 2 months ago
Its the parents fault duhh, at that age. If the parents don't nurture the child well at a young age they change and adapt to who ever gives them the emotional guidance they need, like a teacher or older children usually the opposite sex.
Mikenified 2 months ago
I don't think it was panic, that was pure hatred!!!
jenntopp1 2 months ago
I crossdressed occasionally until I was about seven. I didn't have identity issues, I knew I was a boy, but sometimes I liked to feel like a girl. I didn't even do anything really effeminate except wear dresses.
There was nothing wrong with it, and the only way it would've adversely affected me is if my parents had been assholes and tried to control my behavior.
graaaaaagh 2 months ago
i do agree with you at 7:30 though
devaloki 2 months ago
i hate christian bastards like you
devaloki 2 months ago
@devaloki
"i hate christian bastards like you"
Genius, I'm an ATHEIST. And NO, I'm not joking. A christian wouldn't joke like that.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago 6
@UHeardMe1stTime what makes u an ATHIEST anyway?!
WizzoPro9476 1 month ago
@WizzoPro9476
Not believing in God.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime No Shit! What caused u to become one?! R U Racist towards Light-SKinned BM like Most BW?!
WizzoPro9476 1 month ago
@WizzoPro9476
I have a video called been there, done that. it tells how I became atheist.
UHeardMe1stTime 1 month ago
@UHeardMe1stTime I'll check it! THanks!
WizzoPro9476 1 month ago
@devaloki How did you assume she's christian?
Viktir666 2 months ago
Whenever you have a subject like this you get ALL these women defending little boys wearing dresses and in favour of them showing their "femininity"
Yet these are the same type of women who don't think twice about shunning a "nice guy" who's too sweet because they are not attracted to them, so I don't see HOW they would be in favour of an increasing amount of boys/men cross dressing! WTF!
Its hard enough for most men to get laid, how the fuck is he going to do it wearing a dress?!?!
XDarkDestroyaX 2 months ago 2
@XDarkDestroyaX
Spit dat fiya!
"Its hard enough for most men to get laid, how the fuck is he going to do it wearing a dress?!?!"
LOL. I feel you, but I don't think guys in dresses have a problem getting laid...by MEN.
UHeardMe1stTime 2 months ago
@UHeardMe1stTime - Exactly, if you have sought professional help for your little boy and it turns out that he is not trans-gender or gay, but is still allowed to develop and nurture his fetish for women's clothing leading up to adulthood, then essentially you've ruined part of his life, because lets on honest on a serious note there aint to many women wanting to hook up and have kids with a straight guy wearing dresses and high heels!
XDarkDestroyaX 2 months ago
The feminization of young boys must be stopped at all costs!
These dumb women commenting must not be allowed to corrupt these children!
TheDirtyVillain 2 months ago
Thats the excuse that kids are going to tease other kids if a boy dresses up like a girl? Thats isn't a good reason to deter your child from not dressing up like a girl. So then , by your line of reasoning , if a child was precocious and knowledgeable on many topics , and his peers teased him for that, then he should just stop being precocious to mitigate the teasing. No, the best line of approach is to point out the ignorance of kids perpuating the teasing and let your kid be himself
Pentazoid111 2 months ago
@Pentazoid111
"Thats the excuse that kids are going to tease other kids if a boy dresses up like a girl? Thats isn't a good reason to deter your child from not dressing up like a girl."
"Who says YOU'RE the judge of this? It's MY child, so i judge what reasons are good or bad based on our unique situation.
Just because my kid wants to do something doesn't mean I should let him do it. There's a reason we don't let people do certain thing until a certain age.
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@UHeardMe1stTime "Who says YOU'RE the judge of this? It's MY child, " Who are you to judge what dress of clothing is best appropriate for your child? Parents aren't aways the best people to make these judgements just like the parent you criticized for feeding her kid too much sugar or your aunt who instead of taking their kid to a doctor to heal their sick child, prayed about it instead. Parents in many instances don't know what is best for their kid. Kids aren't your property
Pentazoid111 2 months ago
@Pentazoid111
"Who are you to judge what dress of clothing is best appropriate for your child?"
You've got to be kidding. I'm the parent, that's who. nuff said.
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@UHeardMe1stTimeAgain, if we were to go by that line of logic, then you determined what is appropriate for what your child can eat too even if you fe