Dan Savage on Long Distance Relationships

[TracyDomenica]

There seem to be a couple of crazy women in the audience whose laugh is very distinguishable.

[MarkusHomer]

1:28 - I think you have to tell you partner the truth. With the first lie you make, everything will go downhill.

[TheKristen1985]

this is bullshit advice. basically he's telling you that it's impossible to be monogomous in a long distance relationship. just because you're a gay animal dan, who can't control yourself sexually, doesn't mean that everyone is!

[Sardonicious]

@TheKristen1985 Wow, way to take butthurt to homophobic levels.

[cbarrett34]

gays always find the need to tell you their gay

[BadMannerKorea]

I don't agree with some of his statements regarding getting your "needs met" or not answering questions. Not telling the truth is still deception, and implying that the other partner is doing the same thing is simply erroneous. There are good people out there, and what he's saying is completely contradictory to having an honest and successful relationship.

Keep in mind, this guy doesn't isn't a marriage counselor, he's not a psychologist, he's a writer and majored in history.

[T3CH33]

Currently in a long distance relationship and he's right, treat it is an open relationship, with trust and understanding and it works

[bluebanshee3]

Thanks for sharing those retainer moments. :) :)

[Tightey88]

I've been with my fella 4years, 3 of which are long distance...will be back home with him in a few weeks :) x

[NemonicLee]

3 people are in a long distance relationship - and aren't liking it.

[StoneSentinel]

lol @ the retainers

[theREALshafan]

@dolan008

god hates fags, in other words.

[theREALshafan]

@dolan008

It's when people like you equate homosexuality - a form of love and sexual orientation which causes no harm whatsoever - with crime that the true face of a perverted cult like yours (Christianity) is revealed.

If there is a choice in being gay, then why not choose it to prove a point? Go and find a guy who'll let you blow him, and then if you enjoy it, you'll know you can "choose" to be gay.

Assuming that it's a choice, it doesn't matter: homosexuality is a victimless crime

[theREALshafan]

@dolan008

it is a form of love - if your view of love necessitates procreation then you really do have a perverted view of the world. successful offspring require love, but love does not necessitate procreation. I'm sure you've seen many successful marriages with no children.

The only thing that is a dead end street is someone who is gay trying to force themselves otherwise - that leads to self hatred for them, and heartbreak for their hterosexual spouse.

[csakil]

@dolan008 Fine Dolan let them "sin" in peace then why does it bother you so much? They're not asking you to "sin" like they are.

[dolan008]

@csakil .........Yea, "OK" then I was just haveing FUN with THEM!! I mean who really cares? I know I don't the least bit!! It's their world and they can do with it what they please!! So, whats the BIG DEAL!!

[csakil]

@dolan008 I agree with you 100% on this one- Live and let live, that's the beauty of living in a free world. As you said, no big deal.

[dolan008]

@csakil I was just on your channel, COOL STUFF with the Videos!!

[Stormybabe17]

The Tech Savvy At Risk Youth need to fix this video

[xadam2dudex]

sound is bummed up not in time with the video

[JBLuv78]

I want Invisalign now!

[TrueSoreThumb]

Major Desynchronization in this one. :o

[bunnyJumpsuit]

I"ve done the LD thing, and honestly, it lasted three years when it would've lasted 3 months. It was easy to stay madly in love when the other person was mostly a fantasy and I only saw him 2x/year because that was all I could afford to travel. His friends tried to tell me but I wouldn't listen - I would have learned he was pretty much a commitment phobic jerk sooner, but then - suppose I was too, and the LD thing worked.  Until it didn't. Like Dan said.

[rougeclair]

I'm in a long distance relationship built on trust and fidelity. We're students, so we don't have much money, but we do go visit eachother every holiday we have. It's working out. This fall we're both moving to England so  we can study together. He lives in Spain, I live in Norway.

We met online, and actually the 3-4 months we talked before we met we didn't kiss or make out with others or anything.

Now I trust him completely, and I have no reason not to.

It IS possible, maybe rare, but possible.

[DFWDan]

@rougeclair unicorns are possible. Unassisted human flight is possible. It never happens but it is theoretically possible though.

[sinomino]

@rougeclair but it sux.

[rougeclair]

@sinomino well, now we're happily married, so it was definitely worth it! :)

[sinomino]

@rougeclair well i'm glad to hear that =] congratz!

[MarkusHomer]

@rougeclair: My GF lives in the same country, but it's still 4 hours to go with the train. And it is not so much about the distance, it is about her going to university. Before she was going, we talked very often over phone, etc. and it worked out great. I still love her and I am not thinking about breaking up, but I barely hear from here ant that kinda makes me feel lonly.