I'm the complete opposite, I hate food. When I was young I would never eat and now I barely consume more than 500 calories yet I am not rail thin. Imy food obsession is anything with chocolate or chicken and that didn't have grease I also love spicy things and potatoes. Yet I am still 13, 5'2" and 140 lbs strange huh?
Thank you so very much for this video... im considering having surgery and im happy to hear a real true story as apposed to the sunshine and rainbow responce. Im addicted to food it helps me cope with sadness and happieness and this is a video i really need to see and hear it from bc i know that the thought and obsession will not just go away on its own it will take time....but i liked hearing it from someone else bc i like hearing that its something that can be done..
Awesome video! This is Me to a T! Everything you said about the obsession and the morning the loss of your relationship with food. I used to gorge on spaghetti but I no longer eat it bc it's so unsatisfying. After surgery I realized alot of foods I loved were not loved for taste but bc they gave me the perfect stuffed to the gills feeling that made me feel comforted. I don't get pain when I over eat but I feel terrible like I instantly have the flu.
Wow spooky, you could be talking about me! Thanks VERY much for this vid, I am three weeks post op and am going, and will go through all this. Been very emotional this week and this vid really helped. xxx
I have found really 'food for thought' (lol) by this video of you.You seem like a wonderful person. I have a food obsession and I made plans on improving my life and health.I also relate to all you said. Like the portions and emotional eating.
I know that this is not a fast process, but I am happy with this new change. I do not feel bloated anymore and I have more energy.
Thank you for sharing your own experiences. It helps to know that I am not alone. :-)
Thanx for this video. I am having a very hard time with this problem. This is my second week on a diet that is very low on carbs but I get a lot of protein. It has been horrible, I feel as if I had been doing it for years. The cravings mixed with feelings and emotions are killing me. I do not know what to do to stick with it. Every now and then I feel like quitting but I do not want to go back to my old habits. Would you please give me the recipe of your proteing shake? I want to try that
thanx for shareing your thoughts on this matter!,I found food to be a comfort,and it made me gain weight that made me feel safe from unwanted advances of childhood abuse!,and this was delt with threw a lot of help from agood team of people that knew how to deal with this problum!..I love your videos :-) thank you! again!
Thanks for all the info you share in your videos. I've almost have watched all of them trying to get ready for surgery. my surgery is in 3 days on mon august 24,2009. i feel comforted be watching and seeing that you could do and so can I. So keep making videos!
Thanks so much for posting this. I'm scheduled for my surgery in October and have been really scared about this. I most definitely have food addiction - especially to sugar. Thanks for talking about this!
The hardest part about morning food is holidays and social gatherings I think. Other than that, it didnt actually bother me.
The key is really eating slow...taking a good few minutes between bites if you have to and chewing the hell out of what youre eating or its not going to go through and hurt and result in visiting the bathroom. Thats the hardest thing I have had to deal with I think.
The not thinking about food anymore does go away...I never used to either but I do again now.
Chinese food was my big thing too...and I cant even stand the smell of it anymore, it makes me nauseous.
I dont dump I dont think, and I dont know if thats a good thing or bad because I could end up potentially messing up. I dont think I will, but I coud knowing I dont dump. I havent pushed it far far but I had a snapple appple today over about an hour or so and thats 56g of sugar or more than that.
Thanks Taunia! Appreciate your openness and your honesty about it all. You are very informative which helps me feel more "in the know" of things to possibly anticipate. I'm still doing all my pre-op stuff at this point in time. I'm about one medical test away from being done too! :)
Thanks very much for making this video. Something that I have been very concerned about is the period "after the honeymoon". I'm glad to hear that the tool still helps significantly. I wasn't getting that. I'm doing such a bad job pre-surgery that I was getting concerned about the tool "quitting" on me... I really appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share.
have i told you latley I LOVE YOU. Love your honesty always Taunia! Yup, yup, yup...i get it! I'm a fat girl living in a skinny body. Head games...We have to learn to love ourselfs. Smart girl-you get it=which equals SUCCESS
GREAT GREAT video! Yeah, I read cookbooks and still think about how I wish I could eat more of what I just ordered. I don't crave the artery clogging stuff anymore but I do enjoy sampling a bite of this or that. I had my appetite back early on though. When I do have the food I am obsession over it's just not what it used to be.
I'm glad I'm not the only one with a lot of videos to catch up on. I haven't made any lately either. I need to get on that.
Great topic. I so can relate. Being a little over 4 months post-op, I still find myself going to the market and still over buying for my family. When ordering take out for them, I still over order. I'm working on controlling my addiction with food going to a psychological support group.
What a great video for pre-ops! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and know that you are NOT alone! I think you are right that we all have to deal with these issues and it's harder for some but we all have to deal with it at some time.
You get a standing ovation for this video! It's so true! I get frustrated and concerned when I hear people up to 9 mo. out who are so excited because the surgery made them not want food anymore. It won't last! It'll come back with a vengeance. Awareness needs to be spread so kudos for being awesome and sharing. I'm mourning the loss of food now. I feel like I'll never get to do holidays again. I agree with the film protein shake thing, too. Gross. Try BariCare. It's fairly tasty and no film!
thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with all of this and trying to figure it out. Total food addiction and now it is a mourning for food...
As a pre-op, let me thank you for putting this out in the open. I've heard the stories about not even thinking about food, but I think about it so much now that I don't really see how that's possible. My life revolves around food. At work, at school, at home... Kids to feed, fiance to feed, guests to feed... Thanks for being brave enough to admit that you still struggle with it. Once I'm post-op, I'm sure it will help to know I'm not alone.
It definitely *is* comforting to know that other people struggle with it too. There's a comfort in numbers, but also in discussing it and talking it out. But believe me, if *I* can get a handle on it post-surgery, ANYONE can. Best wishes!
There is definitely a grieving process you go through after surgery. I have Lapband and mourned the loss of bread in my life. (How embarassing is that to admit? )People that don't go through it, don't always understand it. You really put it into words so well. Great video.. hope Rob feels better. ~Jenn
Have you eaten it yet? I had a weak moment in the beginning and ordered it, and it made me SICK. It was the one thing that I "dumped" on, and now I pretty much hate it. I now eat healthier versions of asian food, and that is much more satisfying than the old fried ones I use to love. :)
ok so i guess i will never get rid of that-i have a hard time with wating slow, i have shovled for 25 years-wow! so you litteraly cant eat it or you CAN-can you eat it only to vomit it up later? or you want it and you jsut cant eat it because of the restriction?
Oh no! I NEVER purposely vomit food up....yikes. What happens with me is this: if I eat something that my tummy disagrees with or if I eat a little too much, there's pain....and a lot of it. Very uncomfortable. I still struggle with eating slowly and sometimes it's very easy to overeat by a few bites....and food will sometimes get "stuck" in the opening....which ends up coming back up. For me, my body reacts to pain by vomiting - so I have to be very, very careful when eating.
i didnt mean as in purging i just litteraly meant CAN you fit lots of pizza down in there and then you get sick-is your pouch able to streach out - but i guess NO because you just said if you DO eat too much, you get sick-ok so its just like for me now but not as little food as ME right now-ya know what i mean? oh boy- too much! LOL! love ya (((HUGS)))
u CAN stretch ur pouch . yes u get sick but dont think that will keep u on track cus i watched two people stretch their pouch n get fat again . just wanted to share that with u MJteller
It's still a struggle especially the further you are out from surgery. I wasn't one of those who had to remind themselves to eat after surgery. It may have been
When I am eating something I really like I find that I wish I could eat more of it at times.
What's amazing is that before I put up this video, I thought that maybe I was one of only a few people who struggled with that. There's comfort in knowing that it's something a lot of us deal with, so I'm glad we're all talking about it. Thanks for posting, Allison!
I'm sorry if I phrased my thoughts in a way that upset or offended you. It was my very sincere intention to express concern and at the same time join the conversation regarding food addiction. In my profession, food addiction is not a diagnosis in the DSM-IV, however Binge Eating disorder is. I would never presume to diagnose you or others I am not treating. I stand by my suggestion that those with eating behaviors/thoughts that cause distress might be helped or supported with therapy.
I think there's a better way to join a conversation regarding food addiction than to make assumptions about someone (which if you review your comments, is exactly what you did after a 9 min video if we're being honest). I'm happy to have open dialogue, but my defensive reaction was to your assumption of what my previous mental health history may have been. Regardless, I accept your apology and welcome healthy, truthful dialogue about the topic.
Wow. First of all, I totally relate to everything you said. Secondly, how dare someone diagnose you when I don't recall you asking for anyone's opinion! I think you are an amazing woman and appreciate you always being so open and honest with us. And for ALWAYS having such CLASS!!!
Thank you! :) She apologized later, and I think her intentions *were* good....I just don't like when people make assumptions...especially with something as delicate as mental health care. Thank you for your support!
As a person familiar with the treatment of eating disorders, I'm struck with how closely you meet criteria for Binge Eating Disorder. I'm frankly surprised the psych eval you had pre-surgery didn't pick up on it, Perhaps a course of meds and therapy would have addressed this for you and others contemplating surgery who might be better off seeking treatment for an eating disorder. I recommend you find a therapist to help you deal with the feelings your surgery didn't address. Best of health.
While I appreciate your "concern", I have to be honest: I hesitate taking advice from someone who decides I meet criteria from a less than 9 minute video, and also decided that they know my history (or assumed of lack-thereof) with therapy and/or any other mental health course. Frankly, why bother ending a comment with encouragement if your real intention is just to make assumptions and cause controversy? I'll stick with the medical professionals who know my history, thanks.
This is a very useful topic and one that should be discussed more. It's takes a lot of guts to admit eating large amounts of food to cope. Kudos to you!!!
My food obssession concerns me as a pre-op. I know the surgery will reduce the amount I am physically able to eat. I worry how I will cope without my "drug" of choice...thanks for speaking out on this important subject.
well if you get the surgery you're going to lose a lot of weight fast! so that food obsession craving will hit me but then I think about the weight I've lost and its definitely worth it (not being able to eat like a pig)
I think that's good in theory, and realistically, we *shouldn't* want to ruin all of the weight loss and work, but when you have obsessive/compulsive behaviors, it's not always as easy as thinking it's "not worth it." For me, the physical limitations are the only thing stopping me. I get pain if I overeat, and/or I get sick from eating too fast or too much. I'm thankful that tool is in place, because I don't know that I'd otherwise be able to say, "it's not worth it" on my own. Thanks!
The other thing to consider is that you may have food intolerances (dumping). I don't personally deal with that, but I know lots of folks who do, and that keeps them from bad behavioral choices as well. I think the first 6 months are such an adjustment to everything, it gives you some time to cope with the loss and learn new behaviors. For me, I'm not sure that the "want" will ever go away, but I feel MUCH stronger battling it now. Best wishes to you!
There are LOTS of warnings about transfer addiction pre-surgery, and when you're pre-surgery (at least for me), it's kind of a difficult topic to grasp. Now, post-surgery, I totally get it and see how easily my pre-surgery behaviors could be transferred onto something else. It's always a struggle, but at least it's a struggle with 170 lbs less weight to carry around as well. :)
Buffets are not a good thing. In this country, we are conditioned to eat gigantic portions and the good old buffet is the crowning achievement. I've done one small Italian buffet since surgery and did just fine but in my mind, it's playing with fire. It would be so easy to overdo it.
It's easy to over-do it, but not in the same way it used to be. Over-doing it now means massive pain for me. A buffet is not a fun place for me anymore, and while it seems like there would be temptation, there isn't. Really, just a sense of loss when I'm there...it's the obsession/want for that destructive behavior that I struggle with...not really the food itself. But I can see your point/..especially for someone who can intake more than I can.
Nope, you're not the only one. I'm only out 3 weeks from surgery, and while I'm not hungry right now or want to eat, I know about obsessions. When I was one week post op and still on liquids, I went to a b-day party, I smelled everything. Couldn't eat it, but just wanted to smell it. I love food, I'm obsessed with it. So, you're honesty is right on sister!!! :)
Oh boy, I remember how much the SMELL of food made me crazy the first few weeks. I wanted NOTHING to do with eating food...but smelling it made me INSANE. Thanks for your support!
I am to have surgery on Thursday (it's Tuesday now)
I've started some mourning of food already. Especially COKE! I am finding that I know that I will be able to eat a lot of foods I like - LATER - and in SUCH smaller portions.
I've been watching people in restaurants and on tv, etc. Man... we eat WAY too much food in a serving. That already grosses me out. I think that's a good start for a post-surgery eating mindset.
THANKS for the honesty. I wondered about "I'm not hungry."
It's great that you recognize the portion issue already. It's kind of amazing how your view on portion changes even more post-surgery.
Now about COKE: I was a Coke JUNKIE. Nothing made me happier in the summer with a big, icy glass of it. I haven't had it at all since surgery, and decided to have a glass the other day (leftover from a BBQ we had). HORRIBLE!! It taste SO BAD to me now! Your tastes *will* change, and your body does a lot for you after surgery. :) Good luck!
IMHO, I think this is one of the BEST videos you've ever done! I was VERY informative, and I wish you could have spoken MORE about this subject. You are the first person that I have heard who had this surgery who has been SO honest, and PLEASE don't say SORRY for talking too long, YOU DID'NT!!!!
I've thought of surgery but am too scared. I decided to become a Raw Vegan, and eat healthy living food and get ALL my nutrition naturally.
What a great choice! I really hope it works out well for you. I wish I had the will power to do something like that, but I had tried everything (well, not that, but close to everything) and could never stick to it. This was really the only option for me. BUT, I always encourage everyone to do whatever they can to avoid surgery if possible. While it's great, it's obviously much better to do it naturally...so best of luck!
My tastes changed quite a bit after surgery. Things that I used to love the flavor of changed and I no longer like them. Just be aware that (for me) after 9 months out was when things started creeping back in. But as you know, the pouch will help you TONS with that. Best wishes!
5 stars for being so damn honest!! You have come so far, and it's good of you to let people know that's it's not plain sailing once the op is over and done with!
OMG OMG!!! I have been seeing a therapis for last month and I talked to her about this very thing today. WOW..we are so on the same page my friend!! exactly exactly my conversation with the therapist..which by the way is my first time ever seeing a therapist AND I'm not sure it's totally helping but at least it can't hurt. Hugs Shannon
Honey, you just described my entire life to now... and now Im waiting to get my surgery to correct this! Head hunger is my worst problem and it controls my life. Unfortunately, its also killing my back! My psych eval is this thursday the 28th then I get my surgery date.
Good luck to you in your journey! Just be aware that head hunger will come back. It will just be SO much easier to deal with post-surgery. I wish you the best!
Isn't it amazing when you look back on it? It's funny, because even thought I'm disgusted at how much food I used to eat, I still miss it sometimes. Crazy.
Great video....thanks for your honesty! I can totally relate and my worst time was when my family went to bed. This liquid diet has been a great "test" and adjustment to not being able to eat whatever. Thanks for sharing!
I thought of the liquid diet the same way. When I got through the two weeks and lost the required 15 lbs, I knew I could do the rest of it. Best wishes to you in your journey!
Taunia: You are so articulate. I am nearly 6 months out from RNY gastric bypass. I am a food addict for sure, a grazer who used to eat all day. Being honest first and foremost with myself is my key for staying with the feelings behind why I used food as a drug, a mind-altering substance. The pouch keeps me in line and if i go over the line, it rebels. The sick and painful fullness is so not worth it. Thank you!
I agree with you on this! I too, mourned food. (I'm 8 months out) I used to like to eat Big Macs, large fries, and apple or cherry pies. Now, I could have 2 bites of my husbands Big Mac, and maybe a couple fries...but then I would be stuffed. Also, I might feel a little "icky". I feel much better if I avoid that stuff and eat healthy foods. I just sometimes miss sitting down and eating giant plates of food. It was comfortingGoing to a buffet is a waste of money now, and I used to love buffets!!!
I can't eat fast food at all anymore. I don't have any food intolerances that make me dump, but oh god...I feel BAD if I eat any of that stuff. That's why I'm thankful for the surgery. It *forces* you to not eat that stuff and make better choices. But yeah, I miss my old friend the quarter pounder with cheese!
What a great video!! I totally understand the food obsession thing. I am 300+ pounds & I know it's because of food addiction & obsession and binge eating!
P.S. I am pretty sure I have the exact same shirt you're wearing. I wore it in the first video I made on YT. Obviousy, mine is a much bigger size. LOL :-)
i could so eat alot of food to .. and in secret as well.... ya i was definatly getting my money worth when going to a buffet
i still eat chinese food but i eat it with chop sticks so i eat slower but i have gotten so used to eating with chop sticks i can eat pretty fast with them :) but i know now that i don't want to
Food only makes me vomit if I've eaten way too fast or way too much. It doesn't happen all that much anymore because when it happens once, you're in NO rush to have it happen again.
It was very interesting to hear your thoughts and experiences about food addiction/obsession - thanks for sharing. You are right, it isn't sunshine and roses afterward!
I'm the complete opposite, I hate food. When I was young I would never eat and now I barely consume more than 500 calories yet I am not rail thin. Imy food obsession is anything with chocolate or chicken and that didn't have grease I also love spicy things and potatoes. Yet I am still 13, 5'2" and 140 lbs strange huh?
kitcatcatty 1 week ago
i really would like to talk to u in private
lexigreg 7 months ago
why is there diet coke?
if u wanna have a coke then just buy a coke already! diet coke wont do u any better than a regular coke
tERtasdf 1 year ago
YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL! WOW! Okay, have a nice day.
DrLightyearsWoes 1 year ago
Thank you so very much for this video... im considering having surgery and im happy to hear a real true story as apposed to the sunshine and rainbow responce. Im addicted to food it helps me cope with sadness and happieness and this is a video i really need to see and hear it from bc i know that the thought and obsession will not just go away on its own it will take time....but i liked hearing it from someone else bc i like hearing that its something that can be done..
NicksGirl913 1 year ago
Awesome video! This is Me to a T! Everything you said about the obsession and the morning the loss of your relationship with food. I used to gorge on spaghetti but I no longer eat it bc it's so unsatisfying. After surgery I realized alot of foods I loved were not loved for taste but bc they gave me the perfect stuffed to the gills feeling that made me feel comforted. I don't get pain when I over eat but I feel terrible like I instantly have the flu.
jkduffin 1 year ago
Wow spooky, you could be talking about me! Thanks VERY much for this vid, I am three weeks post op and am going, and will go through all this. Been very emotional this week and this vid really helped. xxx
MsSamlap 2 years ago
Your lovely to watch! Can relate extensively.
DeanArrlack 2 years ago
you really hit the nail on the head here. Now that I look back as well, it amazes me how much I use to eat. But it is something so hard to control.
artofbrowneyedgirl 2 years ago
Hi there Diva!
I have found really 'food for thought' (lol) by this video of you.You seem like a wonderful person. I have a food obsession and I made plans on improving my life and health.I also relate to all you said. Like the portions and emotional eating.
I know that this is not a fast process, but I am happy with this new change. I do not feel bloated anymore and I have more energy.
Thank you for sharing your own experiences. It helps to know that I am not alone. :-)
Best Wishes!
Elle
xxMusicFairyxx 2 years ago
Thanx for this video. I am having a very hard time with this problem. This is my second week on a diet that is very low on carbs but I get a lot of protein. It has been horrible, I feel as if I had been doing it for years. The cravings mixed with feelings and emotions are killing me. I do not know what to do to stick with it. Every now and then I feel like quitting but I do not want to go back to my old habits. Would you please give me the recipe of your proteing shake? I want to try that
delvamar 2 years ago
thanx for shareing your thoughts on this matter!,I found food to be a comfort,and it made me gain weight that made me feel safe from unwanted advances of childhood abuse!,and this was delt with threw a lot of help from agood team of people that knew how to deal with this problum!..I love your videos :-) thank you! again!
1956floflo 2 years ago
Thanks for all the info you share in your videos. I've almost have watched all of them trying to get ready for surgery. my surgery is in 3 days on mon august 24,2009. i feel comforted be watching and seeing that you could do and so can I. So keep making videos!
hellokitty7696 2 years ago
Thanks so much for posting this. I'm scheduled for my surgery in October and have been really scared about this. I most definitely have food addiction - especially to sugar. Thanks for talking about this!
skipngiz 2 years ago
The hardest part about morning food is holidays and social gatherings I think. Other than that, it didnt actually bother me.
The key is really eating slow...taking a good few minutes between bites if you have to and chewing the hell out of what youre eating or its not going to go through and hurt and result in visiting the bathroom. Thats the hardest thing I have had to deal with I think.
The not thinking about food anymore does go away...I never used to either but I do again now.
tiredofbeingfluffy 2 years ago
Chinese food was my big thing too...and I cant even stand the smell of it anymore, it makes me nauseous.
I dont dump I dont think, and I dont know if thats a good thing or bad because I could end up potentially messing up. I dont think I will, but I coud knowing I dont dump. I havent pushed it far far but I had a snapple appple today over about an hour or so and thats 56g of sugar or more than that.
tiredofbeingfluffy 2 years ago
Your videos are always great. I know I'm addicted to food, I'm just a little worried about the emo. changes after surgery....
lacijaebennett 2 years ago
YES DIVA RIGHT ON I WAS HOOKED ON SUGAR
jenniferhenry35 2 years ago
I can completely & totally relate to your food obsession. Thanks for putting it into words.
PinkLady818 2 years ago
Thanks Taunia! Appreciate your openness and your honesty about it all. You are very informative which helps me feel more "in the know" of things to possibly anticipate. I'm still doing all my pre-op stuff at this point in time. I'm about one medical test away from being done too! :)
WhiteAura13 2 years ago
Thanks very much for making this video. Something that I have been very concerned about is the period "after the honeymoon". I'm glad to hear that the tool still helps significantly. I wasn't getting that. I'm doing such a bad job pre-surgery that I was getting concerned about the tool "quitting" on me... I really appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share.
rseales 2 years ago
have i told you latley I LOVE YOU. Love your honesty always Taunia! Yup, yup, yup...i get it! I'm a fat girl living in a skinny body. Head games...We have to learn to love ourselfs. Smart girl-you get it=which equals SUCCESS
susy2u 2 years ago
GREAT GREAT video! Yeah, I read cookbooks and still think about how I wish I could eat more of what I just ordered. I don't crave the artery clogging stuff anymore but I do enjoy sampling a bite of this or that. I had my appetite back early on though. When I do have the food I am obsession over it's just not what it used to be.
I'm glad I'm not the only one with a lot of videos to catch up on. I haven't made any lately either. I need to get on that.
Hugs!
Donna:)
Journey2betrhealth 2 years ago
Great topic. I so can relate. Being a little over 4 months post-op, I still find myself going to the market and still over buying for my family. When ordering take out for them, I still over order. I'm working on controlling my addiction with food going to a psychological support group.
Thebodells 2 years ago
Thanks so much Taunia. I understand. Linda
AwesomeForever 2 years ago
What a great video for pre-ops! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and know that you are NOT alone! I think you are right that we all have to deal with these issues and it's harder for some but we all have to deal with it at some time.
wdsDarlin 2 years ago
You get a standing ovation for this video! It's so true! I get frustrated and concerned when I hear people up to 9 mo. out who are so excited because the surgery made them not want food anymore. It won't last! It'll come back with a vengeance. Awareness needs to be spread so kudos for being awesome and sharing. I'm mourning the loss of food now. I feel like I'll never get to do holidays again. I agree with the film protein shake thing, too. Gross. Try BariCare. It's fairly tasty and no film!
WarriorWoahMan 2 years ago
thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with all of this and trying to figure it out. Total food addiction and now it is a mourning for food...
hazeleyesz09 2 years ago
As a pre-op, let me thank you for putting this out in the open. I've heard the stories about not even thinking about food, but I think about it so much now that I don't really see how that's possible. My life revolves around food. At work, at school, at home... Kids to feed, fiance to feed, guests to feed... Thanks for being brave enough to admit that you still struggle with it. Once I'm post-op, I'm sure it will help to know I'm not alone.
eparker0015 2 years ago
It definitely *is* comforting to know that other people struggle with it too. There's a comfort in numbers, but also in discussing it and talking it out. But believe me, if *I* can get a handle on it post-surgery, ANYONE can. Best wishes!
divataunia 2 years ago
There is definitely a grieving process you go through after surgery. I have Lapband and mourned the loss of bread in my life. (How embarassing is that to admit? )People that don't go through it, don't always understand it. You really put it into words so well. Great video.. hope Rob feels better. ~Jenn
JennBand08 2 years ago
Thanks, Jenn. I'm sure you're not the only one grieving the loss of bread. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
thank you!
kkimberly2004 2 years ago
Right back atcha! Thanks for watching :)
divataunia 2 years ago
Very well put! I am pre op RNY and this helps me out a lot.
clumsybarbie 2 years ago
Great! I'm glad it's helpful...thanks for watching!
divataunia 2 years ago
Great video. I am 5 months out, and you put everything I feel into words. I shed a tear every once in a while when I think about Chinese food...
CatsCloudWatching 2 years ago
Have you eaten it yet? I had a weak moment in the beginning and ordered it, and it made me SICK. It was the one thing that I "dumped" on, and now I pretty much hate it. I now eat healthier versions of asian food, and that is much more satisfying than the old fried ones I use to love. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
ok so i guess i will never get rid of that-i have a hard time with wating slow, i have shovled for 25 years-wow! so you litteraly cant eat it or you CAN-can you eat it only to vomit it up later? or you want it and you jsut cant eat it because of the restriction?
mjteller 2 years ago
Oh no! I NEVER purposely vomit food up....yikes. What happens with me is this: if I eat something that my tummy disagrees with or if I eat a little too much, there's pain....and a lot of it. Very uncomfortable. I still struggle with eating slowly and sometimes it's very easy to overeat by a few bites....and food will sometimes get "stuck" in the opening....which ends up coming back up. For me, my body reacts to pain by vomiting - so I have to be very, very careful when eating.
divataunia 2 years ago
i didnt mean as in purging i just litteraly meant CAN you fit lots of pizza down in there and then you get sick-is your pouch able to streach out - but i guess NO because you just said if you DO eat too much, you get sick-ok so its just like for me now but not as little food as ME right now-ya know what i mean? oh boy- too much! LOL! love ya (((HUGS)))
mjteller 2 years ago
u CAN stretch ur pouch . yes u get sick but dont think that will keep u on track cus i watched two people stretch their pouch n get fat again . just wanted to share that with u MJteller
TorresNY155 2 years ago
and thank you for putting this out there to help others.
allisonpacino 2 years ago
It's still a struggle especially the further you are out from surgery. I wasn't one of those who had to remind themselves to eat after surgery. It may have been
When I am eating something I really like I find that I wish I could eat more of it at times.
allisonpacino 2 years ago
What's amazing is that before I put up this video, I thought that maybe I was one of only a few people who struggled with that. There's comfort in knowing that it's something a lot of us deal with, so I'm glad we're all talking about it. Thanks for posting, Allison!
divataunia 2 years ago
I'm sorry if I phrased my thoughts in a way that upset or offended you. It was my very sincere intention to express concern and at the same time join the conversation regarding food addiction. In my profession, food addiction is not a diagnosis in the DSM-IV, however Binge Eating disorder is. I would never presume to diagnose you or others I am not treating. I stand by my suggestion that those with eating behaviors/thoughts that cause distress might be helped or supported with therapy.
MaryAnneSP 2 years ago
I think there's a better way to join a conversation regarding food addiction than to make assumptions about someone (which if you review your comments, is exactly what you did after a 9 min video if we're being honest). I'm happy to have open dialogue, but my defensive reaction was to your assumption of what my previous mental health history may have been. Regardless, I accept your apology and welcome healthy, truthful dialogue about the topic.
divataunia 2 years ago
Thanks so much for making this - I think it's not talked about enough on here, especially from the people who are further out. Brava.
katiejuly 2 years ago
Thank you! :)
divataunia 2 years ago
Wow. First of all, I totally relate to everything you said. Secondly, how dare someone diagnose you when I don't recall you asking for anyone's opinion! I think you are an amazing woman and appreciate you always being so open and honest with us. And for ALWAYS having such CLASS!!!
charleighh34 2 years ago
Thank you! :) She apologized later, and I think her intentions *were* good....I just don't like when people make assumptions...especially with something as delicate as mental health care. Thank you for your support!
divataunia 2 years ago
As a person familiar with the treatment of eating disorders, I'm struck with how closely you meet criteria for Binge Eating Disorder. I'm frankly surprised the psych eval you had pre-surgery didn't pick up on it, Perhaps a course of meds and therapy would have addressed this for you and others contemplating surgery who might be better off seeking treatment for an eating disorder. I recommend you find a therapist to help you deal with the feelings your surgery didn't address. Best of health.
MaryAnneSP 2 years ago
While I appreciate your "concern", I have to be honest: I hesitate taking advice from someone who decides I meet criteria from a less than 9 minute video, and also decided that they know my history (or assumed of lack-thereof) with therapy and/or any other mental health course. Frankly, why bother ending a comment with encouragement if your real intention is just to make assumptions and cause controversy? I'll stick with the medical professionals who know my history, thanks.
divataunia 2 years ago
Taunia,
Are you on Facebook? i would love to add you if you are.
shanna
bellasmom16 2 years ago
I am! If you do a google search for "diva taunia on facebook," my page link will come up. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
This is a very useful topic and one that should be discussed more. It's takes a lot of guts to admit eating large amounts of food to cope. Kudos to you!!!
wildheart5 2 years ago
Thanks :) I'm just thankful that I cannot physically do that to myself anymore. Phew!
divataunia 2 years ago
My food obssession concerns me as a pre-op. I know the surgery will reduce the amount I am physically able to eat. I worry how I will cope without my "drug" of choice...thanks for speaking out on this important subject.
annieny72 2 years ago
well if you get the surgery you're going to lose a lot of weight fast! so that food obsession craving will hit me but then I think about the weight I've lost and its definitely worth it (not being able to eat like a pig)
marinebulldog0309 2 years ago
I think that's good in theory, and realistically, we *shouldn't* want to ruin all of the weight loss and work, but when you have obsessive/compulsive behaviors, it's not always as easy as thinking it's "not worth it." For me, the physical limitations are the only thing stopping me. I get pain if I overeat, and/or I get sick from eating too fast or too much. I'm thankful that tool is in place, because I don't know that I'd otherwise be able to say, "it's not worth it" on my own. Thanks!
divataunia 2 years ago
The other thing to consider is that you may have food intolerances (dumping). I don't personally deal with that, but I know lots of folks who do, and that keeps them from bad behavioral choices as well. I think the first 6 months are such an adjustment to everything, it gives you some time to cope with the loss and learn new behaviors. For me, I'm not sure that the "want" will ever go away, but I feel MUCH stronger battling it now. Best wishes to you!
divataunia 2 years ago
thank you. xo
nessamaine 2 years ago
Right back atcha! Thanks for watching :)
divataunia 2 years ago
You have such a wonderful spirit. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
gtpmax 2 years ago
Thank you for your support!
divataunia 2 years ago
This is sooo important for you to say. I didn't have WLS partially for this reason, I was worried that even the pain wouldn't stop me.
I have a friend who died of alchohol poisoning after WLS due to addiction transference.
I'm not against WLS though, I am happy for those who have had a positive experience, we all choose our own path!
halfbakedlaska 2 years ago
There are LOTS of warnings about transfer addiction pre-surgery, and when you're pre-surgery (at least for me), it's kind of a difficult topic to grasp. Now, post-surgery, I totally get it and see how easily my pre-surgery behaviors could be transferred onto something else. It's always a struggle, but at least it's a struggle with 170 lbs less weight to carry around as well. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
Buffets are not a good thing. In this country, we are conditioned to eat gigantic portions and the good old buffet is the crowning achievement. I've done one small Italian buffet since surgery and did just fine but in my mind, it's playing with fire. It would be so easy to overdo it.
inspector941 2 years ago
It's easy to over-do it, but not in the same way it used to be. Over-doing it now means massive pain for me. A buffet is not a fun place for me anymore, and while it seems like there would be temptation, there isn't. Really, just a sense of loss when I'm there...it's the obsession/want for that destructive behavior that I struggle with...not really the food itself. But I can see your point/..especially for someone who can intake more than I can.
divataunia 2 years ago
WOW that video belongs in the hall of fame Thank you for posting it!
AntoniaTakeTwo 2 years ago
Thank you! :)
divataunia 2 years ago
I missed your video's these past few weeks. I really admire your honesty!!! You are such an inspiration for me. I am on day two of preop....Yipee.
plgondeck 2 years ago
Thank you for your support, and I really do wish you the best with your own journey!
divataunia 2 years ago
Nope, you're not the only one. I'm only out 3 weeks from surgery, and while I'm not hungry right now or want to eat, I know about obsessions. When I was one week post op and still on liquids, I went to a b-day party, I smelled everything. Couldn't eat it, but just wanted to smell it. I love food, I'm obsessed with it. So, you're honesty is right on sister!!! :)
1fancynancy 2 years ago
Oh boy, I remember how much the SMELL of food made me crazy the first few weeks. I wanted NOTHING to do with eating food...but smelling it made me INSANE. Thanks for your support!
divataunia 2 years ago
THANK YOU!
I am to have surgery on Thursday (it's Tuesday now)
I've started some mourning of food already. Especially COKE! I am finding that I know that I will be able to eat a lot of foods I like - LATER - and in SUCH smaller portions.
I've been watching people in restaurants and on tv, etc. Man... we eat WAY too much food in a serving. That already grosses me out. I think that's a good start for a post-surgery eating mindset.
THANKS for the honesty. I wondered about "I'm not hungry."
changeisgood46 2 years ago
It's great that you recognize the portion issue already. It's kind of amazing how your view on portion changes even more post-surgery.
Now about COKE: I was a Coke JUNKIE. Nothing made me happier in the summer with a big, icy glass of it. I haven't had it at all since surgery, and decided to have a glass the other day (leftover from a BBQ we had). HORRIBLE!! It taste SO BAD to me now! Your tastes *will* change, and your body does a lot for you after surgery. :) Good luck!
divataunia 2 years ago
IMHO, I think this is one of the BEST videos you've ever done! I was VERY informative, and I wish you could have spoken MORE about this subject. You are the first person that I have heard who had this surgery who has been SO honest, and PLEASE don't say SORRY for talking too long, YOU DID'NT!!!!
I've thought of surgery but am too scared. I decided to become a Raw Vegan, and eat healthy living food and get ALL my nutrition naturally.
Jenny1954 2 years ago
What a great choice! I really hope it works out well for you. I wish I had the will power to do something like that, but I had tried everything (well, not that, but close to everything) and could never stick to it. This was really the only option for me. BUT, I always encourage everyone to do whatever they can to avoid surgery if possible. While it's great, it's obviously much better to do it naturally...so best of luck!
divataunia 2 years ago
i am about 8 months post op and i dont miss the large amounts of food but i love the taste of food
goodnplenty2468 2 years ago
My tastes changed quite a bit after surgery. Things that I used to love the flavor of changed and I no longer like them. Just be aware that (for me) after 9 months out was when things started creeping back in. But as you know, the pouch will help you TONS with that. Best wishes!
divataunia 2 years ago
5 stars for being so damn honest!! You have come so far, and it's good of you to let people know that's it's not plain sailing once the op is over and done with!
Love to you all xxx
LeanyB 2 years ago
Thank you for your support!
divataunia 2 years ago
OMG OMG!!! I have been seeing a therapis for last month and I talked to her about this very thing today. WOW..we are so on the same page my friend!! exactly exactly my conversation with the therapist..which by the way is my first time ever seeing a therapist AND I'm not sure it's totally helping but at least it can't hurt. Hugs Shannon
slcinoz 2 years ago
Seriously, girl? We must have been separated at birth. lol I hope the therapy is helping! I need to do some work on this too. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
totally serious..too weird!!!
slcinoz 2 years ago
Honey, you just described my entire life to now... and now Im waiting to get my surgery to correct this! Head hunger is my worst problem and it controls my life. Unfortunately, its also killing my back! My psych eval is this thursday the 28th then I get my surgery date.
huebear 2 years ago
Good luck to you in your journey! Just be aware that head hunger will come back. It will just be SO much easier to deal with post-surgery. I wish you the best!
divataunia 2 years ago
Yep I could eat that much at one time. How could I have done that??? UGG! I too want foods I should not eat.
tru2deheart 2 years ago
Isn't it amazing when you look back on it? It's funny, because even thought I'm disgusted at how much food I used to eat, I still miss it sometimes. Crazy.
divataunia 2 years ago
Great video....thanks for your honesty! I can totally relate and my worst time was when my family went to bed. This liquid diet has been a great "test" and adjustment to not being able to eat whatever. Thanks for sharing!
dawnmarie416 2 years ago
I thought of the liquid diet the same way. When I got through the two weeks and lost the required 15 lbs, I knew I could do the rest of it. Best wishes to you in your journey!
divataunia 2 years ago
Taunia: You are so articulate. I am nearly 6 months out from RNY gastric bypass. I am a food addict for sure, a grazer who used to eat all day. Being honest first and foremost with myself is my key for staying with the feelings behind why I used food as a drug, a mind-altering substance. The pouch keeps me in line and if i go over the line, it rebels. The sick and painful fullness is so not worth it. Thank you!
Teresa
teresad4peace 2 years ago
There's a comfort in knowing that others struggle with the same thing. We can fight it together! Thank you for sharing. :)
divataunia 2 years ago
I agree with you on this! I too, mourned food. (I'm 8 months out) I used to like to eat Big Macs, large fries, and apple or cherry pies. Now, I could have 2 bites of my husbands Big Mac, and maybe a couple fries...but then I would be stuffed. Also, I might feel a little "icky". I feel much better if I avoid that stuff and eat healthy foods. I just sometimes miss sitting down and eating giant plates of food. It was comfortingGoing to a buffet is a waste of money now, and I used to love buffets!!!
Tworonin234 2 years ago
I can't eat fast food at all anymore. I don't have any food intolerances that make me dump, but oh god...I feel BAD if I eat any of that stuff. That's why I'm thankful for the surgery. It *forces* you to not eat that stuff and make better choices. But yeah, I miss my old friend the quarter pounder with cheese!
divataunia 2 years ago
WOW I can relate to what your saying
thank you sososooo much for sharing
linypcos 2 years ago
Thank you for listening!
divataunia 2 years ago
Taunia, I absolutely adore you - your honesty is amazing!
Hint - don't know what you're doing with your shakes, but I like them MUCH better with water than with milk, if you're mixing with milk, try water!
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soapdoc 2 years ago
PS- please tell Rob hope he's feeling better!
soapdoc 2 years ago
I'm going to try that! I try to keep the milk becuase I need the calcium, but yuck...the film is horrible. I'll try it with water and ice - thanks!
divataunia 2 years ago
What a great video!! I totally understand the food obsession thing. I am 300+ pounds & I know it's because of food addiction & obsession and binge eating!
P.S. I am pretty sure I have the exact same shirt you're wearing. I wore it in the first video I made on YT. Obviousy, mine is a much bigger size. LOL :-)
PaulaMaeTaylor 2 years ago
I think it's either a Target or Walmart special, right? I love me some tops from either place! :)
divataunia 2 years ago
i could so eat alot of food to .. and in secret as well.... ya i was definatly getting my money worth when going to a buffet
i still eat chinese food but i eat it with chop sticks so i eat slower but i have gotten so used to eating with chop sticks i can eat pretty fast with them :) but i know now that i don't want to
hey why does food make you throw up now???
thanks for the video you inspire me
AKphoto101333 2 years ago
Food only makes me vomit if I've eaten way too fast or way too much. It doesn't happen all that much anymore because when it happens once, you're in NO rush to have it happen again.
divataunia 2 years ago
You are very honest.
The dog parade behind you is funny. :)
Wivanunu 2 years ago
HAHA...I realized that dogs were taking center stage when I watched this back. What can I say? They're superstar puppies! lol
divataunia 2 years ago
It is amazing how your whole outlook on life has changed with the weight loss. You are looking great and happy both from the wt loss and finding Rob
Serramist 2 years ago
Thanks, much appreciate :)
divataunia 2 years ago
i cant eat bc i get sick ever time i do!
SelenainSc 2 years ago
Your so great... so helpful!
AntoniaTakeTwo 2 years ago
Thank you! :)
divataunia 2 years ago
It was very interesting to hear your thoughts and experiences about food addiction/obsession - thanks for sharing. You are right, it isn't sunshine and roses afterward!
mia2292 2 years ago
Thanks for your support!
divataunia 2 years ago