lovindiZz: Our general advice to you is this... Catch yourself and pause when you start to think about how pretty and popular this girl is. Shift your focus back to what you can like about yourself and also to what you enjoy about your own life. This will make the jealousy more manageable and help you make decisions about what you'll do to enjoy your own life instead of focusing on what you imagine about her life.
k, so i am jealous of this girl that i don't really talk to but we have the same ethnicity and our parents know each other well and so i think i need to to communicate with her. by the way, we go to the same school so i see her. she is quite pretty and stuff and has A LOT of friends on Facebook. i go crazy when i see comments like "your hot" and stuff. once, a guy listed the top 5 beautiful girls on FB and she was the 2nd one! Omg, ,,,,,
@jannajhee If you have low self esteem, start to take steps to boost your confidence & treat yourself with more respect. You can do this one decision, one moment at a time. If you are with the wrong person, get clear about what that means to you. Ask yourself- "Is it wise for me to stay in this relationship?" Honor what your answer is.
eresendiz234: The first thing we urge you to do is to take a deep breath and ask yourself what you need now. You are in a big transitional time in your life with a baby on the way. Treat yourself w/ gentleness & love & make sure your needs are being met. AND be sure you are stopping and questioning your jealous thoughts before speaking or acting. Ask yourself, "Do I know this is absolutely true?" Keep doing this-- it's very powerful.
I'm so jealous and it drives me insane and its ruining my life I know my man would never hurt me and that he loves me but its getting worse since I've been pregnant I'm now 34 weeks and its stressing me out I just can't change
fairymairah: It sounds like you might have old emotional wounds from the past. Take the time to heal and make completions with the past. This will allow you to be fully present with the person you have a crush on or are with and will decrease the likelihood that you'll be triggered and jealous. Remember to breathe and take it one moment at a time.
i BARELY get jealous at all but incase it happens in the future which i'm very aware of and the one thing that bother's me in life is happening to have a crush on the kind of people that should'nt let thyself be attracted to is being or feeling unable to stop thyself from being attracted to that person and NOW i'm scared to give my heart to anyone that i WANT TO or COULD'VE becuase risking a broken heart and sometimes i wish to be talked out of it :( ! ! ! ! !
christensenlow: Yes, jealousy is frequently linked to low self esteem. It is also often linked to past painful experiences-- like having a habitually unfaithful father. If you stay clear about what is true for you-- that you are fully committed to this relationship, you own your habits that contribute to this and you stay calm (try not to get defensive) you CAN stay open. Being open might be setting boundaries when that's called for with your jealous girlfriend.
I think this is good advice but lacking in some ways. For one, I have learned that jealousy is usually caused by low self-esteem. As well, my girlfriend thinks she is justified in her jealousy.She has a warped view of love (as in love has to be so solid that even a look at another woman shows that I don't truly love her). Her view of love, which comes from growing up with father habitually unfaithful, makes her think that I have betrayed her. So being open with her is impossible. What can I do?
#6. I do not see how I can trust a person who betrayed me. It is very hard to stop thinking about it and stop expecting him to do it again. When you dependent on someone who made you suffer for years it feels like being dead.
i just wish i knew what was always on her mind. i always wanna know what my gf is doing and whats she talking about when she is out with her girl friends. Not cuz I dont trust her, cuz i do trust her. Only cuz im a curious type and i wanna know the type of women she is when im not present with her.
There is 1 way to get rid of jealousy. Get even. The woman i loved a few years back admitted to me she had done stuff with someone else, and bragged about his size and all that bullshit. I got jealous. During the next week i ended up having sex with 3 different girls. Was i jealous after that? FUCK NO. Jealous? Get even, one up the one you're jealous of. Now if it has to do with athleticism....well....keep trying. OH btw me and that girl are dating now. Jealousy, just get even.
the number 6 tip MADE ME CRIED.. coz when i remember all the ex of my girlfriend now it made me insane when i remember it .. i didn't want to remember but it automatically target my jealous .. PLEASE HELP ME GUYS WHAT TO DO.. COZ WHEN I ALSO HEARD THE EX OF MY GIRLFRIEND ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER MOST OF WHAT THEY DO I FEEL LIKE I'M DYING PAINFULLY
I grew up around infidelity. I was 3 yrs old when I was first aware of the issue and that lasted until I was about 21. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't help to stop my parent. It was ripping my family apart. I developed issues with trust as an adult and I don't know how to handle it. It has affected every serious relationship I've ever had. I'm SO sick and tired of this. Now, at almost 27, I'm fearful that my jealousy/distrust will ruin the relationship I'm in now. I don't know what to do!
im jealous still of my ex.. i dont know why, most of my other girlfriends if they talked to guys or whatever i wouldn't give a shit.. but when she did it, i was scared and nervious that she would dump me for them.. n now, where taking a brake, 3 months now but i still have jealousy.. her family and mine are both having problems, they dont like eachother also.. anyone know what the deal might be?
I always wonder what's going on and worry a lot and ask myself am I being played with and stuff wish I didn't but I'll give this a try. Don't want to loose her and yet I fear I will :(
I'm always worried about the ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend. they just had their communication back and that girl is waaay beautiful than I am.. i don't know i think im insecure or something.. i dont know. how do i deal with this?
damn i just broke up with my girl 2 days ago beacause im so fkn jealous she left for 4 hours on friday and she said she was with her sisters but i don't believe that bitch but i love her and this shit is killing me but i rather be by myself cause this jealousy i have is killing me i need help
therealgirl-you should set some boundaries. It's okay for him to have female friends but he needs to consider you too. Sounds like it is reasonable for you to ask him to let go of her. Especially when she is very flirty with him. Sounds like she has no respect for yours and your boyfriends relationship either. Just be gentle and ask him to consider your feelings about their talking so frequently.
Are there any videos out there that talk about "friendship" or "work" related jealousy? Where from time to time, these types of a**holes make snide comments or ambiguous "compliments" to make you wonder "what the hell did that mean?" only to have that gut feeling that they might be jealous? Is there any type of information out there that explains all that...or the symptoms of that? Anyone out there please pass your wisdom. Thanks in advance!
yeh I hate this feelin but I think it's nice to know there are other people feelin the same way. This vidio is a good one to go buy. I sometimes feel like two people when I'm jealouse. Like the good me is tryin to stop the bad me. I think the best advise is don't pretend your not jealouse it will cause a split in your personality (good/bad) good look people I hope this vidio helps x
what if your guy talks to his ex..but his ex flirts wih him and he doesnt. they talk alot and he told her for her to stop flirting with him? but i hate i when they talk alot in the phone and he gets mad when i message her to back off!
@therealgirljpunk , why is he still dealing with her anyway? If he has you then he needs to leave his ex alone. She's probably doing it to spite you. But he needs to respect your feelings and leave her alone. I don't deal with my ex's, out of respect for the new girl, He needs to be like that too.. How would he feel if you were to be all buddy buddy with your ex?
Im trying really hard to stop being jealous for my girlfriend because i dont want her to leave me..but i dont want jealousy to make her leave me either..i feel like crap all the time because irealize jealousy is hurting us both but i dont know how to stop it. its sucks..
My friend is giving me a golf lesson; I don't know why my ex, didn't want me to practice before or play only with him, other ex bf Tom, Mike, and my friend Anthony they were all Golf Pro and they used to always encourage me to play and practice. My ex bf he didn't want me to, he used to get jealous when I used to go to Ballet, or have guy friends. I don't know why I stop doing things that I really liked before, to make him happy, I would love for him to see me tonight so he could hyperventilate
I'm not a jealous woman, but all my boyfriends been jealous, and it made my life miserable, I sacrifice many things "not all" but I tried to compromise in my relationship. I'm so happy without my ex I could do whatever I want, before he used to get mad if I would go and play golf, it would only had to be with him, if he would find out he wouldn't talk to me. I feel so relief ever since I left him, I regret so many things that I did, tonight I'm going to the driving range to take a golf lesson
hell im not afraid of losing her to a guy my fear is that she is doing thigns behind my back and yet still staying in a relationship with me that is my ultimate fear
This has helped me a lot, and has opened my mind.... I feel like a shmuck , the way I have acted out of my fear. I know that my relationship with God also brings me love and reassurance that I am loved! Jesus works, but we also have our partners in life which we need that physical connection.
Sometimes Jelousy can help you, If you control it, When I've felt that way in the past, I was right, There was infidelty, In my relationship, You Picked up something about the person that's bothering you, So, now it's time to get rational and find a solution, Time to break off with that person. But, Observe and be patient, Make sure it's not imaginary. But it's an Instinct, That may be a Warnning.
Chances are anyone watching this has let this emotion hurt their relationship to some degree - I know I have - but is determined to rise above this weakness and rectify the damage.
To those committed to this change for the sake of your relationship, I wish you luck. I hope I'm not too late myself...
I hate that expression. It doesn't make any sense. What are these "other people" gonna do to MAKE her cheat. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. They could rape her, but it definitely would be a whole different issue.
really is cuz bearly yesterday i realize i do have a big problem with that i almost totally lost my girlfriend because i havent been able to get over something that happen 10 months ago so i really need help!
What if my partner only gets angry at me when I openly admit that I'm jealous at the moment and need reassurance? He's NOT very understanding about it, which makes it almost impossible to bring up, even if I do it calmly and apologetically....he thinks trust is a basic in a relationship, and he's right- but I feel trust is something that comes with time (we've not been together so long) and has to be earned. I just can't trust blindly.
yup trust must be earned. I'm assuming you've been burnt in the past. And by the way, helping your partner when they need reassurance is what a caring partner would do. Don't mean to overstep, but it seems a bit unless you're raging, screaming and all, it seems a bit sadistic to me that he wouldn't listen and give you the reassurance you need. It doesn't cost him anything.
Aaaaaaaah OCHUN1- thanks for replying! I was starting to get guilt feelings for trying to communicate! I have to admit there were times when I exploded, but usually AFTER I tried it thr gentle way.
this video is really great..i just hope its not too late to apply these methods to save the one i love..iv commited to getting rid of jealousy and now i have a guide to do it...im just praying its not too late...
lovindiZz: Our general advice to you is this... Catch yourself and pause when you start to think about how pretty and popular this girl is. Shift your focus back to what you can like about yourself and also to what you enjoy about your own life. This will make the jealousy more manageable and help you make decisions about what you'll do to enjoy your own life instead of focusing on what you imagine about her life.
Best Wishes,
Susie and Otto
hmpcyors97 3 weeks ago
k, so i am jealous of this girl that i don't really talk to but we have the same ethnicity and our parents know each other well and so i think i need to to communicate with her. by the way, we go to the same school so i see her. she is quite pretty and stuff and has A LOT of friends on Facebook. i go crazy when i see comments like "your hot" and stuff. once, a guy listed the top 5 beautiful girls on FB and she was the 2nd one! Omg, ,,,,,
lovindiZz 3 weeks ago
thank you :-)
WooHooBurlesque 2 months ago
I am jealous.. at a wrong place.. and at a wrong person.. at a wrong time.... hahahah :D = low self esteem!!.. and its NOT ME!!!
jannajhee 2 months ago
@jannajhee If you have low self esteem, start to take steps to boost your confidence & treat yourself with more respect. You can do this one decision, one moment at a time. If you are with the wrong person, get clear about what that means to you. Ask yourself- "Is it wise for me to stay in this relationship?" Honor what your answer is.
Best Wishes,
Susie and Otto
hmpcyors97 2 months ago
eresendiz234: The first thing we urge you to do is to take a deep breath and ask yourself what you need now. You are in a big transitional time in your life with a baby on the way. Treat yourself w/ gentleness & love & make sure your needs are being met. AND be sure you are stopping and questioning your jealous thoughts before speaking or acting. Ask yourself, "Do I know this is absolutely true?" Keep doing this-- it's very powerful.
Best Wishes, Susie and Otto
hmpcyors97 2 months ago
I'm so jealous and it drives me insane and its ruining my life I know my man would never hurt me and that he loves me but its getting worse since I've been pregnant I'm now 34 weeks and its stressing me out I just can't change
eresendiz234 2 months ago
This is the best piece of advice in all of youtube. thanks guys!
rajeshkumar1 3 months ago
fairymairah: It sounds like you might have old emotional wounds from the past. Take the time to heal and make completions with the past. This will allow you to be fully present with the person you have a crush on or are with and will decrease the likelihood that you'll be triggered and jealous. Remember to breathe and take it one moment at a time.
Best Wishes,
Susie and Otto
hmpcyors97 4 months ago
i BARELY get jealous at all but incase it happens in the future which i'm very aware of and the one thing that bother's me in life is happening to have a crush on the kind of people that should'nt let thyself be attracted to is being or feeling unable to stop thyself from being attracted to that person and NOW i'm scared to give my heart to anyone that i WANT TO or COULD'VE becuase risking a broken heart and sometimes i wish to be talked out of it :( ! ! ! ! !
fairymairah 4 months ago
christensenlow: Yes, jealousy is frequently linked to low self esteem. It is also often linked to past painful experiences-- like having a habitually unfaithful father. If you stay clear about what is true for you-- that you are fully committed to this relationship, you own your habits that contribute to this and you stay calm (try not to get defensive) you CAN stay open. Being open might be setting boundaries when that's called for with your jealous girlfriend.
Best Wishes,
Susie & Otto
hmpcyors97 4 months ago
I think this is good advice but lacking in some ways. For one, I have learned that jealousy is usually caused by low self-esteem. As well, my girlfriend thinks she is justified in her jealousy.She has a warped view of love (as in love has to be so solid that even a look at another woman shows that I don't truly love her). Her view of love, which comes from growing up with father habitually unfaithful, makes her think that I have betrayed her. So being open with her is impossible. What can I do?
christensenlow 4 months ago
Good advice I need to listen to this.
VANILLIA1000 4 months ago
#6. I do not see how I can trust a person who betrayed me. It is very hard to stop thinking about it and stop expecting him to do it again. When you dependent on someone who made you suffer for years it feels like being dead.
calida55forever 5 months ago
i just wish i knew what was always on her mind. i always wanna know what my gf is doing and whats she talking about when she is out with her girl friends. Not cuz I dont trust her, cuz i do trust her. Only cuz im a curious type and i wanna know the type of women she is when im not present with her.
eadeh 5 months ago
that's a very good video!
bright0103 6 months ago
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bright0103 6 months ago
There is 1 way to get rid of jealousy. Get even. The woman i loved a few years back admitted to me she had done stuff with someone else, and bragged about his size and all that bullshit. I got jealous. During the next week i ended up having sex with 3 different girls. Was i jealous after that? FUCK NO. Jealous? Get even, one up the one you're jealous of. Now if it has to do with athleticism....well....keep trying. OH btw me and that girl are dating now. Jealousy, just get even.
juiceboxhero12 8 months ago
the number 6 tip MADE ME CRIED.. coz when i remember all the ex of my girlfriend now it made me insane when i remember it .. i didn't want to remember but it automatically target my jealous .. PLEASE HELP ME GUYS WHAT TO DO.. COZ WHEN I ALSO HEARD THE EX OF MY GIRLFRIEND ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER MOST OF WHAT THEY DO I FEEL LIKE I'M DYING PAINFULLY
arjunpogi143 8 months ago
wat about ow to deal wit jealous older boyfriends??!! someone as advices? im desperate!
tatydial12 10 months ago
I grew up around infidelity. I was 3 yrs old when I was first aware of the issue and that lasted until I was about 21. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't help to stop my parent. It was ripping my family apart. I developed issues with trust as an adult and I don't know how to handle it. It has affected every serious relationship I've ever had. I'm SO sick and tired of this. Now, at almost 27, I'm fearful that my jealousy/distrust will ruin the relationship I'm in now. I don't know what to do!
winkapinkwoo 10 months ago
im jealous still of my ex.. i dont know why, most of my other girlfriends if they talked to guys or whatever i wouldn't give a shit.. but when she did it, i was scared and nervious that she would dump me for them.. n now, where taking a brake, 3 months now but i still have jealousy.. her family and mine are both having problems, they dont like eachother also.. anyone know what the deal might be?
Areuelvis 11 months ago
I always wonder what's going on and worry a lot and ask myself am I being played with and stuff wish I didn't but I'll give this a try. Don't want to loose her and yet I fear I will :(
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mmmonicamnvcfre104 1 year ago
I'm always worried about the ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend. they just had their communication back and that girl is waaay beautiful than I am.. i don't know i think im insecure or something.. i dont know. how do i deal with this?
wool2430 1 year ago
i agree with bleachboy,.!!!
mrCHIKINiNiAKO 1 year ago
this is precious stuff, i hope to learn from this well!
GamefreakTP 1 year ago
damn i just broke up with my girl 2 days ago beacause im so fkn jealous she left for 4 hours on friday and she said she was with her sisters but i don't believe that bitch but i love her and this shit is killing me but i rather be by myself cause this jealousy i have is killing me i need help
CHAVILOCO13 1 year ago
@CHAVILOCO13 I went through something like that too, I don't know how to help but IT SUCKS! So I definitely know what it feels like!!
Trillian 1 year ago
what if you don't know what you are thinking is true or not....then what?
Mslector 1 year ago
therealgirl-you should set some boundaries. It's okay for him to have female friends but he needs to consider you too. Sounds like it is reasonable for you to ask him to let go of her. Especially when she is very flirty with him. Sounds like she has no respect for yours and your boyfriends relationship either. Just be gentle and ask him to consider your feelings about their talking so frequently.
corysgirl06 1 year ago
Are there any videos out there that talk about "friendship" or "work" related jealousy? Where from time to time, these types of a**holes make snide comments or ambiguous "compliments" to make you wonder "what the hell did that mean?" only to have that gut feeling that they might be jealous? Is there any type of information out there that explains all that...or the symptoms of that? Anyone out there please pass your wisdom. Thanks in advance!
BPhire 1 year ago
yeh I hate this feelin but I think it's nice to know there are other people feelin the same way. This vidio is a good one to go buy. I sometimes feel like two people when I'm jealouse. Like the good me is tryin to stop the bad me. I think the best advise is don't pretend your not jealouse it will cause a split in your personality (good/bad) good look people I hope this vidio helps x
SFTSSFTS 2 years ago
what if your guy talks to his ex..but his ex flirts wih him and he doesnt. they talk alot and he told her for her to stop flirting with him? but i hate i when they talk alot in the phone and he gets mad when i message her to back off!
therealgirljpunk 2 years ago
@therealgirljpunk , why is he still dealing with her anyway? If he has you then he needs to leave his ex alone. She's probably doing it to spite you. But he needs to respect your feelings and leave her alone. I don't deal with my ex's, out of respect for the new girl, He needs to be like that too.. How would he feel if you were to be all buddy buddy with your ex?
tiana1017 2 years ago 5
i really thank rule number 6,.,.its because of my GF.,,.waaaaaa:((
jvcrucillo97 2 years ago
Im trying really hard to stop being jealous for my girlfriend because i dont want her to leave me..but i dont want jealousy to make her leave me either..i feel like crap all the time because irealize jealousy is hurting us both but i dont know how to stop it. its sucks..
ranma12345678910 2 years ago
... I know how you feel... but I hope this Video would help us alot...
Topaz1115 2 years ago
My friend is giving me a golf lesson; I don't know why my ex, didn't want me to practice before or play only with him, other ex bf Tom, Mike, and my friend Anthony they were all Golf Pro and they used to always encourage me to play and practice. My ex bf he didn't want me to, he used to get jealous when I used to go to Ballet, or have guy friends. I don't know why I stop doing things that I really liked before, to make him happy, I would love for him to see me tonight so he could hyperventilate
LeonaPreciosa 2 years ago
I'm not a jealous woman, but all my boyfriends been jealous, and it made my life miserable, I sacrifice many things "not all" but I tried to compromise in my relationship. I'm so happy without my ex I could do whatever I want, before he used to get mad if I would go and play golf, it would only had to be with him, if he would find out he wouldn't talk to me. I feel so relief ever since I left him, I regret so many things that I did, tonight I'm going to the driving range to take a golf lesson
LeonaPreciosa 2 years ago
thanks for this its great :)
princesslaporscha 2 years ago
this is an awesome tutorial-it was very helpful-thank you
stephaniejonesfields 2 years ago
hell im not afraid of losing her to a guy my fear is that she is doing thigns behind my back and yet still staying in a relationship with me that is my ultimate fear
bleachboy64 2 years ago 42
@bleachboy64 i feel ya man... any tips on how to get over that?
AreWeFamousNow 1 year ago
This has helped me a lot, and has opened my mind.... I feel like a shmuck , the way I have acted out of my fear. I know that my relationship with God also brings me love and reassurance that I am loved! Jesus works, but we also have our partners in life which we need that physical connection.
Powernlove 3 years ago
Sometimes Jelousy can help you, If you control it, When I've felt that way in the past, I was right, There was infidelty, In my relationship, You Picked up something about the person that's bothering you, So, now it's time to get rational and find a solution, Time to break off with that person. But, Observe and be patient, Make sure it's not imaginary. But it's an Instinct, That may be a Warnning.
rbx937385 3 years ago
Chances are anyone watching this has let this emotion hurt their relationship to some degree - I know I have - but is determined to rise above this weakness and rectify the damage.
To those committed to this change for the sake of your relationship, I wish you luck. I hope I'm not too late myself...
WayoftheSaiyan 3 years ago
I feel so stupid.. The video really gave me the feeling that I have done so many things wrong.
I don't have any emotional baggage.
There is no excuse for this.
I hate jealousy!
This awful jealousy makes me feel like my guts are telling me something is wrong. (which is not!)
Is it a lack of trust? I do think I can trust him 100%. Really.
I don't know, but I don't trust other people maybe...? (or am I just kidding myself and is it a lack of trust)? HELP
hhjj7 3 years ago
i feel the same way. its not that i dont trust my gf, its that I dont trust other people.
ArielAce48 3 years ago
I hate that expression. It doesn't make any sense. What are these "other people" gonna do to MAKE her cheat. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. They could rape her, but it definitely would be a whole different issue.
rmjoh992 2 years ago
are you still going throught that ??
danpanda956 2 years ago
Sometimes yes.
It is most of the time there, sometimes more than other times.
Now i am not that much like it. but next day i might be
hhjj7 2 years ago
really is cuz bearly yesterday i realize i do have a big problem with that i almost totally lost my girlfriend because i havent been able to get over something that happen 10 months ago so i really need help!
danpanda956 2 years ago
wow this video is really great!!!!!!!!!! this really open my mind!!!!!!
skakid10689 3 years ago
What if my partner only gets angry at me when I openly admit that I'm jealous at the moment and need reassurance? He's NOT very understanding about it, which makes it almost impossible to bring up, even if I do it calmly and apologetically....he thinks trust is a basic in a relationship, and he's right- but I feel trust is something that comes with time (we've not been together so long) and has to be earned. I just can't trust blindly.
Sorry for dumping! ;)
Thanks
LumierexCosmic 3 years ago
yup trust must be earned. I'm assuming you've been burnt in the past. And by the way, helping your partner when they need reassurance is what a caring partner would do. Don't mean to overstep, but it seems a bit unless you're raging, screaming and all, it seems a bit sadistic to me that he wouldn't listen and give you the reassurance you need. It doesn't cost him anything.
OCHUN1 3 years ago
Aaaaaaaah OCHUN1- thanks for replying! I was starting to get guilt feelings for trying to communicate! I have to admit there were times when I exploded, but usually AFTER I tried it thr gentle way.
We'll work it out. :)
LumierexCosmic 3 years ago
this video is really great..i just hope its not too late to apply these methods to save the one i love..iv commited to getting rid of jealousy and now i have a guide to do it...im just praying its not too late...
castro5661 3 years ago