2007 One Nation Contest Winner: Arranged

[oso23s]

this a cute video. dont give up. u will have hope as long u dream.

[bigsyvs]

This was a pretty good film! haha go for it and run away to Australia!!!

[FunnyRab]

YEAH!! Runaway like @bigsyvs ! Runaway and ignore your parents, brothers and sister. Treat your friends better than the way you treat your family. Call your mother and sisters hos and sluts but treat your hood rat girlfriend like a queen. Runaway is your new nickname. Or should it be coward?

[hotsmart08]

The concept of saying yes or no "during" the wedding is very tricky. I know a girl "H" whose mom told her she (the mother) is going to commit suicide if the girl "H" does not marry the man (M) her (H's) parents want her to marry. "H" liked someone else (T). But her love marriage to T would be haunted by curse of the mother.

So H had to say "yes" and became the mother of M's kids and is now depressed and fat.

[anumk1991]

i love the art work!!!

[tanrich80]

You are such a talented artist. I draw too. Imagine what life you can have and how much you can earn with ur talent in this country. You can help ur parents. In contrast, imagine what life you will be with an older man. If you give up ur dream, and marry the man of ur parents' choice, once you realized it is too late too change and most definitely you will be trap in an unhappy marriage. I grew up in an Islamic country, i know that it wasn't what Islam teachs. It is just a male-dominated society

[FunnyRab]

@tanrich80 Trapped? You know there is such thing as DIVORCE in Islam.

[tanrich80]

This is so unfair for Mediha Sandhu. I am doing a research paper on Islam marriages. I have read at least 8 books about it. All of these writers said that Qur'an gives women the right to choose their spouses. I encourage you not giving up in convincing ur parents that arranged marriage in Islam is up to customs and cultures. In fact, arranged marriages was established before the birth of Islam. That custom was adopted by Islam believers.

[fatima130784]

yes thats right as a convert have had to learn from scratch.where a person how is born muslim.doesnt always follow all the teaching of islam.like arraged marriage are ok but only if both side arggee other wise if it is forced it is not considered vaild in islam.some countries may mixed there tradition and culture with islam which is not always right.

[sugarstorm05]

meh.. the content wasn't that great, but I LOVED the animations and drawings! She's an amAzing artist!!

[prettydougla]

This relates to culture- especially South Asian culture. As an American Muslim this is not a part of my experience.

[mardeeno]

why

[Aditi000]

I don't understand one thing. Her parents took her out of school do meet these men right? So she sees what they look like. It's not true that a woman is not even allowed to look at her potential husband. Even in Indian weddings the bride is expected to look down because she's sad at leaving her family! It's all for show. I think the video is cute. That explains her weight gain..She's 25 she needs to grow up & live her own life.

[nka82]

this video is just one EXAGGERATION after the other. was it supposed to be funny or satirical? because it wasn't. also the narrator's voice is highly annoying.

[Hajira919697]

lol so funny, but yet so true!

[enough82]

In Islam, if you don't wanna marry someone, you have the right to reject him-that's what i did many times!

Also, arranged marriages happen not only in Muslim countries but also in the Christian countries like the US!

Cute video clip- i like it anyway.

[Dentsun4228]

So is it true that dark-skinned Pakistani guys won't marry a similarly dark-skinned Pakistani, full-figured chick? I mean, that sounds like self-hate. Are Pakistani's really that brianwashed with American/Western values?

[seynna]

yes. :) grass is always greener on the other side!

and i cant say "wont" but, they'll try their hardest not to.

[riad19]

the message here is pretty over the top. no girl is forced to look down on her wedding day. the creator of this video just needs to take a chill pill. both me and my wife come from very traditional and conservative muslim homes. but we met in college, told our parents and they happily agreed. this whole dramatization of being put into arranged marriages is really stupid.

[syphonboa]

Good for you. Her parents decide to stop her college education and fly her to Pakistan for months at a time to hunt for her husband. Its not a dramatization...

[snowrae888]

RELAX people!

It's just a girl telling the world how she feels. Freedom of speech is allowed in America! The rest of you can go back to your caves.

[thesuperuserone]

Wow. I come from Central India. Arranged marriages are nothing like what has been portrayed in this movie. Its stupid to categorize this movie as portraying asian culture. Maybe this is what happens in pakistan, where the filmmaker comes from.

NPR should do some more research before doing segments like these.

[bunnyrabbit9999]

A very biased and juvenile take on the subject. It sounded like something a 13 year old would make. Most modern South Asian arranged marriages are nothing like this. She took every stereotype she knows and projected it into this little film. I doubt her parents are the monsters she makes them out to be. They're probably worried for her future, especially when it comes to finding a life partner. This type of pseudo-rebellion is very common amongst hijabis, though. On the plus side, nice artwork.

[bizzywizzy321123]

Im surprised that this won....The creator of this video made it very biased...Muslims are allowed to disagree with the parents' choices if they choose to, besides, Islam does not force the woman or man to get married if they don't want to. Yes, I'm not gonna lie my dad married my mom and they were 11-13 years apart, but that was because they grew up in a Illiterate village in Pakistan, very biased back then. In conclusion, times have change, don't be biased when reading the Quran..

[palosoldier]

thanx, wat ur sayin is 100% correct,

sister who made this video, u ddnt do any one anyfavors by making this video

[jtheyellow]

"Biased" ... toward what? Is it wrong for someone to be biased toward what she perceives as her own best interests?

[bizzywizzy321123]

jrtheyellow

She is being biased by taking a part of the Quran and taking it out of context. If you read my last comment you would see that she took the part that the Quran says that the parents should arrange the marriage, but she took "arranged" and turned in into forced. The Quran does ALLOWS the child to disagree with the parents.

[wallidjan]

this video is about the asian culture anothing to do with Islam

[Farhani1]

MAN THIS VIDEO IS FREAKIN RETARDED! This Video is about some American Born Kashmiri Girl, that is now rebellious against her parents and she is showing her personal life problems that she will run away, who the hell cares, tell her to run away, she will be doing us all a favor.

[humrose]

This was one of my fave videos on the contest! Well done!

[Tagine1980]

sorry this is asian culture, how dare u say its islamic... dont blame islam for your screwed up asian culture

[seynna]

@Tagine1980 no where does it say its islam.

[seynna]

@Tagine1980 no one said it was islamic.

[queenofafrica078]

yeah this is about ur culture... Some muslims chose 2 put cultute over religion.. lyk ur cousin she not supposed 2 show her hair.. da hijab is supposed 2 cover..

[Hiijab]

omg so true

[aa22ayesha]

this is FORCED! NOT arranged..why does everyone find this so hard to understand??

arranged means the person can say yes or no, no choice is forced

[happykimi91]

True... In the Qur'an it says that women have the freedom to accept/decline marriages.

[handh4ever]

salam alaykum there was no point and no nbenefit in this video, it wasa waste of time, you did nt even point out that non of this culture crap has nothing to do with islam

im a convert and this video was very disappointing but has nothing to do with islam

[seynna]

its suppose to make you think. its not a documentary, its suppose to be more of a thought process of a young woman that grew up in the states. no where was it mentioned this culture/tradition stuff had to do with islam either. the point was, that muslims should realize they're not being islamic by forcing their kids to marry someone they dont want to, in turn where the kids cant even talk to their parents and the only hope they see is running away. IT HAPPENS.

[falak010]

i liked it except for the burka part. it sounded too much like what non-muslims say that the women are covered up because the men are insecure rather than because of our religion. really nice video and cool drawings though.

[seynna]

sure its a great idea to cover up cuz of religion, but unfortunately most guys are more interested in "modern" girls then try to force her into something. if they were worried about their faith, why even look at someone that isnt what you wanted?

[Imaani786]

no wonder ur not married....ur concept of a halal marriage is prison..may allah guide u inshallah.ameen.

[ZAFFness]

the art in the video is really nice..!

[butterfly2729]

This isn't to do with being a MUSLIM this is only culture... this will only confuse the non educated even more.....

[tinytaurus17]

I second a lot of what some people befor eme have said.

Note the difference between religion and culture! There are many things in your vid that totally go against Islam. Please educate yourself.

[seynna]

nowhere in the video did it say it was about islam. you only find out she's muslim at the end.

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

seynna -SAID

"nowhere in the video did it say it was about islam. you only find out she's muslim at the end."

"islam wasnt mentioned"

Well besides the TITLE

-US Muslim Film Contest: Arranged

and in the very START it says

-ARRANGED

Medidha Sandhu

Kashmiri/-SUNNI

oh and lets not forget when she mentions what type of women these men want a house wife wearing a ABAYA/BURKA 2:48

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

These arguments of

""ISLAM WASN'T MENTIONED""

Will not be bought by non muslims, let alone Muslims

You know that right?

[seynna]

well the point was its about CULTURE. and muslims practice this culture over islam.

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

yeah sure, try telling that to all the ANTI-ISLAM BIGOTS

I wouldn't be surprised if they added this to thier hate sites too

[aa22ayesha]

not all but some...islam is totally against forced marriages. Some people choose to follow culture over religion because of their pride and status within the community...it's all messed, no wonder muslims get stereo-typed as being "backward" people...we're nothing like that.

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

I agree tinytaurus17

[tinytaurus17]

Thank You ACTORnSCREENWRITER! It makes me so mad when people confuse the weaknesses of cultural practices with Islamic traditions! grrrr...

[XxReachingJannahxX]

arranged marriages are

CULTURE/CUSTOM/TRADITION

NOT RELIGION

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

btw these are some ugliest men i've seen, i'd runaway if i was her, and have a handsome light skinned, almond shaped eyes AFGHAN guy..

Im not AFGHAN, but if I was a BANGLADESHI girl forced to marry an ugly man, who probably doesn't know how to satisfy me... and i'd have to masterbate alot... I'd find a hot hunk..an CENTRAL ASIAN HUNK (^_^)

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

this is

INDIAN/

PAKI/

BANGLADESHI

CULTURE, sameness with HINDU's

please dont mention ISLAM!

[ACTORnSCREENWRITER]

arranged marriages are a PAGAN custom, but someone in wyoming is gonna see this as a ISLAMO-wacko custom

CULTURES are what ruins RELIGION... the two are very district

[seynna]

islam wasnt mentioned

[kingray99]

ya run away . but wait where would you hide in the universe Allah is everywhere.

shame on you. you gays mixing religion with culture.this what is happens in south asian culture and those people r not educated at all they just by name muslim not all of them those who did this kind of thing.

and gays instead of make people aware the true techings of islam ,you gays making fun of relgion

[MORTified]

nice drawings!!

[zarhad]

intresting video - but thats culture not religion, big diffrence...huge diffrence

[muslim4life12]

shes going against arranged marriage, thats not bad thing

[jajee4all]

sell out......................lol

[theamericanmuslimah]

You are confusing customs with religion and that is a HUGE no no! I second the comment before mine! Shame on you and shame on your parents that do not any better! Our prophet talked about this in great length saying male and female children are both welcomed, that no one should marry by force.... you should not be talking this way at all and I am truly ashame of the way you have portrayed all of us here :( May Allah give you wisdom!

[theamericanmuslimah]

This is so depressing that you talk about muslims like this... specially when being arranged is not an islamic thing but a cultural thing... specially in India...

[SuleyMrkva]

So sad that you portray muslims like this. You are portraying Southeast Asian customs and embarassing tribal rituals that are PAGAN and forbidden in ISLAM. Read the Hadith and see what the Prophet SAWS says about having male and female children, and how it is a sin to show preference!! Also look up why a woman covers herself, it has nothing to do with her husband!

Shame on you and your parents ignorance!!!!!!!!