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  • When u say u didnt have a choice do u mean for some reason u just liked males and because of u i dont think of gays like girly and i always hated gays till now

  • brett I love you! you are awesome. I found your videos from watching the shaytards and I knew you were gay before I started watching your videos. I am so glad you are so happy and true to yourself now.

    Def one of my fav. videos of yours!

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  • Yes your story is one of many and the gay community is growing. I understand why you would think people like me are sinister and insane, I get it. I think nowadays and especially before now Homosexuals have been treated with so much hate. And that is sad. This has caused people to be afraid to say anything. And you feel trapped, and anything that opposes your views on gay marriage becomes hostile. But know this: you may think that you didn't choose to be this way. While some people really do ju

  • how is it not a choice???

  • if you didnt wanna be gay theeen why were you? it IS a choice

  • @kjg8811 because being gay isn't an action, it's a state of being. unless you're gay and you miraculously found a way to not be gay (in which case i bet thousands of suicidal boys and girls would LOVE to hear your secret) i don't think you can relate. honestly, do you think thousands of people are going through the extreme self-hatred, the bullying, the lack of acceptance, because they want to? i doubt it. i'm not trying to attack you, just trying to explain. :) #NOH8

  • brett, you are such an amazing person. thank you for sharing your story. you're a strong loving funny kind person. thank you for being you and sharing your life with us. <3

  • do you have any to say for people who is bolly for being over want

  • Oppz. i meant step,,not spet

  • I hated myself for years and thought i could change myself to be str8..My closet was a safe zone.No one knew i was gay.But me..So, i understand where u are coming from.Im out now and i never have to hide in that closet again. The 1st spet is always the hardest

  • I want to comment something. But... I'm effin speechless.

    -sob-

  • :) almost exactly what happened to me.. I just accepted it quicker, favorited, you're awesome!

  • Did you ever consider the reason why maybe you hated yourself?

  • but i still love myself!

    <3

  • so no love for meez

  • i'm glade you've accepted yourself. With me, i have accepted the fact that im bisexual, and that I like girls a lot better than guys, i've told all my friends and none of them have left or said anything about it, they accept me. But, im i haven't told my family. no one. And the reason is because my family is a serious Christian family. I've asked their veiws on gays and bis. and they have been extremely hurtful, and im already picked on in my grandmother's house about being fat and stupid.

  • Thanks. :)

  • thanx brett. i've recently been going through the same thing and this actually really helps me out. your an amazing person. :)

  • This video is so inspiring and made me appreciate you even more. You are an awesome role model, and I think its great that you are now honest and open about how you feel. You probably don't realize how much people look up to you for support and to find happiness when they're down and depressed. Keep up the good work!

    It gets better!

  • I'm gay, and I wouldn't change it for the world. It took me a long time to come to terms with it, but when I did, things got better. Things got a lot better. 

  • Thanks so much for this video Brett!  I actually went through the same experience you did. Deep down I knew the truth, but refused to accept it. but now that I have, I've never been happier. Thank you for doing this, I think I'll be doing my own video for this as well. :D

  • I love you so much more now(:

  • i made a youtube video about gay suicide awareness and a few weeks later the amount of suicides goes up

    i knew my vid was bad but i didnt think it was that bad

    and now i sound like spam

    sigh......

  • Brett, if you were to get married or find another man would you adopt a kid or something like that?

  • I still don't know why so many people dislike or hate gays.the only difference is who they like/love plus gay people are fun to be with , even if your not. Also it must be hard for you guys to let people know, with all the religious stuff and the way your treated, you are freaking brave and awesome people, you should have more respect than you do now

  • Brett im 100% straight but i have gay friends and they act just like you. They are the coolest people. I believe gay people live there life not carrying and thats the coolest thing. Brett if we could be friends i wouldn't mind.

  • Brett you are an amazing person

  • for me it was kinda hard cuz my dad's like the biggest homophobe i know, and in Costa Rica, the gay community is stil very very small and ppl still see us gays like weirdos, so you see, coming out was hard.

    i came out to myself when i was like 15, and i tried to change it, same as you, try to have a straight life.... it was HORRIBLE, until i was able to say FUCK IT I'M GAY FUCK EVERYONE WHO DOESN'T LIKE IT i'm me, respect me and i'll live my life as i want!

  • You r more of a real man for knowing who your are and coming to terms with it, and we love you more for it..

  • It was nice to hear this from you, Brett. I went through some very similar stuff. Just nice to know I'm not the only one who went through it.

  • i went through some very emo years for some very different reasons, but i know all about beating the shit out of myself on a daily basis. it's almost scary how friends can change things for you.. I'm more the vocal type with the bullying though. I have a ridiculously self-detrimental sense of humor but over the past few years (thanks to some very, very good friends) i have become so much better of a person...

    in a purely plutonic way - i love you man. for this, for being who you are. keep it up

  • This was awesome, Brett.

  • ur amazing 

  • I don't understand homophobia. It scares me how much we hate differences. I'm happy you're happy with yourself Brett, and I hope all gays or lesbians or bisexuals etc can be happy with themselves too.

  • BTI = The Man

  • I saved this to my favorites because you are my favorite person.

    Oh, and it was the 5 stages of Grief you were talking about. (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance)

  • I think that it is so amazing that you can be such a good strong role model to those who are gay.

  • Your story is just like mine, no one knew when i was growing up but me and I was my own bully that hated myself, and even now sometimes im still my own bully kinda still hoping it gets better. Great video Brett thanks.

  • you are an amazing person brett :)

  • im glad youre happy where you are now brett. keep it real

  • you rock.

  • i don't really understand why being gay is such a big deal. why do people bully other people just for being gay? it is just who they are. why do people have to say "oh, they're gay" as an identity. i hear people do that at my school and i'm just thinking, it's not a big deal.

  • Yeah, we really are our own bullies... WE hate ourselves so much and we don't let up. And sometimes it does take others to show it's ok to love yourself, not matter what you are.

  • thanks for your honesty Brett. It was great hearing this side of you. I want to share this with all my friends to show them how their actions can affect people. You rock.

  • This video is inspirational, i'm not gay, but i'm definately going to apply this mindset in my life.

  • Wow Brett, you really grew today in my eyes. I love looking up to you!

  • thank you for sharing. you are an awesome person Brett. i am glad you are out. just by sharing your story you could halp others who are struggling. thank you for putting yourself out there and for being brave. i admire you a lot!!

  • You, sir, have some imposing eyebrows. You and Mr. Source are my favorite gays ever.

  • I just heard about a kid in my city that killed himself two days ago. He claimed not be gay, but ended his life because he was teased about being gay. Whether or not he actually was or not, it's all ridiculous. It's 2010 people... Kids are cruel because their parents taught him that. We need to grow up.

  • i realy didnt know he was gay i though the was always joking around

  • wow brett, this is amazing. love you.

  • This video is amazing. I think growing up gay there are a lot of obstacles we have to face but accepting ourself is the hardest thing.

    Thanks for your honesty.

  • anyone who hates someone for being gay are shallow minded assholes, my thing is gay is a choice but who cares what you do in the bedroom, all that matters is that your a good person, to hate some one for something like this is so stupid grow the fuck up people except people for who they are its their choice to do what they want and they same as you

  • are you still dating that cute asian dude?

  • I feel like a shit for posting this, I wrote it out of curiosity before watching the video. It feels so unserious and what you just said was deep and amazing. Therefore, I apologize.

  • I want to make a "it gets better" video but my life got worse after high school... not for being gay though. I got bullied every day AND hated myself.

  • oh my gosh!

    this video was amazing!

    inspiring, emotional, and brought all of us closer to you

    i respect you so much brett for sharing this with us, and you know that we all love you <3

    you have helped me believe that you can climb over any hurdle, no matter how big, and will always come better off on the other side.

    thank you so much brett, i have so much admiration for you.

    i hope you get everything you want from life :) xxx

  • I don't really know what to say... I mean, this is just the way I feel, but I have two reasons for not coming out. For one, I'm thinking why should they care? In what way does it matter to anybody if I'm gay or not? And the other reason is, I'm not 100% sure I really want to live my entire life as a gay man, I'm more bi-sexual i think... Ah, well..... Just Some random thoughts :) Great video and cool story, i'll probably end up the same way in a few years, I'm just not ready yet :)

  • Thank you so much Brett,

    My big brother just came out, you've helped me understand him, and why he didn't tell anyone sooner.

    Really, thank you.

  • <3 love it , Thank you for sharing :) ,It means more then you'll ever know :) <3

  • fag! nah jk. i fucking love you.

  • Thank you, Brett. I can't think of anything more important than these "It Gets Better" videos. They are important for all of us struggling human beings, gay or straight. Really, thank you for contributing yours.

  • ....I just want to hug you right now. And you made me cry dammit. T_T

  • <3, straight up <3 ^_^

  • Your a fuckin amazing guy Brett, and Id be lying if said you were not the biggest inspiration for me right now. The only difference between your story and mine is that high school sucked even though I was in the closet. And to this day Im my own worst bully for it. Even more so cause Ive realized that a long time ago, yet just continue on gay, and in the closet. If I only had your strength Brett. :)

    But Im not suicidal! Just my own worst enemy.

  • I know theres like a million other comments that say the same thing but this is truly inspiring. its nice to hear the whole story from you. your an amazing person and people like me, and all these others love watching your videos. you have like the best personality ever! i guess i just wanted to say that this has inspired me to be more true to myself and not care about what other people say!

    were all here to support you! because your a really good person!

  • i agree with you. I'm a slightly overweight teenage girl and if i was just another skinny teenage girl, i probably would be boring like 1/2 the teenage girls.

    jpmetz said this in one of her videos, but if your even a TINY bit "bigger" than the average teenage girl, you have to have a good personality for people to like you. unlike all those skinny bitches who are just popular because they have perfect bodies

    and i definitely bully myself about my weight WAY more than other people

  • nojoke, this made mah day.

    <3

  • Brett this is very inspiring for some people...many people will be moved by ur story..im proud of you never change...and remember poeple you are ur own bully most of the time..

  • I really admire you <3

  • Good for you brett

  • im glad your not a saltine cracker, even though i do enjoy eating them :)

    favorited this.

  • Dam brett your a down to earth guy.. Touching story an well said.. Im straight but it still drives me nuts when people bully others cus ther differant... Wher all human an we need to start acting like it.. Its 2010 dam it

  • Brett, just remember that you've got all of us as friends. We all love you because of who you are. Gay or no, you are an amazingly funny guy and I love to watch you joke around and just be an all around goof. Thank you for being YOU! You shouldn't change for anyone. *wants to hug you now* LOL <3s!! The Game.

  • :D I admire you.

  • Brett, out of all the "It Gets Better" videos I've seen yours is the first I've seen that didn't talk about growing up effeminate or being victimized by others. I never went through any of that either, I was lucky, and I think it's great to see it all from another perspective. The most important thing for someone to accept themself for who they are. You can be your own worst enemy sometimes. You are offically my favorite Youtuber, thanks :)

  • this video is so needed. I hope it gets a million views!

    thank you for such a heartfelt and articulate vlog, this is what youtube's about.

    you're lovely!!!

  • Brett, I hope your message reaches those who need to hear it most !!!! you are an amazing person and what people need to understand is No matter what anyone"s sexuality is that' s not what determines if you are a good or bad person in life.

  • I've never really had anyone to look up to but I think you just became that person. Thank you. -hug-

  • Awh brett ur so cute!:)

  • aww!!!! brett thank you so much i love you so much more now xoxoxo

  • Brett you opened my eyes so much.. This really helped me.. Thank you.. <3

  • Brett Everything you say is so true...I had to go through the same thing...I did the whole denile and tryed to change it and everything...I was so depressed when I was in the "closet" I didn't like living in a lie...I knew every one would exsept me no matter what...but I just kept myself from like coming out....and so one night I was all like "when was being ME bad?"...and now since I came out to some one life has just been amazeing...I'm glad that I came out...and so ya...

  • Thanks Brett, this is exactly what I'm going through right now, it really helped.

  • I kinda started to cry watching this.

    It's so true that we're always our own biggest bully. Whether it be being gay, or almost anything else. We're hardest on ourselves, and often times we live in our own minds and trap ourselves there.

    And so often what we suppress is such a big part of who we are that we can't even begin to fathom who we really are until we accept this part of ourselves.

    Thanks for sharing your story.

    <3

  • Thanks for sharing your story bud. I feel that a lot of times, the internal struggle is a lot more difficult that the actual outcome. All the scenarios your imagination can come up with are more than likely worse than the actual outcome. I think videos like this can help people get the courage and will power to take a chance and that that step into their real lives. You are awesome.

  • Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance, and Education. Looks like you're at the last step.

  • well I know a thing or two about being bullied trust me on that one and brett I am glad you never got bullied.

    I am honestly happy and glad to see you accepting who you are and not being afraid of what people say, you can become an internet sensation and real life inspiration for Homosexuals around the world, I just hope they can find your videos.

    You are gay, and are not afraid of admitting it anymore, to me that makes you number 1 in my books. more to say but out of letters LOL

  • i ♥ you brett.. im kinda going thru a similar situation, where i beat myself up and stuff. and this definitely helped

  • This is by far the best vlog you've ever done! I was in the same boat as you, and you're 100% right. It Gets Better!

  • You're so amazing for telling this story. If you don't this already you are so inspirational!

  • You da man

  • Thank you, so much.

  • brett, i love you so much. i hope this video will help someone out there, and help them to accept themselves, so that other people's opinion doesn't matter to them. people shouldn't be afraid to be themselves, and i feel terrible that others make them feel like they should be ashamed.

    i'm so proud that you told your story, and i'm glad you are open and happy. =)

  • Brett, as a popular high school student and athlete, were you ever a bully?

    The preppy jock turned out to be homo

  • i am so in love with you, brett! i'm so glad you decided to speak about this.

  • damn I thought you and Cecile had something going on there bret

  • wear purple october 10th to support those 7 recent deaths of those boys who took their lives.

  • wow, you really made me cry when you said "you might not be ready now but when you are, life is waiting for you" - i'm a straight woman but i often feel like i'm hiding from the world for some reason and i hope so much that life will be waiting there for me once i'm ready for it ... <3 you, Brett, you're such an inspiration!

  • I cried so much. I'm in the closet, still. I know no one I know would hate me for it, but it's still hard to think about coming out. It's still hard to accept myself.

    Thanks for understanding, Brett. You're my hero. <3 I know it's going to get better.

  • You are such an inspiration Brett. Thank you so much for being you. <3

  • I've been sitting here . . . tossing and turning in my head. All these videos really have me thinking, especially yours.

    Thanks for posting Brett.

  • that was incredibly heartfelt, honest, and raw! i've had friends bullied, i've seen the desperation, and i've said "it gets better" time and time again but I can't say that with full authority because I can't promise that it does. You're living proof, so thank you!!

  • awwww brett! :( no one deserves to live alone everyone deserves someone!

  • I just wanted to say I am very proud to be your friend. You are an amazing person and you truly inspire people constantly in different ways. This meant a lot to Stevo and I and I just wanted to say thanks for making this video and just being you.

  • <3 you!

  • 2 people mistook the thumbs down button for the thumbs up one.

  • Its nice to bring forth the other point of view of personal bullying. This is honestly the best "It Gets Better" video I've seen, and honestly the best BrettTheiPhone video. Thanks for sharing.

  • brett we all love u and your youtube family will never bully you

    faggot ! :P jokes

  • Brett you made my day

  • i got really emotional... u will help so many that watch this video...i think ur an amazing person n that being ur true self

    much love Brett

  • Great vid to have as your 69th :D okay sorry. *serious face* I nearly cried because it was such a deep vid

  • Bretttttttt <333333333 Awwwwwwwww your so greattt

  • "The biggest bully of all was me."

    fuck fuck fuck ouch that one hit me deep.

    I feel like I've been trying to come to that conclusion for a long time now but wasn't quite there. Ugh, I just feel utterly self-destructive or afraid of being happy or I dunno what.

  • aww Brett, i love you <33

  • omg much respect...love you Brett well said...

  • This is awesome Brett! I know my friend is gay but she won't admit it to anyone so I'm going to show her this video so she might be persueded

  • Im not gay either but the 2 people who disliked this obviously dont like themselves verymuch

  • I'm not gay but this almost made me cry, I'm glad you have come to terms with who you are because we all love who you are :)

  • All I have to say, is that I love you. :]

  • I'm not gay but u can chose it's your life nobody else's plus u rock

  • @IRyanHarrodI Not a choice!

  • You know what brett? I've not watched a video on youtube before and sat there for at least five minutes before thinking to myself. Yours did that. Talking so frank and open about your experience drew me back to how hard I found it to tell my friends, family, and colleagues I am gay.

    I agree wholeheartedly with you. Being gay is not a choice and that after coming out, life truly gets better!

    Thank you for sharing it with us.

  • RAWR EATTT EATT DA CAMERRAAA IL OOVOEEEE ITT

  • amazing honesty . thank you.

  • Thank you Brett for this educational video! I am gay, too. And It also took me a while to accept it. I am very grateful to have supporting friends, who are very open-minded. A lot of people don't have some one to lean on for support. It's a sad reality.

    But, I am favorite this video, cause you gave me even more reason to love you. lol.

    I thank you for this video.

    -Chris

  • @patnchrisnmary *I am going to Favorite this video*

  • bretts the straightest gay guy ive ever seen.

  • This is amazing, Brett. :)

  • i prefer u dont wear glasses

  • this is a great video. very inspirational

  • Your amazing.

  • brett i love your videos ,

    and i dont think anyone should get hated on for being gay ,

    i have tons of friends who are gay ,

    and i say ' wow thats gay '

    but i dont mean it in a bad way saying gays are bad ,

    gay has pretty much 2 different meanings.

    i have a gay friend who says thats gay .

    but i think its awesome you told everyone your gay ,

    i really dont understand why people have anything against people who like there own gender . its not something you choose , and theres nothing wrong w/ it

  • That was amazing and really inspirational, Brett. Gawsh. Just when I thought I couldn't love you anymore than I already do. ;) <3

  • y would u dislike this?

  • if ur not a 'mother fucking cracker' then ur definitely a jammy dodger (british biscuit) :P but seriously, i really admire this vid, and am happy that you are now happier and more accepting within and of yourself. XX

  • @Noobiie69 i hope you realize your going to get alot of shit for that comment ,

    being gay isnt something you can choose ,

    you mean to tell me people who are gay chose to be gay , they chose to be hatted on everyday , and get discriminated .. i dont think so .

    and untill your mind is the mind of someone who is gay ,

    you cant say its a choice.

  • @Noobiie69 I find your comment very disappointing. Your comment "if u wouldn't have thought about it when u were younger u would be straight" is bullshit! Being gay is not a choice and you obviously cannot comprehend the emotional trauma that comes with the experience of coming out. I think you should take your bigoted opinions elsewhere!

  • @Noobiie69 that is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard, you are who you are just like I've known my little brother was gay since he was 5 even before he did but he tried to cover it up by dating girls too till we told him we knew and we didn't care he didn't have to hide it.

  • wow, I never knew you were gay, I just thought you were really open to the gay community, with going to the gay bar.

  • Awwwww that was so touching... But I'm so glad you have a better life now =]

    I love you Brett <3

  • Thanks brett... I needed this..

  • Thanks Brett, your awesome.

  • I'm glad you learned to accept it. I wish more people would. My dad is gay....and for some reason he's still married to my mom. I don't know if him being gay and him being angry had anything to do with it....but he's was incredibly mentally abusive threw my childhood...and I can't help but resent him. I couldn't be more confused why after all the shot he's done AND be gay....why my mom won't leave him.

  • lol wife, kids, and a picket fence

  • high school was the worst for me, i got bullied by my weight and i would come home to a mother who could really care less about me or if there is food in the house. it only matters that her boyfriend is happy. like i've been saying for the last 5 years...there is always money for beer and tequila, but food must be overrated since it's never in this house (sob story, sorry)

  • This has to be the best video i have seen because i totally respond to it. But i've known since i was 10 and i have lived 6 years of lying to myself and going out with girls and just making myself upset. When i soon came out and became proud of who i am, i loved a guy who was straight and it hurt me because it wasn't anything to do with my personality but due to my sexuality. He's still there for me though and thats better than nothing. Thanks bret, i really did need that :')

  • I don't drink/smoke/do drugs/hurt myself, and I never have. I'm hoping to be something in the future... but I don't want my parents to think less of me if I tell them. What do I do?

  • Brett... I'm touched. I can really relate to that story, in the sense that I am the only person who knows I'm gay and I don't like the fact that I'm gay. I'm still in the closet, but through middle school and junior high, I had been diagnosed with both clinical depression and bipolar disorder. And I haven't even come out to my anti-gay parents. I don't want to know what they're going to say if I tell them. I don't want to even think about how I'll feel, or what I'll do.

  • aw the ending wasn't as good as usual.. :(

  • You're great Brett, I felt the same way. Not to the extreme that I was contemplating suicide but if somebody had handed me a pill to turn me straight I'd have jumped at the offer.

    It took getting a boyfriend that I love and realising that I wanted to tell everybody about this amazing guy to finally make me come out to people.

    I'm preparing myself for telling my parents before Christmas, and no matter what they think I know that I'm happy because I've got somebody who loves me for who I am.

  • I love you Brett

  • WTF??????????? YOUR GAY!!!???

  • @longer757 I'm so tierd of that question. Are you trolling to get everyone their attention, or are you new to his channel? (In the last case, excuus my 'anger')

    He told everyone several times he is gay....

    Great video Brett!

  • brett my baby i'm proud of you. you are the sweetest thing come here and let me kiss you

  • aaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwww

    <3

  • brett i luv u and i wanna rape u.... no homo

  • please don't do anything stupid

    you got a good talent try to develop it

    it doesn't matter that you're different, you're a good person, that's all that matter :)

  • Very touching story. I am glad you came to term with who you are. It's the only way.

  • much like you no one knew I was gay growing up. the only bully I really faced was myself. i thought something was wrong with me because I liked guys over girls. it wasn't until i turned 21 when i told my best friend about my sexuality and i saw that they still loved me that i was able to tell others. the funny thing is, no one treated me any different. they all still loved me which helped me accept and love myself. today i'm proud to say I'M GAY. coming out was the best thing I've ever one.

  • Brett, you are a hero.

  • Thank you for this I am gay to and still in the closet and 14

  • This video was like sushi. Raw. Talk about wearing your heart on your sleeve. Another of the many reasons I love YouTube. You stood on the YouTube soapbox and showed us inside your heart. I'm honored. I'm not so sure I'd have the guts to let 8539 people/subs in, like you did. Thanks for taking the risk. Peace

  • aawwweeeee (:

  • i almost cried brett! i want to give you a big hug for saying what you did. :) thank you.