hella inspiring story... glad to hear it from another filipino guy... and me being part filipino it was hard for me too to come out especially to my family...
Look at him :P seeeeeeee not all gays look like little pretty boys I couldnt even tell by looking at him :D see we're just as normal as you :P not theres anything wrong with girly gays haha
Joaquin, I know "Uomo Bello" (Handsome/Beautiful Man/Guy) that your wonderful contribution to the "Coming Out" archive here, will resonate with many struggling through this process, and hopefully with some of your "Pinoy" brothers and sisters as well! Hey "Ti Amo Bello" (I luvs Ya Handsome) for doing this! In fact "Amico Mio" Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, and now your new supportive "Gay Uncle", is very proud of you!
sadly, most filipino gays NOW in the philippines are into this illusion of BI-STRAIGHT LOOKING living..and most would pretend that they are VERY DISCREET BISEXUAL to a point of looking very stupid even if they are obviously effeminate...there seems to be an internal discrimination against gays who are effeminate.. and its like if your a gay guy and out.. its way too hard to find love...
i hope this changes as time goes by just as fashion and perception changes through time... this is the truth
ahh truly inspiring. Definitely worth taking the time out from my studying time to watch this one clip. I will continue to watch the others when I have more time. Makes my coming out story seem like nothing.. lol
@DeathrasherAndrew hilarious,an ass-pirate pointing the queer finger at those who don't agree.Get back in you're "closet" fairy boy,make your father proud for once.
I'm not gay, but I would imagine not being who you truly are is devastating, and on top of that, needing to pretend to be what you are not. Good for you! (Just please be careful in certain states and rural areas.There are sadists out there.)
oh yeah I was taunted in middle school and high school. but i learned to speak up and stand up for myself. bullies like to prey on the weak , so now I am more out spoken then ever. i guess that taunting and harrassment at school made me a better person.
It's pretty interesting, that no one was calling you gay at your private school until the transfer student David got there. I always think it is further proof that, when some guy calls another guy gay (or the slur faggot) just out of the blue, it's usually something about them (like David) that they're trying to hide or surpress. I know this first hand, because my jr. high school nemisis use to call me "faggot" and come to find out 25 years later, he was gay! Lol!! So it's true.
@MrJuly1990ish LOL! The people that really notice gay people are gay themselves...sometimes I don't even notice and another guy notice's and calls the other guy "FAGGOT" and I'm like "REALLY?" how did you notice? LOL it's as if they were looking for someone they knew they couldn't have or looking for someway to hide what they are because they can't accept themselves...SAD...lol....
dear,i loved yr v,it was very nice to watch,i came from different generation from u,i participate from the first and 2nd gay sao paulo parade in brazil,it was really risk that time,we had trouble in street and so on,i was just 21 at that time,and believe or not,virgin as a bottom,till now i'm still not open 4family,as i support them and stuff,i dont accept them to say any word about my sexuality,pity,but true.i wait 38yr of my life to realize that i'm who i'm,congrats and lucky 4u.deeply rgds
@xblackglovesx totally agree with you... Still scared to come out to my parents.. Being from a catholic family hard core Mexicans.. Some friends know but thats it...
@VicesLikeViper And that's any of your business, beeeecaaaaause??? Let me guess, You're trying to spare his race from fag's since in your's they run amok??? Why don't you focus on saving your race the laughable embarrassment from the sum that equals you and a little less on Asians. You retard!!!
@VicesLikeViper And that's any of your business, beeeecaaaaause??? Let me guess, You're trying to spare his race from fag's since in your's they run amok??? Why don't you focus on saving your race the laughable embarrassment from the sum that equals you and a little less on Asians. You retard!!!
ur story is amazing. im bi. my friends no and if someone asks about ill tell em. my parents dont know. and some of the stuff you said really inspires me to tell my family. i think they would be acccepting but im jus not sure.. but i do have a question.. did u ever feel like u wanted to tell them but you wouldnt? not jus because of wat they would say but jus cuz you didnt want them to know that about you?
ur story is amazing. im bi. my friends no and if someone asks about ill tell em. my parents dont know. and some of the stuff you said really inspires me to tell my family. i think they would be acccepting but im jus not sure.. but i do have a question.. did u ever feel like u wanted to tell them but you wouldnt? not jus because of wat they would say but jus cuz you didnt want them to know that about you?
same things happend to me when i was in grade 7 .. the whole school knew i was gay and all my cousins went there ... and they all knew i was gay ... but now all those kids don't have a education and are in jail so thats some good karma for them !! bitchies !!
you have no idea how encouraging it is to hear from another asian brotha! this really really made me feel better today. thank you thank you thank you :)
Where the hell do you get all this whittyness.. DUDE you really cathing my attention and i just came to this less than an hour ago.. Youve got me sooo overwelmed i cant stop watching.. You really understand the gay life..
i did some gay shit in kindergarten but luckly for me, i did it on the low, undercover. i didnt get caught, i was just wierd. I liked my self and i got a rush out of it and i didnt care. lol
this what you are saying is reality, thats what always happen in the movies although the movies is the movie and reality but its happens in real life.yea goood work.
Well I hope to one day find the courage, just as you have, to come out of the closet. I'm 27 and whenever I want to come out I get scared. Being a young Native American woman your suppose to be married to a man, have children and be a good house wife. Some guys I knew in school were taunted for being gay...just wish I had the courage to stand up for them at the time. Your story brought tears to my eyes...thanks for sharing and giving me hope that I'll one day find my happiness in coming out.
Go for it. Coming out can take practice, so start now. I had to learn how to come out without making a drama out of it. The best time to tell people you are gay is when they ask who you are dating etc.
I know how you felt,the taunting started for me in 7th. grade. I knew I was different at age 7 because I liked the boy who lived across the street.We even "humped" with our clothes on,and my big brother caught us..lol.
Sadly many moms are drama queens. My mom went totally DRAMA on me when she thought I was gay. She did this for 50 years. She's gone now. My stepfather used a lot of violence and threats on me. Not all families are gay friendly.....I've been there.
canoodling? you're hilarious. Kids will be kids. I totally understand. i didn't come out until i was 21. My friends were accepting and asked me why it took me so long because they had already known. lol. The worst was coming out to my mom. She's a single african american mom and accepts her SON to be strong and straight. for 3 years she called me names. Then her friend, who also has a gay son i guess let her in on a few things. now we have the best relationship ever. i appreciate your story.ty
I didn't accept being gay till I was 15 (16 now). I guess I was lucky though, because my best friend also turned out to be bi, so that was cool (we aren't together or anything) and most of my other friends didn't mind (most of them were girls, so, yay!). I'm sooo glad my friends accepted it. As for my parents, well, I think I'll wait till I move out. It's probably a little safer that way.
but only that im 'BI-curious' but still assume i like guys. like gooosh, its soo hard to tell them in the future n u knoe...you want to be accept'd n all. ughhh..T_T...but im HAPPY that im BI bcuz i dont need to DENY anymore.
OMG! i miss watching your vids^^but yeahh, like uGHHHH...i knoe my parents n like some of my siblings wont accept that i go both ways. yeahhhhh, i FINALLY got out of the closet. lol. but like, UGHHHH...it sucks bcuz i knoe my dad TOTALLY wont n NEVER will agree to it, he said it himself..T_T. long story. lol. but no one in the family knoe that i am, except my sister. she knoes,
yeahhh...parents will be in denial for a long time, but they grow to still accept you for who you are and regardless love their child they made. ya know. sooo just keep that in mind the next time youre like FUCK u mom and dad. or whatever.
lol. yesss, thats true. it will be a loong time for them to accept me and....alrighty. i'll keep that in mind. thank youuu, thank you for the advices. like omfg, i <3 youu..lol
They whole point of me exposing this minute vulnerablility ~ "because its becoming more prevalent in people" ~which doesn't exploit the real problem~ Is to say, telling people how u feel is hard, sometimes u will be ignored, some times people will dislike what your thinking, especially when it comes to mental/spirituality.. they will try to pawn ur thoughts off as bad thought to try to dismiss the problem, but reality is, telling someone not to think a certain way doesn't make thoughts go away.
(I promise this is the last post, and yes I'm very wordy, but please don't confuse it with preaching I can't preach I can only observe)I'd love to say that everyone will have someone accept them, but not EVERYBODY does, Hell even some people that have the same problems as you don't accept you. I just plea that people accept yourselves, no matter how "unnatural/wrong" someone calls you, they have no authority over your mind. We have our own bodies to control ourselves.. not for other's advantage.
My mom even though I have been diagnosed with depression~ Still denies the fact that I have depression.. I face the stigma of being normal everyday, because I "look" like ur normal everyday citizen, I speak like someone who knows what they are talking about, and for this reason people see me as "not being depressed" they undermind the depression and tell me what I'm capable of handling. (basically cause I don't wear all black withchains and 90 peircings, and black mascara/eye shadow)
I'm not even going to just type without giving an example. For 18 years I lived my life in anger, misery, and hate.. I didn't come to terms with my depression, I denied mental health professionals to help me cause I thought I could help myself. The first person I choose to tell why I was depressed was my best friend, and she didn't care too much.. finally 5yrs later i told my therapist.. I see the therapist So-so and do not take medicine AT ALL (I hate medicine)
unfortunately, people do go through that, but not everyone has to go through that. it a matter of choosing who you want to surround yourself with and how you go about it. it also has to deal with your personal mental health as well. but if youre coming out to the person you most care about, they will accept you. TRUST
I hope these words are of wisdom to someone, as being in denial is not constrained to homosexuality.
1) Everyone will not accept your condition, you should be prepared that they may or may not, or can even pretend to accept ur condition when they don't. What's more imortant is that u accept it.
2) Choose who ur gonna tell wisely, not everyone needs to know.. *No im not dissing the video, obviously if they dun wanna know they not gonna click the button*
Interesting... I read some comments my only food for thought is.. "If your gay, and ur scared of people not accepting you, what makes u think that telling them later, is going to make the more likely to accept you?".. even though ur sexuality is personal info.. I don't think waiting to tell will help any if its a person u know. If u wait longer and they do accept u, its a good thing, but then if they don't, u'll prolly be hurt worse than telling em early, when ur not so close.
getting hurt is part of the experience and it makes you a stronger person. trust. you win some and you lose some, but you'll gain so much more by experiencing the pain. TRUST
UPLOAD MORE PLS!!! Hella cracking foreal. upload more i fucking cryed cus , im 18 and .. all the shit you have been talkin about, has happen to me and im fucking 18 . but im not sure what i really am. and foo you really touched me... we from the bay and we the best.
i had something that happened to me and my best friend and it was very gay related and my mom and confronted me about it and i was still in denial but my feelings are getting stronger and i can't wait till they accept me for who i am.
Even tho I'm not a "psycho analysist with PH.D's" I can say some things about telling people about urself... First; I know it may seem cool to tell ur best friend about urself, but I think that plan always backfires.. tho most people read this prolly already have told their bestfriends. Friends that are comfortable with u tend to blab about ur secret alot less discreet or with other friends.... Also I must say once u find that first person to tell which I would recommend a semi close friend...
It becomes a whole lot easier to tell the next, cause u already have the first one who accepts u... eventually u will build it up to the point where u don't need to hide it anymore... And I think most people hide things like their sexuality cause they are afraid of being antagonized. Therapists.. are one of the most essential baby steps to coming to terms with urself. They are 1000times better than parents, friends, or co-workers.
in some cases, but not all. FAMILY will always be there to support you in whatever endeavors you might have. YOUR FRIENDS will be there no matter what. they are your friends for a reason. coworkers some times.
well first accept who you are before you can expect your family to accept you. just work on being comfortable in your own skin and youll grow more comfortable in telling your family :D
thaz mean..wat they did say t0 y0u but wat can y0u d0 i mean pe0ple at my skul are mean t0 they call me Fat im like 0 HELLZ NAW naw i just g0 up t0 them and get in there face and tell them straight up but IM Chubby l0lz but i mean fuk it dont let it get to you there stupid they d0nt kn0 shit just member thiz saying my friend t0ld it t0 me and itz true fuck what you heard.. recognize what you see .. i know you heard rumors, forget them ..[ heres the real me] " Duecez =D
.. if you were not gay id probably stalk you for a few years ;) hehe i love your lips, you are one gorgeous man!
psychedelic904 1 month ago
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I LOVE theMUSIC that plays in the beginning of theVideo . What is it called :D ?
SuperDuggiie1 1 month ago
you needed to punch some mofos... bully's are afraid of bravery >:/... Down with bullying!
SkyKingEX 1 month ago
I came out to my sister and she accepted it. I am grateful^^
MrDaniel056 2 months ago
he is cute
itsFRANCISsuckka 2 months ago
You are awesome!! Love your story <3
-Melissa (lesbianheart)
lesbianpowerforever 2 months ago
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IIIIlllllll 4 months ago
You're sooooo cute! :)
GiovanniQueen 5 months ago
(FIRST THING I WANNA SAY IM NOT GAY NOW READ THE REST)
4 parts?? wtf this is a story not ur lifes story
minecraftHATE 5 months ago
@minecraftHATE hey douche bag get a life lol im sure youre not gay ;) winks
ilikejoaquin 5 months ago 5
hella inspiring story... glad to hear it from another filipino guy... and me being part filipino it was hard for me too to come out especially to my family...
chuckpalalay 5 months ago
you are so cute.
shaaytee 6 months ago
Look at him :P seeeeeeee not all gays look like little pretty boys I couldnt even tell by looking at him :D see we're just as normal as you :P not theres anything wrong with girly gays haha
AhoyChancy 6 months ago 2
@ilikejoaquin
Ciao Bello!
Joaquin, I know "Uomo Bello" (Handsome/Beautiful Man/Guy) that your wonderful contribution to the "Coming Out" archive here, will resonate with many struggling through this process, and hopefully with some of your "Pinoy" brothers and sisters as well! Hey "Ti Amo Bello" (I luvs Ya Handsome) for doing this! In fact "Amico Mio" Bobby Griffiths' (Prayers for Bobby) old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, and now your new supportive "Gay Uncle", is very proud of you!
Blaine
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youtube.com/watch?v=MeO0N68m3UI SEE THE SRILANKAN SINHALESE WAY OF PUNSHING AND ELIMINATING FAGGOTS LIKE U
Chamath5 6 months ago
But know I am free and I love it
xXsoliderXxPR 7 months ago
I am in middel school and telling the ppl I love in my life was very hard to tell them
xXsoliderXxPR 7 months ago
i always fuckin hated middle school n high school
ccfan81 9 months ago
Fa-Fa-Fags.
exiciez 9 months ago
@exiciez takes one, to know one :)
EDUB0902 6 months ago
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1193Rob 9 months ago
sadly, most filipino gays NOW in the philippines are into this illusion of BI-STRAIGHT LOOKING living..and most would pretend that they are VERY DISCREET BISEXUAL to a point of looking very stupid even if they are obviously effeminate...there seems to be an internal discrimination against gays who are effeminate.. and its like if your a gay guy and out.. its way too hard to find love...
i hope this changes as time goes by just as fashion and perception changes through time... this is the truth
nqnav 10 months ago
your handsome aha ha
da3coons 10 months ago
OMFG i luv gay Filipino people! :D you are awesome ^^
DarkneszYTB 10 months ago
Some people enjoy the closet.
freakylocz14 10 months ago
whats with the gay music
slayyer000 11 months ago
lol ur gay
kami1928 11 months ago 3
ahh truly inspiring. Definitely worth taking the time out from my studying time to watch this one clip. I will continue to watch the others when I have more time. Makes my coming out story seem like nothing.. lol
sunyum 1 year ago
disliked.
homo.
DeathrasherAndrew 1 year ago
@DeathrasherAndrew Spoken like a true closet homo :D :D I wonder what you typed on the search box
ExpiredRamen 11 months ago 2
@DeathrasherAndrew hilarious,an ass-pirate pointing the queer finger at those who don't agree.Get back in you're "closet" fairy boy,make your father proud for once.
DeathrasherAndrew 11 months ago
@DeathrasherAndrew ROFL. Hilarious comment. made my day. and no, I'm not gay.
tkdguy92 10 months ago
You're hot, haha. Thanks for sharing your story!
ascruffyandscentlade 1 year ago
I'm not gay, but I would imagine not being who you truly are is devastating, and on top of that, needing to pretend to be what you are not. Good for you! (Just please be careful in certain states and rural areas.There are sadists out there.)
starbugster 1 year ago
oh yeah I was taunted in middle school and high school. but i learned to speak up and stand up for myself. bullies like to prey on the weak , so now I am more out spoken then ever. i guess that taunting and harrassment at school made me a better person.
AZNPinoy30 1 year ago
It's pretty interesting, that no one was calling you gay at your private school until the transfer student David got there. I always think it is further proof that, when some guy calls another guy gay (or the slur faggot) just out of the blue, it's usually something about them (like David) that they're trying to hide or surpress. I know this first hand, because my jr. high school nemisis use to call me "faggot" and come to find out 25 years later, he was gay! Lol!! So it's true.
MrJuly1990ish 1 year ago
@MrJuly1990ish LOL! The people that really notice gay people are gay themselves...sometimes I don't even notice and another guy notice's and calls the other guy "FAGGOT" and I'm like "REALLY?" how did you notice? LOL it's as if they were looking for someone they knew they couldn't have or looking for someway to hide what they are because they can't accept themselves...SAD...lol....
gaylolful 1 year ago
dear,i loved yr v,it was very nice to watch,i came from different generation from u,i participate from the first and 2nd gay sao paulo parade in brazil,it was really risk that time,we had trouble in street and so on,i was just 21 at that time,and believe or not,virgin as a bottom,till now i'm still not open 4family,as i support them and stuff,i dont accept them to say any word about my sexuality,pity,but true.i wait 38yr of my life to realize that i'm who i'm,congrats and lucky 4u.deeply rgds
lucaipiranga 1 year ago
random question...r u sitting in front of a closet!?
AfroMohawkable 1 year ago
Say what you want and feel what you feel for who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind :D -dr seuss
I am still scared to come out as lez even with the dr.s help the closet if pretty comfortable and my parents would be pissed
xblackglovesx 1 year ago
@xblackglovesx totally agree with you... Still scared to come out to my parents.. Being from a catholic family hard core Mexicans.. Some friends know but thats it...
claudia1515 1 year ago
Hurray! a Filipino =)
bonhomie888 1 year ago
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HAHA FAGGOT
tazdevil112 1 year ago
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You`r an embarrassment to you`r race, Fag!
VicesLikeViper 1 year ago
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SeekThePaleSeptember 1 year ago
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@VicesLikeViper And that's any of your business, beeeecaaaaause??? Let me guess, You're trying to spare his race from fag's since in your's they run amok??? Why don't you focus on saving your race the laughable embarrassment from the sum that equals you and a little less on Asians. You retard!!!
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@VicesLikeViper And that's any of your business, beeeecaaaaause??? Let me guess, You're trying to spare his race from fag's since in your's they run amok??? Why don't you focus on saving your race the laughable embarrassment from the sum that equals you and a little less on Asians. You retard!!!
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TheCheetahwings 1 year ago
no one should ever have to "come out" or go through this kind of thing.
congrats though :)
deathbyTB 1 year ago
You and Lady Gaga are my biggest inspriation
MrKatella 1 year ago
OMG I thought you were Hispanic but then I read when you said you came from a Filipino family xD Not that it matters though >_<"
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ur story is amazing. im bi. my friends no and if someone asks about ill tell em. my parents dont know. and some of the stuff you said really inspires me to tell my family. i think they would be acccepting but im jus not sure.. but i do have a question.. did u ever feel like u wanted to tell them but you wouldnt? not jus because of wat they would say but jus cuz you didnt want them to know that about you?
gansito911 1 year ago
ur story is amazing. im bi. my friends no and if someone asks about ill tell em. my parents dont know. and some of the stuff you said really inspires me to tell my family. i think they would be acccepting but im jus not sure.. but i do have a question.. did u ever feel like u wanted to tell them but you wouldnt? not jus because of wat they would say but jus cuz you didnt want them to know that about you?
gansito911 1 year ago
omg why did i think you were mexican...it paused at 7:07 and i dont know why
soflynumber1ooo 1 year ago
I like your videos, but the continuous background music is kinda annoying...
luken0ahfan 1 year ago
so let me get this strait......you were in a box..... and you couldnt breath without tuning a meat whistle??????
rrudolp4 1 year ago
man i cant get ovr how kute yu are haha and i loved yur story i kinda went thru the same thing
nichole8084eva 1 year ago
this made me cry T . T
jduh1 2 years ago 2
same things happend to me when i was in grade 7 .. the whole school knew i was gay and all my cousins went there ... and they all knew i was gay ... but now all those kids don't have a education and are in jail so thats some good karma for them !! bitchies !!
DPNEM 2 years ago
damn shit follows everybody...pissed me the hell off
KyoshirouNybu 2 years ago
...i feel the same
KyoshirouNybu 2 years ago
Thanks for making this. :) Really interesting.
LuwBren 2 years ago
I remember my coming out experiance.. it was a changing day in my life.The most hardest thing in my life soo.. or it was the hardest thing lol..
aaron344870 2 years ago
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quit saying gay shit
lakerfan198126 2 years ago
are you jealous? you need to come out...you closet case
aaron344870 2 years ago
you have no idea how encouraging it is to hear from another asian brotha! this really really made me feel better today. thank you thank you thank you :)
evenstephen85 2 years ago 8
awwh. your cute. hah. this is a goood video tho. (:
fabuliciousgirrl 3 years ago
joaquin, your my hero.
your such an inspiration!
iloveyou man.
I have this video on my myspace. haha.
soejammm 3 years ago
Where the hell do you get all this whittyness.. DUDE you really cathing my attention and i just came to this less than an hour ago.. Youve got me sooo overwelmed i cant stop watching.. You really understand the gay life..
Bjbradley 3 years ago
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Haters are going to hate. So don't let those haters get to you. This world will always be filled with hates.
uraine7626 3 years ago
Good work.
ccchambers 3 years ago
i did some gay shit in kindergarten but luckly for me, i did it on the low, undercover. i didnt get caught, i was just wierd. I liked my self and i got a rush out of it and i didnt care. lol
changeISinevitable 3 years ago
Kudos to you. I didn't even think of that stuff when I was in kindergarden.
arrowdon 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing your story !!! it 's inspiring :)
juanjo650 3 years ago
omg i had a bad experience with a bad white dude named David
IssuePlatter 3 years ago
Great video...and also you look exactly like my BF...so cute. He's sort of "gangster" Filipino style.
finnryan 3 years ago
this what you are saying is reality, thats what always happen in the movies although the movies is the movie and reality but its happens in real life.yea goood work.
autolinkfun33 3 years ago
Disgruntled, lol. Coming out's tough--I understand. But, most of us survive this "trauma."
I like the background melody, by the way--what is it?
loopy77 3 years ago
Well I hope to one day find the courage, just as you have, to come out of the closet. I'm 27 and whenever I want to come out I get scared. Being a young Native American woman your suppose to be married to a man, have children and be a good house wife. Some guys I knew in school were taunted for being gay...just wish I had the courage to stand up for them at the time. Your story brought tears to my eyes...thanks for sharing and giving me hope that I'll one day find my happiness in coming out.
sevenx007xseven 3 years ago
Go for it. Coming out can take practice, so start now. I had to learn how to come out without making a drama out of it. The best time to tell people you are gay is when they ask who you are dating etc.
ccchambers 3 years ago
I know how you felt,the taunting started for me in 7th. grade. I knew I was different at age 7 because I liked the boy who lived across the street.We even "humped" with our clothes on,and my big brother caught us..lol.
david2407 3 years ago
Sadly many moms are drama queens. My mom went totally DRAMA on me when she thought I was gay. She did this for 50 years. She's gone now. My stepfather used a lot of violence and threats on me. Not all families are gay friendly.....I've been there.
DouglasUrantia 3 years ago
oh wow im so sorry
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
canoodling? you're hilarious. Kids will be kids. I totally understand. i didn't come out until i was 21. My friends were accepting and asked me why it took me so long because they had already known. lol. The worst was coming out to my mom. She's a single african american mom and accepts her SON to be strong and straight. for 3 years she called me names. Then her friend, who also has a gay son i guess let her in on a few things. now we have the best relationship ever. i appreciate your story.ty
Reubnate88 3 years ago
the first part of your video made me cry. thats the way i felt all of middle school and most of high school.
agoodgirlNOT 3 years ago 3
:P mmmmm =/
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago 2
I didn't accept being gay till I was 15 (16 now). I guess I was lucky though, because my best friend also turned out to be bi, so that was cool (we aren't together or anything) and most of my other friends didn't mind (most of them were girls, so, yay!). I'm sooo glad my friends accepted it. As for my parents, well, I think I'll wait till I move out. It's probably a little safer that way.
takeyb0y2 3 years ago 9
yeahhh word! thanks for the feedback. hart you
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
thanks for telling your story like you said it was very heartfelt. also people can be real assholes sometimes.
wowzerz17 3 years ago
yeah they can. thanks for the feedback
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
but only that im 'BI-curious' but still assume i like guys. like gooosh, its soo hard to tell them in the future n u knoe...you want to be accept'd n all. ughhh..T_T...but im HAPPY that im BI bcuz i dont need to DENY anymore.
TheNerdD 3 years ago
mmm yeahh dont trip too much, life can only brng you closer to understanding who you are. so be paitent :D
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
ahhaha, yeahhhh...im tryin not to trip bout it..which i dont usualie do..lol. and, yesss, i will be patient later on the road. thank you hun^^
TheNerdD 3 years ago
OMG! i miss watching your vids^^but yeahh, like uGHHHH...i knoe my parents n like some of my siblings wont accept that i go both ways. yeahhhhh, i FINALLY got out of the closet. lol. but like, UGHHHH...it sucks bcuz i knoe my dad TOTALLY wont n NEVER will agree to it, he said it himself..T_T. long story. lol. but no one in the family knoe that i am, except my sister. she knoes,
TheNerdD 3 years ago
yeahhh...parents will be in denial for a long time, but they grow to still accept you for who you are and regardless love their child they made. ya know. sooo just keep that in mind the next time youre like FUCK u mom and dad. or whatever.
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
lol. yesss, thats true. it will be a loong time for them to accept me and....alrighty. i'll keep that in mind. thank youuu, thank you for the advices. like omfg, i <3 youu..lol
TheNerdD 3 years ago
I can't stand those who hurting gay people calling them fags and whatever. Isn't it ridiculous to hate person because of his sexual orientation?!
Great story, I like it!! :-)
imaginaryfay 3 years ago
yeah i feel ya. im glad you enjoyed :d thanks love
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
its okay beingg gay!!, cause im bisexuall! (:
dork3yy 3 years ago
haha ok!!! :)
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Dude, you are THE best. You're amazing. I basically have the same experience coming from a catholic pilipino family. Again, you are uh-mazing.
killar11 3 years ago
hart you! haha
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Ur like supper hott and smart hehe
jaigon12 3 years ago
lol wth? thanks...
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
brah your still up? whats your aim =)
takensan 3 years ago
DAMN you wrote alot.. lol
anyways..
joaquin i hella <3 listening to you talk, haha.
it feels good to relate and to feel that you're not alone when you're in the state of denial.
your videos do make a difference in people :P real talkk.
nuthting 3 years ago
They whole point of me exposing this minute vulnerablility ~ "because its becoming more prevalent in people" ~which doesn't exploit the real problem~ Is to say, telling people how u feel is hard, sometimes u will be ignored, some times people will dislike what your thinking, especially when it comes to mental/spirituality.. they will try to pawn ur thoughts off as bad thought to try to dismiss the problem, but reality is, telling someone not to think a certain way doesn't make thoughts go away.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
(I promise this is the last post, and yes I'm very wordy, but please don't confuse it with preaching I can't preach I can only observe)I'd love to say that everyone will have someone accept them, but not EVERYBODY does, Hell even some people that have the same problems as you don't accept you. I just plea that people accept yourselves, no matter how "unnatural/wrong" someone calls you, they have no authority over your mind. We have our own bodies to control ourselves.. not for other's advantage.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
i agree. if they dont accept you then you should be steppin!
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
My mom even though I have been diagnosed with depression~ Still denies the fact that I have depression.. I face the stigma of being normal everyday, because I "look" like ur normal everyday citizen, I speak like someone who knows what they are talking about, and for this reason people see me as "not being depressed" they undermind the depression and tell me what I'm capable of handling. (basically cause I don't wear all black withchains and 90 peircings, and black mascara/eye shadow)
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
I'm not even going to just type without giving an example. For 18 years I lived my life in anger, misery, and hate.. I didn't come to terms with my depression, I denied mental health professionals to help me cause I thought I could help myself. The first person I choose to tell why I was depressed was my best friend, and she didn't care too much.. finally 5yrs later i told my therapist.. I see the therapist So-so and do not take medicine AT ALL (I hate medicine)
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
unfortunately, people do go through that, but not everyone has to go through that. it a matter of choosing who you want to surround yourself with and how you go about it. it also has to deal with your personal mental health as well. but if youre coming out to the person you most care about, they will accept you. TRUST
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I hope these words are of wisdom to someone, as being in denial is not constrained to homosexuality.
1) Everyone will not accept your condition, you should be prepared that they may or may not, or can even pretend to accept ur condition when they don't. What's more imortant is that u accept it.
2) Choose who ur gonna tell wisely, not everyone needs to know.. *No im not dissing the video, obviously if they dun wanna know they not gonna click the button*
3) Getting a therapist would be good~
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
Interesting... I read some comments my only food for thought is.. "If your gay, and ur scared of people not accepting you, what makes u think that telling them later, is going to make the more likely to accept you?".. even though ur sexuality is personal info.. I don't think waiting to tell will help any if its a person u know. If u wait longer and they do accept u, its a good thing, but then if they don't, u'll prolly be hurt worse than telling em early, when ur not so close.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
getting hurt is part of the experience and it makes you a stronger person. trust. you win some and you lose some, but you'll gain so much more by experiencing the pain. TRUST
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
UPLOAD MORE PLS!!! Hella cracking foreal. upload more i fucking cryed cus , im 18 and .. all the shit you have been talkin about, has happen to me and im fucking 18 . but im not sure what i really am. and foo you really touched me... we from the bay and we the best.
takensan 3 years ago
aww haha i will =] just be patient :D haha i have 3 more. well im glad i could help :D hart u
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Joaquin: This is so awesome. Much love to you. Wow, this kinda got me a little choked up. I appreciate you........
C a l v i n
sfcalvinaz 3 years ago
:D i appreciate you too
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
you know, you're a real inspiration.
I love this series you're doing.
It's definitely opened my eyes to what some people go through. [=
can't wait for the next vid<3
cobechita 3 years ago
aww thanks :D stay tuned.
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
i had something that happened to me and my best friend and it was very gay related and my mom and confronted me about it and i was still in denial but my feelings are getting stronger and i can't wait till they accept me for who i am.
tak314 3 years ago
Even tho I'm not a "psycho analysist with PH.D's" I can say some things about telling people about urself... First; I know it may seem cool to tell ur best friend about urself, but I think that plan always backfires.. tho most people read this prolly already have told their bestfriends. Friends that are comfortable with u tend to blab about ur secret alot less discreet or with other friends.... Also I must say once u find that first person to tell which I would recommend a semi close friend...
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
for some it backfires, but for many it is a good choice!
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
It becomes a whole lot easier to tell the next, cause u already have the first one who accepts u... eventually u will build it up to the point where u don't need to hide it anymore... And I think most people hide things like their sexuality cause they are afraid of being antagonized. Therapists.. are one of the most essential baby steps to coming to terms with urself. They are 1000times better than parents, friends, or co-workers.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
in some cases, but not all. FAMILY will always be there to support you in whatever endeavors you might have. YOUR FRIENDS will be there no matter what. they are your friends for a reason. coworkers some times.
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
well first accept who you are before you can expect your family to accept you. just work on being comfortable in your own skin and youll grow more comfortable in telling your family :D
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
This is truly a great series of videos you are doing, I admire you so much for doing it :)
Jagamp 3 years ago
mzlaughz13 3 years ago
nice job!!
Babythug00 3 years ago