Some forms of lying cannot be justified. For example, When someone trips and falls I'll ask are you okay? and they might say their "okay" even if their ankle's broken.
I like your sense of getting thoughts & feelings (expressing the abstract, your 'world') out in the open....either simply for yourself, or to have a mutually respectful dialogue with someone.
I think I might get what you're saying now. If you got a partner that cheats on you, then cheating on them isn't all that bad, but I personally would say might as well break up with them...or cheating to "get back" at them and then breaking up(but i'd still lean to just telling them to "*F* off" and then get outta the relationship. Granted I don't got much (ok, seriously I don't have ANY) experience with relationships, so I'm just going by how I personally would act if I were in the situation.
My sensei who's been my mentor for most of my life has taught me three rules in life for one to function in balance with the right partner. ANd I have to say in following this formula, I have had the PERFECT relationship for 14 years so far.
1) Communication
2) Trust
3) Compromise
If you can get these three things to work(which are congruent and contingent on one another) , you can't go wrong.
Personally I wouldnt subscribe to the notion of cheating is a good thing. I think that yes, it happens for a reason, sure, but is it enough of a reason or excuse to do it? hell no. To me it's a backstab, and a pussy way of getting back at the person.
I propose that rather a communication should take place, and if that doesn't work then a seperation should follow. But cheating would upset and spoil both people. So, I completely disagree on this.
Doesn't that FUCK YOU OFF???!!! Man ,I can't stand it when some people just stand there with folded arms and just disagree without any basis of opposing theories or knowledge. Just because. It's re-tar-ded!
I had many heated arguments with my manager at work who just disagrees for no reason. I told him things I read on the Metro paper(on the tube, london) regarding faster than time travel, cloak of invisibility, etc.All these are technologies beig built right now. I had to google it for him.
If you're in a shitty relationship, then continuing the pretense that everything is fine is the telling of a continual lie. If you go ahead and cheat on your partner, isn't that then being honest? ...That the relationship doesn't work.
I mean isn't honesty being re-framed as lying when one is in a shitty situation? Isn't the answer to the question "is everything ok" a lie? Therefore deviation from the norm of a shitty situation in accordance with your true values would be honesty?
Academia and particularly Science, do not like Teleological Explanations for anything let alone Actions. I work in Mental Health and they don't ask the clients why they feel such and such a way, they simply ask what disorder they have
I know exactly what you mean. most people do not even have elaborate reasons for their beliefs, and this is because they have an unconscious bias towards an established authority, which is usually a very left brain dominant authority..it is inescapable. and they also confuse reasoning with attitude, it seems
Reason it changed my mind is, I never thought of it in the "situational" realm. I always had my mind set that lying and cheating was wrong and people shouldn't do it. But now I believe it does depend on the situation. Thanks to Aaron this video opened my mind to that thought process.
It definitely isn't a good option but hey, it is the part of you that wants better for yourself in the example that Aaron used.
I think we all have the choice of wether to hurt people or not. Be it revenge or punishment. We all create ourselves these paths in life which do effect the others who are on the receiving end, in a negative way or a fatal way. Personally, I'd hate to be responsible for somebody's suicide for getting back at them.
But that's just my choice.
Also, most of us I assume are decent and civilized enough to not do these melicious things.
Some forms of lying cannot be justified. For example, When someone trips and falls I'll ask are you okay? and they might say their "okay" even if their ankle's broken.
Emil246 1 year ago
I like your sense of getting thoughts & feelings (expressing the abstract, your 'world') out in the open....either simply for yourself, or to have a mutually respectful dialogue with someone.
wellthenif 1 year ago
I think I might get what you're saying now. If you got a partner that cheats on you, then cheating on them isn't all that bad, but I personally would say might as well break up with them...or cheating to "get back" at them and then breaking up(but i'd still lean to just telling them to "*F* off" and then get outta the relationship. Granted I don't got much (ok, seriously I don't have ANY) experience with relationships, so I'm just going by how I personally would act if I were in the situation.
stealthswimmer 2 years ago
My sensei who's been my mentor for most of my life has taught me three rules in life for one to function in balance with the right partner. ANd I have to say in following this formula, I have had the PERFECT relationship for 14 years so far.
1) Communication
2) Trust
3) Compromise
If you can get these three things to work(which are congruent and contingent on one another) , you can't go wrong.
Domzdream 2 years ago
About the cheating thing:
Personally I wouldnt subscribe to the notion of cheating is a good thing. I think that yes, it happens for a reason, sure, but is it enough of a reason or excuse to do it? hell no. To me it's a backstab, and a pussy way of getting back at the person.
I propose that rather a communication should take place, and if that doesn't work then a seperation should follow. But cheating would upset and spoil both people. So, I completely disagree on this.
Domzdream 2 years ago
Doesn't that FUCK YOU OFF???!!! Man ,I can't stand it when some people just stand there with folded arms and just disagree without any basis of opposing theories or knowledge. Just because. It's re-tar-ded!
I had many heated arguments with my manager at work who just disagrees for no reason. I told him things I read on the Metro paper(on the tube, london) regarding faster than time travel, cloak of invisibility, etc.All these are technologies beig built right now. I had to google it for him.
Domzdream 2 years ago
Guess what Aaron. I agree with you. Shocker huh? lol
UnschoolingEagle 2 years ago
Hmm your ideas are intriguing to me and I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.
MOONDOGGIESWTF 2 years ago
hi, interesting perspective, never thought about it that way.
modelmark 2 years ago
Hi Aaron,
If you're in a shitty relationship, then continuing the pretense that everything is fine is the telling of a continual lie. If you go ahead and cheat on your partner, isn't that then being honest? ...That the relationship doesn't work.
I mean isn't honesty being re-framed as lying when one is in a shitty situation? Isn't the answer to the question "is everything ok" a lie? Therefore deviation from the norm of a shitty situation in accordance with your true values would be honesty?
Individualism101 2 years ago 2
great video. It''s very refreshing to hear someone advocate living.
Robinsonero 2 years ago
Academia and particularly Science, do not like Teleological Explanations for anything let alone Actions. I work in Mental Health and they don't ask the clients why they feel such and such a way, they simply ask what disorder they have
CammieSpectrum 2 years ago
I know exactly what you mean. most people do not even have elaborate reasons for their beliefs, and this is because they have an unconscious bias towards an established authority, which is usually a very left brain dominant authority..it is inescapable. and they also confuse reasoning with attitude, it seems
CammieSpectrum 2 years ago
You just changed my whole view on the cheating and lying situation. Thanks for the insight man!
shaggyscoots 2 years ago
Er...I disagree with his advice, but whatever.
Cheating isn never a positive tool. It IS a reaction to an action, sure. But it is NOT a solution. Quite the opposite actually.
Domzdream 2 years ago
I have a very open mind when it comes to things..
Reason it changed my mind is, I never thought of it in the "situational" realm. I always had my mind set that lying and cheating was wrong and people shouldn't do it. But now I believe it does depend on the situation. Thanks to Aaron this video opened my mind to that thought process.
It definitely isn't a good option but hey, it is the part of you that wants better for yourself in the example that Aaron used.
Makes sense to me.
shaggyscoots 2 years ago
@shaggyscoots
Hmm...
I think we all have the choice of wether to hurt people or not. Be it revenge or punishment. We all create ourselves these paths in life which do effect the others who are on the receiving end, in a negative way or a fatal way. Personally, I'd hate to be responsible for somebody's suicide for getting back at them.
But that's just my choice.
Also, most of us I assume are decent and civilized enough to not do these melicious things.
I don't know man...
Domzdream 2 years ago
Oh and for the "I disagree" part. I don't think that was me this time, but sometimes I do that as a joke.
EdwardMandellHouse 2 years ago
Interesting thoughts.
EdwardMandellHouse 2 years ago
Same here. I differ on Aaron on this though. I'll go into detail later on when I feel like it. :p
Shezmu 2 years ago