Wow i am going through a rough time at the moment, this really brings it home and your message ius plain, easy to understand and to the point, Brilliantly done XXXX
If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
this was awesome! Very well done!! I will comment on the emotional abuse may / can be more painful than physical statement-- as I (a psychotherapist) believe, emotional, mental, verbal abuse is often more damaging than physical abuse.... often the external heals while the internal reamins an open wound.... (or otherwise broken)
Emotional abuse destroyes familiy bonds and relations, if the abusers continues untill you are already grown up, it will only keep on polluting your life. There is of course the fact of forgiving, yet it doesn't means that you should have more to do with them. Sometimes cutting out of the circle is the best thing to do if one wants to experience and being happy in own life.
God bless you for having a heart to helping others! May you help many! :-)
You're doing a great job. (Where were you in 1975 when I was getting bullied?) I wish we had things like this back then. Aside from the fact that there was no internet, youtube, etc., people's attitudes were on the whole, very backward. It was not a good time for me.
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The key thing with abuse is how often it happens and way it is done. Teasing can be playful but can also be malicious. Being playful with sexual undertones is not necessarily abuse, it can be part of the courtship ritual. Again it depends how it done or if its persistant, unwecome and inappropiate.
A lot of these examples can be exhibited by the abused, the abused may well blame (not blame-shift). A 3rd party may well find it difficult to tell who the real abuser is.
I married an emotional abuser. I am disabled and that shamed him. I have been diagnosed with PTDS from his abuse. Crazy, Stupid and Worthless were his favorite words. The abuse was so bad I attempted suicide. My husband left after I filed for a PFA. He took all of the money so I would not be able to pay my mortgage or health insurance or bills. I have an old car and he drives a lexus. I can not seem to get rid of his control. I am 54 & beaten down. THIS SHOULD BE A CRIME.
wow 1:43 is exactly how my dad is. I am 34 and he still tells me what to do. You can't reason with him it only makes things worse. Thats when he starts screaming at me and belittling me. If there is one thing i have learned through it all that is never to treat my kids that way.
wings7275 work on becoming financially secure, I left a abusive/toxic parents home at 34, you have a lot of life ahead of you......be strong....GOD BLESS YOU!
Thank you luvjonz. The sad thing is that i haven't lived with them since i was 18. I have never borrowed money from them, in fact i have both of their cars on my insurance and i pay the monthly bills. I went through a lot of abuse growing up, but i think the worst was the emotional. It has forever scared me. I have no self esteem or backbone. My father was abused by his mother and he defends her still. He says she was a saint.
My sister is verbally abusive to Mum and I.I am still living with her and my Mum due to a physical disability at birth. She knows she can basically act how she wants due to this because I need her in later life. She is very manipulative and very self absorbed.
to anyone who is being emotionaly abused, no matter how much you love them and think they will change, THEY WON'T EVER!! nor will they every admit or recognize that what they are doing to you, is called abuse!!! The only way to deal with abusive person is to get out, I know I tried for two years, defending myself, fighting back, and you will never win. I know now, it's time to stop allowing this monster to hurt me, make me cry, and soon kill me off and leave my kids with no mother, NOMOREABUSE!
I am a 41 year old woman, in my second marriage, that has been being severly emotionaly, and sometimes physically abused, and even though my husband has now gone to jail twice for domestic violence, it has not reached him that he only goes through what they call the cycle of abuse, today he started emotionally abusing me and it only got worse into the night, funny thing is, this video described exactly EVERYTHING he did to me, and said to me! I am packing my things and getting out. ENOUGH!!!!!!!
Dudes U dont know what goes on in Indian colleges and schools. Verbal Abuse is routine, They mentally harass the little kids and college students because of racial differences. And often it ends up in Physical abuse. Im 22 and an engineering final year student and yet I see my friends being slapped in face by professors.
This is because college professors have gangs and political contacts and they threat us on that.
my parents emotional trash me all the time. but its not their fault. my dadhas ms and a bad bavck so hes always in pain and takes it out on me, but he doesnt think straight cause of his disease so he screams at me and calls me things, he attacked me last night, it hurts, i tried to kill myself tis year because its to much, no one helps me, not even my mom because "shes not string enough yet", and shes emotionally unbalanced, and my friends are messed up i have no one and i have to put up with it
dont say its not trhere fault. they may not do it consiously but the blame cant be placed off them completely. im not even just saying this im in the same situation here so i know what im talking about
what does one do when theyre madly in love with that person? you cant just walk away, when you love them with every piece of yuour heart , even tho they emotionally hurt you :'(
btw, when it stops it's not the end, it's just the beginning of the battle in your mind, body, and soul, because you're left with those words and action etched into your heart forever until the day you die..
poem i wrote last night a break up and letting go poem its ok to cry its ok to feel like you want to die its ok to miss him with all your heart its ok to wish you were never apart its ok to dream he is hugging you its ok to pray he would love you too its ok to wish he understood your pain its ok to need him to take away this shame its ok to hope that dreams really come true its ok to pretend that his future includes you
i then imagine them all in a room together and force myself to watch the shock and sadness on their faces as i tell them all about the abuse. you HAVE TO take that horrified look on their faces and use it to help you see the reality of your situation. it's natural to hold tighter to the good times and try and play down the bad but you have to face the truth in order to find the courage to break free.
another idea that may help you break free from an abusive relationship...try and think of those people in your life who did/do love you a whole bunch. i imagine my grandma cause she was like a mother to me, the man who basically raised me for the first 5 years of my life, and my kids who are now young men who love their mom very much (i am so blessed to have them).
i have a few little sayings i wrote beside my computer, things like, you are worthy, you are Gods child and he thinks you are special, you are clean, you are smart, you are good...i have my name written in front of the sayings. even though it's hard for me to believe the things written on the little pieces of paper, i say it out loud anyways and i think it helps.
when you're in or just coming out of an abusive relationship, you feel worse than a piece of TRASH. go find a picture of yourself as a child and every time you feel like contacting your abuser cause you miss him or answering his phone calls look at that little girl/boy in the picture (the little you) and say to yourself "don't worry i'll protect you." when you're not protected as a child you don't feel worthy of protection but we have to force ourselves to believe we are.
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable! i've been abused by strangers as well as people i have loved and or trusted, and even though the stranger abuse was torture, the most agonizing was done by those i trusted
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable! i've been abused by strangers as well as people i have loved and even though the stranger abuse was torture, the most agonizing was done by those i trusted
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable!
you know you can still love your abuser and miss him/her and walk away. it's hard as hell, because sometimes it can be wonderful and they can be so fun, exciting and sweet. it's so hard letting go of the good times and all the hopes and dreams i had for the future. it's hard to escape from the, "maybe things will get better" mentality. you get trapped thinking it's your fault 'cause you hear it all the time.
I know what stellamaris333 means. It's the same for me, my abuser used to say "you can trust me", and now whenever I see those words, it's a flashback, reminding me not to trust anyone again.
ican handle a hit but not the hellof nbeing called namees beiuing dehumantized,and humiliatedd,i issuugestu leaave, try a bnd be super strong orr get high ojn pills just to deal wiith the hell of it. at least it numbs it somewhat.
are youuu kidding me emotional abuise is worrse than physical i would rathher a guy hit me than emotionally abiuse me...somme physical sc ars can heal emottional scarss neverdo.
Very informative video. It's awesome that you are trying to make a difference.
I am in the middle of making a video about emotional and psychological abuse - my adult view of my childhood. My family are "victims of victims", their parents abused them, then they abuse their kids...
I have broken the cycle tho. I do not beat my kids, emotionally abuse my kids, and I am definitely always there for my kids. My kids know, without a doubt, that I LOVE them.
Wow i am going through a rough time at the moment, this really brings it home and your message ius plain, easy to understand and to the point, Brilliantly done XXXX
MrSalamol 1 month ago
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If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
ChickenNachosPG 9 months ago
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EarthH2oLuma 11 months ago
this was awesome! Very well done!! I will comment on the emotional abuse may / can be more painful than physical statement-- as I (a psychotherapist) believe, emotional, mental, verbal abuse is often more damaging than physical abuse.... often the external heals while the internal reamins an open wound.... (or otherwise broken)
ronimommy 1 year ago
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people do and have done these things to me all my life!!!!!!!
larrykepke 1 year ago
A very nice and well informed video.
Emotional abuse destroyes familiy bonds and relations, if the abusers continues untill you are already grown up, it will only keep on polluting your life. There is of course the fact of forgiving, yet it doesn't means that you should have more to do with them. Sometimes cutting out of the circle is the best thing to do if one wants to experience and being happy in own life.
God bless you for having a heart to helping others! May you help many! :-)
SylviaPenguin 1 year ago
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nbmnkjlrwewds 1 year ago
Thanks for the video.
perfectingannie 1 year ago
emotional same as verbal?
Insaneymaney2 1 year ago
don't forget all the emotionally abused spouses/partners out there. it's not just kids.
snowwhite67 1 year ago 2
You're doing a great job. (Where were you in 1975 when I was getting bullied?) I wish we had things like this back then. Aside from the fact that there was no internet, youtube, etc., people's attitudes were on the whole, very backward. It was not a good time for me.
HeidiPusskins 1 year ago
Wow this is great. Thanks for what you do.
Samadhiatman500 1 year ago
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RUInternational 1 year ago
You have hit the nail on the head. But getting the Law to do anything or Children Services is near impossible.
Askern100 2 years ago
The key thing with abuse is how often it happens and way it is done. Teasing can be playful but can also be malicious. Being playful with sexual undertones is not necessarily abuse, it can be part of the courtship ritual. Again it depends how it done or if its persistant, unwecome and inappropiate.
A lot of these examples can be exhibited by the abused, the abused may well blame (not blame-shift). A 3rd party may well find it difficult to tell who the real abuser is.
Jeorney 2 years ago
Its ok Lurk.. I'm still here for you :-P
lWilIViolateYou 2 years ago
im abusing my ex husband and daughter and nobody stops me but i need to be stopped i need help now
lorigunsolus 2 years ago
sweetelesue -- you are so correct! thanks for the examples and not speaking in generalities!!
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago
I married an emotional abuser. I am disabled and that shamed him. I have been diagnosed with PTDS from his abuse. Crazy, Stupid and Worthless were his favorite words. The abuse was so bad I attempted suicide. My husband left after I filed for a PFA. He took all of the money so I would not be able to pay my mortgage or health insurance or bills. I have an old car and he drives a lexus. I can not seem to get rid of his control. I am 54 & beaten down. THIS SHOULD BE A CRIME.
cookiemommas 2 years ago
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pomfan07 2 years ago
wow 1:43 is exactly how my dad is. I am 34 and he still tells me what to do. You can't reason with him it only makes things worse. Thats when he starts screaming at me and belittling me. If there is one thing i have learned through it all that is never to treat my kids that way.
wings7275 2 years ago
wings7275 work on becoming financially secure, I left a abusive/toxic parents home at 34, you have a lot of life ahead of you......be strong....GOD BLESS YOU!
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago
Thank you luvjonz. The sad thing is that i haven't lived with them since i was 18. I have never borrowed money from them, in fact i have both of their cars on my insurance and i pay the monthly bills. I went through a lot of abuse growing up, but i think the worst was the emotional. It has forever scared me. I have no self esteem or backbone. My father was abused by his mother and he defends her still. He says she was a saint.
wings7275 2 years ago
aT 1:41 i went WOW! cuz damn! doesnt this sound FAMILIAR?!!!
guilt trips, selective memory, holding out on me emotion wise, teasing,blame shifting
nadiel42 2 years ago
I'm pretty sure my dad emotionally (and possibly physically) abuses me and my brother
foxwithwings13 2 years ago
thank you for this video! it was very helpful, I wish I had known this 20 years ago...........
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago
My sister is verbally abusive to Mum and I.I am still living with her and my Mum due to a physical disability at birth. She knows she can basically act how she wants due to this because I need her in later life. She is very manipulative and very self absorbed.
eljay345 2 years ago
to anyone who is being emotionaly abused, no matter how much you love them and think they will change, THEY WON'T EVER!! nor will they every admit or recognize that what they are doing to you, is called abuse!!! The only way to deal with abusive person is to get out, I know I tried for two years, defending myself, fighting back, and you will never win. I know now, it's time to stop allowing this monster to hurt me, make me cry, and soon kill me off and leave my kids with no mother, NOMOREABUSE!
bedrmeyes 2 years ago
I am a 41 year old woman, in my second marriage, that has been being severly emotionaly, and sometimes physically abused, and even though my husband has now gone to jail twice for domestic violence, it has not reached him that he only goes through what they call the cycle of abuse, today he started emotionally abusing me and it only got worse into the night, funny thing is, this video described exactly EVERYTHING he did to me, and said to me! I am packing my things and getting out. ENOUGH!!!!!!!
bedrmeyes 2 years ago
Dudes U dont know what goes on in Indian colleges and schools. Verbal Abuse is routine, They mentally harass the little kids and college students because of racial differences. And often it ends up in Physical abuse. Im 22 and an engineering final year student and yet I see my friends being slapped in face by professors.
This is because college professors have gangs and political contacts and they threat us on that.
Im Depressed to death.
Im planning to leave the college
zacinfinite 2 years ago
my parents emotional trash me all the time. but its not their fault. my dadhas ms and a bad bavck so hes always in pain and takes it out on me, but he doesnt think straight cause of his disease so he screams at me and calls me things, he attacked me last night, it hurts, i tried to kill myself tis year because its to much, no one helps me, not even my mom because "shes not string enough yet", and shes emotionally unbalanced, and my friends are messed up i have no one and i have to put up with it
blueyes6474 2 years ago
dont say its not trhere fault. they may not do it consiously but the blame cant be placed off them completely. im not even just saying this im in the same situation here so i know what im talking about
vampiredragongoddess 2 years ago
Well thank you :)
Im glad you like my videos, and im sorry that students bully you and hurt you emotionally. If you ever need to talk, im here for you.
And the song is called Still Waiting.
1stepcloser2you 2 years ago
good video..i am doing a project on emotional child abuse and this really help...thanks for the information
best wishes
rickylilia 2 years ago 2
Thank you :)
1stepcloser2you 2 years ago
what does one do when theyre madly in love with that person? you cant just walk away, when you love them with every piece of yuour heart , even tho they emotionally hurt you :'(
Luciferia2l8 3 years ago
of course you can talk to me, anytime (:
Sorry my computer crashed and i wasnt able to get back to any of you.
Ttyl (:
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
btw, when it stops it's not the end, it's just the beginning of the battle in your mind, body, and soul, because you're left with those words and action etched into your heart forever until the day you die..
BabyBright 3 years ago 4
i agree nuse. i have watched this video a lot. i'm sure that's obvious by all the comments i've left here.
BabyBright 3 years ago
Great video!
Thank you.
Nuse17 3 years ago
Your welcome (:
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
its ok to scream when you are all alone
its ok to want to hear his voice on the phone
its ok to want that phone to ring
its ok to feel every little painful thing
its ok to cry, feel, miss, wish, dream, pray, need, hope, pretend, scream, want and feel
i just wish this agony would heal
but it's NOT ok to act on this sorrow
never let him back to destroy your tomorrows
---babybright
BabyBright 3 years ago
Good poem (:
And yes from all the comments i can just imagine how many times uve watched this video (:
But if it helps, or just like it thats fine.
Hope your doing good.
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
BabyBright 3 years ago
its ok to hope that dreams really come true
its ok to pretend that his future includes you
its ok to scream when you are all alone
its ok to want to hear his voice on the phone
its ok to want that phone to ring
its ok to feel every little painful thing
its ok to cry, feel, miss, wish, dream, pray, need, hope, pretend, scream, want and feel
i just wish this agony would heal
---babybright
BabyBright 3 years ago
poem i just wrote to express my pain
a break up poem
its ok to cry
its ok to feel like you want to die
its ok to miss him with all your heart
its ok to wish you were never apart
its ok to dream he is hugging you
its ok to pray he would love you too
its ok to wish he understood your pain
its ok to need him to take away this shame
BabyBright 3 years ago
i then imagine them all in a room together and force myself to watch the shock and sadness on their faces as i tell them all about the abuse. you HAVE TO take that horrified look on their faces and use it to help you see the reality of your situation. it's natural to hold tighter to the good times and try and play down the bad but you have to face the truth in order to find the courage to break free.
BabyBright 3 years ago
another idea that may help you break free from an abusive relationship...try and think of those people in your life who did/do love you a whole bunch. i imagine my grandma cause she was like a mother to me, the man who basically raised me for the first 5 years of my life, and my kids who are now young men who love their mom very much (i am so blessed to have them).
BabyBright 3 years ago
i have a few little sayings i wrote beside my computer, things like, you are worthy, you are Gods child and he thinks you are special, you are clean, you are smart, you are good...i have my name written in front of the sayings. even though it's hard for me to believe the things written on the little pieces of paper, i say it out loud anyways and i think it helps.
BabyBright 3 years ago
when you're in or just coming out of an abusive relationship, you feel worse than a piece of TRASH. go find a picture of yourself as a child and every time you feel like contacting your abuser cause you miss him or answering his phone calls look at that little girl/boy in the picture (the little you) and say to yourself "don't worry i'll protect you." when you're not protected as a child you don't feel worthy of protection but we have to force ourselves to believe we are.
BabyBright 3 years ago
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable! i've been abused by strangers as well as people i have loved and or trusted, and even though the stranger abuse was torture, the most agonizing was done by those i trusted
BabyBright 3 years ago
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable! i've been abused by strangers as well as people i have loved and even though the stranger abuse was torture, the most agonizing was done by those i trusted
BabyBright 3 years ago
the most agonizing abuse is done by those we love. being abused by a stranger is traumatic, but when someone you love and trust abuses you it's unbearable!
BabyBright 3 years ago
you know you can still love your abuser and miss him/her and walk away. it's hard as hell, because sometimes it can be wonderful and they can be so fun, exciting and sweet. it's so hard letting go of the good times and all the hopes and dreams i had for the future. it's hard to escape from the, "maybe things will get better" mentality. you get trapped thinking it's your fault 'cause you hear it all the time.
BabyBright 3 years ago
stel amaris333, what do umean?
BabyBright 3 years ago
I know what stellamaris333 means. It's the same for me, my abuser used to say "you can trust me", and now whenever I see those words, it's a flashback, reminding me not to trust anyone again.
Innerwolf 3 years ago
sorry innerwolf
BabyBright 3 years ago
ican handle a hit but not the hellof nbeing called namees beiuing dehumantized,and humiliatedd,i issuugestu leaave, try a bnd be super strong orr get high ojn pills just to deal wiith the hell of it. at least it numbs it somewhat.
BabyBright 3 years ago
are youuu kidding me emotional abuise is worrse than physical i would rathher a guy hit me than emotionally abiuse me...somme physical sc ars can heal emottional scarss neverdo.
BabyBright 3 years ago
Okay. Thanks this does help.
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
Very informative video. It's awesome that you are trying to make a difference.
I am in the middle of making a video about emotional and psychological abuse - my adult view of my childhood. My family are "victims of victims", their parents abused them, then they abuse their kids...
I have broken the cycle tho. I do not beat my kids, emotionally abuse my kids, and I am definitely always there for my kids. My kids know, without a doubt, that I LOVE them.
Once again, great job!
lifestarmedic1 3 years ago
Thank you very much.
I really do want to make a difference. It's a good thing I have made this account because I have helped so many people. It's a incredible feeling.
Im sorry that your parents abused you. But I am very proud of you, that you broke the cycle.
thank you again
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
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emmabusten 3 years ago 2
You did the right thing, and I admire your strength. If you would ever like to talk, you now you can email me.
I'm glad you could stand strong.
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago
thanks for the video but it wont really change anything for me well thanks for the video
angel4402 3 years ago
You'll never know until you try.
1stepcloser2you 3 years ago